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February 9, 2022

Two Israeli Narratives: One Dark, One Bright

You couldn’t ask for a sharper contrast. As we were working on an uplifting cover story on “The Israeli Century,” Amnesty International released a scathing report accusing Israel of being an “Apartheid state.” 

The cover story, by our Israel Political Editor Shmuel Rosner, reviews the book, “The Israeli Century: How the Zionist Revolution Changed History and Reinvented Judaism,” by Professor Yossi Shain. As Rosner writes, it’s an ambitious and provocative book, arguing that “Zionism shifted the Jewish political paradigm and is making for a new ‘Israeli-based polity’ that impacts Jewish existence around the world.” Shain argues that this shouldn’t be surprising: “Whenever the Jews had sovereign existence, this became the main tenant of their culture.”  

It’s a complex argument. The less controversial part is that Israel is thriving, although Shain cautions that “It is not my aim to paint Zionism as an unalloyed success.” He doesn’t need to. On many levels, from innovation and high tech to a vibrant and resilient culture and economy, Zionism is indeed succeeding, despite its multiple challenges. 

His more controversial argument, as Rosner writes, is that “the success of Zionism made Israeliness the main feature of contemporary Jewishness. Not because of some competition for supremacy that Israel ‘won’ and Jews in other places ‘lost,’ but rather because that’s the way it had always been and that’s the way it’s supposed to be.”

As Shain writes: “You cannot in any way or fashion disengage from Israel even if you disapprove of Israel behavior.” Rosner comments that “those who try are going to fail either in their attempt to disengage, or in their quest to disengage from Israel while still maintaining a strong Jewish identity.”

The jury is still out on the influence of Israeli sovereignty to the Jewish future. I invite you to read the cover story and the book and draw your own conclusions. My own view is that a nation-state is such a real and concrete endeavor it’s bound to have a significant impact on the religion and people it represents.

Despite the many protestations, the Amnesty International report was a stark reminder that much of the global community doesn’t really care what Jews think. They are attached to a dark narrative about the Zionist enterprise, unlike the narrative you’ll read about in our cover story.

But as Israel struggles to define its complex narrative, human rights organizations feel no need whatsoever to struggle to define Israel. In its report titled, “Israel’s Apartheid Against Palestinians: Cruel System of Domination and Crime Against Humanity,” Amnesty International followed a long pattern of international discrimination against the world’s only Jewish state.

The organization, founded in 1961, calls itself a “people’s movement” whose vision is “a world in which every person enjoys all of the human rights enshrined in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.” If you Google “top human rights violators in the world,” you’ll see countries such as Syria, Yemen, China, Iran, Egypt, North Korea, Central African Republic, Burundi, Congo, Burma, Libya, Venezuela, Eritrea, Russia and Nigeria.

One country you won’t see on these lists is Israel, the only free democracy in the Middle East. And yet, that is the one country Amnesty chose to single out for its scathing attack.

Here’s how I connect the dots: The better we know ourselves, the better we will defend ourselves from a position of strength. That is an Israeli Century that will be good for all Jews.    

The outrage against the report was deep and widespread. Longtime expert Elliott Abrams called it “a shockingly dishonest document whose biases against the Jewish State leap off each of its 280 pages.” The ADL called the report “an effort to demonize Israel and undermine its legitimacy as a Jewish and democratic state. In an environment of rising anti-Jewish hate, this type of report is not only inaccurate but also irresponsible and likely will lead to intensified antisemitism around the world.”

Despite the many protestations, the report was a stark reminder that much of the international community doesn’t really care what Jews think. They are attached to a dark narrative about the Zionist enterprise, unlike the narrative you’ll read about in our cover story.

The narrative in “The Israeli Century” takes a long view and advances some bold ideas. The fact that it doesn’t agonize over how the world perceives us is both a strength and a weakness. It’s a strength because we can’t allow chronic Israel bashers to influence how we see ourselves; it’s a weakness because the anti-Israel streak in international circles is so engrained we don’t have the luxury to downplay it.

Here’s how I connect the dots: The better we know ourselves, the better we will defend ourselves from a position of strength. That is an Israeli Century that will be good for all Jews.

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Rabbi Sara Abrams: The Spiritual Cheerleader and Companion

When Rabbi Sara Abrams was working at Ronald Reagan UCLA Medical Center as a chaplain, a patient asked her to sing a song. 

“I sang ‘Hava Nagila’ and did a dance in the patient’s room,” said Abrams. “Another patient then said, ‘I heard the chaplain singing. Can she sing that in my room?’”

For Abrams, being a chaplain is all about bringing light into people’s day, whether that means counseling them, praying with them or doing a song and dance routine.

“You try to meet someone where they are and help create an opening if it’s something that they want for reflection and their own presence,” she said. “I’ve had so many wonderful moments of learning and guiding people in a time where sometimes they will heal, and sometimes they will let go of life. I’m a cheerleader and a supporter and companion for whatever course their life will take at that time.”

After working as a hospital chaplain at UCLA and Providence Saint John’s Health Center, Abrams was hired as the associate spiritual leader and chaplain at Valley Outreach Synagogue & Center for Jewish Life in Calabasas. 

“Valley Outreach Synagogue (VOS) values [chaplaincy] enough to make it the title of a job,” she said about her position, which she’s held since spring of 2021. “You’re doing all the teaching, preaching and administrative work, and being present for life cycle events.”

A large part of Abrams’ work includes running groups and counseling members from the over 400 families that are part of the synagogue. Most of the people in the groups are over 60 years old, and topics that come up are loss and how to cope with isolation during this time.

“It’s nice for them to know that somebody is saying, ‘Let me hold your hand for a few minutes, and let’s make meaning from it.’ In a world that’s increasingly disconnected, there is a great desire in human beings to really feel seen for who they are.” 

