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February 3, 2020

Millennial Parents are Saying Bye Bye to the Big Bris

When a Jewish couple gives birth to a Jewish baby boy, their extended family and friends used to know what to expect – a big bris! The couple would find a mohel, book a room at the synagogue or perhaps host in their home, buy a huge platter of bagels and shmear and include everyone they knew in this essential first mitzvah of life. These days however, many new millennial parents are opting for a more private affair or doing away with a ritual bris altogether. The vast majority of Jewish baby boys are still being circumcised, but many parents are choosing to do so in a hospital with only the immediate family there to witness it. Having observed this trend in my own social circles as well as in my own family I’ve got a theory as to why.

For my first son it was outright assumed that we would have a huge bris, and we did! 80 people squeezed into our tiny living room to witness our long awaited baby boy being welcomed into the great mishpachah of the greater Jewish community. Our extended families came, many of whom had flown across the country with days notice to be there, great grandparents were in attendance, grandparents invited their close friends and we invited ours. Our home was bursting at the seams and yet, miracle of miracles, we didn’t run out bagels! And I think we still have cream cheese in our freezer we haven’t gotten through yet three years later. 

For myself however, I found the bris incredibly overwhelming. Here’s my dayenu list as to why: if I didn’t have to host 80 people in my house after just coming home from the hospital that would have been still been too much, if I didn’t injure my bladder during labor and delivery and have to rethink an outfit that didn’t show my catheter that would still have been too much, if I didn’t have to not plan the bris because it was unlucky and would welcome the evil eye while still planning said bris that would still have been to much, and finally, if I didn’t have to watch my baby boy have a surgical procedure in front of everyone I knew that still would have been too much! So as you can see a big fat bris is a LOT for a new mom, especially a first time mom and especially a mom who is learning for the very first time how to care for an infant, how to breastfeed, how to heal from birth all while riding a crashing wave of postpartum hormones. But I digress…

So when I found out I was pregnant with another boy this past year my first thought was oh no…not another bris! This time I said the guest list had to be paired way down and although I loved the heartwarming and joyful atmosphere of my older son’s bris I just could not do it again. For my sanity, for my postpartum health I knew I had to say no. We still ended up having 40 people, it still was a stressful day (I think I may have told my son’s great grandmother who had flown from Florida for the day to be there that she couldn’t hold the baby because I was in keep it together / meltdown mode) but it was overall a much easier event for me to handle.

My family however is more of the exception than the rule, and more of my friends did away with a traditional bris altogether. There have been a few recent articles about how millennial couples are ‘cocooning’ after their babies are born and I believe this is the main factor in why the big bris is on the decline. Couples giving birth in their 30s have usually waited a long time for a baby and many have struggled on their journey to get to parenthood. Many couples are also having fewer children so the newborn days are all that much more precious. Many women are also used to being in total control of their home lives and careers. In this generation of female empowerment women aren’t looking to their moms or mother in laws to swoop in and take over when a new baby arrives. The result is that the first few weeks of life are very insular and ‘cocooned’ and a big bris just doesn’t fit in anymore. 

Judaism to me is the antithesis of the ‘cocooning’ mentality – from birth to death the Jewish community as a whole is part of the experience. But it can feel intrusive and overwhelming to new parents. I encourage new moms not to sacrifice the beauty and warmth of a bris attended by people who genuinely want to welcome your baby into the world, but I also caution them not to overextend themselves or plan an event that they won’t feel up to attending.


Marion Haberman is a writer and content creator for her YouTube/MyJewishMommyLifechannel and Instagram @MyJewishMommyLifepage where she shares her experience living a meaning-FULL Jewish family life. Haberman is currently writing a book on Judaism and pregnancy titled “Expecting Jewish!” released Winter 2019. She is also a professional social media consultant and web and television writer for Discovery Channel, NOAA and NatGeo and has an MBA from Georgetown University.

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IfNotNow Organizer Disrupts Trump Jr. Press Conference, Accuses Crowd of ‘Killing Jews’

IfNotNow organizer Elon Glickman was escorted out of a Feb. 3 press conference in Des Moines, Iowa, after he disrupted Donald Trump Jr.’s speech.

