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May 8, 2015

Wellness for the Long Run

A favorite metaphor of caregiver experts is that taking care of a loved one is a marathon, not a sprint. And just as in running a marathon, when it’s essential to drink fluids early in the race, before you even feel thirsty, so it is with long-term caregiving. We caregivers need to re-energize ourselves early and often, even if we don’t think so. For mothers (who tend to be the primary caregivers) of children, teens and adults with disabilities or other severe chronic illness, “running” in this unplanned race without the necessary breaks is exhausting, lonely and can leave us without enough energy to take care of ourselves, either mentally or physically.

This point was hammered home as I read a summary of a recent study in The Journals of Gerontology that compared the data on 128 parents of those with childhood-onset disabilities with 512 parents of typically developing kids. The parents completed an interview, a mail-in survey and a battery of cognitive tests and concluded, “Mothers of those with disabilities are at increased risk of cognitive aging compared to those with only typically-developing children.” Mothers who reported the greatest difficulty handling their children suffered the greatest memory decline. Fathers, however, were not impacted in the same way.

Some methods suggested by the lead researcher to ward off this cognitive decline were for moms to keep strong friendships, “a sense of control of life” and to keep physically active. I know personally how hard these three goals are to achieve while also juggling all the other roles in my life. Forget “having it all” — moms of special needs children are just trying to “have one thing crossed off the list” by the end of each day.

I participated recently in one day of a three-day Women’s WellNess Retreat held at the Friendship Circle of Pacific Palisades, what was termed, “Soul-Centered Healing for Miracle Moms of children with special needs, ADD and other differences.” (In Hebrew, ness means miracle, and is most often associated with the miracle of the long-lived oil during Chanukah.) Jointly sponsored by the Westside Regional Center, the wellness retreat was the brainchild of Navah Paskowitz, who, along with her husband, Matt Asner of Autism Speaks, has six children, including three with autism.

The retreat was designed to engage the whole body, mind and soul. The morning learning session I attended was taught by Rabbi Zushe Cunin and focused on the topic “Unconditional Love: Replacing Expectations With Acceptance.” He shared with the group of 12 moms Rabbi Hillel’s famous one-line summary of the entire Torah: “Love your neighbor as yourself; the rest is the explanation — go and study it!” From there, we talked about how self-love is the necessary first step to loving others. In order for us to love others and accept them for who they are in all dimensions, we must first accept ourselves, both the good and the bad characteristics.

In a very mystical sense, Cunin said, we all have a part of us that is part of the Almighty, and that part can never be diminished. Most relevant for all the moms at the retreat were his next words: “Each person is given a challenge in life; the main goal is emerge from that darkness into the light.”

Turning from our more ethereal souls to our corporal bodies, the next presenter, Maddy Wolf (a friend, but not a relative), talked about eating the right mix of foods to keep our energy levels high and all of our systems working most efficiently. She encouraged us to always eat a good breakfast filled with lean, clean protein and to keep our blood sugar levels stable by eating frequently, and to avoid sugar and processed food. She also advised us to stop eating at least three hours before bedtime in order to give our bodies time to digest dinner. We sampled seed-based crackers, green gazpacho and a variety of other healthy, fiber-rich food.

Then, last week, I was treated by my sister to a four-night cruise to Baja California on which the toughest decision was whether to order one or two desserts at dinner. Reading by the pool, relaxing in the steam room and just watching the waves lap into the horizon from high atop the ship were all peace-inducing, and a few of those drinks with the little paper umbrellas didn’t hurt either.

Now, it’s back to reality. No more 24-hour buffets, free evening entertainment and ridiculous towel animals. I’m rescheduling an appointment with the Social Security Administration and talking to our 20-year-old son’s new service coordinator at the regional center to figure out what services he will need in the next 12 months as we look ahead to life after high school. It’s going to be a long run, but I’m feeling up to it.

Michelle K. Wolf writes a monthly column for the Jewish Journal. Visit her Jews and Special Needs blog at jewishjournal.com/jews_and_special_needs.

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The Irrepressible Jewish Mother

We'd just read The Boston Girl by Anita Diamant (best-selling author of The Red Tent), and my book club's discussion kept circling back to her depiction of the main character's immigrant mother. No one questioned the sheer luck and audacity of the daughter's rags-to-riches tale in early 20th-century America, a time rampant with prejudice against both Jews and women. What set this group's teeth on edge was how the book portrayed a Jewish mother.

 

Kvetching was okay, it seemed. A daily habit of spouting Jewish proverbs and old-world superstitions merited nary a second glance. Even constant criticism—which we now consider a terrible way to raise a child—might have been acceptable, back in the day. What they couldn't abide was this woman's sheer meanness—her sadistic put downs of a daughter whose academic and business accomplishments would make any normal parent kvell mit naches (glow with pride). “Why did the author create such an awful mother?” they wondered. “She's a Jewish mother, after all. No Jewish mother would ever behave like that!”

 

Naturally, our talk then veered off-topic toward the definition of a “Jewish mother.” “A selfless woman with unconditional love for her children” was a common thread. Because contemporary Jewish women have also been at the forefront of the feminist revolution— and are known to practice self-actualization both for themselves and their offspring—the “total sacrifice” aspect of Jewish motherhood has been tempered of late. Along with (to their kids' great relief), the earlier generation's habit of living their lives through their children, with heavy-handed sprinklings of Jewish guilt.

 

But that doesn't mean Jewish mothers have abandoned their calling altogether. If anything, they're more visible than ever—as “helicopter moms,” PTA activists, and even, sad to say, over-the-top coddlers, like the woman who calls her son at his college dorm each morning to make sure he wakes up in time for class. The adage that “a mother is only as happy as her least happy child” seems to hold double for Jewish mothers. Invariably, whenever I get a call from an out-of-town friend who's put aside a long time to chat, it's because she wants to discuss a problem with one of her kids. My friends call to let off steam, but also to ask for advice on how to get their children to see (and change) the “error of their ways.”

