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July 18, 2014

Responsibility


HHV Pelosi, Amani, Vaughan“>Action Kivu, during the 2012 Hear Her Voice Washington Delegation and Conference.


Amani will be leading her trip to Congo.



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  My attention is pulled in so many directions every day — to my husband and children, to my ailing mother, to Israel, Afghanistan, Iraq, Syria and Gaza, to the homeless in Los Angeles, and to many more local and national issues, but it always comes back to Sudan and Congo, and to the work we do with JWW. I have learned so much about these two places since I first started working with Jewish World Watch. I am acutely aware of the devastation left by years of war, of the violence that continues every day, of the innocent women and children who suffer disproportionately and of the horrific chaos all around. The people are constantly on my mind.  I have heard stories from others who have traveled to this region, and I have seen pictures, and they haunt me and inspire me.

Tomorrow, I am finally taking my first trip to Congo.  I feel very blessed to have the opportunity to make this journey, and I also feel quite strongly the responsibility I carry to bear witness, and to return and share the stories I will hear. It will be up to me to listen to those who have suffered so greatly, and to those who are working so hard to create a new Congo; to make sure that the world knows what is happening, and is inspired to continue to make progress where progress is already taking place.



I know that I am traveling to one of the most beautiful places in the world with extraordinary people. I know I will be changed when I return. Thank you to JWW for making this possible for me.  I will do my best to honor this responsibility.
 

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A Family Experience

Spencer Neiman, board member of the Dillon Henry Foundation, and his mother Anne Roberts are joining with three other delegates travelling with JWW to Congo's eastern provinces to work with survivors of the country’s decades-long conflict, which has claimed nearly six millions lives. They will meet with JWW's partners on the ground, with whom JWW works to create innovative programs and projects that change lives and transform communities. 

Spencer:

I have all my clothes and assorted items for this trip to Congo set out on my bed.  For the most part, minus the malaria medication and some premetherin (insect repellant) sprayed clothes, the spread looks the same as any trip I’ve taken, but I know that this is far from the case.  I will come back in about two weeks having experienced a part of the world so vastly different from the privileged life I live.  I have read and prepared for this trip, but no amount of reading could truly prepare me emotionally for what I will learn on the ground in Congo, listening and speaking with the Congolese people who have faced atrocities I could never even imagine.

I go to Congo representing the Dillon Henry Foundation.  My friend Dillon’s joyous spirit was infectious and he lived a life of service.  He tragically passed away at the age of 17, long before his time.  But since his passing, the Dillon Henry Foundation has worked to build his legacy and carry on his mission of making the world a better place.  I am honored to serve on the board of this foundation, which has partnered with Jewish World Watch to sponsor programs and facilities in Congo.  I bring Dillon with me on this trip, with his understanding that those of us in the position to help are obliged to do so.

  Anne:

When I attended the orientation meeting to learn about JWW’s upcoming trips to Congo, I thought I was simply obtaining the trip information for the Dillon Henry Foundation because they would be sending a board member on the trip.  I never intended to go — this was never about me. My son Spencer hoped to be selected as the representative who would have the privilege of going to Congo to help dedicate one of the new projects in Dillon's name.

The lunch meeting was emotional and enlightening as I learned more about the scope of problems in Congo and how JWW truly makes a difference in the lives of those it serves. The Dillon Henry Fondation ultimately decided to send two representatives —Irvin Kintaudi (who went in May) and Spencer would be going in July.  Then, our family was talking about the trip and Spencer said he would like me to join him, sparking a revelation. Why shouldn’t I go? This would be an extraordinary experience to share with my son.

Now I am focused on what this trip means to me.  I was raised with the strong core values of tzedakah and tikun olam — as Jews we have a duty to repair the world by spreading justice. While I have been very involved in the Jewish community, this trip is different because the horrors are beyond my comprehension. As a result, I am nervous, but excited to engage.  My intention is to be receptive to all that I experience. Coming to Congo and Rwanda with JWW to bear witness to the atrocities and to the individual success stories presents me with a unique opportunity– to show that we care.  I will be coming to Congo not only for me, but as a representative of all who know me.  When I return to Los Angeles, I too will be a storyteller about the women and men whom we will be meeting and why we cannot stand idly by.  And I will continue handing down this tradition of tikun olam to Spencer, as we bear witness together.
 

