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November 30, 2012

Howard Jacobson, in retrospect and looking forward

Finkler QuestionSomething disturbs me about the way Howard Jacobson, the Man Booker Prize winning author of “The Finkler Question,” navigates the rocky road of his fluctuating Jewish identity.  The British Jewish author, who lives in London, sometimes reminds me of the comedian Jon Stewart.  Both men seem wedded to a false sense of self that projects out into the world an aura of fake Jewish cool.  Almost 70 now, Jacobson has written many well-received comic novels that have intelligently and provocatively focused on love, sex, women, friendship and all matters Jewish.  Jacobson does not shy away from his Jewish heritage.  Like Jon Stewart, he embraces it, nervously sending out mixed signals of fear and shame alongside pride and defiance.  He is always first to make fun of himself before you do.  Jacobson’s characters are usually intellectually gifted secular Jewish men lost in the space between the ancient world of their beleaguered parents and the persistent displeasure of their non-Jewish wives.  Reading the determinedly feisty Jacobson can be deliciously captivating.  His frenzied prose is engaging and funny, but he often seems to stop himself from going beyond the comfortable terrain of high-level schtick.  It feels as if he is afraid of what he might find. This restraint seems purposeful and embodies many Jewish men of a certain age who have come to associate vulnerability with weakness, or what they might call a loser’s game.

Jacobson started writing late; he was almost 40.  As a young man, he studied at Cambridge under the esteemed literary critic F.R. Leavis.  He found the experience traumatic.  He writes, “I felt a fool the whole time I was there.  But I felt a fraud, too.  Not because my disposition took me in a non-Leavisite direction—I can’t claim to have been a Talmudic scholar in my native Manchester, but Talmudic criticism is in the blood of most Jews, and “Yes, but” is the principle on which the great Talmudic exegetes built their monumental edifice of commentary and counter-commentary.”  In other words, although Jacobson revered Leavis and his sophisticated theories about critical reading and writing, they had little to do with the reality he had experienced growing up the precocious son of working-class parents.   The world of his family was missing from Leavis’ curriculum, and Jacobson recognized he was out of place.  He was never going to be able to write a proper British literary aristocratic novel, except perhaps as farce.  He needed to embrace the world of his father, a man he describes as “a raucous market-man-cum-children’s magician, later a black-cab driver, a man who loved mirth, threw himself into good works and never read a book in his life.”  Once Jacobson freed himself from trying to be someone he could never be, he began to write feverishly about all sorts of Jewish preoccupations. 

His novels have a glaring Jewish intensity.  For example, in “The Finkler Question,” he writes about a 49-year-old Gentile named Julian Treslove who decides suddenly after being mugged that he possibly might be Jewish.  He certainly wants to be.  His two best friends are Jewish and he has always been fascinated by their unique take on things thinking “They always had something you didn’t, some verbal or theological reserve they could draw on, that would leave you stumped for a response….It was as though they spoke a secret language.  The secret language of the Jews.  In another of his fine novels, “Kalooki Nights,” Max Glickman attempts to put into words what it means to be Jewish stating “So we are an immoderate, overemphatic people, much given to exaggeration-so what?  I call it giving value for money myself.  You prick us so we bleed profusely.”  Jacobson’s Jewish characters are smart, funny, defensive, verbally gifted, and confrontational; desirous of acceptance and yet wary of it; much like Jacobson himself.

In his new work “Zoo Time” (Bloomsbury:  $26.00), 43-year-old Jewish Guy Ableman is an edgy writer living in London who is distraught by the state of the publishing world and fearful that reading is taking a permanent nosedive.  His publisher has just committed suicide and his agent is nowhere to be found.  He finds the new technological inventions like iPads and Kindle and apps disturbing interruptions that have simply made daily life more unpleasant and rude.  He is still turned on by his beautiful wife, Vanessa, but equally attracted to her well-kept and high-breasted mother, Poppy.  His marriage is stressful and argumentative, and he finds himself exhausted by having to continually deflect his wife’s anger.  She wants to write, too, and is jealous of his success and blames him for her own failures.  His obsession with his wife and her mother often overwhelms him.

