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July 31, 2003

Writers: Redd Still Gold on TV Land

Fred calls Lamont a “big dummy.” Aunt Esther warns Fred to “Watch it, sucka!” Fred fakes a heart attack, crying out heavenward, “Elizabeth, I’m comin’ to join you!”

Thirty years ago, when few representations of blacks appeared on television, “Sanford & Son,” starring Redd Foxx, brought such gags into the pop culture lexicon. And for most of its 1972-1977 run, a couple of Jewish boys, Saul Turteltaub and Bernie Orenstein, oversaw the writing on the top-rated African American sitcom. Today, “Sanford” is the second most-watched program among viewers age 25-54 on rerun cable outlet TV Land, trailing only its doppelganger — the wholesome, decidedly white “The Andy Griffith Show.”

As unassuming as it was, “Sanford & Son” — created by Norman Lear, the man behind “All in the Family” — was also something of a groundbreaker. It preceded Lear productions “Good Times” (1974) and “The Jeffersons” (1975) as the first true black sitcom. “Sanford,” loosely based on the British “Steptoe & Son,” hinged on the tension between Foxx’s Fred Sanford, a crotchety, wisecracking South Central junk dealer, and son Lamont (Demond Wilson). Like other Lear sitcoms, “Sanford” married character-driven humor with edgy racial commentary. The show never left the Nielsen Top Ten.

Turteltaub and Orenstein came aboard as producers with the show’s third season.

“The first meeting with Redd was very interesting,” Turteltaub, 71, recalled, “because Redd was down in Mexico holding out for money.”

But on the plane home, Foxx ran into good friends Steve Lawrence and Eydie Gorme, who had broken the color barrier by having the salty comedian open their Vegas shows.

“Redd admired Eydie,” said Turteltaub, who, with wife Shirley, was good friends with her. Foxx discovered this, and had no choice but to embrace his new producers.

“Within three or four shows, we were great friends,” Turteltaub said. “Redd was absolutely wonderful, tremendously talented,” added Orenstein, 72.

The Hollywood-forged Turteltaub-Orenstein team has its roots back East. Turteltaub grew up in a middle-class Englewood, N.J. kosher home. After attending Columbia University Law School, Turteltaub landed writing gigs on shows like “Candid Camera.” Meanwhile, Toronto-native Orenstein came to the United States in 1965 and began writing song parodies for Dean Martin and Bing Crosby. While writing on “Hollywood Palace,” he met Turteltaub. The pair wrote for “That Girl” before segueing onto “Sanford.”

“Partnerships in situation comedy are advantageous,” Orenstein said. “I was stronger in story, Saul’s a brilliant joke writer.”

Their Jewishness often crept into “Sanford,” such as the episode where Fred erroneously learns that his ancestors were Jewish. He visits Fairfax Avenue during that episode, written by the late Rabbi Joseph Feinstein of Beth Jacob Congregation.

“He was my rabbi at Beth Jacob,” Turteltaub said, “and he had a great sense of humor.”

Episode 97, “Steinberg and Son,” flirted with downright surrealism when Fred and Lamont are tipped off to a sitcom, “Steinberg and Son,” which features their Jewish counterparts. Anticipating a million-dollar lawsuit, an infuriated Fred demands to meet with producer “Bernie Taub” (an amalgam of Orenstein and Turteltaub). To Fred’s surprise, Taub turns out to be black. He responds, ironically, that a black “Sanford” would never work. Fred deadpans at the camera.

Turteltaub and Orenstein enjoyed peppering the scripts with Jewish references.

“Redd knew because we were doing it that he was not stepping over the line,” Orenstein said.

Unlike junk, political correctness had no value for Fred, which may be the essence of the show’s appeal.

“In today’s society, everyone’s so concerned about not offending somebody,” said TV Land General Manager Larry Jones. “For Fred, he just said it. It’s freeing.”

The writers, who went on to work for “Kate & Allie” and “The Cosby Show,” continue to collaborate. The Turteltaubs, active in Jewish Los Angeles, celebrate their 43rd anniversary this month. Son Jon is a successful film director. Orenstein decided to attend college and pursue a history degree.

The writers look back fondly on their “Sanford” experience.

“Redd was very protective of me and Saul,” Orenstein said. “The NAACP didn’t think two Jews could write a black show. [Were they] implying that we could only write about two middle-age Jews?”

Reruns of “Sanford & Son” air weeknights on TV Land from 6-7 p.m. and 9 p.m.

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For the Kids

Beyond the Hatred

The Shabbat before Tisha B’Av, which falls on Aug. 7, is called Shabbat Chazon (vision or revelation). Perhaps it signals a time for us to start looking deep inside ourselves as the end of the Jewish year approaches and we come closer to Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. The fast of Tisha B’Av serves as a reminder to us to not be hateful: On that day, our holy temples were destroyed, the rabbis say, because of hatred and a desire for power.

This Shabbat, examine your own behavior. Are you angry at anyone and haven’t talked to them about it? What can you do to resolve bad feelings so they won’t get worse? Talk about it with someone and work it out.

A Giant’s View of the Temple in
Jerusalem

If you do visit Israel this summer and want to feel like Gulliver in Lilliput, visit the model of Jerusalem from 66 C.E. — four years before the Second Temple was destroyed by the Romans. It’s 1:50 scale, so the right-size person for that city would be the height of a match.

