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February 15, 2024

Was Natalie Portman Snubbed For Her Role In “May/December”?

Some lines should never be crossed and there is no excuse for doing it. One of them is that a teacher should never engage in any romantic behavior with a student. Directed by Todd Haynes, “May/December” gets its name from the term used to describe an affair between an older and younger person. It is loosely based on the true story of Mary Kay Letourneau, convicted of raping of a child for sleeping with sixth grader Vili Fualaau when she was 34 and he was 12.

Portman plays Elizabeth, an actress who is coming to study Gracie (Julianne Moore) because she is playing her in an upcoming movie. Gracie is married to her former student, the handsome and muscular Joe Yoo, played by Charles Melton.

When Joe sees a commercial of Elizabeth washing her face, saying she is clean and fresh, Joe begins to internalize that he is not. Gracie is tightly wound and treats her husband like a boy. It seems he never grew up emotionally . At one point, climbs onto the roof and smokes marijuana on with his son; it is the son who has to comfort him, rather than the reverse. At a graduation dinner the two women eat plates of food while both Joe and his son eat a hamburger with a toothpick still in it, signifying Joe is still a boy.

Elizabeth and Joe are both 36, but he has kids about to go to college and she has no children yet.

Gracie tells Elizabeth she married her first husband Tom because he was “perfect on paper” and her father said the only way she would leave the house would be in a veil or a box. How does one get inside the head of a sick person who committed a criminal act that decades later tries to either justify it or sweep it under the rug?  There is a fitting metaphor in that Joe watched an episode of Bob Villa’s “This Old House” about construction to fox homes when the foundations of his home are unstable. A dangerous attraction brews between Elizabeth and Joe.

Gracie handles the stress by baking pineapple upside down cakes while Joe smokes cigarettes. When Elizabeth comes to talk to students, she is asked about acting in sex scenes. She says sometimes it is mechanical but sometimes there is an attraction between actors, which she says begs the question, “Am I pretending that I’m experiencing pleasure or am I pretending that I’m not experiencing pleasure?” Asked why she would want to play a bad person, she says it’s the complexity and the gray areas that attract her to those roles. Joe says he does not want to be seen as a victim because he’s been married for more than 20 years. When Gracie shows Elizabeth a card Joe wrote when he was in elementary school, we wonder if she is completely out of her mind. Joe also cries, seemingly for no reason.

One of the more powerful scenes is when Gracie teaches Elizabeth how she puts on her makeup in front of a mirror. Elizabeth treats her husband like an errand boy, and he appears bored with her, preferring to take care of bugs.

He makes an impulsive decision near the end of the movie that doesn’t yield the results he wants. This causes him to berate his wife in a cathartic moment and the film takes lines that were said in a real life interview of Letourneau and Fualaau, when she tries to make it seems like she hadn’t done anything wrong. The last minutes of the film include a powerful and disturbing monologue by Portman.

“May/December” is a strong film movie that sneaks up on you. Portman certainly was snubbed and should have gotten an Oscar nomination For Best Supporting Actress over Jodie Foster in “Nyad.” The film should have been nominated for Best Picture over either “The Zone of Interest” or “Anatomy of A Fall.”

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Jewish Actor Is Marvelous as Bob Marley

Kingsley Ben-Adir is an actor who is used to playing historical figures. He’s played Malcolm X (in 2020’s “One Night in Miami”), former President Barack Obama (in Showtime’s “The Comey Rule”), and in his highest-profile performance to date, he brilliantly depicts Jamaican superstar Bob Marley. He is able to get down Marley’s thick Jamaican accent and and cadence, and, more impressively, inhabits Marley’s charismatic on-stage presence.

Most of “One Love” is set in the two years between Marley’s self-exile to England after the attempt on his life two days before he was set to headline the free, government-organized “Smile Jamaica” concert, and his return to his homeland for the triumphant “One Love” concert. The film shows Marley as a man determined. He insists on performing appearing after the shooting, even though everyone around him tells him it’s too dangerous.  Ben-Adir is exceptionally charismatic in every scene. Lashana Lynch delivers a striking performance as his wife Rita, who is always seen  wearing a heavy gold  Magen David necklace. They were Rastafarians, who believe themselves to be the “lost tribe of Israel.”  Rastas consider marijuana a sacred herb, and Marley is rarely without a huge spliff or pipe; he constantly  praises Halie Selassie, the former emperor of Ethiopia, whom Rastas  call “Jah Rastafari” and “The Lion of Judah.”

