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November 25, 2009

Two Unique Looks at Holocaust History

Unlike the cartoonish characters in Quentin Tarantino’s over-the-top revenge fantasy, “Inglourious Basterds,” the young men whose exploits are depicted in “They Dared Return: The True Story of Jewish Spies Behind the Lines in Nazi Germany,” by Patrick K. O’Donnell (Da Capo Press, $26) are flesh-and-blood war heroes.

The author is a military historian who tells one of the great untold stories of World War II. Frederick Mayer, a Jewish refugee from Nazi Germany, was recruited by the Office of Strategic Services to join a secret unit of German-speaking operatives who were to be parachuted behind enemy lines to carry out operations against the Third Reich. Among his fellow fighters were a number of other Jews, and his closest comrades-in-arms dubbed themselves “the Jewish Five.”

Their story is as exciting and exotic as any Hollywood movie, but “They Dared Return” is solidly rooted in the facts of history. After training at a secret base on Catalina Island, they were asked to make the ultimate self-sacrifice — to go back to the killing grounds from which they had escaped.  At one point, Mayer was questioned by an OSS officer who wanted to make sure that the Jewish operatives understood the unique risk they were being asked to take: “This is more our war than yours,” Mayer answered.

Not every exploit of the Jewish Five was a matter of blood and glory. At one point, for example, Mayer was issued a Nazi uniform and sent into a POW camp so he could polish up his language skills among the captured Nazi soldiers. By 1944, however, Mayer and his unit were sent into the belly of the beast on a mission to infiltrate the Austrian town of Innsbruck, where Hitler was rumored to have built an Alpine fortress for a desperate last stand, and gather the vital intelligence that the Allied armies would need to bring Nazi Germany to final defeat.

“They Dared Return” reaches a state of high drama as Mayer and his fellow operatives are loaded on a camouflaged B-24 bomber and dropped by parachute onto an Alpine glacier along with their weapons, rations, gold coins, forged documents, phony uniforms, microfilmed codes and the all-important radio that would enable them to report back to their OSS handlers. The code name for Innsbruck was “Brooklyn,” Munich was “Jersey,” and Switzerland was “the Bronx.”

The courageous deeds of Mayer and his fellow fighters are narrated with all the suspense of a Len Deighton novel, but the facts are supported by end-notes to reassure us that it is the stuff of history. I won’t spoil the reader’s pleasure by revealing too much here, but suffice it to say that some of the Jewish Five learned for themselves that water-boarding is torture at the hands of the Gestapo. But, in the end, they achieved a small but deeply inspiring victory that deserves our attention and our praise.

“1938: Hitler’s Gamble” by Giles MacDonogh (Basic Books, $27.50) is a work of history whose author invites us to ponder one of those “what-if” questions that are a favorite of novelists ranging from Philip K. Dick (“The Man in the High Castle”) to Len Deighton (“SS-GB”). Here, the question is: What if Hitler and the Nazis had been confronted, whether by German patriots or the Western democracies, at a crucial moment when Hitler might have been stopped from making war on the world?

On January 1, 1938, as MacDonogh points out, Germany was still ruled by a right-wing coalition rather than a single man or even a single party. The borders of Germany were still the ones imposed by the Allied victors after World War I, and Hitler “had yet to pursue any foreign adventures.” The Jewish population of Germany, although stripped of citizenship and other legal rights by the notorious Nuremberg Laws, was not yet the target of official violence on a mass scale. “By New Year’s Day 1939,” the author reminds us, “everything had changed.”

MacDonogh focuses on the events of 1938 — the union of Germany and Austria under Nazi rule, the dismemberment of Czechoslovakia, the pogrom called Kristallnacht and the first mass deportations of Jews to the concentration camps, and the final steps in the creation of the Third Reich as a one-party state under the absolute rule of Adolf Hitler — in a careful, thoughtful and wholly fascinating month-by-month account of the countdown to war.

The author of “1938: Hitler’s Gamble” allows us to glimpse how, at certain moments, history might have turned out differently. When Hitler first threatened Czechoslovakia, for example, a message was passed to the British from a high-ranking German general: “If you can bring me positive proof from London that the British will make war if we invade Czechoslovakia, I will make an end of this regime.” Instead, Chamberlain made his notorious flight to beg Hitler for peace, thus abandoning the Czech democracy and sending a catastrophic signal to Nazi Germany.

MacDonogh, whose ancestry includes Austrian and Hungarian Jews, acknowledges his stake in the story he tells: “The history of Central Europe in 1938 is, to some extent, the history of my own family.” To his credit, he never sensationalizes the story he tells:  “Before the outbreak of war in 1939,” he cautions, “no one could have accurately predicted the depths to which Nazi Germany would sink by the end.” But he makes the tantalizing case that the early triumphs of the Third Reich were hardly inevitable.

Jonathan Kirsch is the book editor of The Jewish Journal and blogs on books at jewishjournal.com/twelvetwelve.

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Healing the World, One School at a Time

When Robyn Ritter Simon first checked out Canfield Avenue Elementary School for her sons in 1995, she didn’t like what she saw.

Test scores weren’t stellar. The school grounds needed improvement. And in the heavily Jewish Pico-Robertson area of West Los Angeles, where the public school is located, hardly any Jewish families were sending their kids. Ritter Simon’s eldest son would have been one of few white children — and even fewer Jewish children — in his class.

But while other mothers in her Beverlywood neighborhood were budgeting for private school, Ritter Simon and a group of friends went to work fixing up the school and wooing local families back to the campus. Over a nearly 10-year period, the “Beverlywood Moms” stumped for the school at neighborhood gatherings, organized house meetings and successfully recruited hundreds of local Jewish families back to Canfield. Today, the school her peers once shunned is “an anchor of the neighborhood,” Ritter Simon said, and that enthusiasm has caught on elsewhere.

“We really galvanized parents about public education, which ended up improving elementary schools throughout the Westside,” she said.

Now the group’s model for revitalizing Los Angeles Unified School District (LAUSD) schools is graduating from elementary school to that place that still causes many Jewish parents to bite their nails in anxiety: middle school. And, for the first time, some major Jewish institutions are joining the effort.

Through a community organizing program, congregants of Temple Isaiah are mobilizing to kick up support for Emerson Middle School, one local intermediate school that serves a wide swath of West Los Angeles. Temple Isaiah activists are waging a two-pronged campaign — urging local Jewish families to look past the rumors and give the school a chance, and working to activate non-Jewish parents at Emerson’s feeder elementary schools so they’ll stay involved when their kids get to middle school.

To be sure, many Jewish families, including most Orthodox families, don’t send their children to local schools, choosing instead to enroll them in private day schools emphasizing Judaic studies from childhood through high school. But not all the effort from the Jewish community is about enrolling in a particular school, rather the focus is on getting involved in offering support. To that end, for example, the congregation at IKAR, which includes residents from throughout the city, is about to embark on an effort to bolster a public school in a struggling neighborhood that is not in their facility’s immediate neighborhood but is in great need of assistance.

If concerned parents of all ethnic and religious backgrounds work together, these congregations believe, they can help strengthen public education for children everywhere.

The timing is right, too. In a struggling economy with private school tuition rates climbing out of reach, more Jewish families are looking at their neighborhood schools. And they want to be assured the schools are good.

