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October 21, 2009

Move Over, New York

This text is excerpted from the just-released book, “Save the Deli: In Search of Perfect Pastrami, Crusty Rye and the Heart of Jewish Delicatessen,” by David Sax, copyright (c) 2009. Reprinted by permission of Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company. All rights reserved.

Brace yourselves, New York, because what I am about to write is definitely going to piss a lot of you off, but it needs to be said: Los Angeles has become America’s premier deli city.

Wait … Stop … Put the gun down. It’s true.

Across the city’s sprawling acres, there are more delicatessens of a higher quality, on average, than anywhere else in America. Every time I visited one deli, I heard about three more. Despite their healthy image, far more Angelenos than native New Yorkers eat at Jewish delicatessens on a regular basis. Though the occasional tourist swings by, Jewish delicatessens in L.A. are thriving in the present, not trading on fabled pasts.

There has been no grand decline in the Los Angeles deli scene. Most are packed, sometimes around the clock, and not just with older Brooklynites like Larry King (who eats breakfast at Nate’n Al daily). The delis out there are bigger, are more comfortable, and ultimately serve better food than any other city in America, including the best pastrami sandwich on Earth. Los Angeles is both the exception to the rule of deli’s inevitable decline and the example for the rest of the nation of how deli can ultimately stay relevant. If we are to save the deli elsewhere, we can learn a lot from L.A.

When California was incorporated into the Union in 1850, there were just eight Jews in Los Angeles. Because of its distance from Europe, Los Angeles never experienced the massive influx of Ashkenazi immigrants that descended upon the East Coast in the late nineteenth century. The great sea change for L.A. came in 1913, when burgeoning film director Cecil B. DeMille teamed with partners Samuel Goldwyn (who would form MGM) and Jesse Lasky (who helped create Paramount) to make a movie, “The Squaw,” in a suburb called Hollywood, ushering in the golden era of filmmaking.

Many in the upper echelons of the early studio system were Jewish, forever implanting Hollywood with a disproportionate Semitic flavor that prevails to this day. As the film business grew in the postwar era, a migration west of Jewish entertainment talent swelled, lured by easy money, swimming pools, and golden-haired shiksas. And while delicatessens back east may have occasionally served the president of a Wall Street bank, out in L.A. the studio bosses and A-list movie stars ate at the deli almost daily. The Universal studio commissary featured matzo ball soup, and the Academy Awards after-parties were catered by Nate’n Al.

Today, L.A.’s Jewish delicatessens are largely inseparable from the business of Hollywood, which is one of the key reasons the deli thrives in L.A. Art’s, in Studio City, built its business delivering meals to the cast and crew of shows like “St. Elsewhere,” “Get Smart,” and “Gilligan’s Island.” Owner Art Ginsburg credits 50 percent of his business to the studios. He even caters the Miramax and Dreamworks private jets. When the writers’ strike hit the industry at the end of 2007, L.A.’s Jewish delis really felt the pinch.

The link between delis and Hollywood goes deeper still. At Factor’s Deli, on Pico Boulevard, owner Suzee Markowitz calls 1 p.m. “agent hour,” when dozens of agents’ black Mercedes line up at the valet and their owners head inside for an intense hour of horse-trading. Nate’n Al is the gathering spot for the upper echelons of Hollywood money and studio heads, who are rewarded with some of the finest chicken soup known to man — a wide bowl of silky broth dominated by a single, almost meaty, matzo ball — and corned beef, brisket, and short ribs made from certified Angus beef. Every year, billions of dollars of the world’s entertainment is created, negotiated, and financed at delicatessens throughout Los Angeles. It’s like the Cannes, Toronto, and Sundance film festivals all rolled into one.

“I’ve almost never had anyone object to a meeting in a deli,” Sandy Climan told me, as we sat down to breakfast directly behind Larry King’s entourage at Nate’n Al one morning. Climan is president of Entertainment Media Ventures, a media and investment company; was previously president of Lion’s Gate Studios; and was a member of the senior management team at powerhouse agency CAA. Bronx-born and -raised, Climan explained to me the logic as to why delicatessens became Hollywood’s watering holes.