If you can’t make it to Israel, go to these Web sites
for a good look: www.ebibleteacher.com/imagehtml/jerumodel.html
www.inisrael.com/holyland/model.html

Poetry Corner

Here is a very sad poem written by Noam Miller, 13, about the Crusades. Even though the Crusades began in the 11th century, this poem is definitely appropriate for this week’s thoughts on Tisha B’Av .

“meir”

Befallen brother Meir
Do you remember?
Hearts possessed.
They struck our nation
Playing God.
They condemned your soul
Hoarders of sins
Scattered to and fro
Eluding death
Swearing vengeance.
I mourned
You were 3
Little innocent victim
Heroic brother Meir.
I remember
Bitter tastes stabbed
at my tongue
Tastes of 1,000-year-old hate
Death Intruded thoughts
They lined us up
Cows awaiting slaughter
One by one we expired
You went first
Little innocent Meir
Baby brother Meir
Did you hear?
I have a son
Who knows no anguish
His name is Meir
Little innocent Meir.

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7 Days In Arts

Saturday

Score! Tonight, the Ford Amphitheatre presents “Movie Music Madness.” The West Hollywood Orchestra, conducted by Nan Washburn, performs several film scores including “Titanic,” “Sunset Boulevard,” “To Kill a Mockingbird” and “Schindler’s List.” Jason Graae lends vocals and a touch of comedy to songs from “Chicago,” “My Fair Lady” and “Lady in the Dark.”

8:30 p.m. $25-$125. 2580 Cahuenga Blvd. East, Hollywood. (323) 461-3673.

Sunday

Barbarino’s older brother, Columbo and Maude join forces with other notable actors in “Enemies of Laughter,” opening this week at Laemmle’s Fairfax Theatre. Directed by Joseph Travolta (aforementioned big bro), co-starring Peter Falk and Bea Arthur, and starring David Paymer as playwright Paul Halpern, the comedy is luckless Paul’s “deprecating writer gets girl,” Woody Allen-esque story.

$5.50-$8.50. 7907 Beverly Blvd., Los Angeles. (323) 655-4010.

Monday

External journeys as metaphors for internal change are the theme for the night in “Miles From Myself,” at National Comedy Theatre. First up is Janice Bremec’s solo play, “26.2: Single Twin Running,” her story of growing up an identical twin and her eventual need for independence. Round two is Naomi Grossman’s “Self-Portrait: Girl in Argentine Landscape.” The one-woman show describes Grossman’s coming-of-age as an exchange student in Cordoba.

8 p.m. (Mondays and Tuesdays). Runs through Sept. 2. $12. 733 N. Seward St., Hollywood. (323) 930-1804.

Tuesday

Indie artist Rachael Sage’s new album drops today. Titled
“Public Record,” her fifth CD is described as a continuation of her folk-noir
sound that expands into pop territories. The sequined songstress has played
Lilith Fair and opened for Ani DiFranco. Like DiFranco, she’s also a savvy
businesswoman who’s released all of her music on her own label, MPress Records.
“>www.qwipbooks.com

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Thursday

Spirituality and music unite the four artists featured in
the premiere episode of the Sundance Channel’s new documentary series, “Keeping
Time: New Music From America’s Roots.” Country-folk singer Gillian Welch,
neo-klezmer clarinetist Andy Statman, pedal steel guitarist Robert Randolph and
Native American vocal trio Ulali all embrace the task of making traditional,
religious music contemporary. They are highlighted tonight in “Pickin’ My
Religion.” 7:30 p.m. 7 Days In Arts Read More »

Brandeis Fetes Past, Plans for Future

In 1975, Sandy Feld spent the summer as a counselor-in-training at Camp Alonim. This summer, his daughter, Shana, will follow in her father’s footsteps, and Feld hopes that her experience will be as positive as his was 28 summers ago.

"It was a magical time in my life," said Feld, wearing a name tag bearing the years he attended camp (1971-1976). "When I see my friends here it’s like it was yesterday."

Feld did see friends at the Brandeis-Bardin Institute (BBI) on June 8 at Alonim’s 50th reunion. Approximately 800 people attended the event to share rememberances of the Jewish retreat center where they spent many childhood summers, grew up and a number met their significant others — and where they are now sending their children and grandchildren in the hope that they, too, will develop their own Jewish identities.

"Things are frozen in time here," said Arthur Pinchev, past director of Alonim. "It’s a constant for people. It’s a clear snapshot of life."

Located on 3,000 acres in the Santa Susana Mountains — the largest piece of land owned by a Jewish institution outside of Israel — BBI, the pluralistic Jewish retreat center, has established a dedicated following since it acquired its first piece of property in 1947. Alonim, which has served as the institute’s summer residence camp since its early years, has seen approximately 40,000 campers pass through its gates.

But even as certain aspects of BBI remain constant, the institution, like so many Jewish organizations these days, is in the midst of major challenges and changes. Historically criticized for remaining insular from other Jewish institutions and programming targeting a limited audience, BBI’s leaders have been working in recent years to change its image.

While BBI has come a long way — becoming more affordable, more accessible and more appealing to a greater diversity of people — its current leaders hope to institute programming that will extend its reach even further across the religious, economic, geographic and generational spectrums.

