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May 4, 2016

Ani Ma’amin – a poem for Yom HaShoah


I believe

my wife’s grandfather was a hero.
Born in a place where they put up walls

to contain people just like him.
Built a statue in Philadelphia

to commemorate how those walls
were torn down.

Three generations of people
called him Zeydi.


with perfect faith

as if anything could accurately
be described as perfect.

as if we all have a handle
on faith.

as if someone didn’t once
march to their death

with their faith, un-wavered
powerful on their face.


in the coming of the Messiah

which is why my pockets
always have coins in them

in case he or she shows up
and needs help buying a beverage

after the long journey. Which is why
every person I meet deserves

to be treated like they
may be the one.

You never know when the Messiah
is standing next to you in the elevator.


and despite the delay

which is excruciating to tolerate
in our new world where if a delivery

doesn’t come the same day we ordered
we’ve already failed.

where patience is no longer a word.
where some people waited

a lifetime to forget about the
numbers on their skin.


I will wait.

for that day
when we turn on the faucet

and freedom runs out.
where there is no drought

of tolerance. Where no-one
has to think of people in terms of millions.

I will wait.
I am waiting.


48 Poets from all over the world. remember the Holocaust in the Poetry Super Highay’s 18th annual Yom HaShoah (Holocaust Remembrance Day) issue. Read it Ani Ma’amin – a poem for Yom HaShoah Read More »

Weston latest Jewish actor to take the plunge as Houdini

The life of renowned Hungarian-Jewish magician and escapologist Harry Houdini has been portrayed onscreen by multiple Jewish actors, including Tony Curtis, Paul Michael Glaser and Adrien Brody. 

The tradition continues with Michael Weston as the showier half in the Fox series “Houdini & Doyle,” which premiered May 2 and pairs Houdini with Sherlock Holmes creator Arthur Conan Doyle (Stephen Mangan) to help Scotland Yard solve crimes. Jewish on his father’s side, Weston is the son of actor John Rubinstein and grandson of pianist Arthur Rubinstein.

While the lighthearted series focuses on paranormal-themed cases and an argumentative relationship between the two men, who also clashed in real life, “Houdini and Doyle” makes Houdini’s Jewish heritage part of the plot. “Houdini was up against a lot of racism and anti-Semitism in his life and had to find his way through that,” Weston said in an interview. “In one episode, there’s a story where he gets into a fight when he’s confronted by anti-Semitism. He’s a very brash character, and it touches a chord in him.”

Joining the cast just a week before shooting began, Weston didn’t have much time to prepare, but he learned as much as he could about Houdini, his relationship with Doyle and the show’s turn-of-the-20th-century setting. 

“He was a Jewish immigrant who pulled himself up by the bootstraps from poverty and became this international celebrity, but he was this odd mama’s boy,” Weston said of Houdini. “There’s a madness to him, a mischief to him, and there’s this great showman persona that precedes him by a mile. But behind that is a guy with a lot of questions and a vulnerable soul. He likened Houdini’s friendship with Doyle to “a great boxing match, with someone he respects but also frustrates him. They’re friends, but it’s contentious. They don’t agree on anything. Their whole approach to life is different. But they need each other and thrive on the challenge, which is constant,” Weston said. “They’re two great minds going at figuring out a puzzle.”

Weston relished playing his first period role. “I loved every second of it. The sets were spectacular; the costumes were these wonderful, glorious clothes you couldn’t believe you got to wear. It was all so meticulously executed,” he said of the 1901 setting. “We had tailors in London [from shops that] have made the same shoes and fabrics for 300 years, weaving these waistcoats for us.”

Weston recalled riding in a carriage for a scene “where everything felt so real that you lose yourself in it. We had these moments that you so rarely get as an actor. It was magical,” he said. As for practical magic, Weston learned some tricks “on the fly. I get to do a lot. I’m very amateur at this point. There’s a guy named Danny Hart who showed me how to make a card disappear and appear again. That’s the best trick I had,” he said. “It was harder than I thought it would be to learn. It took hours.” 

Much more daunting was replicating Houdini’s daredevil escapes, “with some very helpful stuntmen,” Weston said, recalling the heart-stopper that had him shackled and suspended upside down in a water tank. 

