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April 15, 2009

U.S. Seizes Demjanjuk, But Court Halts Deportation

[UPDATE]From Reuters:

CLEVELAND (Reuters) – A U.S. appeals court halted the deportation of accused Nazi death camp guard John Demjanjuk on Tuesday, just hours after immigration agents carried him out of his Ohio home to send him to Germany for trial.

Following the ruling, Demjanjuk was released from custody, according to local media reports. He had returned home and was resting, they reported. More at U.S. Seizes Demjanjuk, But Court Halts Deportation Read More »

What It Takes to Be a Jewish Leader

Charlton Heston (alav haShalom) made a great Moses; on screen, he seemed perfect — tall, handsome, gravelly voice, and not even Anne Baxter could seduce him.

Thankfully, the biblical Moses was not as monochromatic as the theatrical Moses. Despite his near perfection as a human being, he was still complex and flawed. Instead of shying away from this fact, both the biblical text and the midrash revel in it.

We are told that only after seven days of Tabernacle consecration did Aaron, Moses’ brother, begin his job as the High Priest, taking over the work on the eighth day (“Shemini” means eighth, hence the name of the Torah portion). Who was working the Tabernacle for the first seven days? Moses himself.

The midrash explains that when God first appeared to Moses at the burning bush, inviting him to be the redeemer of Israel, Moses demurred for seven days. On the seventh day of their disputation, Moses put his foot down with an exasperated “Please send someone else!”(Exodus 4:13). While knowing full well that Moses would finally relent to His arguments, God was still disappointed in his initial obstinacy.

The rabbis debate how God punished Moses for his refusal: One rabbi says that it came at the end of 40 years, when, after Moses entreated God for seven days to be allowed entry into Israel (as recorded in Deuteronomy), God finally refused. The other rabbi suggests that the punishment came about here, when Moses was initially allowed to act as the High Priest, but only for seven days. On the eighth day, he was stripped of the priesthood and it was awarded instead to his brother and nephews.

What is the connection between Moses’ refusal to act as redeemer and these two events? To explain, we need to first understand why Moses was so adamantly against being a savior. It’s not that Moses didn’t view himself as a leader — he very much saw himself as someone capable of shepherding his people. But he viewed himself first and foremost as a spiritual leader, a lawgiver and teacher who would eventually present the Tablets to his people at Mount Sinai.

His mistake, however, was failing to see how the same person who was to be the people’s spiritual leader could also act as their physical liberator. He was unable to integrate the two and see how the two roles could be fulfilled by the same individual. While fully prepared to be the giver of the Torah, he felt that a person destined for such a spiritual calling was not qualified to also be the person who would engage in political wrangling with world leaders. He just couldn’t see himself standing in Pharaoh’s court, demanding the Jews’ release.

Moses’ petition to God to send someone else was not a refusal to be the spiritual leader of Israel, but rather a request to have God assign a second leader to act as their political and military commander-in-chief.

The connection to his punishment is now understandable. Both service in the Tabernacle and life in the Holy Land demand that one appreciate the duality of all that exists in this world. To be a good Kohen (priest), one must realize that the offering of an animal’s carcass on the altar is a form of spiritual worship, accomplished by a purely physical act. To be a proper dweller of Eretz Israel, one must appreciate that within every single fig and grape of the Holy Land is contained something transcendent and holy, which is manifested by the unique agricultural mitzvot of Israel. Without the ability to synthesize the spiritual and physical together, one can neither inherit the priesthood or Eretz Israel.

By the time the Tabernacle had been dedicated, and certainly by the time the Jewish people came to Israel’s borders, Moses had internalized this concept. But because he had failed this calling during his early stages of development, God denied him the opportunity to be that symbol of spiritual-physical fusion.

The Talmudic sages (T.B. Sotah 14a) ask why Moses so desperately wanted to enter the land of Israel. “Did he need to eat its fruits?” No, he simply wanted to fulfill those agricultural mitzvot that could only be fulfilled inside of Israel. And God’s refusal to Moses was the lesson: If you cannot amalgamate the spiritual and physical, you cannot properly live in Eretz Israel.

Sometimes in life we are called upon to perform a task or role that we do not envision is right for us. Sometimes the rabbi is called upon to be a general, and sometimes the general is called upon to be a rabbi. We should be ready to come to God’s call no matter what the task, and appreciate that the greatest service comes as a fusion of spirituality and physicality. May we hear the call when it comes!