The institute recently brought in a consultant to help BBI move in a new direction. One recommendation was not to renew the contract of Rabbi Lee T. Bycel, president of the institute for the past three years, said Helen Zukin, BBI board chair.

Board member Richard Gunther said that the decision was not made as a result of financial difficulties or because of a single incident.

"There were fundamental differences, after the report was prepared, about how the situation could be dealt with in order to move the institution forward, and we could not agree with Lee on how to do that, so we decided we should go our separate ways," Gunther said.

Bycel, who served as dean of Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion for 10 years, came to BBI in 2000 as a result of a unanimous vote by its board of directors after a 14-month search that followed the departure of nine-year veteran Alvin Mars. Bycel could not be reached for comment.

As a search for a new president begins, BBI’s board is also making changes. Plans include expanding Camp Alonim, establishing a new arts campus and creating more diverse programming.

"We are very focused on expanding Brandeis, partnering with others in order to broaden our ability to touch life in a Jewish community that desperately needs positive healing experiences," Zukin said.

On this sunny June afternoon, hundreds of alumni — both young and old — danced to Israeli music led by BBI dance director David Dassa or caught up with old friends as they toured their old stomping grounds during the reunion.

At the event, organizers launched a $5 million capital campaign to expand the camp. Over the next few years, BBI’s board hopes to expand Alonim by 30 percent, to include more bunks, staff housing, a new dance pavilion and dining hall. Last year, the camp spent $250,000 to renovate bunks and added several recreational structures, including two rope courses and two climbing towers.

Expansion plans are not limited to Alonim. Groundbreaking will occur shortly for a 6,000-square-foot arts building, laying the foundation for a larger arts campus, which BBI hopes will ultimately lead to a separate national Jewish arts camp.

Leaders hope that the building, which will include studios for photography, graphic design, sculpting and textiles, will enable the institute to offer more programs that are similar to Bezalel — a weekend currently hosted by BBI that is dedicated to the arts. The building will be located on a 1974 gift of 900 acres given to Brandeis by its non-Jewish neighbor, Jim Arness.

Currently underway are plans to convert one of the canyons on BBI’s property into a self-contained learning environment. The project, which will be carried out in partnership with the National Center for Jewish Environmental and Nature Education, will include a mitzvah garden, a biblical farm, meditation points, Torah points, hiking trails and campgrounds.

The learning environment will enable BBI to create a curriculum for everything from a four-hour to a four-day outdoor experience. Scott Aaron, BBI education director, hopes that the concept will imitate an experience in Israel.

"Imagine a kid from Manhattan spending part of their day immersed in the caring and pruning of etrog trees," Aaron said. "If you’re standing there in the middle of what the Bible is describing, it takes on a different significance."

In order to appeal to a more diverse Jewish population and provide something for every stage of life, recent years have seen an increase in BBI’s year-round niche programming. It currently offers everything from weekends for young adults to elder hostels. In addition, BBI is also the site of the Cotsen Institute for Newly Married Couples.

Currently, the largest growth at BBI is youth and family programming.

"We did a survey, and the overwhelming demand is for family programming," Aaron said.

Last year, they added a weekend for young families, and this year, the institute included a weekend for single-parent families.

"The demand is for programs that engage children, but that also challenge and stimulate adults," Aaron said.

The institute has begun child care during all of its programs, and its day camp, Gan Alonim, offers extended day care.

While BBI’s weekend programs for families are a more recent addition, one of its most successful and longest-running programs is aimed at young adults. Since the early 1940s, the Brandeis Collegiate Institute (BCI), which is a 26-day program for 18 to 26-year-olds, has hosted 7,500 participants. The program is part kibbutz, part university and part experiential arts.

Recent years have seen the addition of BCI’s young artists program — a part of the BCI program that focuses on a select group of individuals who explore Judaism through the arts. The program, which began only with musicians, has recently been expanded. Under the direction of Danny Maseng, BCI’s artistic director and world-renown playwright, actor and composer, it now includes artists and writers.

This summer BCI is including participants from across the United States, as well as from 10 foreign countries. It will also mark the first time that the program is open to deaf students — an addition made possible by a grant from the Ziegler Family Trust.

"We don’t want to turn away any Jewish child," Zukin said, adding that this summer, with 957 participants, will mark the highest enrollment in Alonim’s history. "We know Jewish camping has a profound impact on one’s identity and in promoting feelings of being Jewish."

The institute’s leaders hope that BBI will continue to expand and inspire the same loyalty as it has among those who attended the June reunion. They hope that more people will have an opportunity to develop a personal connection to BBI, like the one that Denver resident Scott Kantrowitz has.

"It’s the land," said Kantrowitz, who met his wife at Alonim 29 years ago and watched his two daughters bat mitzvahed at the House of the Book — the multipurpose building overlooking the property. "Many of us came here year after year, and you become very attached."

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The Big Question

We’re now in the midst of a period called Bein HaMetzarim, a three-week period of national mourning for tragedies throughout Jewish history.

The most powerful of these tragedies was the destruction of the two temples in Jerusalem; these three weeks culminate with Tisha B’Av, the day that commemorates this tragedy.

