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June 28, 2016

Fire breaks out at Sonny Alexander Flowers on Pico Boulevard

A fire engulfed Sonny Alexander Flowers, on the south side of Pico Boulevard and Rexford Drive, at about 2 a.m. Monday morning.

There were no injuries and the cause of the blaze was under investigation as of Monday afternoon.

Michael Rubin, an insurance adjustor for Michael Rubin, Inc. who was on the scene of the incident on Monday, speculated that the cause had “something to do with the wiring.”

75 firefighters responded to the scene, according to mynewsla.com.

Avner Banayan, owner of neighboring business Eilat Burger, praised the efforts of the firefighters that responded to the blaze. He said they did a “very good job.”

The store is located near The Mark, Factor’s Deli and other well-known Pico-Robertson area businesses and restaurants.

Rubble was piled onto the ground outside the back entrance of the shop. There was black staining of the exterior walls, caused by the smoke of the fire, according to Rubin. He estimated the fire caused “at least $200,000 in damage to the building.”

The owners of the business were not immediately available for comment.

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Durdane Aghayeva is a Muslim woman from Azerbaijan with a special connection to Jewish communities across the world, particularly here in Los Angeles. Durdane is a survivor of torture and a passionate advocate for peace. She works tirelessly for the empowerment of all survivors, to help others to find strength and healing through the unifying process of sharing.

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A Jewish Parliamentarian in a Muslim Land

I recently read an article published by the Huffington Post, discussing the current state of anti-Semitism in the United States. The article shed light on what has become a growing problem. One particular example stood out: it discussed recent anti-Semitic attacks on California Congressional candidate Erin Schrode. These shocking viral attacks taking place in 2016, even more so in California, a place known to stand for progressive values and supporting a large and strong Jewish community. The Anti-Defamation League recently reported that in 2015 attacks against Jews in the U.S., online and in person, increased by over 3% compared to 2014. Whether it is the new political climate or the sign of a cultural shift, it is quite disturbing. It makes me very sad to read these reports and learn about Ms. Schrode’s experience, and I cannot help but reflect on how unlikely this would be in my country, the majority-Muslim Republic of Azerbaijan.

Azerbaijan has had Jewish elected officials throughout its independence, including during the very first and short-lived independence of 1918-1920, when Azerbaijan became the first-ever secular democracy among Muslim countries. Many local Jews were members of Azerbaijan’s first Parliament. Also an Azerbaijani Jewish leader, Yevsey Gindes, served as a Cabinet Minister for Health until the Soviet takeover in 1920. It may seem hard to believe that a Jew could be elected in such a time and part of the world, but Gindes’s role in helping to guide the first Muslim democracy in the entire world was emblematic of Azerbaijan’s longstanding policy and national personality; of recognizing and celebrating religious and ethnic diversity.

Even under the totalitarian Soviet Union, Jews of Azerbaijan were much more free than in many other Soviet republics. That’s the reason why so many Jews were moving to Azerbaijan from other parts of the USSR.

The first Republic’s tradition of tolerance and inclusion continued under the second Republic of Azerbaijan, which was established in 1991 following the collapse of the Soviet Union. With the election of President Heydar Aliyev in 1993, the religious and ethnic tolerance and inclusion became a strong and effective government policy, which has been solidified further under President Ilham Aliyev.

Today the Parliament of Azerbaijan (Milli Majlis) has members of various ethnic minorities living in Azerbaijan. One of them is Yevda Abramov, a proud member of our own Mountainous Jewish community. Since 2005, Yevda Abramov has served as MP, representing the 53rd Quba-Qusar election district of Azerbaijan. Mr. Abramov was born in 1948, to a Mountainous Jewish peasant family in the Red Town of the Quba region. Considered to be one of the world’s largest all-Jewish towns outside of Israel, Red Town was established in 1742 by the Azerbaijani Muslim ruler of the Quba region, Huseyngulu Khan. This ruler and his son Fatali Khan gave full protection to Jews. That same town is the birthplace and hometown of our current Jewish Parliamentarian.

