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August 22, 2013

Shabbat with a side of Pastrami

As twilight approached on yet another gorgeous Southern California day, a cantor led a service bursting with guitar and dance. The room was packed with daveners, and kids circled a table, the youngest ones carrying Torah scrolls. 

While this might be de rigueur at many synagogues on a Friday night, it’s not usually on the menu at local delicatessens — except at Lenny’s. Since May, the new Lenny’s Deli, which earlier this year replaced Junior’s on Westwood Boulevard, has been hosting Shabbat gatherings.

Billed as “Lenny’s Friday Night Shabbat Room,” the restaurant has devoted a rear chamber (something resembling a glass-windowed conference room) to weekly Shabbat services. Rabbi Jerry Cutler leads them once a month, with the rest being conducted by Cantor Estherleon Schwartz.

“Everyone is inquisitive,” owner Lenny Rosenberg told the Journal, chuckling. “’What’s going on in that room?’ They think it’s a mystical event.”

Not only non-Jews show up but, to Rosenberg’s constant surprise, lapsed Jews who have no idea what the Sabbath tradition is all about. (Reservations are required.)

At one such evening on Aug. 2, Schwartz, 72, led a lively service of 30 attendees who prayed while other diners nonchalantly nibbled on their French dip sandwiches and sipped their matzah ball soup. The rest of the restaurant didn’t bat a collective eye as, at one point, younger participants during the service activated flashing rings and blew giant soap bubbles.

“They’re my Shabbat Power Rangers,” Schwartz said. 

Professionally, the goal for Schwartz, a child survivor of the Holocaust, has always been passing along the miracle of her continued existence as a metaphor for Jewish survival.

For Lenny’s, this is part of a larger story of resiliency as well. The last few years have not been kind to the Jewish institution known as the delicatessen in the Los Angeles area. 

Broadway Deli in Santa Monica closed in 2010 after a 20-year run when it could not meet a rent escalation. The aforementioned Junior’s, a West Los Angeles tradition since 1959, closed due to what the owners called a landlord dispute at the end of 2012. And two Jerry’s Deli locations — in Westwood and West Hollywood — were shuttered in recent months.

Rosenberg, a second-generation baker in his mid-40s who comes from Long Island, N.Y., has himself been involved in a number of businesses.

Back East, his father, Robert, made bagels for a living. Lenny Rosenberg had six such businesses in that part of the country before coming to Los Angeles years ago, where he ran Bagel Nosh Deli in Beverly Hills (since sold to new owners and revamped as The Nosh of Beverly Hills), Santa Monica’s 17th Street Cafe and Mayer’s Bakery in Rolling Hills Estates before that. He also opened the short-lived Lenny’s in Pacific Palisades in 2011 at the former Mort’s Deli location; it changed names and closed after he sold it in early 2012. 

When he reopened Lenny’s in the old Junior’s space in February, Rosenberg did more than reboot his restaurant; he made it bigger, better and more religious than before. (The restaurant’s Rosh Hashanah menu the nights of Sept. 4 and 5 incudes gefilte fish, brisket, kugel, macaroons and more.) While the entrepreneur said he himself is not particularly Jewish, his late father came from an Orthodox background.

The concept for the Shabbat Room is a collaboration between Rosenberg, Morry Waksberg and a group that the latter frequents for informal brunches at Canter’s Deli that includes L.A. machers and real estate moguls Stanley Black, Max Webb and Larry Field. While Lenny’s charges $18 for the Shabbat Room to cover costs, making money was not Rosenberg’s prime motivation, he said.

“I felt an obligation to do this,” he said. “My father came from a very Chasidic family in Europe.” 

He was also a survivor of Auschwitz, although he never discussed it, Rosenberg said.

At the recent Shabbat gathering, Field kibitzed and noshed with Rosenberg, Waksberg and publicist Michael Levine, whose teen daughter Morgan had just completed her first day working at Lenny’s. 

“I’m astonished!” Levine said. “It’s bigger than I thought it would be.”

Participant Julie Knapp, a handbag designer, said that Schwartz was a perfect leader for the occasion.