“I see several reasons,” he said, breaking up a chunk of smoked whitefish, which he placed on a bagel. “The creative industry is an ad hoc business. Projects are put together by people in small groups, and consequently everyone and their brother needs a conference room. The only one many people have is a deli table. In the entertainment industry, creativity is not necessarily enhanced by formality. [A deli emits] an accepted chaos in an industry where creativity comes out of organized chaos. Because genius isn’t orderly…. The people sitting around here are trying to figure out whether the boy falls in love with the girl or not. Delis are about real life. Entertainment is about real life.”

L.A.’s vast sprawl allows its delis the freedom to grow into hangouts suited for Hollywood’s taste. Most delicatessens in L.A. own their properties. They have parking lots and valets, and have been built to feel like a cross between diners and country clubs. Few delis exist where tables are crammed together cheek by jowl. In L.A., the banquette is king. In L.A. you can find privacy in a deli. You can even find class.

At Greenblatt’s on Sunset Boulevard, the dark wood panels and stained-glass windows lend the place the feeling of a refined steakhouse. The deli counter shares space with Greenblatt’s high-end wine boutique, and if you want, owner Jeff Kavin will pair your brisket with a glass of Napa zinfandel or do a vertical tasting of forshpeis (appetizers) and sauvignon blancs.

In this setting, where bare bones casual meets West Coast comfort, the magic of Hollywood happens. If there is one subset of the entertainment community that benefits the most from the creative energy of Jewish delicatessens, it is comedy writers. I wanted to find out what it was that made delis such incubators of comedic creativity, but I needed a comedian, ideally a Jewish one, with some experience. I’d dropped names around town to various deli owners, but they freely admitted that asking celebrities to be interviewed would be impossible. Then, sitting in my car, I got a call on my phone.

“Hello, is this David?” said the raspy and highly familiar voice on the line. “This is Mel Brooks, where the heck did you get the meshugah idea for a deli book?”

Brooks had grown up as Melvin Kaminsky in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, during the 1930s, and his comedic career can be traced through delis. First, Brooks split his allegiances between two long gone Williamsburg delis: Feingold’s and Greenwald’s. “Every Saturday night was deli night with my gang, starting at nine years old. My mother would set us free … the routine was deli first and then two movies. For fifteen cents I’d get a heavily laden pastrami sandwich, although if I had an extra nickel I’d order a corned beef sandwich, with potato salad…. Laden with deli mustard and a dill pickle, with a Dr. Brown’s cream soda, it was incredible.”

Later in life, when Brooks wrote for Sid Caesar’s “Your Show of Shows,” he and the other writers sustained themselves on food from the Stage or Carnegie delicatessens. “I got a little more sophisticated,” Brooks recalled. “Sometimes I would have roast beef and Russian dressing from the Stage, and from the Carnegie (their pastrami was always so great), I’d have pastrami with coleslaw.”

When Brooks finally moved to Los Angeles in 1972, he was based at 20th Century Fox and regularly ate at Factor’s. He’d work the room, stealing an urn from the server’s station, pouring coffee for all the customers. “I was cadging business. ‘Don’t forget to see Young Frankenstein opening next week!’ I’d say. I must have cost them hundreds of dollars in free coffee over the years.”

Brooks viewed delicatessens differently than other restaurants when it came to fostering creativity, especially in comedy. “There’s nothing like a deli meeting,” Brooks said. “Deli food keeps the brain cooking. It speaks to me of being nurtured and having some of that Brooklyn love…. Delis are magnets for Jews, and Jews, in order to survive emotionally, have developed tremendous humor. They don’t have to be professionals. Every Jew is a good storyteller, and delis are bound in Jewish humor. Also, delis seem to be happy places. I’ve never seen anybody weeping at a table in a deli. I’ve seen them in cafés and smart restaurants dabbing their eyes, but I’ve never seen anyone crying in a deli. Never in a deli! No one ever has a bottle of Dom Perignon with their lover and says, ‘This isn’t working out.’ Cel-Ray tonic doesn’t cut it.”

