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November 19, 2015

Two Jews walk into Israel

On Dec. 19 and 20, Jerry Seinfeld and I will be performing stand-up comedy at the Menora Mivtachim Arena in Tel Aviv. I have not been this excited about doing a gig in years. Jerry and I had talked about going to Israel to perform and, God willing, it’s now happening.

Jerry and I have been touring together for more than a decade. Touring with Jerry is a total first-class experience. We travel in a private jet, which is a lot better than an El Al flight, where every 10 minutes people wake you up to join a minyan or some woman with 14 kids wants you to hold the triplets while she tries to get the other 11 kids out of the bathroom. We stay in the best hotels and we laugh more in a day than most people laugh in a year. Plus, the people who come to see Jerry’s shows are, by far, the best audiences on the planet. 

I expect Israel to be all that and more. For me, performing in Israel is different from performing anywhere else in the world. The people in Israel are more than just an audience. They are my brothers and sisters. They are modern-day heroes.  And now more than ever is a perfect time for Jerry and I or anyone else to go and show support for the people who live there. 

People ask me, “Aren’t you scared to go to Israel with all that’s going on now?” Not really. My job calls for me to go wherever people want and need to laugh. Bob Hope taught us all about that. Israel is under immense pressure on almost every level. Just having a Jewish mother is enough pressure for anyone. Now add to it all their other mishegoss and your head could pop off.

I love Israel and I love the Jewish people. In stand-up comedy, Jews have always reigned supreme. They set the standard for the art form, and have raised the bar pretty darn high. A question that comes up a lot is, “What keeps the Jewish people going? How have they survived when, in every generation, someone or some group is trying to wipe them out?” One answer might be laughter. Jews love to laugh. Jews like to tell funny stories. Jews don’t mind jokes at their own expense. In a rabbi, a priest and a minister joke, the rabbi is almost always the fall guy. And no one laughs harder than the rabbis.

So, on Dec. 19 and 20, two Jews will walk into the Menora Mivtachim Arena and tell some funny stories to the great people of Israel, who will listen and laugh. You know what? Not even terrorism can stop the laughter.

Mark Schiff is a Jewish comedian, actor and writer living in Los Angeles.

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Amy Mandelbaum: Crossfit’s Favorite Pistol

This is the first in what will be an ongoing series of profiles of Jewish athletes who are making an impact around the globe.

Amy Mandelbaum never thought she'd be a competitive athlete.  In fact, the forty-eight year-old mother of two never even played a sport until she tagged along to a class of some strange thing she'd barely heard of called Crossfit.  Now, six years later she's considered to be one of the most respected Master's athletes in a competition to be named the fittest on earth.

“I found Crossfit by accident, with a friend,” said Mandelbaum on a phone call from her home in Connecticut. “I was taking a class that she used to teach — an interval class — and she was going to a Crossfit gym and said 'hey, do you want to go with me?' And I said sure.”

“I was certainly not the type of person to start seeking out alternative athletic outlets, to be honest.  I knew what I knew, I was happy doing that… I wasn't going to go and try kiteboarding or something, it wasn't my speed,” said Mandelbaum.  Much to her surprise though, she loved Crossfit. “I went back, and two months later, entered my first competition.”  She placed second, and knew she might be on to something.

Crossfit, the popular, and sometimes controversial fitness method, combines gymnastics skills with olympic weightlifting, running, rowing, and a host of other disciplines, as a means to create a well-rounded athlete.  Every year a Crossfit “Open” is held in which hundreds of thousands of people worldwide compete against each other to get the highest scores in the Workout of the Day (WOD) with the cream of the crop invited to compete in the Crossfit Regionals, and eventually the Crossfit Games.

“I had no athletic background, in fact my background is all in theater, and voice, and stuff like that,” said Mandelbaum, who worked for many years as a broadcast producer in New York City.  “It was hard to adopt at first, because it required completely changing the way I ate, changing the amount of sleep I got – stop drinking alcohol… but I adopted it.”

To Mandelbaum's family, the change was a little shocking at first.  They watched their wife and mother, a woman who once owned a cake baking business, change almost everything about her lifestyle. “I went pure paleo right away, stopped eating bread, stopped eating sugar….That became sort of a bone of contention for my husband.  He was like, “who are you, and what have you done with my wife?”