“She was great and she really appeals to everybody,” Knapp said.

Waksberg, whose parents survived the Holocaust, also praised Schwartz.

“Esther is very loving, very pure,” he said. “She doesn’t think about her own welfare, she always thinks about others in the community.”

Like his late father, Rosenberg takes pride in his product — and not just what ends up on the table. He personalizes the deli experience by circulating among the tables and offering customers free samples of baked goods. Rosenberg also has brought aboard a holdover from the Palisades Lenny’s, family-friendly musician Michael Cladis, to engage children on Tuesday nights, while Memphis “Piano” Joe performs rhythm and blues on Saturdays. 

Through such gestures, Rosenberg said he intends to go the extra mile and embed “a really good community feeling” into this Lenny’s, making it the kind of local hub that will ensure its longevity and cement its place as rightful heir to the Junior’s throne.

For people like Waksberg — whose father told him about the Auschwitz prisoners’ efforts to conduct a secret Shabbat ceremony, at great personal risk, every Friday — the prospect of the Shabbat Room could end up being so much more. 

“It’s really about hope!” Waksberg said. “What’s more hopeful than counting the days until Shabbat?”

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Crossing over: Parashat Ki Tavo (Deuteronomy 26:1-29:8)

“When you enter the land that YHVH, your God, is giving you as a heritage …” (Deuteronomy 26:1).

Parashat Ki Tavo comes with the full moon of Elul, the last month of the Hebrew year. Moses addresses the gathered people, Ivrim (Hebrew people), on the Plains of Moab as they are about to cross into the Promised Land. His instructions regarding their behavior once they enter the land come as we are preparing to enter 5774. Like its moon, the parasha shines an intense light on our preparatory work for the High Holy Days.

Early in the parasha, Moses gives the familiar précis of Hebrew history and God’s grace that is part of the Passover seder liturgy: “My father was a wandering Aramean. He went down to Egypt with meager numbers … and became a great and populous nation.” From the depths of oppression, the Ivrim cried out and were liberated and brought to the land of abundance by God’s outstretched hand (Deuteronomy 26:5-10). Moses instructs the people that they are to present their offerings of this new land’s first fruits in a basket and then recite the above story. 

The ritual accompaniment of this thanksgiving offering with the recitation of the story gives us a sense of the mutuality at the core of the sacrificial system. God gives to us (in this case, deliverance from slavery and deliverance to the Promised Land) and the Ivrim show thanks by bringing the first fruits and reciting the story that prompted their expression of gratitude. While a thanksgiving offering differs from an atonement offering, this example of reciprocity in the relationship between God and the Ivrim provides an opening for asking what we might bring as an atonement gift for the High Holy Days and what the gift was in response. 

For the High Holy Days, it is a personal story. With the diminishing moonlight following Elul’s full moon, I squint my eyes to examine my behavior of the past year and begin envisioning the path I will take in 5774 to realign myself with the journey to walk in the ways of YHVH that is mandated in Ki Tavo. And while many of the instructions given in this parasha may be archaic and foreign to my sensibilities, the message regarding the need to adhere to a path of righteousness is clear. 

Ki Tavo is replete with rules for the behavior of the Ivrim. It details the rewards that come with adherence to the delineated code and the terrible consequences when the rules are violated. The rewards are great. But, oh, the horror of the punishments: “You will go back to Egypt and try to sell yourself and your wife as slaves, and none will buy” (Deuteronomy 28:68). So harsh are the warnings that they are often read in a low voice when chanted in synagogues. 

As I try to make these admonitions relevant, I find myself thinking of the name Ivri, which means “boundary crosser.” Most often we understand this as a reference to the fact that we were nomadic people, like that wandering Aramean who was our father. But I think the term has deeper significance. It refers not just to our ancestral tribe, but to a fact about the general human condition: Human beings cannot help but stray from the prescribed path. It is in our nature. The blueprint for our behavior, told elsewhere in Deuteronomy, is the prescribed path of “walking in God’s ways.” But we can only fulfill this commandment in limited ways — not because we are evil, but because we are human. We are Ivrim, boundary crossers. It is just who we are. Try as we might, it is hard to stay within the lines. 

