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A Writer, A Rabbi and a Connection

Some synagogues want a rabbi who\'s a good sermonizer, others want a scholar; some want someone who relates well to their teenagers, others want a rabbi they can call by first name and play tennis or basketball with; some want an individual well known in the larger community, others want a rabbi who knows them well; some go for formality, others for lots of hugging. Some want it all. In \"The New Rabbi: A Congregation Searches for Its Leader,\" investigative reporter Stephen Fried gets inside the congregational mindset the way no other writer has. He intensely follows the process of finding a replacement for Rabbi Gerald Wolpe, when he steps down after leading a Main Line Philadelphia synagogue, Har Zion, for 30 years. But the compelling book is as much about Judaism in America and the role of the rabbi, as it\'s about Har Zion. And it\'s as much about Fried\'s return to synagogue life as it\'s about Wolpe\'s departure.
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January 16, 2003

Some synagogues want a rabbi who’s a good sermonizer, others
want a scholar; some want someone who relates well to their teenagers, others
want a rabbi they can call by first name and play tennis or basketball with;
some want an individual well known in the larger community, others want a rabbi
who knows them well; some go for formality, others for lots of hugging. Some
want it all.

In “The New Rabbi: A Congregation Searches for Its Leader,”
investigative reporter Stephen Fried gets inside the congregational mindset the
way no other writer has. He intensely follows the process of finding a
replacement for Rabbi Gerald Wolpe, when he steps down after leading a Main
Line Philadelphia synagogue, Har Zion, for 30 years. But the compelling book is
as much about Judaism in America and the role of the rabbi, as it’s about Har
Zion. And it’s as much about Fried’s return to synagogue life as it’s about Wolpe’s
departure.

Fried, who has written for Vanity Fair, GQ and other
magazines, is the author of books about the inside workings of the fashion
industry, and the dangers of adverse reactions to prescription drugs. It some
ways it seems that the Har Zion story is one he was destined to write.

In 1997, Fried’s father died suddenly in his hometown of Harrisburg,
Pa., at age 62, and the reporter, who had been a six-day-a-year synagogue-goer
began attending daily minyan in Philadelphia to say “Kaddish.” Wolpe had been
the much-beloved spiritual leader of his family’s Harrisburg synagogue before
he was lured away by Har Zion in 1969. When Fried prays, in fact, it’s often Wolpe’s
cadences that he hears, and he recalls that Wolpe’s sermons were often the
topic of conversation at the Fried Friday night table.

A few months after his father’s death, Fried went to see Wolpe,
known as a master speaker, whom he had been in touch with once in the 20 years
he was working as a journalist in Philadelphia, calling him for a quote for a
story he was working on. “For a guy whose voice is in my head, I should know
him better,” Fried writes.

Wolpe, who is the father of Rabbi David Wolpe of Sinai Temple,
granted Fried unprecedented access to his own story, and to the private life of
the synagogue in transition. Although the journalist wasn’t able to convince
the rabbinic search committee to let him sit in on their meetings, he did
manage to follow what was going on, with the help of a few moles and his own
schmoozing abilities over a three-year period.

A process that was expected to take one year is extended to
three. Wolpe makes a decision to stay out of the selection process, but
continues to speak with Fried, quite openly, about his life’s choices, his own
father’s death when he was a boy, his wife’s illness and healing, his mentors
and mentoring and his four accomplished sons, two of whom are rabbis.

Fried brings to life a range of personalities — from the machers
who are close to Wolpe to the soccer moms active at the Hebrew school as well
as the cast of rabbis from around the country being considered for the job,
including the assistant rabbi of Har Zion, Rabbi Jacob Herber.

Fried’s approach is altogether serious, although leavened
with a breezy writing style.

One of the messages of his book, he noted, is that American
religious communities are important and they’re also fragile. “The process like
the one I’m writing about can refortify an institution for the next generation
or really cripple it, no matter how powerful it is. It’s also important that
attention be paid,” he said.

“Another message for me, personally, is that the search for spirituality
in one’s own religion, rather than running to another, is incredibly
rewarding,” he added.

For Fried, one of the hardest parts of writing this book was
knowing when to stop reporting. The story went on: Wolpe came out of retirement
to fill in at a major synagogue in Palm Beach, Fla., having some difficulties;
the events of Sept. 11 happened, and the selection process seemed ongoing at Har
Zion. As has been reported in the Philadelphia Exponent, the new rabbi’s
installation has been delayed, and there may be some controversy about his
future. Fried will write an afterword, bringing the story up to date, for the
paperback edition, due out next year.

The final scene in “The New Rabbi” is Yom Kippur 2001, when
Fried attends services at his own synagogue in downtown Philadelphia, and is
surprised to see Wolpe in his signature red tallit, seated alone in the pews.
When he goes over to greet him, the rabbi says his wife isn’t coming and
invites Fried, whose wife is also at home, to join him. Fried realizes that for
all the time they’ve spent talking, they’ve never sat side-by-side praying
together. They chat a bit, share pages of supplemental readings and say “Yizkor,”
“alone and together and in the loudest of silences, for the souls of our
fathers.”

 Stephen Fried will be speaking with Rabbi David Wolpe at 7:30 p.m. on Jan. 29 at Sinai Temple, 10400 Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles. $5 (members), $8
(nonmembers). R.S.V.P., (310) 481-3217.  

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