As I was driving to one speech last night, I was listening to another in my car. “Rather than pointing fingers or assigning blame,” President Obama said in the aftermath of the violence in Tucson, “let us use this occasion to expand our moral imaginations, to listen to each other more carefully, to sharpen our instincts for empathy, and remind ourselves of all the ways our hopes and dreams are bound together.” Uplifting words, and good advice for those of us hurting on the sidelines – those of us hoping for news of the next uptick in Congresswoman Gabrielle Gifford’s condition, or wishing we could just stop thinking about the guns, hatred and accusations of “blood libel” — images that keep hitting us like the aftershocks of a emotional earthquake. Good advice, particularly if you’re sitting on the sidelines, feeling the pain and sharing the experience vicariously, through news reports, and wondering what you can do to help.