“I was sort of cocky about it at first. I thought I could do it. I’m not claustrophobic and I’m [a] relatively good swimmer,” Weston said. “But when you’re shackled and hanging upside down in this tank with, like, four tons of water … I got so nervous that I couldn’t catch my breath. They’d plunge me in and I had to remain serene and calm. But it was terrifying. I did it for 20 seconds and Houdini did it for three minutes-plus.” 

It gave him a new appreciation of Houdini’s accomplishments. 

“He embodied the inexplicable in a way that people still can’t figure out exactly how he did things. There are a lot of question marks about the feats that he did,” Weston said. “When you can make someone feel that sense of wonder again, which I feel this show does, it makes you nostalgic for that time.”

Weston, a New York native, grew up in a non-religious home in a Jewish community on Manhattan’s Upper West Side, with Jewish friends whose seders and bar mitzvahs he attended. “It’s been a big part of my life,” he said of participating in those traditions.

A graduate of the theater program at Northwestern University, his screen credits include TV shows “Six Feet Under,” “Scrubs,” “House M.D.,” “Burn Notice,” “Elementary” and “Law & Order: Special Victims Unit” as well as the films “Garden State” and “Wish I Was Here,” both starring and directed by his friend Zach Braff.

Weston was in the midst of shooting “Houdini & Doyle” in Toronto when his wife, singer-songwriter Priscilla Ahn, was due to give birth to their first child. “I made it back to L.A. for the birth but had to go back and shoot, which was tortuous. But I’ve been home since, and it’s the greatest thing that’s happened to me,” Weston said of his son, River, now 5 months old. 

Weston is hoping “Houdini & Doyle” will catch on with audiences. 

“It has these very pertinent, modern themes that we’re dealing with that have this great historical, real backdrop to set it in,” Weston said. “But if we get a second season, I’ll be logging some serious hours at the Magic Castle.”

“Houdini & Doyle” airs Mondays at 9 p.m. on Fox.

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Vicki Abelson: Writer’s words link her heart to readers

Vicki Abelson stands at a podium in the front of her living room. She has blond highlights in her hair, which is decorated with multicolored feathers. Smiling as she talks, she makes eye contact with various members of the 50-person audience, made up mostly of women. 

They are here for the Women Who Write group, a monthly gathering involving readings, music and more that Abelson holds in her Los Angeles home. On this day, Abelson is talking about her recently released book, “Don’t Jump: Sex, Drugs, Rock ‘N Roll … and My F—ing Mother.” The fictionalized version of her life chronicles her time as a rock promoter in New York City in the 1980s, and, as the title promises, discusses a mother-daughter relationship. 

Abelson wrote the book because she wanted to tell her personal story. 

“It’s a story of redemption,” she told the Journal. “It’s about making the transition into being a person I didn’t think much of to being one who is of service to the rest of the world. Even though it’s a fictionalized memoir, everything the protagonist feels is real.”

Without the Women Who Write group — no longer limited to females — Abelson may not have been able to complete the book, which she began in 2001. Seven years later, after finding trouble getting stage time in L.A. to read her work, she founded the salon. 

Thousands of people now are part of Women Who Write. They gather once a month to hear readings from celebrity authors, such Carl Reiner, Robert Klein, Susie Essman and Cindy Chupack, and enjoy music from artists from bands such as Earth Wind & Fire and the Byrds. There also is a separate meeting in which women bring their work and receive critiques from one another. 

Abelson workshopped “Don’t Jump” at those latter events, and committed to writing for five minutes every day. At this point, she’s been emailing what she writes to a friend for more than 4,000 days. 

“Writing is part of my everyday life,” she said. “I couldn’t imagine not doing it.” 

Growing up in New York City, Abelson was surrounded by celebrities thanks to her to her father, who was a master of ceremonies in the Catskills. She always wanted to be like Johnny Carson and have the chance to interview celebrities. 

“We all dream of accomplishing great things, and we all have heroes,” she said. “I got to live my life brushing up alongside my heroes. A lot of them became friends. My story is an inside view from an outsider.”

In school, Abelson’s favorite subject as a child was English. She crafted poems, and then transitioned into joke writing and stand-up when she got older with the encouragement of her husband at the time. He worked for “Late Show With David Letterman” and Bill Maher, and he helped Abelson snag a gig booking and promoting a rock ’n’ roll club. 

