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May 31, 2024

Orthodox High School Acknowledges “Inappropriate Relationship” Between Students, Teacher

The head of a modern Orthodox all-boys high school in Los Angeles said two students have come forward to report an “inappropriate relationship” with a “female staff member” at the school.

The relationships allegedly took place between two male students and a female staff member at Yeshiva University of Los Angeles, which is more commonly known as YULA.

In a May 28 letter addressed to the YULA community, Rabbi Arye Sufrin, head of school at YULA, said the school on May 27 “learned of allegations that a female staff member had an inappropriate relationship of a sexual nature with a student in the Boys Division.”

Separately, the school “learned of another allegation against the same staff member involving a second student in the Boys Division,” Sufrin’s letter says.

“It is impossible to comprehend and beyond devastating that students would be facing this situation,” the letter, which was obtained by the Journal, says.

Sufrin’s statement does not identify the staff member allegedly involved.

The staff member was “no longer on campus and has been directed not to communicate with students or other members of our school community,” according to the letter.

YULA has notified the Los Angeles Police Department about the allegations and is cooperating with law enforcement’s investigation.

“YULA takes these allegations with the utmost seriousness and we have been working non-stop since we first learned of this…We are cooperating fully with law enforcement during their investigation and we will continue to fully cooperate,” the letter says.

The ages of the two students who came forward were not revealed.

Sufrin was not immediately available for further comment.

YULA, a modern Orthodox yeshiva high school, operates two separate campuses, one for boys and one for girls, in the heart of the predominately Jewish Pico-Robertson neighborhood. The all-boys Nagel Family Boys’ Campus is located adjacent to the Museum of Tolerance.

Other Orthodox schools in the community appeared to have learned of the incident at YULA. In a May 31 letter, Valley Torah High School Head of School and Dean Rabbi Avrohom Stulberger instructed those in his school community against being cavalier about the situation.

“These are real individuals facing significant challenges,” Stulberger said, “and making light of their pain is unacceptable.”

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Trump is Guilty, JLo Cancels Tour, and I’m Getting Ready for Shabbat

I wish I hadn’t read Peggy Noonan’s brilliant essay in The Wall Street Journal about how “we are starting to enjoy hatred” and how “estrangement has become alluring in the age of Biden and Trump.”

It reminded me of the divisive and cynical times we’re living through. We’ve been losing trust in our institutions, from the media to Congress to academia to politicians to our justice system. Democrats I know who hate Trump admit he probably would not have been prosecuted had he been a Democrat. That erosion of trust, regardless of who we vote for, is not good for our country. All it does is encourage retaliation and escalation. We can expect the “estrangement” Noonan wrote about to only get worse.

Meanwhile, our venerable drama queen Jennifer Lopez just announced she is cancelling her tour and that she is “completely heartsick and devastated” about letting her fans down. No mention that tickets sales were in the toilet.

But there’s more to life than Trump and Jlo.

At the Daniel Pearl Memorial Lecture yesterday at UCLA, author and psychologist Stephen Pinker gave a talk on “Rationality.” Among the many things he shared, the one I can’t get out of my head is how the media give us a distorted picture of reality.

Being a child of the 60s who remembers the horror of the Vietnam War, he could never have imagined a day, for example, when “Vietnam has been at peace for nearly 50 years.” That reality will never make it to the news, certainly not when it must compete with the Trump verdict or the Gaza war.

Pinker listed other items we’re not likely to see in our news feed, like the extraordinary reduction of famine throughout the world.

Now, as I prepare to head off for one of my choice activities—speaking to the elderly at a senior home– I’m wondering what I should talk about. Should I weigh in on the Trump verdict? The erosion of trust in our institutions? The alarming rise in antisemitism? The war in Gaza and the hostages? The reduction in world hunger? JLo’s angst?

I’ll figure it out when I get there, but my hunch is that I’ll end up sharing a few thoughts about Shabbat.

For thousands of years, I will tell them, the Jews learned the art of swimming in bad news during the week but taking a break on the holy Shabbat.

That sacred break has sustained us, kept us sane, week after week, century after century.

