September 17, 2019

How to Help Your Child Deal with a Bully

“The moment you find out you’re going to be a parent, the expectations start. You can envision that baby growing into a funny, strong, smart person, one you’ll protect and defend, guide and teach. You think your plans will come to be because if you love hard enough and work hard enough, of course it’ll work out. Right?

But what happens when life throws you a curveball?

That’s what happened in our family when our son became a victim of bullying at the very place he’s supposed to be safe and secure: school.

As the wife of a former NBA player, I always knew my kids might face some public scrutiny. And like most parents, I will always ferociously protect my children without a second thought.

Our child, an 11-year-old African American boy with ADHD, was doing okay until he was a fifth-grader in 2018 and things started to fall apart. Quite honestly, it wasn’t a surprise. Making new friends didn’t come naturally to him.

When he started at this new school in August 2017, things were tough, but we just thought he needed to get used to the school and its higher expectations. Teasing began almost right away, and he was having a hard time connecting. My husband and I learned what was happening, and we started to meet with my son’s teachers for regular conferences, emailing almost daily to check on his progress. They suggested my husband and I have him tested for a true ADHD diagnosis. We agreed.”

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