“I’d get there and work the club when the music was happening. I’d go in and make sure the bands were on point and everything was running smoothly. I’d go to clubs late night and scout for new talent. It was an ’80s-fueled, rock ’n’ roll kind of crazy time,” she said. “It was wonderful.”

For eight years, Abelson was part of the New York City music scene, hanging out with the likes of Eric Clapton, Davy Jones and Carole King, who jammed at the club one night after doing an off-Broadway show. “That came full circle, because just a year ago her daughter, Louise Goffin, played in my living room for Women Who Write,” Abelson said. 

After her stint in the clubs, Abelson had two children — a daughter who is about to graduate from high school and a son who is finishing college — and took a writer’s course. She wrote her first screenplay in 1997, and then started the book a few years later. In 2015, it was released by Random Content, which is based in Beverly Hills and run by Reiner and Lawrence O’Flahavan. 

Abelson is currently developing “Don’t Jump” into a TV show, and she pens columns for the Huffington Post on the side. Through writing, she has found a way to show the world who she really is.

“Writing is connecting you, the reader, to my soul and telling you my truth,” she said. “I don’t like doing anything that doesn’t come from my authentic truth. It’s my way to express my thoughts and feelings, and link mine and the readers’s hearts.” 

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Jewish leaders call for UK’s Labour Party to act on anti-Semitism ‘cancer’

Almost half a century ago, when he first became an active supporter of Britain's Labour Party, Rabbi Abraham Pinter said it had far less of a problem with anti-Semitism than the country as a whole.

But while other political groups have recognized the need to address prejudice against Jews, Pinter said the country's main opposition party was stuck in the past.

Labour now faces accusations of anti-Semitism in its ranks – from its high-profile former London mayor Ken Livingstone, who said Adolf Hitler had supported Zionism, to students at Oxford University. This has fanned concern among Jewish communities already alarmed at increasing levels of hate crimes.

“The Labour Party never recognized it had a problem. It's really where it was 50 years ago,” said Pinter, a former Labour councillor who speaks for the orthodox Haredi Jewish community in the Stamford Hill area of north London.

“It's been there and it's still there,” he told Reuters.

Some within Labour say they are being accused of anti-Semitism simply for expressing legitimate criticisms of Israel. Senior figures have said prejudice is limited to a small fringe and was being used to smear party leader Jeremy Corbyn.

But the row could play a role in Thursday's London mayoral election. Labour candidate Sadiq Khan, widely tipped to become the capital's first Muslim mayor, said he was appalled by Livingstone's comments and that they could harm his chances in a city home to an estimated 170,000 Jews.

Moshe Menezira, manager of the Kosher Deli in Golders Green in north London, which has a large Jewish community, said there seemed to be a problem within Labour and that it was leading to many Jewish voters reconsidering whether to back Khan.

“I know a lot of Labour supporters but they're in two minds because of what is going on,” the 65-year-old said.

Last week, Labour's leadership suspended Livingstone and ordered an inquiry into anti-Semitism in the party following comments the ex-mayor made in a radio interview that Hitler had supported Zionism in the 1930s before “he went mad and ended up killing six million Jews”.

Livingstone had been defending a Labour Muslim lawmaker after she apologized for posting online messages which included a suggestion that Israel should be relocated to the United States to solve the problems in the Middle East.

The incidents sparked accusations from Jewish leaders that Labour leaders and those on the British political left were doing too little to combat anti-Semitism in their ranks.

“There is now a cancer in their party and it is getting worse by the day,” the Jewish Chronicle newspaper said in an editorial in March. “If Labour is not to lose the last residue of trust from our community, it must recognize and deal with that cancer.”

SUSPENSIONS

Opponents of Labour have previously leveled accusations of anti-Semitism against socialist Corbyn, who was elected party leader last September. They pointed to a speech he made about the Middle East in 2009, in which he described Hamas and Hezbollah – groups designated as terrorist organizations by Britain and the United States – as “friends”.

Conservative Prime Minister raised those comments during heated exchanges with Corbyn in parliament on Wednesday.

“Are they your friends or are they not? Because those organizations in their constitutions believe in persecuting and killing Jews,” Cameron said. “They're anti-Semitic organizations, they're racist organizations, he must stand up and say they are not his friends.”

