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September 21, 2007

Let Us Travel To Iran

This fall, I am asking you to travel to Iran.

Not the present-day, front-page, headline-grabbing, nuclear-developing, Holocaust-denying, Israel-hating Iran, but the Iran of just 20 or 30 years ago, as described in two newly published novels, Gina Nahai’s “Caspian Rain” (MacAdam Cage) and Dalia Sofer’s “The Septembers of Shiraz” (Ecco).

Although Nahai’s novel takes place over the decade leading up to the 1979 Iranian revolution and Sofer’s in the years immediately following it, both are beautifully written, absorbing and moving accounts of life in Tehran. Both concern Jewish families and tell their stories by alternating chapters among family members.

Although two novels do not a trend make, that won’t stop me from declaring one: The Persian Jewish novel has come of age.

In “Caspian Rain,” Nahai tells the story of Omid and his wife, Bahar. She is from a poor observant family; he’s from a wealthy assimilated one. Although ostensibly narrated by Yaas, their young daughter, Nahai lets us enter each character’s world and uses the specifics of their lives, the details of their class differences, their social standing as Jews in Iran and within the Jewish community itself, as well as the pressures from their in-laws, Yaas’ school and Muslim society to render an emotionally complex portrait of a couple imprisoned each in their own way by marriage and family. But it is also Yaas’ story, as she has a secret all her own, trying to make sense of it all.

At this point, although I don’t want to give away any important plot points, let me reveal that I know Nahai. We served together on the board of the writer’s organization, PEN Center USA. She is also a monthly columnist for the Jewish Journal of Los Angeles, where this column also appears. However, those are just two of Nahai’s impressive credentials.

Nahai was born in Iran and holds a master’s degree in international relations from UCLA and an master of fine arts in writing from USC, where she currently teaches creative writing. She has consulted for the Rand Corp. and done research for the U.S. Department of Defense.

More to the point, “Caspian Rain” is Nahai’s fourth novel. Her first, “Cry of the Peacock,” (Crown, 1991), according to Nahai’s own Web site, “told for the first time in any Western language the 3,000-year story of the Jews in Iran.” Her second novel, “Moonlight on the Avenue of Faith,” was nominated for England’s Orange Prize, and the third, “Sunday’s Silence,” charts the intersecting lives of an Iranian Jew and a Christian fundamentalist in North Carolina.

Nahai’s curriculum vitae, however, does not prepare one for the magical, dreamlike quality of her prose in “Caspian Rain.” She does a beautiful job of ushering us through an Iran most of us don’t know — of colors and scents, of mountains and beaches, of slums and mansions. Her novel is filled with eccentric characters, including a bicycle-riding ghost brother, but it is the poetry and the emotional quality of Nahai’s writing that will linger long after the book is closed.

By contrast, if Nahai writes of Iran in the most subjective of tones, Sofer, in “The Septembers of Shiraz,” has brought a hard-edged focus to her description — making objective details of her characters’ experiences so real as to deliver insight not only into the Iran that was but in the Iran that has now come to be.

Sofer was also born in Iran, just before the revolution, and she fled with her family to the United States at the age of 10. She has a master of fine arts degree in creative writing from Sarah Lawrence, and this, her first novel, makes her accomplishment all the more impressive.

Sofer’s story begins with the arrest of Isaac Amin, a wealthy Jewish gem dealer, by Iran’s Revolutionary Guard. Being Jewish, he is suspected of being an Israeli spy; being wealthy, he is accused of having become so at the expense of the Iranian people.

His wife, Farnaz, tries to find out where he is being held and struggles to find a way to help him, even as her housekeeper turns on her, and her housekeeper’s son loots their home and office.

Their young daughter is in class with the daughter of a Revolutionary Guard member and attempts to launch her own counterrevolution. Parviz, their son, is in New York studying to be an architect, but he is lonely and cut off and lives in the Brooklyn basement of a Chasidic family.

Sofer’s tale provides insight into the anger of the Iranian revolutionaries and those who supported them, as well as how they justified their behavior to those they deemed their enemies.