Abramov attended a Red Town school before embarking on a long road of higher education, to study history and international relations, and eventually became one of the most recognized educators in Azerbaijan.

2005 was not Abramov’s first step in politics. His leadership began long ago, when his career in education grew into policy and advocacy work in Quba. After completing mandatory Soviet military service in the early 1970’s, Abramov returned to Quba to begin working on educational issues, and expanded to improving the governance and infrastructure of his beloved hometown. In 1999, he created the Red Town branch of the New Azerbaijan Party and led this branch until he was elected to Parliament in 2005.

If one steps back to consider a Jewish lawmaker in a Muslim nation, it’s quite remarkable. Mr. Abramov, thrice elected to Parliament, is deeply engaged in the growth and independence of Azerbaijan, and serves as deputy chairman of the Parliament’s Human Rights Committee, and is head of the Azerbaijan-Israel Inter-Parliamentary Friendship Group.

Mr. Abramov has been a strong advocate for positive relationships between Azerbaijan and our allies, and has traveled extensively to reinforce this message, visiting Israel at least 8 times, and also France and Italy and other countries of Europe, the Caucasus and the Middle East. With the same message, he has visited the U.S. on 3 different occasions.

It was only a year and a half ago now that Abramov and I last visited Los Angeles. We came as part of a delegation of Mountainous Jewish leaders from Azerbaijan, to share in the joy and excitement of a very special celebration. Rabbi David Wolpe and the Sinai Temple Men’s Club had done something very special. Their generous community raised funds to commission the creation of a new Sefer Torah, and gifted it to the Mountainous Jewish Synagogue of Baku, Azerbaijan. The power and significance of such a special gift requires little explaining. Yevda Abramov and I joined our Synagogue’s Rabbi and others to receive this Torah and celebrate with our brothers and sisters of Sinai Temple. Months later, a delegation of 45 members of Sinai Temple visited Azerbaijan, and we danced on the streets of Baku with the Torah they had given us.

It seems from the news I read about anti-Semitism in the West, and considering the history and modern reality of positive diversity in Azerbaijan, that the example of Yevda Abramov should be widely shared, as it can serve as a working model of pluralism and respect; two qualities that are sadly missing from much of political discourse around the world. Perhaps we need more delegations from nations around the world, as well as Californians, to visit Azerbaijan, and return home to spread the message of hope and peace. It is with the backdrop of this profound sense of inclusion and political will, that I send my thoughts and my hopes that our entire world should learn to be tolerant of others; that we should live in a world that regards each and every human being as equals; worthy of respect and capable of great leadership.

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Morrissey of Smiths fame returning to Israel in August

Morrissey, the British singer-songwriter best known for his involvement in The Smiths, will perform two concerts in Israel this summer.

The 57-year-old solo musician will play Tel Aviv on Aug. 22 and Caesarea two days later, The Times of Israel reported Tuesday.

Morrissey sold out his most recent concerts in Israel, in 2012. His latest album, released in 2014, is “World Peace is None of Your Business.”

He is an outspoken advocate for animal rights and vegetarianism.

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Jewish groups putting up a fight against growing opioid epidemic

Eve Goldberg’s son, Isaac, was in a panic. He had to get out of college.

Isaac Goldberg Volkmar had been at the University of Rhode Island for less than a semester in 2009 when he called his mother desperate to escape. He had joined a fraternity, where his brothers got him to take the pain medications Percocet and OxyContin. After a few months the New York teen knew he was addicted and needed help.

From there, Isaac was in and out of rehab in Pennsylvania and New York. He overdosed the summer after freshman year. At one point, a family friend burst into Eve’s apartment, where she found Isaac turning blue and had him rushed to the hospital.

Isaac grew up in what his mother calls a normal Jewish home in the downtown Manhattan neighborhood of Tribeca. The family had no history of addiction, so by 2013, when Isaac was recovered and working as a basketball coach at the United Nations International School in Manhattan, Goldberg hoped the worst was behind him. He was even set to move into his own apartment.

But Isaac began acting anxious that Thanksgiving. He woke up his mother in the middle of the night looking for aspirin. In December, Goldberg walked into his room and found him unresponsive, overdosed on opioids. He died after six weeks in a coma; he was 23 years old.