Shortly after Trump Jr. took the stage, Glickman stood up and said, “I am an American Jew, and ever since your father was elected president, more and more Jews are being gunned down every year.”

At that point, security swarmed toward Glickman and began to escort him out of the press conference.

“I don’t think anyone’s done more for Israel and for American Jews than Donald Trump, so you can go,” Trump Jr. replied as the crowd started chanting, “USA! USA!”

As Glickman was being escorted out of the room, he accused Trump Jr. of tweeting anti-Semitic conspiracy theories, and then he shouted: “You are killing Jews! All of you! All of you in here are killing Jews! All of you!”

Glickman later tweeted, “They can drag me out but I’ll never stop fighting for Jewish people. @donaldjtrumpJr spreads anti-Semitic conspiracy theories that are killing American Jews. He & @GOP can’t hide their anti-Semitism behind support for Israel.”

Jewish Insider Managing Editor Melissa Weiss pointed out in a tweet that Glickman “was one of eight Birthright participants to walk off the program mid-trip in 2018.”

The press conference, titled the Keep Iowa Great Press Conference, featured several surrogates for President Donald Trump’s re-election, including Eric Trump and Trump’s campaign manager Brad Parscale.

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Swastika Found on GWU Jewish Student’s Door

A swastika was found on a Jewish student’s dorm door at George Washington University on Jan. 31.

The student, Zev Siegfeld, announced in a Feb. 1 Facebook post that the pictures of President Donald Trump and Vice President Mike Pence that were taped on the outside of his residence hall door were defaced with a swastika on Trump and an Adolf Hitler mustache on Pence.

“As a proud and vocal Jew, I know this was not a coincidence,” Siegfeld said. “This was another attempt to stop me from expressing my views publicly, and another attempt to intimidate me into being quiet.”

A university blog identified Siegfeld as a freshman representative for GW College Republicans. He also wrote that his door has been vandalized all year and that he has received a verbal death threat.

“Many of you probably disagree with my views, the politicians I like, or the decorations I have up,” Siegfeld wrote. “Some of you may believe I should just take the decorations down. But, that lets them win. The goal of these vandals is to intimidate me into being quiet.”

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The university’s Student Association (SA) Task Force on Fighting Anti-Semitism condemned the vandalism in a Feb. 2 statement.

“This display of hate and ignorance is blatantly anti-Semitic and has deeply affected our Jewish community,” the statement read. “By desecrating a student’s personal property within a GW residence hall, the attacker(s) continue a pattern of anti-Semitism on our campus, which instills fear and pain in Jewish students.”

The task force urged the university to take immediate action on the matter.

“The Student Association stands in solidarity with the GW Jewish community at this time and always,” the statement read.

A university spokesperson wrote in an email to the Journal, “GW is aware of the report of vandalism to a student’s door using anti-Semitic imagery. Our police department is fully investigating the incident.”

The task force was formed after a Snapchat video of a student at the university saying, “We’re going to f—ing bomb Israel, bro” went viral in November. University President Thomas LeBlanc said at the time that the student’s remarks were “disturbing and hateful, and they are antithetical to our university’s core values of diversity and respect. We will not tolerate anti-Semitism or any form of bigotry on our campuses.”

Later in the month, the university’s SA Senate passed a resolution establishing the task force and adopting parts of the International Holocaust Remembrance Alliance (IHRA) definition of anti-Semitism. However, Jewish groups criticized the SA Senate for removing clauses from the resolution stating that Israel has the right to exist as a Jewish state that calling Israel racist is anti-Semitic.

GW for Israel Vice President Noah Shufutinsky wrote in a Facebook post at the time that the removed language “specifically addresses how we as students face anti-Semitism on campus through anti-Zionism. [The SA] made it clear tonight that appeasing racists and anti-Semites for a sense of belonging is more important than listening to your constituents.”