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Obama condemns Russia over downed plane in Ukraine, gunmen hamper inquiry

President Barack Obama demanded Russia stop supporting separatists in Ukraine after the downing of a Malaysian airliner by a surface-to-air missile he said was fired from rebel territory raised the prospect of more sanctions on Moscow.

Calling the deaths of almost 300 people from 11 countries “an outrage of unspeakable proportions”, Obama stopped short of directly blaming Russia for the incident, saying there must be a rapid and credible investigation. “We don't have time for games,” he said.

International observers said gunmen stopped them observing the site properly when they got there on Friday.

More than half of the victims were Dutch, and Obama said a U.S. citizen was among the dead in what has become a pivotal incident in deteriorating relations between Russia and the West.

Obama ruled out U.S. military intervention, but said he was prepared to tighten sanctions. He also said the stakes were high for Europe, a clear call for it to copy the more robust U.S. penalties on Russia already imposed.

Russia, which Obama said was letting the rebels bring in weapons, has expressed anger at implications it was to blame, saying people should not prejudge the outcome of the inquiry.

There were no survivors from the Malaysia Airlines flight MH17 from Amsterdam to Kuala Lumpur, a Boeing 777. The United Nations said 80 of the 298 aboard were children. The deadliest attack on a commercial airliner, it scattered bodies over miles of rebel-held territory near the border with Russia.

Makeshift white flags marked where bodies lay in corn fields and among the debris. Others, stripped bare by the force of the crash, had been covered by polythene sheeting weighed down by stones, one marked with a flower in remembrance.

One pensioner told how a woman smashed though her roof. “There was a howling noise and everything started to rattle. Then objects started falling out of the sky,” said Irina Tipunova, 65. “And then I heard a roar and she landed in the kitchen.”

INVESTIGATION HAMPERED

As U.S. investigators prepared to head to Ukraine to assist in the investigation, staff from Europe's OSCE security body visited the site but complained that they did not have the full access they wanted.

“We encountered armed personnel who acted in a very impolite and unprofessional manner. Some of them even looked slightly intoxicated,” an OSCE spokesman said.

The scale of the disaster could prove a turning point for international pressure to resolve the crisis in Ukraine, which has killed hundreds since pro-Western protests toppled the Moscow-backed president in Kiev in February and Russia annexed the Crimea peninsula a month later.

“This outrageous event underscores that it is time for peace and security to be restored in Ukraine,” Obama said, adding that Russia had failed to use its influence to curb rebel violence.

While the West has imposed sanctions on Russia over Ukraine, the United States has been more aggressive than the European Union. Analysts say the response of Germany and other EU powers to the incident – possibly imposing more sanctions – could be crucial in deciding the next phase of the standoff with Moscow.

Some commentators even recalled Germany's sinking of the Atlantic liner Lusitania in 1915, which helped push the United States into World War One, but outrage in the West at Thursday's carnage is not seen as leading to military intervention.

The U.N. Security Council called for a “full, thorough and independent international investigation” into the downing of the plane and “appropriate accountability” for those responsible.

German Chancellor Angela Merkel said it was too early to decide on further sanctions before it was known exactly what had happened to the plane. Britain took a similar line but later echoed Obama in pointing the finger at the separatists.

Kiev and Moscow immediately blamed each other for the disaster, triggering a new phase in their propaganda war.

Ukraine has closed air space over the east of the country as Malaysia Airlines defended its use of a route that some other carriers had been avoiding.

More than half of the dead passengers, 189 people, were Dutch. Twenty-nine were Malaysian, 27 Australian, 12 Indonesian, 10 British, four German, four Belgian, three Filipino, one America, one Canadian, one New Zealand. Several were unidentified and some may have had dual citizenship. The 15 crew were Malaysian.

A number of those on board were traveling to an international AIDS conference in Melbourne, including Joep Lange, an influential Dutch expert.

“We lost somebody who wanted to make the world a better place,” said his friend Marcel Duyvestijn.

“TRAGIC DAY, TRAGIC YEAR”

The loss of MH17 is the second devastating blow for Malaysia Airlines this year, following the mysterious disappearance of Flight MH370 in March, which vanished with 239 passengers and crew on board on its way from Kuala Lumpur to Beijing.

In Malaysia, there was a sense of disbelief that another airline disaster could strike so soon.

“This is a tragic day, in what has already been a tragic year, for Malaysia,” Prime Minister Najib Razak said.