“For Isaac, a lot of it was he didn’t feel good about himself,” Goldberg said. “He was trying to self-medicate and to escape. Things were bad for him. School was hard for him. That was a big part of it — trying to [be] numb and not feel.”

Isaac Goldberg Volkmar, shown here with his sister, died of an opioid overdose in 2013. Photo courtesy of Eve Goldberg

Last year, Goldberg founded BigVision, a community for young adults in recovery from addiction, where participants get together twice a month to do activities like riding go-karts, knitting or playing basketball. It’s one of several Jewish initiatives nationwide to combat addiction, especially as opioid abuse increases across the country.

Death from opioids — from prescription painkillers like OxyContin to controlled substances like heroin — has increased in the United States since 2000, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. In 2014, nearly 30,000 people died from opioid overdose in America, a 14 percent jump from the previous year. And while data among American Jews is hard to come by, statistics show a rise there, too.

More than 20 Orthodox Jews have died from opioid overdoses since last Rosh Hashanah in the New York area, according to Zvi Gluck, who runs Amudim, an organization that helps addicts find treatment. At Beit Tshuva, a Jewish long-term residential recovery center in Los Angeles, applications have risen 50 percent in the past year, from 400-500 to 600-800, which Rabbi Mark Borovitz, the center’s head rabbi, attributes to opioid addiction.

Borovitz and Gluck both say typically middle-class American Jews are more susceptible to opioid addiction because painkillers are accessible in an otherwise safe environment, where hard drugs may not otherwise be present. Borovitz, like Goldberg, also attributes the rise in abuse to the overprescription of medications.

The journal JAMA Psychiatry reports that heroin use is no longer an inner-city, minority-centered problem but one “increasingly affecting white men and women in their late 20s living outside of large urban areas.” Heroin use is also up because because the opiate is less expensive and often easier to obtain than prescription opioids.

“We get opiate addicts all the time,” said Borovitz, whose wife, Harriet Rossetto, founded Beit Tshuva 30 years ago. “Doctors get them hooked on all the opiates, OxyContin, etc., and then they turn to heroin.”

Operation Survival, which has worked to prevent drug abuse among the Chabad-Lubavitch and non-Jewish community in the Crown Heights neighborhood of Brooklyn since 1988, launched the Opioid Overdose Prevention Program in May. The program trains people to administer Naloxone, a drug that blocks or reverses the effects of an opioid overdose if given quickly enough.

“You give naloxone, it can only help,” said Operation Survival program director Yaacov Behrman. “If someone is overdosing and you have access to naloxone, in those five minutes you can save the person’s life.”

A range of other groups are offering Jewish responses to addiction in general and opioid abuse in particular. In Brooklyn, The Safe Foundation gives lectures at Jewish schools about the dangers of drug and gambling addiction, and provides outpatient treatment. The Chabad Residential Treatment Center in Los Angeles treats men for substance abuse. In southeastern Pennsylvania, Rabbi Yosef Lipsker serves as an addiction counselor at the Caron Treatment Center, where he has provided religious resources and counseling to 5,000 Jewish patients since 1999.

Orthodox Jews combating addiction say that while the Orthodox community used to deny drug abuse was a problem, more people have sought treatment as stories of overdose deaths have spread. Gluck said that while an insular community can perpetuate the problem by trying to hide it, the community can also offer stronger support once the problem is acknowledged.

“Fifteen years ago it was very much under the rug,” he said. “It was very much not spoken about. [Now] a lot of the rabbis are more familiar with it. Everybody knows someone. You can’t say anymore that it doesn’t exist in our community.”

Some of the Jewish counselors add a Jewish tint to the recovery process. Lipsker has Jewish patients at his home each week for Friday night dinner and provides kosher food to observant patients. Borovitz relates the weekly Torah portion to recovery in his weekly sermon — drawing a connection, for example, between God’s encounter with Adam in the Garden of Eden and an addict acknowledging he has a problem.