The film boasts several intense flashbacks: a young Marley and the Wailers audition for the legendary and quick-tempered Lee “Scratch” Perry, who initially dismisses the group as “bad R&B,” but signs them when they strt playing an original ska number, “Simmer Down,” which becomes their first Jamaican hit. But since the movie was made with the approval (and participation) of the Marley family, the film downplays moments that it should pump up. Marley’s volcanic anger and his constant womanizing are given scant screentime. And Marley’s decision not to have a cancerous toe amputated, an operation that could have saved his life, makes no emotional connection.

As Howard Bloom, a powerful Jewish publicist, Michael Gandolfini is memorable trying to talk Marley out of releasing “Exodus” with a minimalist cover. He pleads with Bob that he can’t sell a record without Bob’s picture on the cover. (In an amusing scene, Bob decides to call the album “Exodus” after one of the Wailers plays the soundtrack LP from the 1960 film.)  James Norton turns in a solid performance as Chris Blackwell, Marley’s producer and founder of Island Records.

It’s cute to see Marley in the car singing “Three Little Birds “to his kids, its refrain “Don’t you worry about a thing/’cause every little thing’s gonna be alright” taking their minds  There’s not a scene where you don’t hear at least a snippet of a Marley song. I would have liked to see a full performance of “No Woman No Cry,” but the movie manages to include a healthy representation of Marley’s music, including an inspiring “Redemption Song.”

Despite its drawbacks, “Bob Marley: One Love” is an impressive vehicle for Ben-Adir to show his talent and his fame will rise.

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Despair and Hope

It is hard not to despair when one reads about the billions of dollars poured into Gaza, where a “Singapore on the Mediterranean” could have been created, but instead the funds were used to purchase weapons and build tunnels in an attempt to destroy Israel.

It is hard not to despair when, eighty years after the Holocaust, antisemitism has returned with a vengeance and spread within Canada and the United States, including on the campuses of many universities.

It is hard not to despair when political correctness—the movement to be inclusive and non-discriminatory—has morphed into woke culture that is militant for rights for everyone except Jews and Israel.

It is hard not to despair when history and facts are rewritten to exclude Jews. Revisionists claim that there were no Jewish kingdoms in ancient Israel and even that Jesus was Palestinian, not Jewish.

The word “despair” is related to the French word “désespoir,” which means a loss of hope. When we despair, we lose all hope, which is a very great danger. Rabbi Jonathan Sacks used to say that, given our history, Jews have no right to be optimists but every right to be hopeful. But how to hope in a time of true and present danger?

My friend’s in-laws went through the worst of the Holocaust and the mother-in-law was cheerful. Cheerful! He asked her how she could be so positive after all she saw and experienced. She answered: “I tried the alternative.” She had discovered that abandoning all hope is the worst possible option.

Albert Einstein wrote that “we cannot despair of humanity, since we ourselves are human beings.” Einstein wisely discerned that we must not give up on ourselves because we are all we have. Religious people beseech God but also feel fear, and even despair, and must be nourished by hope.

We, as Jews, dare not give up on the world or on ourselves. We have invested too much over 3,000 years. We have given the world monotheism and the moral and intellectual framework of western civilization. We have enriched, intellectually and materially, every society in which we settled in our 2,000-year diaspora and the best of the world knows it.

We, as Jews, dare not give up on the world or on ourselves.