So each year at this time, as we prepare for the New Year, we review just how far we have strayed from the path and ask ourselves what we must do to return. And in the word most connected with this season, we find our “answer,” our “return.” These two words are far more accurate translations of the word teshuvah than its customary translation of “repentance.” Teshuvah was a gift reserved for us before our very creation. It is the gracious response given in anticipation that we would be human, Ivrim, boundary crossers. 

Every day in the morning liturgy we recite the line, “B’chol yom tamid ma’aseh bereshit” (“On every day, always, creation is renewed”). Every day, we have the opportunity to return to the intention of our holy walk in God’s ways and start again. The gift of the New Year is this gift of teshuvah. And our response is to make offerings of tefilah — prayer — and tzedakah — the good work that accompanies actions when we live within the boundaries.

May you find proper alignment and direction as you cross over into the New Year.


Rabbi Anne Brener is a Los Angeles-based psychotherapist and spiritual director. She is professor of ritual and human development at the Academy for Jewish Religion, California, and serves as a bereavement chaplain at Skirball Hospice. The author of “Mourning & Mitzvah: Walking the Mourner’s Path” (Jewish Lights Publishing), she assists institutions in creating caring communities.

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Seth Rogen’s ‘Bigfoot’ pilot ordered by FX

That elusive Sasquatch has been found, and he’s on FX! Or at least he will be soon.

The cable network has just ordered up the pilot of Seth Rogen and Evan Goldberg’s new animated series, “Bigfoot,” according to The Hollywood Reporter.

The show will center on the bipedal hominid’s adventures as “a modern-day everyman who struggles with life’s philosophical quandaries as well as his own animalistic tendencies.”

If you think it sounds awesome, you’re not alone. “This will be the greatest show about an animated Bigfoot ever made,” Rogen said.

Related: Evan Goldberg and Seth Rogen: Friends for the end of the world

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Rockets fired from Lebanon land in Israel

Four rockets fired from Lebanon landed in northern Israel.

One of the rockets from Thursday afternoon fell in a field in Nahariya, according to reports. There were no reports of injuries or casualties.

The rockets were fired from a Palestinian refugee camp, Palestinian media reported, according to The Times of Israel.

At least one was intercepted by an Iron Dome anti-missile battery deployed in the area, Israel’s Channel 2 reported.

Color Red alerts warning of an incoming rocket were sounded in several northern Israeli cities, including Kiryat Shemona, as well as Acre and Nahariya.

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PLO leader: U.S. envoy has not participated in peace talks

American negotiators have not participated in the renewed peace talks between Israel and the Palestinians, a Palestinian leader said.

“The Americans did not participate in any negotiating session so far in spite of assurances that they will play a direct role,” Yasser Abed Rabbo, secretary of the Palestine Liberation Organization, said Thursday. Rabbo made his statements to the Voice of Palestine radio, the WAFA Palestinian news agency reported.

Israeli and Palestinian negotiators have met twice in the past two weeks in Jerusalem. The negotiations have been under a near-total news blackout at the request of U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry.

U.S. Mideast peace envoy Martin Indyk, who was appointed to the post by Kerry last month, was in Jerusalem this week during the talks but reportedly did not attend the sessions.

Rabbo blamed Israel for the absence of Indyk, saying “this is one sign of how and where the talks are heading if the U.S. is not able now to assert itself in the peace process.”

Rabbo also said that Israel’s continued construction in the settlements could damage the peace process, echoing remarks made the previous day by PLO official Hanan Ashrawi during a tour with reporters of eastern Jerusalem.

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Alleged Syrian chemical attack against civilians ‘terribly disturbing,’ Netanyahu says

Israel said on Thursday it believed Syrian forces had used chemical weapons in the killing of hundreds of people in the rebel-held suburbs of Damascus, and accused the world of turning a blind eye to such attacks.

Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said if Syria is not punished, its ally Iran could be encouraged to develop nuclear weapons.