The Shabbat break rejuvenates us by inviting us to contemplate timeless thoughts. Among those thoughts, perhaps the ultimate is the simple art of gratitude—looking around us to find the blessings that surround us.

Just as we click on the crummy news on our smart phones all day, on Shabbat we mentally click in search of those blessings, and we continue that habit during the week.

Even in these days of estrangement, when some of us are starting to “enjoy hatred,” Shabbat rescues us by reminding us that what really nourishes our soul is to enjoy not hate but love and human connection.

It reminds us to be grateful that we have things to love in the first place, even if it’s just peace in Vietnam.

Shabbat shalom.

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He’s Waiting For Us

There’s a 50-year-old Israeli joke told about Jerusalem’s Biblical Zoo, where a remarkable exhibit is mounted about Messianic times. Its centerpiece is a cage with a lion and lamb living together, in fulfillment of Isaiah’s vision that “the leopard shall lie down with the young goat.” Visitors are amazed by this exhibit; one intrepid reporter decides that he must discover how this is possible. After some inquiries he learns that the zookeeper is none other than Henry Kissinger; and when the reporter finally gets ahold of Kissinger he asks him: “By God, how do you do it?” Kissinger answers in his trademark monotone: “Every day – a new lamb.”

Within the humor of this joke is a commentary on human affairs: those who dream of an otherworldly utopia will eventually find that Kissinger-style realpolitik is inescapable. There are real lions in this world, and one must grapple with them or get eaten alive.

Messianic visions have always stood at the center of Jewish identity; and, in a characteristically overcomplicated Jewish way, there are two intertwined visions.  As Avi Ravitsky points out, there are two cataclysms in Biblical history: the exile of the Jews from Israel, and the exile of humanity from the Garden of Eden. Because of this, there are two dreams of redemption from exile. One dream is of a return to the Jewish homeland. But there is a second dream, one very present in Isaiah, of a coming utopia of peace and happiness. And somehow, both visions need to fit into the same jacket at the same time. How that happens is a matter of debate.

The question of what the Messianic period will look like arises at the beginning of Parshat Bechukotai, when the Torah promises that if the Jews fulfill the commandments, they will be blessed with peace and abundance. One of the blessings is that God “will remove wild beasts from the land.” (Leviticus 26:6) The meaning of this verse is unclear. Where will all these animals go? Samuel David Luzzatto, following one opinion in the Sifra, interprets this as a natural outcome of peace and abundance; if the cities are filled with people, there will be no empty buildings or fields that wild animals can inhabit. Of course, wild animals will remain in the forests and jungles.

Others see this verse as being directly tied to the vision of Isaiah. If we are meritorious, nature will change. All of the formerly dangerous animals will be domesticated, and pose no threat anymore.

The Ramban champions this view in his commentary to Bechukotai, where he makes the following claim:

When (Israel) observes the commandments, the Land of Israel will be like the world was at its beginning before the sin of Adam the first man, when no wild beast or creeping thing would kill a human….It is [because of] this that Scripture says… ‘and the lion shall eat straw like the ox’…Scripture stated about the time of the redeemer.…that peace will return to the world and all beasts will no longer prey on others and will cease to be dangerous….

When the Messiah comes, the lion will turn vegetarian. The Biblical Zoo won’t have to put a new lamb into its exhibit every day.

The Ramban’s view is adopted by the majority of his medieval contemporaries, with one prominent exception: Maimonides.

In his Mishneh Torah, Maimonides makes it clear that there will be no change in nature during the times of the Messiah. He writes that (Kings 12:1):

Do not presume that in the Messianic age any aspect of the world’s nature will change or there will be a transformation of God’s creation. Rather, the world will continue according to its ordinary pattern. When Isaiah states: ‘The wolf will dwell with the lamb, the leopard will lie down with the young goat,’ they are meant as a metaphor and a parable. The interpretation of the prophecy is as follows: Israel will dwell securely together with the wicked idolaters who are likened to a wolf and a leopard…Similarly, other Messianic prophecies of this nature are metaphors.