As time went on, however, Mandelbaum's family embraced the change, especially when they saw how happy it made her. “It took a little time for the evolution to happen at home, but now that they're older, I think they're all really enjoying it.”

It wasn't long after she started competing that Mandelbaum had her first chance to go to the Crossfit Games, a nationally televised competition that takes place in Carson, California every summer. Athletes around the world would kill for a chance to make the Games, but in the first year Mandelbaum qualified, she actually took a pass.  “The 2010 crossfit games were over (my daughter's) visiting day, and I wasn't going to miss her first visiting day to go to the Crossfit Games,” said Mandelbaum, laughing.

Balancing family commitments and her competitions has been a struggle for Mandelbaum, but one she embraces. As a master's athlete, a competitor over 40, she and most of her peers face responsibilities that many of the younger competitors don't have. “Most of us have families, have careers, are training in our off-hours if we can, or squeezing it in whenever it's possible between things that we have to do for our kids,” said Mandelbaum. “We have responsibilities like mortgages to pay, we have real things that happen that a lot of the younger competitors don't have.”

“The Masters games have always been – we'll call it a side show.  I don't mean it in a negative way, but we're not the main event…” said Mandelbaum, noting that the first year she competed, the Masters athletes were relegated to a parking lot.  They've since moved into a much nicer track and field stadium at the Stub Hub Center complex. “The only reason, honestly,  that Master's athletes compete, the only reason that we continue to go through the open and put our bodies through this at our age is that we love it.  We're not doing this for the sponsorships, and we're not doing it for the money.”

Dealing with the fame that's come from her competing has mostly been fun for Mandelbaum, who now has thousands of followers on Instagram and Facebook, and even has a nickname, “Pistol.”

“Just last year when I was out in the warm-up area, people were walking behind the fence and yelling to me, 'Amy Pistol! I want your autograph! Can I have a picture with you?'”

It's hardest for Mandelbaum's teenage son. “His friends are totally interested in what I'm doing. So they follow me on instagram, and ask him questions about my competitions… and how much I can lift, and he's like 'dude, she's my mom!'”

Mandelbaum's also had good support from the local Jewish community in Westport.  The cantors of the Temples in Westport and neighboring Norwalk are married, and are fans. “It's nice to kind of go into Temple, and they're like, how are your workouts?”  Mark Lipson, the Rabbi of Temple Shalom in Norwalk, also happens to be the father-in-law of Crossfit superstar, Camille Leblanc-Bazinet, who's married to his son, Dave Lipson.

“I actually think it's funny when they're saying all of our names out there… and I come out and it's 'Amy Mandelbaum' – you can't get much more Jewish than that!”

Mandelbaum hopes that she inspires women to get stronger and healthier. While many women in the fitness industry help to market the sexy side of it, Mandelbaum's more about empowerment. “I'm not that woman who's going to put my butt up there on Instagram, that's not who I am.  I'm not selling that sort of stuff.  I'm selling health… and I want other people to follow suit or find some sort of uplifting message in that.”

Mandelbaum took some time off competing this year to focus on growing Crossfit Westport, the gym, or “box,” as Crossfitters call them, which she trains at and just bought.  “It's a lot of work, it's really hard on your body, and the older you get, the harder it is to recover,” says Mandelbaum of competing. “That said, I'm probably one of the fittest 48 year old women you'll ever meet.”

You can follow Amy on Twitter @AmyPistol or Instagram @amypistol and learn more about her gym at crossfitwestport.com — Photographer Irene Penny can be followed on Instagram at @silver_penny

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Jennifer Lawrence’s image erased from ‘Hunger Games’ posters in Jerusalem, Bnei Brak

Posters promoting the final “Hunger Games” movie in Jerusalem and the coastal Israeli city of Bnei Brak have scrubbed star Jennifer Lawrence from the main image.

The posters for “The Hunger Games: Mockingjay-Part 2” in these cities contain only the fiery crow from the original advertisement and exclude the foreground image of Lawrence posing as protagonist Katniss Everdeen with a bow and arrow.

“We discovered that public posters with the image of a female are often torn down in Jerusalem, while Bnei Brak does not allow posters with female images,” a representative of the film’s Israeli PR firm told Ynet.

Bnei Brak, a densely populated city with a high haredi Orthodox population, has a municipal regulation that prevents the hanging of posters of women that “might incite the feelings of the city’s residents,” according to Haaretz.