International air lanes had been open in the area, though only above 32,000 feet. The Malaysia plane was flying 1,000 feet higher, at the instruction of Ukrainian air traffic control, although the airline had asked to fly at 35,000 feet.

Relatives gathered at the airport in Kuala Lumpur and the Netherlands declared a day of national mourning. [Id:nL6N0PT227]

Ukraine accused pro-Moscow militants of firing a long-range, Soviet-era SA-11 ground-to-air missile. U.S. officials said they saw this as possibly the most likely cause of the disaster.

Russian President Vladimir Putin blamed Kiev for renewing its offensive against rebels two weeks ago after a ceasefire failed. The Kremlin leader called it a “tragedy” but did not say who he thought had brought the Boeing 777 down.

He also called for a “thorough and unbiased” investigation and for a ceasefire to allow for negotiations.

Additional reporting by Natalya Zinets, Pavel Polityuk, Peter Graff and Elizabeth Piper in Kiev, Tim Heritage, Vladimir Soldatkin, Polina Devitt, Thomas Grove and Gabriela Baczynska in Moscow, Thomas Escritt in Amsterdam, Anuradha Raghu, Siva Govindasamy and Trinna Leong in Kuala Lumpur, Jane Wardell and Matt Siegel in Sydney and Phil Stewart, Warren Strobel, Jeff Mason, Steve Holland and Matt Spetalnick in Washington; Writing by Giles Elgood and Philippa Fletcher; Editing by Will Waterman, Alastair Macdonald, Toni Reinhold

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Iran, six powers agree to four-month extension of nuclear talks

Iran and six world powers on Friday agreed to a four-month extension of negotiations on a long-term nuclear deal that would gradually end sanctions on Tehran in exchange for curbs on its nuclear program, diplomats close to the talks said.

Iran, the United States, Britain, France, Germany, Russia and China had set a July 20 deadline to complete a long-term agreement that would resolve the decade-old dispute over Tehran's nuclear ambitions. But diplomats said they were unable to overcome significant differences on major sticking points.

“We have reached an agreement to extend the talks,” a senior Iranian diplomat told Reuters on condition of anonymity. Several Western diplomats echoed his remarks.

The extension agreed to on Friday begins on July 21 and negotiations on a long-term deal are likely to resume in September, diplomats said. They added that the talks were set to conclude by late November.

It has been clear for days that Iran and the six powers would miss the Sunday deadline to reach an accord due to disagreements on a number of key issues in the discussions.

Among the issues dividing them are the permissible scope of Iran's nuclear fuel production capacity and how to address the country's suspected past atomic bomb research. The negotiations began in February in Vienna.

The talks are taking place because of a preliminary agreement reached in Geneva in November 2013 that gave Iran limited sanctions relief in exchange for halting some nuclear activities and created time and space for the negotiation of a comprehensive deal to end the decade-long dispute.

But it remains uncertain whether four more months of high-stakes talks will yield a final agreement, since the underlying differences remain significant after six rounds of meetings this year.

Western nations fear Iran's nuclear programme may be aimed at developing a nuclear weapons capability. Tehran denies this.

The powers want Iran to significantly scale back its nuclear enrichment programme to make sure it cannot yield nuclear bombs. Iran wants sanctions that have severely damaged its oil-dependent economy to be lifted as soon as possible.

After years of rising tension between Iran and the West and fears of a new Middle East war, last year's election of a pragmatist, Hassan Rouhani, as Iran's president led to a thaw in ties that resulted in November's diplomatic breakthrough.

But Iran's new government still insists that the country has a right to develop a nuclear energy programme that includes the production of atomic fuel. The West fears that this fuel, if further processed, could also be used to make bombs.

Iranian Foreign Minister Mohammad Javad Zarif told reporters earlier this week that Tehran would be willing to delay development of an industrial-scale uranium enrichment programme for up to seven years and to keep the 19,000 centrifuges it has installed so far for this purpose.

U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry joined the talks last weekend and held several face-to-face meetings with Zarif, but he said before leaving Vienna on Tuesday it was “crystal clear” that Iran keeping all of its existing centrifuges was out of the question.

The United States and its European allies also want Iran to accept restrictions on its nuclear programme for at least 10 years, which Tehran says is excessive.

Additional reporting by Parisa Hafezi in Vienna and by Alissa de Carbonnel in Moscow; Editing by Louise Ireland and Tom Brown

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Some Good News Amid the Horrid

Thursday was an unusual news day with two major stories dominating virtually all news outlets—the Malaysian airliner which was “> entered Gaza to prevent Hamas’ rockets from raining down on its population centers.