Jacobson is exquisitely skilled at writing about women, even though most of it is charged with a palpable hostility.  He finds the tension between the sexes exhilarating, and he notices things about women other men never see.  For example, here is Jacobson’s Guy Ableman remembering the first time he saw his tempestuous wife when she walked into his family’s fine clothing store: “To this day I can remember everything Vanessa was wearing — the high black-patent shoes, minimal so that you go to see the arches and her instep; the paper-fine leather coat belted so tight that it did what I thought only a pencil skirt could do, which was to make a still point of tension of her behind, a tremulousness, as though some law of gravity or protuberance were being defied, the V of its fur collar like the vagina of a giantess; and pushed back a little from her red hair a Zhivago hat — Anna Karenina was who I saw (who else?) — the air from our fan heater winnowing its fine hairs, as though a Russian bear had stepped in out of the wind.”

“Zoo Time” is entertaining, witty, fast-paced, and clever.  Classic Jacobson.  But it is missing a certain emotional poignancy that was evident in “The Finkler Question,” which more penetratingly probed the chasm that exists between all Jews and Gentiles.

Jacobson is married now to his third wife, a Jewish woman whom he insists is a keeper.  He has said that he regrets that he wasn’t a better father to his only son, the child of his first brief marriage.  He is a tireless writer, and some readers may be familiar with him from his thought-provoking columns in the Independent where he muses on matters as diverse as Israel’s military policies to Kate Middleton’s recent exposure in France.  He is a strong advocate for Zionism and has written many heartfelt columns about his hostility towards portions of the new left who claim they can be anti-Zionist without being anti-Semitic, a position Jacobson scoffs at.  He has recently said that he has yet to write his memoir about his own angst-ridden childhood and is not certain if he is going to do so, since he is not sure he wants to reconnect with so much pain.  One hopes does make the attempt and gives himself permission to remove the comic mask.  That, too, is a form of Jewish liberation.

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When it Catches on They Won’t Call it Concierge Medicine

The idea that patients are better off paying their doctor directly and using their insurance only for unaffordable catastrophes is gaining some traction. With implementation of the Affordable Care Act looming in 2014 many patients are looking at their doctor’s already crowded waiting room and wondering how their care will be impacted when their doctor is responsible for even more patients. And doctors who even now are swamped and frustrated with insurance bureaucracy are wondering how much worse things will get when they have less time for more patients.

Yesterday Bloomberg Businessweek published an “Health insurance should work more like car insurance,” says Umbehr. “We have car insurance for all the big stuff, but we pay for gas, tires, and oil changes ourselves.”

He's right. ” target=”_blank”>Is Concierge Medicine the Future of Health Care? (Business Week)
” target=”_blank”>Dollars to doughnuts diagnosis (My 2008 op-ed in the LA Times that explains why I got out of the insurance model) 

Important legal mumbo jumbo:
Anything you read on the web should be used to supplement, not replace, your doctor’s advice.  Anything that I write is no exception.  I’m a doctor, but I’m not your doctor.

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Linking to Lincoln on Chanukah

We need to celebrate a Lincoln Chanukah this year.

It’s not because of the new Spielberg movie — that gives us something to do on Christmas Day — but because of the 150th anniversary of a little-known event in American history that threatened to expel a portion of the Civil War-era Jewish population from their homes on the Festival of Lights.

On Dec. 17, 1862, during the heighth of the war, Gen. Ulysses S. Grant issued General Orders 11 expelling “Jews as a class” from a war zone that included areas of Tennessee, Mississippi and Kentucky within a 24-hour period. It was the first day of Chanukah.

At the time, Chanukah was not the major holiday it is now. But Grant’s order, if carried out, meant that entire families would be uprooted during the holiday and beyond, and exiled from their communities.

Today, relaxing in our home with family on Chanukah, retelling the Maccabee story that takes place in a far-off time and land, it’s uncomfortable to imagine a different story about our freedom that hits much closer to home.

On that day, Grant was attempting to cut off the black market sale of southern cotton, in which some Jewish and other traders were engaged.

As researched in the engaging new book “When General Grant Expelled the Jews” by the prominent historian Jonathan D. Sarna, we find that Grant's order was enforced in several towns in Union hands, including Paducah, Ky.; Holly Springs, Miss.; and Trenton, Tenn., among others.