Rabbi N. Daniel Korobkin is rosh kehilla of Yavneh Hebrew Academy, director of community and synagogue services for the Orthodox Union West Coast Region and a community mohel.

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Obituaries: April 17-23, 2009

Marjorie Aleck died March 13 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Nancy; son, Jonathan; and many nieces and nephews. Malinow and Silverman

Harold Baer died March 8 at 96. He is survived by his nephew, Tracy; and niece, Janine. Hillside

Jonas Barber died March 18 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; daughter, Susan (Artero) Boyer; son, Larry (Lesley); five grandchildren; and niece, Sherril (Steve) Schlesinger. Mount Sinai

Thelma Brown died March 22 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Vicki (Lester) Raikow; son, Jack (Jan); two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Daniel Chapman died March 14 at 96. He is survived by his daughter, Willa; son, Robert (Candace); two grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Irving Davis died March 16 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Lois; sons, John, Howard and Murray; sister, Terry Cohen; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Susan Elinson died March 20 at 84. She is survived by her daughter, Liz West; son, Leonard (Patty); niece, Susan (Mark) Menaker; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Louis Arthur Friedenberg died March 17 at 86. He is survived by his daughter, Karyn (David) Friedenberg-King; son, Mark; two grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Stanley (Alma). Mount Sinai

William Ganz died March 24 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Helen; daughter, Elice (Paul L. Samuelson); son, Steven (Candace); three grandchildren; and brother, Marvin (Iris). Mount Sinai

Florence Gaponoff died March 23 at 83.  She is survived by her children, Barbara Berson, Yelena Christo Forakis, Sharma and Mark; and 12 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Lillian Elfman Gilbert died March 21 at 100. She is survived by her sons, Robert (Anne) and Mark (Margaret) Damon; four grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Muriel. Mount Sinai

Edith Gillis died March 16 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Arnold; daughter, Nancy (Gary) Ferris; sons, Martin and Steven (Shari); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Phyllis Goldenberg died March 21 at 65. She is survived by her husband, Marc; daughter, Cindy; son, Evan (Christy); two grandchildren; and brother, Marvin Yellin. Mount Sinai

Ida Gordon died March 20 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Toni Garmisa; son, Carl; four grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Sigmund Groch died March 16 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Renee; sons, Joel (Debra) and Russell; two grandchildren; and brother, Hyman. Mount Sinai

Morris Grodzienski died March 21 at 61. He is survived by his son, Jayson (Amy); four grandchildren; mother, Chela; and brother, Henry (Denise). Mount Sinai

Shirley Grossmann died March 25 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Cathy (Philip) Galper; sons, Steven and David; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

Hilda Guss died March 13 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Myron; daughters, Hilary, Stephanie and Allison; son, William (Angie); three grandchildren; sister, Rosalyn (Jerry) Bernstein; and brother, Samuel (Madelon) Scherek. Mount Sinai

Arthur Horwitz died March 9 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Faith; daughters, Anyce Salzberg and Dava (Jay Samit); son, Jace; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Sandra Kleinberg died March 24 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Joyce (Michael) Simmons; son, Martin (Janet); four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Anne Krom died March 17 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Roberta (Paul) Ozar; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Morton Lachman died March 17 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Natalie; daughters, Jo Ann Culbert-Koehn and Diane; son, Robert (Lorelei); step-daughters, Eve and Celia Gittelson; stepson, Tony Gittelson; eight grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; sister, Doris Mc Keever; and good friend, Hermine Rhoades. Mount Sinai

Sydelle W. Lemmerman died January 18 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Mervin; sons Alan(Barbara), David (Pat) and Dan (Deb); brother, Leonard Weiss; and nine grandchildren. Home of Peace

Barbara Lerman died March 12 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Gerald; and daughter. Malinow and Silverman

Rae Levy died March 6 at 93. She is survived by her cousin, Charlotte (Taido) Anderson. Malinow and Silverman .