 

As a fellow Jewish mother, I can sympathize. And I'm often roped into their cause. If an 11-year-old suddenly exhibits traits of nascent pyromania and hangs around with a rough crowd, it doesn't matter if he's going through “the typical pre-adolescent phase.” What matters is his safety and, by extension, his mom's peace of mind. First and foremost, the dangerous behavior must be stopped.

 

And if you think the drama's over once the kids have graduated and are supporting themselves (to a degree: nowadays parental “help” doesn't appear to come with an expiration date), you're in for a rude awakening. Those same children you've taken pride in developing a “close relationship” with, don't suddenly stop sharing the details of their lives. And when they do, you might not like what you hear.

 

Last Sunday, I met up with a good friend to see a special exhibition of Frida Kahlo's work at our local art museum. She could barely look at the paintings because—and she had to share this on the gallery's bench—her 24-year-old daughter was giving her so much grief. The girl had just driven her car cross-country to her new home, and job, on the West Coast. Of course the mother could barely sleep at night till she'd arrived in one piece. But then mom found out that now that her daughter had her own car, she was also using it to deliver the business's daily cash deposits ALONE after midnight at an outside ATM. (Earlier, she'd had a company driver take her to the bank.) All law enforcement sites advise depositing large sums of money when banks are open or, at the very least, going with a partner. Yet her daughter, a mere 5'2″ slip of a girl, refused to acknowledge she was putting herself in danger.

 

Unfortunately, this mother had “cried wolf” too often with her constant worrying, and the daughter had learned over the years to tune her out. Still, this time was different; her reckless behavior posed a real potential for bodily harm. We decided to enlist her dad and older sister to the cause—but they too were rebuffed. So we headed back to my house, and computer, where we composed an email to the girl's superior, outlining (well-founded) parental concerns for her safety. (My friend received a response the very next day with a CC to her daughter suggesting she make her bank deposits the following morning, instead.) Of course, the girl got right back to her mom shouting, “Don't youever interfere in my work again!” But she did pause to thank her, once more, for the gift of her car.

 

The primary commandment regarding any religious observation states: Nothing comes before saving a life. By preventing the real possibility of an attack on her daughter, by whatever means were at her disposal, my friend may very well have saved her daughter's life. As an irrepressible Jewish mother, she could do no less. As for butting into her children's lives, my friend simply told me, “I can't help it, I'm a Jewish mother.” She's happy to live with an angry child, content in the knowledge that at least she's out of harm's way.

 

From comedic nudnik (pest) to tragic heroine, the traditional Jewish mother has been cursed and honored by generations of Jews throughout history. For as long as there are Jewish children to raise, she'll loom large in their lives. At least once a year, it's important to celebrate the women who made us—for their caring hearts, loving concern, and yes, the over-the-top involvement that will likely remain a burr in the sides of young Josh and Jocelyn for many years to come.

 

© 2015  Mindy Leaf

 

Mindy Leaf has worked as a professional freelance writer for the past 30 years. Her specialties include travel, culture, the arts and, most recently, a self-imposed weekly essay (or rant) spouting the unvarnished truth—as she sees it.

 

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Learn all about Cabot cheese in Vermont

Vermont is famous for their unique Cheddar and also, goat cheese. Now, you can learn all about them on your next trip there! Cabot is a cooperative of 1,200 family farms in New England and New York, making cheese, yogurt, butter and other luscious dairy products. Their visitors center in Cabot, Vermonthey! — is a wee bit remote, but oh-so-worth getting there! It’s where the whole magic started in 1919.

Cabot makes a range of Cheddar cheese, but even their most mild is interesting: redolent of the sweet clover grass and fresh air way up north. Cabot, Vermont is, after all, part of Vermont’s storied “Northeast Kingdom,” so-named for its special beauty. In this part of the world, they don’t shy away from aged, sharp or tangy flavors. I adore those notes! If you’re unfamiliar with cheese that doesn’t taste like a crayon or a stick of butter, do like I saw so many Vermont restaurants do: grate the sharp cheddar over your favorite foods, in the same manner that people grate Parmesan over Italian dishes.

During the tour, you’ll see the award-winning product being made. Another delightful part? The tasting room! I really looked forward to it, as I regularly peruse their website. It was hard for me to tell the difference between some of the varieties online and also, I was curious about flavors I’d never seen back home. Artisan Reserve styles are available regionally. They also have a super-premium, 5 year aged cheese that’s only available at the visitors center. Of course, I had to buy a brick to take home! To my palate, its sophisticated complex flavor profile included walnut husks, toasted yeast, sea salt and buttermilk. Love at first bite!

Some of their more household line is distributed through national grocery store chains along the East Coast. They sell a clothbound cheddar wheel that I’ve seen at Whole Foods locally.

The center has a bunch of different free pamphlets with recipes, ranging from healthy eating to serving suggestions for the Jewish High Holidays.

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Israeli Air Force: Front and Center On Film

The vaunted Israeli Air Force is flying high with two documentaries screening on television stations and at film festivals, while a feature movie waits in the wings.

However, the focus is not on today’s highly professional IAF, or on its astonishing exploits during the Six-Day War in 1967, but on its very beginning, in 1948, when the newborn Jewish state faced an onslaught by six well-armed Arab armies.

With fewer than a handful of trained pilots and no combat planes while facing an arms embargo by the United States and the rest of the world, Israel’s survival depended to a large extent on a vast international smuggling operation of arms and aircraft and on the skills of foreign volunteers tested in the air battles of World War II.