Maimonides’ view of the Messianic period is consistent with what he maintains elsewhere; that the world always follows the natural order, and miracles, which are few and far between, only occur for significant purposes.

When contrasting the views of the Ramban and Maimonides, one might see the Ramban’s view as more distant from our reality. Nature will change during the Messianic period, and God will bring overt miracles to return Israel to its homeland and create a utopian world of peace and holiness. In a dramatic turn of reality, the impossible will come to life.

But actually, Maimonides’ view seems even more impossible. If nature is unchanging, history should be stuck in a repetitive cycle of war and peace. After thousands of years of bloody conflicts, how could one imagine otherwise?

Yet Maimonides believed that even if nature cannot change, humanity can. The Messiah, he explains, is a king who will return the sovereignty to Israel and teach Israel the ways of the Torah. The Messiah doesn’t only battle for a state; he fights to elevate the hearts and souls of his people. Full redemption is only possible when people seek enlightenment and strive to become the best version of themselves.

Sovereignty is the first stage in reaching this utopia. Once people no longer have the pressures of persecution, a revolution of prophetic inspiration can take place. And this inspiration is the very purpose of redemption. Maimonides writes (Repentance 9:2):

It is for these reasons, that all Israel, their prophets, and their Sages, have yearned for the Messianic age; so they can rest from the (oppression of) the gentile kingdoms, who do not allow them to rest long enough to properly occupy themselves with Torah and mitzvot. At that time they will find tranquility, and increase their knowledge… In that era, knowledge, wisdom, and truth will become abundant, as Isaiah (11:9) states, “The earth will be full of the knowledge of God.”…. And Ezekiel (36:26) states: “I will take away the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” (The Messiah) will teach the entire nation and instruct them in the path of God. All the nations will come to hear him….

A return to Zion will allow for a spiritual flourishing that will eventually spread across the globe.

Today, Maimonides’ vision of redemption seems further away than ever. Israel was a country divided against itself right before October 7th, and may be one again after this war. (Those divisions may have encouraged Hamas to attack.) Dreams of peace seem impossible when pain is all one can think about. Israel endured horrific attacks at the hands of a depraved enemy, leaving a country traumatized. At the same time, one cannot look away from the awful loss of life and suffering in Gaza, which causes profound anguish as well. As Golda Meir said: “perhaps in time (we will) be able to forgive the Arabs for killing our sons, but it will be harder for us to forgive them for having forced us to kill their sons.”

Hopes for universal enlightenment, (so common after the fall of the Soviet Union,) have gone into reverse.  Academic theorists have turned universities into hotbeds of hatred, making Jews the scapegoats for the accumulated sins of Western society, both real and imagined.  Social media allows people to find their own “truth,” further dividing polarized societies where no one can talk to each other. The dual dreams of the Messianic Age, a return to Israel and the salvation of mankind, seem now like a bitter illusion.

It would make sense for us to give up on this dream right now. But one must consider that Maimonides’ situation was worse than our own. His family fled Muslim persecution in order to remain Jews. Crusaders had ravaged the Jewish community in the Holy Land, and often held Jews there and elsewhere for ransom. Karaites and Rabbanites held an uneasy peace, which often exploded into open conflict.

Yet Maimonides still believed that even without miracles, humanity could change course. He felt no matter what the circumstances are, we are capable of bringing redemption.

And we need to take up Maimonides’ challenge.

In a sermon given in 1969, Rabbi Norman Lamm related an anecdote told to him by the Israeli General and politician Yigal Allon:

As a child in his native village near Mt. Tabor, Allon heard the famous Jewish legend about the Messiah sitting in the gates of Rome as a poor leper and waiting. Allon was disturbed by the story, and asked his teacher: “What is the Messiah waiting for?” 

The teacher’s answer was:

“He is waiting for you.”

This is Maimonides’ message to us as well. After October 7th, we must redouble our efforts to both rebuild our homeland and rebuild our souls. Even as redemption seems further away than ever, we must never give up.

We must remember that the Messiah is waiting for us.


Rabbi Chaim Steinmetz is the Senior Rabbi of Congregation Kehilath Jeshurun in New York.