“One of the things addicts do is they isolate, disconnect from family and friends, lose whatever they have in terms of their spirituality,” Lipsker said. “In an institution, you can bring it back to them with the warmth of a Jewish home.”

Eve Goldberg hopes to grow BigVision to the point where she can open a permanent community center for recovering addicts in New York City. Her group is open to Jews and non-Jews alike, but she said Jewish parents of addicts need to be more open about acknowledging opioid addiction and seeking help for their children.

“Jewish parents, parents who come from a good socioeconomic background, people like that want everything to look perfect, so they don’t talk about things,” she said. “I used to think heroin was worse. It’s not.”

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Jewish commentator is the anti-Trump star of Pasadena convention

Before Donald Trump insulted his way into the national spotlight, Ben Shapiro was making a name for himself as a prolific writer and a bracing conservative commentator.

But as Trump’s celebrity has surged, so has Shapiro’s: though the yarmulke-wearing Angeleno offends many of the same racial sensibilities as the tycoon-turned-presidential contender, he is among the top leaders of the rightwing Never Trump movement.

His stardom was on display June 26 at Politicon, a political geek-fest in Pasadena.

In the back rows of panels, people whispered his name before sneakily leaving the room. Outside a ballroom where he was set to debate progressive media personality Sally Kohn on the origins of Trump’s rise, hundreds lined up to assure a seat.

“Any topic – Ben makes it interesting,” said a kipah-clad attorney from Valley Village waiting in line for the debate who asked not to be named by the Jewish Journal.

Others held copies of his books in the hopes of seeing them signed.

It was clear based on the volume of applause from the moment Kohn and Shapiro were introduced that the audience leaned in Shapiro’s favor.

Shapiro summed up his opposition to Trump by offering the analogy of the American government as a car racing towards a cliff.

Barack Obama is pushing down on the gas pedal and Hillary Clinton would press down even harder, he said. But by crippling the Republican Party’s chances to win elections, Trump threatens to “rip out the reverse gear.”

That said, “There’s an 80 percent likelihood he will be a better president than the worst person in America, Hillary Clinton,” Shaprio surmised.

Naturally, Kohn had a different analysis of the Trump phenomenon.

“Donald Trump’s biggest argument is that we get to prosperity through bigotry,” she said.

Trump, she said, has his “origins in the Republican Party, which has been building that kind of resentment and otherizing in our country for far too long.”

For the frequent boos that met her statements, Kohn had a self-assured response: “Boo all the way until November,” she said. “See how that turns out for you.”

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Brexit splits UK from Europe and Labour from its party leader

Only a week ago, Jeremy Corbyn seemed to have survived his biggest public relations debacle as the leader of Britain’s Labour Party:  the proliferation of anti-Semitic rhetoric among its members.

Yet this week, the British vote to leave the European Union achieved what Corbyn’s opponents failed to do in their attacks against him over anti-Semitism.

On Tuesday, 172 Labour lawmakers among the total 229 in the Parliament said they had no confidence in Corbyn, opening the door to a challenge that if co-signed by 51 lawmakers will lead to internal elections.

The previous day, the party’s leadership abandoned Corbyn in a mass walkout over his perceived failure to effectively lobby against the Brexit, which a majority of voters supported in Thursday’s referendum.

Relying on strong popular support in the Labour rank-and-file and ignoring calls to resign by former supporters who quit in protest of his leadership, Corbyn is holding on to his seat. Critics say he risks splitting and ruining a party that used to be a natural political home for British minority groups, including many from the Jewish community.

On Monday and Tuesday, 24 Labour shadow ministers – senior lawmakers who hold key portfolios within the opposition party – resigned their roles, citing Corbyn’s handling of the Brexit vote. A former Euro-sceptic, Corbyn led a “stay” campaign that was so lackluster and low-key that he faced accusations within his party of deliberately sabotaging the party position.

Prime Minister David Cameron, a Conservative who campaigned vigorously for a stay vote, announced his resignation following the referendum’s result, citing a need for leadership that reflects the will of the majority of British voters.

Corbyn, however, dug in his heels. After the walkout and no-confidence vote, he issued a defiant statement saying he would not betray those who voted for him by resigning.