The issue is hotly contested in Jerusalem, which does not have any municipal rules against posters of women.

Liron Suissa, a marketing executive for the company hanging the film’s posters in Israel, said it was far from the first time his firm has felt this “unofficial coercion” from the haredi community.

“We have had endless vandalization, and clients prefer not to take the chance,” Suissa said.

The three previous “Hunger Games” films, which all star Lawrence, have grossed over $2 billion.

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How to make a floral turkey centerpiece for Thanksgiving

For me, decorating the table is the best part of hosting a Thanksgiving dinner celebration. I love arranging the dishes, the sparkling glasses, the starched napkins — and, of course, making the centerpieces. 

Centerpieces are a great way to set the mood, a way to tell your guests right as they walk into your house that they’re in for a festive time. But depending on how you’re planning to serve your Thanksgiving meal, you will have to make the centerpiece work for you. If you’re planning a buffet, then most of the serving platters will be on a separate table, and your centerpiece can stay put on the main table, to continue to delight your guests. But if you’re planning to serve your dishes at the table, you’ll likely need the extra space, in which case you can remove the centerpiece before you bring out the dinner and place it elsewhere, such as on a coffee table or mantel. 

I’ve run the gamut on centerpieces, from simple bud vases to elaborate creations that can take over an entire room. Last Thanksgiving, I spray-painted 600 pingpong balls shiny gold, suspended each one over the dining table with thread, and then lined the table with branches decorated with twinkling lights. This year, I’m making our life a lot easier with this simple floral turkey centerpiece. It’s easy to make, yet so adorable you’ll be gobbling up the compliments.

WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Floral foam
  • Knife
  • Mums
  • Wheat stalks
  • Bird of paradise flower
  • Real or artificial fall leaves

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Comfort of a Paris home in jeopardy

Parisians Babette and Sasha Bergman lead what many would consider a charmed life.

Both Jewish high-tech professionals in their 30s — they met while working at Google’s European headquarters in Ireland — the Bergmans settled in this capital city shortly before the birth of their now 4-year-old daughter, Daniella.

On weekends, they enjoy entertaining friends in their spacious apartment in the 17th arrondissement — an upscale and heavily Jewish district where the anti-Semitic incidents common throughout the rest of Paris are more rare. Many Jews in the poorer quarters say this area is the ivory tower of upper-middle-class French Jewry.

Living on a street with three synagogues and near many kosher shops, observing the Sabbath and keeping kosher is far easier in Paris, where some 350,000 Jews live, than it was when they were living in Dublin, says Sasha, who was born in Russia and grew up in the Netherlands.

But in the wake of the jihadist attacks that killed at least 129 in Paris on Nov. 13, even the Bergmans are finding it increasingly difficult to imagine a future for themselves in a country where Islamist terrorism and violence — including attacks that target the Jewish community — are putting wind into the sails of a rising far-right.

“I love this city, I love my country, but after the initial shock from the attacks and the pain, my first thought was regret that we decided to settle here,” said Babette, who is Sephardic and grew up in the French city of Lyon. Two of her three sisters moved to Israel recently.

In January, soldiers with automatic rifles were posted regularly outside the Bergmans’ building to guard an adjacent synagogue. It was a precaution taken after the slaying by Islamists of 12 people at the offices of the satirical Charlie Hebdo newspaper, followed by two other terrorist attacks, including one at a kosher supermarket, Hyper Cacher, in eastern Paris that killed four people. The supermarket attack came about three years after an Islamist killed three children and a rabbi at a Jewish school in Toulouse, France.

“We pass them by sometimes with Daniella,” Babette said of the soldiers guarding Jewish institutions. “We’re grateful, but it’s not a normal way to live.”

Two days after Friday’s deadly attack, Babette’s family from Lyon and Israel gathered in Paris for a cousin’s wedding at the historic Synagogue des Tournelles in the Marais, the city’s historic Jewish district.

After the ceremony, the congregants left the synagogue quickly, mostly to make room for the next wedding — there were four Jewish wedding ceremonies planned there that day — but also because some guests said they felt uncomfortable gathering among groups of Jews at a time when terrorists believed to have been involved in the attacks are still at large.

