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August 29, 2016

Mel Brooks and other stars mourn passing of Gene Wilder

It was a sad day in Hollywood on Monday as the world learned that Gene Wilder, one of the most beloved comic actors of the ’70s and ’80s, had passed away at the age of 83.

The Jewish star, born Jerome Silberman and known for his roles in an array of classic films — from “Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory” to “Young Frankenstein” to “Stir Crazy” — succumbed to complications from Alzheimer’s disease, which his family said he had suffered from for three years.

If the news itself doesn’t moisten your tear ducts, get this: Wilder’s nephew said in a statement that the song “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” was playing in the room as the actor passed away.

Mel Brooks, the Jewish comedy legend who collaborated with Wilder in a series of comedic triumphs (“Blazing Saddles,” “Young Frankenstein” and “The Producers,” in which he co-starred with Zero Mostel), was one of the first to react to the somber news in touching fashion.

But countless other celebrities (including several Jewish ones) also took to Twitter to pay heartfelt tributes to the actor once described by The New Yorker critic Pauline Kael as a “magnetic blur” who made barely controlled hysteria “his dazzling specialty.”

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Planning your wedding – the most important decisions.

When you have nothing other than “we want to get married”… which is of course the most important part, it has to feel pretty overwhelming! Just know that the first decisions are the hardest. As you go along everything will start to fall into place and it will get easier. If you decided on a long-ish engagement it will give you time to get everything done without any (or too much) panic.

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THIS IS YOUR DAY! Remember this when you are inundated with advice and suggestions! Nothing is as important as what you and your partner want for this special day. Not what is currently trending, and not what the wedding industry wants to sell you nor what the world thinks. If you feel you want to include close family in your decisions of course do so, but still you should draw boundaries from the beginning and make it clear to everyone what is important to the two of you, what you won’t compromise on and that the final decision is yours. I have seen too many brides or couples distraught by family who didn’t have the wedding they wanted and sometimes, even subconsciously, want to finally see their dreams realized through their child’s wedding. I am not saying you shouldn’t listen to advice as we often get carried away with plans and a voice of reason can point out how our plans may not be realistic but still, this is your day and most importantly…. Have fun with it!

YOUR VISION. When deciding on the type of wedding you want, I suggest that you and your fiancé take some time to sit (just the two of you initially) and discuss your vision for your special day. Are you an outdoor, casual rustic barn, free spirited, or the elegant, ballroom, everything-has-to-be-perfect type of couple, or somewhere in between? What is your favorite season and location? If your vision is not quite the same, decide how you can compromise. Maybe one partner can choose the venue and the other the location? First decide on the big picture and then work on the details. Your wedding doesn’t need a theme or color scheme if this isn’t you but if it is, this is not something you need to decide right away either. Often those details will just fall into place as time goes by. Decide on the must-haves, the would-like-to-haves and the wish-list if you have enough money left in the budget, if this is a determining factor. Think about the type of food you want to serve and just in general what you would like for this very special day.

YOUR WEDDING DATE: This is of course the most important decision to make and you may wonder where do you start? This is a question unique to each couple and you will decide what is the most important factor for both of you and you really cannot commit to anything until you have made this decision. My suggestion is give yourself plenty of time to plan for the things that are truly important to you, such as the availability of family and bridal party, whether it’s incorporating lace from your mom’s dress to use in your own gown or your favorite venue being available. Many factors play a part in this decision especially weather and guest list. If you are in California I have found that the nicest weather is during Spring and Fall as it usually isn’t too hot or cold. Every season has its unique beauty (and challenges) and your personal preference is the deciding factor here. There are definite dates to avoid such Jewish religious holidays, high stress crunch time deadlines at work and so forth and you may want to consider avoiding major holidays such as Christmas and New Year’s Eve, event weekends or major sporting events, Mother and Father’s Day and other holidays of this nature, and of course September 11th as you want to celebrate your wedding day for years to come you don’t want it to conflict with another important date. In addition, the price of hotels, flights and car rentals can get expensive during the holidays and you want to be cognizant of your guests’ budget constraints also. Certain months may help cut down on venue rental fees but then you would have to consider that your favorite flowers might not be in season. If you want Valentine’s Day remember that the price of flowers is unbelievably expensive and can make a serious dent in your budget. The options are almost endless so here too the “must-haves” can help you make this decision. Once you have potential dates narrowed down to a month or two you should consider whether there are any dates that are meaningful to you as a couple or as individuals such as honoring a family member who is no longer alive by getting married on their birthday or anniversary.