“Syria has become Iran's testing ground, and Iran is closely watching whether and how the world responds to the atrocities committed by Iran's client state Syria … against innocent civilians in Syria,” Netanyahu said in a statement.

“These events prove yet again that we simply cannot allow the world's most dangerous regimes to acquire the world's most dangerous weapons.”

Opposition activists have accused Assad's forces of gassing hundreds, including women and children, on Wednesday, allegations which government officials deny.

French Foreign Minister Laurent Fabius said on Thursday the international community needed to respond with force if the allegations of a Syrian government chemical attack proved true, although there was no question of sending troops on the ground.

For Israel, the conflict in its northern neighbour is a battle between two evils: Assad – who is allied with two of its most strident enemies, Iran and Lebanon's Hezbollah guerrillas – and Sunni jihadists fighting with rebels to oust him.

Wednesday's incident, carried out while U.N. inspectors were in Damascus to look into allegations of earlier chemical attacks by Syrian President Bashar al-Assad's forces, was seized by Israel as an opportunity to question international resolve to curb its foes' suspected pursuit of weapons of mass destruction.

“It is absurd that the UN investigators, who are right now in Damascus to verify use of chemical weapons, are prevented from reaching the afflicted areas by the Syrian regime,” Netanyahu said.

The Assad government has denied using chemical weapons against Syrians. Iran denies seeking nuclear weapons. Israel is widely assumed to have the Middle East's only nuclear arsenal.

Interviewed on Israel Radio, Strategic Affairs Minister Yuval Steinitz said that according to “Israeli intelligence assessments”, chemical weapons had been used in the rebel-held eastern Damascus suburbs, and “not for the first time” in Syria's civil war.

Steinitz did not provide further details. Israeli Defence Minister Moshe Yaalon made similar remarks on Wednesday.

“Nothing tangible or significant has been done in the past two years to halt Assad's incessant massacre of his citizens,” Steinitz said. “The world condemns, the world investigates, the world pays lip service.”

Israel has stopped short of urging Western military intervention in the Syrian conflict.

Israel has on several occasions taken action of its own, firing into Syria after mortar bombs and shells from battles near the frontier struck inside the Israeli-occupied Golan Heights. Israel captured the Golan from Syria in a 1967 war.

Yisrael Katz, Israel's transportation minister, said the alleged horror of gas attacks on Syrians resonated strongly in the Jewish state, founded after the Nazi Holocaust in which many of the six million Jewish dead were killed in gas chambers.

Israel has long conducted a national gas mask distribution programme for the civilian population. It has accused Syria of stockpiling chemical weapons and voiced concern they could be transferred to Hezbollah or other hostile groups.

“Today he (Assad) is murdering his own people, tomorrow he will threaten us and perhaps worse,” Katz told Israel Radio.

Additional reporting by Ori Lewis; Editing by Pravin Char and Sonya Hepinstall

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Yehuda HaLevi on His Heart’s Yearning For God – Elul Meditation

One of Judaism’s greatest poets, Yehuda HaLevi, said words that became in time the spiritual underpinning of political, cultural and religious Zionism:

Gu-fi b’ki-tzei ma-arav v’li-bi b’miz’rach!

“My body is in the west, but my heart is in the east!”

Halevi’s central life pre-occupation was fulfilling his longing for oneness with God and doing God’s will. The following poem is particularly beautiful for that spiritual message and touches a central theme during this month of Elul and in the upcoming Days of Awe.

Da-rash’ti kir’vat’cha

B’chol li-bi k’ra-ti-cha

u-v’tzei-ti lik’rat’cha

lik’ra-ti m’tza-ti-cha.

“I have sought Your nearness,

With all my heart have I called You,

And going out to meet You

I found You coming toward me.”