But this time of uncertainty also offers a chance to return to the core Jewish value of tikkun olam (repairing the world): Choosing public school, some say, is simply the “right” thing to do. In her Yom Kippur sermon in September, Temple Isaiah’s Rabbi Dara Frimmer made the case:

“The prophet Jeremiah said, ‘Seek the well-being of the city in which you dwell … for in its peace you shall find peace,’” Frimmer said. “The well-being of the city in which we dwell depends on a strong, public education for all children. It’s about the future of Los Angeles.”


Building Relationships

At 4:45 p.m. on a drizzly October evening, about 40 parents of fifth-graders gather at the low-slung kiddie tables dotting Brockton Avenue Elementary School’s library. Principal Kim Lattimore opens the yearly parent meeting with a welcoming speech, also translated into Spanish, then she introduces a guest — Emerson principal Kathy Gonnella, who will have most Brockton graduates at her school next year.

Scattered among the crowd is a handful of elementary school parents from across town, Temple Isaiah congregants whose children are also zoned to go to Emerson in a few years. One of them, Jeremy Bollinger, introduces himself, saying he plans to send his two daughters to Emerson when they graduate from Westwood Charter Elementary School.

“I’m excited to come and meet you, because we all share the same interest in making Emerson a great school for our kids,” he says.

It’s a conversation many Brockton parents — who are predominantly Latino — would later say they’d never had before.

Starting dialogues like this is a fundamental part of Temple Isaiah’s approach. By building relationships among community groups that have a stake in the school, activists believe, they can create a network of involved parents who will advocate for higher-quality education all the way up through the system.

These relationships are key according to One LA-IAF, the community organizing agency Temple Isaiah partnered with in 2007 to get the ball rolling on this initiative. One LA works with congregations of all faiths, as well as nonprofits and unions, to help create momentum for tackling social issues such as housing, labor and health care. Other member synagogues include Temple Emanuel in Beverly Hills, Temple Israel of Hollywood and Wilshire Boulevard Temple.

When the 1,100-family Temple Isaiah first began work with One LA, organizers held a series of meetings to pinpoint civic concerns members wanted to address. Public education was a recurring answer and, more specifically, Emerson.

Parents told stories of paying top dollar for a home in the pricey Westwood area to be near a “good” elementary school, then by middle school getting scared off by Emerson’s reputation and scrambling to budget for private school anyway. Older congregants talked about using up the inheritance they had hoped to leave their children to help finance grandchildren’s private school tuition — to avoid the local middle school.

“We heard from parents who felt completely disconnected from the values they were brought up with and the ones they wanted to express — about equity and democracy and making friends in the neighborhood and letting their kids grow up with a realistic view of Los Angeles. They had abandoned all of that because they just couldn’t make the choice to go to the local school,” Frimmer said. “We need to start talking out loud about public education and why we’re not going. People are broken and stressed out and feeling compromised morally. People don’t feel empowered — they feel helpless.”

Synagogue members started by reaching out to Emerson principal Gonnella last year and touring the campus to understand what the school had to offer and what its needs were. Then they came back and held meetings, inviting other congregants to voice their concerns in a public forum.

The outreach was a boon to Gonnella, who had made wooing neighborhood families back to the school a priority in her first three years as principal.

“It was so heartwarming to hear a rabbi from our neighborhood say, ‘We want to help you get the local community back,’ and that we share a vision of having Emerson be the school of choice for Westwood families,” Gonnella said.

Members of IKAR hope their own outreach to a Los Angeles public school will be met with such enthusiasm as they get ready to start a similar school-improvement campaign.

Last year, the 400-member-unit congregation began a community organizing program that also turned up public education as a top concern. The group is still deciding on a specific focus — since the IKAR community is so spread out, there isn’t a central school of relevance to all members, so they’re instead looking at schools in the low-income south-central part of the city.

Participants want to take a “holistic approach,” viewing the school as a vehicle through which to strengthen an entire community, said IKAR member Matty Sterenchock, co-chair of the education initiative. That means taking into account where kids go after school, whether the neighborhood is safe for children and what services are already in place to aid local families. So far, members are talking about mentoring students, holding after-school workshops and coordinating adult literacy programs to get the whole community engaged.

But the ultimate goal in these efforts is not for a handful of Jewish activists (Temple Isaiah’s contingent includes about 50 active congregants; IKAR’s includes about 30) to bring about change on their own — they want parents of all backgrounds, including the neighborhood parents, to partner to improve local schools.

Temple Isaiah members are taking that message on the road, visiting principals and parent groups at Emerson’s feeder elementary schools including Westwood Charter, Brockton and Castle Heights, to encourage activism to begin early.

“They will have this culture of taking not just an interest, but ownership in their schools,” said synagogue member Bollinger, who has become the resident Emerson liaison at Westwood Charter. “When parents are involved in a school, it shows kids that school is really important. Kids achieve at a higher level when they believe that, teachers are more accountable, and, as a whole, it really lifts up the performance of a school.”

Language barriers come into play as well — at Brockton, for instance, the population is 77 percent Latino, and some parents shy away from participating in the school because they don’t speak English. Immigrant parents often feel intimidated by the school system and that they don’t have a right to get involved, said Sister Maribeth Larkin, Temple Isaiah’s One LA organizer. So when synagogue members show up to their school and say they want to work together, it’s an empowering statement. Throwing money at a school will buy kids a new playground; inviting parents into the school will ensure generations of families care enough to maintain it.

Urban Myths

One part of the problem keeping Jewish families away may be schools’ outdated reputations.

Of Emerson, Bollinger said, “We heard horrible things — that there were gangs, there was bullying, that it wasn’t a safe place and the scores were so bad you couldn’t get a good education. I wrote the school off, and immediately thought, ‘OK, we have to start saving for private school.’”

For a lot of families, the story stops there. But Bollinger and his wife talked to parents of Emerson students and went to meetings in support of the school. “We found that all of those rumors were false, and the people who were spreading them were people who had never stepped onto the campus,” he said.

At 10 a.m. on a recent morning, there were no signs of gangs roaming the school grounds — a spread of beige and salmon stucco buildings that sits behind the Mormon temple on Santa Monica Boulevard near Beverly Glen Boulevard. Inside, the halls are clean and students dressed in blue and white garb — the school’s dress code — wave hello and say “Good morning, Ms. Gonnella” as the principal walks by. Late morning, Gonnella makes her way to a busy pedestrian intersection outside and oversees student traffic. As kids stream past, she calls out orders to lower a sweatshirt hood, spit out gum, tie shoelaces, button a too-revealing shirt.

The facility needs a grass field (gym is currently held on a blacktop area) and $50,000 to replace the aging computers in the computer lab, but overall the campus is well-kept and bright, with the hedges trimmed and flower pots lining outdoor walkways.

Emerson didn’t always have an image problem. Opened in 1935, the neighborhood school changed when LAUSD closed several nearby middle schools in the 1970s and ’80s, and students from poorer neighborhoods had to be bused in. This prompted heavy “neighborhood flight,” Gonnella said, to private schools or, through permitting, to the Beverly Hills school district. Emerson’s white student population languished from the mid-’80s until Gonnella was charged with bringing it back up.