As detailed in the one-hour documentary “A Wing and a Prayer,” it took an incredibly brazen and ingenious “conspiracy” to establish a transnational pipeline through which flowed everything from swastika-emblazoned rifles to B-17 Flying Fortresses to arm the nascent Jewish state.

The one-hour documentary will air on the PBS SoCal World channel on June 27.

At the head and center of the vast operation stood Al Schwimmer, a sometime Burbank resident, World War II combat pilot and TWA flight engineer. Schwimmer bought a fleet of some 30 American bombers and cargo planes at war-surplus prices and recruited U.S. combat vets to ferry them overseas under the guise of a fictitious Panamanian airline, while always staying one step ahead of the F.B.I. and a hostile U.S. State Department.

A dollar-hungry Czech government supplemented Schwimmer’s air force by selling knockoffs of the German wartime Messerschmitt fighter planes, whose unexpected appearance brought to an abrupt halt an Egyptian army marching on Tel Aviv.

Appropriately, then-Prime Minister David Ben-Gurion described Schwimmer as the Diaspora’s single most important contribution to the survival of Israel.

Schwimmer, who for obvious reasons never used his given birth name of “Adolph,” was stripped of his citizenship by the American government for violating the U.S. Neutrality Act.

In 1951, Schwimmer was running an aircraft maintenance company in Burbank, when Ben-Gurion asked him to come back to Israel to establish a company to build and service commercial and military planes. When Schwimmer retired in 1988, his company, Israel Aerospace Industries, was the largest in Israel and valued at $1 billion.

“A Wing and a Prayer” is the creation of Boaz Dvir, a Penn State senior lecturer and documentary filmmaker, who had the foresight to conduct lengthy interviews with Schwimmer one year before his death in 2011.

In addition, Dvir interviewed 29 other veterans involved in the airlift and subsequent combat, including some of the Los Angeles volunteers, such as Lou Lenart, Aaron (Red) Finkel, Rudy Augarten, Harold Livingston, Mitchell Flint, Willie Sosnow and Wayne Peake.

Dvir put in seven years researching and producing the film on a modest budget of $135,000, of which $70,000 came out of his own pocket.

“A Wing and a Prayer” will air on the PBS SoCal World channel on June 27 at 6 p.m. and 10 p.m. DVDs of the film, including an extended director’s cut, are available for $19.95 plus $5 for shipping, by calling (800) 222-9728.

 

           
“Above and Beyond: The Creation of the Israeli Air Force” picks up where “A Wing and a Prayer” leaves off. Archival footage and interviews recreate the time when the foreign pilots, navigators, bombardiers and radio operators linked up with the smuggled-in planes to form the nucleus of the Israeli Air Force.

Although the volunteer airmen came from a half-dozen countries, the film, directed by Roberta Grossman, is aimed chiefly at a North American audience and hones in on the stories of the American and Canadian volunteers.

Nancy Spielberg, the youngest sister of top Hollywood filmmaker Steven Spielberg, is the producer and stands in awe of the now grizzled flying volunteers of the 1940s.

“These men are heroes and the stories of their exploits are incredible,” she said. “It is an honor to talk to them and to show what they did.”

“Above and Beyond” is now available on iTunes, Amazon Instant Video, Google Play, Sony PlayStation, Verizon, AT&T and DirecTV.

     

      
The third entry in the IAF film derby is Mike Flint, who grew up on the stories told by his dad, Mitchell Flint, who battled Japanese planes in World War II and joined Israel’s pioneer 101 Squadron in 1948.

In his resume, Mike Flint lists his background as former head of the Paramount Pictures story department, his participation in the development of such films as “Top Gun” and Forrest Gump,” and that he was founder of the Producer and Management Entertainment Group.

His project, titled “Angels in the Sky,” started out more than five years ago as a documentary, along the same lines as Grossman’s “Above and Beyond.”

Recently, however, Flint decided to switch genres and he is now aiming for a feature movie, focusing on the stories of four pilots hailing from California, Brooklyn, England and Canada, respectively.

Flint said that he’s pegging the film’s budget at $60 million and that retired Los Angeles businessman and financial advisor Mark Lansky is the executive producer and chief backer. Lansky is working with veteran entertainment lawyer and film financing expert Hal “Corky” Kessler, who said in a phone interview that Lansky had committed himself to raising half of the film’s prospective budget, ranging from $30 million to $60 million.

In an earlier interview, Lansky emphasized repeatedly that he is backing Flint’s project in the belief that “those who support Israel are blessed.”

He also mentioned that he is producing another film, presenting a different side of his uncle, Meyer Lansky, generally remembered as the “brains” and “accountant” of the Lucky Luciano and Bugsy Siegel gambling empires in the United States and Cuba during the 1930s and ‘40s. This film, Mark Lansky said, will emphasize his uncle’s services to the U.S. government during World War II and in supplying Israel with weapons and money in 1948.

All together, some 4,000 foreign volunteers, collectively known as Machal, the Hebrew acronym for Volunteers from Abroad, served during Israel’s War of Independence, with the vast majority fighting in the ground forces (including this reporter), and others in the navy, medical corps and other branches.

Without diminishing the contributions of these men and women, the war was won, first and foremost, by the Israelis themselves, who also bore the overwhelming brunt of casualties in dead and wounded.

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I consider “Dark Tourism” from a comparative perspective

    By Ruth Ellen Gruber

    More than 20 years ago I wrote a book called Upon the Doorposts of Thy House: Jewish Life in East-Central Europe, Yesterday and Today. The title referred to the mezuzah—the encased prayer scroll Jews place on their doorposts, indicating a house as the home of a Jew.