“We’re not too scared to come here and continue our lives as usual,” said Ness Berros, a French Jew in his 20s who attended the wedding. “But we’re too scared to feel exactly at ease right now.”

The synagogue is under heavy guard by soldiers and police officers. Security was even tighter at another event the same day at the Synagogue de la Victoire, also known as the Grand Synagogue of Paris, at a ceremony honoring the victims of Friday’s attacks. The road leading to that synagogue was cordoned off as the participants were patted down for concealed weapons.

Outside Jewish institutions, many of which had suspended their activities after the attacks, streets usually bustling with tourists and locals were much emptier than they otherwise would have been on a sunny Sunday afternoon in November.

Fears were just as pronounced outside the city, in its poorer suburbs, where tens of thousands of Jews live in close proximity to many Muslims — and where tensions often run high. Such neighborhoods spawned the majority of Paris-area Jews who immigrated to Israel last year, according to Jewish Agency figures. In total, 6,658 French Jews immigrated to Israel last year, more than triple the total number in 2012.

In Pavillons-sous-Bois, a northeastern suburb, Sandra Sebbah, a Jewish mother of four, says the soldiers outside her children’s Jewish school “might as well be cardboard cutouts” because “they won’t stop an attack by the people with the kind of determination we saw.” Sebbah said she cannot leave France because of her husband’s work, but encourages her children to “live somewhere else, like normal people and not like this, where I am afraid every minute they’re not home — especially when they’re at school.”

Meanwhile, many French Jews worry the attacks will strengthen the popularity of the National Front, a far-right, anti-immigrant party that French-Jewish groups have largely shunned for the anti-Semitic track record of its founder, Jean-Marie Le Pen. His daughter, Marine Le Pen, the party’s current leader, recently removed her father as the party’s honorary president because of anti-Semitic statements he made that she called unacceptable.

In a poll conducted two weeks before the Paris attacks, Marine Le Pen emerged as an early favorite candidate in the 2017 presidential elections. Some 30 percent of those polled said they would vote for her over the incumbent Socialist Party president, Francois Hollande, who would garner 19 percent of the vote.

Back at the Bergmans’ apartment in central Paris, Babette’s father, Gerard, said the attacks reminded him of his childhood. A dentist in his 60s, he left Constantine, Algeria, in the 1960s amid a bloody civil war, in which local nationalists fought France for independence and each other for dominance. Gerald, who did not want his last name used in print, said his family members narrowly survived a bombing outside their home because they were at a restaurant when the explosive detonated.

“Now it seems to me the same barbarians are coming to drive me and my family once again, this time out of France itself,” said Babette’s father, adding he will probably leave for Israel within the next few years.

His wife, Jacqueline, who was born in Morocco, said she believes the war in Algeria may have traumatized her husband.

“I had a very different childhood in Casablanca,” she recalled. “When we talk about coexistence, I know it’s possible, because I lived it, with neighbors — Arabs and Muslims — living together, acknowledging each other’s holidays.”

Still, Jacqueline said, she also sees no future for Jews in France.

“Something happened in the 1990s, a bad wind started blowing from the outside,” she said in reference to hateful sermons and jihadist propaganda that began to spread through satellite television and continue to be disseminated online. “We didn’t have this external influence, poisoning everything in its wake.”

After the wedding celebration, a visibly tired Sasha puts Daniella to sleep and prepares to drive for an hour and a half to a university campus in Fontainebleau, where he is completing an executive MBA program.

The master’s degree, he says, may be important for his young family’s future.

Besides, he adds, “It’s so peaceful out in the countryside.”

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Moving and shaking: The Israeli Philharmonic, Beit Issie Shapiro and more

The Israel Philharmonic Orchestra performed at a Nov. 10 concert gala that raised more than $1.6 million for education programs in Israel and Los Angeles. It also honored Bram Goldsmith, philanthropist and chairman emeritus of City National Bank, with the “Founders Award for a lifetime of philanthropy and leadership,” according to a statement by David Hirsch, American Friends of the Israel Philharmonic Orchestra (AFIPO) board president, and Jerry Magnin, chairman of the Wallis Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts.

David Hirsch (left), president of American Friends of the Israel Philharmonic Orchestra, and actor Josh Malina were among attendees at an Israel Philharmonic Orchestra performance Nov. 10 at the Wallis Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts. Photo by Ryan Torok

The event drew 900 people and took place at the Wallis, which co-organized it with AFIPO.