Alvin Linker died March 21 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Geraldine; daughter, Malori (Barry) Asman; son, Sheldon (Toni); and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Herman Lipsky died March 13 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; daughters, Ilene (Ron) Mashal and Melinda; son, Barry (Myrna); and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Betty Sacks Lotstein died March 14 at 84. She is survived by her son, Robert Sacks. Malinow and Silverman

Herbert I. Marcus died March 21 at 89. He is survived by his daughter, Judith; son, Charles; brothers, Wilbur (Helen) and Eugene; nephew, Mark Hyman; and niece, Roberta (Shelly) Lang. Mount Sinai

Jack Moshein died March 15 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Doris; daughters, Karen (Jerome) Greensweig and Ellen Federoff; son, Robert; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Ardith Nahan died March 8 at 61. She is survived by her mother, Terres Cohen; brother, Neil; and aunts, Lenore Sobelman and Mary Cohen. Hillside

Dorothy Paul died March 10 at 85. She is survived by her daughter, Tina Hulbert; sons, Larry, James and Eric; seven grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Ben Raber died March 19 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Eva; daughters, Sharon (Stuart) Davidson and Miriam (Noel) Fishman; son, Michael (Sherry); eight grandchildren; eleven great-grandchildren; sisters, Esther (Abe) Nobleman and Mollie Saltman; and brother, Manuel (Muriel). Mount Sinai

Irene S. Resnick died March 20 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Mordecai; daughter, Pamela (Bill) Hsu; son, Steve (Dafna); and sister, Sylvia Sharff. Mount Sinai

Anna Mae Rich died March 22 at 81. She is survived by her husband, Charles; daughter, Nancy Houbrick; son, Gary; three grandchildren; and brother, Eli (Faye) Eisenberg. Mount Sinai

William Schwartz died March 15 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Tressa Miller; daughter, Laurie (Jay) Naparstek; son, Eric (Gayle); stepson, Joshua (Lori) Miller; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Albert L. Segal died March 14 at 81. He is survived by his nieces, Karen (Howard) Perry and Sheryl Cushen. Mount Sinai

Yvonne Shapiro died March 6 at 82. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra; sons, Martin, Mitch and Randy; sisters, Joyce Prosser, Edith Bellante and Sylvia Makus; brothers, George and William Malcom; and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Elaine Siegel died March 20 at 80. She is survived by her daughters, Rochelle (Steven) Weinstein and Deann (Robert) Halstead; son, Michael (Terri); eight grandchildren; and 13 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Bertha H. Skolnik died March 17 at 100. She is survived by her daughters, Sandra (Robert S.) Levinson and Cynthia Mitchell; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Neptune Society

Norma Stein died March 12 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Lisa; and son, Michael. Malinow and Silverman

Lawrence Stone died March 15 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Jennie; daughter, Katharine Vieira; sons, Ethan and Abraham; sister, Rhoda Shechtel; brother, Joseph; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Fred Streitfeld died March 13 at 85. He is survived by his sons, Scott (Julie), Mark and Steven Dymond; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Senta Weil died March 16 at 95. She is survived by her niece, Janice Worthington; and good friend, Sharon McCauley. Mount Sinai

Frederick Weiner died March 12 at 86. He is survived by his daughter, Melissa (John) Durante; son, Michael; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Harold Weiner died March 18 at 59. He is survived by his wife, Sherri; son, Dashiell; sister, Ilyce (Biff) Dawes; and half-sister, Barbara Krouse. Mount Sinai

Mollye Weinstein died March 17 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Rochelle Herzog. Malinow and Silverman

Walter Wietecha died March 12 at 62. He is survived by his wife, Marsha; daughter, Julie (Stephen) Castaldi; son, Dave (Raji); and sister, Nancy Fleming. Hillside

Hilda Wortman died March 24 at 97. She is survived by her sons, Alan and Richard (Lisa Harris); and one grandchild. Mount Sinai

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‘Ecopreneurs’ See Green in Green

It’s easy being green when there’s plenty of cash floating around. Environmental causes tend to be minimally controversial, and all kinds of businesses feel good about supporting tree planting, community gardens, children’s environmental education and the like. But what happens when the economy tanks? Usually funding for green programs dries up until the next bull market. But 2009 is different. The scope of our environmental problems is huge, and some of the solutions can come only from the business world. Being planet-friendly is no longer just about doing good for the birds and the bunnies, it’s about saving humanity’s future — and making some cash, too, as these four Jewish ecopreneurs can attest.