    In post-Holocaust Europe you could often find the grooves or scars where mezuzahs had been removed or painted over during or after the Shoah—thus forming symbolic mezuzahs that indicated a house where Jews once lived. In my book, I extrapolated further, suggesting that the surviving physical relics of pre-war Jewish life—synagogue buildings, Jewish cemeteries, even if abandoned, in ruined condition or transformed for other use, also served as symbolic mezuzahs to mark towns, villages, cities, and even countries where Jews once lived and do not live now.

    My intent was to show how buildings and other physical sites can be talismans and touchstones, opening the way into memory and history.

    George McDaniel made this same idea explicit in his introduction to the panel of Drayton Hall descendants. “History did not happen to someone, somewhere else, but to you,” he said. “You grow up a product of history. Preserving buildings means also preserving the story behind the buildings, making a connection with people. Why is a place important? How do you feel connected?”

    From the Jewish perspective, visiting Jewish historical sites in post-Holocaust, post-Communist Europe can be a very positive experience, emphasizing Jewish life, history and culture; but the experience also falls under what is now known as Dark Tourism—tourism to sites of what we can call “negative” history, “negative” experience: death, destruction, war.

    Sites of slavery also fall under Dark Tourism, though this aspect of a historic site (such as a plantation or genteel antebellum home) often becomes masked, elided, or simply footnoted in the presentation of beautiful buildings and gardens for tourist consumption.

    Much of this boils down to “who controls the narrative”—and to whom is the narrative directed: issues that we have been dealing with in the class I have been teaching, “Memory, Heritage, Renewal.” Although the main focus of our class is Jewish heritage and memory and their role and representation in Europe, we have been able to draw parallels with the way that African American heritage, history, and culture are presented here in Charleston and the Lowcountry.

    I was delighted that students from my class were in attendance at the panel presentation featuring the descendants of Drayton Hall, as the discussion clearly demonstrated the parallels we have been dealing with, touching on issues such as the point of view of interpretation and interpreters; messages and signage; how the same place can have different symbolic meanings and generate different memories for different people.

    I found particularly compelling a part of the film about Drayton Hall’s African American descendants that parallels the post-Holocaust Jewish experience in Europe. People were filmed sitting in the African American cemetery at Drayton Hall, speaking about how many of the deceased buried there had no markers for their graves, no one to talk about their history. In Eastern Europe, when I visit an abandoned Jewish cemetery, I often ponder the fact that most of the thousands and thousands of people buried in these places are also forgotten, with no descendants to tend their graves or even remember who they were.

    Drayton is not alone in trying to present a more inclusive past in the plantation context. Boone Hall has installed an extensive presentation on slavery and African American history centered on the nine preserved slave cabins there. Magnolia Gardens features special programs to bring to life its recently renovated row of cabins. And Middleton Place, which I have not yet visited, presents a permanent exhibit titled “Beyond the Fields” in a two-family tenant residence called Eliza’s House, in memory of Eliza Leach, a South Carolina African American born in 1891, and the last person to live in the building. The much less elaborate Hampton Plantation also incorporates the site’s slave history in well researched text panels, both in the Big House and along the path leading to it.

    After the Drayton Hall panel, I was excited to visit McLeod Plantation with Mary Battle, public historian at the Avery Research Center for African American History and Culture, and her class. McLeod, which served as local headquarters of the Freedman’s Bureau following the Civil War, has the potential to interpret not only slave life but the postwar experience of the newly freed men and women. McLeod’s signage uses a phrase that could be the site’s “slogan”—describing it as a place of both “tragedy and transcendence.” I found it interesting that this formulation echoes what we sometimes call sites of Jewish heritage in Europe—“sites of tragedy and sites of triumph.”

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Rosner’s Torah-Talk: Parashat Emor with Rabbi Steven Engel

Our guest this week is Rabbi Steven Engel, leader of the Congregation of Reform Judaism in Orlando, Florida. Rabbi Engel received a B.A. in Physics from Rutgers University, a Masters of Arts in Hebrew Letters from the Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion in Los Angeles, and Rabbinic Ordination from the Hebrew Union College in Cincinnati, Ohio. After ordination he served as Associate Rabbi in Columbus, Ohio. He then became the spiritual leader of Mississippi’s largest congregation, Temple Beth Israel. He has served as adjunct professor of religion at Millsaps College, on various Bio-Ethics Committees, on various committees of his Professional Rabbinic Organization (CCAR), as the Rabbinic Co-Chair of the Reform Movement’s Israel Organization (ARZA), on the Executive Committee of his regional Rabbinic Organization (SEACCAR), and as President of the Greater Orlando Board of Members (GOBOR).

This week's Torah Portion – Parashat Emor (Leviticus 21:1-24:23) – begins with a set of purity regulations for priests. It then continues to list the main high holidays and to tell the story of a blasphemer who is stoned to death by the community. Our discussion focuses on the disparity between what we do in the sanctuary (or in synagogue) and what we do outside that holy space (in our daily lives).

Our past discussions about parashat Emor:

Rabbi Ted Falcon on experiencing holiness and spirituality beyond the realm of religious ritual and on the mystical significance of the counting of the Omer

Rabbi Sara Hurwitz on the story of the blasphemer who was stoned to death by the community

 

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That the World May Not End

Our world is in trouble. A big portion of the human population is following a culture whose mainstream is dominated by some very bad ideas. The Muslim world is heavily influenced by a stream of thought synonymous with terrorism, sabotage, ignorance, anti-Semitism, the oppression of women, aggressive homophobia, sexual repression, hostility to free inquiry and human rights.