“I make a lot of phone calls to people and check in regularly,” she said. “Sometimes, people don’t want the rabbi calling them because they are private, and I respect that. But this congregation really welcomes that kind of checking in. It’s nice for them to know that somebody is saying, ‘Let me hold your hand for a few minutes, and let’s make meaning from it.’ In a world that’s increasingly disconnected, there is a great desire in human beings to really feel seen for who they are.” 

Abrams, who served as a congregational rabbi in Chico, California and Westchester, New York, was ordained in her early 30s at Hebrew Union College (HUC) – Institute of Jewish Religion in Los Angeles. 

“Becoming a rabbi was something I thought about doing on and off for a while, and I made the decision to do it after I had gotten my masters in religious studies,” she said. “I’ve always wanted to help people grow spiritually. I wanted to help myself, of course, because I was always a spiritual seeker.” 

When she looked at what being a rabbi was like, it intrigued her. “I loved the wonderful variety that rabbinical life offered,” she said. “I could be that therapeutic presence as a rabbi. I could satisfy that need to spiritually support people one on one in the ups and downs in life.”

While at HUC, Abrams discovered her affinity for chaplaincy through her internship at St. John’s. Today – and in the future – she wants to take what she’s learned working with patients and with the VOS congregation to help people find meaning in the difficult moments, as well as thrive in their spiritual life. 

“I really love being people’s spiritual support,” she said. “I’m willing to step into their world a little bit, all the while holding a certain kind of pastoral presence. Chaplaincy really emphasizes having a sense of one’s self, all the while holding presence and openness for another.”

Fast Takes With Sara Abrams 

Jewish Journal: What is your favorite Jewish food? 

Sara Abrams: Brisket. You fry the onions, you sear the brisket, you add a little bit of broth and mushrooms and cook it for four or five hours on the stove. 

JJ: What’s your favorite place to travel to?

SA: The desert. I like Desert Hot Springs.

JJ: What do you do on your day off?

SA: I read or go for a hike.

JJ: What’s your perfect Shabbat look like?

SA: A beautiful table with abundant food, lots of light and people singing and talking Torah and about God. A table where God is at the center.

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Local Nurse Delivers Pandemic Truths to His Audiences

Boaz Hepner, full-time registered nurse and part-time journalist, noticed something that everyone has been experiencing throughout the pandemic, whether they are pro-vaxx or anti-vaxx: Information about the vaccines and COVID has ranged from flawed to atrocious.

Hepner, who works at Providence Saint John’s Health Center in Santa Monica, said, “The healthcare community needs to learn how to communicate better with the general public.”

When in journalist mode, he has interviewed experts in infectious disease and epidemiology. “I have become the COVID vaccine educator for my hospital,” said the part-time blogger and Jewish Journal contributor. 

In December, Hepner recorded a series of 14 two-hour-lectures at Saint John’s, which were accessible to both hospital staff and the public. A friend, David Kopp, then helped him produce an over two-hour long YouTube video called “Q&A About Vaccines with Boaz Hepner.” 

Hepner told the Journal the video “teaches A to Z about COVID and really addresses head-on the majority of vaccine hesitant questions and concerns.” 

In it, he is apolitical, and backs up his teachings with information from the medical community. For example, he explains why the pharmaceutical companies were able to get the vaccine out quickly and how people who got a booster had more antibodies than people who had just recovered from COVID. 

“The people who had the booster had 53 times more protective antibody levels,” he says, in the video. “Fifty-three times more. That’s incredible.”

While the 42-year-old graduate of Hillel Hebrew Academy, YULA and UCLA has gained and shared insights, he says it’s “frustrating to find yourself in the middle of a situation we never thought we would be in, an actual pandemic,” he said. “I never thought I would say ‘actual pandemic’ outside of a movie.”

“The healthcare community needs to learn how to communicate better with the general public.” – Boaz Hepner

Hepner said he has been an organizer since at least his mid-20s, the person people turn to when they need to plan for the next event.

“I am proud of that role,” he said. “[It] makes me feel happy. I am not humble like Moshe Rabbeinu. I am proud of the things I have accomplished.” 

About 12 years ago, Hepner was in his 30s and still didn’t know what he wanted to do for a living. His father is a retired gastroenterologist, one of his brothers is a cardiologist and his other brother is a mohel and day trader. His sister is a lawyer.

One day, he realized he wanted to become a nurse thanks to a friend, David Mayman, his family’s lawyer.

“He said it would be perfect for me,” said Hepner. “‘Whatever you do,’ he said, ‘you do it with people.’”

He started nursing school in late 2010, and met his wife Adi that year; today they are married and have one daughter together. 

When the pandemic hit, the curious nurse said he wanted “more information. I started daily conversations with an epidemiologist I worked with, and with the infectious disease doctors I talked to. I realized I needed to get this information out better. Then, in March 2020, I did my first formal interview – almost five hours on the phone — with the epidemiologist .”

If Hepner could attract a giant audience in one setting, what would he tell them about the pandemic?

He has two points. One is to stop relying on the news feed and social media and instead trust doctors. The second?

“It is safer [to follow] the data, not just to get the vaccine but [to] know that each side effect you are afraid of getting from the vaccine also is more common in COVID.”

Along with educating the public about COVID, Hepner is going to continue focusing on his day-to-day work with patients at the hospital.

“It’s wonderful,” he said. “[My work] can be lifesaving [and] life-altering for each of those people [and] even life-altering for me.”

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Shiloh’s Owner Starts Kosher Meal Delivery Service

These days, people have gotten used to eating at home. At the same time, because of work and other obligations, they may not have the energy to cook for themselves and their families. Cue the meal delivery service. 

