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February 24, 2022

A Special School Founded by Radical Hope

There are few things that touch my heart as deeply as the world of special needs.

Over the years, I’ve written a number of columns about people in our community with special needs. I wrote about Jacob Katz, who had “a talent for listening, and for absorbing everything around him.” Having Down syndrome didn’t stop him from being a barista at Coffee Bean or taking the bus twice a week to attend Santa Monica College. He also loved the Beatles. Over ice blended drinks, we would share our favorite Beatles songs. His was “Ticket to Ride.”

I also wrote about Rivka Bracha Menkes, who had “developmental disabilities” and whose dream was to find her soulmate and have her own wedding.

Growing up in a Chabad family, I wrote, “she went to enough weddings that she learned, for example, the exact order of dancing partners for the bride: mother, mother-in-law, grandmothers, sisters, aunts and closest friends. She even knew that the bride had to change into fancy sneakers between the ceremony and the dancing.”

When Michael Held of Etta Israel invited me to her wedding to a Chasidic man from Brooklyn named Avraham Chaim Weiss, I felt I had won the compassion lottery.

“All weddings are filled with love and simcha,” I wrote. “This one had a little something extra. It had soul. You could see the joy on Rivka and Avraham’s faces, but you sensed they were also a little vulnerable. It was like they were being carried by the love that was all around them.”

And speaking of marriage, I once spent a busy afternoon at the Pico-Robertson apartment of Danielle and Shlomo Meyers, a husband and wife team who both have Down syndrome. I wrote about their busy lives, between their jobs in the Jewish community, preparing for Shabbat and holidays and visiting with friends and family. The highlight of my visit was when they showed me their wedding album, and I could see on their faces the deep love they had for one another.

North Hollywood residents Sarah and Alain R’bibo were looking for a Jewish school for their special needs daughter Iva, now nine, and found nothing. As Farr writes, “Sarah eventually discovered she wasn’t alone in her frustrations.”

I also wrote about activist lawyer Matan Koch, who gets around in a wheelchair and is the California Director of RespectAbility, a nonprofit working to advance opportunities for people with disabilities.

Koch is a quadriplegic born with cerebral palsy, which didn’t stop him from attending Yale University at the age of 16 and becoming a Senate-confirmed appointee on the National Council on Disability in the Obama administration.

“Koch’s life embodies hope through action,” I wrote. “When you’re born with severe physical limitations, hope is not the obvious choice — despair is. Koch refuses to see despair as inevitable.”

I added that “There are millions more like him, human beings who have been dealt difficult hands and who must learn to muster hope from the toughest hardship.”

So, you can imagine my reaction when my friend and neighbor Dr. Ron Nagel told me about a new building for a Jewish school for kids with disabilities, Maor Academy. It was an easy call to make it our cover story this week.

Our community writer Harvey Farr spent long hours with the staff and others involved with this school, and he tells the story of how it came to be.

From three concerned mothers who never gave up hope, to a bustling WhatsApp group, to generous donors stepping up, a much-needed and very special Jewish school was born.

North Hollywood residents Sarah and Alain R’bibo were looking for a Jewish school for their special needs daughter Iva, now nine, and found nothing. As Farr writes, “Sarah eventually discovered she wasn’t alone in her frustrations. … About five years ago, through another mother of a child with special needs, Sarah was introduced to Chaya Chazanow, 32, whose son Tzvi was about Iva’s age and had similar challenges.” 

Together, the three mothers created a WhatsApp group chat called “Questions and Sharing.” As Farr writes, “the purpose of the chat was for mothers in the community who had children with special needs to connect with one another. The group has since grown to over 70 members. Everybody shares information, resources and advice to help each other navigate the complicated world of being a special needs parent.”

From three concerned mothers who never gave up hope, to a bustling WhatsApp group, to generous donors stepping up, a much-needed and very special Jewish school was born.

When I wrote about Matan Koch, I quoted the late Chief Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks: “To be a Jew is to be an agent of hope in a world serially threatened by despair.” 

Through the lives of Jacob and Rivka and Avraham Chaim and Danielle and Shlomo and Matan and Iva and Tzvi and countless others, as well as the parents and all those who support them, that radical hope prevails.

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A Source of Light for Special-Needs Students

Over the past several decades, the Los Angeles Jewish community has acquired a national reputation for having it all. Synagogues for every affiliation, kosher restaurants for every culinary desire, day schools, a robust Jewish Federation, security and emergency services, nonprofits for the needy. You name it, Jewish L.A. has it.