Adam Baruchowitz, Wearable Collections

Adam Baruchowitz, founder and CEO of Wearable Collections, takes something that most of us give away — our old clothes — and not only keeps them useful by finding a new home for them, but simultaneously helps needy organizations raise funds.

“Our main focus is the New York City area, where we place bins inside of residential buildings to make it as easy to recycle clothing and textiles as it is to recycle cans, paper and bottles,” Baruchowitz said.

On top of keeping more than 800,000 pounds of clothes from landfills, when those who participate in the program know where their old clothes are going — for resale in South America, to be recycled into other textiles and to create rags — they become more invested and knowledgeable about reuse.

Wearable Collections is not a nonprofit but works with nonprofits as a partner.

“The idea of tzedakah and charity has always held a special place in my heart, and I am very proud that we have come up with a business model that enables us to raise funds for many charitable organizations,” Baruchowitz said.

Baruchowitz is also the business director for Heeb Magazine, so Wearable Collections is a labor of love as well as his business. Why is he so driven?

“One of the main reasons I got involved in this is that one of my partners was hit by a car in 2000 and left paralyzed from his chest down. From that moment I have been involved in raising money for spinal cord research,” said Baruchowitz, who adds that the company is doing well so far, despite the economy.

Old clothes are not the first place many would think to look for profit.

Baruchowitz said: “My grandfather spent most of his life in New York City’s garment industry, and I grew up selling some of his products with my mom at various flea markets. Sometimes I am surprised myself to find that I am knee deep in the shmatte industry; what could be more Jewish than that?”

Ron Gonen, Recyclebank

One of the major arguments against recycling has been that it’s too costly, despite the environmental benefits. Some even say it is fiscally irresponsible to recycle, notably New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg, who suspended recycling in the city in a decision that was later reversed.

Ron Gonen, co-founder and CEO of Recyclebank, is proving that concept is not only wrong in terms of planetary health, but economically, too. Gonen’s company subcontracts with existing haulers and collects recycling in special bins that record what’s inside. There’s no sorting of recyclables into different bags or bins — it’s single stream — and each household gets its own online account to keep track of how much and what’s been recycled. And here’s the great part: credits are earned for recycling that can be redeemed at national and local retailers.

So how can municipalities afford this program, especially in tough economic times when the price for many recyclables is at an all-time low?

“These days, it’s expensive for a city to send garbage to a landfill, so haulers see our program as a value-add,” Gonen said. “The value here is not in the revenue you generate, but not having to pay to dispose of it. That’s what’s been missed by most people when they think about recycling.”

From just five cities, Recyclebank will have expanded into 18 states by the end of the first quarter of 2009.

“We’ve had a great response,” Gonen said. “We service cities, wealthy suburbs and some of the poorest communities in America, and there’s positive responses from all of them. All people appreciate value.”

Recyclebank members can also see how many trees and how much global warming-spewing energy they’re saving through recycling, so the direct impact of household waste can be easily seen.

Gonen has created a company that combines his interests in social policy, environmental responsibility and business, but he got his chops in the business world first. He cites his Israeli side as giving him an “entrepreneurial, ‘anything is possible’ spirit.” But it was his mother — and his Judaism — that pushed him toward making money while doing good.

“I was raised by a single mom in Philly; she really stressed the importance of giving back in life,” Gonen said. “And my Judaism has given me an appreciation for giving and the importance of community.”

Kate Goldwater, AuH2O

Kate Goldwater credits the success of her 2 1/2-year-old boutique, where she sells her own creations, to “connections, connections, connections.” Fashion design and boutiquery are notoriously cutthroat industries, and Goldwater says she has survived and flourished by getting a little help from her friends.

“I asked friends who were in business school for assistance with my business plan, law student friends for legal advice, I got journalism student friends to write about my store and handy friends to help me build and drill,” she said. “My designer friends knew where to get cheap mannequins, and a friend that worked in retail sold me a second-hand cash register. People are pretty excited to help someone fulfill their dreams.”

AuH2O — chemistry-class shorthand for Kate’s last name — is a small space on the Lower East Side of Manhattan packed with upcycled clothing made by Kate on site (so no worries about sweatshop labor). She uses existing material, usually old clothes, to create new designs, including dresses, skirts and tops for girls and shirts and ties (some made from recycled credit cards) for men.