“Only a few Jews were seriously affected by General Orders 11,” perhaps fewer than 100, according to Sarna, but news of the order and the resulting outrage was quickly spread by The Associated Press.

The B’nai B’rith sent a petition to Washington calling upon President Lincoln to “annul” the order. Other Jewish leaders moved to organize delegations to meet with Lincoln. A Jewish merchant from Paducah named Cesar Kaskel traveled to Washington on a mission to have the order overturned. Upon arrival he was able to arrange through an Ohio congressman a meeting with the president.

According to an account of the meeting that Sarna says is often quoted but most likely embellished, Lincoln, using biblical imagery, asked Kaskel, “And so the children of Israel were driven from the happy land of Canaan?” In response, Kaskel asks for “Father Abraham’s” protection, to which Lincoln replies, “And this protection they shall have at once.”

The reality seems to have been that when Lincoln finally heard of Grant’s order, he ordered the general in chief of the Army to countermand it.

An account by the prominent Cincinnati Rabbi Isaac Mayer Wise, who also had met with the president about the issue, provides Lincoln’s rationale: “I do not like to hear a class or nationality condemned on account of a few sinners.”

This Chanukah, then, with Lincoln on our minds, how should we commemorate Lincoln’s action to rescind what Sarna cites as “the most sweeping anti-Jewish regulation in all American History”?

Should we devise a stovepipe hat menorah? Fry up four score latkes or change the lyrics of the modern classic Peter Paul & Mary Chanukah song to “Light one candle for the Tennessee Children”?

Not necessary.

Jews going back to Lincoln’s presidency have found ways to connect before. After his assassination, expressing their sorrow, many rabbis delivered sermons that were collected in a book by Emanuel Hertz titled “Abraham Lincoln: The Tribute of the Synagogue.” The basis for the Library of Congress’ Alfred Whital Stern Collection of Lincolniana was donated by Alfred Stern, a Chicago businessman. There’s even a Lincoln Street in Jerusalem.

Continuing the connection is this year’s Steven Spielberg film about Lincoln’s role in the passage of the 13th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution that abolished slavery. Watching the film, I found it to be an excellent way at Chanukah time to rededicate an interest in Lincoln’s heart, humor and wisdom.

Another film, “Saving Lincoln” by director Salvador Litvak, approaches the Lincoln story through the eyes of his bodyguard. It might prove another way to light up a Chanukah night.

Sarna’s book would be good for any night of the holiday, which many see as a struggle for freedom. For me it was a reminder that the dreidel's message — “a great miracle happened here” — can apply to the U.S. as well.

“In the end, General Orders 11 greatly strengthened America’s Jewish community,” Sarna writes. “The successful campaign to overturn the order made Jews more confident.” And Grant, to “repent” and to “rehabilitate himself with the Jewish community” during his two terms as president “appointed more Jews to office than had any of his predecessors.”

This Chanukah, when we stand before our lit chanukiyot reciting Hanerot Halalu, “These lights which we kindle recall the wondrous triumphs and the miraculous victories,” perhaps we can also recall the victories here of Cesar Kaskel, Rabbi Wise and ultimately Abraham Lincoln, who protected our freedom.

So maybe they weren’t exactly American Maccabees — but Maccabee style for sure.


Edmon J. Rodman is a JTA columnist who writes on Jewish life from Los Angeles. Contact him atedmojace@gmail.com.

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Shining a new light on the Jewish response to Christmas

From Kung Pao kosher comedy to a swinging Mardi Gras version of the “Dreidel” song, two new Chanukah season releases explore the intriguing, delightful and sometimes perplexing ways in which American Jews have responded to Christmas.

In a book and an audio CD compilation, the holiday season known as the “December dilemma” is seen and heard in a new light. An added bonus: the covers of both are enticing and entertaining.

In the book “A Kosher Christmas” (Rutgers University Press, $22.95) subtitled “'Tis the Season to be Jewish,” Joshua Eli Plaut offers a richly detailed, page-turning read that draws on historical documents and ethnographic research sprinkled with often humorous images and photos.

In his introduction Plaut, a rabbi and scholar, admits to a lifelong fascination with Christmas. The son of a rabbi, he recalls as a young child growing up on Long Island in the 1960s that his mother dutifully took him to sit on Santa's lap every December.