(From Selected Poems of Yehuda HaLevi, translated by Nina Salaman)

Yehuda Halevi (1075-1141 CE) was born in Spain and traveled to Egypt on his way to Eretz Yisrael (“The Land of Israel”). The Holy Land in those years, however, was a dangerous place for the lone traveler and Halevi’s friends urged him not to go. Rather, they begged him to remain in Egypt and live out his years there. Halevi’s dream, however, of living in Eretz Yisrael could not be denied, and so at last he made aliyah in 1140 at the age of 65. No one knows what were the circumstances surrounding his fate, but he died within that same year.

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Israelis on Obama’s Policy: Bad 40%, Mediocre 35%, Good 14%

Two days ago, in an article I wrote for the IHT-NYT, I tried to explain why Israel is rooting for the Egyptian military. And I was talking not just about official Israel, but also about the public: “And so the Israeli government is hoping that the Egyptian military won’t surrender now. (It might even be thinking: Good thing the Islamists were pushed aside before they could weaken the secular and nationalistic military, Turkey style.) The same goes for the Israeli public, the pollster Menachem Lazar, of Panels Politics, told me; he said it wants 'anything but the Muslim Brotherhood.'” The problem, both for me and for Lazar, was that we didn't have solid data with which to support our confident contention. We strongly believed we were right, but we had to wait for the first polls of this week to be able to prove it with exact numbers.

Lazar did have numbers from the day Morsi was ousted by the military, from which it was clear that Israelis instinctively preferred Sisi. When asked on July 4th about who they think is better for Israel as the ruler of Egypt, 4% said Morsi, while 22% said Sisi – a person very few Israelis knew anything about at that time (indeed, 50% said that they didn't know). The problem with using that old poll as proof is obvious: this was all before the Egyptian military opened fire and killed hundreds of demonstrators. So theoretically speaking, one could argue that Israelis might have changed their minds since July.

But they didn't. In a poll released today there's still 4% for Morsi. No change. The question is a little different: Lazar asked “which side should the US support?” – it's not a question about which person is better for Israel as the leader of Egypt. But I think the results are indicative enough to put the question of Israeli preference to rest. 4% said Morsi, 45% said Sisi. 33% say that the US should support no one, and 19% don't know. By the way, according to this poll more Israelis would also not urge the US to get involved “more actively” in the Egyptian crisis (39% for no, 33% for yes). Telling the US not to get involved is telling the US to let the military keep doing what it is doing – so it's just another sign that the Israeli public is satisfied with an Egypt controlled, even brutally, by the military (the American public, as we've mentioned earlier this week, supports cutting off US aid to Egypt).

In today's poll Israelis were also asked to do something similar to what we often do in our Israel Factor surveys- to rank Obama's Middle East policies. The difference of course is that our Factor survey is a survey of ten experts, while the poll is representative of the Israeli public. Back in June, when we asked the Factor panel to rank Obama on “dealing with developments in Egypt and handling relations with the Egyptian government”, the verdict was mediocre: 6.33 out of 10 possible points. Yet this was before recent developments (on which the panel will give its opinion soon).

Interestingly though, it seems that the Israeli public doesn't view Obama much differently from our panel – it also gives the President a grade that is at best mediocre. The question was: “how would you rank Obama's policy towards the Middle East since he came into office?” – so it's not about Egypt alone, or Syria alone, or the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, but rather an over all perception of Obama's handling of Middle eastern matters. It is also not a question referring to recent developments, but rather to Obama's policies since he came into office – but such questions tend to be highly impacted by what the public thinks about recent developments (do we even remember what the Middle East looked like when Obama came into office, ages ago?)

Here's what the Israeli public says about Obama's handling of the Middle East:

Good: 14%

Mediocre: 35%

Bad: 40%

Can't estimate: 10%

Now the question: is this bad or good?

The answer: it really depends on one's expectations from the American President. If one feels that as long as the President's handling of this region isn't truly a disaster that's fine, then one could take the “good” and the “mediocre” and get to a fair share of 49% of the Israeli public that is reasonably satisfied with Obama. If, however, one expects the President of the US to handle Middle East policy in a way that is no less than excellent, combining the “bad” with the “mediocre” would lead to the conclusion that 75% of the Israeli public isn't satisfied with Obama.