Over the past few years, there has been an explosion in this industry, with the likes of HelloFresh and Blue Apron dominating the market. However, these services don’t offer kosher-certified options. Now, Samuel Wrobel, who owns Shiloh’s in Pico-Robertson, has started a kosher meal delivery service, Dailycious, to fill that niche. 

“Our customers don’t need to go grocery shopping, and they don’t need to spend hours a day cooking to eat at home or to bring meals to the office,” said Wrobel. “We take care of everything.”

Dailycious customers can choose to receive four to 12 meals per week; the more they order, the less the cost per meal. An order of four meals a week comes to $15.99 a meal, down to $11.40 for  a weekly  order of 12, plus shipping. 

There are meat, vegan, gluten-free, keto and fish options and all are certified Kosher by OK Kosher. If a meal is cold, customers can eat it right away; hot meals are packed so they can be reheated in a microwave oven. The meals can be stored in the refrigerator for up to two weeks. Some of the options include chicken coconut curry, beef brisket, honey cumin salmon and seasonal vegetable salad. All the meals are dairy-free. 

When Wrobel bought Shiloh’s in 2017, he realized that the kosher dining experience tended to be a bit old-fashioned, and needed to change. He’s bringing that attitude to Dailycious, too. 

“I wanted to bring products and services geared towards a new generation of kosher eaters and adapted to the new ways of living,” he said. “It’s easy to find vegetarian, vegan and gluten-free fare these days. It should be just as easy to keep kosher.”  Chef Thomas hasworked at several Michelin three-star restaurants prior to joining Shiloh’s and Dailycious.

“Thomas and I worked together to develop and adapt the processes used in high-end restaurants, like sous vide cooking, to this new project.” – Samuel Wrobel

“Thomas and I worked together to develop and adapt the processes used in high-end restaurants, like sous vide cooking, to this new project,” said Wrobel. “This allows us to have consistent quality in terms of protein cooking and to assure a level of meat tenderness that traditional cooking cannot.” 

While the meals are made in Sun Valley, Dailycious is available all throughout California and several other states including Arizona, New Mexico, Nevada and Utah. By the end of 2022, Wrobel hopes to expand to the East Coast. 

He pointed out that people can order meals from his company if they’re going on an airplane or vacation and need food. 

“Forget about the hassle of bringing kosher food for a weekend in Palm Springs or Vegas,” he said. “Order on our website and we will deliver right to your hotel, or wherever you are staying.”

Some customers give their children the meals for school lunch. “[It’s] healthier and more balanced than what is usually offered in a typical Jewish school,” Wrobel said. 

Celine Bonan, a Dailycious customer, finds it easy to keep her three sons healthy with the meals. “They love [the] veggies,” she said. “I can follow my diet. My husband can eat more healthy dishes.”

While Wrobel has been enjoying his new business venture, COVID has presented its fair share of challenges, including labor and supply chain shortages. 

“We have experienced kosher meat providers that are telling us they didn’t receive their shipment of chicken and tray manufacturers telling us they have been waiting for their containers to be unloaded for two months,” he said. 

Still, he is expanding his company, and he’s hopeful about the future not just for Dailycious, but also for everyone.

“When this crisis is behind us, the world will be different, shaped by the very challenges we have been facing.” – Samuel Wrobel

“When this crisis is behind us, the world will be different, shaped by the very challenges we have been facing,” he said. “I also think people focus, or at least try to focus, more on the truly important things in their lives: their family, their friends, helping each other and spending more time with [their] loved ones before it’s too late. So go enjoy your family, go FaceTime your friends and leave dinner to Dailycious.”

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After School Special Treats

I so fondly remember those sunny Casablanca afternoons when my mother and aunt Clara would pick me up from school. My aunt drove up to my school, Jeanne D’Arc, in her convertible Chevy Impala. Then we’d pick up the girl cousins Alia, Simy and Rachel from their schools, my brother Salomon from Lycee Liautey and my cousin Felix and brother Moise from the Jewish school L’Alliance Francaise, and where the teachers were strict and the discipline severe.

We’d head to my aunt’s home and we’d indulge in our favorite afternoon snack. A fresh, warm baguette slathered with salty butter and chunks of chocolate.

When my family and I moved to Los Angeles, I learned to eat the classic American after-school treats—peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and chocolate chip cookies and a tall glass of milk.

Those chocolate sandwiches were truly the best and most delicious I’ve ever had. And the memory will always transport me to those carefree and innocent days in Casablanca.

/Recently I saw a post about the chocolate baguette sandwich in a Moroccan group on Facebook. All the members were reminiscing about how that sandwich represents a highlight of their childhood. Those chocolate sandwiches were truly the best and most delicious I’ve ever had. And the memory will always transport me to those carefree and innocent days in Casablanca.

—Rachel

When I was a little girl attending Kirrawee Public School in the Southern suburbs of Sydney, I’d meet my older brother Rafi at the bus stop. Some days he would decide that we should walk home so that we could spend the 12-cent bus fare at the corner shop. He’d buy us two five-cent ice blocks (triangle shaped popsicles) and four lollies.

We would walk to the house on Meehan Place that my Abba was building. More often than not, Anais, his Lebanese carpenter, would give us Tim Tams (chocolate covered biscuits) or Iced Vovos (biscuits with pink frosting, raspberry jam and coconut). His aunt worked at the Arnott’s biscuit factory, so he always had an endless supply, to our joy. 

When I was seven years old, my family moved to the Eastern Suburbs. Every afternoon, my brother and I would walk to my grandparents home where my Nana Aziza always had fresh cut up vegetables ready for us to snack on.

As a student at Sydney Girls High, the school bus would drop me off in Double Bay, a most charming shopping area with cafes and bakeries. Some days I’d indulge in a Cadbury Hazelnut chocolate bar, a Picnic, a Twirl or a white chocolate Milky Bar. Other days I’d stop at Mignon, the French bakery and get the best chocolate eclairs and fruit tarts. And other days, I’d stop at the Fruit Shop, where the most exquisite scent of fresh fruits would envelop you. There I would indulge in the crispiest, juiciest apple you can imagine. 