In the last three years, the school’s white enrollment jumped from 10 percent to about 17 percent, and parent involvement has increased “tenfold,” Gonnella said. Emerson’s Academic Performance Index (API) scores have been rising, too — to 709 this year, up from 701 last year and 689 in 2007. Emerson is still considered a “failing school” according to the controversial federal No Child Left Behind Act, but teachers are adjusting instruction to cater to struggling students, she said. And, with just under 1,000 children, the school is small by LAUSD standards.

Many families don’t take the time to find out about Emerson’s plusses, Temple Isaiah parents say — they either go private, try to get their children permitted into the neighboring Paul Revere Middle School five miles away, or ply the magnet program’s arcane points system to secure a quality public education they fear the local school can’t offer.

“It’s sometimes painfully slow to change the entire thought process of a community,” said Ritter Simon, the Canfield Elementary mother. “Parents talk to other parents and take their recommendations. As long as we have parents saying, ‘Don’t go there — don’t even go and look,’ it builds a climate of people just staying away.”

There are about as many Jewish school-age kids in L.A. public schools as private schools, according to the Bureau of Jewish Education (BJE) in Los Angeles. Out of about 52,000 Jewish children in grades K-12, around 20,000 attend Jewish and secular private schools, said BJE director of day school operations Miriam Prum Hess. The rest, Hess guesses, must be in public schools.

Ritter Simon thinks more families would choose public schools if they took the time to see what they have to offer.

“There are a lot of outstanding teachers and administrators and parents that are doing phenomenal work in making schools successful, and they don’t get enough attention,” she said. “All you hear about are the problems and the horror stories — not enough textbooks, not enough seats. But you don’t hear about the teacher that stays after school every day and works with the kids to make sure they get it.”

Since becoming Emerson’s principal, Gonnella has held outreach meetings and monthly chats she dubs “Croissants and Conversation With Kathy” — anything she can think of to dispel the longtime “urban myths” that poison local white and Jewish parents’ interest in the middle school. She’d rather they work through their concerns by becoming active parents at Emerson.

“A lot of parents feel that they don’t have the experience or the skill set to get involved in the school, so they just stay away,” she said. “I want to take away that fear and let them know that they are wanted and appreciated and respected, and they can then become an integral part of not only their student’s education, but the whole educational process.”

Work in Progress

The fruits of that strategy can be seen at elementary schools across the Westside, where Jews have for years been at the forefront of efforts to bring middle-class families back to the public school system. Involved parents are holding house meetings and starting conversations with friends, hoping to recruit families back to their neighborhood schools in a bid to strengthen public education for the broader community.

Canfield Elementary has been the most visible success story, with the vocal — and mostly Jewish — Beverlywood Moms group starting work in the mid-’90s to turn the school around. Starting when their sons were just months old, Ritter Simon and three friends recruited a swath of local families back to the school, helped raise needed funds and refurbished school grounds even before any of their children set foot on the campus.

Going to public school wasn’t a financial necessity for them, said Ritter Simon, a longtime community activist who has run for Los Angeles City Council twice. The mothers wanted to go on principle. “We didn’t feel like we took leftovers,” she said. “We chose public school. For a lot of families, it’s not because of money — it’s because they believe in what they’re doing.”

Local families have returned in recent years to nearby Castle Heights and Fairburn Elementary schools too. In the early 2000s, Fairburn catered mostly to students coming in on permits from other areas, recalled former two-term LAUSD school board member Marlene Canter. By the time Canter left office last year, the school had attracted so many neighborhood kids that there were no longer spots for kids on permits, she said.

“We started to invite parents to the schools and in the area now, eight years later, all my elementary schools are filled to the brim with parents, and their scores are much higher,” said Canter, who served as school board president from 2005 to 2007 and called on families to support their local schools during her tenure.

That primary school energy is already starting to spill over to Emerson. As a result of outreach, led in part by Temple Isaiah parents, 33 Westwood Charter graduates started at Emerson this fall — more than double the number from last year, according to administrators.

But the influx of middle-class families has drawbacks, too. Schools that receive Title I funding — federal funds for low-income students — find their revenue streams shrinking as the number of students for those programs falls.

Three years ago, 71 percent of students at Emerson qualified under Title I, meaning they are eligible for free or reduced-price meals. Last year, 56 percent qualified. That means the school received only $600 per qualifying student, down from $900 when the school was over the 65 percent mark. Over the last three years, Gonnella said, Emerson took a $200,000 hit.

Compounded by recent district budget cuts, she said, the revenue drop is hurting everything from extra security at the school to library supplies and field trips.

“That is going to have to be made up by the local families,” Gonnella said.

Jewish Values Breed Activism

Fortunately, Jews have a lengthy résumé in grass-roots organizing that they can leverage to benefit schools in need.

“Jews are an important political force, especially in West Los Angeles,” said author and columnist Bill Boyarsky, who writes for The Jewish Journal and the local blogs Truthdig and L.A. Observed. “They have a long tradition and continue to be politically active, and have vast knowledge of how to campaign to get things done. They know how to put pressure on the school board members and the principals to improve things.”

As LAUSD schools scramble to fill budget gaps caused by education spending cuts, active parents can pick up the slack, Boyarsky said, using their organizing savvy to raise the funds needed to salvage at-risk programs.

And in the Jewish community, that kind of action is more than just a noble goal — it’s a moral imperative.

“As Jews, we are taught the importance of being responsible for not just our children, but for the world’s children,” said Gonnella, who grew up attending Wilshire Boulevard Temple. “Jews have an obligation to be a voice. When inequities occur, when needs are apparent at the school, it’s a plus to have more parents who have knowledge of how to work systems, who aren’t afraid to make demands that are reasonable but need to be made. When they speak out, it benefits all the students at the school.”

The pursuit of social justice is enshrined in the Torah, part of a seemingly contradictory set of commandments that calls on Jews to remain separate as a people through unique customs but also to champion the strength of the wider community. “We have to figure out a way to balance preserving not only ourselves but also the city, and looking out for not just our best interests but everyone’s best interests,” Rabbi Frimmer said.

For Temple Isaiah member Janet Hirsch, who sends her two children to Emerson, that balance can be achieved when more Jewish parents abandon the notion that their kids would be “guinea pigs” in Los Angeles’ much-maligned schools, and start thinking about how supporting public education can boost the entire city.

“A lot of people are prepared to risk their kid until fifth grade, but then they go private,” Hirsch said. That kind of “my kid only” mentality, she said, perpetuates the problem.

Frimmer wants to see more families having that conversation out loud.

Supporting the local school is an appealing notion, most agree, but some parents say they just aren’t ready yet.

With two children at Castle Heights Elementary, Elissa Thompson said she wants to stick with public education for her kids’ intermediate school years, but the local Palms Middle School is “not where I’d want it to be.”

Palms, with about 1,800 students and a 2009 API score of 840, is generally seen as a good school.

But, Thompson said, the family is prepared to move as far as Calabasas or Orange County to be near a higher-performing school district.

“The process of picking a school for your child is very personal,” Thompson said. “A lot of parents feel differently, but I’m just not there yet.”

‘Escape’ to Charter Island

Charters and magnet schools have long been bright spots of Jewish enrollment in the public school landscape. Westwood Charter — a prized fixture of the heavily Jewish Westwood community — and magnet programs such as Millikan Middle School’s performing arts magnet and Hamilton High School’s humanities magnet have typically drawn a large Jewish student population.