As I wrote many times in the past, I tend to think that Israelis generally expect a lot– possibly too much – from American presidents. This is true when they answer questions related to the level of Presidential support for Israel (numbers here), and is also true when it comes to more general questions about the President's handling of the Middle East. So the verdict on Obama, while not a disaster, is also far from complimentary. Obama's foreign policy approval rating is going slightly down in the US, and it isn't high in Israel either.

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August 22, 2013

The US

Headline: Syria attack prompts calls for U.S. action

To Read: Robert Satloff thinks that President Obama has done enough for now in Egypt-

‘Doing nothing” is often as important as “doing something.” President Obama sent a powerful message about US strategic priorities when he offered verbal condemnation but no meaningful punitive action against Egypt’s rulers for their violent crackdown on protesters supporting ousted president Mohammed Morsi. With the United States facing bad options in bad circumstances, Obama’s was also the right choice.           

Quote: “The people who wrote this report did not, in a timely manner, consult with people who have the information. Those people, both within the department and elsewhere are quite upset that they were not properly consulted”, the Washington Institute's Matthew Levitt commenting on a controversial State Department report on Iran.

Number: 7, in seven years Bradley Manning will be eligible for parole.

 

Israel

Headline: Palestinians warn of UN move over settlements

To Read: J.J. Goldberg examines the affect of the Hagel battle on Jewish organizations in Washington and on the Israel Lobby-

“They overplayed their hand,” said Middle East scholar David Makovsky of the Washington Institute for Near East Policy. “And the Jewish groups did the math.”

The result was a weakening, if not a shattering, of the pro-Israel working coalition between Jewish groups and the Republican right that Netanyahu and his Likud predecessors had carefully built up over decades. The White House showed what it can do when the president has his mind set on something. Moreover, the continuing antics of Republicans on Capitol Hill has deepened the alienation of Jewish voters. Jewish lobbyists and advocates who might think of getting in bed with Republican lawmakers to pressure the administration on foreign policy are thinking twice about how their members and donors will react.

Quote: “He [Erdogan] has continued Goebbels' ways”, former FM Avigdor Liberman talking about the Turkish PM.

Number: 30, the number of young Olim who began their army service on Wednesday.

 

The Middle East

Headline: France says force needed if Syrian chemical attack proved true

To Read: Andrew J. Tabler imagines what post-war Syria will look like if Assad wins the war-

With insurgents losing ground to the regime’s forces and succumbing to ever more infighting among themselves, it seems increasingly likely that Assad will avoid losing the war — which will qualify, in this context, as an outright win.

For the many countries, including the United States, that have based their policies on the hope that Assad would eventually be forced from power, Assad’s resilience has probably come as a disappointment. (But given their generally indecisive interventions in the war, the outcome should not come as a shock.) Nevertheless, Washington and its allies need to reckon with the bitter trajectory that Syria is now on. The regime that emerges from the civil war will be more oppressive and more anarchic than the brutal yet stable one that existed before the war.

Quote:  “After the fall of Muslim Brotherhood rule, Mubarak’s defense will likely shift the blame to them”, said Hoda Nasrallah, a lawyer at the Egyptian Initiative for Personal Rights, commenting on former President Mubarak's release from prison into house arrest.

Number: 1,300, the number of people the Syrian opposition claims were killed by chemical attacks.

 

The Jewish World

Headline: Top haredi rabbis decry 'worthless' ultra-Orthodox radicals in Beit Shemesh construction row

To Read: Rabbi Martin Lockshin believes that if the Rambam didn't fear biblical criticism, there's no reason for modern Jewish believers to fear it-

 Almost every methodological approach used by modern Bible critics finds a parallel in the works of the medieval “traditional” Jewish exegetes. If the study of the third part of the Guide and of the Torah commentaries of Rashbam and  ibn Ezra are Jewish Studies, then so is the study of modern biblical criticism. I would also note that in Israel today the tensions between the religious approach and the critical approach to the study of the Bible are seen by more and more Jews as bridgeable. Rabbis like Mordechai Breuer have taught their students to take the best from both approaches. I am hopeful that a similar development will occur soon here in North America.