Whatever your age and wherever you are in the world, that afternoon snack is always a wonderful pick me up.

—Sharon


Sharon Gomperts and Rachel Emquies Sheff have been friends since high school. They love cooking and sharing recipes. They have collaborated on Sephardic Educational Center projects and community cooking classes. Follow them on Instagram @sephardicspicegirls and on Facebook at Sephardic Spice SEC Food. Website: sephardicspicegirls.com/full-recipes

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Table for Five: Tetzaveh

One verse, five voices. Edited by Salvador Litvak, the Accidental Talmudist

The holy garments that are Aaron’s shall be for his sons after him, to be exalted through them and invested with full authority through them.

— Exodus 29:20


Rabbi Mari Chernow
Senior Rabbi, Temple Israel of Hollywood

“You never actually own a Patek Philippe. You merely look after it for the next generation.” So goes the advertising campaign the luxury watchmaker has run for over 25 years. It suggests that a watch is not a piece of jewelry; it is a means of forging connection between generations. 

Even those of us who are not likely consumers of a five-figure timepiece can appreciate the message. What could be more intimate than clothing? And what could be more of a tribute than wearing another’s clothing? Consider young children who wear their parents’ shoes. Consider couples who repurpose the engagement diamonds or wedding dresses of their forebears. These actions not only place value on family history; they convey an intention that the future will be linked to the past. 

The priestly garments, of course, carried meaning beyond personal heritage. Per the commentators, they conferred dignity upon those who wore them. They signified priestly authority and by implication, the blessing of God. They carried sanctity in and of themselves. I can’t say which comes first. Does God imbue certain garments with holiness? Or do they become holy as they are used and cherished by generations? I can’t say that it matters. Lehavdil, I have asked that my kids each ski one run on my skis after I am gone. I hope that they’ll woosh down the hill and laugh as they spray each other with snow. I hope they’ll feel my love in every turn. 


Rabbi Shlomo Seidenfeld
Freelance Rabbi & Scholar-In-Residence Aish/JMI

When it comes to safety, we try any and all scare tactics in order to ensure that our children “don’t run into the street.” At the same time, we feel a deep responsibility to transmit life wisdom to them. We try to impart and instill self-esteem, respect, compassion, courage, faith, and other elevating values that will provide our children with an unparalleled quality of life. Eventually, the emphatic “don’t run into the street” is replaced by a whole series of recommended “do’s and don’ts” as our children grow and encounter the sometimes dangerous and confusing “streets” of life. 

But woven into the parent-child relationship is a huge challenge. As children develop into independent, self-thinking individuals, they also need to assert their own identity, make their own mistakes and draw their own conclusions. So the question is, what’s the best strategy for successfully transmitting life lessons to our children? 

Our verse offers a subtle yet revealing answer to this question. Aaron’s “holy garments” were worn by his sons after him and his sons were exalted through them. In life, it is not enough to talk a good game. Our children’s antennae are always up and they can sniff hypocrisy or indifference a mile away. As parents and as Jewish ambassadors to the world, we need to talk, walk and wear our values. If we do, our children will take on our garments and be exalted through them. If we don’t, they may try on other garments. Shabbat Shalom. 


Rabbi Natan Halevy
Kahal Joseph Congregation www.KahalJoseph.org

‘His sons after him’ refers to high priests who come after him. They are inaugurated to high-priesthood and raised to dignity through these garments, which possess immense significance. By wearing them, the wearer enjoyed glory and splendor in the eyes of those who saw him. These garments were the type worn by Royalty at the time when the Torah was given. 

Hashem directed that eight garments were to be made for the High Priest, to enable him to obtain atonement for his people for the various imperfections that people are guilty of as a normal part of their lives. As the sacrifices were instruments of atonement, so too the priestly garments when worn at the right time in the right place by the right people were instruments helping the Jewish people to achieve atonement. This is why the description of the priestly garments was written next to the section dealing with the sacrifices. 

Aaron’s wearing these garments enabled the Israelites to achieve their proper place in the higher regions. The golden headband corresponded to the crown worn by kings. The breastplate atoned for sins committed erroneously by judges. The robe atoned for loose use of one’s tongue. The checkered tunic atoned for blood spilled inadvertently. The headgear worn by the High Priest, brought forgiveness for haughty bearing. Learning about these matters helps us achieve the spiritual effect inherent in them. We pray the Temple will be rebuilt speedily in our days, amen.


Rabbi Cheryl Peretz
Associate Dean, Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies at AJU

The Torah calls for an elaborate priestly ordination ceremony consisting of gemstone ornaments, silver and gold, oil for anointing, and, through this verse, special clothing – all to create a holy transitional moment. 

This is not the first time that clothing plays an important role in the biblical narrative. Adam and Eve covered themselves in clothing in the encounter with God after eating from the Tree of Knowledge. Joseph’s coat of many colors is highlighted in his brother’s jealousy and malice. And Tamar sheds her widow’s clothing, dons a veil and identifies Judah through his seal, cord, and staff. 

The specific description of clothing makes sense in a time where the people believed God stood in the Holy of Holies bearing witness to each step of the ordination. Yet, as Italian commentator Sforno explains, the hereditary status of the priesthood rendered the entire procedure (clothing included) unnecessary for future generations. For the priests, elevation of the person and the moment to one of holiness is passed down one generation to another irrespective of the ceremony or clothing itself. 

While sacred garb continues to be one of the expressions of Jewish identity, the essence of this verse invites important questions. What does it mean to stand in front of God? How do I dress for such a moment? How do I want to present myself? Does my outer garment reflect my inner values? What can I do to elevate the moment to one of meaning and holiness?