There are 13 countries in the world where you can get the death penalty for apostasy; all of them are Muslim-majority countries. Most other Muslim countries imprison apostates. Most countries with astonishing records of violence against women, terrorism exporting and financing, anti-Semitism and hostility to free expression are Muslim-majority countries. Even Europe, the birthplace of modern Western intellectuality and civilization, is not spared from this sea of darkness. Cartoonists, authors and academics frequently need the protection of law enforcement agencies because of the abundance of death threats and fatwas against them. Many of them have experienced assassination attempts, and many did not survive. The biggest demonstrations organized by European Muslims are not to condemn these atrocities but to raise signs like, “Behead those who insult the prophet,” or more moderately, “You are not free to insult the prophet.” Think about this for a moment: There are large numbers of people who actively and violently want to destroy our right to freedom of expression. Some of them are more than ready to lose their lives in order to shut us up. Europe is very quickly being hijacked.

The Organization of Islamic Cooperation (OIC), a 57-member bloc of countries, has often proposed a U.N. resolution criminalizing the defamation of religion. In March 2012, the United Nations Human Rights Council (UNHRC) passed a resolution titled “Combating defamation of religions,” which is basically a blasphemy law with 20 members voting in favor, 17 members voting against and eight abstaining. The Muslim world is trying to internationally criminalize any criticism of religion, even in our own non-Muslim Western homes. Even those we label “moderate Muslims” are attacking our way of life — though not with bombs — with every intention to destroy it.

CNN has blurred images of cartoons so as not to provoke Muslim hostility. The White House officially requested from Google that it remove a Muhammad parody video. The president of the United States has had to take it upon himself to praise the Muslim faith and culture on almost every occasion. Fear and intimidation are taking over our most reputable academic institutions, and the threat of violence is successfully blocking free inquiry. Christians are slain, women enslaved, homosexuals executed, atheists imprisoned, Jews murdered, young girls kidnapped, buildings blown up, diplomats slaughtered and journalists killed as part of this global ideological movement. The biggest superpower in human history has been spending countless precious materials and human resources for the past 20 years to counter this dark force. The United States has spent approximately $4.4 trillion from 2001 through 2014 on terrorism-related wars. This number does not include other non-Department of Defense counterterrorism-related budgets like homeland security. The number of people losing their lives daily is steadily increasing. In short, we are in trouble.

Islamic fundamentalism is one of the toughest challenges in human history. There are 1.5 billion Muslims. The mainstream of this culture is subject to very aggressive, inhumane religious fantasies. Maybe we do not know what to do, but we know what not to do:

We can’t convince hundreds of millions to abandon their ideas and values overnight, and we can’t convert them to modernity at gunpoint. These are not moral points but practical ones. We do not possess the capacity to achieve such drastically rapid change. The failed $2 trillion social experiment the U.S. conducted in Iraq should serve as an example.

We can’t compromise our freedoms. How do we expect to convince others with our values when we are the first to abandon them? Cowardliness does not set a good example. There is a shameful record of Western incidents in which people, intimidated by religious fascism, decided to side with the devil. This record stretches from calls in the U.K. to turn Salman Rushdie over to Iran, the White House request to take down a video from YouTube and even to condemnations of the Charlie Hebdo cartoonists. Those shameful acts serve nothing but the morale of fascist totalitarian Muslims. Giving up our values of liberty and freedom is not an acceptable solution, and it is not up to our political institutions or media outlets to decide.

We can’t offer Muslims our own Westernized version of reformed Islam. We often see initiatives from moderate Muslims or ex-Muslims in the West to start a reform movement within Islam. We have seen attempts offering main reform areas, such as the new suggestion by Ayaan Hirsi Ali, and we have seen other attempts go as far as rewriting the Quran. Needless to say, most such initiatives come from the West and are by either non-Muslims or ex-Muslims. The Muslim world is deeply convinced that the West is conspiring to destroy the house of Islam; any Western reform attempt will be viewed as a vigorous attack on Islam. Muslim masses will always be hostile to anything coming from the infidel West, let alone  the fact that Islam itself is a very schismatic religion hostile to change. The massive numbers of Islamic reformers living in Western exile should make us understand how tough such a process is. Another important point is that the Muslim world needs to intellectually and socially evolve in order to produce freedom, liberty, human dignity and equality on its own. Otherwise it is unlikely Muslim societies will commit to values not embedded in the foundations of their social and cultural fabrics.

We should be courageous and rational enough to acknowledge that any realistic solution must be a long-term generational one and heavily dependent on education. It is my opinion that this solution does not only start in the house of Islam, but also in the “infidel West.”

So, what must be done?

Redefine free speech. 
Criminalize the teaching and preaching of radical Islam and the depriving of fundamentalism from any legal protection.


Recent studies show that radicalism is much more common in Muslims born in Britain than in Muslims who immigrate to the U.K., Muslims born in the U.K. have zero tolerance to homosexuality, 20 percent of Muslims in the U.K. openly sympathize with the July 7, 2005, London terrorist attacks, and 25 percent of British Muslims don’t think that a Muslim has an obligation to report terrorists to police. The unspoken truth is that we know it is not the case just in the U.K. but in almost all of Western Europe. Terrorists are now born and raised in France, Sweden, Belgium, Germany and other European countries, as well as in England and Canada. The term “Muslim no-go zone” is a well-known term in Europe that describes semi-autonomous Muslim areas; some of them even have gang-imposed Shariah. All of this should make one thing very clear: The war on fundamentalist Islam starts at home.

A half-century ago, Europe decided to adopt a pluralistic, multicultural image to society. With absolutely good intentions, Europeans decided to adopt a suicidal, empty-headed multiculturalism with unmatched state benefits, wide immigration doors, and extremely tolerant policies toward ethnic and religious education. With no real supervision or assimilation policies, Europe has managed to attract unskilled workers from very poor Muslim countries, then helped them establish ghetto pockets and called for the Saudis to sponsor extremist, radical, hateful and pure evil mosques and schools. The result is no less than a catastrophe.

As a person who was born and raised in a conservative Muslim country — Egypt — where you can go to prison for blasphemy or homosexuality, let me tell you that I have met European Muslims who are much more extreme than many people who are legally considered terrorists in my home country.