UPDATE: Anti-Defamation League (ADL) Washington, D.C. Senior Associate Regional Director Meredith Weisel said in a statement to the Journal, “ADL is disturbed by reports of a swastika and other Nazi imagery found on the door of a Jewish student’s dorm room at the George Washington University. We have seen these symbols of hate used to intimidate members of the Jewish community all over the world.  They serve to marginalize and threaten Jews, whether they are found on houses of worship, public forums or college campuses. We commend the GW Student Association for speaking out forcefully and unequivocally against this vandalism and the use of this imagery, and call upon the University to conduct a thorough investigation to identify the culprit and discipline them in accordance with the University’s code of conduct.”

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Anti-Semitic Incidents Fall to 15-Year Low in South Africa

(JTA) — Anti-Semitic incidents fell to a 15-year low in South Africa, the country’s Jewish umbrella group said.

There were 36 recorded incidents of anti-Semitism in 2019, compared with 62 the previous year, according to the South African Jewish Board of Deputies, which collects the statistics. Only one of the incidents involved physical assault, and there were no cases of damage and desecration to Jewish property.

The statistics buck a global trend of increasing anti-Semitic activity in countries with significant Jewish populations. Some 75,000 Jews live in South Africa, with most concentrated in Johannesburg.

“We can be proud that at a time when attacks against Jews are everywhere growing both in number and severity, our country has consistently bucked the trend,” Shaun Zagnoe, the Jewish Board’s national chairman, said in a statement. “As a result, South Africa continues to be a country where Jews can fully identify with and practice their religion without fear.”

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Dead Rat Found on Apparent Star of David at Stanford

A dead rat was found on an apparent Star of David on a bench at Stanford University on Jan. 29.

The student-run Stanford Daily reported that University President Marc Tessier-Lavigne said at a Jan. 30 town hall that what was found on the bench “contained symbols that are unclear in intention but could be taken as being anti-Semitic in nature.”

He added: “Any crude symbol that can be taken as or can be assumed to be an expression of anti-Semitism is not welcome on our campus. We stand against anti-Semitism and all expressions of hatred against others.”

University spokesperson E.J. Miranda told the Daily that the police are investigating the matter.

Stanford’s Jewish Student Association Board said in a statement to the Daily, “We are horrified to see what appears to be another act of hatred on our campus, fitting within a broader pattern of instances that have threatened racial, ethnic, and religious minority communities this year. It is imperative that Stanford take meaningful steps to prioritize the safety of the Jewish community, alongside all those who are targeted by hatred and bigotry.”

In 2018, then-third-year student Hamzeh Daoud resigned from his position as resident adviser after he threatened to “physically fight” Zionists in a Facebook post. In May 2019, the Jewish Student Association Board wrote an op-ed in the Daily decrying flyers of satirist Eli Valley’s cartoons found on campus that “portray Jews offensively and grossly mischaracterize Jewish values, in their residential environments.”

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Former British House of Commons Speaker Says He Experienced Anti-Semitism by Conservatives, Not Labour

(JTA) — John Bercow, the British House of Commons speaker who resigned in late October, said he experienced anti-Semitism in his own Conservative Party.

In 22 years in the House of Commons, he never faced anti-Semitism from the beleaguered Labour Party, Bercow said in an interview with the Sunday Times magazine.

“Unspeakable,” a memoir by Bercow, is due to be published this week.

“I did experience anti-Semitism from members of the Conservative Party,” Bercow told the Sunday Times. “It’s very difficult to put a figure on it. A lot was subtle. I remember a member saying, ‘If I had my way, Berkoff, people like you wouldn’t be allowed in this place.’”

When Bercow asked if that was because he was Jewish or working class, the lawmaker responded “both.”

Anti-Semitic rhetoric proliferated through Labour’s ranks following the 2015 election of Jeremy Corbyn as party leader. Corbyn, who an ex-chief rabbi of Britain called an “anti-Semite,” was beaten in last month’s elections for prime minister by Boris Johnson of the Conservative Party.

Former House of Commons speakers usually are promoted to membership in the House of Lords when they resign, but this was not the case for Bercow. He may have been denied peerage over his supposed lack of impartiality and the difficulties he was seen to have caused the government over Brexit, the Daily Mail reported.

Bercow also was accused of bullying employees in the House of Commons.

