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May 9, 2016

Wardrobe change!

What Jewish girl wouldn’t want to mark her transition from childhood to adulthood in style? Make that two styles — the trend now is for young women to opt for the wedding treatment and have two dresses for the bat mitzvah: one for the ceremony and one for the party.

Luckily, there’s no need to blow your budget on two designer dresses. Instead, use a rental service such as Rent the Runway, co-founded by Jennifer Fleiss and Jennifer Hyman — both Jewish — through which you can rent an extra-special designer dress (or two) for your daughter at less than $75 per frock. Now it’s time to count your blessings — and your savings. Mazel tov!

1. For the ceremony, try something like the ICE BLUE MEREDITH DRESS ($60/retails for $395) from Shoshanna, a line of clothing by L.A.-educated fashion designer Shoshanna Gruss. This knee-length sheath dress has cap sleeves, a light-blue lace overlay and a slight V-neck with scalloped edge — delicate, feminine, flattering and modest. ” target=”_blank”>renttherunway.com

3. Top off the look with a piece of stare-worthy statement jewelry such as the COLOR WHEEL PENDANT ($34) from UncommonGoods. Made in the California-based Yellow Owl Workshop by artist Christine Schmidt, the 1-inch enamel pendant dangles from a 22-karat gold chain. ” target=”_blank”>americanapparel.net

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Put the project in perspective

Preparing and planning for a bar or bat mitzvah is an exciting time for the child and the entire family. Our family has gone through the process twice and is embarking on this journey for the third and last time with my son, who is currently 12 years old. As a parent, it is incredible the amount of love and pride you feel watching your child shine at this significant milestone.

Along with leading a service, most temples also include a mitzvah project as part of this important rite of passage. With everything else going on at this time in their lives (preparing for the ceremony, secular school homework, after-school activities and commitments), completing a mitzvah project can seem overwhelming for pre-teens and their parents. Here are five ways to make the mitzvah project less daunting.

1. Don’t think of it as a “project”

The idea of a mitzvah project is to be a starting point in a lifelong journey of tikkun olam, fixing the world. Don’t think of the mitzvah project as something that your child needs to “get done” or cross off the list. Instead, think of the mitzvah project as the first of many ways your child will continue to make the world a better place throughout his or her life.

2. Pick something meaningful

Choose a project that your child is really passionate about. There are so many valuable ways to help the world, from raising money to hands-on volunteer opportunities. Spend time discussing with your child the causes that he or she finds most meaningful. It can be something personal to them (such as volunteering at an animal shelter or raising money for a disease that has directly affected them or a loved one) or for the community as a whole (working at a soup kitchen or collecting clothing for a homeless shelter, for example).

My older daughter decided to organize a charity walk in memory of a classmate who had died. Her friend died of complications from spinal muscular atrophy (SMA), so we contacted an organization that had been helpful to her family in dealing with the disease.

My younger daughter knew she loved working with children. For her mitzvah project, she chose to work with The Friendship Circle, which has a wide variety of volunteer opportunities for teens who want to work with children who have special needs.

3. Be honest about your commitment

Don’t let your child take on a project that he or she cannot see through to the end. My younger daughter wanted to become involved in a friends-at-home program that matches volunteers with children who have special needs. It is a very rewarding volunteer opportunity, but it is also one that requires a time commitment beyond the bat mitzvah year. I explained to my daughter that this child might become attached to her, and that the family would rely on her. It would be unfair to take on the commitment and then stop volunteering if her life got too busy. She understood and worked with the child and his family for two years.

4. It does not have to be completed by their bar or bat mitzvah date

My older daughter’s bat mitzvah was in the fall, but we all agreed that it was just too chaotic at that time to also put together the charity walk. Instead, we picked a date several months after her bat mitzvah in the late spring when she would have more time to devote to the project. She discussed the walk in her speech at the service and invited everyone there to attend. After her bat mitzvah, she had plenty of time and energy to focus on the walk.