“She was never worried about any influence on me as a child because my family was secure in its Jewish identity,” he writes.

Plaut paints a historical portrait of the shifts in American Jewish attitudes toward Christmas — the only American holiday founded on religion, he notes.

Jews have employed “a multitude of strategies to face the particular challenges of Christmas and to overcome feelings of exclusion and isolation,” he writes, adding that Jews actually have played a crucial role in popularizing Christmas by composing many of the country's most beloved holiday songs.

Plaut treats readers to a chapter on the popular Jewish custom of eating Chinese food on Christmas, a tradition that surprisingly dates back more than a century to Eastern European immigrants on the Lower East Side of New York. One  photo shows a sign in a Chinese restaurant window that thanks the Jewish people for their patronage during Christmas.

In the 1990s, comedian Lisa Geduldig hosted the first Kung Pao Kosher Comedy evening of Jewish stand-up comedy in a San Francisco Chinese restaurant on Christmas. Two decades later the event is still going strong and being replicated in cities across America.

On a more serious note, Plaut reveals a long history of Jewish volunteerism on Christmas, serving the needy and working shifts for non-Jewish co-workers, allowing them to spend the day with family and friends.

Plaut also covers the challenges faced by intermarried families at Chanukah and Christmas. He addresses as well the subject of public displays of religious symbols, with Jews on both sides of the issue.

Jonathan Sarna, the American Jewish historian who wrote the foreword, cautions that the book should not be read merely as a story of assimilation. In a phone conversation with JTA, the prominent Brandeis University professor argues that if that were the case, the book would be about how Jews observe Christmas.

Rather, Plaut chronicles how Jews demonstrate their Jewish identity through alternative ways of acting on Christmas that show them to be Jewish and American. Most significant, Sarna asserts, “A Kosher Christmas” is important because it portrays how two religions are transformed by the knowledge of the other.

The CD, “'Twas the Night Before Hanukkah” ($15.99) is a lively and inspiring music collection gathered by the Idelsohn Society, a nonprofit volunteer organization that aims to celebrate a Jewish musical heritage that may be lost to history.

The two-CD set includes 17 tracks for Chanukah and Christmas — some familiar and others that are lesser known. Performers on the Chanukah disc include Woody Guthrie, Cantor Yossele Rosenblatt, Flory Jagoda, Mickey Katz, the Klezmatics and Debbie Friedman. Among the voices that croon and swing on the Christmas disc are The Ramones, Theo Bikel, Dinah Shore, Sammy Davis Jr. and Benny Goodman.

A 31-page booklet of liner notes is a fascinating read of short essays, notes on the songs and colorful reproductions of old Chanukah recordings.

The project started as an effort to present a historical survey of Chanukah music, according to David Katznelson, a veteran record producer who is one of the four principals of the Idelsohn Society. Other members of the core group include Roger Bennett, Courtney Holt and Josh Kun.

As their search deepened, they found noteworthy Chanukah recordings, Katznelson recalls, some by well-known performers, others by little-known singers and educators. But the group was most struck by the abundance of Christmas music by Jewish composers and performers.

“The biggest Jewish names in music have at least one Christmas recording in their catalog,” they write in the liner notes.

The group shifted the lens of their project to tell the full story “of how American Jews used music to negotiate their place in American national culture,” according to the liner notes.

“This was an amazing way to look at Jewish identity in the 20th century, through a combination of the history of Chanukah recordings side by side with Jews performing Christmas songs,” Katznelson affirms.

Some of the earliest Chanukah recordings appear in the 1920s and 1930s. By then, what had been a minor Jewish holiday through the later years of the 19th century had been transformed into a major celebration that was promoted by Jewish religious leaders and embraced by American Jewry.

The emergence of Chanukah recordings parallels that transformation, Katznelson suggests. In the postwar 1950s, in addition to traditional songs, livelier recordings targeted children.

On the Chanukah recording, Katznelson points to “Yevonim” (The Greeks) by Rosenblatt as the showstopper. Rosenblatt, a Ukraine native who immigrated to New York in 1912 at the age of 30, became known in the U.S. as the greatest cantor of his time.