YOUR GUEST LIST: An important factor that will determine many things, will be who you want at the wedding. It will determine the cost of the wedding and can even determine the location and date if this is the most important aspect for you. Did you want “everyone” at the wedding or just a small intimate group consisting of close family and friends? Of course not everyone you invite will be able to attend so you should make peace with that. We have found that for the most part about 70% of invited guests will attend however the smaller the guest list the most likely you are to have almost everyone there as a small guest list usually indicate close family and friends who will make sure they attend. You cannot fit your wedding date into everyone’s schedule and at some point you are going to have to choose one so I would pick one you both want most and then communicate with loved ones and those you want in your bridal party as well as your favorite officiant to see whether that date will work for them.

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Once you have the preferred guest list and the date confirmed make a list of who else you would love to have at your wedding. Knowing your audience and whether they are likely to attend will be helpful with picking the location and size of the venue. If your guest list consists of friends and family who are mostly local, then you can be reasonably certain that they will attend. Don’t go down the slippery slope of asking friends if they are available! Once you have your cannot-get-married-without guest list completed, stick to it! You can always throw another party to celebrate with those who could not make it a few months later or on your first anniversary.

The most important factor that will determine the size of your wedding guest list is of course your budget but more about that in the next post. Have a wonderful week!

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The Weirdest Torah Theory You Never Heard

It’s a weird theory about the Torah. You’ve never heard of it. And it’s really a thing.

Of course, you’ve heard of other theories. The documentary hypothesis says that ancient editors assembled the Torah from four different sources, J, P, E, and D. Academic Bible scholars use it to explain inconsistencies in the facts, vocabulary, and style of different parts of the Torah.

And you’ve heard of Torah min Hashamayim: the theory that God dictated the entire Torah, including the Oral Torah, to Moses at Sinai. Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks gave a wonderful modern gloss on that theory:

“The idea of ‘Torah from Heaven’ was, even before it was explicitly formulated, far more than a belief about the origin of a text. It was a belief about the origin of a destiny. ‘Torah from Heaven’ did more than negate the idea that a people was the author of its own texts. It reversed it. It suggested that the text was the author of the people.” (Crisis and Covenant, but read it at the library, since it costs $300 on Amazon.)

Whether you agree or disagree with those theories, they make intuitive sense. But Julian Jaynes, an American psychologist, argued in the 1970s for a radically un-intuitive idea: that people in ancient times, including people described in the Torah, were not conscious.

That’s quite a stark headline to come out of a book with the ponderous title of The Origin of Consciousness in the Breakdown of the Bicameral Mind. Even so, it’s attracted interest and a surprising amount of support, including a few rabbis. I think he’s wrong, but his book is fascinating. He discusses the nature of consciousness, the neuroscience of his time (some now disproven), the evolution of language, and the development of civilization.

Jaynes noticed that the oldest ancient literature, including the Torah, seldom referred to anyone’s mental life. The gods commanded, and the people obeyed. Society was organized on the same lines. He argues that it both reflected and shaped how people thought: the “bicameral mind.” One part of the mind did the decision-making. Then it told the other part of the mind what to do:

“Volition, planning, initiative is organized with no consciousness whatever and then ‘told’ to the individual in his familiar language, sometimes with the visual aura of a familiar friend or authority figure or ‘god’, or sometimes as a voice alone. The individual obeyed these hallucinated voices because he could not ‘see’ what to do by himself.”

My first reaction was probably the same as yours: “That’s completely nuts.” But Jaynes does assemble evidence and make arguments. He notes that the oldest stories often have God or gods speaking to humans and telling them what to do. As centuries pass, such apparitions become less frequent. Eventually, they disappear except for the visions of a few prophets.

And I must admit, it lends more plausibility to stories like the binding of Isaac in Genesis 22. Abraham hears a voice that tells him what to do, and he prepares to do it? That doesn’t make Jaynes’s explanation right, but it makes you think. Rabbi James Cohn thinks it’s right:

“Unable to disobey these voices, the inhabitants of ancient society acted according to the voice. This voice of God, or of the gods, was experienced as an externally heard voice, precisely as you hear the voice of a person with whom you’re having a conversation. Although the voice was a product of the individual mind, the culture of the time raised people to perceive the voice as externally produced.” (Minds of the Bible)

What changed? Here, Jaynes has more speculation than argument. He thinks that social chaos and the development of writing made people less reliant on hallucinated voices:

“This loosening of the god-man partnership by trade and by writing was the background of what happened. But the immediate and precipitate cause of the breakdown of the bicameral mind, of the wedge of consciousness between god and man, between hallucinated voice and automaton action, was that in social chaos the gods could not tell you what to do – or if they did, they led to death.”