Marcus J Freed
Actor, Writer & Marketing Consultant. www.marcusjfreed.com

George Michael’s “Freedom 90” music video gets me close to tears, as his iconic leather jacket from the “Faith” video goes up in flames. The lyrics hint at personal struggles that later contributed towards his death, as he sings “I just hope you understand, sometimes the clothes do not make the man.” 

Aaron’s sons are “invested with full authority” by holy garments. Donning these garments, according to Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch, is a transformative act that elevates the private citizen into a figure of holiness. In the “Ohr HaChaim,” Rabbi Chaim ibn Attar recounts how the High Priest wore eight garments, four made of white linen and four containing gold. The “Tikunei Zohar” explains that the four golden garments represent the four-letter name of G-d (Y-H-V-H), whilst the white garments symbolize the name Adonai. 

Judaism pays attention to clothing, including head coverings, prayer shawls, separating wool and linen, and dressing modestly. We can see this as restrictive, or we can view garments as a path to elevate our consciousness. Peter Parker, Clark Kent and Bruce Wayne wear costumes to become superheroes; the priestly uniforms hint at our opportunity to use clothes as a step towards enlightenment. Rabbi Hirsch taught that Adam and Eve received the first gift of clothing on stepping into the world: “Clothing per se is a reminder of man’s moral calling,” which “characterizes a creature as a human being.”

After all, clothes do make the man.

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Your Personal Super Bowl

Do you know those people who don’t follow football 364 days a year but who wouldn’t miss a Super Bowl party? I do, because I’m one of them, and I know I’m not alone.

We’re quick to make plans when it comes to the Big Game but what about our Big Goals?

As an executive coach, I know that many of us drag our feet on those for weeks, months or even years. Again, I know, because I’m guilty of having done this myself. 

Let’s be honest—goals are hard. Making a plan to get wings, beer, and chips and dip with friends is a lot easier than making a plan for our biggest goals.

Here’s the thing: Your goals are your personal Super Bowl. So let’s start treating them that way.  Here are three moves you can add to your Big Goals playbook to make them a win: 

1. Treat your goals like a contact sport: Our goals are very personal by nature. That’s why we often hold ourselves back from sharing details about them until we have a fully-developed plan to achieve them. By keeping them to ourselves we often fool ourselves into thinking we’re making moves toward them—doing research, making lists and developing elaborate plans—and that’s a mistake. 

Like football, the best thing we can do is treat our goals like a contact sport: by getting off the bench and stepping onto the field through sharing our ideas, questions, and concerns with our connections in the ideation phase. I know it can feel counterintuitive to be so open about our dreams or our nascent ideas. However, your network’s feedback, insights, encouragement, and introductions can be essential to moving you forward in achieving your goals. As you think about your goals, consider who in your network can support you, answer questions, be a sounding board, make an introduction, or connect you with somebody in their network who can help.

Part of the reason that goals are hard is that putting ourselves out there is hard, putting our ideas out there is hard, and change is hard.

2. Put on your helmet because you will get sacked: Let me be clear: Goals are hard. As I frequently remind my clients, if goals weren’t difficult, we’d call them things you did last year. Part of the reason that goals are hard is that putting ourselves out there is hard, putting our ideas out there is hard, and change is hard. That’s why I need you to grab your helmet and pads, because there will be moments when you get emotionally sacked by the process. That doesn’t make you deficient; it means you’re fully engaged, and it means you’re playing big and running your ideas down the field. So get back up when you get sacked because it’s only second down. When you do get sacked, if you’ve shared your goals with people you trust, they’ll be there to help pick you back up. 

3. You will also score some touchdowns: Have you ever seen a grown man do the chicken dance in the end zone after a touchdown? Just like you will get sacked, you will also have the opportunity to do the chicken dance—and that’s because you have to score touchdowns before you win the big game. It’s not my opinion—it’s how football works.

That’s also why it’s so critical to break our big goals down into micro goals and celebrate those mini touchdowns and field goals when we achieve them. Here’s how it works: Take a goal you have. Now determine what small action you can say “yes” to and say “no” to this week to move toward your goal (remember: per number one, this is a contact sport, so internet research doesn’t count but a real-live conversation with somebody who knows about the topic you were going to research does). At the end of the week, celebrate your success for following through on your “yes” and “no” (chicken-dancing is encouraged, but not required). 

Skeptical about the impact small moves make? Last spring, one of my clients had a goal of running more. Her micro “saying yes” goal was to set her alarm 15 minutes early the following morning so she could get up and run before her day got away from her. Her micro “saying no” goal was making sure she didn’t hit the snooze button. Making her goals a contact sport, she asked her partner if they would lovingly kick her out of the bed if she did. She got up and ran that day for thirty minutes.

She went on to complete her first marathon six months later: one “saying yes” and “saying no” decision, one touchdown, one chicken dance at a time.

Let’s treat our goals more like football—a contact sport where we brace for tackles and score touchdowns along the way.

After the Big Game on Sunday, after the wings, beer, chips and cheering, why not give these three moves a try? Let’s treat our goals more like football—a contact sport where we brace for tackles and score touchdowns along the way. No team wins the Super Bowl without a playbook. While I can’t give the teams playing Sunday any advice for the Big Game, I hope this playbook is a start for your Big Goals. I’m rooting for you.


Randi Braun is an executive coach, consultant, speaker and the founder of Something Major.

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The Israeli Century?