On one level, Sofer’s story would be no less powerful if it were set in Prague (think Kafka’s “The Trial”) or in Argentina (Timmerman’s memoir, “Prisoner Without a Name, Cell Without a Number,” comes to mind), but the nuances of Jewish life in Iran and of post-revolutionary Iran make the story distinctive and memorable. It is different, yet strangely familiar.

In recent years, there has been an explosion of memoirs, novels and even graphic comics about Iran. More recently, there has been an effort to collect the stories of Persian Jews, including through the establishment in Los Angeles of a Center for Iranian Jewish Oral History and the publication in English of Houman Sarshar’s “Esther’s Children: A Portrait of Iranian Jews.”

Why Iran? Why now, you may ask.

In part, it is incredible that such an old and established Jewish community is unknown to most of us, and that the life they led is, for the most part, no more.

Although Jews were reported to have lived in what is now Iran as early as the eighth century B.C.E., most accounts of Jewish life in Persia begin in 597 B.C.E., following Chaldean King Nebuchadnezzar’s conquest of Judea. At that time, the First Temple in Jerusalem was ransacked, and 10,000 Jewish captives were taken to Babylon — so when Bob Marley sings “by the rivers of Babylon” and weeps “for he remembers Zion,” he is singing the song of Jewish exile.

Less than 60 years later, when the Persian king, Cyrus, conquered Babylon, he gave the Jews the right to practice their religion and to return to Jerusalem to build the Second Temple. Many Jews decided, however, to remain in what is now Iran.

For the next several centuries, the Jewish community in Persia flourished. The biblical books of Jeremiah, Ezra, Daniel and, of course, Esther (the Purim story), all make reference to the Jews of Persia. Scholars recorded the oral law in the form of the Babylonian Talmud — a text studied to this day. Jewish poets, scholars, philosophers all made their home in Persia.

Beginning in the second century, as Zoroastrianism grew in popularity, minority groups in Persia, including the Jews, suffered attacks and prejudice. However, it was the conquest of Iran by Islam in the seventh century, when Jews and other non-Muslims became second-class citizens called “dhimmis” and were forced to pay a special tax. Over the next millennia, the fate of Persia’s Jews waxed and waned, suffering massacres, forced conversions or persecutions under certain rulers, while being given greater freedom by others.

In 1925, conditions changed substantially for the Jews with the advent of the Pahlavi regime, under Reza Shah. Non-Muslims were no longer considered “unclean,” and he abolished the restrictions on Jews, such as the ghetto. Nonetheless, anti-Semitism flared occasionally, particularly at such moments as when Iran sided with the Nazis and at the time of the founding of the State of Israel.

In 1941, Reza Shah was forced to abdicate, following an Anglo-Soviet invasion of Iran. Nonetheless, his son, Mohammed Reza Pahlavi succeeded him as shah and by 1953 consolidated his power. He launched a series of actions to modernize Iran, while at the same time increasing his power and repressing dissent.

The shah’s regime was an era of unparalleled freedom and prosperity for Iran’s Jews as they rose to positions of prominence in many fields.

Under the shah, Jews came to believe, as they have in every society where they have been allowed to be free, that they were Iranians, same as everyone else. History proved otherwise.

With the benefit of hindsight, the experience of the successful, wealthy, assimilated Jewish Iranians of the 1960s and ’70s was a rare historical moment. Their rise in Persian society throughout the Pahlavi dynasty — from the slums and ghetto of south Tehran to the highest ranks of society — could be seen as comparable and as rare as that of the Jews in Vienna around 1900, in Berlin in the 1920s or Budapest or Warsaw in the 1930s. Those eras were not paradise for all Jews, but they now seem fleeting memories, nonetheless.

The shah was deposed in 1979. It is estimated that 85 percent of Iran’s Jewish population has fled the country since then. There are today more Iranian Jews in Los Angeles (approximately 35,000) than there are in Tehran (an estimated 25,000).