There’s support at the Jewish institutional level, too. In 2007, the Skirball Foundation partnered with a Los Angeles-based charter school organization to open Jack H. Skirball Middle School in the Watts area. Uri Herscher, CEO and president of the Skirball Cultural Center in West L.A., said the move honors the memory of Jack H. Skirball, an ordained rabbi and film producer whose advocacy for education led him to help found the Los Angeles campus of Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion.

The school brings a “positive energy” to its Watts neighborhood, said principal Joy May-Harris. The school’s API score is almost 200 points higher than other neighborhood schools, and its college-prep curriculum pushes kids to achieve more, she said.

Jack Skirball called public education “the anchor of democracy,” Herscher said after the school’s official naming ceremony on Oct. 28. Funding the school also reflected the Jewish value of giving back to the community, he added.

That was Matt Albert’s motivation for last year’s opening of New Los Angeles Charter School, a middle school that serves the Carthay neighborhood and boasts a social justice-themed curriculum heavy on community service work.

A former Milken Community High School educator, Albert said he’s seeing a rise in students coming to the charter school from private Jewish day schools. Much of it, he believes, is because fewer Jewish families are able to afford tuition for a K-12 Jewish education.

“Middle-class Jews are getting priced out of being Jewish,” Albert said. “I don’t believe the current system of Jewish education is sustainable. There are fewer people who can actually afford it as we go from generation to generation. At a certain point, the system of grandparents helping pay for tuition will dry up.”

For a lot of families, charters and magnets are seen as a “safe” entry point into a system some still harbor misgivings about. The motivation in these cases often isn’t to support public schools, said former LAUSD board member David Tokofsky; it’s to escape from them.

Smaller schools and learning communities are often a vehicle for parents to “gate off” from the system and protect the interests of their own child, Tokofsky said — to board a life raft to escape what is often seen as a sinking ship.

“Jews have cherished the ideal of equality, so it’s that much more tragic that in the politics of today, we’re not speaking a language of inclusion,” he said.

Albert understands some of the concern. Charter schools are more intimate, with as few as 200 students compared to 2,000 at some LAUSD middle schools. Teachers know the kids better, and class sizes are smaller. Parents feel less like their children could be “lost in the system.” Ideally, he said, families should be able to trust that their local school can provide a quality experience — whether it’s charter or not — but that’s not always the case.

Many parents also view LAUSD gifted and talented programs the same way. Honors programs, which conspicuously favor white students, are often seen as safer “islands” within district schools, some said.

Caucasian students only make up 8.8 percent of the LAUSD population, which is 73 percent Latino and 10.7 percent African American. Yet 24.7 percent of Caucasian students are in gifted programs, compared with only 6.6 percent of Latino students and 5.7 percent of African American students, according to the California Department of Education.

“It’s seen as a safe stepping stone,” said Hirsch, the Emerson parent, whose children are in the school’s honors track. “For a lot of parents, to go into that program kind of makes it OK to choose Emerson. If you were not identified as gifted for that program, your kid went to Paul Revere [Middle School].”

The issue raises tough questions about race and class that many find difficult to face, parents said.

“There are people who think, ‘The school is too black, the school is too Mexican,’ and all of a sudden you see a lot of ugly things about people,” Ritter Simon said. “Prejudice still exists. For a lot of people, that’s a very uncomfortable zone.”

Hard Work Ahead

Community leaders agree it would take years of hard work to bring Jewish families, en masse, back to the system. Parents would have to abandon fears and biases to embrace a vision of what public education in Los Angeles could be if everyone collectively rolled up their sleeves and committed to turning mediocre schools around.

“It’ll take a lot of determination and a lot of principals like Kathy and rabbis like Rabbi Frimmer all over the city,” Boyarsky said. “It’s like organizing a political campaign. You have to go door-to-door, block by block to convince people.”

But observers say the kind of grass-roots programs taking place at Temple Isaiah and IKAR are on the right track.

Faith organizations can be a powerful arm of support for public schools, Emerson’s Gonnella said — they can reach out to parents who might otherwise be too intimidated by the system to voice their desires and provide guidance on how to get involved. A handful of public school activists at a church or synagogue can also help shift the opinions of the broader religious community. “Just being here sends an incredible message to other parents: ‘Hey, if it’s good enough for their kids, maybe my kid will go there too,’” she said.

Former school board member Canter called Temple Isaiah’s support for Emerson “amazing.”

“The way they stepped up to the plate, they can be a role model for what other faith institutions can do in the community,” she said. “People should follow their lead — the schools are there to meet everyone’s needs, and we should all be working toward that.”

Schools could do their part to appeal more to Jewish families by tweaking their curricula to spotlight ancient civilizations studies and promote social justice themes in the classroom, Tokofsky said. New L.A. Charter, for instance, engages kids in community service activities, such as reading to elementary school kids through The Jewish Federation’s KOREH L.A. literacy program, learning about the environment through Heal the Bay, and collecting food for SOVA food bank.

In the meantime, Frimmer is trying to stay realistic about the time it will take to reform the system — and Jews’ perceptions of it.

“I’m not looking for an overnight revolution,” she said. “My hope is that people build relationships and do the work necessary to transform public education; that this wouldn’t be a top-down revolution or a one-time, inspirational renaissance that a year later people fall away from. Hopefully this will activate these congregants’ Jewish identity as well as their sense of civic responsibility and in five or 10 years we’ll be amazed at how much more certain we feel about our ability to make change — not only in our lives, but in our whole neighborhood.”

For those still on the fence, Castle Heights Elementary mother Elan Levey offers concise encouragement: “If everyone went to public school, it would be everything we’d want it to be.”

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How to Draw More Jews

LimmudLA, an everything-Jewish weekend retreat, is so militantly pluralistic that its homemade Shabbat songbook has songs and prayers culled from about 20 different books, and some of the entries have five translations.

But even with its absurd attention to such details, the learning and cultural conference, which holds it third annual retreat Feb. 12-15, 2010, ran into some issues over the past two years with the Shabbat bathrooms.

At the Costa Mesa Hilton, which will house the conference for the third year running, the sinks and toilets operated by electronic sensors are a problem for those who are observing the Sabbath. So signs around the hotel pointed to which bathrooms had fixtures without automatic sensors.

But cryptic signs for the “Shabbat Bathroom,” or the “Shabbat Elevator” (it automatically stops on every floor), as well as an abundance of yarmulkes on Shabbat, left many under the impression that this conference was dominated by the observant.

And that perception also was somewhat warranted by the facts. At the first LimmudLA, in 2008, around 400 of the 630 attendees identified themselves as some form of Orthodox or Conservative, while the next year it was about 450 out of about 700. To many, the three-day event felt even more skewed than that.

“If you put up a sign that says ‘This way for Shabbat elevators,’ it sends a message about who is there. But you can’t put up a sign that says ‘Reform Jews are here, too,’” said Abby Fifer Mandell, who has been involved in LimmudLA since its inception in 2007 and this year is co-chairing the outreach committee.

Fifer’s committee has spent the last nine months trying to bulk up the presence of underrepresented communities such as secular, unaffiliated, Reform, Iranian, Israeli, Russian and Jews of color.