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MAZON Honors Anti-Hunger Champions at Hunger Bites Gala

On May 21, MAZON: A Jewish Response to Hunger held its Hunger Bites gala. The event, at the restored Union Station in Washington, D.C., recognized outstanding champions in the fight to end hunger and strengthen America’s nutrition safety net. 

“At MAZON, we are guided by the central Jewish teachings of tzedek (seeking justice) and b’tselem Elohim (respecting the inherent dignity of every person),” Abby J. Leibman, MAZON’s president and CEO, told The Journal. “For nearly 40 years, we’ve been leading conversations and dialogues about hunger, and how to end it, with a broad array of policymakers and partners who share that vision; this vision was at the center of Hunger Bites.” 

This year, MAZON’s Justice Award for Advancing the Response to Hunger, recognized three individuals and one institution. 

“MAZON’s goal was to recognize the remarkable contributions of a broad array of individuals and organizations that seek to create a future where no one goes hungry or is shamed for struggling with hunger and food insecurity.” – Abby Leibman 

“MAZON’s goal was to recognize the remarkable contributions of a broad array of individuals and organizations that seek to create a future where no one goes hungry or is shamed for struggling with hunger and food insecurity,” Leibman said.

MAZON honored two longtime congressional champions of the anti-hunger movement: Chair of the Senate Agriculture Committee Senator Debbie Stabenow (D-Mich.) and ranking member of the House Rules Committee and co-chair of the House Hunger Caucus Congressman Jim McGovern (D-Mass.). MAZON also honored Josh Protas, MAZON’s former vice president of public policy. Protas, who recently took on the role as chief advocacy and policy officer at Meals on Wheels America, is one of the foremost experts on food insecurity among veterans and military families.

Congressman Jim McGovern of Massachusetts, the top Democrat on the House Rules Committee and longtime anti-hunger champion, appeals to MAZON supporters to continue their fight for a fair, humane, and truly bipartisan Farm Bill. MAZON presented McGovern with the Justice Award for Advancing the Response to Hunger.

CEO Action for Racial Equity (CEOARE) was also recognized. CEOARE brings together top talent and resources to advance public policies and corporate engagement strategies to address systemic racism and social injustice, while improving societal well-being. “MAZON has been particularly inspired that CEOARE has made one of the pillars of its work the recognition that equity, diversity, and racial justice must be at the center of all policy solutions to address hunger,” Liza Lieberman, vice president of Public Affairs at MAZON, told The Journal.

“Leaders like Senator Stabenow, Congressman McGovern, Josh Protas and CEO Action for Racial Equity give us hope, help us focus on what is possible, and lift us up in the face of defeat,” Lieberman said.” We are better off for the work they do, and we’re inspired by their dedication and courage.”

The event host committee included several members of congress, including Congressman Adam Schiff (D-Burbank), Senator Lisa Murkowski (R-Alaska), public policy leaders, such as Bob Greenstein, TV host and food expert Gail Simmons, actor Joshua Malina and many longtime MAZON supporters including Marcie Zelikow. 

“We were honored to be joined by the legendary Joan Nathan, whose donation of her new memoir ‘My Life in Recipes’ provided a stunning centerpiece to our gift shop experience,” Lieberman said.

During her remarks at the gala, Leibman pointed to the fact that 44 million Americans face food insecurity. “The need is huge, and therefore our government response — through programs like SNAP — must be robust, generous, and compassionate,” she said. “We have a mission to uphold this and other programs to the strength and [beauty] with which they work — for all of us.” 

This includes those who might be struggling, those who have struggled in the past, those who will need the safety net in the future and those who care about growing hunger in this country. “Throughout the program, we heard from stunning monologues that were based on true stories from This Is Hunger, MAZON’s community engagement program that illuminates the profound prevalence of hunger in America and ignites the community’s commitment to end hunger once and for all,” Lieberman said. “This program is available as a digital experience, and our full, museum-quality exhibit is housed in a permanent space in Los Angeles.”

MAZON invites community groups, educators and organizations to use their meaningful and engaging exhibit space (https://mazon.org/form-this-is-hunger-permanent-exhibit-registration/).