It’s certainly not going to replace more mainstream theories of the Torah. However, it shines an interesting light on ancient history and our modern preconceptions of what people were like.

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Gene Wilder, ‘Willy Wonka’ star and comedic icon, dies at 83

Gene Wilder, a comedic actor known for playing wild-eyed eccentrics such as the titular characters in “Young Frankenstein” and “Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory,” has died at 83.

Wilder, who was Jewish, died Sunday from complications of Alzheimer’s disease, his nephew, filmmaker Jordan Walker-Pearlman, told The Associated Press.

Born Jerome Silberman in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, in 1933, Wilder later adopted his stage name, saying he couldn’t imagine a marquee reading “Jerome Silberman as ‘Hamlet.'”

He worked closely with Jewish director Mel Brooks. In addition to starring in Brooks’ “Young Frankenstein” as the American grandson of the creator of the famous monster, he portrayed accountant Leo Bloom in “The Producers” opposite “Fiddler on the Roof” star Zero Mostel’s Max Bialystock, and a hard-drinking, pot-smoking gunman, the Waco Kid, in the satirical Western “Blazing Saddles.”

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The New York Times called Wilder’s performance in “Young Frankenstein,” which he co-wrote with Brooks, a “marvelous addled mixture of young Tom Edison, Winnie-the-Pooh, and your average Playboy reader with a keen appreciation of beautiful bosoms.” “Blazing Saddles” and “Young Frankenstein,” were, respectively, the top and fourth-highest grossing movies of 1974.

In 1972, Wilder appeared in the Woody Allen film “Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex* (*But Were Afraid to Ask).”

Wilder also starred as Avram Belinski, a rabbi who befriends a bank robber played by a young Harrison Ford, in the 1979 Western comedy “The Frisco Kid.”

He and the late comedian Richard Pryor also teamed up in a series of black-Jewish buddy movies, including “Stir Crazy” and  “Silver Streak.”

Wilder was married four times, including to Jewish comedian Gilda Radner in 1984. Radner died of ovarian cancer in 1989.

Following her death, Wilder became active in promoting cancer awareness and research, co-founding “Gilda’s Club,” a nonprofit organization providing support to those affected by cancer.

In 1991, he married Karen Webb, a speech therapist, and the couple was together until Wilder’s death.

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Pence ‘bothered’ by Duke’s praise of Trump

Republican vice presidential candidate Mike Pence on Sunday said he’s troubled by David Duke’s continual praise of his running mate, Donald Trump.

“It does really bother me, ” Pence told Jake Tapper on CNN’s “State of the Union” program. “And Donald Trump made it clear repeatedly in this week that not only does he denounce David Duke, but we don’t want the support of people who think like David Duke.”

But Pence kicked the ball back into Hillary Clinton’s court by pointing out that the father of the Orlando nightclub terrorist attended a rally and expressed his support for the Democratic nominee. “The fact that an individual, a contemptible individual like that supports my running mate is no more relevant than the fact that the father of a man who killed 49 people in Orlando, Florida, was cheering Hillary Clinton at one of her rallies,” he said. 

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McMullin says Gen. Hayden is advising him on national security

Former CIA and NSA Director General Michael Hayden is advising independent presidential candidate Evan McMullin on national security matters, the candidate revealed in an interview on Monday.

“General Hayden has been very helpful, and I greatly respect him,” McMullin told Jewish Insider in a wide-ranging interview. “I think he’s got one of the greatest national security strategic minds in the country, and he’s been very supportive. There are others too that I imagine will be public about their engagement with my efforts.”

Last week, Hayden said he will be voting for a third-party candidate over the Republican and Democratic nominees for president. “I’m uncomfortable with the nominee of both of the major political parties,” Hayden said on John Catsimatidis’s “>letter earlier this month. “Indeed, we are convinced that he would be a dangerous president and would put at risk our country’s national security and well-being.”

McMullin said that some of the signatories are advising him and some have indicated that he can count on their support, but he wouldn’t name them. “These are good men and women who put the interest of the country first,” he said. “They understand, like me, having served in the capacity they have, that Donald Trump is a true threat to our republic given his admiration for authoritarianism, his embracing of racial hatred, and his alignment with Vladimir Putin.”

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If you will it, it is no dream

Every trip to New York for me is a return to the old country. Even in California, I live in the sixth borough; a bicoastal netherworld that feels like the real thing though I am 3,000 miles away on the Best Coast.

Still, New York has changed profoundly since I last lived here back in the ‘80s and as a child growing up in the ‘60s and ‘70s. Most striking perhaps is how I can walk almost anywhere without fearing that I will be mugged or worse by a guy jonesing for his next vial of crack.