Last year, the British government started taking serious measures to “force” all schools to teach British values after they found out some schools had been taken over by Islamists. I’m shocked that it took so long to realize what is going on in Islamic religious schools. There is a difference between teaching the history of Islamic conquests in a history class and teaching it in a religion class.

This is a very late move after decades of suicidal multicultural policies, and I do not think it will actually solve anything. The more appropriate move would be to shut down such schools and send the Muslim children to study with their infidel colleagues.

We all know that freedom and democracy do not work within Muslim communities, yet we have never tried to sincerely find out why. We need to ask ourselves some very sincere questions: Why do freedoms not work out well with Muslims? Why is it that when Muslim nations get a glimpse of democracy, the first thing they do is elect its enemies? These are serious facts and questions we have neglected to address. Many Muslims use their freedoms in their attempts to destroy civilization, and I believe the solution to radical Islam depends on dealing with this fact.

Since mankind has stepped out of the darkness of theocracy and feudalism, we have taken pride in our modern values. We take pride in our liberty, our freedom and our rights. We take pride in freedom of expression, freedom of religion, freedom of speech and all civil liberties, which we hold now as an absolute right of birth. But maybe it is about time to start re-evaluating and redefining these values. Our strong advocacy for democracy and freedom is based upon the cornerstone belief that whenever people are faced with choices, they will naturally choose the most good. But what if a population is in the habit of making some very bad and evil choices? You then are faced with a reality where you have no option but to eliminate either their freedom or the bad choices altogether. The third option would be to watch the world as it burns.

In one country, if a holy man were to call upon the believers to fight those who insult Jesus, the result would be be a mix of ridicule, public humiliation and material for comedy shows. In another country, a similar incident results in huge riots, diplomatic crises, economic turmoil, assassinations and bloodshed. The extremely distinct consequences of both actions should be the determinate factor of what should be protected speech and what should not.

Free speech works just fine in the first example, but in the second it is quite destructive. This is a very practical and accurate conclusion, and it should force us to re-examine and reshape our understanding of freedom. This is not a “moral relativity” argument about a certain value in a different cultural context. Rather, I want to ask the question: Should all speech be protected as free speech? Should every religious fascination be protected as freedom of religion? What if they cause suffering and pain for humanity? Aren’t we wise enough now to make the decision to prohibit speech that we all know will lead to destruction? Is avoiding a confrontation with our own ideology worth losing innocent lives and jeopardizing our way of life?

If, beyond reasonable doubt, a certain education, certain speech and certain religious beliefs lead their adherents to commit crimes against humanity, wouldn’t it be necessary to criminalize such a culture? If so, why don’t we criminalize radical Islam? We should know that we are mature enough to decide which ideas are not worthy of protection. Our next step of moral evolution is to choose which ideas we want to eliminate. Humans actively try to eliminate several living organisms known to be harmful to human life, such as viruses and harmful bacteria. We give ourselves the right to interfere with nature and deprive other life forms of life. Why do we not do the same with harmful ideas?

We need to be confident in ourselves and in our morality. We have reached a point where our own respect for religious doctrines has become a failure to realize the purpose of our values. Our values are meant to preserve the well-being of our society, to help us pursue happiness and eliminate our pains and miseries. We went great distances to protect ourselves from actions that compromise our happiness or contribute to our misery. We outlawed harassment, sexual assault, hate crimes, bullying, etc. However, we are willing to let people go for any crime the moment they claim their actions are based on religious beliefs. When did we become so dull? How did we become so cynical of our own moral intuition? We should agree to deprive people of the right to be religious maniacs. Modern society no longer can afford that luxury. In order to do this, we have to be confident in our own morality: Homophobia is bad, anti-Semitism is bad, sexism is bad, oppression of women is bad, religious bias is bad, and hatred is evil. I’m not saying we should impose a certain worldview or moral standard on others, but rather that we should prohibit what we know to be evil moral views. An immigrant family should not be allowed to send its children to Saudi-sponsored Shariah schools, but to nonaffiliated schools, where their children get to sit with all kinds of children.

Make no mistake. If supervising mosques and religion classes is what it takes, then I’m for it. We have to outlaw the teaching of intolerance and hate, and of women being in any way inferior to men. Outlaw the teaching of homophobia and anti-Semitism, and of glorifying religious-based violence. This will definitely clash with other religious groups, but don’t you agree it is time?

Confront both Iran and Saudi Arabia. Reconcile Sunnis and Shias and end the Muslim civil war.


Islam is a very schismatic religion, and it is inconceivable that we can moderate and de-radicalize the Muslim world while it is having at least one major civil war between the two main components of Islam. Muslims will never believe in tolerance toward infidels and Jews if they can’t even tolerate their fellow Muslims. Muslims can never believe in coexistence with non-Muslims while they are slaughtering one another all over the Middle East.

As you read this, the current state of war between the Shias and the Sunnis is on the edge of escalating to a nuclear arms race. This is the biggest danger of Islam at the moment — not the war on the West. Our world as we know it may end in a nuclear war because Sunnis and Shias can’t agree on whether to wear a white robe or a black one. We need to start a massive international campaign to reconcile those two camps and offer them all possible assistance to end their fighting. Status quo coexistence between Shias and Sunnis will force Islamic scholars and theologians to break ground and establish some theological foundation to coexistence. It also will force the states and the politicians to adopt some secular, nonsectarian traditions in legislation. This coexistence, hopefully, may later include non-Muslims as well. The road to “I do not care if you are a Muslim or a Christian or a Jew” starts with “I don’t care if you are a Sunni or a Shia.”

Such a great, ambitious goal cannot be achieved without a global consensus. The world powers have to agree on refraining from using the Muslim conflict as part of their global struggle for power. This is vital and crucial to all of us, and there is no reason for the Western powers to take sole responsibility.