Quote: “I was going back to base when the chronicle people stopped me and filmed me. I smiled at them because I was madly happy that we won (a battle) and that we had captured this machine gun, a precious trophy. My bag is filled with hand grenades”, Witold Kiezun, 91, a Polish participant in WW2 whose after battle joy was documented in a new color film about the Warsaw uprising.

 Number: 2000, the number of Jews which Russia hopes to bring back to the historic Jewish autonomous region of Birobidzhan

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Guest Post by Alexandra Batzdorf: Why the Internet is Leading to a New Generation of Sexism

Alexandra Batzdorf just completed a summer internship at the National Council of Jewish Women/LA. Alexandra is a current Bard College sophomore majoring in Sociology with a concentration in Social Policy.

The first time I went to my high school’s “Womyn in Today’s Society” club, or WITS, I was terrified. Although I was intrigued by posters around school advertising WITS, it was not something I ever anticipated exploring. But my boisterous, self-assured friend was going that day and she insisted that I come along. I glanced nervously over my shoulders to make sure no one I knew was around to see me and label me a feminist.

Then I opened the door and walked into what would turn out to be the warmest, most positively influential space of my high school career.

Looking back, I’m not really sure exactly why 14-year-old me was so afraid. I come from a liberal family with a mother who is both a major financial contributor to my family and a feminist. My parents lived through and supported the women’s liberation movement and often had conversations with me about women’s rights. As I quickly learned through WITS, I was already a feminist. But to my peers and me, feminism was a dirty word.

I’m sure there’s a multitude of reasons why being dismissed as a feminist is enough to stop many an arguer dead in her tracks and replace her confident passion with shame, but I think one of the most influential culprits is the Internet. My parents’ generation is the first to have to worry about the information their kids are exposed to on the web. Many people find themselves opposed to censorship, but afraid of what might sculpt the young minds of their children. Before I go on, I want to make it clear that I’m not saying the Internet has single-handedly caused sexism. Sexism has been alive and well since way before the Internet. But the attitudes on the Internet reflect those in mainstream society, often with fewer filters and through an intensified lens due to the anonymity that the Internet provides.

While an obvious culprit may be access to porn that more often than not dehumanizes women, in my opinion, the more insidious problem is social networking. Today’s youth is absorbed by it. We’ve seen it used time and time again as a tool for cyber bullying. People are expected to present two images to the world: the real live person who physically interacts with people and the more symbolic social network profile that must somehow appeal to peers, future employers, family members, and the approximately 1.15 billion other members of Facebook all at once. This is a daunting task. Gone are the days of trying to keep work life and personal life separate.

With all this pressure to please everyone, people are bound to get picked on by someone. And with the ability to send messages to anywhere in the world, people are not afraid to voice their opinions. It’s easy to forget there’s a real, live person behind the computer screen. The combination of guaranteed anonymity and the higher threshold for shock value resulting from the exposure the Internet provides is a recipe for young people to gain the bravery to be meaner and to lose awareness of consequences on peers. In this way, social networking is an extremely effective method of perpetuating shame.

I’ve read articles about people who have had photographs of themselves breastfeeding removed from Facebook for indecency, while pages devoted to dehumanizing women remain untouched, despite countless reports. On reddit, a collection of interactive communities separated by topic, there is a subreddit (page within reddit discussing a certain topic) called “/r/TheRedPill,” (1) which describes itself as a “discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.” Its title alludes to the red pill from The Matrix films that represents the painful and difficult objective truth of the world. It has 13,588 members. The subreddit “r/MensRights” (2) has 77,090 members. That is roughly the size of Camden, New Jersey. And what’s worse, the subreddit “/r/RedPillWomen” (3) has 1,160 members.

Men and women are affected by sexism and it shows. Just last year, I was at a museum with my then 8th grade cousin when he pointed to a painting depicting a naked woman with pubic hair and told me, “she needs to shave.” He is one of the sweetest kids I know. His mother works at a nonprofit devoted to social justice. I’ve had fantastic conversations with her about sexism and she often gives me books about influential women. Yet he already had a definite, restrictive notion of what it means to be valued as a woman in today’s society. He said it with a giggle, not anger or disgust. I can’t blame him any more than I can blame myself for fearing WITS at his age. He honestly didn’t know better.