The Persian community are double exiles — forever contained in their exile first to Babylon and then from Iran. Perhaps that is part of why they are so special.

Living in Los Angeles, as I do, one of the added benefits has been getting to know members of the Persian Jewish community, as well as being exposed to Persian culture and cuisine (Javan is on our speed dial for home delivery).

Los Angeles and Beverly Hills have their share of wealthy Persian Jewish families living in a world some have dubbed “Tehrangeles.”

A few years ago, my wife and I were invited to a party at a Persian home (where the husband, coincidentally, is a successful gem dealer). The party was called for 10 p.m. Most guests didn’t show up before 11 p.m., and when they did, there was wonderful food served on large platters, with even more amazing sweet desserts and mint tea.

The men were all in suits, the women were all dressed elegantly, coiffed, in makeup and wearing serious jewels. The dance floor was crowded; there was a disco ball and a DJ playing dance hits sung in Persian.

Among the couples I spoke with, I found a great warmth and a certain detachment, which I understood. This is the language of exile; these are the immigrants and the immigrants’ children, the first and second generations, who have come from an older culture to one that at times finds them foreign.

One other thing: The displays of wealth — the enjoyment of wealth — which is sometimes seen among Persian Jews is something that I recognize, as well. It is no different from the way the wealthy German Jewish families I knew in New York pretended to take their wealth for granted or the affection of Hungarian Jews for chandeliers in their homes.

To me, this is just a secular form of “hidur mitzvah,” which roughly translates to beautifying the deed — the Judaic Martha Stewart-like concept that beauty in presentation enhances the ritual — that, for example, ornate tabernacles, well-decorated sukkahs, a beautifully set table, even dressing well for synagogue, are all pleasing to God.

Which brings me back to the Persian Jewish novel.

Its time has come because writers, as well as readers, are always looking to reclaim the world that is no longer. From the last century, one thinks of Stefan Sweig writing about Vienna or Joseph Roth writing about Berlin in the 1920s or Giorgio Bassani writing about the “Garden of the Finzi Continis” (Sofer did a segment for NPR’s “All things Considered” and talked about how well she relates to that novel). Sweig called his memoir, “The World of Yesterday,” and there is always the compulsion to record how it was, particularly when world history convulses personal history.

Beyond that, when a writer asks him or herself that crucial series of questions: What is mine? What is the story I know better than others? What is the best story I know, what territory or landscape is mine and not others? What is unique? — they often find themselves drawn back to their childhoods or, as Irving Howe put it, the “world of our fathers.”

By revisiting the lost world, novelists try to re-create and reimagine those worlds, to let others know what happened, to explain it to others and perhaps to themselves, and in so doing, they arrive at a greater truth in the telling.

Both Nahai and Sofer lead us to a Tehran that no longer exists. Yet neither work is an exercise in nostalgia.

Nahai’s “Caspian Rain” lets us experience the conflicts of lives before the revolution, while Sofer’s “The Septembers of Shiraz” illuminates the moment (always too late) when we realize how change will affects us.

The specificity of the Iranian Jewish experience deepens the characters, rendering them more credible, and, because we understand the choices before them, it makes these novels more universal in their appeal. If that doesn’t seem logical, consider the worldwide popularity of Isaac Bashevis Singer’s stories.

So let us travel to Iran. With Nahai and Sofer to guide us, we can still experience the drama, the conflicts and the pleasures of a lost world.

Tom Teicholz is a film producer in Los Angeles. Everywhere else, he’s an author and journalist who has written for The New York Times Sunday Magazine, Interview and The Forward.

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A Gift Ignored

The Master of the Universe has given us a gift that can connect us to the spiritual world, the one that exists beyond our physical reality. That gift is music, yet, sadly, most synagogues ignore the spiritual power of highly organized art music, the form many refer to as “classical music.”

For a people who have had no problem remembering an oral law handed down thousands of years ago, how is it possible that there is no knowledge of the music of the Temple period? Music is far easier for the mind to retain than text, so this is a great mystery. Text was remembered and music forgotten?