Inspired by Jewish values and ideals, MAZON is a national advocacy organization working to end hunger among people of all faiths and backgrounds in the United States and Israel. 

“We are deeply involved in capacity-building — the capacity of individuals, of organizations, and of the anti-hunger movement itself,” Leibman said. “We are honored to engage a wide array of leaders — from the students we educate, to the volunteers we mobilize, to the clergy we advocate alongside, to the partners we uplift. 

“Building our capacity to act is vital because hunger remains a crisis in both the U.S. and in Israel,” she added. “The needs remain significant and wide-ranging. We strive for the day when all people — regardless of circumstance — can feed themselves and their families.”

Learn more about MAZON at Mazon.org.

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Exciting Events, Awesome Awards: Niver’s May News 2024

May News 2024 with Lisa Niver & We Said Go Travel:

This spring I have had GREAT NEWS! My book has won multiple awards, I am a five time finalist for the Southern California Journalism Awards in June and I hope you can join us at BARNES & NOBLE at THE GROVE June 25th at 7pm for my next book talk and signing! RSVP HERE!

Thank you so much for all of your support for my writing, my website, my memoir, my videos! SMALL STEPS do lead to BIG CHANGES! Thank you to the Nonfiction Author’s Association for the GOLD Nonfiction Book Award!

Thank you TAKE 5 Magazine for featuring my memoir!

Thank you to the PENN BOOKSTORE for all your support!

Thank you to John for bringing my book to our Penn reunion so I could sign it for him and making me feel like a real author! Thank you to all of my friends and family for all of your support.

Wondering what else helps a new author? WRITE A REVIEW!! Click here to go directly to rate or review BRAVE-ish on Amazon–but you can do anywhere you bought your book! THANK YOU!!

Thank you to the nonprofit, If You Heard What I Heard, which films the stories of grandchildren of Holocaust survivors, the last generation to ever hear survivors’ stories firsthand for the Night of Resilience, for a special acoustic concert with Matisyahu at the Saban Theater.

Incredible musical performance by A Great Big World’s Ian Axel and Chad King of “THIS IS THE NEW YEAR” and “SAY SOMETHING” at Race to Erase MS Gala 2024 at the stunning Fairmont Century Plaza.

Thank you to Taste Buds with Deb for including me in her recent article: Lisa Niver, “Brave-ish:” You don’t need to cross oceans to have new food experiences. AND for the interview last year!

Thank you to Travel Books and Movies for including me in her article: Travel Writers at the Women in Travel Summit: “Lisa Niver is an award-winning travel writer who started her travel career with her husband, but after many (challenging) years she’s was forced to face the truth about her marriage and leave him (literally while on the streets of Thailand).  So then she had to completely redefine her life and figure out life—and a career—without him.  This book is the story of Lisa’s journey after she leaves her marriage (with some stories of how she got there) and how she built her solo travel career.

BRAVE-ISH REVIEWS (read more here!)

A VERY HONEST AND BRAVE SHARING OF THE AUTHOR’S INTERSECTION OF TRAVEL, RELATIONSHIPS AND LIFE!

5/5

Lisa has written an amazing book that chronicles her many travel journeys and adventures throughout her life, but made it very personal by intertwining stories of the relationships (good and bad), the realities of life on the road, with all the bumps that make her stories really resonate. Having met Lisa on a trail on the Annapurna Circuit….. and yes with Fred, I would have never imagined the story behind the story. Her sharing of this experience in her life was gut wrenching to read, but a necessary part of the story……. It sets the tone for the rest of her journey in becoming Brave-ish. Well done, and I look forward to whatever she has planned for her next chapters!