While growing up, I resented that the Bein HaMetzarim fell during summer vacation. The summer was when we were out of school, unfettered by school rules and homework. Why did the rabbis have to put a damper on a kid’s summer by sticking such a sorrowful period of three weeks smack in the middle? I especially disliked the rabbis for their ban on swimming during the nine days between the first of Av and Tisha B’Av (the ninth of Av). You want to restrict my swimming? Do it in February — not during a searing August!

Part of the mourning process is the reading of the Book of Eicha (Lamentations) on the evening of Tisha B’Av (Aug. 6). This five-chapter dirge is Jeremiah’s moving account of the First Temple’s destruction. Eicha — how? — was the first word that Jeremiah used to describe the devastation. It expresses the horrified bewilderment of a person who has witnessed his entire world crumble all around him.

The Midrash (Torah commentary) introduces Eicha by noting that three prophets used the word: Moses, Isaiah and Jeremiah. Moses said, “How can I myself alone bear your cumbrance?” (Deuteronomy 1:12); Isaiah said, “Howhas the faithful city become a harlot?” (Isaiah 1:21); and Jeremiah said, “How does the city sit solitary?” (Lamentations 1:1).

Rabbi Levi said, “It may be likened to a matron who had three groomsmen: one beheld her in her happiness, a second beheld her in her infidelity and the third beheld her in her disgrace. Similarly, Moses beheld Israel in their glory and happiness … Isaiah beheld them in their infidelity … Jeremiah beheld them in their disgrace; and all three exclaimed, ‘eicha!'”

We can understand the connection between Isaiah’s and Jeremiah’s “hows.” Isaiah was lamenting the Jews’ spiritual nadir shortly before the destruction of the Temple, while Jeremiah was lamenting the consequent destruction. But when Moses exclaimed “eicha,” he wasn’t lamenting at all. He led the Jews during their spiritual apex, hundreds of years before the Temple era. He was saying, “Wow! What a colossal people. How can I, humble Moses, possibly bear the brunt of this massive nation?”

He was a doting parent, kvelling at the spiritual, emotional and physical growth of his children over the course of 40 years in the desert. Why, then, does the Midrash tie his “how” with the other two?

The fact that Tisha B’Av falls in the summer is not just a stroke of bad luck. God deliberately destroyed the Temple in the summer. Summer, when the world is outside their closed homes and offices, taking vacations, having fun. Summer, when there is the greatest propensity for calamity, because of our carefree attitudes. This is why it’s worthwhile to take some time amid all the fun to contemplate our sad history; to remember that it was these good times that precipitated a carelessness in our spiritual devotion that escalated into the ultimate destruction.

What’s the last thing we do at a Jewish wedding, under the chuppah? Break the glass. We deliberately put a damper on our simcha (celebration), to remind ourselves that our intense happiness should be channeled toward productive spirituality, instead of the narcissistic gratification — prevalent in too many marriages today — that leads to so much destruction. One thought of the Temple is all it takes to put our joy in the proper perspective. God, then, is not being a killjoy; He’s just reminding us that our “summer fun” should be integrated with spirituality, not estranged from it. And that’s precisely why Moses shouted “eicha.” Remember, says Moses, use your joy and prosperity as tools in the service of God instead of tools for self-destruction.

I know it may be inconvenient to have Tisha B’Av during summer. It may interfere with your summer plans, be it a cruise, family getaway or just a day at the beach. But try to take some time to appreciate all the divine blessings in your life, and connect them to the tragedies that have occurred throughout history and still continue. Connect the “how” of a prosperous today to the “how” of yesterday’s persecutions. Break the proverbial glass this year on Tisha B’Av. Appreciate that our heaven-sent blessings are tools for coming closer to our Maker. If we do our job correctly, next summer we’ll get to swim on Tisha B’Av in Jerusalem.


Rabbi Daniel Korobkin is rosh kehila at Kehillat Yavneh in Hancock Park.

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Murky Borders

For the great majority of Jews living in Los Angeles, anti-Semitism is a lot like clean air: We know it exists elsewhere, we just haven’t encountered much of it ourselves.

That inexperience is one reason why so many of us have a problem defining the border between anti-Zionism and anti-Semitism. When does honest criticism of Israel bleed into ethnic prejudice? When is an Israel basher a Jew hater? And, more to the point for us all, will anti-Semitism that masks itself as anti-Zionism grow and spread beyond the Arab world, beyond Old Europe and eventually reach our shores?

A case in point arose earlier this month after an Oxford professor turned down an Israeli student’s request for a fellowship by e-mail.

Amit Duvshani, who is completing his master’s degree in molecular biology at the University of Tel Aviv, e-mailed Andrew Wilkie, a geneticist at Oxford University, asking to work in Wilkie’s lab to continue his research into HIV.

Wilkie’s e-mailed response has since seen the world via the Internet. He rejected Duvshani’s request on the grounds that the young man served in the "oppressive" Israeli army, as is compulsory for all Jewish Israeli men.

"I am sure that you are perfectly nice at a personal level," Wilkie wrote, "but no way would I take on somebody who had served in the Israeli army."

L’affaire Duvshani would not be so distressing were it unique. Last December, Paris VI University adopted a motion calling for the suspension of scientific cooperation agreements with Israeli academics. In April, more than 100 academics in England signed a letter proposing a boycott of Israeli scholars to protest Israeli policy toward the Palestinians.