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Leslie Wexner Ignored Inappropriate Behavior of Top Executive at Victoria’s Secret, NYT Reports

(JTA) — Leslie Wexner, CEO of the parent company of Victoria’s Secret, allowed one of his top executives to harass and bully former employees and models, according to a New York Times investigation.

The report published Saturday comes days after a Times story said that Wexner, founder of the L Brands parent, has been in discussions to step aside as its chief executive reportedly over his ties to the disgraced late financier Jeffrey Epstein, who Wexner employed for years as a personal adviser over his finances, philanthropy and private life.

Wexner is a billionaire entrepreneur and a prominent philanthropist, particularly in the areas of Jewish learning and other Jewish causes.

The Times investigation involved interviews with more than 30 current and former executives, employees, contractors and models, as well as court filings and other documents.

Executives told The Times that they informed Wexner about the inappropriate behavior of longtime chief marketing officer Ed Razek, but the behavior continued. Razek, according to the report, “was perceived as Mr. Wexner’s proxy, leaving many employees with the impression he was invincible. On multiple occasions, Mr. Wexner himself was heard demeaning women.”

Razek often reminded models that their careers were in his hands, and also during photo shoots asked them for their phone numbers or to sit on his lap, according to the report.

Razek, 71, stepped down from L Brands in August. He told The Times that the accusations are “categorically untrue, misconstrued or taken out of context.” Wexner did not comment for the article.

The company expressed “regret” for not achieving its goals on corporate governance, workplace and compliance practices.

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China’s Embassy in Israel Apologizes for Comparing Coronavirus Concerns to the Holocaust

JERUSALEM (JTA) — A Chinese diplomat invoked the Holocaust in urging Israel to not close its doors to Chinese people seeking refuge from the deadly coronavirus.

“This is reminiscent of World War II, the Holocaust, the darkest days of human history. Millions of Jews were murdered and many were banned from entering countries. Some countries opened their gates, one of them was China,” Dai Yuming said Sunday during a news conference at the Chinese Embassy in Tel Aviv. “Even in dark times in history, we did not close our gates to the Jewish people and we hope that Israel won’t close its gates to the Chinese.”

The Chinese embassy later apologized for the remarks, the Jerusalem Post reported, clarifying that “there was no intention whatsoever to compare the dark days of the Holocaust with the current situation and the efforts taken by the Israeli government to protect its citizens.”

As of Sunday, about 14,000 people in China had contracted the virus and some 300 have died. Cases of the virus have been found in 24 countries. It has not yet been discovered in Israel.

Israel began prohibiting the entry of flights from China and the entry of Chinese nationals or other travelers who have visited China within the last two weeks. Israelis who arrive from China must isolate themselves in their homes for two weeks.

On Sunday, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu convened government officials to discuss preparations against coronavirus.

“Our foremost goal is to postpone the arrival of the virus to Israel. I say ‘postpone’ because its arrival is unavoidable. We will then identify, treat, isolate and deal with those infected,” Netanyahu said after the meeting.

Netanyahu instructed the Biological Institute and Health Ministry to work on producing a coronavirus vaccine.

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Bogus Maps to Back a Bogus Cause and Continued Rejection of Peace

On Feb. 1, 2020, Holocaust denier, Mahmoud Abbas, the “president for life” of the Palestinian Authority, gave a speech to the Arab League where he justified the latest “No” by the Arabs to a proposal for the first-ever independent Arab state in history west of the Jordan River. Given the many previous rejections of peace and partition by the Arab dictatorships (1937, 1947, 1967, 2000, 2001, 2003, and 2008), Abbas’s rejection of the Trump peace and partition plan was hardly surprising.

During his Arab League speech, Abbas – as expected – lied. He claimed that most Israelis whose ancestors were in the Diaspora in the former Soviet Union and Ethiopia are not Jewish. He also claimed that Israel could not be recognized (by the Arab dictatorships) as a Jewish state because Israel has citizens who are not Jewish. Apparently, Abbas expects the world to believe that the approximately 80 countries in the world that officially identify as either Muslim or Christian states only have Muslim or Christian citizens.

The biggest lie, however, did not necessarily come from Abbas’s mouth. It was in his hands.