5. Make an impact — big or small

Don’t worry about the scope of the project. Great mitzvah projects range from huge undertakings to small, significant gestures of kindness. My older daughter’s walk started out as a small idea. The goal was to raise money and awareness for a disease and also to remember a wonderful little girl who had touched so many people in her short life. My daughter never thought that this walk would wind up attracting people from all over the state who had also been affected by this disease. We decided to make it an annual event, and this will be the ninth year. The money and awareness it has raised is truly changing lives by funding valuable research. And it was all started by a 13-year-old girl.

As for my younger daughter, her one-on-one time spent with a child who has special needs was very rewarding. She saw firsthand the difference she could make for a child and for the child’s family just by devoting a few hours of her time. She also found out that she really enjoyed working with children who have special needs, so in high school, she continued to work with Friendship Circle in a program that required less of a time commitment, called Torah Circle. This drop-off program in our area enables teen volunteers and children who have special needs to enjoy a Sunday morning of baking, art and music.

According to Jewish law, your child is now an adult, so let your child take the lead on the mitzvah project. He or she will get the most out of it if they feel as if it is truly their project. For your part, give guidance, support and encouragement. Praise their efforts and let them know how proud you are of them for helping to change the world, one mitzvah at time.


Randi Mazzella is a freelance journalist, blogger and mother of three. She has written extensively about parenting, family life and teen issues. This essay originally appeared on kveller.com and is reprinted with permission. 

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I can no longer consider myself a Republican

I have been a member of the Republican Party since I turned 18.  And well before that, I considered myself a rational, moderate conservative.

For all that time, living in Jewish communities in West LA, Berkeley, Northwest DC and other less-than-conservative places, I have openly and proudly identified myself as a conservative and a Republican. In my community, identifying as anything other than a liberal Democrat makes you at the very least a curiosity. More commonly, it places you into the perceived category of maybe-racist/surely-sexist. In that context, I served as an executive officer of the Republican clubs at Berkeley and Georgetown; I worked for several GOP campaigns at the federal, state and local levels; and I attended numerous Republican Party conventions.

I certainly have not identified as a conservative and a Republican because it was fun or a helpful way to ensure that I was the most popular person in the room. I remained a proud Republican in spite of asinine, indefensible positions my party advocated or articulated over the years… Prop 187, a nuance-free pro-life stance, “f**k-the-Jews-they-don’t-vote-for-us-anyway,” a foolish, dangerous, destructive and counterproductive approach to drug laws and their enforcement, a flat rejection of LGBT rights, an aversion to tax increases of any kind regardless of the state of the treasury, and financing off the books and on credit the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq – wars I believe were just and necessary, though poorly managed and executed – all come to mind in this context. None of these were great ideas. None of them were easy to defend to my family and friends. But, through all of that, and more, I remained a member of the party.

I have remained a Republican, because I came to the conclusion, when I first considered political ideas more than two decades ago, that I prioritized my policy preferences in a very clear hierarchy.

At the top of this hierarchy I prioritized foreign policy, because foreign policy mistakes will almost certainly get people (and likely a significant number of people) killed.

On the second rung of this ladder, I prioritized economic policy.  Poor economic policies will prevent people from putting food on their table.  When people can’t put food on their tables, that also causes suffering and death, though in significantly smaller numbers than result from foreign policy blunders.

Finally, behind both foreign and economic policy, I prioritized social policy. Flawed social policy can result in serious harm to people. In extreme cases, it can even result in deaths.  Suicides of ostracized and unsupported LGBT youth provide an obvious example.  However, social policy errors are not likely to result in nearly as much harm or death as mistakes in foreign policy or economic policy.