I find hope and inspiration in two thoughts, one ancient, the other modern. Rabbi David Forman and Immanuel Shalev of Aleph Beta discuss the role of Moses’s sister, Miriam. The time was dark and foreboding: The Jews were enslaved in Egypt and Pharaoh had ordered all male babies be killed in childbirth. The present was bleak, and the future looked bleaker. Miriam observes Moses being placed in the Nile in a basket to escape Pharaoh’s decree. Instead of giving in to despair, she follows the basket and sees Pharaoh’s daughter retrieve it. In a luminous, history-changing act, she dares approach Pharaoh’s daughter and offers to find a Hebrew nursemaid for the baby (Exodus 2: 3-7) and ends up saving the life of the one who would lead the Jews out of slavery to Mount Sinai to receive the Ten Commandments and to the Promised Land.

Although she had no control over the decrees that Pharaoh made against the Jews, she did not withdraw. She chose to engage. With all the odds against her, she acted and changed Jewish history. She was not distracted by what she could not control; instead, she focused on what she could control.

Miriam is the answer, says Rabbi Forman, to the question: “When all the odds are against you, will you be there?”

The other source of inspiration is a contemporary effort. Rabbi Yakov Nagen has dedicated himself to outreach to moderate Muslim leaders throughout the world. His aim is to create the equivalent of Nostra Aetate for the Muslim world. Just as Pope John Paul VI signed that historic document in 1965, repudiating antisemitism, Rabbi Nagen seeks a similar understanding with Muslims. His close associate and friend is an imam in Indonesia, Yahya Cholil Staquf, with a following of a hundred million Muslims.

Pope John Paul II visited the main synagogue in Rome in 1986 and called Jews “beloved elder brothers.” He said that “Jews are beloved of God who has called them with an irrevocable calling.” Our grandparents would have said that such events could never occur. Rabbi Nagen refuses to abandon hope. He dreams of a religious version of the Abraham Accords, one that emphasizes the shared values of monotheistic faiths. Is he delusional or one who will be there when all the odds are against him, ready to change the world?

Jews are a people of hope, not despair. The eternal people is not afraid of a long journey.


Dr. Paul Socken is Distinguished Professor Emeritus and founder of the Jewish Studies program at the University of Waterloo.

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Detailed Instructions – A poem for Parsha Terumah

And you shall make its pots to remove its ashes, and its shovels and its sprinkling basins and its flesh hooks and its scoops; you shall make all its implements of copper. ~Exodus 27:3

I appreciate a good set of instructions
where there is no room for interpretation
and all the materials are provided.

I recall ordering a build-your-own couch
from a place. My mother-in-law asked
can’t you just buy a couch?

I could have, but we got to pick all the options
and it came in a few boxes, and it was all done
on the internet which made it seem like it was for me.

Imagine our delight when the compressed cushions
exploded into their natural shapes, ready for placement
and our eventual tushies!

A single screw was missing which led to
an ongoing fear that the right armrest was
never properly connected, and years’ worth of

reminders to our child (who started out so small
and now is the Paul Bunyan of our house) that
he should never sit on that part of the couch.

This is what it was like for us when we
got our first set of instructions by the mountain.
We were fresh out of Egypt and hardly knew

anything but slavery. So when we were told
to gather acacia wood, we did. Anything but
building treasure cities for someone else.

We put in the flesh hooks just like we were told.
Its scoops too. No screws were missing.
Not like in the couch which we left in that old house.

Gone from our personal history like the ark
we made at the foot of the mountain.
All we have left are the instructions.


Rick Lupert, a poet, songleader and graphic designer, is the author of 27 books including “God Wrestler: A Poem for Every Torah Portion.” Find him online at www.JewishPoetry.net

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“The Chef” on Izzy

“The Chef” is a lot like any restaurant kitchen — filled with big personalities, drama and lots of cooking. However, food is not actually the main ingredient of this Israeli program. “It’s a series that has a lot of food and a great love for food, but it’s not a series about food,” showrunner Erez Kavel, creator/director/writer of “The Chef,” told the Journal. “The kitchen, the food, the dishes, are meant to tell something about the characters, their desires, their passions, and their weaknesses.”

With vibes of “The Bear” and “Kitchen Confidential,” the show, which began streaming its first and second seasons on the Izzy platform on February 1, has a third-generation cook at the helm. Kavel worked as a chef for several years while studying cinema at university.