To achieve reconciliation, there is no alternative but to challenge the ones leading this holy war: Iran and Saudi Arabia. There is no question that we need to curb the Iranians’ plans for Middle Eastern hegemony and their persistence in acquiring weapons of mass destruction. Iran is fueling fears and feelings of uncertainty not just in Israel, but also in the whole Sunni world. Tehran is fueling and managing conflicts in Iraq, Syria, Lebanon and Yemen. Iran is leading the whole Shiite world into a holy war with everyone. This will not stop simply through any futile unilateral American effort. If Iran does acquire nuclear weapons, we are almost guaranteed to see much more than the Pakistani-Indian nuclear standoff.

As a born-and-raised Sunni Muslim, I can confidently tell you that if you are looking for one to blame in the Muslim civil war, it is definitely the Sunnis, and above all, Saudi Arabia.

The history of Shia Islam is a long epic of breaking free from Sunni oppression. With the rise of the Shiite Iranian regional superpower, this struggle took a sharp turn. The Saudis are responsible for the incitement and funding of Sunni insurgent groups in Iraq, including the Islamic State, to fight the Shiite groups, triggering a whole new level of Muslim civil war. One should not forget that the first insurgencies and terrorist attacks in Iraq were on Shia mosques and shrines. The same Sunnis are determined to take down the Iranian-backed Bashar Assad in Syria, to the extent of pouring hundreds of millions of dollars into anyone fighting him, creating what we now know as ISIS. Last year, Vice President Joe Biden clearly stated that “our biggest problems are our allies” and explained how Sunnis are directly responsible for creating a world of Sunni terror in order to take down Iran. This should make clear to us that the Sunni-Shia civil war is much more dangerous than we think.

Saudi scholars declare Shia Muslims to be worse than all infidels, even the Jews. We all know that Saudi Arabia is the No. 1 exporter of radical Islam ideology, and it is time to confront it. The House of Saud is responsible for the religious factors spreading hate and seventh-century desert cults. Saudi Arabia is not better than Iran. It’s a country synonymous with human rights violations, compulsion of religion, oppression of women, homosexuals and anyone who dares to question Islam. Saudis are funding terrorism and radical education not just in the Middle East but also in Europe and the U.S. Focusing on Iran while giving the Saudis a pass will not convince anyone we are sincere in our intentions. Mutual pressure on both countries has more chance of success than does siding with one of them.

We can’t induce an alien reform to Islam, but we can create a global atmosphere where Islamic reform is inevitable. Ending the internal civil war within our “religion of peace” will contribute to toning down the sectarian militant speech coming from major Sunni theologians in countries such as Saudi Arabia, Qatar, Egypt, Iran and Iraq. By both affirming our values and contributing to the end of Muslim-on-Muslim slaughter, we will be giving Muslims a chance to lay down their AK-47s and reconstruct their own world.

There will be no peace in our world unless we start confronting bad ideas right now. Our morals and values are there to protect our civilization, but civilization itself is under attack from hate speech and despicable ideas. I know that what I’m asking from you and from the world is hard. I know it’s extremely painful. However, hard problems require hard solutions. The amount of effort should be as big as, if not in excess of, the size of the challenge. Any solution to Islamic fundamentalism will be costly and exhausting and must be long term. But we can start the discussion now or wait until our problems get to us. We could be working in our office in New York, taking a subway in London, riding a bus in Jerusalem, grabbing a sandwich in Paris, running a marathon in Boston, having coffee in Copenhagen or ordering hot chocolate in Sydney — this problem already has proven its ability to reach us wherever we are.

Both my points are aiming at calming our world. Creating a new generation of Western-tolerant Muslims is as necessary as making Muslims live in peace with each other, something Saudi-funded schools and mosques won’t help us achieve. We also have to work toward creating coexistent Shias and Sunnis in the Middle East. This does not mean that once we achieve any of this, radical Islam will be eliminated completely. But achieving these goals will offer us new generations of Muslims who are willing to reform their own religion. A new generation of Western Muslims sharing the same education with their infidel peers, parallel to a new generation of Middle Eastern Sunnis and Shias sharing life together, will jointly lead the way to a violence-free Islam. All our efforts should be accompanied by a great investment in education here and abroad. I’ll say it again. Any solution will have to be a long-term, generational one. We all should make the commitment to invest the efforts, education and resources necessary. Only then can we rest knowing the world may not end in a religious nuclear war.

Hussein Aboubakr Mansour was born in 1989 to an Arab Muslim family in Cairo, Egypt, and studied Jewish and Middle Eastern history and Hebrew literature at the Faculty of Arts and Oriental Studies Department at Cairo University. Persecuted by state police for his research at the Israeli Academic Center of Cairo, Mansour participated in the Egyptian revolution until he was forced to depart Egypt as a political refugee. He now lives in the United States.

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14 Questions for Progressive Jews

In a spirit of honest inquiry and intellectual challenge, I would like to pose a series of questions to that majority of American Jews who consider themselves progressive (that is, Jews on the left of the political spectrum).

1. How do you explain the fact that nearly all the Israel hatred in the non-Muslim world today comes from the left?

There are, of course, some neo-Nazi anti-Israel organizations. But, with very few exceptions, they are small and inconsequential. Essentially all antipathy to Israel today comes from the left: from universities, Europe’s labor unions, the Christian left, left-wing media, and from socialist and green parties.

To be clear, I am not talking about people who fight on behalf of Israel but who happen to disagree with any given Israeli policy or political leadership. I am talking about those who work to undermine Israel’s security whether through promulgating BDS (Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions) against Israel, or by spreading the accusation that Israel is an apartheid state, or by blaming Israel rather than Hamas (or both equally, for that matter) for the Gaza death count in the last Israel-Hamas war. And, of course, I am referring to those who oppose Zionism outright, meaning people who do not believe Israel has a right to exist as a Jewish state.