With that prioritization of policies, since the early 1990s until this year’s primaries, while I have disagreed with almost everything the GOP has come to stand for in the social policy arena, I could still vote Republican with a clear conscience. During that time, I have come to disagree with almost everything “mainstream” Democrats have come to stand for in the foreign policy arena: a weak, retreating, almost isolationist, appeasing approach to foreign policy that must have Scoop Jackson rolling in his grave. I still think the GOP is right more often than Democrats on economic policy, although the GOP’s lack of fiscal discipline and uncompromising approach to tax policy have diminished the Republican advantage in that area. And, even in the area of social policy, I have been troubled by the tendency of Democrats to try to push social policy initiatives through courts untethered to originalist (or any other) limiting principles instead of via the elected branches of government.

But, with Trump at the top of the ticket, and with many in the GOP now seeming to fall in line behind him, that calculus has changed. I (and I suspect many others like me) am now saddened to conclude that I can no longer consider myself a Republican.

On social policy, Trump actually, ironically, may improve the GOP in certain respects. Though he has been pretending over the past few months that he’s a social conservative, we all know (and Trump knows that we all know) that he is putting on an act to get the nomination.  I think it would be great to have a pro-choice nominee in the GOP. While I know this would be heresy within some quarters of the GOP, I think the party’s failure to embrace equal rights – including the right to marry the person they love – for gay people is a stain on the party.

But Mr. Trump's blatant sexism, his failure to disavow racists and his demagoguery against Muslim Americans as well as against foreign nationals outweigh even significant social policy progress on other issues. So, on social policy, Trump is effectively like having all the good policies of the Democrats, but with sexism, racism and bigotry mixed in. The result: the Democrats are still better for our country on social policy.

On economic policy, Trump hasn’t said much of substance. While economic policy is really about cutting deals, and while Trump claims to be good at cutting deals, the one bit of economic policy Trump has emphasized is a more nativist/mercantilist trade policy, which has never worked in the past… and there is no indication it will work now. On balance, while it’s hard to tell what his policies might actually be, Trump is likely a net negative on economic policy.

This brings me to foreign policy, the one place where there is no question in my mind that the GOP has had for the past half century a clear advantage over the Democrats. Trump threatens a clear break with everything the GOP has stood for in the realm of foreign policy since I became a Republican.

With the country reeling from the September 11 attacks and a nativist sentiment available to be unleashed, President Bush visited a mosque six days after the attacks to make clear to all Americans that we are not at war with Islam. That, I believe, may go down as one of the most important moments of the 21st century. At what could have been an historic turning point towards a true clash of civilizations, Bush instead placed us firmly on the side of moderate Islam in its internal clash with radical Islam. Trump now threatens to upend that strategy. His thoughtless, reactionary, counterproductive and morally repugnant call to ban all Muslims from entering our country is, quite possibly, the most dangerous statement made by a politician running for office in my lifetime.

We live in a very dangerous time. President Obama has virtually abandoned the field in Afghanistan, Iraq and Syria, and left Libya and Yemen exposed. He has left our allies in the Middle East and Africa scrambling for alternatives to an America that has decided to follow events from the rear and that establishes “red lines” that have no meaning when they are crossed. Daesh has taken advantage of our absence to take over large swaths of territory, massacring and terrorizing civilians, many of whom counted on the U.S. for support.

Threats abound throughout the world. In Eastern Europe, Putin is leading a resurgent, irredentist, territorially aggressive Russia, challenging our allies in the Black Sea region, the Baltic and now the Middle East.

China constitutes an increasingly aggressive rival in Asia and the Pacific, while maintaining a monumental investment in our national economy (including, ominously, in our now massive government debt). With the consolidation of its military leadership, with its development of a Blue Water navy that can project power and interdict sea lanes, with its power grab and militarization of the South China Sea and with its bellicose sword-rattling towards many of its neighbors, including many of our longtime allies, China is on its way to becoming a strategic military threat.

The combination of challenges presented by Russia and China stand poised to undo the great strides towards democracy and democratization that have been achieved around the world ever since President Reagan challenged Gorbachev to tear down that Wall.

Our inability or unwillingness to check Iran’s and North Korea’s nuclear ambitions compound these threats.

