At Birth
When the child is born, start saving! It’s not a bad idea to start two savings accounts; one for college and one for the bar or bat mitzvah.
One to three years ahead
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Set the date.
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Set a budget.
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Reserve the synagogue.
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Reserve the hall for additional receptions.
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Arrange for caterer, party planner and band or DJ.
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Buy a loose-leaf binder or start a filing system on index cards.
Ten to 12 months ahead
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Begin b’nai mitzvah lessons.
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(Continue to) attend weekly Shabbat services as a family.
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Arrange for photographer and videographer.
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Book hotel accommodations and investigate transportation for out-of-town guests.
Six months ahead
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Plan colors and theme.
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Arrange for florist and make guest list.
Four to five months ahead
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Order invitations and thank-you notes, imprinted napkins and personalized party favors.
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Shop for clothing and shoes.
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Purchase a tallit and tefillin, if applicable.
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Choose a calligrapher.
Three months ahead
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Plan Sunday brunch, if applicable.
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Order printed yarmulkes.
Two months ahead
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Meet with photographer and videographer.
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Meet with florist and/or decorations coordinator.
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Mail out-of-town invitations.
Six weeks ahead
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Order tuxedos.
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Take care of clothing alterations.
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Order wine for Kiddush.
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Mail in-town invitations.
Four weeks ahead
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Prepare speech.
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Finalize reservations and transportation.
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Meet with caterer.
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Make welcome gifts for out-of-town guests.
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Arrange aliyot.
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Send honorary gift to synagogue.
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Meet with rabbi.
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Make seating charts for reception (and dinner).
Two weeks ahead
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Give final count to caterer.
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Check with florist.
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Meet with rabbi.
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Order cake, cookies and pastries for Friday night oneg Shabbat.
A few days ahead
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Have rehearsal and take bimah photographs.
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Make copies of speeches, room and table layouts, and give them to a friend to hold for you.
Special day
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Enjoy your simcha!