Pretty much lost amidst those dominating stories were some rather interesting items that speak to the uniqueness of our country and its attitudes towards minorities.

On Wednesday, the Pew Research Center released a study, “>widespread interactions among different religious groupings. 87% of American adults say they know someone who is Catholic, 77% say they know someone who is “not religious”, 61% say they know someone who is Jewish. The latter datum is quite remarkable since only 2%, + or -, of the public identify as Jewish (for comparison purposes, only 44% of the public claims to know a Mormon which, similar to Jews, constitute about 2% of the American public). 

The average American personally knows members of at least four of the eight religious about whom the survey was conducted (Evangelical Christians, Catholics, Jewish, Atheist, Mormon, Muslim, Buddhist and Hindu). Americans with college degrees tend to know members of five religious groups while those with a high school diploma or less know, on average, three groupings. 

Another Pew study released this week reveals more encouraging data, “the sympathies of the American public continue to lie with Israel rather than the Palestinians.” With data going back nearly forty years, the “> reports that on the eve of Bastille Day (on July 13th), about 7,000 demonstrators marched toward the Bastille proclaim their solidarity with the Palestinians of Gaza. 200 young men broke off from the group and headed toward a synagogue (Abravanel) shouting “death to the Jews” and trapping 200-400 Jews inside the synagogue literally trapped. It took several hours for the police to arrive and allow those trapped in the synagogue to leave. 

President Francois Hollande condemned the demonstration and its anti-Semitic chants with an awkward declaration that, “One cannot make use of anti-Semitism because there’s a conflict between Israel and Palestine.” Despite its inelegance, his sentiment was well intended.

The contrast with the American public and its tolerant, civil sentiments are clear.

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On the verge of war, a little night music: The Israel Philharmonic plays L.A.

In the silence between movements, one could almost hear the rockets raining down on Israel and Gaza.

For some, it was hard to think of anything else at the Israel Philharmonic Orchestra’s annual Los Angeles benefit, a snazzy black-tie affair, held at the Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts in Beverly Hills on July 16.

But for Israel’s national orchestra, it was a night like so many other nights. While Israel’s military prepared to respond to enemy rocket fire with a ground invasion of the Gaza Strip, the country’s top musicians powered through a selection of film scores by the evening’s honoree, film composer Hans Zimmer. And as it has done so fluently since the orchestra’s 1936 founding, musicians played through the pain, focusing instead on the nearly 500 concertgoers who had donned their red-carpet best to support them. 

Before the performance, Protagonist CEO Matti Leshem, the evening’s co-chair, began by offering a prayer for peace, and acknowledging that orchestra members had left behind families “under the threat of Hamas rockets” in order to perform.

The 1-hour and 45-five minute program was conducted by Zubin Mehta, the IPO’s 52-year veteran conductor, and featured some of Zimmer’s best-known work, including compositions from “The Da Vinci Code,” “Pirates of the Caribbean” and “Sherlock Holmes,” as well as Schubert’s “Unfinished” Symphony no. 8 in homage to Zimmer’s German heritage.

In a segment that felt eerily symbolic, the orchestra plunged into the score from “The Dark Knight Rises,” a Batman film about the intractability of evil, with ecstatic ferocity.    

Afterwards, attendees gathered under the open sky for a candlelit three-course meal prepared by chef Wolfgang Puck.

If it felt at all strange to celebrate, no one said so.

“The Israel Philharmonic has a history of ‘the show must go on,’ performing even when there are terrible things going on,” said E. Randol Schoenberg, an attorney and president of the Los Angeles Museum of the Holocaust. “Wherever there are people, there is music. It was in the ghettos and the concentration camps; it’s part of the human experience. If we stop playing music, we’re dead.”

Actor Joshua Malina, star of ABC’s hit series, “Scandal” attended the event with his wife, costume designer Melissa Merwin. Raised by observant parents, Malina is one of a handful of Hollywood celebrities who publicly support Israel. On the red carpet, he stressed that the evening was about art, not politics.

“Whatever ‘side’ you’re on, this is a night of artistic endeavor and not worthy of protest,” Malina said, adding that he is concerned about the violence and casualties on both sides. “Last night before bed, my son and I said the shema, and after, we said a prayer for the people in Gaza and the people in Israel.”