“In an era when everyone seems to be competing with each other for philanthropic dollars, the Wallis and the Israel Philharmonic want to be leaders in exemplifying what we can achieve by working together and what organizations can accomplish by sharing sources and creative competencies,” Danielle Ames Spivak, AFIPO West Coast director, said in a Nov. 12 phone interview. 

Zubin Mehta, Israel Philharmonic Orchestra music director and co-chairman of AFIPO, conducted the orchestra in back-to-back performances. A dinner followed the first performance, featuring remarks by Helgard Field, a board member at AFIPO; Consul General of Israel in Los Angeles David Siegel; and Beverly Hills Mayor Julian Gold. Siegel and Gold used the occasion to formalize a partnership between the City of Beverly Hills and Israel focused on water, cybersecurity and more. Beverly Hills City Council voted in support of the agreement on Sept. 1.

“Through this partnership we’re committed to bringing the best of Israel to Beverly Hills,” Siegel said.

Attendees included former California Gov. Gray Davis; actor Josh Malina (“Scandal,” “The West Wing”); Les Bider, chairman of The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles; and Stephen Sass, president of the Jewish Historical Society of Southern California.

A nonprofit, AFIPO raises funds and awareness for the Israel Philharmonic Orchestra, which was founded in 1936 by Jewish refugees.


The American Friends of Beit Issie Shapiro (AFOBIS) West Coast region held its 13th annual gala on Nov. 8 at Sinai Temple, honoring regional board members Klara and Martin Shandling with the Excellence in Leadership Award, and Ernest Katz with the Humanitarian Award.

From left: Benjy Maor, director of international resource development at Beit Issie Shapiro; Klara and Martin Shandling, recipients of the American Friends of Beit Issie Shapiro (AFOBIS) Excellence in Leadership Award; Errol Fine, chairman of the West Coast region of AFOBIS; Jean Judes, executive director of Beit Issie Shapiro; and AFOBIS Humanitarian Award recipient Ernest Katz (right), with wife Frieda. Photo courtesy of American Friends of Beit Issie Shapiro 

Marking the organization’s bar mitzvah year, the event raised approximately $50,000 toward a program providing iPads to children living with disabilities. According to Beit Issie Shapiro, an Israeli-based organization serving children living with autism and other developmental disabilities, iPads are useful tools for children with autism and similar conditions. 

Money raised at the gala is part of an ongoing capital campaign, according to Benjy Maor, director of international resource development at Beit Issie Shapiro.

About 180 attendees turned out, including Beth Jacob Congregation Rabbi Kalman Topp and Jean Judes, executive director of Beit Issie Shapiro.

“I’m thrilled to share the story of Beit Issie and its many successes for children with disabilities, not only in Israel but across the globe,” Shani Smith Fisher, a board member of the regional chapter of AFOBIS, said in an interview. Her husband, television writer Seth Fisher, was among the evening’s speakers. Mark Goldenberg served as master of ceremonies.


Entertainment icons Steven Spielberg and Barbra Streisand were among the 17 winners of the 2016 Presidential Medal of Freedom, announced Nov. 16 by President Barack Obama. The awards will be presented at the White House on Nov. 24, according to a press release.

Steven Spielberg. Photo from Wikipedia

“I look forward to presenting these 17 distinguished Americans with our nation’s highest civilian honor. … These men and women have enriched our lives and helped define our shared experience as Americans,” Obama said in a statement. 

Spielberg, an award-winning filmmaker and successful Hollywood businessman, is known for creating blockbuster movies such as “Jaws” and “Jurassic Park” as well as serious, historical productions, including “Schindler’s List.” 

The Brooklyn-born Streisand is an award-winning actress, director and singer. She’s a philanthropist, as well, endowing the Barbra Streisand Women’s Heart Center in the Cedars-Sinai Heart Institute. Both Spielberg and Streisand live in the Los Angeles area. 

Among those joining the pair in receiving the award this year are Stephen Sondheim, whose wide-ranging body of work as a theater composer and lyricist includes “Company” and “West Side Story,” and Itzhak Perlman, the Israeli-born violinist.


Los Angeles County Supervisor Sheila Kuehl recently presented retiring media relations deputy Joel Bellman, 60, a member of Temple Israel of Hollywood, with a scroll marking 26 years of “dedicated and conscientious service to the people of the Third District and the County of Los Angeles.”