These days, Brooks is a regular at Junior’s Deli, [on the westside] where he’s a particular fan of owner Marvin Saul’s rugelach, individual apple pies, roast turkey sandwiches, and chicken in the pot (it was Saul who put Brooks in touch with me). Junior’s complimentary mini-latkes, which are small fried croquettes that come with each sandwich, are another story. “I don’t know what they are,” Brooks said, kibitzing, “but they’re deep-fried and you got twenty minutes to live after you eat one. You might as well give it a name. You might as well call it Murray, because it’ll be with you for days after you eat it. David, you must remember this: I as a Jew do not chew!”

In many ways, L.A.’s deli culture thrived on the patronage of deli lovers like Mel Brooks and Larry King, who had grown up around kosher delis in New York, and reconnected to their roots via soup and a sandwich. In one of the largest, least traditional communities in the American Diaspora, where Jews actually compete among themselves for the lavishness of their Christmas decorations, the delicatessen for many is the full extent of their Jewish identity. “In many parts of L.A., the deli was established before the community center or shul [synagogue],” said Stephen Sass, the president of the Jewish Historical Society of Southern California. “For some, having a corned beef sandwich is their only link to the ancient temple in Jerusalem.”

Delis can provide an essential dose of reality for budding stars and fragile egos in L.A. This is precisely why young actors David Hirsh and Jonas Chernick formed a group called Pea Soup Wednesdays. Each and every Wednesday they meet for lunch in a Jewish deli. “In a city that exists in a state of fakery, where everyone wears their masks, I really look forward to it,” said Chernick as we sat in a large booth at Canter’s with Hirsh. Delis were an antidote to the soul-sucking Hollywood lifestyle. “I’ve got friends here who after two years will reference their psychics in passing,” Chernick recalled. “There’s a transformation that occurs if you’re not grounded. This,” Chernick said, holding up the fat chopped liver sandwich in his hands, “is the perfect antidote to Scientology.”

Read Rob Eshman’s interview with David Sax here.

To join author David Sax for a pastrami at Langer’s and hear him read his book Wed., Oct. 28 at 2:30 pm, click here.

Find out why L.A.‘s Langer’s Deli has the best pastrami sandwich in the world.

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When Memory Comes

A rare opportunity to see and hear one of the world’s great historians—and a participant in the historical events that he studies—is coming up on at 4:00 p.m. on Thursday, November 5, 2009, when Saul Friedlander appears at the UCLA Faculty Center to deliver an address on “Pius XII and the Holocaust: Some Further Reflections.”

I was first introduced to Friedlander’s work by Gene Lichtenstein, founding editor of The Jewish Journal, who urged me to read Friedlander’s memoir, When Memory Comes.  It’s a compelling and deeply challenging account of his experiences as a child in wartime France, where he was baptized and raised in a Catholic boarding-school after his parents were sent to die in the camps, and the rediscovery of his Jewish origins and identity when he arrived in Palestine aboard the ill-fated Altalena during the War of Independence.

Friedlander won a Pulitzer Prize last year for The Years of Extermination, the second title in his ground-breaking two-volume history of the Holocaust, Nazi Germany and the Jews. His UCLA talk actually harks back to his first published work of history on the Holocaust, Pius XII and the Third Reich (1966).  But if Nazi Germany and the Jews is the crowning achievement of his work as a historian, his brief but searing memoir remains his masterpiece.

When Memory Comes is achingly intimate, and his recollection of his last encounter with his parents—- restrained in the telling, but deeply poignant nonetheless—- turns out to be one of the most shattering passages in the vast literature of the Holocaust.  Then, too, we can be grateful that a man with a genius for the study of history was himself an eyewitness to history in the making.  That’s why When Memory Comes is such an important work, one that transcends the experiences of a single Holocaust survivor and addresses the destiny of the Jewish people and, really, all people.

“Sometimes when I think back on our history, not of these past few years, but rather its entire sweep,” writes Friedlander in When Memory Comes, “I can make out a perpetual movement back and forth, a search for roots, for normality and security, forever threatened down the centuries, and I tell myself that the Jewish state may perhaps be only a step on the way of a people whose particular destiny has come to symbolize the endless quest – ever hesitant, ever begun anew – of all mankind.”

