fbpx
[additional-authors]
October 2, 2015

What ever happened to the idea that “discretion is the better part of valor” or that even a bit of discretion is necessary now and then? It seems to Auntie that with nearly every bit of our personal information now available online, it might be even more valuable to keep some of your personal life, well, personal.  Quite a novel idea, don’t you think?

Recently while Auntie was scrolling through one of the many sites she frequents, she happened upon a post from some dear soul, sharing the most intimate secrets of her daughter’s life. Did the daughter know of this share? Probably not. Would that daughter care? Most likely, yes. And besides, when would any teen want their mother to share anything with anyone about their life?? Auntie is going to make an educated guess here and say, “Never ever.”

Naturally Auntie was compelled to write a Helpful Hint (#164) about this obnoxious occurrence:

Telling us the story of your teenage daughter’s coming-of-age definitely qualifies you as an over sharing mother—even if you are doing so on a cleverly hidden internet site. Would you tell this story at a State Dinner, or while accepting a nationally recognized award? If not, then save the share for your personal diaries. By saving those shares, you are not only salvaging many a friendship—you are also saving your child from permanent humiliation, and the need for counseling. In this case, it is indeed the mother’s fault. Of course, if the share is truly unique enough, we just might be able to get you a two-picture deal.

So there it is—a little reminder that the internet is indeed forever, and a word of caution to some darling parents and grandparents (not to mention kiddies)—sadly, the days of Grandma’s funny family pocketbook photo album are long gone.

Did you enjoy this article?
You'll love our roundtable.

Editor's Picks

Latest Articles

Post-Passover Pasta and Pizza

What carbs do you miss the most during Passover? Do you go for the sweet stuff, like cookies and cakes, or heartier items like breads and pasta?

Freedom, This Year

There is something deeply cyclical about Judaism and our holidays. We return to the same story—the same words, the same questions—but we are not the same people telling it. And that changes everything.

A Diary Amidst Division and the Fight for Freedom

Emma’s diary represents testimony of an America, and an American Jewish community, torn asunder during America’s strenuous effort to manifest its founding ideal of the equality of all people who were created in the image of God.

More than Names

On Yom HaShoah, we speak of six million who were murdered. But I also remember the nine million who lived. Nine million Jews who got up every morning, took their children to school, and strove every day to survive, because they believed in life.

Gratitude

Gratitude is greatly emphasized in much of Jewish observance, from blessings before and after meals, the celebration of holidays such as Passover, a festival that celebrates liberation from slavery, and in the psalms.

Freedom’s Unfinished Journey

The seder table itself is a model of radical welcome: we are told explicitly to invite the stranger, to make room for those who ask questions and for those who do not yet know how to ask.

Thoughts on Security

For students at Jewish schools, armed guards, security gates, and ID checks are now woven into the rhythm of daily life.

Can Playgrounds Defeat Antisemitism?

The playground in Jerusalem didn’t stop antisemitism, and renovating playgrounds in New York City is not likely to stop it there, either — because antisemitism in America today is not rooted in a lack of slides or swings.

More news and opinions than at a Shabbat dinner, right in your inbox.