Corbyn replied: “Obviously anyone that commits racist acts or is anti-Semitic is not a friend of mine.”

The Labour leader has previously said he had used the term friends in “a collective way”.

The parliament exchange and the row surrounding Livingstone followed damaging headlines for Labour in February, when the co-chairman of the Oxford University Labour Club quit, saying “a large proportion of both OULC and the student left in Oxford more generally have some kind of problem with Jews”.

On Tuesday, Labour said it had suspended three councillors in northern and central England because of anti-Semitic remarks.

Independent Jewish Voices, a human rights group set up in 2007 which criticizes some of Israel's policies, said it was concerned at sweeping suggestions that anti-Semitism was pervasive in the party.

“We also reiterate our view that the battle against anti-Semitism is undermined whenever opposition to Israeli government policies is automatically branded as anti-Semitic,” it said.

But some Jewish leaders say Labour has more than a fringe problem, with anti-Zionism often used as a cover for being anti-Jewish.

“In recent days, we have heard anti-Semitism in the Labour Party described variously as 'a smear' and as 'mood music' being manipulated by political opponents of Jeremy Corbyn,” Britain's Chief Rabbi Ephraim Mirvis wrote in Wednesday's Daily Telegraph newspaper.

“There has been nothing more disheartening in this story than the suggestion that this is more about politics than about substance.”

'BECOMING ACCEPTABLE'

The anti-Semitism row is casting a shadow over Khan's push to become mayor of London, a city of about 8.5 million people.

Most Jewish voters say they have no problem with Khan himself, who said he was disgusted by Livingstone's remarks.

“I think the Labour leadership generally needs to act far more decisive and swiftly when these sorts of comments are made,” he said on Tuesday. “It can't be right that there are Londoners of Jewish faith who feel the Labour party is not a place for them.”

In Golders Green, where Jewish men wearing skull caps push prams along the street past Kosher shops and restaurants that line the main highway, there is real concern that the row engulfing Labour could fuel prejudice in Britain.

Police figures showed an increase of more than 60 percent in anti-Semitic incidents in London last year, while the Community Security Trust, which advises Britain's estimated 280,000 Jews on security matters, said 924 incidents were recorded across the country during 2015, including 86 violent assaults.

Earlier this month, parliament's Home Affairs Committee said it would hold a short inquiry into anti-Semitism over concerns prejudice was on the rise.

In the London Jewish Family Centre in Golders Green, Denise, 61, who declined to give her surname, said anti-Semitism in Britain had got “way worse” since she moved from South Africa four years ago.

“Six to eight weeks ago I was walking across a bridge and a car stopped and the people inside called me a bloody Jew. The first time ever it's happened to me in four years,” she said.

The row has been disheartening for Jews involved in Labour politics who support Khan's stance.

Mike Katz, the National Vice-Chairman of the Jewish Labour Movement and a Labour candidate for the London Assembly, said the expansion from about 200,000 to about 380,000 party members since Corbyn became leader had led to the number of people with anti-Semitic views also increasing.

“People over recent years have found it easier to pursue a discourse where it is acceptable to say these things and blur the lines between legitimate criticism of Israel and something which goes far further,” he told Reuters.

Rabbi Pinter, who said he was embarrassed that he used to count Livingstone as a friend, said those in Labour who denied there was an issue were part of the problem.

“People are getting concerned that this is causing anti-Semitism to become mainstream. My concern is it's becoming acceptable,” he said.

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Tragedy strikes with death of infant son, father

Earlier this year, Los Angeles native and Milken Community Schools graduate Nick Kadner was a promising young executive producer enjoying life in New York City with his partner, costume designer Catharine Stuart, and their new baby. Then, on March 13, their 5-week-old son, Lucas Alexander Kadner, died of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).

“The baby was perfect. He was [born] 7 pounds, a little boy, adorable, and the love of our lives and so forth. One morning, he just didn’t wake up, and apparently it was a SIDS death. The final toxicology report is not back on that, but it seems pretty straightforward,” Dr. Marshall Kadner, Nick’s father and Lucas’ grandfather, said in a phone interview. 

SIDS is the leading cause of death among infants, claiming approximately 2,500 infants’ lives annually, according to kidshealth.org.