A Yiddish song about the Chanukah oil that burned for eight days, “Yevonim” opens with a chorus of women followed by Rosenblatt's huge, haunting rich tenor full of color and warmth.

Many will be surprised by Guthrie's upbeat version of “Hanukkah Dance,” part of his 1940s collection of Jewish songs made for Moses Asch, founder of Folkways Records.

“He can take anything and make it American,” Katznelson says of the late folk legend, whose centennial birthday this year is being marked by performances of his music across the country.

Sure to be a party favorite is the version of “Dreidel” performed live by Jeremiah Lockwood, Ethan Miller and Luther Dickinson. The song was recorded live at a pop-up Chanukah record store concert hosted last year in San Francisco by the Idelsohn Society.

At the end of the song, the trio takes off into the New Orleans classic “Iko Iko,” sung to the tune of “Dreidel.” The tune no doubt will get listeners off the couch, singing and dancing.

On the Christmas CD, Katznelson is most drawn to Bikel's little-known 1967 recording of “Sweetest Dreams Be Thine.” Bikel, the beloved Jewish folk singer and actor, performs the Christmas song moving between Hebrew and English.

“It's the quintessential track of the whole compilation,” Katznelson says. “It's just Chanukah and Christmas, side by side, a perfect mishmosh.”

Katznelson says the society hopes the music conveys a deeper sense of Jewish history while raising questions that provoke conversation about the meaning of the holiday music.

Some may hear familiar songs in a new perspective, he says.

“This is music that is usually in the background,” Katznelson says. “We're bringing it to the foreground.” 

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Rand Paul to Israel

Sen. Rand Paul (R-Ky.), a skeptic of assistance to Israel who also is considering a 2016 presidential run, will travel to Israel.

Paul will be accompanied by Christian and Jewish leaders, a report Friday on the Christian Broadcasting Network website, and will also visit Jordan.

He will meet with leaders in both countries, as well as Palestinian leaders.

The trip is organized by David Lane, a “prominent evangelical activist,” according to CBN, and will include Republicans from Iowa, the critical first caucus state in the primaries.

Paul has backed eliminating foreign aid, including to Israel, but unlike his father, rep. Ron Paul (R-Texas), who has run for the presidency in the past, he has refrained from using Israel-critical rhetoric, instead framing his opposition to aid as bolstering his policy that Israel should act with a hand free of outside influence.

Paul has attracted conservative grassroots attention because of his budget-slashing rhetoric, but his opposition to Israel assistance has been as an impediment to winning over the party base.

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Senate passes enhanced Iran sanctions

The U.S. Senate, urged by AIPAC, unanimously approved tightened Iran sanctions.

“In an effort to circumvent international sanctions on the Central Bank of Iran, some purchasers of Iranian oil and natural gas have been using gold and other precious metals to pay for petroleum products,” the American Israel Public Affairs Committee said in a letter Friday to Senators considering the legislation, first proposed by Sens. Robert Menendez (D-N.J.), Joe Lieberman (I-Conn.) and Mark Kirk (R-Ill.).

“Iran in turn has used these precious metals to circumvent financial sanctions, using them to barter for goods,” said the AIPAC letter to senators. “The Menendez-Kirk-Lieberman amendment would close this loophole, without impacting humanitarian trade.”

The legislation, attached as an amendment to the National Defense Authorization Act, passed later Friday unanimously, earning AIPAC's praise.

“America must continue to lead the international effort to stop Iran’s illicit nuclear pursuit,” it said in a statement. “AIPAC urges the immediate implementation of the new sanctions.”

Should the House also pass the NDAA, the amendment must survive reconciliation of the House and Senate bills.

Obama is likely in any case to sign the NDAA, considered to be a critical defense spending bill.

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Obama administration pledges more funding for Iron Dome

The Obama administration will seek additional funding for Israel's Iron Dome anti-missile program in the wake of its successes in the most recent Israel-Hamas war.

“This spring, we announced that we would provide $70 million in fiscal 2012 on top of the $205 million previously appropriated to meet Israel's needs for that fiscal year,” Defense Secretary Leon Panetta said at a Pentagon press conference Thursday with his Israeli counterpart, Ehud Barak. “And we will obviously continue to work together to seek additional funding to enable Israel to boost Iron Dome's capacity further and to help prevent the kind of escalation and violence that we've seen.”