In his kleptocratic hands, Abbas held up one of the many iterations of the most popular memes of the hate-Israel crowd. The “Disappearing Palestine” or “Palestine Loss of Land” maps.

These maps are such a ubiquitous part of the “Palestinian narrative” that a Google Image search under “Palestinian land” results in the first 23, and 59 of the first 70, images being some variation of these duplicitous maps.

The most common version of these maps is the below version, which has been promoted by numerous haters of Jewish sovereignty in the land of Israel; such as Juan Cole, Mondoweiss, Electronic Intifada, and the Palestinian National Council:

Everything about these maps is a lie. Not just a “white lie,” but the type of whopper of a lie, which would have made Pinocchio’s nose longer than Shaquille O’Neal.

First, these maps lie because they begin with the implication or express assertion (as in the map held up by Abbas during his speech) that there was a “historic Palestine” (another common lie used by the Israel-haters) that had known boundaries west of the Jordan River and south of Lebanon/Syria. That is plainly false. Before the 20th Century and the start of the British Mandate, to the extent anyone not Jewish or a Christian Zionist ever referred to a region called “Palestine,” that region never had certain boundaries and certainly never had boundaries that ended at the current borders of Syria and Lebanon to the North and the Jordan River to the East.

In fact, it was so ambiguous what geographic area may be described by the name “Palestine” – which had never been used by any polity ever in history, including the Ottoman Turks who controlled the area for 400 years before the British Mandate – that the Encyclopedia Britannica in 1911 described the ambiguity of this nebulous area sometimes called Palestine as follows:

PALESTINE, a geographical name of rather loose application. Etymological strictness would require it to denote exclusively the narrow strip of coast-land once occupied by the Philistines, from whose name it is derived. It is, however, conventionally used as a name for the territory which, in the Old Testament, is claimed as the inheritance of the pre-exilic Hebrews; thus it may be said generally to denote the southern third of the province of Syria. Except in the west, where the country is bordered by the Mediterranean Sea, the limit of this territory cannot be laid down on the map as a definite line. The modern subdivisions under the jurisdiction of the Ottoman Empire are in no sense conterminous with those of antiquity, and hence do not afford a boundary by which Palestine can be separated exactly from the rest of Syria in the north, or from the Sinaitic and Arabian deserts in the south and east; nor are the records of ancient boundaries sufficiently full and definite to make possible the complete demarcation of the country…Taking as a guide the natural features most nearly corresponding to these outlying points, we may describe Palestine as the strip of land extending along the eastern shore of the Mediterranean Sea from the mouth of the Litany or Kasimiya River (33° 20′ N.) southward to the mouth of the Wadi Ghuzza; the latter joins the sea in 31° 28′ N., a short distance south of Gaza, and runs thence in a south-easterly direction so as to include on its northern side the site of Beersheba. Eastward there is no such definite border. The River Jordan, it is true, marks a line of delimitation between Western and Eastern Palestine; but it is practically impossible to say where the latter ends and the Arabian desert begins. Perhaps the line of the pilgrim road from Damascus to Mecca is the most convenient possible boundary.

As confirmed by the Encyclopedia Britannica in 1911 (before anyone in the world had any antisemitic incentives to create “narratives” about Palestine), the nebulous area sometimes referred to as “Palestine” before WWI generally included parts of today’s southern Lebanon, it excluded much of the Negev Desert, and it continued “Eastward” past the Jordan River with “no definite border.”

After WWI,  “Palestine” initially included all of what is today Israel and Jordan, until 1921 when the British Colonial Office lopped of 78% of the Palestine Mandate and turned that area into the never-before-in-history brand new Arab state called TransJordan (which in 1946 became Jordan, a state that is presently nearly 75% Palestinian Arab).

Thus, the starting point for these duplicitous “Disappearing Palestine” or “Palestine Land Loss” maps is the pretense that there was ever a “Palestine” or “Historic Palestine” with fixed borders west of the Jordan River and south of Lebanon/Syria.

