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December 10, 2010

When clients start working with me, almost invariably, they come seeking a greater sense of control in their lives. The need for control is a very natural inclination for us. Control brings certainty in an uncertain world and with that comes a measure of security. Or so we hope.

Trouble is we plan and G-d so often has another design in mind.

In helping people find the deep inner sense of safety that they’re looking for, I guide them to do the opposite of that tendency to control. I teach them to surrender and to trust. Surrender to the flow of Life, and Trust that they have the capacity to match and rise above whatever Life may bring their way.

Life is always and entirely beyond our control. All we’re meant to do is accept it for what it is, recognize the flow and then show up for ourselves. Each of us has a unique role to dance in the much larger choreography of life. And that’s all we need to do. But we must do it. We must dance our dance. And we must trust that we are what it takes to live our particular life just the way it needs to be lived. Therein lies real security.

Misha Henckel guides individuals to live their ideal lives. Follow her on Twitter @mishahenckel. Email {encode=”misha@mishahenckel.com” title=”misha@mishahenckel.com “}

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