The phrase itself is a provocation: The Israeli Century. The first sentence is another one: “The Israeli Century has been the most dramatic period in all of Jewish history.” Then, there are the provocative lines sprinkled throughout the book. Lines such as “a deep moral crisis among liberal American Jews, who search for a new Jewish, moral, universal foothold in the face of assimilation.” Or this one: “Firmly anchored in a country of their own, Israelis travel the world with pride, making a mockery of centuries-old Christian hatred and of cosmopolitan Jews.” Professor Yossi Shain has written a long and ambitious book, “The Israeli Century: How the Zionist Revolution Changed History and Reinvented Judaism.” And he clearly did not intend it to be a doorstop. It is scholarly, yet jazzy. It is demanding, but a joy to read.

Prof. Shain is a known commodity in Israel and beyond. He is a professor of Political Science at Tel Aviv University and the Head of the Abba Eban Program of Diplomacy; a professor of Comparative Government and Diaspora Politics at Georgetown University and the Founding Director of the Program for Jewish Civilization; the President of the Western Galilee College. But today, we are becoming acquainted with Prof. Shain, the politician. In fact, as Shain himself admits, he should now be described as Member of Knesset Prof. Shain, the MK title now exceeding all others. He spent five years writing the book, and when the book was published, he was suddenly catapulted into a political career as a member of the Yisrael Beiteinu party.

“This juncture of Jewish existence, when sovereignty is basically the most important tenet and definition of the Jews, defined and will define the Jews for the foreseeable future.” – Yossi Shain

His book presents a simple thesis, and then attempts to prove its validity. He described it to me with these words: “This juncture of Jewish existence, when sovereignty is basically the most important tenet and definition of the Jews, defined and will define the Jews for the foreseeable future.” Shain believes that Zionism shifted the Jewish political paradigm and is making for a new “Israeli-based polity” that impacts Jewish existence around the world. He also argues that this is not at all surprising. “Whenever the Jews had sovereign existence,” he told me in an interview, “this became the main tenant of their culture.” 

Simply put, there are two basic arguments laid out in the book. 

The less controversial is that Israel is thriving. But this is almost an afterthought.  “It is not my aim to paint Zionism as an unalloyed success,” Shain writes. It is not his aim, it seems, because he sees its success as obvious and in need of no further proof.

The more controversial argument is that the success of Zionism made “Israeliness” the main feature of contemporary Jewishness.

The more controversial argument is that the success of Zionism made “Israeliness” the main feature of contemporary Jewishness. Not because of some competition for supremacy that Israel “won” and Jews in other places “lost,” but rather because that’s the way it had always been and that’s the way it’s supposed to be. “You cannot in any way or fashion disengage from Israel even if you disapprove of Israel’s behavior,” Shain said. Those who try are going to fail either in their attempt to disengage, or in their quest to disengage from Israel while still maintaining a strong Jewish identity.

The book makes this case in a detailed way, not an easy task. In Jewish history, periods of national sovereignty are few and only sketchily documented. What we know about Jewish or Israelite existence before the first exile is, at best, unsettled. And the first exile, as Shain himself admits, “served to change the basis of Jewish identity, from being a political nation—the ‘Seed of Israel’—to a religious congregation, defined as the ‘the Holy Seed.’ It weakened the ethos of the Jews as an ancient ethnic community and thus created a conflict between two approaches: one prized the return to the Land of Israel as the fulfilment of the religious imperative to live in the Holy Land; the other emphasized political control in the homeland as the only guarantee of national survival.” 

Reading these lines, one should feel a bit strange. Is it not what the Jews still debate, twenty-five hundred years later?  

Of course, they debate other things as well. For example, does Israel have the right to speak on behalf of all Jews? When Israel was born, it had to pretend, for a while, that it was willing to accept a formula of supposed degrees of separation. In August 1950, Israeli Prime Minister David Ben-Gurion exchanged remarks with Baltimore community leader Jacob Blaustein, in an attempt to establish a framework for Israel-diaspora relations. The so-called Blaustein-Ben-Gurion agreement became quite famous, especially among American Jews. They are the ones who took more seriously the commitment by Israel’s leader that neither American nor Israeli Jews would speak on behalf of the other.

“The State of Israel speaks for the Jewish people. It is the only country the Jewish people have. That is a fact.” — Moshe Sharett

Obviously, Ben-Gurion never took it seriously. He said what he had to say to retain the support of nervous Jewish organizations, but as Shain documents in the book, “Prime Minister Ben-Gurion and Foreign Minister Moshe Sharett vehemently disagreed” about the notion that Israel could not represent world Jewry. “The State of Israel speaks for the Jewish people,” Sharett argued. “It is the only country the Jewish people have. That is a fact.” Indeed, Shain also believes it’s a fact. Seventy years after the prompt ending of Sharett’s political career (he was pushed out by Ben-Gurion in 1956), the “fact” still stands. “Today,” says Shain, “nobody can seriously compete with the State of Israel as the definitive spokesperson for the Jewish people.”

Of course, this annoys many Jews—some of them because of their hope for having at least two great communities, Israel and America, who stand on equal footing. Others dislike the idea that the main expression of Jewishness is sovereignty. Still others just dislike the way Israel represents them, rejecting the impact of the country on their image. Thus, the debate is both practical and ideological. It is a debate about Israel’s actions and a debate about Israel’s right to take certain actions, and it is a futile debate, as its conclusion was already settled before it even began. “Whenever the Jews enjoyed national sovereignty, this always overshadowed Jewish life and created the fundamental context of Jewish self-definition everywhere. When they didn’t have a state of their own, its absence never stopped exerting its pressure across time, on both their political realities and their constantly changing sense of self, community, and religion.”

But Shain is not blind to the fact that many Jews aren’t yet convinced that the tenets of their identity were transformed. In fact, he probably wrote the book, at least partially, to battle against those Jews who reject Zionism as the proper path for a thriving Jewish future. “In recent decades,” he writes, “anti-Zionists have made an ideology of championing the paradigm of dispersion as ‘normal’ instead of as a failure of national self-determination.” He even mentions by name a few ideological warriors such as Daniel Boyarin, who sees “national existence as a diversion from Judaism’s true, universalist foundations.” 