The Limmud model originated in the United Kingdom some 30 years ago and in the last decade has spread to 40 communities around the world, from Denver to Bulgaria to Argentina to Turkey, touching tens of thousands of Jews.

The conference is entirely volunteer run — LimmudLA’s only paid employee is executive director Ruthie Rotenberg. Most of the 200 sessions are led not by professionals, but rather by participants who have something to share. Among sessions to be offered at LimmudLA 2010 are: Jewish Roots, Rock and Reggae; The Jewish Body: From Bris to Nose Jobs; Power Negotiating Strategies: Lessons From the Bible; Efforts to Address the Iran Threat; Holographic Metaphor-Physics and Judaism; and sessions on Yiddish, Iranian Jewry, Latino Jews and Jews in Zimbabwe.

The program also includes Jewish thinkers Rabbi Yitz and Blu Greenberg; Anat Hoffman, a leader in Israel’s Reform movement and a founder of Women at the Wall; and Mel Konner, professor of anthropology, neuroscience, behavioral biology and Jewish studies at Emory University. Among the local stars, Valley Beth Shalom’s Rabbi Ed Feinstein will teach, as will Rabbi Chaim and Doreen Seidler-Feller, the UCLA Hillel director/sex therapist power couple.

Cedars-Sinai will run sessions on medicine, health and ethics, and scholars from top Jewish studies institutions such as Pardes, the Shalom Hartman Institute and Wexner Heritage Foundation are slated to attend. Most of the dozens of film screenings include a discussion led by a producer or director, and movement sessions include dance, yoga and Krav Maga. Evenings will be peppered with comedy shows, concerts and late-night hangouts.

LimmudLA hopes to attract 900 participants this year. The cost of the weekend, including hotel and all meals, is $500 for adults who register before Dec. 1, and $600 before Jan. 11. Payment plans are available, and although the scholarship deadline has already passed, organizers are attempting to raise more funds to subsidize the weekend for those who can’t cover the cost.

At this year’s conference, Shabbat bathroom signs will still, of necessity, be hanging, but programmers have added elements that liberal Jews find compelling — more mitzvah projects, both at the conference and in Orange County; sessions on gay and lesbian issues, many led by Gregg Drinkwater, director of Jewish Mosaic, the National Center for Sexual and Gender Diversity; still-to-be-confirmed Reform musical talents and Reform scholar Rabbi William Cutter.

Over the last couple of months, Reform congregations around Southern California have been invited to participate in several “Tastes of Limmud” — evening gatherings with four or five sessions meant to generate interest in the conference.

Other “Tastes” have targeted Israeli and Iranian populations, and LimmudLA has forged relationships with the Israeli Leadership Council and Iranian organizations including the Lev Foundation, 30 Years After and the Jewish Unity Network. Iranian scholar Houman Sarshar, head of the Iranian Jewish Oral History Project, will lead sessions.

A diverse volunteer corps has been specifically tasked with spreading the word in their own communities, since experience shows that most attendees hear of the conference from friends, not mass advertising.

But that presents a Catch-22 for underrepresented communities, who by definition don’t have insiders to trigger the word-of-mouth campaign. And Reform or unaffiliated Jews might be at a disadvantage to Shabbat observant communities who have weekly opportunities to schmooze and spread the Limmud gospel.

Some worry the obstacles for Reform go deeper.

David Aaronson, who is on the LimmudLA board and has been involved for three years, is a lay teacher at Temple Israel of Hollywood and other synagogues.

“The problem that the Reform community has is, given a window of educational opportunity, Reform Jews choose not to step through that window,” he said. The Shabbat morning study group he leads at Temple Israel attracts about 25 people a week — considered a great success in most Reform circles, but discouraging when you consider there are about 1,600 adult members of the congregation, Aaronson said.

Reform rabbis, who did not want to be quoted, confirmed that they have a hard time getting congregants to engage in Jewish study or activity outside of the prescribed routine, especially if that study involves an entire weekend.

But other Limmuds have overcome that barrier. In fact, Los Angeles and the United Kingdom are nearly alone among Limmuds in being dominated by the observant crowd; most are dominated by liberal Jews and have to work hard to attract more observant populations.

The volunteers who initiated the drive for LimmudLA were primarily Orthodox and Conservative and word naturally spread through their own communities, both to recruit participants and leaders.

Today, both the conference planning committee and the LimmudLA board have a broad mix of observance and ethnicity.

The conference chair, Caroline Kelly, is a Reform Jew with Persian roots who came to LimmudLA two years ago with a waning interest in Judaism, and she was not sure what she would get out of the conference.

“Somewhere along the line she got the importance of the weekend,” said Shep Rosenman, a co-founder of LimmudLA and current board member. “I think that everyone has that capacity once they’ve been there, because the weekend has such a transformative quality to it.”

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State Budget Cuts Create Stumbling Block for Special-Needs Kids to Attend Camp Ramah

For 30 years, the Conservative Jewish summer Camp Ramah in the Ojai Valley has provided programming for children and young adults with mental retardation, cerebral palsy, epilepsy and autism. Despite the high costs — around $4000 per camper — families were able to afford the programs through state money allocated to the Department of Developmental Services (DDS) and nonprofit regional centers.

Last July, however, Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger signed a bill that required DDS to reduce its budget by over $300 million, which it did in part by temporarily suspending camping services.

“The budget crisis is striking at one of the pillars of the Ramah community,” said Rabbi Daniel Greyber, executive director of Camp Ramah in California.

The special-needs programs, for 45 kids annually, operate under the name “Tikvah” (the Hebrew word for “hope”) and aim to teach how to lead independent lives enriched by Judaism.

Children and teens engage in art, sports, music and dance activities alongside non-disabled peers, with a high counselor-to-camper ratio. Ramah’s other special-needs program, Ezra, a vocational program for young adults, provides job training and work experience.

Since most special-needs families cannot afford to pay for Ramah on their own, the camp is trying to make up for the money that families were previously getting from the state. The camp must come up with more than $100,000 to maintain the same number of campers.

So far, Ramah has secured an anonymous $50,000 challenge gift.

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Thanksgiving Day Survival Guide

Thanksgiving is here, but are you prepared?  And I don’t mean, “have you prepared the cranberry sauce in advance and hauled home the fifty pound turkey?” 
 But are you really ready?  To reconnect with family members you have not seen since last Thanksgiving?  To give Aunt Sarah the run down on your love life?  To explain why you only get together with family once or twice a year?

Here are some Thanksgiving day survival tips:

-Keep a topic of conversation on hand for those uncomfortable moments with family and time-to-change-the-subject moments.

-If you are a guest on Thanksgiving, instead of a bottle of wine or flowers as a host/ess gift, bring a dish you have prepared for the holiday, in case there is nothing you care to eat at the home you have gone to, or they completely have overlooked the fact that you are a vegetarian (again).  (“You can eat the stuffing.  There is no meat in the stuffing, just chicken broth, not a whole chicken.  Sheesh.”)

-If you are invited to family, there is always a way out (to leave early, anyway).  “We promised (fill in the names of your choice), we would stop by their place for dessert.  We would love to stay, but unfortunately, they are waiting.”