At this moment of great peril, the GOP appears poised to nominate to the Presidency of the United States, the holder of the nuclear launch codes, the commander-in-chief of the most powerful armed forces in human history, an unstable man with no military experience and even less foreign policy expertise.

Mr. Trump threatens our alliances with our neighbors, as well. He has made blatantly racist attacks on Mexican immigrants as “rapists and killers” and he has foolishly (and quite regularly) attempted to publicly shame Mexico into paying for a border wall that would not solve our border security challenges even if it were built.

Mr. Trump and his supporters do not represent the GOP I believe in. They do not represent the GOP I have supported for two decades.

I believe in supporting small business and entrepreneurs.

I believe in helping kids struggling in inner city schools to find a way out of those schools instead of helping the teachers’ union bosses with their fight to keep those kids in failing schools.

I believe that a strong US military, judiciously used, has often (if not always) been, and can continue to be, an indispensable force for immense good in this world.

I believe that the free market is, and always has been, much more effective than government programs at lifting people out of poverty.

I believe that the more centralized the government, the further that government is from the governed, and the less effective it is at accomplishing key goals: fighting poverty, running schools, and performing the many other functions it is crucially important for government to perform.

I believe that, though it certainly creates winners and losers, the aggregate benefits of free trade are irrefutably more valuable than the isolated and temporary benefits of a mercantilist anti-trade policy.

I believe in building bridges to people of goodwill in other countries and cultures. I believe in tearing down, not building up, walls.

I believe in welcoming immigrants, recognizing that we are a nation of immigrants, and striving to be the shining city on the hill spoken of by Reagan, that city “teeming with people of all kinds living in harmony and peace; a city with free ports that hummed with commerce and creativity; and if there had to be city walls, the walls had doors and the doors were open to anyone with the will and the heart to get here.”

The GOP used to believe in all these things, too.  That GOP, I am sad to say, may soon be a relic of the past. That GOP will not survive Donald Trump being nominated as its candidate for President of the United States.

I’ve watched with increasing dismay as many Republican leaders have gone from clearly (if not vocally) opposing Trump’s candidacy, to wishy-washy on his candidacy, to openness to his candidacy, and now, apparently, to full-throated support for his candidacy.

I do not write this out of anger or resentment or fear. I write this out of sorrow: sorrow that a party I have spent more than half my life supporting is soon to be no more; sorrow that a party that has done so much good for this country has been hijacked by a racist, sexist, xenophobic demagogue willing to say anything necessary in order to get into office; sorrow that the GOP’s leadership, when it had the opportunity to stop this from happening, failed to do so.

I just hope that this failure to save the Republican Party from Trump does not presage a failure by our country as a whole to stop Trump in the general election. But, because I cannot support a Trump candidacy, and because I cannot believe in, and do not believe I belong in, a party that would nominate a man like Mr. Trump, in the event Mr. Trump receives the Republican nomination, I will resign from the party and re-register as an independent. I urge all other Republicans of good will to do the same.

Yoni Fife is an attorney living in Los Angeles.

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Trump picks NJ Governor Christie to head transition team

Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump said on Monday he has chosen New Jersey Governor Chris Christie, a rival turned ally, to lead his White House transition team as he prepares for the general election campaign.

“Governor Christie is an extremely knowledgeable and loyal person with the tools and resources to put together an unparalleled Transition Team, one that will be prepared to take over the White House when we win in November,” Trump said in a statement.

Trump, the presumptive Republican nominee in the Nov. 8 presidential election, said Christie will oversee an “extensive team.”

Christie endorsed Trump after dropping out of the 2016 Republican primary race in February and has been campaigning with the New York billionaire.

Trump's campaign said the candidate was moving into a general election mode and “implementing an infrastructure capable of securing a victory including making key hires, building a finance operation to benefit the Republican Party and unifying the party by working with several Republican leaders now voicing their support for Mr. Trump and his candidacy.”