Nothing new here, Shain suggests. While mentioning Boyarin he reminds his readers that “during the Hasmonean period, nationality and sovereignty played a decisive role in the life of the Jewish people and the shaping of their identity and weakened the centrality of the Diaspora. Of course, not everyone was happy about this … Two thousand years later, David Ben-Gurion declared the independence of a Jewish state and downplayed the importance of the Diaspora. Like the Hasmoneans, he believed that the driving force behind Jewish history was the result of the actions of Jews in the Land of Israel, while the Diaspora played second fiddle.”

When the book was published in Hebrew almost two years ago, such statements barely rattled anyone. Israelis, by and large, are Zionists. They believe that a Jewish future depends on the success (or failure) of Israel. They believe that the ideal place for Jews to live is in Israel. And while they have matured in the sense that they no longer see Jews elsewhere as people who betray their destiny by not making aliyah—as was a more common belief among early Zionists—they still see a clear Jewish hierarchy of significance. What happens in Israel truly matters; what happens in other Jewish diasporas is of lesser importance to the future trajectory of Jewish civilization.

“The forces of religion and nationalism in twenty-first Israel represent an open challenge to the cosmopolitan spirit of liberal American Jewry.” -Yossi Shain

America is not Israel, and hence, the translation of the book and its American publication is a much more delicate affair. Shain added additional chapters to the English edition of the book, and in some places amended the language (that’s also because Israelis are more accustomed to brutal discussion, while Americans tend to take more offense when they encounter provocative statements they dislike). Still, the main thesis of the book is a challenging one for a Jewish American. “The forces of religion and nationalism in twenty-first century Israel represent an open challenge to the cosmopolitan spirit of liberal American Jewry,” writes Shain.

In my interview with Shain, I asked him about the expected emotional response to his book. “I hope they don’t get depressed,” he laughed. And yet, his projection for the future of American Jewish existence is not quite optimistic. “Modern Jews of the diaspora are wrestling with maintaining community, they are wrestling with maintaining cohesion.” Then again, his projection is not great only for those for whom Jewish existence is of great importance. There are many Jews for which America is home, where they live a good life, and that is fine with Shain.

There are many Jews for which America is home, where they live a good life, and that is fine with Shain.

Shain doesn’t stop at making claims about Israel’s role in the world of all Jews, but also addresses the way Israel must deal with its own role as a Jewish state. “The question of who gets to define the Jewish mission and Jewish ethics has become a major bone of contention between the State of Israel and Diaspora Jewry,” he writes, but “this question is also at the heart of quarrels and power plays inside Israel over the nation’s character.” The Jews have no relevant contemporary experience in running a state; they have no clear guides for running a state, and surely no such guide for how to run a Jewish state. 

Jews in diaspora communities, and especially in the U.S., tend to emphasize Judaism as a moral way of life. In the most recent Pew study of American Jewry, as well as the one from 2013, a clear picture emerges of Jews who rank moral behavior as a main characteristic of what they also consider Jewish behavior. Seven out of ten U.S. Jews (72%) say that leading a moral and ethical life is essential to their Jewish identity. Slightly more than half (59%) also say that working for justice and equality in society is essential. Far fewer (15%) consider observing Jewish law to be an essential element of what being Jewish means to them.

Back in 2016, when the Pew researchers compared what Jews in America versus Jews in Israel see as essential to their identity, they found that “far more American than Israeli Jews say ‘leading an ethical and moral life’ (69% vs. 47%) and ‘working for justice and equality’ (56% vs. 27%) are vital to being Jewish.” And yet, Shain argues that “the moral parameters of Judaism will be defined mostly by the power struggles inside Israel and the battles over the country’s future, borders, identity, and institutions.” 

Jewish ethics developed over many generations, “first as a tribal-sovereign code of morality, then as religious-communal ethics, and in the modern era, as two competing visions: universal morality versus Zionist state ethics,” he writes. Before modernity, the Jews were “not a people, except in their Torah,” as medieval philosopher Rabbi Saadia Gaon stated. Their values were based mainly on ethnic kinship and a commitment to halacha. 

Sociologist Max Weber thought that following the Babylonian exile, the biblical prophets developed a new type of Jewish morality—a school of thought that he called “ethics of the subjugated.” This new type of morality for people with no power replaced the morality of the fallen Hebraic kingdom—a time when the Hebrews still had power. The morality of the prophets was based on a “realistic recognition of the external political situation.” Or, to put it bluntly, it was an ethics developed for a people with no power, whose two main interests were to convince the powerful that the less powerful deserve humane treatment, and also to excuse the meager state of the Jews as a just punishment by God for their misdeeds.

“Israel wants to appear, for its own sake and in the eyes of others, as a particular nation that never abandoned its universal calling.” -Yossi Shain

 Israel, curiously, declared—in its mission statement, the Declaration of Independence—that “it will be based on freedom, justice and peace as envisaged by the prophets of Israel.” Alas, it cannot. The prophets prophesied in a world devoid of Jewish sovereignty. Israel must operate in a world of Jewish sovereignty. And anyone expecting it to stick with the “ethics of the subjugated” ought to prepare for disappointment. “Today,” writes Shain, “Jewish morality in Israel is defined above all by Israel’s dominance and needs as an independent nation-state. It prides itself on having ‘the most moral army in the world’ and providing humanitarian assistance during emergencies around the world. Israel wants to appear, for its own sake and in the eyes of others, as a particular nation that never abandoned its universal calling. Yet this does not change the fact that its foremost imperative is its own raison d’etat, and it does not wish to sacrifice its soldiers in the name of a universal morality.”