“I think of the mothers and the children,” Merwin chimed in. “On both sides. I can’t stop thinking about them.”

At the bar, where a long line of people waited to order novelty drinks such as watermelon sangria and spicy cilantro martinis, HBO vice president and senior counsel Tommy Finkelstein considered the disconnect. “You obviously think about it,” he said. “But the Israelis live their lives and do the best they can. And so do we.”

Behind him, Adam Irving, a documentary filmmaker who was volunteering for the evening said he wanted to support Israeli culture and hadn’t given the conflict a single thought. “I didn’t make the connection, to be honest. Being here makes it very easy to forget what’s going on; so I haven’t had that on my mind at all.”

For the most part, guests preferred to focus on the opportunity to demonstrate their allegiance and avoided more difficult subjects.

At a long communal dining table parallel to Canon Drive, a group of the IPO’s younger supporters sat together eating salmon and fava bean puree. Waiters passed around a desser buffet of mini-parfaits and pastries.

“I thought it was profound actually when we had a moment to say that all these musicians did leave their families,” said Natalie Gerber, a mother of three and former consultant with McKinsey and Company. “We can try and pretend to be normal, but at the end of the day, these are fathers and mothers and brothers and sisters, and they did have to leave their families, which is not an easy thing to do. It put it in perspective.”

Her husband, Jonathan Gerber, a CPA and founder of the Modern Orthodox overnight summer camp Moshava Malibu, added: “I think it speaks to the resilience of Israel and the Jewish people; that in spite of everything going on around you, you never forget, but you always continue to live.”

At a table across the way was Merrill Greenberg, a member of the orchestra who plays the English horn. A native New Yorker who made aliyah to Israel 41 years ago, Greenberg explained the group's performance as a symbolic act of defiance. 

“I think it’s great that someone will open up the newspaper tomorrow and read something positive about Israel,” Greenberg said. “It will show people that [Israelis] love Western culture and that we represent the state, and the good things Israel has to offer. We’re not suicide bombers.”

Still, Greenberg admitted that it is sometimes hard to enjoy the glamour of it all when he fears for his loved ones back home.

“My Internet phone is right in my pocket and I’m checking it every five minutes,” he said. “I can tell you that.”

As the evening wound down, Mel Keefer, husband of Joyce Eisenberg- Keefer, one of L.A.’s major philanthropists, said the event offered a communal response to an Israel under siege.

“It shows our resolve to overcome anything,” explained Keefer, a benefactor of the Israel Tennis Centers Foundation, a social service organization for at-risk youth. “And I don’t feel guilty about it. I was born and raised in America; I’m an American. I support Israel, but I don’t know what else I can do. I’m too old to go over and do anything physically. So the best I can do is support ‘em.”

One of the last to leave, philanthropist Younes Nazarian lingered at a table wearing his trademark black-rimmed glasses. He leaned back exultantly, smiling.

“Anything coming from Israel, I love,” Nazarian said. “Why? Because that country supported me, my children, my grandchildren, my friends, everybody. Because [for] 2,800 years [my family] was in Iran… Nobody accept me as an Iranian. When I come to Israel, I feel it is my county.”

Before he could continue, IPO conductor Zubin Mehta walked by.

“Zuby! Zuby!” he called out. “Remember me? My name is Nazarian.”

“Ah, yes, how are you?” Mehta replied.

The two began chatting.

“I want to say,” Nazarian began, “our dear Zuby is Persian, from Paras [Hebrew for Persia]. Nobody believe it!  They say he’s Indian…”

“I am Indian,” Mehta said, “but with a Persian background.”

Mehta is Indian Parsi, distinct from Irani, but probably a distant descendant of Persian Zoroastrians. Tonight, however, he had his eyes set on Armenia.

“We were going to Armenia but they have no money to pay us,” Mehta said complainingly, and perhaps strategically, as Nazarian is an IPO benefactor. “I would love to go to Yirevan.”

The leader of the orchestra seemed least affected by the raging drama back home.

“We’ve been [performing] the last 12 days in Israel,” Mehta said. “But you know what is wonderful? That not one person stayed home. They came every night. Full houses. Every night.”

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My son wears dresses, and I have no problem with it

Every morning my four-year-old daughter, Sydney, drags a chair into her closet and plucks a dress off of the rack.  I try to lean her in other directions—“Why don’t we try shorts today?”—but Sydney’s stubborn.  And I think she deserves the freedom to choose what she wants to wear. 