That’s what North Hollywood residents Sarah and Alain R’bibo assumed until they had to send their special-needs daughter Iva, now nine, to a Jewish school. “Our older children were in Jewish schools and when it was time to enroll Iva, we were shocked to find there was no Jewish school that served children with special needs,” Sarah said. “We looked and looked and finally asked ourselves, ‘Los Angeles is the second largest Jewish community in the United States. It offers so much for the Jewish community, with so many generous people. Where do families who want a Jewish school for their children with special needs go? What do they do?’”

Some well-meaning people told Sarah she just wasn’t looking hard enough, while others told her she needed to move to New York, where there are plenty of government resources for children with special needs. “A surprising number of people asked me, ‘Don’t those kids get what they need in public school?’” she said. “It seemed the Jewish community was simply resigned to the fact that LA will never have a Jewish day school for children with special needs.”

Sarah discovered she wasn’t alone in her frustrations as she searched for an appropriate school. About five years ago, through another mother of a child with special needs, Sarah was introduced to Chaya Chazanow, 32, whose son Tzvi was about Iva’s age and had similar challenges. 

Together, the three mothers created a WhatsApp group chat called “Questions and Sharing.” The purpose of the chat was for mothers in the community who had children with special needs to connect with one another. The group has since grown to over 70 members. Everybody shares information, resources and advice to help each other navigate the complicated world of being a special needs parent.

“We moved to Los Angeles just eight years ago from Australia, and when it was time to enroll our son, who has special needs, in a Jewish school, it was shocking that nothing existed in all of Los Angeles,” Chaya said. “The WhatsApp group was tremendously helpful, but we all still faced a common problem. Where’s the Jewish school for kids with special needs?”

They started their own school and called it Maor Academy. Maor is Hebrew for “source of light.”

The more Sarah and Chaya chatted, the more they knew the status quo was not acceptable. So they did what any determined Jewish mother on a mission to help her children would do. They started their own school and called it Maor Academy. Maor is Hebrew for “source of light.”

But they didn’t approach their project naively. Sarah, an attorney, and Chaya, an educator, were well aware of the obstacles they faced. They also knew they were attempting to do what had been tried numerous times in LA – and was always met with failure. 

Nevertheless, they got to work. Their first step was research. They educated themselves on how to best navigate state and local funding sources, as limited as they are in California. They learned the necessary licensing and regulatory requirements. They spoke with educators, clinicians, Jewish leaders, Jewish schools, public officials, the L.A. Jewish Federation, Jewish nonprofits and synagogues — reaching out to anyone and everyone who would talk to them. They even went to New York to tour schools that matched the vision they had for Maor. 

What Sarah and Chaya found was a remarkably supportive LA Jewish community. That only strengthened their resolve to make Maor work. In 2017, they approached Friendship Circle of Los Angeles, a Chabad-sponsored organization that serves children with special needs, and proposed they work together. Friendship Circle was immediately receptive and made a classroom available. The mothers’ vision began to take shape. They had two students, Iva and Tzvi, and two teachers. Maor was small, but it was a start.

Growth was steady. In 2018, the school doubled to four students. The next year, it grew to 12 students, making it necessary to seek a larger space. They relocated to a building near The Grove, where they currently occupy the entire first floor. 

However, after just a couple years of operations, and projecting a steady influx of students over time, it became apparent that even that location was not going to be large enough. “The space needed for a special-education school is unique,” Sarah said. “Students with special needs require more space than the typical student. Learning for students with special needs is for the most part one-on-one, requiring numerous staff and therapists to support the students.” 

At Maor, this includes a director, secular and Judaic educational staff, licensed clinical social workers, a lead behaviorist, ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) therapists and supervisors, a speech therapist, adapted physical education teacher, physical therapist and an occupational therapist. Varying types of spaces are also needed, including outdoor areas, a sensory gym, a calm down room and other pull-out spaces.

The faculty and staff make the most of the limited space available, with each classroom divided into areas arranged to run specific educational programs and activities. Plus, the one outdoor area in the back of the building is modest, at best. 

Making the issue of space even more critical, in addition to operating a special education school, the vision of Maor is to do more. It endeavors to serve as a resource for the entire Jewish community. That means having a good number of administrative offices and meeting rooms to train students and volunteers and offer professional workshops. 

So Maor went on a search for an even larger campus. Call it luck, call it divine intervention, but at about the same time, an 8,500 square foot ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act)-compliant facility situated on a 30,000 square foot campus became available. 