“I was democratically elected leader of our party for a new kind of politics by 60% of Labour members and supporters, and I will not betray them by resigning. Today’s vote by MPs has no constitutional legitimacy,” he said.

Among the Labourites bolting over the Brexit issue was Luciana Berger, a Jewish lawmaker who had resisted repeated calls by Jews and non-Jews to distance herself from Corbyn over the anti-Semitism issue in the party.

“I have always served the Labour leader and our party with loyalty,” Berger wrote in her resignation letter, in which she also noted Corbyn “always served with great principle” and has shown her “nothing but kindness.” Berger, the shadow minister on mental health, said she was resigning “with deep sadness” because “loyalty to the party must come first” and because “we need a Labour leader who can unite our party.”

Like other senior Labour lawmakers, Berger stuck with Corbyn throughout the anti-Semitism controversy “because she wanted to make a difference in her field of political engagement,” David Hirsh, a British Jewish columnist and prominent sociologist at the University of London, told JTA.

She was able to do so, added Hirsh, who is a Labour member and critic of Corbyn, because “while the anti-Semitism issue certainly hurt Corbyn, he had temporarily defused it” by setting up an internal inquiry. But the Brexit vote “has led to such a political and economic crisis in Britain that Corbyn’s Labour opponents did not feel they could remain silent any longer.”

With the Conservative Party in turmoil over Cameron’s resignation, elections may be around the corner, possibly this year. Corbyn is widely seen as too radical to be voted into a position of power.

“Corbyn cannot win a general election, so Labour politicians no longer feel they have the luxury of waiting to see what happens. They feel they need to act now,” Hirsh said.

The attempted coup against Corbyn comes amid a widening split within Labour between its moderate center and the left-of-center camp supporting Corbyn. A hard-core socialist that has major traction with anti-establishment voters, Corbyn used to vote left of Labour before he came to lead the party. His rise within Labour coincided with an influx into the party of tens of thousands of his supporters – a process that many observers said also led to the proliferation of anti-Semitic speech and conspiracy theories.

Under fire by senior party members who accused him of either doing too little to curb the phenomenon or of contributing to it with his open endorsement of anti-Israel terrorists, Corbyn took a serious beating in the mainstream media. The pressure mounted after Ken Livingstone, a former mayor of London, said Adolf Hitler was a Zionist. Livingstone was suspended from the party.

Hirsh said the influx of left-of-center supporters may mean that Corbyn is correct in asserting that he represents the majority of Labour members. But the growing gap between his supporters and a substantial part of Labour’s leadership and establishment risks tearing apart Labour, splitting it into centrist and radical factions, he added.

The concern over a split in the Labour Party into a radical and moderate wing also exists for the Conservative Party, which is also divided on the Brexit issue.

If radical Conservatives prevail, it will be at the expense of Cameron’s camp, which many British Jews credit with leading an essentially liberal democratic line and resolute opposition to racism. A right-of-center victory could encourage xenophobia – a prospect the Board of Deputies of British Jews already warned about in the wake of the Brexit vote.

Corbyn himself has stressed that he rejects all forms of racism, including anti-Semitism. But like many British Jews and the community’s leadership, Hirsh insists that “the Corbynite wing of the Labour Party carries anti-Semitic ways of thinking.” To the extent that it is successful in mainstream politics, he added, “it will carry that with it into British political life.”

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Ex-London Mayor Ken Livingstone accuses Israel of ethnic cleansing, but not Nazism

Former London Mayor Ken Livingstone told a Parliament committee that he does not believe Zionism or the policies of the Israeli government are at all analogous to Nazism.

Livingstone also reiterated that he regretted saying Adolf Hitler supported Zionism because of the furor his remarks sparked, not because he disavows them.

“I therefore do regret raising the historical points about Nazi policy in the1930s when the specific issue of Hitler was raised by (reporter) Vanessa Feltz,” Livingstone said in a written statement filed with the House of Commons Home Affairs Committee hearing on anti-Semitism. “I regret it because there was an hysterical response from opponents of the Labour Party and of its current leadership, which will not have aided Labour’s campaign for the 5 May elections. I am horrified by the way my remarks have been interpreted and twisted. I cannot think of a worse insult than to be called a racist or an anti-Semite. And I am sorry if what I said has caused Jewish people, or anyone else, offense. That was not my intention.”