Panetta said Iron Dome intercepted 400 rockets during the eight day war, an 85 percent success rate.

On Thursday night, the Senate unanimously approved an amendment to the National Defense Authorization Act that urges the administration to assess further any Israeli need for additional Iron Dome batteries.

Panetta presented Barak, who is retiring, with the Defense Department's highest civilian honor — one traditionally given to U.S. presidents when they leave office — the Distinguished Public Servant Award.

Panetta also presented Barak with a signed photo of the two men at an Iron Dome battery in Israel, in August.

Barak, in turn, presented Panetta with a model of an Iron Dome missile.

Barak is widely admired within the Pentagon establishment, and has been seen especially during his most recent tenure as defense minister in Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu's government as the best address for U.S. pleas to Israel for restraint.

Many of the recent U.S. overtures calling on Israel to keep from striking Iran in a bid to head off its suspected nuclear program were made in representations to Barak.

The press conference, however, suggested that some fissures between the countries persist, particularly regarding Iran and Syria policy.

Panetta said he and Barak had discussed Iran and suggested that Barak agreed with the U.S. assessment that “there is time and space for an effort to try to achieve a diplomatic solution.”

Such a solution, Panetta continued, “remains, I believe, the preferred outcome for both the United States and for Israel,” Panetta said. “After all, Minister Barak is a battle-hardened warrior.  And like so many great military leaders, he is fundamentally a man of peace, because he's seen war firsthand.  He recognizes that we must take every possible step to try to avoid war.”

Barak did not address Iran in his prepared remarks, but, pressed by reporters, implied skepticism of the Obama administration's diplomatic gambits.

“Sanctions are working, and they're more helping than anything I remember in the past, vis-a-vis Iran,” Barak said.  “But I don't believe that this kind of sanctions will bring the ayatollahs into a moment of truth, where they sit around the table and look at each other's eyes and decide that the game is over, they cannot stand it anymore, they're going to give up their nuclear intention.  I don't see it happening.”

Instead, Barak said, Iran would have to be “coerced” into ending the program, which he predicted would happen in 2013.

Barak also offered an implied critique of how the Obama administration was handling the civil war in Syria and the Assad regime's brutal response.

“It's criminal behavior on a global scale, what he's doing to his own people, using jet fighters and helicopters and artillery and tanks, killing his own people,” Barak said.  “The whole world is watching.  And somehow, it's not easy to mobilize enough sense of purpose and unity of action and political will to translate the — our feelings about what happens there into action to stop it.  And that's one of the lessons I have took from the last few years in the Middle East.”

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The rabbi as exemplar of human struggle

by Rabbi Mark Borovitz

This week's blog is an example of a day in the life of Rabbi Mark Borovitz. Since I have been writing about redemption, I thought I would show how much it imbues my life and the lives of others. This is a compilation of a few different days.

Here it is:

3:00 am: Wake up- not exactly sure why, it just seems as if this is the time when my wife Harriet and I are able to spend uninterrupted time together to ensure our spiritual connection, talk about ideas and how to bring them to fruition personally, professionally and for others. Our discussions center on how to enhance our own redemption and spread this message of hope to others.  Harriet always goes to work out after we have coffee and I have recently committed to do the same.

6:00: I usually meet with graduates and/or employees to study some spiritual text and help them with the challenges that life/work is presenting. We look at the whole picture, always seeing the situation as a way of growing and learning more. The solutions are never about blame; they are about solutions as to how to redeem moments, events, and souls. The issues raised always speak to my own inner conflicts. I want to just tell someone what the next right thing is according to how I see the situation. However I know I have to make sure I ask the right questions so the other person reaches the best solution for themselves; always hearing the call of their soul.