Located on Washington Blvd. near Hauser Blvd., it was the home of the Jeffrey Foundation, a non-profit organization founded in 1972 by Alyce Morris Winston in honor of her adopted son, Jeffrey, who had special needs. Over the years, the Jeffrey Foundation has provided services to thousands of children with special needs and their families. While Winston felt it was time to sell the property, she wanted to make sure the building continued the mission of serving individuals with special needs. 

A deal was struck, and Maor acquired the property. The school will relocate to its new campus in September 2022.

Its expansive grounds will allow for a sensory gym, life skills center and multiple flex-spaces for individual support and therapeutic services.

The new campus will easily accommodate many more pre-school and school-age students. Its expansive grounds will allow for a sensory gym, life skills center and multiple flex-spaces for individual support and therapeutic services. It will have two pre-school and school-age playgrounds, as well as a training center for professional development. 

The frustrations Sarah and Chaya initially faced as they searched for a school for their children were no surprise to Ron Nagel, a Beverlywood pediatrician who for decades has been both a proponent and hands-on facilitator of Jewish education in LA.

“Jewish communities in New York, Miami, Chicago, Detroit and others have schools for every Jewish child regardless of ability. Why not Los Angeles?” – Ron Nagel

“My wife and I always wanted a school in Los Angeles for children with special needs, and despite many efforts, it has never worked out,” Nagel said. “While our family is not personally in need of a school that serves Jewish kids with learning or intellectual disabilities, we knew the need is great. Jewish communities in New York, Miami, Chicago, Detroit and others have schools for every Jewish child regardless of ability. Why not Los Angeles?”

Nagel serves on the board of Maor and is perhaps its biggest fan, especially when discussing the acquisition of the new campus. “It is the perfect building, with the perfect purpose, at the perfect time,” he said. “And it all happened around the time of Hanukkah, a true Hanukkah miracle.”

As a pediatrician who has cared for children for 40 years, and someone who has been – and continues to be – passionately involved in Jewish education, Nagel was the ideal person to ask why so many prior efforts failed. His answer was simple. “We all know that getting an effort like this off the ground is tremendously difficult,’ he said. “Aside from the obvious financial obstacles, it takes committed parents who won’t take no for an answer. That’s Sarah and Chaya. They are rockstars.” 

Maor’s secular studies program includes reading, math, science and social studies. Judaic studies include recognizing Hebrew letters and reading, understanding Shabbat and holiday rituals and of course, parsha (weekly Torah portion). For many Jewish families, Shabbat is their one opportunity after a hectic week to sit together, talk and share Jewish ideas. Virtually all Jewish day school students come home every Friday with parsha sheets so they can discuss the weekly Torah portion at the Shabbat table. The child who has special needs is usually left out. At Maor, teachers place a special emphasis on parsha so every child in the family can participate at the Shabbat table.

The clinical professionals at Maor explain neurodiversity as “a viewpoint that brain differences are normal, rather than deficits. This concept can help reduce stigma around learning and thinking differences.”

The term special needs, primarily in the context of education, is complex. It means different things applied to different people. Every student learns differently and requires specialized attention and tailored programming. In the late 1990s the term “neurodiversity” was coined and is widely used along with special needs. The clinical professionals at Maor explain neurodiversity as “a viewpoint that brain differences are normal, rather than deficits. Neurodiverse people experience, interact with and interpret the world in unique ways. This concept can help reduce stigma around learning and thinking differences.”

“The most painful discussions I have in my office are when I ask parents how their child is doing in school and the response is, ‘Well, he/she is in first grade, trying to learn to read,’” Nagel said. “Parents usually start with tutors to help their kids. When the results are disappointing, they move to testing and evaluations. They might find the child has auditory or visual challenges that are affecting their reading or there may be other issues at play.” 

At some point, Nagel explained, it becomes apparent the child won’t succeed at the Jewish school they are in because it is too challenging, and there are the rigors of a dual curriculum. “Parents are then faced with finding the right school with the right resources for their child, and that means navigating the public school system to get the services their child needs,” he said. “But it’s never that simple. There is no one-size-fits-all solution. Each child is different. Schools need to take the time to create programs that are tailored for each child.”

Hence the emphasis on individualized programming at Maor. 

“We start by recognizing that every student who comes to the school is unique and needs a customized program,” Kimberly Landis, Maor’s director said. “We spend a lot of time with not only the student, but with the family to assure we are as effective as we can be. We then create a plan for that student that combines Jewish and secular learning, therapies and enrichment activities, all wrapped in a warm and caring Jewish environment.” 