In a radio interview in April with the BBC, Livingstone had said, “Let’s remember when Hitler won his election in 1932, his policy then was that Jews should be moved to Israel. He was supporting Zionism.”

He made the remarks in defense of Labour Party lawmaker Naz Shah, who was suspended a day earlier over a Facebook post in 2014 suggesting that Israelis should be moved en masse to the United States. Days later, Livingstone was suspended from the party for the remark.

In recent months, Labour has suspended at least 20 members, including at the senior level, for anti-Semitic or vicious anti-Israel invective that critics say party leader Jeremy Corbyn had not done enough to curb.

The inquiry into anti-Semitism was launched in April to determine whether anti-Jewish prejudice has increased in the U.K. and to assess the particular dangers facing Jews.

Livingstone objected to the fact that in its questioning, the committee dwelled on the BBC interview in which he made the Hitler remarks rather than asking him about anti-Semitism and racism because of what he called his “long track record” of fighting both.

“Instead, the overwhelming majority of questions asked of me were about my views on the history of Germany in the 1930s, Hitler, the Nazis, Israel, Zionism and the Labour Party. Committee members seemed to be obsessed with these issues,” he wrote.

Livingstone also wrote: “To avoid any other misunderstanding, I do not believe that Zionism or the policies of Israeli governments are at all analogous to Nazism. Israeli governments have never had the aim of the systematic extermination of the Palestinian people, in the way Nazism sought the annihilation of the Jews.”

He did accuse Israel of ethnic cleansing, continuing: “However Israel’s policies have included ethnic cleansing. Palestinians who had lived in that land for centuries were driven out by systematic violence and terror aimed at clearing them out of what became a large part of the Israeli state.”

Livingstone served as mayor twice, from 1981 to 1986 and from 2000 to 2008.

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Dozens killed, more than 100 wounded in suicide attack at Istanbul airport

UPDATED 4:02pm

Three suicide bombers opened fire before blowing themselves up at the entrance to the main international airport in Istanbul, killing at least 28 people, the provincial governor said earlier.

The number of people wounded in Tuesday's attack on Istanbul's main international airport rose to 106, broadcaster NTV said, citing hospital sources, while another network, Haberturk, said the number was 147, citing a justice minister.

Police fired shots to try to stop the attackers just before they reached a security checkpoint at the arrivals hall of the Ataturk airport but they blew themselves up, one of the officials said.

Speaking in parliament, Justice Minister Bekir Bozdag said that based on initial information he could only confirm there had been one attacker.

“According to information I have received, at the entrance to the Ataturk Airport international terminal a terrorist first opened fire with a Kalashnikov and then blew themself up,” he said in comments broadcast by CNN Turk.

There was no immediate claim of responsbility for the attack.

Ataturk is Turkey's largest airport and a major transport hub for international travellers. Pictures posted on social media from the site showed wounded people lying on the ground inside and outside one of the terminal buildings.

A witness told Reuters security officials prevented his taxi and other cars from entering the airport at around 9:50 pm (1850 GMT). Drivers leaving the terminal shouted “Don't enter! A bomb exploded!” from their windows to incoming traffic, he said.

Television footage showed ambulances rushing to the scene. One witness told CNN Turk that gunfire was heard from the car park at the airport. Taxis were ferrying wounded people from the airport, the witness said.

FLIGHTS HALTED

The head of Red Crescent, Kerem Kinik, said on CNN Turk that people should go to blood donation centres and not hospitals to give blood and called on people to avoid main roads to the airport to avoid blocking path of emergency vehicles.

Authorities halted the takeoff of scheduled flights from the airport and passengers were transferred to hotels, a Turkish Airlines official said. Earlier an airport official said some flights to the airport had been diverted.