But why not follow the traditional fashion designer route? A combination of creativity and passion for social justice led her to forge her own path.

“By about middle school I decided that I wanted to express my creativity with my appearance,” Goldwater said. “I pierced my thumb nails, drew magic marker tattoos all over my body and wrapped my hair in yarn and rubber bands. When I got a bit older I was a part of my school’s ‘global action’ and ‘students against social apathy’ clubs. I wrote a piece for our high school paper about how we should avoid buying new clothes altogether and only shop at thrift stores to take a stand against sweatshop labor. Making recycled clothing was my passion at a pretty young age.”

While she was actively involved in a number of causes in college, including NARAL Pro-Choice New York and the Jewish Woman’s Archive in Boston, Goldwater says she found working at a desk job “capital-b boring,” as much as she supported the causes.

“I needed to be doing something creative,” Goldwater said.

Most recently she combined her political zeal with her creative and business sides during the Obama campaign, raising hundreds of dollars with a series of one-off T-shirts and dresses emblazoned with Obama designs and three fashion shows.

“I design clothes for others like me: people who are unique, want to express their creativity, have strong political convictions and want to wear clothing that gives that first impression,” Goldwater said.

 

Adam Neiman, No Sweat Apparel

Adam Neiman, CEO and co-founder of No Sweat Apparel believes there is an intrinsic, natural connection between businesses that treat their workers well and solving environmental problems, which are rampant in the clothing industry. Water pollution from chemical dyes, energy-sucking production facilities and textile waste are issues that are only starting to be addressed by the industry, but Neiman is working to keep his factories green and worker-friendly.

“There’s an intimate connection between the exploitation of humans and the exploitation of nature,” Neiman said. “It’s simple: If humans are being exploited, are starving, they’re not going to worry about the spotted owl or global warming.”

Neiman says he’s always been a political person, especially interested in labor issues, and that directly translates into the way he does business. No Sweat Apparel sells children’s, men’s and women’s casual clothing and outerwear that are all union-made, many from organic fabrics.

So why is his clothing company keeping its head above water while other retailers are collapsing in the current economy?

“I realized an entire generation that’s coming up now has been learning about sweatshop labor because teachers realize that they can teach the kids about geography, history, ethics and business in the context of what kids are already thinking about — namely their own clothes,” Neiman said. “The new generation is going to want to see changes to the traditional ways of doing business.”

The interest in rightly made clothing is growing and will continue to do so, he said.

No Sweat Apparel’s newest product is the “Organic Bethlehem World of Love” T-shirt, which is made from organic cotton and is produced at a sweatshop-free, Palestinian-owned factory in the West Bank. It has received attention from The New York Times, The Boston Globe, NPR and a host of other media outlets.

Neiman’s viewpoint on good stewardship of the planet and fair treatment of people is hardly a new idea.

“Loving your neighbor as yourself is one of the cornerstones of the Torah, and that absolutely extends to how you would treat your workers and also how you treat the environment,” Neiman said. “The first labor laws recorded in history are in the Torah.”

Starre Vartan is the Web editor for Greenopia and author of “The Eco Chick Guide to Life.”

Article courtesy Jewish Telegraphic Agency.

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The Wedding Gown That Made History

Lilly Friedman doesn’t remember the last name of the woman who designed and sewed the wedding gown she wore when she walked down the aisle more than 60 years ago. But the grandmother of seven does recall that when she first told her fiancé Ludwig that she had always dreamed of being married in a white gown, he realized he had his work cut out for him.

For the tall, lanky 21-year-old who had survived hunger, disease and torture, this was a different kind of challenge. How was he ever going to find such a dress in Bergen-Belsen’s displaced person’s camp, where they felt grateful for the clothes on their backs?

Fate would intervene in the guise of a former German pilot who walked into the food distribution center where Ludwig worked, eager to make a trade for his worthless parachute. In exchange for two pounds of coffee beans and a couple of packs of cigarettes Friedman would have her wedding gown.

For two weeks Miriam the seamstress worked under the curious eyes of her fellow DPs, carefully fashioning the six parachute panels into a simple, long-sleeved gown with a rolled collar and a fitted waist that tied in the back with a bow. When the dress was completed she sewed the leftover material into a matching shirt for the groom.