“I worked for years in this world, and I know it,” Kavel said. “I love it very much, but also know its less beautiful and less sexy sides.” He adds, “It was very important to me, both in writing and directing, not to glorify this world but to try and bring to the screen a version as honest and faithful to reality as possible.” 

“The Chef” centers around Nimrod, an unemployed high-tech worker who starts working in the kitchen of a prestigious restaurant run by a brilliant chef. While Nimrod is a family man dealing with constant pressure, chef Dori (single and self-absorbed) is struggling to stay at the top of his game and also the gastronomic world. Kavel says that the show was inspired by his memories as a chef, as well as thoughts and questions he started pondering around the age of 40. These are things, he explains, that were similar to what his main characters experience in season one. “Essentially, the series was born out of the idea of a person/man who enters the kitchen at a relatively late age, not out of a desire to be a chef but somewhat out of necessity,” Kavel said. “There he meets someone who is a kind of mirror image of himself, a very successful and wealthy man. A connection forms between the two, because they both share similar feelings related to their place in the world, their relevancy and their need to reinvent themselves.”

When asked why he thinks people love the show so much, Kavel said, “Because it’s fun, and the kitchen is a super sexy and fascinating world.”

Authenticity is so important to Kavel that they did not use a set or studio; they set up an actual restaurant for filming. 

He tries to show the kitchen, more or less, as it really is: “Amazing and unbearable at the same time,” he said. “The characters are honest and human, both in their weaknesses and in their strengths.” Authenticity is so important to Kavel that they did not use a set or studio; they set up an actual restaurant for filming. The actors underwent training with chef Moshiko Gamlieli to learn the craft and real chefs were cast for the secondary characters. “We don’t have hands that cut or cook, but the actors did everything,” he said. “They really cooked, cleaned, peeled and washed dishes. They did the real thing, and we were just there to film it.”

Erez Kavel. Courtesy yes Studios/IZZY.

When asked where his love of cooking came from, Kavel said from both his dad’s and his mom’s houses. “My mom is maybe the best cook I know, and my dad was a foodie with a great nose and a sharp tongue,” he said. Kavel, who loves making — and eating — a vegetable salad, with lots of herbs, hot pepper, lemon, olive oil and a lot of tahina, said his grandparents met and fell in love in the kitchen of a psychiatric hospital. “It was after the war: He managed the kitchen, she worked there as a launderer,” he said. “She once entered his kitchen and stirred a pot uninvited, he yelled at her, she yelled back at him, and from there it’s all history.”

Izzy, which launched in August 2020, connects the myriad talents of Israel to a global audience. It offers unlimited Israeli movies, TV shows and documentaries that are available through the app or via web browser.

Learn more at StreamIsrael.tv.

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Special Magic on the Basketball Court

Every Sunday at the J Los Angeles (formerly known as Westside JCC), Jacob Artson eagerly arrives at the court, anticipating his weekly basketball practice — a tradition he has upheld for the past 17 years, starting when he was just 13. 

When the sun sets on Saturday evening, February Feb. 24, Jacob, along with his teammates in Special Macabees, a free basketball program catering to Jewish special-needs athletes, will gear up for their much-anticipated “Big Game.” The culmination of weeks of dedicated practice, the game marks the pinnacle of a season that kicked off in November of 2023.

For this diverse group, the allure extends beyond the prospect of victory and medals. For some, it’s the joy of practice, the chance to engage in spirited basketball matches with friends, and the sheer enjoyment of the game. Eitan Wernick, a 26-year-old player, arrives with his father Jonathan, relishing the thrill of chasing the ball, making catches,and executing passes. In the grand scheme of things, this practice session holds immense value — it’s not just about the game, but a shared opportunity for camaraderie and enjoyment.

Within this unique basketball community, players — ranging from those on the autism spectrum to individuals with Down syndrome or those who are non-verbal — find a common language on the court. Regardless of their backgrounds or abilities, the unspoken understanding they share transcends words, creating a space where everyone is on equal footing. On this court, basketball becomes more than a sport; it becomes a medium through which connection and understanding flourish.