I live to walk in any city, but none more than The City. Alfred Kazin’s adoring portrait of working-class Jewish Brownsville, A Walker in the City, has been my talmud since I read it for the first time in my twenties.

On this most recent trip back to the New Jerusalem I revisited Brownsville and East New York with Bill Helmreich, a City College sociology professor whose mind is like Google when it comes to New York. The professor has walked every street in the city and has almost perfect recall of what he has seen, learned and eaten.

I meet Bill and his wife Helaine, an accomplished writer in her own right, under the elevated A train near Liberty and 80th Street in Ozone Park, Queens. Arriving early, I browse the Bangladeshi markets on 101st Avenue, taking in the ad in the window of one of the stores for Qurbani. Curious about this holiday I have never heard of, I go online and learn that Qurbani, celebrated during Eid-ul Adha is an act to commemorate the Prophet Ibrahim’s sacrifice as mentioned in the Quran. Qurbani in Islamic law means the slaughtering of an animal with the intention of getting close to Allah by giving the meat to the poor.

The author of thirteen books, including The New York Nobody Knows: Walking 6,000 Miles in the City (Princeton University Press, 2013), Helmreich’s next must-read for anyone who wants to discover New York, The Brooklyn Nobody Knows – An Urban Walking Guide (Princeton), is due out soon. I read the book’s galley proofs on Brownsville and East New York while heading over to Brooklyn.

Helmreich starts our tour on Blake Avenue in East New York, an area I remember as where Goodie, Mr. Goodie, who did collections for my uncle’s burglar alarm business, was twice mugged in a day back in the late ‘70s when I worked for the company as well.

We are near the Louis Pink Houses on Linden Blvd, perhaps the most infamous of the New York City Housing Authority (NYCHA) projects in a neighborhood still known as the most dangerous in all of New York. The Pink Houses is a place where guys involved in drug deals gone bad have been thrown to their death out the window of an apartment on one of the upper floors. With a waiting list of several hundred thousand people seeking admission to public housing in New York City, East New York and neighboring Brownsville have New York’s highest concentration of public housing.

Helmreich has taken us here, just several blocks away, to see the Mafia graveyard on streets like Elden between Linden Blvd and Blake Avenue.

Gone is Murder Inc., the brutal Jewish/Italian gang that once ran numbers and other rackets in the area. Still, the Mafia graveyard is where a Genovese Family capo ran a chop shop and where hundreds of bodies of their victims are rumored to have been buried. The victims would be drained of their blood and chopped up and buried in this area which in places looks more like rural parts of New Jersey or Long Island than East Brooklyn. With its overgrown lots littered with industrial equipment and trucks, the streets here remind me of forgotten, undeveloped parts of Pacoima and Van Nuys. There are even the occasional well-tended gardens of industrious residents who find a higher use for the open space that can still be found here, a short distance from the projects.

I ask Professor Helmreich, “Where are New York’s poor moving given the City’s unstoppable gentrification?” To the Rockaways, the West Bronx and the mid-Bronx. The hipster gentrification that has hit the Rockaways is in the 80s and 90s while the poor are concentrated in the 30s, 40s and 50s.

East New York and Brownsville have special resonance for me as they are where my father was born and lived until his family, like so many other Jews, left the shtetl for better off areas of Brooklyn and beyond. In his case it was Ocean Avenue and Avenue V close to Neck Road (Gravesend Neck Road) in Sheepshead Bay. From there he was zoned to attend the renowned James Madison High School, where his classmates included Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg. Notorious RBG was also a candidate for office the year my father was elected president of the school.

Leaving the Mafia graveyard, we head to Alabama Avenue near New Lots Avenue, to my father’s East New York childhood home. He’s now 83 but he remembers like it was yesterday, the extended family life and the rock fights he and the other Jewish kids on his end of the block had with the Italian kids on the other end of Alabama. My father’s red brick two family house is still there and the block is practically leafy with its mature sycamores lining the street. A large community garden grows on once bustling New Lots Avenue at Alabama and the street’s current residents, a mix of African Americans and Latinos, are cordial if not friendly, to three obvious outsiders.

For the Epstein and Kolb families who lived here, even with its rock fights, Alabama Avenue was a move up from the teaming squalor of the Lower East Side; a way station on the family’s way to Great Neck, Scarsdale, L.A.’s Westside and New York’s Upper West Side.