Shortly thereafter, the editor of an academic journal on translation fired two Israeli members of the editorial board.

The good news is that these academic blacklists are being met with muscular opposition from Jews and non-Jews. Oxford University put Wilkie under investigation for possible violations of the university’s anti-discrimination rules, and made him issue a public apology.

Even before that, a group of leading Oxford University scientists condemned academic boycotts based on nationality, as did the British Medical Journal and the Royal Institution, Britain’s oldest independent research body.

The bad news is that such nonsense has easily leapt the pond. Rutgers University will reluctantly provide a venue to an Oct. 13 conference hosted by New Jersey Solidarity, a virulently anti-Israel group. According to a report in The Jewish Standard, this will be the third annual National Student Conference held by the Palestine Solidarity Movement; the other two were at UC Berkeley and the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor. The conferences called for an end to "apartheid" in Israel and for divestment from Israeli companies.

Dennis Prager and Joseph Telushkin list many of the defenses anti-Zionists offer to the question of whether they are, in fact, anti-Semitic in "Why the Jews: The Reason for Anti-Semitism," a clear and mostly cogent text, first published in 1983 and soon to be reissued in a revised and updated version. The authors assert that anti-Semitism and anti-Zionism are of a piece.

The fact that a major publisher felt it was time to reissue "Why the Jews?" is depressing enough commentary on our times. The new version includes an introduction titled, "Is It 1938 Again for the Jews?" that provides ample evidence of "an astonishing eruption of international anti-Semitism."

At its best, the book provides clear refutations of the classic anti-Semitic and anti-Israel canards and deserves to be packed into every Jewish freshman’s steamer trunk this fall.

Yet the book suffers from overstatement and oversimplification — perhaps a function of aiming for a concise, mass-market paperback. The authors underplay the support Jewish communities around the world have received from non-Jews in response to anti-Semitism. The glass may not even be half-full, but it is certainly not empty. And sentences like, "In America, the greatest threat to Jewish security now emanates from the secular left," is a claim that few professionals in the world of Jewish defense organizations would agree with. The last two violent attacks on Jews in Los Angeles were committed by a right-wing militia member and a Muslim fundamentalist, not by breakaway cells of Sen. Barbara Boxer supporters.

But when Prager and Telushkin write that, "Zionism, whose major aim was to end Jew-hatred through the establishment of a Jewish State, has produced the most hated state in the world," they are not far off the mark.

It may take a more delicate scalpel to tease apart anti-Israel comments from base anti-Semitism — a lot of anti-Israel criticism comes from knee-jerk liberalism, ignorance and biased media reports, not Jew-hatred.

In a recent essay, author Rabbi Shmuely Boteach says British academics like Wilkie are not anti-Semites, just stupid and ill-informed.

"We debase the seriousness of the allegation [of anti-Semitism] through misuse," he writes, adding that many of these academics can be countered with clear and consistent rebuttal.

The same, I believe, goes for academics and students here. Harvard Law School professor Alan Dershowitz announced this week he will go to Rutgers and engage organizers of the anti-Israel conference in argument.

"The good news is that if the students just know the facts they can devastate the arguments on the other side," he said.

In the end, the border between anti-Zionism and anti-Semitism may be — like the air in Los Angeles — murky and gray. But let’s give unclear minds the benefit of the doubt, and present our side with accuracy and forthrightness.

"The best answer to falsehood is truth," Dershowitz said, "and the pro-Israel community should never be afraid."

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It’s All About You

It should be pointed out that once upon a time I wrote a little book titled "Life Sentence." It is the definitive treatise on the state of human relations between men and women, vis-à-vis engagement and marriage from the male perspective. Some people think it was anti-marriage, although on page three it clearly states, "For the record — [I] strongly recommend getting married." It remains, in my opinion, the best written and the least-read book on the subject. Ultimately, it seems that the man’s point of view on the subject of marriage is somewhat irrelevant.

In fact, the guy seems to be incidental to the whole marriage process. When I went with my long-suffering fiancée, Alison, to register for wedding gifts, there was a catalog with a beautiful bride (there is no other kind, evidently) on the cover, shot with slightly out-of-focus artiness. By contrast, the yellow, 72-point headline was clear enough that I could read it from across the room. It said: It’s All About You.

Later that day, Alison bought one of those brides magazines at the newsstand. There are tons of these things, all 2-inch- thick monsters, with yet more beautiful brides and recycled stories full of clichéd advice. (Have you noticed that there is not one magazine for grooms?) I leafed through it when she wasn’t looking, and was somewhat surprised to find that there was scarcely one picture in the 500 pages of glossy color ads with a guy in it. As if the whole marriage thing would be so much simpler without those unseemly men mucking it up. Just whom do they think all these brides are marrying, anyway?

We went shopping for wedding rings the other day. Alison took me to a joint called Cartier in Beverly Hills. When you ask to see the women’s wedding ring selection, they do a whole choreographed number, with "I Feel Pretty" playing over the sound system, great velvet-covered trays of sparkly jewels being proffered by eager, perfumed saleswomen.

By contrast, when you ask to see the selection of men’s wedding rings, they snap back, "Gold or platinum?" The girls get to choose from 31 Flavors, and we get chocolate or vanilla. (I found it interesting that the women’s rings seem to be somewhat more expensive than the men’s. Fascinating.)