This pretense is also the basis for the lie that all of the peace proposals since 1993 require the Palestinian Arabs to give up their claim to nearly 80% of “Palestine.” Setting aside that this claim ignores that Israel is on approximately 1% of the land occupied by the 23 Arab dictatorships that surround it, this lie dissembles over the fact that 78% of the original Mandate for Palestine was partitioned into a largely Palestinian Arab state back in 1921. A state where it was (and is) illegal for Jews to own any land.

Second, these maps are duplicitous because they deliberately and maliciously fail to differentiate between private property and sovereign land, all while ignoring any political or historical context.

The first map, the one typically dated “1946” is by far the most “hair on fire” lie. It is a map that depicts in white Jewish National Fund (JNF) land purchases dating roughly from the 1920s. It labels those relatively few patches of white as the “Jewish” (or Israeli) land. This map then colors in green all of the land east of the Jordan River not privately owned by the JNF before 1946 and labels all of the green land as “Palestinian” or as being “Palestine.”

FALSE. As a preliminary matter, very few Arabs (including those who later came to identify themselves as Palestinians) privately owned any of the land in green in the first map. Most of the land in that first map is the Negev Desert (which was largely uninhabited) and the then sovereign owned almost all of the land in green before 1946 (the Ottoman Empire for 400 years and the British Empire from 1917 to 1948).

Thus, an honest map comparing private Jewish or JNF land ownership (setting aside the 1939 British White Paper prohibition on Jewish land purchases) and private Arab land ownership of land east of Jordan River would look very different. Such a map would show relatively little land as “Palestinian” …, which is likely why the propagandists who came up with these maps avoid such an “apples to apples” comparison.

The first map is also duplicitous because it implies that as of 1946 the land in white (the JNF-owned or Jewish land) was not part of “Palestine,” while the land in green was “Palestine.” Of course, that is another fabrication. In 1946, all of the land west of the Jordan River was under the control of the British, and no matter who did or did not privately own it; all of the land in the first map was part of the British Mandate for Palestine.

Third, these maps are duplicitous because the second map does not represent any land owned or controlled – ever – by any Palestinian Arab polity. Instead, it only represents the non-binding partition plan adopted by the United Nations General Assembly in 1947. A proposed partition plan and map – accepted by the Jews and rejected by the Arabs – who chose a genocidal war to destroy Israel instead. Thus, this second map lies because (a) it falsely represents that this land in green was sovereign Palestinian Arab land; and (b) it ignores why this lack of control never happened – the Arab rejection of the 1947 partition plan and their dictators’ decision to choose the results of all-out war instead.

Fourth, these maps continue to lie, mislead and muddle because the next map – mislabeled 1967 – actually shows the 1949 “armistice lines” or “green lines” (the cease-fire lines created when Israel and the 5 Arab armies that attacked it stopped fighting in 1949). The Arab dictatorships were the ones who insisted the green line was not a permanent border. The precarious green line, which left Israel barely 9 miles wide at its narrowest point, was essentially Israel’s border from 1949 through June of 1967. The big lie, however, in this map is what the mendacious anti-Israel mapmakers and propagandists depict being on the other side of the green line, in Judea and Samaria and the Gaza Strip – yet another duplicitous claim that the land in green is “Palestine” or “Palestinian.”

A Palestinian Arab polity or entity, however, never controlled these lands between 1947 and 1967. Both territories were occupied by invading Arab armies after the armistice was declared in 1949, the Gaza Strip by Egypt, and Judea and Samaria by Jordan (after both of these territories were ethnically cleansed of the Jews who lived there).

The last map – usually labeled “2010” or “2012” – is in some ways, the only honest map. At least it could arguably be honest if it appeared on its own.

What the final map accurately depicts in green is the first time ever in history that a separate Arab polity had any political control of any land west of the Jordan River. As a part of the 1993 Oslo Accords, Israel handed over to the Palestinian Authority administrative control of all of Gaza and of large sections of Judea & Samaria (where over 90% of the Arabs residing in Judea & Samaria live). This grant of administrative control, however, was conditioned on the Palestinian Authority embracing peace, teaching peace, eschewing terrorism and antisemitic incitement and negotiating in good faith in final status talks.