Is this what Theodor Herzl meant when he wrote, “If you will it, it is no dream.” These are the words I read on a colorful oversized mural on Herzl Street off Pitkin Avenue in nearby Brownsville. Admiring the mural and the monument in Zion Triangle, a pocket park next to the former Loew’s Pitkin theatre, that commemorates Jewish World War I soldiers, the utterly secular Jew that I am is proud of the strong Jewish connection my children have found in the Habonim Dror youth movement and at its Camp Gilboa in Southern California.

Dominican men playing dominos have replaced the  Jewish Bundist, Worksmen’s Circle and Labor Zionists arguing politics in Zion Triangle. Do these newer arrivals know that the country of their birth was one of the few countries willing to accept mass Jewish immigration during World War II? Do they know about the importance of Sosúa where 700 European Jews found a safe haven from the Nazis? Do most Jews know this important footnote of Dominican history?

I wonder if the area’s current residents are even aware of who Theodor Herzl was and the fact that his empowering declaration inspired a downtrodden, disenfranchised people to create the democratic State of Israel.

Perhaps my children arguing with their friends about the police shootings of unarmed black men, fossil fuel divestment, gender equality and pluralistic Zionism are not that different after all from their ancestors in Zion Triangle.

“If you will it, it is no dream.”


Joel Epstein is a Los Angeles-based walker in the city and a senior advisor to companies, law firms, foundations and public initiatives on communications strategy, government affairs and corporate social responsibility.

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Benjamin Ben-Eliezer, ex-defense minister and longtime Knesset member, dies at 80

Benjamin Ben-Eliezer, a former Labor Party leader and defense minister who served in the Knesset for 30 years, has died.

Ben Eliezer, who withdrew from the country’s presidential election in 2014 over corruption charges, died Sunday in a Tel Aviv hospital. He was 80.

Known by the nickname “Fouad,” Ben-Eliezer served in the Knesset from 1984 through 2014. He led the Labor Party in 2001 and 2002.

In the early 2000s he was the defense minister for four years under Prime Minister Ariel Sharon during the second Palestinian intifada. The West Bank security fence was built during his tenure.

In December 2014, Ben Eliezer resigned from the Knesset for health reasons. A year later he was indicted for receiving more than $500,000 from businessmen in return for political favors. He paid a nearly $3 million fine in a plea bargain in May, which kept him out of prison.

Along with being defense minister, he served in the Cabinet as housing, infrastructure, communications, and industry and trade minister.

Ben-Eliezer was born in Basra, Iraq, in 1936 and immigrated to Israel as a teen immediately after the birth of the state. He had a distinguished military career in Israel, beginning his service in the Israel Defense Forces in the Golani Brigade, which he served as an officer. He served as deputy battalion commander during the Yom Kippur War, and was appointed battalion commander of the IDF brigade responsible for protecting the Lebanese border. He was the first commander of South Lebanon, and served as commander of the Judea and Samaria region for four years until 1982, when he retired from the IDF, returning in 1984 for one year to serve as coordinator of government activities in the West Bank and Gaza.

On a visit to Tunisia in 1994 with Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin, Ben Eliezer became the first Israeli minister to meet PLO Chairman Yasser Arafat.

In December 2014, Ben-Eliezer received a kidney transplant and several months later was placed in a medically induced coma with a serious case of the flu until his health improved.

“Fouad served the State of Israel for decades as a fighter, commander, public servant and senior government minister,” Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said in a statement. “I knew him and I esteemed his contribution and his special personality. In my many conversations with him, Fouad expressed his concern for – and commitment to – the future of the State of Israel that he loved so much. May his memory be blessed.”

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SOUTHSIDE WITH YOU *Movie Review*

A romance is a romance and that’s the ultimate take-away from writer/director Richard Tanne‘s SOUTHSIDE WITH YOU.  The movie depicts President Barak Obama’s first date with his now-wife, Michelle.  Regardless of your political affiliation, this is a romance that won’t disappoint.  It’s well made and well acted.

One of the qualities I appreciated the most about SOUTHSIDE WITH YOU is that there weren’t big moments added for dramatic tension.  A lot of times indie movies with real stories translate ‘real’ to ‘misery’.  Rather than going that route, SOUTHSIDE WITH YOU provides an escapism movie threaded with meaning, themes of forgiveness, learning what you want from life, not judging, and striving for more even if you don’t know what that ‘more’ is at the moment.

Tika Sumpter stars as Michelle Robinson and Parker Sawyers as Barak Obama and it’s their chemistry that carries a film which is otherwise walking and talking.  As the movie unfolds, viewers get to enjoy how the pair get to know each other, prickle at each other and see the best in each other.  It’s truly like going along on a good first date.

For more about the film’s themes and eagle eye details to watch for, take a look below:

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