For more information on the UCLA event featuring Saul Friedlander, contact {encode=”cjsrsvp@humnet.ucla.edu” title=”cjsrsvp@humnet.ucla.edu”}. Friedlander’s address is the 1939 Club Lecture on Holocaust Studies under the co-sponsorship of UCLA/Mellon Program on the Holocaust in American & World Culture and the UCLA Department of History

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A Dad’s Point-of-View

One of the clichés about volunteerism is that “you get more than you give.” In my case, it was true in ways and means I least expected. I’ve just become a Big Brother, again, to a 7-year-old boy and a mentor to a 23-year-old young man. As these relationships are new, I don’t yet know what lessons I will learn. But I know well the lessons I learned the first time around.

I became a Big Brother long before I was married or a parent. My life, at that time, was pretty heady. In my early 30s, I had a successful showbiz career in which I was paid way too much for having so much fun. I lived in a lovely home in a chic part of town, had two cars, and no one to worry about other than myself.

Fortunately, when I looked in the mirror and realized that reality, I began to search for something to do that wasn’t so self-centered. Quickly, I rejected the usual choices: no industry-favored charities and committees in which my role would be fund-raising, glad-handing and networking among others in the business. A hands-on experience was my desire, one in which I could directly impact someone’s life. The big charities have wonderful purposes and are helpful to many; it just wasn’t what I sought.

All my early jobs as a teen and young adult centered on working with kids: at camps, teaching tennis, being a lifeguard or park director. So I went through the process of becoming a Big Brother, and after several months I was approved and offered a match with a “little.”

Here were my expectations going in: I am a guy who loves to play ball, literally and figuratively. I loved going to the movies and doing pretty much anything physical, wet or dry. Also, every activity in my life usually involved food. You eat before or after, you stop for an ice cream, plus you must debate emphatically where to go to eat.

I was matched, as luck and maybe God decided, with an 8-year-old girl. In those days, they did match men with young girls because, after all, boys and girls both need male adult figures. Due to legal fears, mixed-gender matches are much fewer today.

My “little” was non-athletic, hated going to the movies, didn’t care to eat much, even ice cream. When I met her, she had a minor obsession with finding out who her father was, as she was the product of artificial insemination. There was no father in her life; no dead father, no dead-beat father, no abusive father—no father, period. For the first couple of years I knew her, this plagued her.

I had to learn to accept that her interests were not mine and try and find some kind of common ground. It wasn’t easy but the irony was this extra effort and challenge ultimately proved to be the lesson I received before I became a parent. Eventually, we did find common ground. Often, it was just a matter of taking turns doing what the other wanted on alternate outings. But mostly we learned to talk to one another. I became her confidant.

Over time, she opened up about her life in a way she wasn’t comfortable doing with her mother. She shared with me about various problems and issues she faced through her teen years. Without a doubt, I knew my job as the only adult male figure in her life was to model responsible manhood and to listen to her. I let her know she was being heard, and I occasionally provided some insights about the ways of boys and men. When she confided in me about poor choices she had made, I told her that everyone makes mistakes, and it’s what she learns from them that will determine her character. I also let her know that I wasn’t going to reject her because she made some bad decisions. Maybe that was what she needed most of all.

Today, my “little” is a devoted middle-school teacher with a passion for her students that transcends the norm nowadays.  She’s a fine adult young woman, about to turn thirty.

She turned out to be my prep course for being a parent. What a gift; what a surprise. When I did get married and was blessed with two boys, I had similar expectations of them that I had of my little sister. They would like the things I did and, of course, being my biological offspring, have many of my skills and traits. Not quite.

Neither boy had any interest in sports. My youngest was a vegetarian till he was about ten, and their interest in food was pretty much limited to pizza. If a movie was older than they were or, heaven forbid, in black and white, they wouldn’t give it a try. Yup, they were much like my little. They were their own individuals.

While I still did my best to introduce any and every sport to my boys, I more easily accepted that they weren’t me. One was musical and the other artistic, and it was very clear neither would support me via a professional sports career in major league baseball, the NFL or NBA. I lightened up quicker and easier on my expectations, was much less disappointed that they didn’t share my loves and interests, and could better embrace and support their passions—all due to my lessons as a Big Brother.