Naturally, that’s one wedge issue that makes it difficult for some American Jews to contend with Israel’s actions and policies. A diasporic Jew can more easily retain the high moral ground, as he usually is not the one to bear the responsibility for running a country (only in recent decades were more Jews able to become prominent in devising American policies). “But the hope that a state, which must always operate under raison d’etat, might successfully operate by universal and non-territorial principles was doomed to failure—especially in the jungle that is the Middle East,” writes Shain. Then he adds the following bold, and highly crucial, statement: “The Israeli Century, therefore, threatens to terminate the idea of ‘Jewish morality’ as a liberal, universal code of ethics.” 

Get used to that. Get ready for that. Know it’s probably coming, it may be already here, and there’s nothing you can do to change it. 

Did I mention that this is a provocative book?

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A Bisl Torah – Deep Breath In

In relationships, most of us are stuck in a typical behavioral pattern: we withdraw, or we pursue. When engaged in conflict, one of us (the pursuer) might push, nudge, prod, and poke until we get a reaction out of our partner. The other person (the withdrawer) proceeds to move inward, grow silent, sometimes choosing to flee, leaving the argument by leaving the room. There are moments where we find two pursuers face to face and other times, tensions rise as two withdrawers can’t bear to open dialogue.

Through these patterns, therapists guide clients to understand the underlying emotions of our partners. Why do our loved ones run away? Why does my friend continue to push until they dominate the conversation? Our patterns of argumentation, whether in the living room or the board room have little do with the issue at hand. We run away because we feel dismissed. We raise our voices because we think we aren’t being heard. With the litany of world issues, forgetting to take out the trash or leaving socks on the floor seems miniscule. But to a partner that constantly feels undervalued, each “forgotten” chore feels like a slap in the face.

We can take a lesson from creation. According to the Kabbalists, when God created the world, God engaged in tzimtzum, a deep breath inward, contracting to make space for…us. There was a Godly step back to let human beings find room to expand, grow, succeed, and fail. There is only room for human development because God thought to shift, move back a little, and take note of the needed space for humanity to flourish.

Our relationships thrive when we intentionally take a small step back, not withdrawing or retreating, but rather, wondering. Wondering what it is the other person is feeling. Trying to understand why they are yelling or why they are silent. Getting a better sense of whether they feel accepted or pushed away.

Sometimes, merely taking a deep breath is our reminder to see who it is that needs us most.

God made space for us…let’s try to make space for each other.

Shabbat Shalom


Rabbi Nicole Guzik is a rabbi at Sinai Temple. She can be reached at her Facebook page at Rabbi Nicole Guzik. For more writings, visit Rabbi Guzik’s blog section from Sinai Temple’s website.

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Executive Director of Valley Torah Robbed at Gunpoint in Hancock Park

Lev Stark is known in the community for putting out funny videos on TikTok. But on February 6, he took to the platform to post about something traumatic that had happened to him: Just a few days earlier, he was robbed at gunpoint steps away from his home in Hancock Park.

On the night of February 1, Stark, who is executive director of Valley Torah High School, parked his car and was walking towards his home. Suddenly, a car pulled up, a man in a hoodie and face mask jumped out and he demanded that Stark hand over his phone and wallet. Stark stayed calm and pointed out to the robber that he could track his phone, even if it was stolen. But the man demanded it anyway. Stark gave the robber want he wanted, and the robber fled in his car.

“I tried to look at his license plate, but he had a dealer advertisement plate,” Stark said. “I went home, told my wife what happened and called 9-1-1.”

The police were taking some time to arrive, so Stark borrowed his son’s phone to track his own. He could see his phone was in the man’s car, and the man was still in the neighborhood. Stark’s wife suggested he call Magen Am, a Jewish security organization. A guard from Magen Am showed up within 60 seconds.

“The guy from Magen Am takes my son’s phone and says he’s going to try to find the robber,” said Stark. “He ultimately found the car in an area where it stopped pinging. He noticed people in the car, and when they saw him, they took off. He probably scared them off because he looked like a cop.”

Soon after, Stark lost track of his phone, and the police got in touch with him. “They told me that [robberies] were a big problem in the neighborhood, and they were getting very frustrated by it,” he said. “They took it very seriously.”

The next morning, Stark, who has 25,000 views on his video detailing the incident – as well as 8.5 million likes on his TikTok page – was davening at Valley Torah for Rosh Chodesh. He had borrowed his son’s phone for the day and saw that it had been pinging for several hours. He hopped in his car and drove from the Valley to a house near Crenshaw.

“I saw there was a car in the driveway, and it was the car [from the previous night],” he said. “I called the police and said I wasn’t going to approach [the robber].”

While the suspect evaded the police at first, they eventually caught him and got a search warrant to look inside his home. They found a personal check that belonged to Stark as well as his deactivated Valley Torah access card. Inside the house, there were other people’s belongings. The suspect was arrested, but now, he’s out on bail.

“It’s horrible that we’ve come to this place where people feel empowered and emboldened to do things like this because we have a prosecutor who is allowing it.” – Lev Stark

“It’s horrible that we’ve come to this place where people feel empowered and emboldened to do things like this because we have a prosecutor who is allowing it,” said Stark. “I can’t comprehend taking someone else’s things because I want them. That’s a breakdown in the moral fabric of society.”

An LA native, Stark said this is the worst his hometown has ever been. “I want my 15-year-old son to be able to walk our dog at night. I’m scared to let him do that. That’s not OK.”

Stark urged others not to be distracted when walking in the street, especially at night. He said he saw similar situations like his being talked about on Nextdoor as well. “That always happened to other people, not me,” he said. “Then, I’m standing there, looking at a guy pointing a gun at me.”

If there’s one thing he can take away from the robbery, it’s this: “Nothing I have in my life is worth dying over,” he said. “If you want my wallet, take it. It’s not worth fighting for it. I realized there is no physical possession that’s worth it.”

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