Devora Hecht, a licensed clinical social worker employed at Maor, works closely with families of students at the school as well as other schools in the Jewish community. “I’ve had schools call me saying ‘We have a child who is three years old. She/he is not communicating. I have a full classroom and can’t give the student the time and attention they need. What do I do?’” Hecht said. “So we try to help. We talk to the teachers about resources that are available. We talk to the parents about what they can do to support their child’s development and help them access available services and benefits. We try as best we can by collaborating with other Jewish schools to develop a plan to best support the student. Whatever works for the child.”

When the COVID-19 pandemic hit, Maor was able to remain open for in-person learning throughout the entire 2020-2021 academic year due to very stringent safety protocols. “We built a community of doctors and healthcare professionals who helped us develop effective COVID protocols,” Landis said. “Our safety measures allowed students to come to school for in-person learning and to receive the therapies they needed.”

However, the same was not necessarily true for other schools that offer specialized therapies. “Many therapists did not feel comfortable going back to work at their schools,” Landis said. “Because we worked so hard here to create such a safe environment, we didn’t have that problem.”

No discussion of Jewish day schools – special education or otherwise – can ignore the financial means needed to send a child to a Jewish day school, especially for families with multiple children. Maor’s tuition is currently set at $25,000 per student. However, Maor provides parents with social workers and advocates to help them navigate and access governmental funding sources and services. When appropriate, Maor also connects families with education attorneys if they can be helpful in accessing additional funding.

Leah Lang, 41, whose family runs the Chabad Center in Camarillo, Calif., sought a Jewish education for their son Zev, 13, who is one of nine children and has special needs. With all their children in Jewish day schools, they wanted Zev to be able to participate in Jewish religious life at home with his siblings. 

“The Camarillo Jewish community is small, so what do we do, where do we go?” Lang said. “We heard of Maor and our first thought was ‘How are we going to get Zev there’? It is more than an hour drive, but we checked it out anyway. With guidance from Maor, we were able to arrange transportation through Access (an ADA complementary paratransit service for disabled individuals) and together we worked it out. He is a Maor student.”

In addition to collaborating with Friendship Circle and fellow Jewish day schools, Maor has a close relationship with The Clubhouse, a separate nonprofit for special needs.

Partnerships are an integral and important part of Maor’s strategic plan. In addition to collaborating with Friendship Circle and fellow Jewish day schools, Maor has a close relationship with The Clubhouse, a separate nonprofit that provides parents of children and young adults with special needs respite time weekly from 3:45 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. and on Sunday afternoons. When the new campus opens, The Clubhouse will relocate, and both will be under one roof. 

Pico-Robertson resident Noa Hami, 48, is the mother of five boys, the oldest of which is Yosef (who goes by JoJo). He is 14 and has special needs. Like the other parents, when JoJo was younger, Hami and her husband looked for programs that would accommodate JoJo’s special learning requirements while at the same time provide a Jewish environment. As a participant in Friendship Circle, they heard about Maor, and three years ago, when the school was just starting out, they enrolled their son. 

“We’re thrilled he can be in a Jewish school with other Jewish kids,” Hami said. “We’ve noticed a big change in him just because of how attentive they are to his needs, and their amazing therapists. They sing Jewish songs, they review parsha and learn about the Jewish holidays. It’s wonderful to know he’s around other Jewish kids learning the same things.”

Because Yosef has been at Maor for three years, and is one of the older students, Hami was concerned her son would age out of the program and they would have to find another school for him.

“Thankfully Maor assured me with the new campus, the school will be able to continue serving the group of kids that he’s been with,” Hami said.

Despite the challenges of sustaining a Jewish school for students with special needs, Sarah and Chaya are remarkably optimistic.

“We want to make sure that these children have all the same opportunities to learn and be part of our community alongside all Jewish children.”
– Sarah R’bibo

“We want to make sure that these children have all the same opportunities to learn and be part of our community alongside all Jewish children,” Sarah said. “The last thing we want is to bring any negative energy to the process. So many good people and organizations have done so much over the years to help Jewish kids with special needs in our community, and we are just building off their efforts. We recognize that we are all in this together. We need to support one another.”

She continued, “So now when a parent with a child who has special needs asks: ‘Where’s the Jewish school for my child?’ they have an answer. Just give us a call.”