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Morning Mama Meditation

As I came to consciousness this morning, I began my little body scan meditation,a mindfulness practice I have adopted into my mornings. It is just a simple way of observing, without judgment, what is happening from head to toe in this new day, this new moment in time. Today as I tuned in, I tried to experience myself in the body of the new mommy I was some many moons ago. I could feel the softness around my midsection, and the weight of another being snuggled on my chest. I could feel myself literally sink deeper into my own body somehow. It felt more intimate perhaps, a more deeply connected experience of self than is my current norm. As I continued, I could feel the light, feathery breath of a smallish baby nourishing herself through me. I inhaled that sacred time and place. I exhaled a deep and soft sense of peace.

So grateful I am to have a body that could create another body. So clear today that life is that strange accidental miracle, and so awed am I by the fact that I got a chance to participate in that. And I am so, so thankful for the selective amnesia that comes to mommies in order to make all the really tricky parts turn into a bodily memory of delight and love.

Practices this week:

MONDAY 8:30 am

WEDNESDAY 9:15 am

In appreciation,

Michelle

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What Israelis want – and what they reject

As a senior fellow at JPPI, I was involved in drafting, analyzing, and publishing a new survey yesterday – one component of a very ambitious Pluralism Index that JPPI launched yesterday. News reports about JPPI’s data appeared in many media outlets, and you can read all about it here, here, and here.

As a member of the Pluralism team (the Index was devised by Prof. Steven Popper), I had an opportunity to work on the data and think about it a lot – and some of these thoughts are worth sharing. Today I will address just one part of the survey: a question in which we asked Israelis to say which groups in Israeli society contribute to Israel’s success. The answers were in the format of a ranking – 1 means negative contribution, 2 somewhat negative, 3 somewhat positive, 4 positive contribution.

We offered respondents 21 groups to rank. Some are political groups – right wing people, left wing people, some are geographically defined groups such as settlers or northern Tel Avivians, some are ethnic or religious groups like Muslim Arabs or Reform Jews or Druze, we asked about immigrants from France, Russia and Ethiopia, we asked about Diaspora Jews and Israelis abroad.

Here is the ranking by order, the numbers are the average ranking for each group from 1 to 4. My comments follow the graph:

1. Soldiers are kings and queens. And at the bottom of the list are the two groups who do not contribute to Israel’s military effort – Muslim Arabs and Haredis. Israelis don’t always say or do the right thing, but their assessment of contributing groups is in many cases quite logical and consistent. It is not based on race or religion: The Druze serve in the IDF, and hence they are ranked positively. Religious Zionists serve and contribute, and hence they are ranked positively.

2. There are many supposed discrepancies in this assessment of groups. How can it be that “secular”, “ashkenazi”, and “Kibbutznic” Israelis ranked high, but “left wingers” (that is, generally speaking, Israelis who tend to be secular, Ashkenazi and in many cases Kibbutznics) are ranked so low? Not a problem: when Israelis think about these groups they think about their images. Kibbutznics are people who volunteer to elite units in the IDF, work the land, have ideals and are civilized. Left wingers are highly critical of Israel and in many occasions alienated from Israeli society. When Israelis think about Kibbutznics they do not think about politics. When they think about left wingers they do think about politics. Compartmentalization is part of the process of ranking such groups. It works for the left, and also for the right. Religious Zionists are ranked high; their political reincarnation, the settlers, rank much lower. Again, one thinks about religious Zionists as dedicated, idealistic, communal, volunteering members of Israel’s society. One thinks about settlers – many of whom are Zionist religious – as a political group. A controversial political group.

3. The low ranking of Arab Muslims is troubling, but not surprising. In a state of constant political confrontation, it is not easy for Jewish Israelis to see beyond the statements, headlines, and actions of politicians and provocateurs. But two Israeli groups also rank Muslim Christians as one of the three groups at the bottom of their list – Religious Zionists and Haredis. Is their ranking based on religious sentiments? With the ranking of Haredis one could substantiate such suspicions by looking at the bottom three groups according to their ranking: Arab Christians – non-Jews; Arab Muslims – non Jews; and Reform Jews – who, according to what Haredis say in another question, also aren’t “real Jews.”

