Dr.Limor’s Cradle of Love
”Desire fulfilled is a tree of life” (Proverbs13; 12)
Couples maintaining a long term relationship, be it marriage or any other format of 'couplehood', quite often lose site of the mere notion of its properties; the importance of the TWO that produce a better, stronger ONE- unit.
Consulting each other, listening to one another's opinions and thoughts, sharing ideas and dreams, could amount to a very stable, profound foundation, providing a strong seed that shall blossom fully ,with our life long celebration of sacred,loving appreciation.
Proverbs 3;13-14 mentions the basic essentiality of wisdom and understanding, in our day to day path: 'Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that obtaineth understanding. For the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver, and the gain thereof than fine gold'
And so, with one's comprehension of what is important and what is dispensable in a long term commitment, one must be reminded that impulsiveness, selfishness or ego related decision making, are extremely hazardous to a loving unit.
God speaks to Abraham in a matter of the heart,in Genesis 21;12: 'And God said unto Abraham: 'Let it not be grievous in thy sight because of the lad, and because of thy bondwoman; in all that Sarah saith unto thee, hearken unto her voice; for in Isaac shall seed be called to thee'!
Utilize these short tips in your relationship and expect a very positive 'heat wave':
- Consult each other: Whether you need a second opinion about the preferable health plan or the next vacation, engaging in a mutual decision making, means that you value your partner's opinion!
- Accept relationship advice only from someone that is genuinely interested in your wellbeing; Avoid assistance from acquaintances that might be influenced, by jealousy or ulterior motives.
- Long term relationships are a boost to our sense of security, but how do we fight the dreadful routine? Try being innovative; anything that will bring excitement, while maintaining each other's esteem and confidence, is a go!
- Don’t argue over monetary matters: yes, you should come to an arrangement of who is paying for what, but once your main discussion evolves around the mighty dollar, you lose your intimacy, trust and comfort. Try creating an understanding around this matter and maintaining it, it's worth a fortune.
- Starting a relationship could be a “walk in the park”, maintaining it can get tricky: If you feel like tough times are taking over your relationship, try couples therapy. A subjective opinion from a professional outsider could change and enhance your intimacy.
All tips were derived from “>Dr.Limor Blockman© Dr.Limor is a renowned Clinical Sex Counselor, Educator, Columnist, Speaker and Author. Dr. Limor holds a PhD in Human Sexuality, a Master’s in Public Health & Community Medicine & a Bachelor’s in Psychology & Behavioral Sciences.