-If you are preparing the holiday, make sure you have prearranged seating arrangements. Group your guests according to categories; Chatty Cathies, Self-Promoters, Nosey Yentas…you get the point.  (Note those that are enemies.  Seat at separate ends of the table or separate rooms, better yet.)

-Have plenty of food on hand so there is no need for much conversation.

-Don’t have expectations about the holiday.  Accept that it won’t be perfect; then if it is, you will be pleasantly surprised.

-Avoid topics on politics, how you are managing your home, work and children and reminiscing (not always a good thing) when family reminisces about just how many family functions you have missed in the first place.  “Speaking of cousin Lisa’s wedding.  You haven’t seen them since then and met their three children, have you?”

-Make sure buffer guests are included.  These guests should be cheerful friends, not involved with your family drama, who always know how to keep the party going.

-Make sure you have a separate kids table so the kids don’t have to endure the topics of conversation and you can always retreat to that table when the going gets tough.  (It’s always more fun with the kids.  And they are honest – “I don’t want to sit by Michael.  I don’t like him.”)

Whatever you do, enjoy it.  The food, the family, the drama and the tryptophan effect and bloating of this holiday.  And be thankful…it only comes once a year.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Innovation Forum Supports Social Entrepreneurship

After a four-year hiatus, the Joshua Venture Group re-launched at the end of June and is back with a new executive director, Lisa Lepson. Lepson was the guest speaker at the first Jumpstart Innovation Forum, which took place at The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles on Nov. 19, part of a national tour, one part of which is to inform the community of an upcoming social entrepreneurial fellowship. 

The forum was the first in a series offered by Jewish Jumpstart, an incubator for Jewish innovation, which was founded by Shawn Landres and Joshua Avedon. Lepson spoke to the crowd of approximately 50 about the Joshua Venture Group and its Dual Investment Program, which will have eight fellows in its 2010-2012 cohort of young Jewish social entrepreneurs. Participants receive $40,000 annually for two years to start their ventures, along with health benefits, a toolkit including invitations to their semi-annual retreats and the opportunity to be part of a community.

Abbie Schiller, president and founder of The Mother Company, learned of the forum from Jumpstart, through Facebook and Twitter, and said it was helpful. “[Entrepreneurship] can be a truly alienating, lonely world,” she said. “To find a community of like-minded, intelligent individuals is so refreshing.”

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Israeli Tech Takes on Domestic Violence

As seen at themedialine.org

A man convicted of domestic violence is approaching the home of his ex-wife. A restraining order does not dissuade him from entering the house, nor does a parole officer’s threat of imprisonment, nor does a panic button given to his ex-wife. By the time he arrives and she presses the button, it’s way too late.
 
This is exactly the type of situation Elmo-Tech, an Israeli company specializing in electronic monitoring tools and location verification technologies, seeks to prevent.
 
Launching a new online platform in conjunction with the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women, Elmo-Tech seeks to educate criminal justice officials, welfare administrators and organizations working to curb violence against women of the benefits of the latest in domestic violence prevention technology.

Idit Mor, Elmo-Tech’s corporate communications manager, said that while monitoring technology has been used for years, Elmo-Tech’s product is the most comprehensive to date.

“Restraining orders are the most common way in Western administrations of handing domestic violence cases and remote offender monitoring has been used in the Western world for some twenty years now,” Mor told The Media Line. “What is unique about our tool is it’s comprehensiveness: it tracks the aggressors and alerts the monitoring center, the victim and any other stakeholder of a potential interaction. It can even alert the aggressor so he can retreat and enables government administrations to determine whether a restraining order has been violated.”
 
The launch of the Elmo-Tech site, www.addstrain.com, comes after 14 U.S. states have passed legislation allowing the use of remote monitoring technology in domestic violence cases in 2009 alone.
 
“There is the technology readiness on the one hand and this legislation drive on the other,” said Mor. “People are very happy with it. Both with the system’s technological capacity and the feeling of security it provides to victims.”

Elmo-Tech’s GPS-based remote monitoring systems sets up a series of security layers around both the violent offender and the survivor, automatically providing local enforcement agencies with early warning alerts should the two parties come close to one another.

“This technology is based on anticipation,” Yael Arfi, a product manager with Elmo-Tech, told The Media Line. “We want to anticipate an encounter with the aggressor, which is an important issue for women’s organizations.”

“Let’s say a restraining order says a guy has to stay 1000 meters away from his ex-wife or her home,” she said. “Like most monitoring systems, the guy will be fitted with an electronic tag. But we will also give him a GPS device that doubles as a phone and which he must carry with him at all times, allowing the authorities to contact him. Then we also give a GPS device to the victim. So if he even gets close to 1000 meters away, we can sent a pre-alert to both the monitoring center and the woman, giving them an extra step to be prepared and allowing the authorities can call the guy ‘Hey, we know that you are getting close, be careful, we are watching you’.”

“There are other companies that provide electronic tags or devices with panic buttons, but if she presses panic upon seeing the aggressor it will be too late,” Arfi said. “We don’t want to wait for a meeting between the two parties to take place before she hits a panic button, so we provide multiple levels of alerts, and there is no other company that provides this kind of anticipation technology.”

“We also archive the tracking data,” she added, “Making ours the only system allowing officials to provide a judge with extensive localization data about the aggressor.”
 
Elmo-Tech’s remote monitoring systems were first used by the Spanish Ministry of Equality in Madrid and the Balearic Islands and the company’s offender monitoring technology is in use in various locations throughout Europe, North America, Latin America and the Pacific Rim.

“We are very proud to be able to offer a viable tool for the global effort to minimize gender based violence,” said Elmo-Tech’s Chief Executive Officer Dagan Sadeh in a statement. “We will continue our cooperation with administration globally and hoping to developed more such programs.”

“With as many as 30%-60% of restraining and protection orders commonly breached, their enforcement is proving a challenging mission,” he said, referring to U.S. and Swedish data collected between 2004 and 2008. “Our technology offers meaningful support to enforcement agencies and victims.”

While women’s advocacy organizations have welcomed the Elmo-Tech system, its effectiveness depends on governments providing the staff needed to both use the system and follow up on alerts.

“We provide the technology,” Elmo-Tech’s Yael Arfi said. “Beyond this a country needs the resources to manage the information and the data and to respond.”

“The tool just gives you data, so you can’t say you didn’t know,” she stressed. “You also need the tools to react.”

Photos courtesy of Elmo-Tech Ltd.

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Abbas: Israel Talking to Hamas

Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas said Israel is conducting secret negotiations with Hamas.

Ha’aretz reported that in a BBC interview in Arabic, Abbas said Israel and Hamas were discussing a Palestinian state with temporary borders. A Hamas spokesman denied the existence of such talks, telling a Palestinian Web site, “We don’t negotiate with the enemy.”

Abbas also said that the Israeli government wasn’t truly interested in peace, and that “Washington isn’t pushing Israel enough to advance the peace process.”

In the interview, Abbas also said that Palestinian elections scheduled for January would be postponed, and that he had made a final decision not to run for a second term.

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SWINE FLU HITS “HOLLYWOOD EAST”!