Deeply engrained sexism can be seen everywhere. An activist from Australia was recently attacked via Twitter for “challeng[ing] [Tyler “The Creator”] Okonma’s lyrics, which encourage rape and violence against women by vocally supporting a petition on change.org that suggested he shouldn’t be playing all-age shows.” (4) The Twitter community responded by flooding her with tweets threatening to rape and murder her. (The tweets got pretty graphic, but if you want to see the whole story and some examples, see the link under “SOURCES” on the bottom of this page.) An attorney in West Virginia is trying to prevent future cases like the Steubenville, Ohio rape case by creating “Project Future,” (5) a program that teaches teenagers not to share evidence of rape via social media so they don’t get in trouble. This is disturbing not only because the response is to teach teens not to get caught, rather than not to rape, but also because the rapists were confident enough that the social media community would be accepting of their actions that they posted blatant proof.

Recently, The Hillary Project, a group devoted to keeping Hillary Clinton out of the White House, released “Slap Hillary,” (6) an interactive game that allows users to virtually slap a cartoon rendering of Clinton with a picture of her face. Disagreement with a political leader is remedied by violence against women. The only reason sites like this, as well as Twitter attacks, viral evidence of rape, and anything else on the web promoting sexism exist is that people who post them feel comfortable doing so. They have the expectation that others share these views and the safety of being physically separated from those who don’t.

I’m not saying the Internet has destroyed our youth. Times change. Trends swing back and forth like a pendulum. The Internet has simply exacerbated the seemingly inevitable fate of progress. But I do not want my generation to be known as the content people who went backward in the fight for freedom. Oppression shouldn’t make a comeback like Doc Martens and the high-waisted jeans that I remember being so popular in the ‘90s.

The Internet can be a fantastic tool for educating youth about systems of oppression among an almost infinite number of other things. And there are definitely sites out there that provide people with a lot of empowerment and self-positive education. The web has allowed for connections that simply weren’t possible before. I’ve been part of a Facebook page that allows young women in the U.S. and the Middle East to have open discussions about gender. And I still frequent subreddits with articles and dialogues pertaining to systems of oppression. But not everyone stumbles upon blogs like this one. We cannot expect people growing up with the World Wide Web to emerge unscathed by the hatred that still exists.

Kids have no way of knowing how much fighting has happened throughout history for women, people of color, the LGBT community, or any other group of oppressed people, which is quite an extensive list. It is our responsibility to teach them. Not everyone is lucky enough to go to WITS or experience the 11th grade social justice curriculum that was taught to me in the amazing Humanities Magnet in my high school. For those of you who have/know pre-teens who don’t feel comfortable talking about sexism (or that you want to provide with more information), I HIGHLY recommend Jessica Valenti’s Full Frontal Feminism (7). It is sassy, fun, informative, and an overall enjoyable read created to empower young women afraid of the feminist label. I wish I had read it sooner. If you don’t think your kid will want to read it, fine, but then have conversations!

Do something! We are facing a time when the government is stomping on our reproductive rights. Planned Parenthoods are closing all over the country. Abortion is becoming more and more difficult to access legally. Female politicians are criticized for their looks, advocates of birth control are shamelessly called sluts (which remains a scathing insult, for reasons beyond me), and our youth are too desensitized by the Internet’s high threshold of acceptable critique to see the problem with this. If we want to maintain the work that has been done so far, let alone further progress, WE NEED TO TALK TO OUR KIDS ABOUT THE INTERNET.

SOURCES:
1.“>http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights
3. “>http://www.dailylife.com.au/news-and-views/dl-opinion/us-rapper-tyler-the-creator-unleashes-a-torrent-of-hate-on-sydney-activist-20130806-2rbbf.html
5. “> http://thehillaryproject.com/games/
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