Jeff Liss, the visionary behind Special Macabees, embarked on this project in 2005 after 15 years as a volunteer basketball and softball coach with Special Olympics. Liss, who became observant 25 years ago, faced a dilemma as he realized that maintaining Shabbat adherence posed a challenge for his continued involvement in Special Olympics, as their games were scheduled on Saturdays.

The turning point occurred during a stroll down 3rd Street in Santa Monica when Liss encountered a group of youngsters wearing kippahs. Curious about their athletic activities, he approached their leader with a simple question: “What do you do for sports, for exercise?” To his surprise, the response was, “We don’t do anything.”

This revelation sparked an “aha” moment for Liss. Recognizing the untapped potential of observant Jewish athletes with special needs, he felt compelled, with the encouragement of his wife, to establish a special-needs basketball group. However, navigating this new venture presented numerous challenges. At every juncture, obstacles such as high costs, insurance concerns, and difficulty securing gym facilities seemed insurmountable.

“Three or four months later, my wife asked me, ‘Hey, what’s going on with that special-needs group?’ I said, ‘I’m getting blocked on every corner,’ and she answered, ‘Just go and do it. Don’t let these obstacles stop you.’”

That realization struck a chord with Liss, confirming that the passion for playing basketball transcended concerns about logistics and formalities like insurance. Their primary desire was to step onto the court and engage in the game they loved. Fueled by this understanding, Liss took decisive action. He secured the basketball court at the JCC, enlisted volunteers as coaches, procured basketballs, and started the recruitment of players.

His proactive approach extended beyond conventional channels. Whenever he spotted a special-needs child on Pico Boulevard, he would eagerly approach them, striking up conversations with their parents. Liss left no stone unturned, visiting shuls, coffee houses, kosher restaurants and Jewish centers, engaging with anyone willing to listen about the Special Macabees initiative.

The fruits of his efforts materialized swiftly. In almost no time, Liss successfully recruited enough players to form not just one but two groups — one for men and another for women. What began with those teenagers has evolved over the past 16 years; those original participants are now in their 20s and 30s and still actively playing. The tradition persists, with the Special Macabees community gathering every Sunday morning between November and February, embodying the enduring spirit of camaraderie and shared love for basketball.

“They would wake up early in the morning and wouldn’t stop talking about the practice.” – Jeff Liss

“They just love it,” Liss told the Jewish Journal. “They would wake up early in the morning and wouldn’t stop talking about the practice. It’s one and a half hours of practice and it’s an opportunity to exercise and run.”

Despite relocating from Los Angeles to New Jersey seven years ago, Liss continues to oversee the program from a distance, relying on a dedicated team of volunteer coaches, including: Rob Green, Yossi Bock  and Jay Davis, who coach the men’s team and Jodi Weiss, Michelle Bryar and Elana Artson, who coach the women’s team.

Artson shared her perspective on the experience. “It’s beautiful seeing them on the court and they are incredibly supportive of each other,” she said. “They challenge themselves and it boosts their confidence when they learn a new skill.”

Over the years, the composition of the group has naturally evolved — some players have departed, new faces have joined, and a few have remained since the inaugural practice game. The players, who range from age 18 to 50, present a diverse array of abilities; skills such as dribbling a basketball or mastering the hop vary. What unites them all is the shared purpose of having fun. In this community, the emphasis is not on individual achievements or shortcomings but on the collective joy and camaraderie fostered by the love of the game.

“When I first initiated the program, I vividly recall observing the parents, and it was a truly heartwarming sight,” Liss said. “Their expressions conveyed sheer beauty — they gazed at their children, many of whom had never before engaged in this sport or experienced the thrill of dunking a basketball, yet their faces lit up with enormous smiles. Witnessing the joy and satisfaction these parents derived from watching their kids have so much fun on the court was incredibly fulfilling.”