For information about services available in the Los Angeles Jewish community for students with special needs, Maor specialists are available to speak with free of charge. Contact: info@maorla.com.

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Rabbi Michy Rav-Noy: Making Connections for Kids With Special Needs

When Rabbi Michy Rav-Noy was growing up, he lived right around the corner from Hillel, a child who had Down’s syndrome. 

“He talked different, and he looked different, but he was a human being with a full set of emotions,” said Rav-Noy. 

During that time, in the 1970s and 1980s, special-needs people were not as understood as they are today. It was still acceptable to call them the “r” word, and they were institutionalized for their “condition.”

Despite the lack of understanding of this population, Rav-Noy recognized a spark in Hillel, and it encouraged him to get a degree in special education at California State University, Northridge. Today, the rabbi is executive director at Friendship Circle of Los Angeles, a Chabad-run organization that connects teen volunteers with special-needs peers and provides Jewish education, holiday programming and fun outings for everyone involved.

Rav-Noy, who grew up in Israel, came to Los Angeles with his family in 1982, when the California Institute of Technology invited his father to do post-doctoral research in physics. The rabbi grew up Modern Orthodox, but ended up becoming involved in the Chabad movement as a shliach with his wife. Their first job was to go around to different schools and help teens become more interested in their Judaism. 

“Many of the teens really had a drive to help out the community,” he said. “They asked if they could help terror victims in Israel, since a lot of terrorism was happening at the time, or make sandwiches for the homeless. We found a way to help the teen volunteers who wanted to make a difference.”

In 2003, Rav-Noy opened up the LA branch of Friendship Circle, which has two locations, with the main office on South Robertson Boulevard in Pico-Robertson. While the organization has locations all around the world, the LA outlet, which has support from The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles, was one of the first they opened. Its mission is to recruit teens from Jewish schools as well as public schools around the city. Pre-pandemic, there were almost 600 volunteers from 70 schools. 

The Friendship Circle assists special-needs children and teens on two fronts: It ensures they have opportunities for socializing, and it offers a Jewish education, which they may not be receiving at their public school. Rav-Noy estimated that 98% of Jewish children with special needs in LA don’t go to Jewish schools. 

“These kids were really lacking in their Jewish involvement,” he said. “At Hanukkah time, they were singing ‘Jingle Bells.’”

Rav-Noy was instrumental in helping Maor Academy, a new special-needs school in LA, get its start. He provided a free space to them at Friendship Circle when they first opened; they’ve just purchased a campus they will start using in September of this year. 

On a day-to-day basis, Rav-Noy takes care of the administrative duties at Friendship Circle, answers rabbinical questions for people, recruits volunteers and holds a class called “Wings and Wisdom” for the boy volunteers, where they learn Torah and eat chicken wings. 

The rabbi finds inspiration for his work from the teachings of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, a pioneer in special-needs advocacy. According to Rav-Noy, in the 1970s, a group of Israeli special-needs veterans went to meet the Rebbe. They were called the handicapped of Zahal. 

“When the Rebbe addressed them, he said it wasn’t a good name and that they should be called the special ones of Zahal,” said Rav-Noy. “The Rebbe said things that were so beyond and phenomenal about the special-needs population.” 

Rav-Noy also pointed out that the Torah states that farmers need to leave a part of their field for the poor, and those who have a hard time walking and moving should get to take first. “Otherwise, they won’t have anything,” he said. “This is ADA compliance from the time of the Mishnah.”

With his work, the rabbi’s ultimate goal is to bring Moshiach by making the world a good place and spreading love between fellow Jews and human beings.

“I want to make these kids very happy as human beings and as Jews. They should feel loved and part of the community.” 

“I want to continue to help more kids and the families of children with special needs,” he said. “I want to make these kids very happy as human beings and as Jews. They should feel loved and part of the community.” n

Fast Takes With Michy Rav-Noy

Jewish Journal: What’s your favorite Jewish food?

Michy Rav-Noy: Turkey shawarma. From Jerusalem. I also like the restaurant Tel Aviv here in the Valley.

JJ: How about your favorite types of wings?

MRN: The boys like the wings. We’re on a search to find the kosher restaurant with the best wings. We’ve been ordering from LA Burger Bar, Jeff’s and Shalom Grill. I tell the boys we just can’t order from KFC.

JJ: Where do you love to travel to?

MRN: I like going to Oxnard to visit my brother-in-law and sister, who are shliachs there.

JJ: What are you being for Purim?

MRN: I love space, so maybe I’ll dress up as an astronaut. 

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