What I will learn from my two new matches remains to be seen. I know, from the 23-year-old, who has been sick since birth with a neurological disorder in which few live past 30, that I come home after each visit thanking God for my family’s good fortune and health. My seven year old “little” reminds me of the joy of being a little boy.

If this sounds like I’m an advocate for volunteering, I am—especially if it involves reaching out to kids. You will be rewarded and be a better parent, and some kids’ lives will be a little brighter because of you. I promise.

Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, full-time, now 13 and 16. His internationally syndicated column, A Dad’s Point-of-View, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and now, newly remarried, in a blended family. Presently, his column is available in over 75 newspapers and Web sites in the U.S. and internationally. Find Bruce on Facebook and add him as your friend. Please visit www.brucesallan.com to contact Bruce and to enjoy the various features his new Web site offers, including an archive of his columns, contact info, links to his published work, photo galleries, and reader comments, plus much more.

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Dr. No actor dies at 91

Joseph Wiseman, the first actor to play a Bond villain on the big screen, died on Monday at his home in Manhattan. He was 91.

Wiseman, a Canadian Jewish stage and screen actor who had roles in “The Apprenticeship of Duddy Kravitz,” “The Night They Raided Minskys” and “Judgment at Nuremberg,” will – much to his frustration when he was alive – always best be remembered as the titular Eurasian evil genius opposite Sean Connery in “Dr. No” (1962).

From the L.A. Times:

The diabolical Dr. No was a formidable foe.

As Los Angeles Times movie critic Philip K. Scheuer put it: “Out pfui-ing Fu Manchu, Dr. No reveals himself to be the head of a vast underworld organization called SPECTER and dedicated to the destruction and domination of mankind. And, by gad, he has the equipment to pull it off.”

Wiseman hadn’t an inkling that he was participating in the launch of what became one of the most successful movie franchises of all time.

“I had no idea it would achieve the success it did,” he told The Times in 1992 with a laugh. “As far as I was concerned, I thought it might be just another grade-B Charlie Chan mystery.”

Although Wiseman was part of movie history, his daughter said he viewed “Dr. No” with “great disdain.”

“He was horrified in later life because that’s what he was remembered for,” she said. “Stage acting was what he wanted to be remembered for.”

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Adam Lambert: The New American Sex Symbol

Adam Lambert plays it straight in a steamy photo shoot for this month’s Details magazine, in which he defies his homosexuality and tongues a naked female model. He also grips her breasts and her behind—and apparently, he likes it.

“I am gay, but I like kissing women sometimes,” Lambert tells the mag. “Women are pretty. It doesn’t mean I’m necessarily sleeping with them.”

Nope, just appearing as if he’s sleeping with them. (It sells more albums..)

The photos are meant to challenge sexual norms and prove that Lambert’s sex appeal is not limited to a gay audience. He is a bisexual sex symbol, lusted after by both men and women. The photos were inspired by the fact that women hurl bras and panties at Lambert while he’s performing. And they don’t seem to care that Lambert, who is openly gay, isn’t the least bit interested in their feminine bits. To them, Lambert’s sexual preference is an exciting challenge; the best hard-to-get game ever.

Lambert, of course, is enjoying all the sexual attention. Much of his musical appeal after all, is enhanced by his sex appeal. According to Details, “Americans of every persuasion proved defenseless against Lambert’s vigorous pelvic exertions [on stage].” And he scoffs at any criticism of his super sexy act.

“I have no problem telling people, ‘You know what? I’m not your babysitter, and I’m not your church,’” Lambert tells Details. “They go, ‘Jesus loves you, too.’ One time I just blurted out, ‘I’m Jewish, okay? I don’t need another crucifix! This is not an appropriate gift for me!’”

“I know people are coming from a good place, but it can be offensive. Like, ‘Thank you, I’m not Christian! I don’t read that book.’”

Read the full article here.

See the steamy photos here.

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When Havdalah haunts Halloween

There will be no eerie glow coming from your Havdalah candle on Saturday evening, Oct. 31. No boiling or toiling in your Kiddush cup or smell of sulfur in your spice box.