Even the registry is all about her. Why don’t we go to the Home Depot? Do we really need a cake plate more than a nail gun? Which is going to be more useful in the future? Have you ever tried to install molding with a cake plate? They’re useless.

Alison didn’t want it to be all about her. She didn’t even want a bridal shower where your friends give you all that kitchen stuff. To be fair, Alison doesn’t know her way around the kitchen. Not at all. If left to her own devices with a raw chicken, some vegetables and herbs, she might starve to death.

I, however, am a very handy fellow to have around in the kitchen, and I like all that stuff — the All-Clad pots and Le Creuset pans, for example. (While writing this story, I was informed by The New York Times that I’m a "metrosexual," a straight guy in touch with his inner Julia Child.) So my sister, who also happens to be my gender-bending best man, threw a kitchen shower for me and all her gal pals. We had a spa day at which I had a scrub, a wrap and a massage. I was going to get something called a "polish change," but was told it didn’t apply to me.

Over salads (with the dressing on the side), the gals took turns offering me marital advice. In turns, it boiled down to this: empathy, focus, persistence, don’t sweat the small stuff, and the "Serenity Prayer" (Lord, help me to accept the things I cannot change). How can I go wrong?

It’s all right with me if the wedding is all about her. There would be no "us" without her, no wedding plans to fight over, no honeymoon to look forward to. I just hope I get my picture in the wedding photos next to the beautiful bride.

It’s all about J.D. Smith at www.carteduvin.com.

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Rep. Darrell Issa: Ally of Israel

In the interest of balance, The Journal made several unsuccessful attemptsto procure an Op-Ed piece on behalf of Rep. Darrell Issa (R-Vista) from aJewish supporter. In lieu of an Op-Ed, the congressman’s office provided thefollowing statement concerning his record on Israel and terrorism. Ajournalistic investigation into the congressman’s record will appear shortlyin our news pages.

Darrell Issa is a California congressman of Lebanese heritage. Throughout his career in the private sector, civic affairs and public life,Issa has stood for an absolute commitment to tolerance of all faiths, as well as all Americans.

More than a reliable vote for a strong American policy in the Middle East, Issa has gone further. He has met repeatedly with leaders in the region to encourage cooperation in the war on terrorism and to advance the “road map” to peace. Issa’s record is clear, and the facts of his leadership speak volumes.

The congressman has an unequivocal voting record in favor of Israel. He has supported both the 2002 House Conference Report and final House version of America’s aid to Israel (H.R. 2056); supported House Resolution 392, expressing solidarity with Israel in its fight against terrorism; supported House Concurrent Resolution 280, urging presidential action against Palestinian terrorism; and signed the “Hyde-Lantos” letter (April, 2001) to President George W. Bush, urging a reassessment of America’s relationship with Palestinians

Demonstrating strong leadership in the Middle East, the congressman has strongly endorsed the Bush administration’s policy to liberate Iraq and remove Saddam Hussein from power; personally lobbied Egypt to return its ambassador to Tel Aviv; personally pressed Syrian and Lebanese governments to act against Hezbollah; and has traveled to Bahrain, Egypt, Israel, Kuwait, Lebanon, Qatar, Syria and the West Bank — always in consultation with U.S. officials

“Henry Waxman (D-Los Angeles) confirmed that … his [Issa’s] votes on Middle East issues have been supportive of Israel. Other Democrats interviewed for this article agreed,” wrote The Forward. Rep. Ben Gilman (R-N.Y.) called Issa an outstanding congressman who has fought tirelessly to find a solution to the Middle East conflict,” and Daniel Ayalon, Israeli ambassador to the United States, sent the congressman a letter stating, “We would like to thank you for your assistance with the humanitarian efforts concerning the four kidnapped Israelis held by Hezbollah.”

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I’m a proud conservative Republican from Michigan, but I’m appealing to Californians of all political stripes not to support the recall of Gov. Gray Davis.

Rep. Darrell Issa (R-Vista) — funder of the recall effort and the only announced candidate to replace Davis — might be the contemporary, real-life version of Frank Sinatra’s "Manchurian Candidate." Instead of communists, Issa’s allies are radical Islamists and supporters of terrorism against Americans, Israelis, Christians and Jews.

In a short political career, Issa’s statements and actions consistently defend terrorists, terrorist groups and terrorist sponsor states.

Saudi Arabia’s longtime lobbyist, James Gallagher, contributed to Issa’s campaign in November 2002, and Issa tried to overturn key classified evidence portions of President Bill Clinton’s 1995 counterterrorism bill. Issa is also credited with "declawing" the Patriot Act.

Then, there’s Issa’s dance with Hezbollah, an organization that is on the State Department’s terrorist list and one of the largest components of Al Qaeda. In the 1980s, Hezbollah — which means "Party of Allah" — murdered more than 260 U.S. Marines while they slept in Beirut and tortured to death Col. Richard Higgins (in 1990) and CIA attache William Buckley.

Hezbollah endorses "the use of hostages," "suicide in jihad operations" and "the duty of all Muslims to engage in Islamic jihad if it ensures the ultimate goal [of] inflicting losses on the enemy."

Less than a month after Sept. 11, Issa visited Syrian President Bashar Assad, praising Hezbollah and lauding Assad’s policies (Syria is on the State Department’s terrorist list).