7:30: Torah Study with primary residents – this is a time for me to interact with the newer people at Beit T’Shuvah. I teach that Torah is relevant and necessary to living well, which is the purpose of Beit T’Shuvah and, in my opinion, Judaism and every other Spiritual Path. I believe that we have to see ourselves in every Torah portion, every chapter of Torah and Tanakh. If we don't, we are hiding from ourselves, others and God. From our place of hiding comes blame and shame that Adam and Eve experienced in “the Garden of Eden” story. When a resident confronts me on my way of reading Torah either from a more “either/or”, traditional or non-believing stance, I have to take a breath and remember that my role is to demonstrate the wrestling that living a Spiritual Life entails. I want to just send forth “fire and brimstone” yet I know that this is not the way. I want to ask, ” who are you to question me, I have the experience that you don't!!” What I do most of the time since I am not perfect is to ask the person more questions about what they are saying. I find that this brings about more discussion and we all find the “right” questions for this moment, experience. It takes more patience and control then I want to exhibit at times and doing the next right thing is the most important action I can model for others, especially people who are new in Recovery. 

8:00: My plan of meeting with a resident or staff person is interrupted by a frantic phone call from a family member who's son, daughter, cousin, nephew/niece, parent, spouse and/or friend wants a bed. I am reminded of something my aunt taught me, “be careful what you ask for, you might get it!” Harriet and I have worked hard for all these years to build an innovative, state of the art, center for healing of addictive disorders, family wellness, Jewish spirituality and living well. We have succeeded in these aspects and our success has made more people want our services than we can accommodate. When the person on the other side of the line is desperate, it is hard for me to not feed into their desperation. I am worried about how this will affect fundraising, our reputation, etc. I want to say talk to the staff in charge AND I know they are calling me because they are desperate and the staff has put their person on the waiting list. I have to assess the acuteness of this situation and talk the family off the ledge. It usually ends with me agreeing to see the people, the addict and the family that day and shuffling around my schedule. There are times when I don't want to deal with this stuff anymore; yet, I wrestle with my own personal mission and Rabbinate. They are one in the same: to be a personal Rabbi who deals with each person as an advocate of their soul and a shleioch/representative of God. So I do see the people and usually find a solution even if I have to use my discretionary fund to pay for a sober living until a bed comes available.

More to come next week.

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Stevie Disses Israel

Stevie Wonder’s statement on why he ditched the FIDF banquet sounds like he is being impartial. Yet, a real impartiality would be to play for both audiences. The fact that he cancelled is a victory for Israel’s enemies — and a major dis to Israel.

A Message from Stevie Wonder
Given the current and very delicate situation in the Middle East, and with a heart that has always cried out for world unity, I will not be performing at the FIDF Gala on December 6th. I am respectfully withdrawing my participation from this year’s event to avoid the appearance of partiality. As a Messenger of Peace, I am and have always been against war, any war, anywhere. In consistently keeping with my spirit of giving, I will make a personal contribution to organizations that support Israeli and Palestinian children with disabilities.

Hoping for one world, one people, one day, Stevie Wonder.

Stevie we are all for world peace. Count me in. But this move is a sucker punch, a coup for BDS, and will not advance the cause of peace one iota. And as a Detroiter, this just got personal.

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One Israeli Creation for the Weekend

Have you heard of Noa Tishby? If not- now is the time to memorize that name. Tishby is a household name in Israel, and also maintains an impressive acting career in the United States. In fact, I believe she is the most appreciated by Israelis than all her Israelis- in- Hollywood peers. What makes her so special is not her many roles in television (Charmed, Nip/Tuck, Las Vegas, Big Love, NCIS, CSI:Miami and more), or her roles in film (The Island, Connecting Dots, The Ghost of Girlfriends Past…) What really make her the greatest is her pro-Israel activism. Tishby is an advocate of Israel, and she is not afraid to leverage her status in Hollywood to speak for Israel in every opportunity. Tishby is a member of AIPAC (the American Israel Public Affairs Committee) and has traveled to Washington, D.C. to lobby on Capitol Hill. She is also a member of The Israeli Consulate Speakers Bureau and the ILC (Israeli Leadership Council). She is also co-Founder of the digital activist group: Act for Israel. Moreover, Noa was on The Jerusalem Post list of the 50 most influential Jews in the world alongside Benjamin Netanyahu, Natalie Portman and Mark Zuckerberg.

Her activism is not something to be taken for granted. Many Israelis abroad are afraid to put their nationality on display, because of the not-so-pro-Israeli public opinion, but Tishby really puts her country first, which really makes her an Israeli pride.

 

Noa Tishby talks about Israel's image in the United States

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