Shabbat will be ending, Halloween beginning, and you can use this time to light up their differences by creating a Halloween Havdalah.

It’s not that I am proposing a Goth Shabbat.

Each October our print media gives us umpteen articles about how to carve a pumpkin. Here we will also be carving, but for a totally different result the medium will be time.

What I am suggesting is using the transition from Shabbat to Halloween to accentuate the distinction between Holy Shabbat time and the secular every day.

Recent surveys show the average American home with children will spend more than $50 this year on Halloween. How much will we be spending on Havdalah?

Requiring a braided multi-wicked candle ($4), a little kosher grape juice or Kiddush wine ($4), and some cloves, nutmeg or cinnamon in a shaker, Havdalah is a wonderful atmospheric observance whose rewards continue long after the costumes have been put away and the candy gobbled.

The October horror story isn’t whether Jews celebrate Halloween—it’s now observed largely as a secular day—the story that should have us shaking is whether Jews celebrate Shabbat.

Work’s necessity makes us forget: There is an almost tangible distinctiveness to Jewish time.

Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel, in his classic book “The Sabbath,” speaks of Shabbat as a spiritual place, a “palace in time.”

Using the drama of Havdalah to take leave of the palace helps create a defining change of scene, especially before you and the kids head out into an October’s All Hollow’s eve.

The heart of Havdalah can be found in the phrase “ha’mavdil bain kodesh l’chol,”—“distinguishing between the sacred and the secular.” The name Havdalah comes from the verb “l’havdil,” to separate or distinguish.

Some Jews even say the word l’havdil when they want to make it clear that two things are much different, that they have no business of even being thought of together.

With Havdalah you are saying l’havdil between Shabbat and Halloween, expressing that there is a difference.

For a text for your service, most prayer books have a page or two for Havdalah. A little light on prayer books? Go online.

Rabbi Amy Scheinerman of Beth Shalom Congregation of Carroll County in Maryland has prepared a service complete with Hebrew transliteration, including a tip on how to create a homemade Havdalah candle. She suggests using warm water to soften two or three Chanukah candles and then twist them together.

You can also simply hold two candles together with wicks intertwined. Be sure to wrap foil around the candle’s base for a holder.

Wait till you see three stars to begin. Doorbells may be ringing; the kids restless. Look up to the sky, hold your ground (with three boys, it’s familiar ground) and go for the full difference between darkness and light.

Lower the lights. Light the candle and hold it up. Read the first part about deliverance. In contrast to the fear and shock themes of Halloween, the first line ends with resolute words for both child and adult: “I am confident and unafraid.”

Say Kiddush, the blessing over the wine. Don’t drink yet.

Kiddush wine or grape juice is a simple drink—not Halloween bubbling punch or a Bloody Mary. It’s sweet and hopefully so will be your week.

Next, pick up the spices, “b’samim,” say the blessing. They are a kind of smelling salts to revive your post-Shabbat spirits. Shake them, fully breathe them in, then pass them around. So much of Halloween is a me-me-me grab fest; b’samim is a communal pleasure.

Bless the flame. Two or more wicks burning as one broadcast, especially in a darkened room—no jack o’ lantern or blinking skulls required—the difference between light and darkness. To remind yourself of the difference, hold your palms up toward the candle, curve your fingers inward and see the shadows they cast.

Say the final blessings about God creating everything and everyone distinctly different, as well as distinguishing between the sacred and the everyday. Drink some wine.

Put out the candle in the wine. My kids loved doing this. Listen to the sizzle as the candle is quenched. Better than any sound effect, it is the sound of Shabbat ending and the new week with all its promise beginning.

Sing “Hamavdil,” a feel-good song that connects the blessings of Shabbat to the rest of the week. One verse goes: “Our families and our means, and our peace, may God increase.”

It’s our own kind of candy.

Now, wish each other a “shavuah tov,” a “gutte vokh,” a good week; no “boos” allowed.

Close the ceremony by singing “Eliyahu Hanavee.”