The tragedy, unfortunately, does not end with Lucas’ death. Soon after, Nick and Stuart, who had plans to marry, retreated to a cabin in upstate New York to get away. On the night of April 5, while Stuart was asleep, Nick got up to use the bathroom. In the morning, she found him there — he had died of a heart attack at the age of 32. Nick died less than one month after Lucas.

Nick’s funeral took place April 10 at Hillside Memorial Park Cemetery, presided over by Stephen Wise Temple Senior Rabbi Yoshi Zweiback. At the service, Marshall Kadner said, Nick’s friends from New York shared memories that provided him fresh insights into the life of his son — Nick had moved from Los Angeles at the age of 17 and came back to visit L.A. a few times each year.

“They are — were — very close and very helpful to each other in a lot of ways, some of which I didn’t even know about,” Kadner said

Lucas was both Kadner’s grandson and his patient: Kadner, an OB-GYN, delivered baby Lucas. 

“He was supposed to be my last delivery. It all seemed so symmetrical. We were just ecstatically happy for about [five] weeks, and I guess that will just have to do,” he said.

Nick was born on Oct. 16, 1983, and grew up attending the Curtis School and Milken Community Schools. He’d always been a strong student, his father said.

At Milken, Nick was a videographer for the drama department and he liked to hang out in the music room. He also liked to drive around the canyons of the city with friends.

“Honestly, we spent most of our time driving around the hills listening to Tenacious D and acting out and being bad kids,” Juliana Harkavy, a 2003 Milken graduate and film and television actress (“The Walking Dead”), remembers of their high school days. “But anything Nick did or tried, any of his hobbies, he was good at everything. He could be good at everything.”

After graduation, he went on to New York University, from which he graduated in 2005 with a bachelor of fine arts. Nick went on to work on the creative end of the film and media business. He’d always been passionate about cinema, his father said, recalling how Nick, while still at Milken, enrolled in a film program for college students at UCLA.  

“His mother would drive him. He was not old enough to drive himself, and she would drop him off two or three blocks away from the meeting place, so his classmates couldn’t see he couldn’t drive. … He introduced himself as a freshman, but he was a freshman in high school,” Kadner said.

The two deaths have triggered an outpouring of community support for Stuart, in particular through a GoFundMe crowdfunding campaign created on April 9 by Erin Jacobs Mays, a friend of Stuart. To date, the campaign has raised more than $133,000 through contributions from more than 1,800 people. Money raised will help Stuart focus on healing without financial worries, Mays wrote in an email. 

“This was a way to give her some freedom to focus on herself, in whatever way that might be. And the response to the campaign has shown that so many people not only care about and love Catharine, Nick and baby Luke, but that they can try to empathize with what she’s going through and see the value in supporting her through this horrendous time,” she said. “I think everyone just prays for her relief.”

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Jack Bender on flying among the stars

Jack Bender has recurring dreams of flying. 

His work life is deeply embedded in the fantasy world — he was an executive producer on “Lost” and he’s directed episodes of “Game of Thrones” — but his dreams are what great TV is made of. 

“I had some dreams where I would go so high, I would go into astro propulsion like a Marvel movie, above the Earth, and see dark space and then start to fall,” he said about his nocturnal flying episodes.

He’s even hit the ground once, even though, he said, “They say you can’t.”

“I remember one time really falling and not jerking out of the dream like I usually do, and I remember thinking, ‘Just hang in there, it’s going to be OK.’ So I willed myself to keep the movie going.”

With lucid determination, Bender stayed in the dream. He kept dropping until he hit the ocean. “At least I think it was the ocean. I can’t remember,” he said.

Bender’s dreams have inspired “The Urban Acrobats,” a short story featured in his new book, “The Elephant in the Room.” “The Urban Acrobats” tells the story of two high-flying individuals who fall in love, have a falling out, and get back together. 

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Israel bombs Gaza targets in retaliation for Hamas shelling

Israel bombed five targets in Gaza after Hamas fired more than five mortar rounds into Israel in a 24-hour period — an escalation attributed to Israel’s intensified efforts to detect and destroy Hamas’ underground tunnels leading toward and across its border.

Israel Air Force warplanes struck five targets near the Gazan border town of Rafah Wednesday evening, the Israel Defense Forces confirmed in statements on Twitter.