Liss’ team inadvertently played a role in a heartwarming love story. Reflecting on this unexpected outcome, he said, “I met one of my athletes downtown with her mom. After approaching them, I asked if her daughter would be interested in joining our team, to which she agreed. For a while, her parents accompanied her to the games. However, one day they couldn’t make it and asked their other daughter, the twin sister of our player to accompany her to practice. While there, she struck up a conversation with a lady she met. The lady asked her if she was searching for a ‘shidduch’ (a matchmaking prospect). The young woman said ‘yes’ and approximately nine months later, her mom called me with an apology, saying they had forgotten to invite me to the wedding.”

It turns out that through the connection made during practice, the daughter was introduced to a nice Jewish man. The couple eventually got married, and they now live in Jerusalem, where they are happily raising two children. The unexpected love story stands as a testament to the broader impact and meaningful connections forged within the Special Macabees community.

Participation in the team and attending the games is free. Liss warmly extends an invitation to anyone interested in joining; the only prerequisite is to be special.


The Special Macabees’ “Big Game” will take place on Saturday, Feb. 24 at 7:45 p.m. at J Los Angeles, 5870 W Olympic Blvd., Los Angeles.

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Changing my Mind About Beethoven’s Ode to Joy

With a well-upholstered air,

I’m comfortable with myself and others,

because I really do not care

for those I used to call my brothers.

I sang them odes of joy, like Schiller

by Beethoven made most melodious,

the truth unfortunately its killer,

making the whole world seem odious,

 

Like Schiller, I have changed my mind,

most people in the world refusing

to see the Jews as humankind,

while of genocide accusing

my people whom they do not see

as brothers, which the world disgraces,

the concept of fraternity

deprived of any real basis.

 

We Jews no longer are regarded

by all the world with joy as brothers,

but in dismay dismissed, discarded,

deformed, descended species, others.

 


In “Liberty in danger: The failure of enlightened hopes” (TLS, 2/2/24),  Ritchie Robertson, reviewing The End of Enlightenment: Empire, Commerce, Crisis, by Richard Whatmore, writes:

In May 1789 Friedrich Schiller, already well known for his histories of the Dutch Revolt and the Thirty Years War, delivered his inaugural lecture as professor of history at the University of Jena. His subject was the study of world history. He depicted it as a narrative of progress, increasingly secured by international commerce. Enlightened self-interest ensured that the European powers, too heavily armed to risk war, would maintain peace. “The European society of states seems transformed into a great family.”

By the time Schiller’s lecture was published in November 1789, the Bastille had fallen, the Rights of Man and the Citizen had been declared, the French National Assembly had expropriated the Church and Edmund Burke, appalled, was already contemplating the Reflections, in which he would describe the French Revolution as “the most astonishing that has hitherto happened in the world”. Its subsequent descent into regicide and terror seemed to confirm Burke’s gloomy forebodings and render ridiculous the enthusiasm with which many intellectuals, including Schiller, had initially greeted it. In the essay “On the Sublime”, written at an uncertain date in the mid- or late 1790s, Schiller had changed his mind. He declared that the world, as a historical object, was merely “the mutual conflict of natural forces”, which could never satisfy the ethical demands made by philosophy.

Although Schiller does not appear in The End of Enlightenment, his movement from optimism to disillusionment matches the trajectories of many of the thinkers whom Richard Whatmore discusses. These thinkers are all British, except for the French revolutionary Jacques-Pierre Brissot, who spent several years in Britain and America, and knew such radical thinkers as Catharine Macaulay and Thomas Paine (also prominent in this book). They are united, in Whatmore’s argument, by the reluctant admission that the ideal here attributed to David Hume, “an enlightenment composed of peace, toleration and moderation”, was bound to fail and be replaced by one of numerous possible futures, all of them dark.


Gershon Hepner is a poet who has written over 25,000 poems on subjects ranging from music to literature, politics to Torah. He grew up in England and moved to Los Angeles in 1976. Using his varied interests and experiences, he has authored dozens of papers in medical and academic journals, and authored “Legal Friction: Law, Narrative, and Identity Politics in Biblical Israel.” He can be reached at gershonhepner@gmail.com.

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A Moment in Time: “I Have a Voice”

Dear all,

One of the leading voices in contemporary Jewish music, Elana Arian, wrote a powerful song in 2019 entitled, “I Have a Voice.” This song has been adopted as an anthem for those seeking to make a difference through advocacy.