JON WINSTANLEY

BRAVE-ISH IS A STORY OF SURVIVAL THAT SPEAKS TO ANY WOMAN

5/5

Niver has the reader ride a wave of up and down emotions included with action and adventure that would rival any of Hollywood’s movies. Surviving a disastrous, abusive marriage that she did not see until it almost caused her demise. Being brave enough to get out from under the abuse, she starts and new life and thrives. But that wasn’t enough for the heroine of the story. She kept challenging herself to grow and overcome, at times, insurmountable obstacles. She accomplished things she never dreamed of and fulfilled items on her wish list. Yet, if there wasn’t enough to her journey of growth and survival, she takes on the challenge of accomplishing 50 Things Before her 50th Birthday in a very short time frame. And the reader is off again on another round of action and adventure as Niver learns new things, explores new places across six continents. Niver wants to be fearless after fifty and tries things that would make a seasoned professional squeamish and any woman over fifty clinging to the safety of her bed covers. Her courageous behavior clearly indicates that is fearless. Niver’s story shows us her portrait of life and her philosophy of life. Brave-ish is a story of survival that speaks to any woman and lets them see what can happen if you let go of your fears, expectations, and perceptions.

Lisa signing Brave-ish at the Park City Library

You can find my book on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Simon & Schuster, Post Hill Press, Target, Walmart, BookShop, BAM! and wherever you get your audiobooks! People always ask me where is it best to buy my book. I recommend you go into or call your favorite local book store and ask them to order it for you and pick it up IN THE STORE! You never know what other treasures you will find. Any bookstore can order my book because my publisher is Post Hill Press and it is distributed by Simon and Schuster. My friend in New Zealand just ordered my book to her local store! Brave-ish is available all over the globe!

Learn more about my events: click here and my articles here

THANK YOU for watching my podcast! It has now been seen and heard in 45 countries on 6 continents!

USA 🇺🇸  India 🇮🇳 Canada 🇨🇦  Ireland 🇮🇪Puerto Rico 🇵🇷  UK 🇬🇧   Italy 🇮🇹  Australia 🇦🇺 Philippines 🇵🇭 Singapore 🇸🇬  New Zealand 🇳🇿 Portugal 🇵🇹 Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦 Switzerland 🇨🇭 Hong Kong 🇭🇰   Mexico 🇲🇽  Japan 🇯🇵  Fiji 🇫🇯 Seychelles 🇸🇨 France 🇫🇷 Latvia 🇱🇻  Netherlands 🇳🇱  Kenya 🇰🇪  UAE 🇦🇪 Cambodia 🇰🇭 Israel 🇮🇱Guatemala 🇬🇹 Germany 🇩🇪 Uruguay 🇺🇾 Bangladesh 🇧🇩 Spain 🇪🇸 Panama 🇵🇦 Thailand 🇹🇭 Uganda 🇺🇬   Greece 🇬🇷  South Africa 🇿🇦 Costa Rica 🇨🇷 Bosnia and Herzegovina 🇧🇦  Sri Lanka🇱🇰Romania 🇷🇴 Pakistan 🇵🇰 Ghana 🇬🇭 Slovenia 🇸🇮 Cayman Islands 🇰🇾 Russia 🇷🇺

WATCH my podcast, “MAKE YOUR OWN MAP: Are YOU ready to be BRAVE?” on Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon Music, YouTube PodcastGoogle Podcasts, Audacy, Audible, Anchor, PandoraiHeart Radio

WHERE CAN YOU FIND MY TRAVEL VIDEOS?

Here is the link to my video channel on YouTube where I have over TWO MILLION views on YouTube! (now at: 2,137,000).

Thank you for your support! Are you one of my 4,300 subscribers? I hope you will join me and subscribe! For more We Said Go Travel articles, TV segments, videos and social media: CLICK HERE

Find me on social media with over 150,000 followers. Please follow  on TikTok: @LisaNiver, Twitter at @LisaNiver, Instagram @LisaNiver and on FacebookPinterestYouTube, and at LisaNiver.com.

My Podcast: “Make Your Own Map!”

Fortune Cookie SAID:

“With spring’s arrival, let hope bloom in your heart and bring new beginnings.”

Do you love audiobooks? My memoir, Brave-ish, is available! AND!!! I am the narrator! Did you know that authors have to audition to narrate their books?!!?

I continue to hope and pray for the hostages to be returned to Israel and for peace and safety for all of us on our planet.

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I am SO HONORED and EXCITED to have an event at Barnes & Noble The Grove June 25 at 7pm! I hope to see you there!

 

 

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