The IDF confirmation followed Palestinian media reports of the bombings, The Times of Israel reported. No injuries have been reported yet.

In a statement on Twitter, IDF Spokesman Lt. Col. Peter Lerner said Israel “will continue to operate in order to protect the civilians of Israel from all Hamas terrorist threats above and beneath ground.”

“Our efforts to destroy the #Hamas terror tunnel network, a grave violation of Israel’s sovereignty, will not cease or be deterred.”

Shortly before launching the strikes, Israeli officials warned Hamas to cease firing mortars at its troops on the Gaza border or face a strong military retaliation, according to Israeli news website Walla.

Hamas said in a statement that Israel bore “full responsibility” for the escalation in hostilities.

In the 24 hours preceding the Israeli strikes, five mortars were fired at Israeli troops near the Gaza-Israel border, and soldiers responded with tank fire.

The IDF said it believes Hamas’ recent attacks near the border are an effort to prevent Israel from finding and destroying new tunnels leading toward and into Israel. New technology has helped locate more tunnels in recent weeks.

In a statement Wednesday night, Al-Qassam Brigades, Hamas’ military wing, warned Israel to stop digging near the border in its search of tunnels.

The Hamas statement said the digging is an incursion into Gazan territory and a breach of the 2014 ceasefire, according to The Times of Israel.

“[Al-Qassam Brigades] will not allow this aggression and the enemy should not make any pretexts whatsoever, and leave the Gaza Strip immediately,” the statement reads.

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Hebrew word of the week: Miqbul (parallel dating)

In traditional dating, one person dates another, often leading to a more stable long-term relationship. Now there is a new trend: One person, usually in his or her 20s,* can date two, three or more persons be-maqbil, “in parallel,” at the same time (in contrast to “serial,” or sequential, dating), in order not to “waste time” on one date and to increase one’s chances of finding a suitable mate for a monogamous relationship. A recent headline: Men and women equally memaqbelim (“have a parallel dating”).**

*Older people find this disgusting, psychologically and physically unhealthy, and superficial.

**The new verb le-maqbel, “to have parallel dating,” is derived from maqbil, “parallel (lines, times, etc.).”

Yona Sabar is a professor of Hebrew and Aramaic in the department of Near Eastern Languages & Cultures at UCLA.

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Poem: Cinco De Mayo

What’s that mob in the playground where I meant to sit
in sunshine read my book what’s that uproar
P.S. 371 annual party a line for food
a dozen miniature soccer games around the pool no rules
backpacks of every hue parked on benches does nobody fear
theirs will be stolen? Are we really in the city or am I dreaming
three pretty mariachis singing Cielito Lindo and making
the children and their mamacitas, brown and beige,
sing along, everybody knows the words, indeed it is
New York City Upper West Side Cinco de Mayo, querida  
they teach the children to dance La cucaracha, kick and shake
and shriek, for it is Mexican Independence Day
let the city employee hugging clipboard shake her hair loose
and if two days ago I was shopping for ant traps
and if three days ago I was fighting rush hour traffic, let there be
traffic traffic in another world for here it is spring
if we are ants crazy ants as I sometimes think
see we are musical ants we are dancing ants


Alicia Ostriker is a poet and critic. Her most recent volumes of poetry are “The Book of Seventy” and “The Old Woman, the Tulip and the Dog.” She was twice a finalist for the National Book Award, and she received the National Jewish Book Award in 2010. As a critic, she has written on American women’s poetry and on the Bible, most recently “For the Love of God: The Bible as an Open Book” (2007).

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A candid look at Yitzhak Rabin

In 1974, then-Israeli Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin attended a Washington reception hosted by President Gerald Ford, during which Ford asked the prime minister’s wife, Leah Rabin, for a dance.

That left her husband in a quandary. He knew that protocol called for him to lead Betty Ford, the president’s wife, onto the dance floor, but despite many other accomplishments, Rabin had never learned to dance.

The old soldier finally screwed up his courage, walked over to Mrs. Ford and admitted his shortcoming. She quietly took his hand and led him onto the dance floor.

In roughly about the same time period, Rabin, in hitherto unpublished, off-the-record correspondence and conversation, warned, “We must have peace with the Palestinians, for if we don’t, we will become an apartheid state,” and “The [West Bank] settlers are a cancer on the body politic.”