My son, Asher, is two.  I grab shorts and a T-shirt out of the drawer and dress him, because he still has trouble dressing himself.  But he figured out how to undress himself—and pretty often that means he’s ripping off his clothing and screaming “dress” over and over again.  He climbs on to the chair in the closet and tugs at one of Sydney’s dresses—“This one.”

So most days my son is dressed like Sofia the First, or some Disney princess, or—my favorite—rocking a multi-colored Ralph Lauren spaghetti strap sundress.  Taking all social mores out of it, he looks good in dresses.  And on an 80-degree summer day in LA, it’s probably the most practical choice.

It used to embarrass me slightly when he wore a dress in public.  And it wasn’t because I cared about people who thought it was weird that my son was wearing a dress.  It was because I cared that they thought I had chosen to put him in a dress.  As if there was an agenda on my part to use my son as a way to break societal norms, or as my friend’s mom said to me—a religious Sephardic Jew—“You wanted another daughter?”  This was at a birthday party for my friend’s daughter and before I left my house I had tried to convince Asher to change into “boy clothes.”  I knew that if he showed up in a dress, it would be an endless series of questions and judgments, and I just didn’t feel like dealing with it.  But Asher was stronger than ever that morning.  He had a huge tantrum as I tried to force his legs into a pair of shorts.  His nose was running into his mouth as he cried and protested and I suddenly realized I was fighting for something I didn’t even believe in.  I was making my kid feel badly for something he shouldn’t be ashamed of.  And I stopped.  And I gave him a hug and I apologized.  And then I put back on the purple princess dress with his sister’s sparkly Tom’s shoes.  We went to the party, and, as I figured, some of the Israelis laughed and made comments.  One said to me, “Do you think this is funny?  There are kids here.  You want them to see this?”  Another said, “You want him to be gay?”  And I stayed calm.  And I explained to them the best I could that there is no correlation between kids cross-dressing and being gay.  And if he is gay, it’s not because of anything I did.  It’s because he’s gay.  And maybe it’s a stage.  And maybe it’s not.  But either way, I don’t want him to ever feel like he wasn’t able to express himself because his parents didn’t support him.  And some understood.  And some, trapped by religion or ignorance, gave us the stank face.

Plenty of people are supportive.  They’ll see my kids—Sydney with her long dirty blonde hair, and Asher with his short dark hair, and say, “I love your daughter’s pixie cut.”  When I tell them he’s my son, they smile and say, “I love it.”  They also apologize for confusing his gender—but I tell them, “Don’t apologize.  He’s in a purple dress with sparkly shoes.  How would you know?”  I know there are parents who get worked up when you confuse their kids’ gender—but I’m not one of them.

A gay friend saw me with the kids at Jazz at LACMA on Friday night, and apropos of nothing said, “Just so you know I didn’t wear any dresses when I was younger,” which is essentially saying, “Don’t worry.  Your kid’s not gay like me.”  This openly gay, married man was trying to make me feel better about a problem that didn’t exist.  If my son is gay, so be it.  Maybe he is.  Maybe he’s not.  Maybe he’ll be a cross dresser.  Maybe not.  I have no control over any of it.  All I can do is be supportive.  The saddest thing about the exchange was learning how my friend felt about being gay. As if it were a curse—and not the awesome, endless dude party it really is.  Then again, he’s married now.  He probably forgot.

I get home before my wife most nights, so I was taking the kids out to walk our dog.  They were dressing up in different outfits—my daughter treating Asher like her doll, as she tried various dresses, shoes, and headbands on him.  And then Sydney told me she wanted me to wear a dress, too—“Oh my god—it will be so funny.”  I said, “No,” but she kept begging.  I said, “People will laugh at me.”  She said, “If they do, I’ll tell them to go away.”  And I couldn’t argue with that, as I squeezed myself into Carrie’s most flexible dress.  We walked the dog on our block, and the pleasure my kids took in seeing their dad go out of his comfort zone, trumped the humiliation I felt.  Carrie pulled up to the house, and I saw her slacked jaw from the end of the street.  She laughed.  She took a picture.  And she told me I better not rip her dress.  And then we all went for a pizza.


This article was originally published on xojane.