Lilly Friedman
Lilly and Ludwig Friedman on
their wedding day, Jan. 27, 1946.

A white wedding gown may have seemed like a frivolous request in the surreal environment of the camps, but for Friedman the dress symbolized the innocent, normal life she and her family had once led before the world descended into madness. Friedman and her siblings were raised in a Torah-observant home in the small town of Zarica, Czechoslovakia, where her father was a melamed (teacher), respected and well liked by the young yeshiva students he taught in nearby Irsheva.

He and his two sons were marked for extermination immediately upon arriving at Auschwitz. For Friedman and her sisters it was only their first stop on their long journey of persecution, which included Plashof, Neustadt, Gross-Rosen and finally Bergen-Belsen.

Four hundred people marched 15 miles in the snow to the town of Celle on January 27, 1946, to attend Lilly and Ludwig’s wedding. The town synagogue, damaged and desecrated, had been lovingly renovated by the DPs with the meager materials available to them. When a sefer Torah arrived from England, they converted an old kitchen cabinet into a makeshift Aron Kodesh.

“My sisters and I lost everything. Our parents. Our two brothers. Our homes. The most important thing was to build a new home,” Friedman said.

Six months later, Friedman’s gown was in great demand. Her sister Ilona wore the dress when she married Max Traeger. After that came her cousin Rosie.

How many brides wore Friedman’s dress? “I stopped counting after 17,” she said.

Lilly Friedman
The three sisters are pictured with their
families standing in front of a cattle car
like the one used to transport them to Auschwitz.

When President Harry Truman finally permitted the 100,000 Jews who had been languishing in DP camps since the end of the war to emigrate in 1948, the gown accompanied Friedman across the ocean to America. Unable to part with her dress, it lay at the bottom of her bedroom closet for the next 50 years, “not even good enough for a garage sale. I was happy when it found such a good home.”

Home was the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, D.C.

When Friedman’s niece, a volunteer, told museum officials about her aunt’s dress, they immediately recognized its historical significance and displayed the gown in a specially designed showcase, guaranteed to preserve it for 500 years.

But Friedman’s dress had one more journey to make — the Bergen-Belsen museum, which opened on Oct. 28, 2007. The German government invited Friedman and her sisters to be their guests for the grand opening. Although they initially declined the invitation, the family finally traveled to Hanover the following year with their children, their grandchildren and extended families to view the extraordinary exhibit created for the wedding dress made from a parachute.

Friedman’s family, who were all familiar with the stories about the wedding in Celle, were eager to visit the synagogue. They found the building had been completely renovated and modernized. But when they pulled aside the handsome curtain they were astounded to find that the Aron Kodesh, made from a kitchen cabinet, had remained untouched as a testament to the profound faith of the survivors. As Friedman stood on the bimah once again, she beckoned to her granddaughter, Jackie, to stand beside her where she was once a kallah (bride).

“It was an emotional trip. We cried a lot,” she said.

Two weeks later, the woman who had once stood trembling before the selective eyes of the infamous Dr. Josef Mengele returned home and witnessed the marriage of her granddaughter.

The three Lax sisters, Lilly, Ilona and Eva, who together survived Auschwitz, a forced labor camp, a death march and Bergen-Belsen have remained close and today live within walking distance of each other in Brooklyn. As mere teenagers they managed to outwit and outlive a monstrous killing machine, then went on to marry, have children, grandchildren and great grandchildren and were ultimately honored by the country that had earmarked them for extinction.

As young brides, they had stood underneath the chuppah and recited the blessings that their ancestors had been saying for thousands of years. In doing so, they chose to honor the legacy of those who had perished by choosing life.

Helen Zegerman Schwimmer, the author of “Like The Stars of The Heavens,” is online at helenschwimmer.com.

 

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Thanks Anyway, But We’ll Plan Our Own Wedding

One of the first things I learned about wedding planning is that it’s not as easy as I thought it would be. Oh, I knew it would take time, money, teamwork and a slew of help from my family and friends, but what I never took into account was just how political the entire process would become. Having never been a big fan of politics — personal or otherwise — I was less than thrilled at this discovery.