Taken together, these two illustrations from the documentary feature “Rabin: In His Own Words” show the private and political side of the kibbutznik who evolved from commander of Israel’s armed forces during the Six-Day War to leading advocate of peace with his country’s enemies.

Erez Laufer, a veteran film editor in the United States (“The War Room,” “My Country, My Country”) and his native Israel, decided to make a film about Rabin to mark the 20th anniversary of the prime minister’s 1995 assassination, for which Laufer spent more than six years digging through archives, correspondence and historical film footage.

He considered various formats, but finally settled on using only Rabin’s own voice and writings, without interviewing any of his former friends or foes.

Rabin does not gloss over some of the acknowledged blemishes on his record, such as the ruthless 1948 expulsion of the entire Arab populations of Lod and Ramle by troops under his command.

“[Then-Prime Minister David] Ben-Gurion gave the order, and [Gen.] Yigal Allon and I carried it out,” Rabin acknowledges.

Perhaps the greatest value of the film lies in the recollections of his childhood and adolescence by the normally impassive Rabin.

As a child, he says, “I was an introvert,” and he recalls a “not so tender” mother, who assigned chores and made sure her children ate what was on their plates.

Yet when his mother died in 1937, Rabin, who had “never cried before or after,” shed bitter tears at her funeral.

During the run-up to the War of Independence in early 1948, Rabin was named commander of the Harel Brigade. Only in his mid-20s, he agonized about having to send 15- and 16-year-old boys into battles, in which many were killed.

After the war, he married Leah, who had admired the dashing soldier since her high school days. Showing occasional flashes of dry humor, Rabin recalls that at his wedding ceremony, “I was so embarrassed, I said I would never do it again.”

Yitzhak and Leah Rabin with their children, Dalia and Yuval, as seen in the documentary.

Rabin talks frankly about the dark period of his life during the excruciatingly tense weeks before the start of the Six-Day War in 1967. “I reached the point of physical and mental exhaustion. … I was constantly smoking. … I was melancholy,” Rabin, then chief-of-staff of the Israel Defense Forces, remembers.

With the help of his friend and air force chief Ezer Weizman, and an injection to give him a good night’s sleep, Rabin bounced back to lead the IDF to victory. “Entering the Old City [of Jerusalem] through the Lion’s Gate … I just can’t express the feeling,” Rabin remembers.

With just about any job in the Israeli government his for the asking, Rabin opted to become the Israeli ambassador to the United States from 1968 to 1973. His tenure coincided with widespread anti-Vietnam War protests and then the evolving Watergate scandal, so Rabin reported, “I came to the United States to place Israel’s fate in its hands and found a government falling apart.”

Rabin was not a member of Israel’s government when Egyptian President Anwar Sadat flew to the Jewish state and subsequently signed a historic peace agreement with Israeli Prime Minister Menachem Begin.

This agreement, Rabin observed at the time, “marks the end of the heroic era of Zionism, but better the risks of peace than the gloomy certainty of war.”

In 1992, Rabin started a second term as prime minister and turned to the task — and risks — of peace. He signed a peace treaty with the Palestine Liberation Organization and shook hands with its leader, Yasser Arafat, on the White House lawn.

Segments of the public and the Likud Party vociferously opposed the “appeasement” of the enemy. Month by month, the protest demonstrations became more intense and the personal attacks on Rabin more threatening.

Signs carried by protestors labeled Rabin a traitor and worse. Asked whether such epithets bothered him, Rabin replied, “At first, yes, but now less. I accept it that some people are crazy.”

The film ends just before Rabin’s assassination by a Jewish extremist on Nov. 4, 1995, a tragedy that illustrated what can happen when the bounds of civil discourse are shattered.

Of course, Israel is not the only example of such fratricide. Some may recall that then-Sen. Joseph McCarthy described then-President Dwight Eisenhower as a dupe of the Communists, while today the language of some presidential candidates aims for a similar level of disrespect and vitriol.

Director Laufer, summarizing his motivation for spending half a dozen years making the documentary, noted, “I didn’t make this film for nostalgic reasons. I made it for the future … not so much to show what happened in the past, but what can still happen in the future.”

“Rabin: In His Own Words” opens May 6 at Laemmle’s Royal Theatre in West Los Angeles and on May 13 at the Town Center in Encino.

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