2. Does this left-wing antipathy to Israel disturb you on any level?

How do you intellectually, morally and emotionally square your leftism with the fact that Israel hatred is almost solely located on the left? Do you see it as a sort of quirk of the left? Do you choose to ignore it? Do you feel that  because you agree with the left on just about every other issue, its antipathy to Israel is just something worth living with?

I would respectfully suggest that there is no clearer major moral issue in the world today than the existential threat to Israel. No other country in the world is targeted for extinction — by hundreds of millions of people, no less, and by a powerful country that seeks to obtain nuclear weapons.

3. Can you name any significant areas in which you believe that Judaism and your progressivism differ?

4. If you cannot name such an area, can you understand why many Jews have opted out of synagogue and all other aspects of religious Jewish life? After all, if liberalism/progressivism/leftism have essentially identical teachings to Judaism on all moral and social issues, why bother with Judaism?

Yes, Judaism offers beautiful things outside of moral and social teachings — a communal life, Shabbat and holy days. But most Jews are secular, and in order to gain any of those benefits, one needs to affiliate with, and, at least to a certain extent, practice things that are religiously Jewish. There was a time when secular Jewish life offered a rich Jewish communal life, but no longer. Given how fully American Jews are accepted by, and integrated into, American life, most American Jews no longer need all those fine secular Jewish groups — B’nai B’rith and Jewish country clubs, for example — that they once felt they needed. As a result, most Jews simply have decided that since there is no significant difference between Judaism and progressive politics, there is little need to stay Jewish.

5. Do you believe that it is possible not to be a “hater” — and even be a loving human being — while believing that marriage should remain defined as the union of man and woman?

In America today, those who continue to hold on to Judaism’s (and other religions’) man-woman definition of marriage are widely regarded as “haters” by those who advocate same-sex marriage. Do you share that view?

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6. Do you feel that there is any room in Reform, Conservative or Reconstructionist Judaism for a rabbi who holds the traditional Jewish definition of marriage as between a man and a woman? Or that holding such a position should automatically disqualify an individual from being a rabbi at your non-Orthodox synagogue?

Imagine a wonderful, learned, kind rabbi who applied to be a rabbi at your non-Orthodox synagogue. This man or woman appears to be ideal in every way. Among the many other things you like about the rabbi is that he or she made it clear that gay Jews, their partners and their children would be warmly welcomed into the synagogue. But then, just as you were about to hire the rabbi, you learn that he or she believes that Jews should continue to adhere to Judaism’s millennia-old affirmation of marriage as the union of a man and woman. Would that automatically disqualify him or her?

7. Would you prefer your child marry a non-Jew who shared all your progressive political and social views or a Jew who was a conservative Republican and therefore differed with you on virtually all social and political issues?

8. While on the subject of children, would you rather your child be fully Orthodox or fully secular (irreligious)?

9. Would you have any misgivings about hiring a rabbi who was obviously biologically male (that is, had undergone neither hormonal therapy nor sex-reassignment surgery) and wore a dress and other women’s clothing both at synagogue and everywhere else?

10. Do you believe that fundamentalists of all religions are equally dangerous or that fundamentalist Muslims today pose a significantly greater threat than do fundamentalist Christians or fundamentalist Jews?

11. How often, if ever, do you read or listen to conservative opinions?

Conservatives are regularly confronted with left-wing views — throughout their schooling, by mainstream news media, and on TV and in films. A person on the left, however, can go through life without almost ever reading, seeing or listening to conservative views: no talk radio, no Wall Street Journal editorial page, no conservative columnists or books, etc.

12. The only large pro-Israel events organized by non-Jews are organized by conservative Christian groups such as Christians United for Israel (CUFI). Given Israel’s increasing isolation, would you attend a CUFI event in your city — or would the fact that CUFI is a conservative Christian organization prevent you from you doing so?

13. Have you ever differed with the Torah and, as a result, reconsidered your position? Let me illustrate this question:

I have publicly debated professor Alan Dershowitz on four occasions. At the first debate (at the 92nd Street Y in New York), I announced in the middle of our dialogue — and repeated at each subsequent debate — that perhaps the greatest difference between us was that “when Professor Dershowitz differs with the Torah, he says that the Torah is wrong and he is right. When I disagree with the Torah, I say the Torah is right and I am wrong.” Professor Dershowitz agreed that this accurately described a major difference between us.

14. Which is more likely to keep you up at night — Iran obtaining a nuclear weapon or climate change? If you respond that they disturb you equally, do your children know that?

I would welcome written responses to these questions. Please send them to me either through editor@jewishjournal or directly to me at dennis@dennisprager.com.

Dennis Prager is a nationally syndicated radio talk-show host (AM 870 in Los Angeles) and founder of PragerUniversity.com. His latest book is the New York Times best-seller “Still the Best Hope: Why the World Needs American Values to Triumph” (HarperCollins, 2012).

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A Heavenly Cure for What Ails Baltimore

The first Sunday of the month is always a special time for our family. Like Mormons throughout the world, we fast — go without food and water for 24 hours — and make a donation to our church's fund to benefit the poor. It's counterintuitive, but I always feel energized after fasting, and I've found that it brings spiritual strength into my life that is unobtainable in other ways. Of course, Jews are no strangers to the practice and power of fasting, which I believe has done much to preserve and protect their communities throughout the centuries.

If there's any city in America that could use spiritual power and healing right now, it's Baltimore. When the Orioles have to play a home game in an empty stadium due to fears of unrest, you know that you have a big problem.  Like everyone else in the city, the local Mormon stake president (regional leader) is seeking for ways to lessen tensions. His suggestion last week to have faith communities fast for healing

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