More than my fiancé and I joining our lives together — as if there needed to be more — it began to feel like we were putting together our own political party. Everyone had ideas, thoughts, tidbits, traditions or lack thereof to contribute. A band or a DJ? Flowers or other centerpieces? A Conservative rabbi or a Reform one?

After a few weeks of “they want this,” “they suggested that,” “he loved this idea,” “but she wanted that idea,” my fiancé and I made a command decision that has kept each of us happy, smiling and sane (for the most part) throughout this process. We decided that we were planning this wedding, the wedding was not planning us.

We promised each other — and made it breaking-the-glass clear — that we were the only two people who mattered in the entire process. This was going to be our day and we were going to celebrate it in our way. Not to say that we were rude when other people voiced opinions, or plugged our ears shut when we heard someone say, “What I would do….” We were just honest with ourselves and each other about our feelings and what things were or were not important to us.

We decided that if people raised an eyebrow at a DJ instead of a band, then raise an eyebrow … we would be busy dancing. If someone looked at the centerpieces and wondered why we didn’t have flowers, they could wonder. We were not going to let other people’s opinions and ideas take over our special day.

So you won’t find me walking down the aisle to the usual wedding march, or the tried-and-true safe instrumental music. I’m picking a song that means something to me, and my fiancé is picking a song that means something to him.

My fiancé and I will not repeat vows; we are writing our own. I won’t have the veil on throughout the ceremony, I definitely will not be fasting the day of the wedding and we will not be separated from each other for a few days before. All of these traditions, though important to others, are not finding their way into our celebration.

The only thing that matters at the end of the day is that I will be married to him, my soul mate, best friend and absolute love of my life, and he will be married to me. Some people go through the wedding process and lose themselves in the color of the ribbon, the texture of the tablecloth and the scent of the roses, and they forget what it is that they are really doing. They are getting married, not just having a wedding. 

As I went to the post office this past weekend and dropped our invitations into the slot, I felt such a sense of accomplishment. Were the invitations individually crafted by a world-renowned calligrapher? Nope. They were personalized and ordered online, the labels were “mail merged” by yours truly and the entire process was done with a sense of love, commitment and happiness. Because at the end of the day a wedding is just one day of your life, while a marriage lasts forever. Our story began on July 15, 2007, and will be sealed in a ketubah (also purchased online) on May 31, 2009. As our invitations say, somewhere in the heart, deep in the soul, love finds a way to be forever….

Caroline Cobrin is a freelance writer living in Los Angeles and eagerly anticipating her wedding day. She can be contacted at {encode=”carolinecolumns@hotmail.com” title=”carolinecolumns@hotmail.com.”}

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Rabbi Funnye
Rabbi Capers Funnye with Cantor
Judy Greenfeld, the founder and
spiritual leader of the Nachshon
Minyan.

Obama’s Rabbi Visits L.A.

The man whom many are calling “Obama’s rabbi” paid a recent visit to Los Angeles to pray with local Jews. Rabbi Capers Funnye Jr., cousin to first lady Michelle Obama and spiritual leader of Chicago’s Beth Shalom B’nai Zaken Ethiopian Hebrew Congregation, attended Encino’s Nachshon Minyan on April 4. It was a prescient invitation, since Funnye made national headlines the following day when he was featured on the cover of The New York Times Sunday Magazine. As in that article, Funnye shared with the community his journey from a disenfranchised African American Jew-by-choice to a nationally respected rabbinical figure. A frequent lecturer on conversion to Judaism, Funnye is spreading a message he hopes will unite all Jews of diverse origins.

Redford and Bycel
Robert Redford and Lee Bycel

Sundance’s Social Action Man

Fresh from his tenure combating global injustice with American Jewish World Service, former Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion (HUC-JIR) dean Lee Bycel is turning to art. Well, sort of.

Bycel will assume the first-ever executive director position of The Redford Center, a public advocacy arm of Robert Redford’s Sundance brand, which along with the cutting-edge independent film festival will include a forum for social action initiatives. With Bycel at the helm, leaders and artists will collaborate in developing action-based solutions to the most compelling civic, environmental and social challenges. The center will be based in San Francisco, but will offer a wide range of events and programs hosted at the Sundance Preserve in Utah.