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Still Hungry for Peace


Talmud Bavli, Taanit 26b:
FIVE MISFORTUNES BEFELL OUR FATHERS ON THE SEVENTEENTH OF TAMMUZ : THE TABLES [OF THE LAW] WERE SHATTERED, THE DAILY OFFERING WAS DISCONTINUED, A BREACH WAS MADE IN THE CITY AND APOSTOMOS BURNED THE SCROLL OF THE LAW AND PLACED AN IDOL IN THE TEMPLE.


Two days after, along with “>argument that the Israeli authorities knew in a matter of hours that the kidnapped Israeli youths had been shot and that they prolonged the agony of three families and a nation with a misdirected investigation which provided the excuse for a general crackdown in the West Bank.  Goldberg argues further that it was general knowledge that the Hebron clan attached to Hamas, known to go regularly rogue, committed these murders without orders from anyone else.  Nevertheless, Goldberg continues, Prime Minister Netanyahu and his ministers contributed to unfocused rhetoric of revenge.


For its part, Hamas utilized the crisis to prop itself up at a time of general dissatisfaction with its misrule.  Rocket fire into Israel, which, as Goldberg documents, had abated, escalated until something had to be done. It appears that the government of Israel has decided that ‘something’ means another ground war.
I don’t pretend to know how that will work out, prophecy having been denied our people for generations.  I doubt very much if anything but further destruction and enmity will follow.


Let’s remember that Hamas was pretty effectively isolated before Israel launched its invasion, before homes and hospitals and schools were bombed; and four Palestinian youths playing soccer on a beach were shelled to death by Israeli forces—in a second “>Arabic—that the Hamas rockets fired into Israeli civilian territory constitute war crimes.  But now, once again, the death toll in Gaza has passed the 200 mark, and those dead are mostly civilians. In tandem, Hamas and the Netanyahu administration have created a situation in which it will be much less tenable for a Palestinian government to dislodge Hamas and make peace without losing credibility in the Palestinian streets.


On the other hand, let’s also remember that, before this ground campaign got underway, Hamas unveiled its own “>politicians with a settler base can’t go on.  The “>occupation.  Not with villages destroyed every year, with military checkpoints undermining their ability to move freely in their land, with shrinking access to water, with crops destroyed with impunity and universities subject to summary closure when they can get to them at all—and all of this at the hands of a government that they did not elect and would not choose.


The Arab citizens and residents of Israel cannot live in a society in which they are not safe in their own shops or even their homes; in which their children can be kidnapped and tortured to death.  The residents of “>documents how Jerusalem is now ripping apart, divided according to ethnicity into those who can walk the streets safely and those who can’t.


On 17 Tammuz the tablets of the law were shattered.

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Rosner’s Torah-Talk: Parashat Matot with Rabbi Steven Lindemann

Our guest this week is Rabbi Steven Lindemann, Senior Rabbi of Temple Beth Sholom in Cherry Hill, NJ. Rabbi Lindemann was ordained by the Jewish Theological Seminary in 1980 and served as Rabbi of Rodef Sholom Temple in Hampton, Virginia for 12 years, before moving to Beth Sholom. He is a member of the Executive and Administrative Councils of the International Rabbinical Assembly of the Conservative Movement. He also currently holds the position of Vice President for the Philadelphia Region of the Rabbinical Assembly and the Treasurer of the Tri-County Board of Rabbis in New Jersey. He has been a member of the UJA and Israel Bonds Rabbinic Cabinets. He received the Young Leadership Award from the Federation of the Virginia Peninsula and the National Brotherhood Award from the National Council of Christians and Jews. Rabbi Lindemann holds an MA in Jewish Communal Service from the Hornstein Program at Brandeis University and an MA from the Jewish Theological Seminary. He received a Doctor of Divinity degree from JTS in December 2007.

This Week's Torah portion – Parashat Matot (Numbers 30:2-32:42) – begins with Moses presenting the heads of the tribes with rules concerning the annulment of vows. War is waged against Midian and the Torah lists the different spoils Israel took hold of in their victory and describes how they are distributed. The tribes of Gad, Reuben and half of Menashe ask Moses for the territory East of the Jordan as their portion of the promised land, and Moses eventually agrees on the condition that they first help conquering the west part West of the Jordan. Our discussion focuses on the story of the two and a half tribes who settle on the East Side of the Jordan and on what it can teach us about the need to balance between our feelings about Israel's right to particular sections of the land and the well-being of our children.

If you would like to learn some more about parashat Matot, take a look at our conversation with Rabbi Uri Regev.

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