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December 18, 2009

Who’s Responsible? Men or Women

A friend of mine sent me this anonymous post on craigslist which accuses women of missing out on great guys because they don’t give the “nice guys” a chance. The poster calls himself “a recovering nice guy”, and he seemingly needs to vent. The post begs the question: should women learn to become more attracted to the less sexually appealing “nice guys” who offer them full friendship and devotion but who don’t push their buttons sexually? Or is that like teaching a woman to undo psychological conditioning? Is it better, then, that the “nice guy” learns to become a MANsch, treating women with respect and integrity while also knowing how to turn them on?

I think it’s a mixture of both. Women should understand better and modify their patterns of attraction to the non-mensches without compromising on sexual attraction, and these proverbial “nice guys” (mensches) could improve their appearance, lifestyles, and communication with women to make themselves alluring romantic options.

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December 19-25, 2009

SAT | DECEMBER 19

(CELEBRATION)
Judith Cohen and Dolores Sloan combine their passion for Sephardic culture in an evening organized by Sephardic Singles Havurah and Arbeter Ring, “The Ninth Night of Hanukah: A Sephardic Celebration.” Cohen specializes in Judeo-Spanish music, and Sloan published “The Sephardic Jews of Spain and Portugal: Survival of an Imperiled Culture in the Fifteenth and Sixteenth Centuries.” The program is followed by candle lighting, a sing-along and dessert reception. Sat. 7:30 p.m. $10 (members), $15 (guests). Workmen’s Circle/Arbeter Ring, 1525 S. Robertson Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 552-2007. {encode=”dsloanauthor@gmail.com” title=”dsloanauthor@gmail.com”}.

(ISRAEL)
Spend an afternoon with 30 soldiers currently serving in Israel Defense Forces combat units, each one with an unforgettable story to tell. This third annual luncheon is co-sponsored by Nessah Israel Young Professionals and the Friends of the Israel Defense Forces; a portion of the proceeds goes to FIDF. Women are requested to wear white and men are requested to wear blue. Sat. 1 p.m. $26 (members), $52 (guests). Nessah Synagogue, 142 S. Rexford Ave., Beverly Hills. ” title=”theatre68.com”>theatre68.com.

MON | DECEMBER 21

(KIDS)
Scribble Press, a make-your-own-book store, offers winter camp programs for children ages 3 to 6. Today’s program is titled “It’s Never Too Late for Latkes,” and children will make latkes and menorahs — for use at Chanukah next year — play dreidel, listen to Chanukah stories and songs, and participate in a treasure hunt. Mon. 9-11:30 a.m. $50. Scribble Press, 1109 Montana Ave., Santa Monica. (310) 899-0495. ” title=”comedysportzla.com”>comedysportzla.com.

THU | DECEMBER 24

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(COMEDY)

Nobody does Christmas like a Jewish comic. “Merry Erev Christmas With Elon Gold and Friends” at the Laugh Factory is an ideal alternative to movies and Chinese food. 18 and over. Thu. 8 p.m. and 10 p.m. $20 (general), $30 (VIP). Laugh Factory, 8001 W. Sunset Blvd., Los Angeles. (323) 656-1336. ” title=”holidaycelebration.org”>holidaycelebration.org.

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Mollified about Mercury (or Calm about Catfish)

Mercury in high doses is known to be toxic.  So if you were thinking about breaking your glass thermometer and drinking the contents on a lark, I beg you to reconsider.  This has raised concern about possible harm from eating seafood since many species of seafood are known to contain trace amounts of mercury.  Much hand-wringing has ensued.  Should we shun salmon?  Avoid albacore?

The most recent issue of The Medical Letter, a publication I frequently cite, summarizes the scientific literature and attempts to clarify the issue.

Mercury exposure during pregnancy has been associated with problems with neurological development in the developing babies, though the results of studies of the effects of seafood intake during pregnancy have been mixed.  Still, because neurodevelopment appears to be the biggest effect of mercury toxicity, concern has focused on pregnant and breastfeeding women and small children.  The FDA (see link below) has recommended that pregnant and breastfeeding women limit their intake of seafood high in mercury.

In non-pregnant adults, no harm has been shown from mercury exposure from seafood.  One possible reason is that the omega-3 polyunsaturated fatty acids (PUFAs) in fish oil have a beneficial protective effect that could outweigh any harm from the mercury in fish.

The authors of the article conclude:

Public health agencies have recommended limiting the intake of seafood with a substantial mercury content during pregnancy. Since the typical US seafood diet has a healthy ratio of omega-3 PUFAs to methylmercury and PCBs, the net effect of eating fish in the US is likely to be a protective one.

This is reassuring.  I’m going to celebrate with a jar of herring.

Learn more:

The Medical Letter article:  ” target=”_blank”>What You Need to Know About Mercury in Fish and Shellfish

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