The Tehran Times and IRNA (Islamic Republic News Agency, the official Iranian news agency) quoted Issa’s statements to Assad in Damascus: "Hezbollah acts legitimately and has never been involved in terrorist activities…. Hezbollah and any other Lebanese group has the right to resist the occupation of its territory…. Hezbollah’s humanitarian and governmental actions were legal…. Such behavior would be customary in any country."

Issa denies the statements, but as a recent Los Angeles Times cover story demonstrates he has a record of stretching the truth — about his military record, his criminal history, his business affairs and his political positions.

In November 2001, for instance, Issa told syndicated columnist Debra Saunders he was vehemently against Arabs suing the airlines and government over profiling. At the same time, he told the rest of the press of his plans to introduce legislation to make it easier for Arabs to collect monetary damages for airline and government profiling.

And Issa’s other statements and actions corroborate their veracity:

  • Less than a month after Sept. 11, in an Oct. 9, 2001, interview with the Beirut Daily Star’s Ibrahim, during a trip to Lebanon, Issa said, "It is Lebanon which will determine whether the party’s [Hezbollah’s] activities constitute terrorism or resistance … If [Hezbollah] wants the world to understand that its activities are legitimate, they should say it…. Resistance is a legitimate right recognized [by the U.N.]…. I have a great deal of sympathy for the work that Hezbollah tries to do." He expressed hope that Hezbollah would "reform" and become a "government" like the P.L.O.

  • Assad’s state-run SANA (official Syrian news agency) covered Issa’s November 2001 meeting with Assad, quoting Issa as saying: "Hezbollah or any other party has the right to resist occupation."

    Occupation? Israel withdrew from Southern Lebanon at least a year before, and the U.S. withdrew over a decade earlier.

    Issa’s January 2003 actions regarding Israelis captured by Hezbollah asserted the terrorist group’s moral equivalence with Israel. According to The Guardian of London, per Hezbollah’s demand, Issa asked Israel to allow the Red Cross to see captured Hezbollah terrorists in exchange for interceding with Hezbollah to allow the Red Cross to see four Israeli prisoners held by the group.

  • On Oct. 31, 2001, the London Arabic newspaper, Al-Hayat, reported, "U.S. Congressman of Lebanese origin Darrell Issa, during his recent visit to Beirut in the mid of October," conveyed a proposal to Hezbollah leadership to remove Hezbollah from the State Department’s terrorist list and "normalize U.S. relations with" the group. Hezbollah refused the offer.

  • On May 31, 2003, Issa publicly made a similar proposal to legitimize Hezbollah by giving Lebanon $500 million of taxpayer money to disarm the group and turn it into a political party.

  • On May 9, 2001, during a House subcommittee discussion of the Iran-Libya Sanctions Extension Act of 2001, Issa praised Hezbollah, "in all candor, for the good things they do, too, the humanitarian, the hospitals, the schools they pay."

  • On April 14, 2002, Issa told Fox News Channel’s Rita Cosby that Hezbollah has done "some good things" (and he also praised Yasser Arafat).

  • In November 2001, Issa told the Financial Times of London, "Hezbollah does in fact have a limited scope. You must differentiate … from other organizations that might have a global reach."

    Global? Hezbollah murdered 86 Jews and wounded hundreds of people in Buenos Aires in July 1994, in addition to murdering Israelis and U.S. Marines and civilians in Lebanon and Iran.

  • In a Sacramento radio interview, Issa said, "They do supply little old ladies with heating oil in the winter and all kinds of other activities," characterizing terrorist Hezbollah as a mere "political party" and "farmers," and adding, "I’d like to see a lot of them just go back to their farms, go back to some honest living."

    Then there’s Issa’s strange respect for Arafat and Palestinian terrorists.

  • Days after Sept. 11, Issa, during his House International Relations Committee’s discussion of fighting terrorism, tried to draw a distinction between "Palestinian groups that are resisting Israeli occupation" and Al Qaeda and Osama bin Laden.

  • During his November 2001 trip to the Middle East, Issa told his hometown newspaper, the North County Times, that he was "particularly impressed with Arafat."

    "He is quite a charismatic individual, despite being a very small man and very old," the congressman said. "He has a wry sense of humor. He gives you food off his plate if you sit next to him."

    Arafat’s personal food taster as your next governor?

  • In April 2003, Issa spoke of Arafat’s "charm" (also in the North County Times).

    Issa’s softness on Syrian-sponsored terrorism is legendary, too. Syria is home to several fugitives, including Nazi war criminal Alois Brunner, Hamas political director Moussa Abu Marzook, Islamic Jihad chief Ramadan Abdullah Shallah and Jamil Al-Gashey, the only surviving perpetrator of the 1972 Munich Olympic massacre — all wanted and/or indicted in the United States. However, Assad refuses their extradition.

  • Issa vehemently opposes the Syrian Accountability Act, which imposes sanctions on Syria until it stops sponsoring Hezbollah and other terrorists. Issa said Syria is "cooperative."

  • The Reform Party of Syria said Issa "helps Syria with [its] propaganda campaign" and "objects to Mr. Issa’s presence in Syria. The Baath Party of Syria is duping Rep. Issa and using him as a propaganda tool."