Turkey has suffered a spate of bombings this year, including two suicide attacks in tourist areas of Istanbul blamed on Islamic State, and two car bombings in the capital, Ankara, which were claimed by a Kurdish militant group.

In the most recent attack, a car bomb ripped through a police bus in central Istanbul during the morning rush hour, killing 11 people and wounding 36 near the main tourist district, a major university and the mayor's office.

Turkey, which is part of the U.S.-led coalition against Islamic State, is also fighting Kurdish militants in its largely Kurdish southeast.

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I’m tired of people thinking I ‘retired’ from my job as a rabbi because I’m a mom

If I had a dime for every time someone asked me why I “retired,” I would be a very rich woman. Please, let me set the record straight: I am not retired, I did not retire, and I don’t plan on retiring any time soon. Since when does leaving your job to take care of your family equal “retirement?”

I would say that this transition, if it had a (good or appropriate) name (and don’t get me started on the term “off-ramping”), is quite the opposite of retirement.

It’s been almost three years since I left my post as a rabbi at a dynamic and vibrant congregation to be a mother full-time. My third child had just turned one, and I felt a profound tug towards home. I wanted to spend more time with my young children; I wanted to be a firmer anchor in their lives. And so I decided to change gears and veer away from the path I had paved since ordination.

At the time, I wrote:

“I am not retiring or taking leave of the rabbinate. On the contrary, I will continue to be a rabbi in every respect of the word. My pulpit may focus on different issues and my congregation may be a bit smaller, but it is a vital rabbinate all the same. The Torah I teach will likely be rooted in sports and toys and imaginary friends; it will be filled with itsy bitsy spiders and twinkly little stars and soaked in laughter and tears.  It is the Torah of motherhood, and while I’ve spent part of my days studying it up until now, I’ll now spend all of my days immersed in it.”

These days, I am wholly immersed in the Torah of motherhood, from the moment I wake up until the moment I go to sleep, and often many moments in between. And as magical as so many of these moments are, there are just as many that feel, well, not so magical.

As the primary caregiver, I am the point person for all things child-related and, most often, the first responder for diaper duty, tantrum defusing, meal prep, and all the other glam aspects of stay-at-home parenthood. And while I don’t adhere to any particular dress code or leave home to go to an office, I take great umbrage when the totality of what I do is not classified as “work.”

Parenting is work. Motherhood is work. Raising children is work. It must be understood that leaving a paid position to take care of one’s family is still a transition from one job to another. One job may be part of the “work force” as it is most traditionally defined, but the other is also, most definitely “work,” despite the lack of benefits, the absence of any salary to speak of, and the general lack of esteem given to such domestic roles. Child rearing is intensely challenging, utterly demanding, and downright exhausting work.

Full-time parenting is certainly not akin to “retirement,” and any mere suggestion of the pairing is actually quite offensive. (If only a full-time parent could fill his or her schedule with golf and tennis, pickle ball and pinochle!). Moreover, just because a parent leaves his or her job to care for family doesn’t mean he or she is abandoning their career! Leaving a job doesn’t mean vacating the work force forever. The path out is not one without a return; and yet, far too often, the return is near impossible to find.

It aggravates me when people assume that I left my career forever when I stepped away from the pulpit. It frustrates me when I find myself fielding questions as to why I “left the rabbinate,” and how I’m taking to “retirement.” It’s maddening, it’s demeaning, and it’s short sighted. Not only do I picture myself returning to the rabbinate, I don’t feel like I ever really left.  I am still a rabbi, even in my primary role as a mother. I am still a rabbi in the way I think and the way I act and in the way I raise my children.

I may have stepped away from a traditional career path, and I may have left the every day work of a pulpit rabbi to do the every day work of a “mother rabbi.” But far from diminishing my rabbinate, it has enhanced it tremendously. I believe I am a better rabbi now than I was three years ago.

And yet, until we as a society legitimize the work of the parent, I, and many others like me will remain on the outside, looking in—when we never should have been ushered “out” in the first place.

This article was reprinted with permission from Kveller.com, a fast-growing website for smart, savvy moms looking for a Jewish twist on parenting. Follow Kveller on Facebook and sign up for daily digests here.

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