When I woke up Monday morning coughing, sneezing and with the general feeling that a truck hit me, reversed, and ran me over again – my first thought was: Uh-oh, I’m screwed. I had an audition in an hour that required I be in tip-top shape. I scrambled out of bed and brushed my teeth while repeating the mantra: “I’m not sick….I’m not sick.”

No one likes to be sick. No one can really afford to get sick. But as far as I know, there are only three professions where no matter how sick you are, as long as you’re conscious, it’s “business as usual”:

Being The President, a Model or an actor.

Skipping or rescheduling my audition wasn’t an option. I had prepared for this role all week. I knew the lines by heart, I had done all the character research – I knew what she would wear, how she would talk, and even what color lipstick she would wear. All I needed now was to show up and show them my stuff (Unfortunately, some of my “stuff” was flying through the air as I sneezed three times in succession).

Nevertheless, I refused to admit to myself I had THE FLU.

I glanced at my reflection.

It’s not a pretty picture looking at yourself in the mirror when you’re sick. I yelled in surprised, startled by the reflection of a grayish, leathery face and bloodshot eyes. I felt the sudden urge to snort, and roll around in mud. Where was my beautiful blonde hair? Where were my china blue eyes? (oh wait, I never had those to begin with….)

This wasn’t fair. I had prepared for this audition. Everything was in place. This role was perfect for me. How could I suddenly get sick?

Times like these I realized that my closest friend was, unfortunately, good old Murphy.

“Out of all the days to get me sick, you had to pick today?” I yell at my reflection, wondering if I’d be calling out to an imaginary figure if I didn’t have fever. “Why’d you have to go make up such a retarded law anyway?!”

No! Murphy’s Law wasn’t going to get the better of me this time. I WAS going to show up at the audition, and I WAS going to be at my A game. It’s just a small case of the sniffles, that’s all, I told myself. And immediately set to work to fix my situation. I could cover my face with make-up, and wear something extra warm clothes o stop my involuntary shaking. Okay, it’s not how I planned, but it’ll work. I’m fine.

I had just managed to convince myself that I look and feel like a (half a) “million dollars”, when my friend, Jim calls.

“You sound like shit” Jim says shamelessly. “Unless you’ve had a sex change, I suggest you stay in bed.”

“Jim! I have an audition in half an hour and you’re not helping,” I warn him.

“Whoa. In that case, I hope you don’t look as bad as you sound.”

“I’m hanging up now….” Jim is great for a lot of things. But NOT for making you feel better.

“Okay, okay, I know what you can do. What’s bothering you? Head cold? Soar throat? Coughing?”

“All of the above.”

“Okay, just eat the following things, and we’ll have you back on your feet in ten minutes!” Jim promises.
Jim is a health freak (but I consider anyone who doesn’t live off coffee, cake and popcorn to be a little “out there”). In general, everything about Jim is a little too meticulous. The way he organizes all the clothes in his closet by color; the way he dresses (His boots have 3-inch heels on them!), the way he speaks (Hebrew with a French accent – although he doesn’t know a word of French), and the people he hangs out with (rich and famous—except for me). Jim is a man who takes his figure, his looks and his health all too seriously. Worst of all, he’s sure the rest of the world could stand to learn a thing or two from him.

“You need to eat two cloves of garlic and raw ginger,” Jim advises.

“Ewwww! That sounds disgusting!”

“Don’t worry, because then you wash it down with a cup of freshly squeezed lemon juice.”

“Do you mean lemonade?”

“No, just lemon juice.”

I consider this for a moment. “But I can’t walk into an audition smelling like garlic!” I protest.

“You didn’t let me finish the recipe,” he continues. “Then after all that, you down two shots of whisky, and you’re good to go.”

“I can’t come to an audition tipsy and reeking of alcohol either!”

“Well, you can’t go sick!”

“I’m not sick… I’m just… Jim! What’s that noise?” I wonder aloud at the eerie squish-squish sound over the line.

“Nothing, I’m just rubbing in some hand-sanitizer.”

“I’m not contagious over the phone.”

“Famous last words,” I hear him mumble. “Hey, didn’t you say the audition is for a role of a girl who tried to kill herself the night before?”

“Yeah….” I say cautiously.

“So, problem solved! After having her stomach pumped and being depressed, I’m sure she looks like shit too. ”

I hang up with Jim, exasperated.

But it turns out Jim is only the tip of the iceberg. When you’re sick, everyone seems to be filled with useful-less advice.

My parents call from Jerusalem, putting me on speaker.

“What you need, is some good old fashioned Chicken Soup!” My father announces.

“Abba, you’re still in denial that I’m a vegetarian.”

My Mother reads down a list of medications and decongestants that she insists will whip me in shape for the audition.

“I don’t think so, Ima. Remember last time I was sick? You gave me those antihistamines you promised were for the day, and wouldn’t make me drowsy. Thirty-five minutes later I was sound asleep on the bus, and missed my stop by two cities! And don’t get me started on the time you confused ear drops with nose drops, Uch! That tasted disgusting!”

“Plus,” my father adds, on queue, “we had to scream into your nose for a week! That was the only way you could hear us properly.”

A quick “Thanks but no thanks,” as my friend, Miri, calls on my land line. 

She suggests a more “natural” approach. But I assure her I can’t show up stoned to my audition.

My Brother (#4) takes the extreme physical approach and suggests 20 pushups, 40 deep knee bends, 60 crunches and he guarantees I’ll feel good as new. I assure him if I felt well enough to do all that, I wouldn’t worry about the audition.

My sister (#6) takes a more psychological approach: “Feeling sick is just a result of some unsolved conflict in your mind. Clean your mind and the disease will disappear,” she advises. When I ask her what that means, she just answers “not all of life has to have meaning.”

My older sister (#1), an avid fan of “The Secret” takes the cerebral approach: “Listen, whenever I take the kids to the mall, we all envision a perfect parking spot. And I’m telling you, not once has this failed. Every time we go to the mall, there’s not only one parking spot, but the whole floor is empty of cars!”

“That’s because no one else goes to the mall at 7:30 in the morning,” I remind her.

“I like to avoid rush hour. Anyway, I’m telling you, just envision yourself healthy, and imagine you’re ideal self at the audition. Then picture yourself getting the part and it’s yours.”

By the time I get to my destination, I’ve envisioned myself strong, healthy and confident about a million times. I slap on my dashing smile, pull back my shoulders, and enter the casting room.

“You look like you’re about to fall off your feet,” the director says dryly, bursting my bubble. “Are you sick?”

“No!” I reply quickly, “Just a little run-down.”

“You must be Tiferet?” he says skeptically, looking from my glamorous headshot to the real live sniffilufigous in front of him. “I’m Raffi, The Director.”

He gives me a polite nod, but I notice that he won’t risk shaking my hand. (which is probably a good idea since I keep coughing into it.)

“Are you up for crying?”

“Excuse me?” I ask. “I’m sorry, all this liquid in my ears. I thought you said something about crying.”

“Well, this scene calls for crying,” Raffi replies.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve played several roles which require crying, but this was the first time I’d ever been asked to cry at an audition.

“Um, normally there’s a lot of preparation involved in crying,” I explain. “And I was under the impression that I was to prepare the scene you sent me?”

“Yeah, but that’s less important. The only thing I really need to be sure of is that you can cry in the exact way I’m looking for. Try and think of something sad.”

He turns on the camcorder and aims it at me.