  • In June 2003, Issa attended the Beirut signing of a major oil deal between Syria and two U.S. firms. The contract states the companies will spend $29 million in Syria and train the state-run Syrian oil company.

  • Issa hosted a pro-Syrian Capitol Hill event with a pro-Syrian Arab business group. The event was organized by former staffers to Reps. David Bonior and John Dingell, who now lobby for a "change" to U.S. Middle East policy.

  • After the Iraq War, during one of several frequent Syrian trips, Issa praised Assad, saying, "His word seems to be good."

Darrell Issa wants to be governor of California and ultimately president. With a record like this, do you want to help him?


Debbie Schlussel, a Detroit-based attorney, radio talk-show host and conservative political commentator, was the 1987 Outstanding Teen Age Republican in the Nation. She can be reached at dschlussel@yahoo.com.

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When Rabbi Harold M. Schulweis was the eloquent young rabbi of Temple Beth Abraham in Oakland, he gave many uncompromising sermons against the social and economic injustices that afflicted the community.

The sermons impressed my mother, who was principal of the religious school. She knew it took courage to speak so forthrightly from the pulpit of a temple run by conservative businessmen, some of them in the slum apartment or pawnshop businesses, both of which profited from Oakland’s large number of poor African Americans. Having been a schoolteacher in Oakland’s tough neighborhoods, she had a firm but understanding opinion of the city’s social and economic ills and agreed completely with Schulweis’ view of economic exploitation.

So it meant a lot to her that this rabbi with guts officiated at the event that won him a place in the Boyarsky family history, the wedding on July 21, 1956, of Nancy Belling and Bill Boyarsky. It meant something to me, too. Schulweis exemplified the social activist rabbi emerging through the complacency of the silent ’50s.

Recently, I visited Schulweis, now the distinguished rabbi of Valley Beth Shalom in the San Fernando Valley. A couple of weeks earlier had spoken to young Jewish leaders gathered together to discuss participation in Los Angeles civic life, and the conversation had started me thinking. We had covered politics thoroughly. But as the conversation moved along, I was surprised to find the group was just as intent — maybe even more so — in pursuing another subject: their quest for a more spiritual life.

Afterward, I wondered how this exploration of spirituality squared with the fierce determination of the civil rights-era rabbis to be part of the tumultuous world?

Schulweis said the two cannot be separated. The values of Judaism, he said, are intertwined with public values. He referred me to the work of his teacher, the late Abraham Joshua Heschel, professor of Jewish ethics and mysticism at the Jewish Theological Seminary of America.

Heschel was with Martin Luther King Jr. in the 1965 civil rights march from Selma to Montgomery, Ala. This is how Heschel described the event: "For many of us, the march from Selma to Montgomery was both protest and prayer. Legs are not lips, and walking is not kneeling. And yet our legs uttered songs. Even without words, our march was worship. I felt my legs were praying."

Schulweis’ social activism is also deeply rooted in Jewish tradition. And that is why, he said, Jews have listened to him — often uncomfortably — in Oakland, in the Valley and around the country.

"They do not want to be preached to without an argument that is based on Jewish thinking, Jewish experience, Jewish life," he said. "Otherwise, they might as well be reading an article in The New York Times."

A memorable example of what Schulweis meant was his Rosh Hashana sermon in 1992 on Judaism and homosexuality.

He began with the verse from Leviticus beloved by the anti-gay crowd: "Do not lie with a male as one lies with a woman. It is an abomination."

He recalled how a mother of a young gay man visited him and told how her son had committed suicide. "’I’m here to ask you rabbi, was my son an abomination? Was he punished? Is that why he died?’"

"Her question never left me," Schulweis said. "It is one thing to read a scientific paper or to examine a rabbinic text; it is another to look into the pained eyes of another human being."

He conceded "there are rabbis as knowledgeable and as moral as I who maintain the law is the law, that the biblical verses of Leviticus cannot, must not, dare not be changed…. Were I to follow their judgment, I would, in the last analysis, be compelled to say to those sons and daughters who seek Jewish wisdom and equity, ‘Abstain forever…. ‘"

"I confess, I cannot for the life of me look into their eyes and deny them the intimacy, love, pleasure and sensuality that is God’s gift," the rabbi said. "I cannot in God’s name, in the name of Torah and Israel, speak in that fashion. Because such a verdict runs against my Jewish sensibility."

"To bring misery, pain, torture, anguish to innocent people who are created the way they are violates my Jewish conscience," he continued. "I cannot bury my Jewish sense of fairness and compassion. Sexual orientation is no curse unless we assign it to our human malediction … it is not God who punishes; it is human society that punishes, humiliates, shames and excommunicates."

Schulweis’ conversation with the grieving mother affirmed what he long knew. The synagogue is not a refuge from the world. Young people, such as those I talked to, will realize that the quest for spirituality cannot be divorced from the streets around them.

As Schulweis said in the beginning of his sermon: "Judaism is wedded to creation. We are in this world and of this world and not of another. Judaism promises no escape from the sand and rocks of reality, and its idea of salvation counsels no flight to another world."

Bill Boyarsky’s column on Jews and civic life appears on the first Friday of
each month. Until leaving the Los Angeles Times in 2001, Boyarsky worked as a
political correspondent, a metro columnist for nine years and as city editor for
three years. You can reach him at bw.boyarsky@verizon.net.

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