4. It is interesting to note that Israelis deem the contribution of Diaspora Jews above that of Israelis who left abroad. That is to say: Israelis instinctively feel that living as a Jew in the diaspora is somehow better than leaving Israel to live as a Jew in the diaspora.

5. The low ranking of Reform Jews is not unanimous. Haredis rank them at the very bottom – lower than all other groups. Religious Israelis rank them second from the bottom. Liberal religious Jews – in Israel this means self-defined liberal Orthodox – rank them third from the bottom (I must say that was a surprise). For these groups the term “Reform” is perceived negatively. But remember, Reform Judaism does not see these groups (Orthodox Israelis) as a target audience for its activities. So maybe what they say about “Reform Judaism” does not really matter.

6. Israelis of “Left wing” tendencies are also ranked at the bottom. They are a very small political group – between 4% and 5% in our survey. They are a group that seems to be more critical of Israel than it used to be, more frustrated by its inability to have an impact on Israel’s policies, more alienated from Israel’s society. The left’s alienation ignites a backlash – other groups are becoming alienated from the left and tend to see its actions as having a negative effect on Israel’s success. The marginalization of the left is not a new phenomenon, but the JPPI survey shows that it is real.

7. Take the three groups at the bottom: Muslim Arabs, Haredis and left wingers. What is the common characteristic that these groups share? That’s easy: all three are groups that refuse to be a part of the Israeli mainstream. They reject the mainstream, and the mainstream rejects them back. They are highly critical and often bluntly dismissive of the Israeli mainstream – and the Israeli mainstream is highly critical of them. One of the things that the JPPI survey shows is that Israelis have a longing for unity. They agree in very high numbers that all Jews – secular, traditional, and religious – are good Jews. They want their government to be considerate of minority opinion. They feel comfortable in being who they are in Israel. And they are suspicious of groups that are disruptive when it comes to having this sense of unity: Arab Muslims, who reject the Zionist ethos; Haredis, who do not share the burden; and left wingers, who don't accept Israel’s self-image as a generally righteous country. 

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Instant gratification: Social media and b’nai mitzvah parties

In the age of likes, shares and posts, social media has been embraced as a valuable platform of connectivity. Everyone is invited to the party to share political views, cat videos, baby pics, vacation pics — even babies-on-vacation pics. 

If you want engagement, then use social media — it’s a lesson that has been learned by political campaigns, television networks,
corporations and, yes, bar and bat mitzvah kids. 

“We get calls all the time with people saying, ‘We want this to be the party of the year,’ ” said Laurie Camacho, owner of Party Planners LA. These days, she told the Journal, that means pimping out b’nai mitzvah parties with help from Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and more. 

“Everything is, how custom can you get it? They want everything to be very customized so that it’s different from what guests would normally see,” Camacho said. 

One popular means of doing this now involves employing a photo booth where kids take selfies that can be uploaded to their Instagram or Facebook accounts, then projected on a live feed at the reception, Camacho said. 

The local party planner also has been commissioned to design customized logos that can be featured on Instagram posts, paperless invitations, Snapchat stories and geofilters, or just decor at the venue. The price tag on packages involving photo booths and customized logos Camacho offers starts at around $950 and can go up to nearly $4,000. 

“It’s a big thing right now — very trendy, for sure,” she said. 

Sheri Lapidus, a New York-based public relations executive who created the online resource mitzvahmarket.com in 2010 after planning her daughter’s bat mitzvah and failing to find adequate information, said another trend involves a social media twist on the tradition of sign-in books. Instead of a paper book, some kids now have an iPad or tablet with a stylus that guests can use to write messages that will be displayed on a projected live feed. It’s no longer a book with messages to be read later — it’s for everyone to see right then and there. 

“We had one at my daughter’s bat mitzvah in 2010. Now it has come much further,” Lapidus said. “The stylus boards are branded with logos sometimes. It’s all much more advanced now.”  