What this final map ignores, and therefore lies about by omission, is why there remains a Palestinian Authority – and no first of its kind in history country called “Palestine.”

It ignores Yassar Arafat’s rejection of a Palestinian State in 2000 and 2001. It ignores the brutal Intifada, the murder of over a 1000 Jews, which Arafat launched after he rejected – without a counteroffer – the independent state offered to him in all of Gaza and over 90% of Judea & Samaria. It ignores the offers subsequently rejected by Abbas, including former Prime Minister Ehud Olmert’s unrequited offer in 2008 of an independent Arab state in all of Gaza and over 95% of Judea & Samaria. In addition, it ignores the Palestinian Authority’s continued support of terrorism, its “pay to slay” program, and the virulent antisemitic incitement and hatred it funds and promotes.

All in all, these oft-used maps, which are not only ubiquitous among all anti-Israel groups, advocates and websites – they were just used by the Palestinian Authority’s kleptocrat-in-chief, Mahmoud Abbas, as a prop to justify yet another Palestinian Arab rejection of a peace/partition plan – are nothing but a pack of lies.

These maps conflate private property with political control. They confuse sovereignty with proposed partition plans. They misrepresent the actual history of the region, what countries or empires controlled it, and they completely lie about the original boundaries for the geographic area or territory called “Palestine” as well as pretend that the majority Palestinian Arab state (Jordan) that sits on nearly 80% of that territory doesn’t exist.

The reality is that there is a very good reason for why one of the most often used memes by the Israel-haters and by those who support Palestinian Arab rejectionism is so egregiously dishonest and misleading. It is because the entire anti-Israel “narrative” is just that, a “narrative.” A story. It is not historical or factual. It’s an antisemitic tale told by people who care much more about denying the Jewish people any sovereignty in their indigenous homeland than they care about the truth, facts or history.

All people of good conscience should call out the dishonesty and mendacity of these maps. Doing so is not only honest; it will ultimately help the people living under the day-to-day control of Hamas and the Palestinian Authority. Just as the German people’s ultimate rejection after WWII of their false narratives of hate and antisemitism led to peace and prosperity for the German people, the same could happen for the Palestinian Arabs. However, that will never happen as long as there are so many people who tolerate these lies and do not call them out for their deliberate and mendacious purpose – to promote the destruction of Israel.

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STAY TUNED: Sensory / Emotional Memory

Q’s: Sensory / Emotional memory
I recently had a fairly traumatic experience, and while the human in me was experiencing it, the actor in me was strangely curious about how this would one day reflect as an emotional memory. But of course, overthinking it, I’m concerned that analyzing it might alter the whole experience and won’t allow me to use it one day in my art. So, my question is, how do I observe/use day-to-day experiences, or even more eventful experiences in a way that I will one day be able to ‘enhance’ my work in acting, and even in writing.

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I’m trying to tackle the South African industry, but I feel a bit out of my familiar sphere. I don’t have the great mentors I had back in LA, and I don’t have the network I’ve already started building – through my previous acting school and connections I met through that. I’ve also been trying to partner with an agent and have put together the best ‘package’ I possibly can but can’t help getting discouraged by the lack of response. How do I approach a completely new industry with my current ‘young’ portfolio- especially in terms of acting, but even in writing and producing.

Thanks for two great questions, one on internal process and one on sharing your work! Let’s start with your question on sense memory.

In my experience, there are more misconceptions about sense memory and emotional memory, and thus method acting in general, than any other tool in the actor’s kit. When Stella Adler, Sanford Meisner and Lee Strasberg split from each other after their time together at the Group Theatre and went on to facilitate Stanislavski’s system, they each had their own strengths and interpretations. Technique is facilitated differently by different teachers based on their own ability and what they prioritize. Three teachers can be teaching the same principles, but the effect is very different. In this case, emotional memory only remained interesting to Stanislavski as you will see in An Actor Prepares, and to Lee Strasberg. There is some speculation by Adler and others as to whether Stanislavski later thought the exercise was interesting at all, but I love the exercise and find it can be truly useful. He writes about it eloquently in The Actor Prepares, so let’s just say it’s a tool that is available. It is also incredibly important that it be taught expertly.