Better than any costumed character or mask, we have Eliyahu, who legend has it ascended to heaven in a fiery chariot. We leave the door open for him at the seder and invoke his name here at Havdalah, hoping for a time of Shabbat-like messianic peace—a time without candy wrappers, fake fog or cardboard skeletons.

(Edmon J. Rodman is a JTA columnist writing on Jewish life from Los Angeles.)

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Anger Management

Yesterday Howard went on a rant against John Melendez, aka “Stuttering John.”  Melendez used to work for Stern, left to work for Jay Leno, and defended his current boss on Facebook against accusations Howard made that Leno steals Stern’s material.  That defense set Howard off.

“He suddenly thinks he’s on Jay’s team,” Howard started.  “Just shut the fuck up! You bitch.  Just shut up John.  And do me a favor: tell your fucking wife to stay away from my wife and her fucking bullshit friendship…”

It went on like that.  Howard ranting against John, declaring his career dead, his wife dead to to him—just a fountain of anger pent up and unleashed….

…And I was envious.  Anger is a great motivator for Howard.  Yes, he knows it makes for good radio, but it really seems to motivate him as well.  He NEEDS to be angry, like Buddhists need to be calm.  His best career moments are a livid reaction to some real or perceived obstacle: other radio DJs standing in his way of ratings, radio managements blocking his creativity; Les Moonves of CBS blocking his move to Sirius, the FCC’s blocking his freedom of speech and the Sirius merger, the WORLD for not acknowledging his specialness.  Howard finds a way to be always on edge, and that anger keeps him fresh and funny.

Think about it: he has three healthy children, a loving wife, all the money he could ever need, unquestionable professional success, two living, loving parents, the loyalty of his staff, creative freedom—but he still finds a way to be angry. 

I used to think I just had too happy of a childhood to rely on anger to motivate me.  But the truth is what I’m doing now, when I strip away the logical reasons, I see anger as a big reason behind my actions: my anger at specific people set me on a course to prove them wrong and get beyond their roadblocks. In that, I have to credit listening to Howard: he made that singular emotion work for him, so, I realized, why can’t I just acknowledge my own anger, and make it work for me?

Thanks for the tip, Howard.

And fuck you, John.

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Muslims, Buddhists,Christians and Jews Unite to End Hunger in L.A.

More than 150 Muslim, Christian, Jewish and other faith leaders met last week under a sukkah to vow to work together to put an end to hunger in Los Angeles.

“All movements — against slavery (and other injustices) — all looked romantic and quixotic, but through sheer hard work, people like you and me transform what was impossible into what is possible,” Shakeel Syed, the executive director of the Islamic Shura Council, told the crowd gathered at The Jewish Federation building in Los Angeles. “Now is the time to end hunger.”

Hosted by the Board of Rabbis of Southern California, the daylong program was part of The Jewish Federation’s “Fed Up With Hunger” initiative, which seeks to involve the community in ending hunger and its causes in Los Angeles.

More than 30 faith communities gathered for the summit. Included in the mix were 40 Catholic and 12 Jewish high school students who began the day studying together in The Jewish Federation’s sukkah.

“The sukkah is a powerful symbol of the bounty of the harvest, as well as the ephemeral, fragile nature of our lives,” said Rabbi Mark S. Diamond, executive vice president of the Board of Rabbis of Southern California. “Los Angeles has been called the ‘hunger capital’ of the nation, and I can think of no better setting for people of faith to address this critical issue.”

The issue is getting worse by the month, said Jeff Dronkers, chief program and policy officer for the Los Angeles Regional Food Bank. Since this time last year, the food bank has seen a 34 percent increase in the number of clients it serves.

California Assemblyman John A. Perez, a longtime labor organizer and local activist, delivered a stirring opening keynote speech. Ambassador Eric M. Bost, former U.S. Ambassador to South Africa and former Under Secretary for Food, Nutrition and Consumer Services, gave the lunchtime keynote address, reminding local clergy and social activists why they had all gathered.

“It troubles me greatly that I live in one of the wealthiest countries in the world, and we allow our families to struggle every day, not knowing how they’re going to feed themselves. It troubles me that there are children going to bed every night so hungry, they won’t be able to sleep,” Bost said. “We can be part of the solution.”

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