Ryan Kashanthi, 13, who attends Lincoln Middle School in Santa Monica, celebrated his bar mitzvah last month at Chabad of Bel Air. While he didn’t have a photo booth at his party, that didn’t stop people from posting their own pictures. He was delighted to see all the moments from his party that ended up on Instagram and Snapchat. 

“It was cool that people enjoyed my party so much that they’d want it to be something on their Instagram,” he said. “It kind of keeps the party going, too. There’s that lasting memory of it online.” 

Another bonus is that using social media can enable people not in attendance to partake, in a way. Family or friends who couldn’t make it can get a glimpse of the scene and feel included. 

That said, making the event public can potentially lead to hurt feelings, too, Kashanthi said. 

“The one downside that affects me the most is that when people see that they’re not invited, people can get offended,” he said. 

The impact of social media on a bar or bat mitzvah can go far beyond the big day itself. It can unite people to a cause. 

Just ask Lisa Kodimer, who started Good Deeds in Motion, a Calabasas-based company that creates customized projects to help people in the community find ways to give back, after the success of her older son Kole’s bar mitzvah project, a special needs baseball team called Westhills Champions.

“Kids want to give back but they don’t know how,” Kodimer said. “We help kids do something that’ll be more than just a one-day thing. Our hope is that they’ll hold onto it and this will become part of their passion as they grow older.”

According to Kodimer, who does a lot of work with bar and bat mitzvah projects, the power of social media and networking has broadened the scope of what kids can accomplish, particularly in the realm of fundraising. 

“We offer our client a webpage. There’s no hosting fee and kids have it for the rest of their lives. The webpage can connect to a kid’s Facebook. It really helps get the word out and creates an audience,” she said. 

Kodimer uses her own active social media presence to help recruit volunteers to causes born out of the minds of her bar and bat mitzvah clients. When one of her clients began teaming with a gym to start a special needs gymnastics program, a steady influx of volunteers came as a result of Kodimer’s social networking efforts. 

“We have gotten so many calls about teens who want to volunteer,” she said. “We’re able to fill most of that need through social networking. We utilize the Good Deeds in Motion webpage, my personal page, the social media page of the gym. It’s amazing.”

Kodimer’s younger son, Kamden, who celebrated his bar mitzvah in Jerusalem in December, has raised $1,500 so far for his bar mitzvah project, Cupcakes and Wishes, a series of pop-up cupcake sales whose proceeds benefit birthday celebrations for hospitalized children. Kam-den’s efforts have spurred others to contribute to the cause and help with cupcake sales of their own. He sees a bright future for his volunteer venture and figures social media can help. 

“We’re going to be starting an Instagram page to try to get more volunteers because that’s what more of the kids are using today,” the 13-year-old Hale Charter School student said. “I feel like it’ll really help a lot. We’re trying to go national, and that’s the best way to spread the
word.” 

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Redstone competence trial ends as judge tosses lawsuit

A trial over Sumner Redstone's mental competence abruptly ended on Monday when a California judge threw out a lawsuit brought by the 92-year-old's former girlfriend, Manuela Herzer, saying Redstone's deposition made clear the media mogul knew what he wanted.

The decision appears to bring to an end a protracted and at times embarrassing legal drama, while keeping the billionaire in charge of his controlling stake in media companies Viacom Inc and CBS Corp. However, Herzer's lawyer said she would appeal.

“There is no good cause for further judicial involvement where the court has now heard directly from Redstone that he has lost trust in Herzer, does not want her in his life and instead wants his daughter Shari to look after him if necessary,” the judge wrote in his ruling.

Herzer contended that Redstone was not mentally competent when he removed her as his designated healthcare agent last October. A trial to decide the matter started on Friday and had been set to run through May 16.

Judge David Cowan wrote in his ruling that Herzer's claims that Redstone could not understand or communicate were disproved by testimony from Redstone himself, in a deposition that was presented to the court on Friday.