Prior to traveling to Darfur and Chad where he addressed issues of genocidal conflict, Bycel worked in other influential circles. He holds a doctorate of applied theology from the Claremont School of Theology, is an ordained rabbi and a graduate of the University of California at Berkeley. In Los Angeles, Bycel served as HUC-JIR’s dean for 15 years and was also president of The Brandeis-Bardin Institute. He was a senior adviser of Global Strategy for the International Medical Corps and a senior moderator of Leadership Seminars at the Aspen Institute.

Upon Bycel’s appointment, Redford had encouraging words for him: “In Lee we have found a dynamic leader whose entire career has been devoted to community building and shaping programs that empower people to make social change.”

“I am particularly excited about the impact of his international and community experience and the global perspective as the center navigates the 21st century. Lee’s life work has shown he is not averse to risk or looking at new ways of doing things and that will serve us incredibly well,” the Sundance founder said.

Tim Rutten

(From left) Steven Nichols, chair, Major Gifts;
Nicole Mutchnik, chair, Anti-Defamation League
Pacific Southwest Region;
L.A. Times columnist Tim Rutten;
and ADL Regional Director Amanda Susskind.

Shapiros
Shirley and Ralph Shapiro

Tim Rutten Lectures at ADL Briefing

The Anti-Defamation League invited their largest donors to a private briefing at the new Beverly Hills Montage Hotel in March. The topic? Judeo-Christian relations under Pope Benedict XVI, as demystified by L.A. Times columnist Tim Rutten, who lectured on the topic. Rutten was previously awarded the Anti-Defamation League’s annual First Amendment prize.

Hard Times Equal Giving Times For Shapiro Family

Despite economic hardships that have decreased otherwise ample portfolios, Ralph and Shirley Shapiro are giving — and giving big. In the past year, The Shapiro Family Charitable Foundation has donated more than $6 million to establish endowed chairs in the dental, medical and law schools at UCLA, the couple’s alma mater.

Last September, the Shapiros’ $1.5 million gift to endow a chair in public interest law helped launch the UCLA School of Law’s $100 million endowment campaign. In April 2009, the Shapiros pledged another $1.5 million for an endowed chair in honor of the law school’s current dean, Michael H. Schill. Last December, they committed $2 million to the Geffen School of Medicine and in March 2009, another $1 million to the Dental School in honor of its dean, No-Hee Park.

As UCLA leaders note, this kind of private endowment enables an institution like UCLA to operate at an optimum level even when higher education enrollment is down across the country.

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For Jewish nonprofits, ‘a time to close ranks and some organizations’

You’ve probably already read quite a few stories here about how the Madoff scandal and the economic collapse is changing the organized Jewish community. Last week in the New York Jewish Week, Norman Liss, who has served on his share of Jewish nonprofit boards, said that it’s “time to close ranks, and some organizations.”

Liss wrote:

An early victim of the current recession is CAJE, an agency devoted to, and apparently succeeding at, improving Jewish education. Yet other agencies, whose current function and purpose in Jewish life is far from clear continue to function largely as shells, draining funds from more useful counterparts. They seem to exist primarily to allow their volunteer heads to continue to claim a seat at the table of the Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations.

Other organizations, founded over a century ago to deal with an immigrant Jewish population, continue to exist under a Jewish umbrella, even though social circumstances have changed dramatically in the interim, such that they serve few, if any, Jews. Some of those agencies control large pots of money that could be put to more pressing Jewish uses. Inertia and nostalgia preserve structures and communal assignments that no longer make sense.

The problems alluded to have existed for many years. But now the need for change is of crisis proportion. Unfortunately, although some organizations are much needed and highly productive with dedicated leaders and membership, many in the leadership of the Jewish community are there for reasons other than the collective interests of the Jewish people, some for self-aggrandizement, and some to network for business. Many have simply been too myopic to recognize that their organizations, which have historically contributed much to the growth and health of Jews in America and to the cause of Israel, either no longer do so or are overlapping with the work of other organizations.

Sound familiar to anyone in Los Angeles?

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In the land of PETA activists …

The man with a bacon machine gun is king.

That’s right, the BA-K-47, “crafted out of bacon and genius using a blowtorch,” fires no bullets but still manages to destroy animal-rights activists. It’ll probably also do a number on Muslims and Jews.

The Bacon Explosion sounded like some tasty treyf, but I think I’m going to be sick. Thanks for that, Torchio.

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