Right now, this seems the saddest situation I can think of. Here I am, red nosed and droopy-eyed, trying to focus all my attention on getting in character and conveying real emotions and he wants me to… cry? I’ve never been the spontaneous crier type.

“Now,” the director says from behind the camera. “I don’t want just a few tears. I want a whole waterfall! When I say ‘ACTION!’ I want you to break out in hysterical bawling….Ready?” he asks rhetorically, and before I can blow my nose, yells “ACTION!”

I just sit there, shocked, and at a complete loss for words. Or tears. The director waits anxiously, and the room gets so quiet that I can hear him swallow.

You know the saying “Laughter is the best medicine?” Well, I’m almost positive I can hear Murphy laughing from the corner of the room, and for no reason at all, I suddenly join him.

The director looks up, surprised. (he probably doesn’t understand what’s so funny, since he only sees one of us.)

“Sorry,” I tell him, shaking my head, and accepting the sad truth. “But this isn’t gonna happen.”

If my head had not been throbbing, my throat burning, and brain in a medicated daze, maybe, just maybe I would’ve succeeded in focusing enough on crying.

And maybe not.

There are certain things you’re never asked to do at the audition itself: cry, kiss and take off your clothes. Generally, if you’re asked to do any of these things on the spot, something is fishy.

I remember in acting class we had a girl who could always cry (even when the scene didn’t warrant it!). But the thing is, except for crying, she’d never show any real emotion. My teacher called her “A Crying Whore”, meaning she could “put out” tears without thinking. He used her as a negative example to explain that when you act, first get in touch with the emotion at hand, and if crying is where it leads you, so be it.

Still, I wondered if not “crying on demand” made me less of a professional. Had I failed as an actress?

Waiting for the bus, feeling let down and disappointed, coughing and sneezing, I realized that if I was looking for sympathy, the streets of Tel Aviv were the wrong place to find it. Every time I coughed, people nervously crossed to the other side of the street; others just glared, silently accusing me of polluting their germ-free-smog-full air.

Once on the bus, things really got uncomfortable as people pointed to me and whispered to their seat-mates. I could swear I even heard a woman two seats in front of me say, “Don’t you hear? Her cough is high pitched and squeaky, just like an oink. If that isn’t Swine Flue I don’t know what is.”

When my coughing fit increased to the point that tears were streaming down my cheek, and all the passengers moved away from me and to the front of the bus, I took the hint, and got off 4 stops early.

By the time I got home, I felt angry for failing my audition, feverish and sore, and felt the urge to check for leprosy (Had my nose fallen off during one of my sneezing fits?). When Jim called again, he of course, had his own way of showing support.

“I would love to come cook you some home-made soup, except I don’t want to risk breathing the same air as you. But just so you know I care – how about I drive over and leave a few packets of instant soup in your mailbox? It’s outside your building, isn’t it?”

In case you’re wondering, I actually tried Jims’ instant remedy for the flu. The only change it stirred in me was a strong sense of nausea, and the hiccups.

I sat down and jolted a sentence I seemed to remember, on a nearby napkin. I was trying to figure out the exact wording, when I heard a knock at my door. To my surprise, there stood my ever-loving brother, (#3) holding large grocery bags.

“Hey sis, heard you’re sick,” he says, letting himself in and placing the grocery bags on my kitchen table.

“Not sick, just a feeling a little –” he puts his hand over my mouth.

“No, you’re sick. So…” He begins opening the bags, taking out different items. “I brought our patient some ice-cream and drinks and tea bags and a box of your favorite blue jellybeans…” He hands me a pre-opened box of HIS favorite blue jellybeans. “Um…. Weird thing, they sell them in half packages now…” he says as I notice the blue coloring on his finger tips.

“Did you just drive all the way from Jerusalem for me?” I ask, amazed.

“Don’t worry about it. By the way, Ima packed in all these medications for you, and Abba sent you some chicken soup.”

Turns out, I can be moved to tears in an instant.

“That’s so sweet! But I don’t want you to feel that every time I’m not feeling well you have to drive an hour to take care of me.”

“Yeah, me too. So how about you save us both the trouble and get a boyfriend already?” He smiles at me and leans-in to give me hug. “Gee, you don’t have to cry about it, you’ll get one eventually,” he jokes, and kisses my forehead, clearly un-phased by my germs.

But then he sniffs the air a couple of times, and after I hiccup, adds, “Sis, you smell like alcohol and it’s only 2 in the afternoon. Are you developing a habit?”

I shake my head. He moves towards the table, picks up the napkin I had scribbled on earlier, and reads it aloud:

“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

“I knew it! This is from AA.!”

“No it’s not, it’s like a religious saying or something,” I insist.

“Sis, the first step to recovery is admitting you have a prob–“

“No,” I grab it from him, and smile. “Believe it or not, I was just summing up my day.”

For me, the day was an example of all my hard work, preparation and positive thinking, not paying off.

I couldn’t foresee getting sick. I couldn’t foresee that I’d be asked to cry at the audition. I couldn’t predict anything. 

I guess sometimes the biggest challenge in life is to accept that we don’t control everything. Oh yes, we control a lot of our fate, but there’s always that small percentage that really isn’t up to us.

On the other hand, not having control about everything in your life, is also a plus. I could never have foreseen my brother showing up at my door-step, just when I needed him most. And that was a wonderful surprise.

The serenity to accept that things I can’t change.

Thanks to high doses of cough-syrup, I finally feel serene, (except for the fact that Mom failed to mention it had caffeine in it, which is why I’m wide awake and writing at 4:00 am).

Sometimes trying my best will just have to be good enough, and the rest I’ll have to leave in the hands of higher being or entities (like the Director….).

So right now I guess I have to face facts that – yes, I’m sick. And I plan to spend the next 24 hours curled up under the covers, and eating my brothers’ favorite blue jellybeans.

This much I will accept.

But I draw the line at growing a snout and curly tail.

Oink.

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Rohr literature prize finalists named

Five non-fiction authors have been named as finalists for the 2010 Sami Rohr Prize for Jewish Literature.

The finalists, who represent important emerging voices in Jewish life and thought, are Lila Corwin Berman, author of “Speaking of Jews: Rabbis, Intellectuals, and the Creation of an American Public Identity;”  Ari Y. Kelman, author of “Station Identification: A Cultural History of Yiddish Radio in the United States;” Kenneth B. Moss , author of “Jewish Renaissance in the Russian Revolution;” Danya Ruttenberg , author of “Surprised by God: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Religion;” and Sarah Abrevaya Stein, author of “Plumes: Ostrich Feathers, Jews, and a Lost World of Global Commerce.”

Established in 2006, the Sami Rohr Prize for Jewish Literature, which honors the contribution of contemporary writers in the exploration and transmission of Jewish values, awards $100,000 to its top winner, with a $25,000 award given to its first runner-up. It is administered under the auspices of the Jewish Book Council.

The winners will be announced at the end of January.

Professor Jonathan Sarna, a Rohr Prize judge, noted the predominance of books of Jewish history in this year’s group of finalists. “Increasingly, it seems, young writers are looking to the past to illuminate central issues of contemporary Jewish life,” he said. “Even as our authors seem to be gazing backwards, they have one eye firmly fixed on the present and future.”

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