This past weekend, 200 teens from across North America, including 11 from Temple Akiba, travelled to Washington DC, raising their voices to guide our elected leaders. Inspired by Elana’s music and influenced by Jewish texts, these teens spent the first part of the weekend immersed in study about many issues facing our world.

On Monday, the teens all lobbied at the offices of their respective elected leaders. Akiba’s teens addressed Congressmembers Sydney Kamlager-Dove and Ted Lieu. They chose to speak about mental health, environmental concerns, and antisemitism.

Their speeches were well-written and impeccably delivered. (And I was one proud rabbi!)

Friends, our voices are divine gifts. We can open possibilities through our words. We just need to find the moment in time to discover how our voice will make a difference.

Yes I have a voice. How will I use it to make the world a better place?

With love and shalom,

Rabbi Zach Shapiro

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Love Actually

It’s the season of love. Or at least according to Hallmark.

Valentine’s is not a Jewish holiday. Far from it. But the day gives us another opportunity to look deeper into our tradition and see how love plays a role in our most important relationships.

Leviticus 19:18 reads, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Rabbi Akiba identifies this verse as a fundamental principle of the Torah. Rabbi Arnold Eisen, Chancellor Emeritus of the Jewish Theological Seminary of America explains that the Jewish notion of love is action-oriented. Love should be behavior focused. He writes, “Love does not dwell within individuals but between and among them.”

Meaning, if you want someone to know you love them, don’t keep love bottled up. Show them. Details matter.

Some feel loved through hearing, “I love you.” Others feel loved when the dishes are cleared from the sink. Love is shown through the squeeze of a hand or offering to call someone as they drive home late at night. Love is giving your heart to enable another to feel known.

No. Not a Jewish holiday. We don’t need it. Love is infused through Jewish tradition, liturgy, thought and lore. And the Shema, our declaration of faith is clear: in whichever ways you offer love, love with “all your heart, all your soul and all your might.”

Shabbat shalom


Rabbi Nicole Guzik is senior rabbi at Sinai Temple. She can be reached at her Facebook page at Rabbi Nicole Guzik or on Instagram @rabbiguzik. For more writings, visit Rabbi Guzik’s blog section from Sinai Temple’s website.

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LAUSD School Board Candidate: Bibles Are Banned at School Libraries, Explicit Material Is Allowed

Rina Tambor grew frustrated with what she observed at LAUSD: A rapid decline in grades, large class sizes, and a concerning curriculum. California finds itself among the lowest-ranking states in terms of graduation rates, with test results that consistently place among the bottom in the nation. According to the California Assessment of Student Performance and Progress, 58.84% of students didn’t meet the state standards in English and 69.5% didn’t meet the state standards in math. These numbers are true for test results in 2023.

Tambor decided to take action. The former teacher, a mother of three, and a grandmother of three, is running for the school board.

“My motto is honoring the rights of parents and protecting the innocence of children,” said Tambor told the Jewish Journal. “People really need to be aware of what’s happening in the school system. We have large class sizes, making learning very difficult and students are entering colleges unprepared.”

“My motto is honoring the rights of parents and protecting the innocence of children.” – Rina Tambor

According to Tambor several factors have contributed to the current problem. A significant surge of undocumented immigrants has resulted in overcrowded classrooms. Additionally, budget cuts have led to a shortage of teachers. Discipline issues further compound the challenges, and an unconventional curriculum places a disproportionate emphasis on gender issues at the expense of traditional subjects. This combination of factors has created a recipe for disaster.

 “There are undocumented kids who don’t necessarily know the proper behavior in school and are lacking academically, and the median of the class is going down. We have students who are bullying and exhibiting hate. Teachers are facing these problems alone, they don’t have assistants, and it takes them a lot of time to get the kids to listen.”

Tambor knows what it is to come to a new country without knowing the language. She was born in Israel and moved to New York with her family when she was in the fourth grade. “My parents sent me to a school where I could learn English and I was lucky to have an amazing teacher who taught me and gave me confidence.”