While emotional memory is a form of sense memory, it is its own tool. Everyone, regardless of belief system, is using sense memory all the time. You are constantly smelling, seeing, feeling, tasting, hearing- using your senses as an actor. Good training teaches the actor how to concentrate on these senses in particular, and to become aware of their effect on you. Hearing a piece of music, or smelling alcohol, or tasting something bitter, or smelling a particular cologne, may create sensation in your body, put you in a certain mood, change you in some way. This heightened awareness and sensitivity is very useful to an actor. So, while we are always naturally using our senses, training in sense memory is a wonderful way to concentrate your attentions.

Emotional memory is when you recreate an emotional experience from the past. This can also be a useful tool, particularly if you have an intense scene to play. Your job as an actor is to be able to identify with each of the given circumstances of the role enough that you can inhabit the role. You must find personal associations for each given circumstance and relationship in the script at the beginning of your preparation. If there is an extreme circumstance that you haven’t experienced personally, but you have experienced something that might take you into the relevant emotional territory, an emotional memory exercise can be very useful. It can allow you to experience the level of emotion that you would go through in a parallel circumstance, so you can fully understand the essential truth of the moment.

It’s a myth that emotional memory is somehow retraumatizing. Granted if you are playing someone who lost a loved one tragically, for example, and you have just lost a loved one, that may not be what you want to choose to work on. There has to be some human logic applied to the way we choose our tools of prep, both by the actor and certainly by the teacher. It’s not necessary to relive trauma to be a good actor. But it is interesting to recall experiences that emotionally connect you, to help you to believe your circumstances and live them better. In this act of recall, you are lifting your emotions into creation. You are not time traveling and actually reliving something – you’re recalling something to better understand your character’s circumstances and how you would feel and behave in them. To borrow Stanislavski’s words: “ It is a kind of synthesis of memory on a large scale. It is purer, more condensed, compact, substantial, and sharper than the actual happenings.” In my estimation, the more deeply you can understand the inner life of your character, the more effectively you can live in the moment.

I think it’s wonderful that you are paying attention to your own experiences, as an artist. The most effective tool an artist has is to pay attention. And yes, some of the most painful moments of life, can be turned into art. The more you pay attention to your own life and others, the more empathy you will have, and the better chance you will have of effectively creating human lives for the stage and screen.

This takes us to part two of your question. You are working hard to train yourself to work, and while this is a lifelong process for the best actors, you are ready to put your skills to the test, now. I applaud you for putting together examples of your work and sharing them with agents and managers who can potentially help create opportunities for you. Eventually that relationship will manifest. But your work is not contingent on that relationship. Your work is contingent on the burning fire in your soul that has stories to tell. If you feel compelled to play a role, or to create a role to play, do it. That is the act of creation and if you feel that fire within, then that is what you were born to do. If you have burning questions about humanity you need answered through a story, then find a way to tell the story. Of course, we all know that agents attach once actors are already working- this is the catch 22 for actors. But the thing is, that not the reason to create work. You aren’t acting for agents, unless they are part of your audience. You are acting for the people whose lives you want to touch. You are acting because of that fire in your soul that needs to express something truthful that only you can say. So, find a way to say it. You can find plays with roles that inspire you and find ways to produce them. Do it and then do it again. You can find or write short scripts and film them on your iPhone. Do it and do it again. Keep creating and keep sharing and from your own creative, beating heart. That’s your job. Eventually, like-minded partners will jump on your moving train. But that is not your job to figure out when. Your job is to do your work’ and share it, in order to touch peoples’ lives and your own.

“It is our work that creates the market that creates our work, for the oak is in the acorn.”- Anonymous

Please send your specific questions about the art of acting to staytuned@gmail.com and Kymberly will respond to a different question each week! There are no invalid questions, as long as they pertain to your craft and life as an actor. 


Kymberly Harris is an actor’s director. She specializes in character-driven stories, whether the genre is drama, comedy, thriller, or action. Her extensive experience as a method acting coach to professional actors of all ages has led actors to seek her out to direct them towards their best performances in film, television, and theatre projects.

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