L.A. County Supervisor Sheila Kuehl presents retiring media relations deputy Joel Bellman with a scroll marking 26 years of “dedicated and conscientious service to the people of the Third District and the County of Los Angeles.” Photo courtesy of County of Los Angeles

The Oct. 27 ceremony was held at the Kenneth Hahn Hall of Administration, the headquarters of the L.A. County Board of Supervisors.

Bellman served under former L.A. County Supervisor Edmund Edelman beginning in 1989 and worked for Zev Yaroslavsky from 1994 to 2014, when he joined Kuehl’s staff.

“From Ed Edelman, who recruited me, to Zev Yaroslavsky and Sheila Kuehl who retained me, it’s been a privilege and an honor to serve three thoughtful, idealistic, committed, and dedicated progressive officeholders,” Bellman wrote in an Oct. 1 article at laobserved.com. He is retiring to pursue some of his passion projects on a full-time basis, he wrote.

“It’s been an incredible experience to be part of,” he said of his service in county government. “But now it’s time to say goodbye to all that.”

Barbara Osborn, Kuehl’s director of communications, succeeded Bellman on Nov. 2.

Moving and Shaking highlights events, honors and simchas.  Got a tip? Email ryant@jewishjournal.com.

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American yeshiva student killed in West Bank identified as Mass. 18-year-old

The American yeshiva student killed in a West Bank shooting was identified as Ezra Schwartz of Sharon, Mass.

Schwartz, 18, was one of three people killed Thursday near the settlement of Alon Shvut. He reportedly was studying for a year at Yeshivat Ashreinu in Beit Shemesh.

He was a recent graduate of the Maimonides School in Brookline, Massachusetts, and had been a counselor at Camp Yavneh, a Jewish summer camp in Northwood, New Hampshire.

At least one attacker, reported to be a Palestinian, shot into a minivan full of people as well as another car near a traffic junction, then rammed his car into several other cars and bystanders, according to reports. One shooter reportedly exited his car and was shot and injured by security forces.

Schwartz, the second of five children, is the child of Ari and Ruth Schwartz.

“He’s always a fun person to hang out with, very charismatic,” Geoffrey Cahr, a friend who knew Schwartz from camp, told JTA.
“He was a great listener and super down-to-earth.”

One of Schwartz’s favorite pastimes was skiing, according to a family friend from Sharon.

Several friends of Schwartz who also were spending their post-high school gap year in Israel decided to fly back from Tel Aviv to Boston for the funeral. Students at Maimonides were informed of Schwartz’s killing at a school assembly on Thursday.

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‘Red Zone’ filmmaker on finding romance under rockets in Sderot

Filmmaker Laura Bialis had always felt a strong connection to Israel and had traveled there many times before, most recently for her 2007 documentary, “Refusnik,” about the persecution of Soviet Jews. But when she returned that same year to make another film, “Rock in the Red Zone,” her life changed in ways she never expected.

Bialis, a Los Angeles native, took note of news reports about the Negev city of Sderot, where residents, mainly descendents of Jewish refugees from North Africa and the Middle East, had been living under constant rocket fire from Hamas in nearby Gaza for the past seven years. Investigating further, she learned of Sderot’s thriving music scene, full of artists turning their experiences about living under siege in a virtually forgotten town into song. 

Entrance to an underground bomb shelter in Sderot. Photo courtesy of Foundation for Documentary Projects

“What was it like for musicians to make music in a war zone?” Bialis wondered. A month later, she was on a plane to Israel. “It was a passion project. I had no funding, but I had to go. It was like a fire under my tush,” she said.  

Bialis spent three weeks interviewing musicians but realized she needed to live there for a while to weave together the kind of story she wanted to tell. 

“Music,” she learned, “is part of their DNA. In that city, music has been a source of joy and pride for the last 30 years. How can you write love songs to a place that kicks you in the head all the time? I went in with fresh eyes and saw the beauty of the place. It’s a place with a lot of soul and has its own kind of magic that comes through, I think, in the movie.”

One of the featured artists is Avi Vaknin, who refused to participate in her film at first. “He was very skeptical. He felt the way Sderot had been portrayed in the Israeli media was very stereotypical and exploitative, showing traumatized, screaming people in a Qassam rocket attack. He didn’t want to have anything to do with that,” Bialis said. “We had to convince him.”