“Redstone's testimony has ultimately defeated her case. Though Herzer may have believed that Redstone would not be able to say anything, or be able to understand the questions, Redstone did both.”

The judge said Redstone appeared to be in pain and struggled to speak clearly in his deposition, but ultimately he showed no confusion about what he was asked, and what he wanted.

After the ruling was handed out in court, Shari Redstone hugged her lawyer. Sumner Redstone was not present in court.

“I am grateful to the court for putting an end to this long ordeal,” she said later in a statement. “I am so happy for my father that he can now live his life in peace, surrounded by his friends and family.”

Herzer argued in her lawsuit that Shari Redstone and the nurses attending the senior Redstone had conspired against her. Herzer's lawyer, Pierce O'Donnell, said she had already filed a lawsuit claiming more than $100 million from Shari and Redstone's nurses, accusing them of interfering with her expected inheritance.

The trial was being closely watched by shareholders of Viacom and CBS. Redstone earlier this year stepped down as executive chairman of both companies, assuaging some investor questions about his influence.

But some concerns have remained about his control of roughly 80 percent of the voting shares in both companies, held through his National Amusements movie theater company.

The judge's dismissal means more uncertainty around the long-term future of CBS and Viacom, said Brian Wieser, an analyst at Pivotal Research Group. “Yes, there is a plan for what happens when Redstone passes, but things remain as uncertain as they were before, in terms of the long-term implications,” he said.

If Herzer, 52, had proved her case, it could have triggered a chain of events that would result in the transfer of Redstone's controlling stake in both media companies to a seven-person trust that includes Viacom CEO Philippe Dauman and Redstone's daughter Shari.

The transfer of his shares to the trust is scheduled to take place upon his death unless he is found to be incompetent to manage them prior to that.

Viacom shares were down 1.8 percent, roughly where they were trading before the ruling.

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In letter to Jewish leaders, Clinton reaffirms commitment to combat BDS efforts

Democratic presidential front-runner Hillary Clinton on Sunday reaffirmed her opposition to the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement (BDS) that targets Israel ahead of the United Methodists’ convention on Tuesday.

864 United Methodists are set to ” target=”_blank”>here to read the letter.

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Journalist, facing anti-Semitic abuse by Trump fans, files police report

Journalist Julia Ioffe has filed a report with the D.C. police department for anti-Semitic threats that she had received from Trump fans after writing a negative profile of Melania Trump in GQ, The Washington Post “>received calls from people playing Hitler speeches, told that she “should be burned in an oven”, “be shot in the head,” and was sent photoshopped images of her in a concentration camp uniform.

[Related: “>last week, ADL’s CEO Jonathan Greenblatt urged Trump to denounce the barrage of anti-Semitic comments by some of his supporters on social media. “The onus is now on Donald Trump to make unequivocally clear he rejects those sentiments and that there is no room for .. anti-Semitism in his campaign and in society,” Greenblatt said.

Trump refused to condemn his fans in an interview with CNN. “You hated this article in ‘GQ’ about your wife, Melania. Julia Ioffe wrote it. Since then, some of your supporters have viciously attacked this woman, Julia Ioffe, with anti-Semitic attacks, death threats. What’s your message to these people when something like that happens?” Wolf Blitzer asked the presumptive Republican presidential nominee during an interview on Wednesday. “I’ll tell you, I haven’t read the article, but I hear it was a very inaccurate article and I heard it was a nasty article… They shouldn’t be doing that with wives. I mean they shouldn’t be doing that,” he responded. “These death threats that have followed these anti-Semitic,” Blitzer pressed Trump. “Oh, I don’t know about that. I don’t know anything about that,” said Trump. “You’ll have to talk to them about it. I don’t have a message to the fans.”

On Thursday, Trump released a laconic statement condemning anti-Semitism. “Anti-Semitism has no place our society, which needs to be united, not divided,”  Journalist, facing anti-Semitic abuse by Trump fans, files police report Read More »