“Today, there is a shift in how things are handled,” said Tambor. “Unfortunately, teachers find themselves without the time to devote to each student. In large classes, there is a mix of students encountering challenges due to language barriers or academic struggles, alongside those without academic challenges. Both groups face difficulties as teachers are unable to offer adequate attention, resulting in academic setbacks for the entire class.”

Another issue that Tambor intend to address is special-need students who currently don’t have proper classes. “We have failed our 65,000 special-needs students. Relocating funds will allow the students to reach their potentials so they could be part of the solution and flourishing society.”

Tambor said that budget isn’t the problem. “LAUSD has a budget of $30 billion. It’s a wonder that with this kind of budget, LAUSD schools don’t have enough classes and teachers. It’s unclear how this money is being allocated.”

“They also can’t manage to have a police presence in schools and we are dealing with bullying and an unsafe environment in schools. Now there is a talk about arming teachers with guns in certain schools for the security of the classroom. Teachers will need to act both as educators and police officers. It’s unheard of. Subjects that were once part of the curriculum, such as music or art, were replaced by gender issue classes. Schools stopped offering home economics and Creative Arts, which used to be very popular. Kids who were not strong academically, it gave them vocation to study something else, like woodworking or sewing. We don’t have music anymore and it has been fundamentally proven to be healthy for children’s mentality and achievement.”

 “When I speak to friends in the Jewish community, they tell me: ‘Oh, my kids are going to private schools.’ They believe that they don’t have to deal with this. Private school kids are in a bubble; they are sheltered, but eventually, they are still involved with public school kids. They need to interact with them in afterschool activities, in higher education, via mobile communication, etc. We need to prepare all our kids so they can be respectful and accepting of everyone.”

Tambor said that her mission is to ensure that parents’ voices are honored and heard. “I want to advocate for parents’ representation on decision making, being informed, and empowering them to play an active role.”

The frustration that Tambor feels is shared by many parents of students at LAUSD and California overall. One of the issues that had been troubling many parents is “Sex and gender education.” Policymakers believe the state, not parents, holds authority over children when it comes to sex and gender issues — but parents disagree. Children as young as five in kindergartens are learning about gender identity, using LGBTQ inclusive language. One of the questions teachers ask at the beginning of the school year is: “What’s your pronoun?”

There are some books that parents feel are too explicit and graphic for their children to read, such as: “S.E.X: The all you need to know sexuality guide to get you through your teens and twenties.” However, this book as well as others with sexual content is available to all students in school libraries, said Tambor. “Ironically, the Bible is not allowed at many school libraries or at least was pulled out of bookshelves in recent years. Students though, are allowed to bring a Bible to school and read it.”

One case that demonstrates how the schools take control over the delicate subject of  gender identity happened in the Spreckels Union School District, around 60 miles south east of San Francisco. A mother sued her school district after her 11 year-old daughter was “socially transitioned” into a trans boy, without her knowledge.  Upset after her grandfather died, Jessica Konen’s daughter Alicia, talked to her teacher and counselor and said that maybe it would be easier if she was a boy because boys don’t cry and are stronger. The mother who found out about her daughter’s transitioning weeks after it happened, sued the school and won $100,000. This story as well as many others, sparked anger among parents who are left in the dark about something so pivotal in their child’s life.

“Children must be taught how to think, not what to think,” Tambor said, quoting Margaret Mead.  “Let our children experience being children, to learn to read and write, learn to express themselves through language, arts and sports.”

This is a sentiment shared by many parents. Those who can afford it, send their children to private schools, others are opting for home schooling but the majority feel they don’t have a choice but to send their children to public schools.

Tambor used to be a teacher in New York City before moving to Los Angeles in 2001, just before 9/11. She also worked in sleepaway camps in Pennsylvania, Massachusetts, and the Washington, D.C. area. “I had over 800 campers and over 200 staff members under me.”

Those were different times, when parents fully trusted the teachers and school system. Now, there is a sense of suspicion and discomfort by what’s going on behind the schools’ doors. Tambor said she wants to change that. “I think it’s really urgent that we speak up for the kids and the parents.”

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