She enlisted Vaknin’s help in finding a place where she could live. “He was also looking for an apartment, and when we found this huge house, I thought, ‘If he was my roommate, I could film him all the time. This is great.’ We started off as friends and connected on a very deep level creatively. He was like my muse. And then it became romantic,” she said.

Vaknin proposed to Bialis in June 2008, inside one of the bomb shelters that are a necessity on every block in Sderot. “No Qassams were falling at the time,” Bialis said. They married that September, and their daughter, Lily, was born in May 2010 in Tel Aviv. The family moved there so Vaknin could pursue wider opportunities — he now runs a recording studio in Tel Aviv, although they visit his clan in Sderot often.

A self-described adventuresome person who doesn’t shy away from challenging environments, Bialis was not fearful living in Sderot at first. “It actually took living there for two years and knowing Avi and his family to understand the terror of it,” she said. 

“A Qassam has fallen on every inch of that place. There was footage that was too gruesome to put in the movie. If it were not for the bomb shelters and alarms, there would be mass casualties.” Once she had a child, she said, “I had the terrifying realization that this is what I’ve got to protect a kid from.” 

Bialis acknowledged that many others, with the means to do so, leave Sderot. 

“But it is complicated because families are large. It’s a very strong root system, and it’s hard for people to extricate themselves,” she said.

For those who stay, living under constant siege has varying effects. “In some ways, it makes people more resilient. Some totally fall apart from it. Some become stronger. It certainly puts your life in perspective,” she said. “It makes you realize what’s important and not important.”

Bialis, a second-generation Angeleno with family roots in Hungary, Germany, Russia and Poland, grew up in Bel Air near Stephen Wise Temple, where she celebrated her bat mitzvah. She lived in Pacific Palisades as a teen before her family moved to Santa Barbara when she was 16.

She has fond memories of Jewish holiday celebrations, Friday night Shabbat dinners and reading about Jewish history. “I feel that being Jewish is almost the defining identity for me. I was interested in making aliyah even before I met Avi,” she said. 

Bialis is Reform and Ashkenazi, and her husband is from a traditional Moroccan-Jewish family, but they find common ground, she said, aware that if it were not for the movie, they’d have never met. “We always felt that it was meant to be that we’re together, and we still do.”

Although she isn’t religious, her Jewish identity is strong. “For me, it’s all about Judaism as a civilization, about values, about family coming together, the rituals our people have done for thousands of years,” she said. “I feel very connected to the land of Israel and the Jewish people in a way that I really can’t describe or explain.”

“Rock in the Red Zone” is currently playing at Jewish film festivals around the country, including a screening Nov. 23 at the Music Hall in Beverly Hills sponsored by the Los Angeles Jewish Film Festival. 

Bialis said her family will be spending the next 10 months in California while she travels to promote the film. Complicating her journey, however, is that Bialis is now five months pregnant. “It’s a boy,” she said. “I’m so excited. It’s a total blessing, because I’m 42.” 

But as much as she’d love to take time off, she has work to do. “I put eight years of my life into this,” she said of the film. “If I’m not out there making sure it gets into schools and universities and communities in the U.S. and around the world, nobody will.”

When the film screened in Sderot last winter, audiences expressed gratitude to Bialis. “It got a 10-minute standing ovation at the premiere there. Some people said, ‘I can’t believe I live here.’ To see all the events that had happened to the city at once, it was kind of shocking for them,” Bialis said. Others told her, “ ‘You captured the way we feel,’ which was a huge honor. I had gotten it right,” she said.

Elsewhere in Israel, the reaction was surprise, she said. “Wow! We had no idea what Sderot was like and what was going on there,” friends in Tel Aviv told her. 

Bialis hopes to continue to open eyes about Israel and Sderot. “A lot of people don’t know what it’s really like in Israel. There are a lot of stereotypes about it,” she said. “I wanted to introduce people to the life and the people there. There’s something amazing about that in the story, and that’s what I want people to leave with.”

“Rock in the Red Zone” will have a preview screening sponsored by the Los Angeles Jewish Film Festival on Nov. 23 at the Music Hall in Beverly Hills. It opens at the Music Hall and the Laemmle Town Center 5 in Encino  on Dec. 2.

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