Notwithstanding the mystical kabbalistic tradition or the more recent (relatively speaking) Chasidic tradition, it seems traditional Judaism’s turning away from music as an active part of prayer is also a stepping away from the mystical and spiritual. Without the mystical and spiritual, there is no balance to the intellectual and analytical that have become the primary component of many peoples’ Judaism.

It is my belief that one evolves and gets closer to God when one has brought these polarities into balance. Mainstream Judaism talks about finding God but doesn’t try to get us there by balancing the spiritual with the intellectual.

We are told that in the days of the Temple, music was recognized as a powerful spiritual tool. The Temple services were punctuated by great orchestras and choruses that fulfilled the commandment to “make a joyful noise unto the Master of the Universe.”

Not only were there musical offerings unto Hashem, but new musical offerings. It wasn’t just Temple sacrifices that were called for on a regular basis, new musical compositions were also commanded in praise of Hashem and to elevate the souls of the Children of Israel.

The tradition has survived in Christianity, where great works by masters such as Bach, Handel, Mozart and Beethoven still inspire and uplift all of us who come in contact with these great works. Bach was quite aware of his spiritual gift and signed and dedicated all of his compositions to the greater glory of God. Even Mozart, who wallowed when he could in the temporal pleasures of the physical life, was well aware of the source of his genius and believed he had a responsibility to the Supreme Master to create works of astounding spiritual power.

In today’s traditional Jewish service, the congregation is the choir. Everyone sings, creating moments that are spiritually connective. But another level of spiritual connectivity can happen through refined, complex musical work. Such music is thought to have existed in Temple days, was experimented with again in Europe in the 17th and 18th centuries and has been ignored for the most part in contemporary Jewish religious services.

Yes, there are those congregations that focus on music, usually in a highly accessible or folk form. There are also a handful of congregations that commission new works of a more complex nature. And even in the Orthodox world, there is one synagogue that maintains music as a spiritual tool: If you are in Jerusalem on the High Holy Days, visit Hechal Shlomo, where a large professional men’s choir sings real music that has the power to elevate and transform.

This is all very positive, but does it go far enough? Orthodoxy, which is generally acknowledged to be the keeper of the flame, acknowledges the power of music as a spiritual tool on the one hand but often minimizes its use on the other hand. Psalms 92 and 33 could not be more clear.

Psalm 92: It is a good thing to give thanks unto the Lord / and to sing praises unto Thy name, O Most High / With an instrument of ten strings, and with the psaltery; with a solemn sound upon the harp.

Psalm 33: Give thanks unto the Lord with harp, sing praises unto Him with the psaltery of ten strings. / Sing unto Him a new song; play skillfully amid shouts of joy.

These psalms are indicative of how even those Jews who observe the letter of the law most often pay no heed to the spirit of the Tehillim (Psalms), which make quite clear how we are expected to praise the Master of the Universe. As Jews disproportionately have excelled in so many fields, so it is true in music. Here is a partial honor roll: Felix Mendelsohn; Johann Strauss, who was a Jew from Hungary; Jacques Offenbach, a Jew from Germany. Camielle Saint-Saens, Gustav Mahler and Ernst Bloch.

Ravel’s mother was of Jewish origin, and he wrote a Kaddish. Arnold Schoenberg revolutionized 20th century music, as have Phillip Glass and Steven Reich.

Where would American music be without Aaron Copland and Leonard Bernstein? And where would Broadway be without Jerome Kern, Irving Berlin, George Gershwin, Richard Rodgers, Alan Jay Lerner and Frederick Loewe and Kurt Weil?

We are blessed with many gifted composers who have created works to honor and glorify the name of Hashem and to uplift the soul of our people. Yet how often are the works of the great 17th century Italian Jewish composer Solomone Rossi (1570-1628) performed? What about the works of Bloch, or Ravel’s Kaddish; or Leonard Bernstein’s Kaddish or his Jeremiah Symphony or Chichester Psalms, all works of great spiritual vitality.

No major Jewish organization today commissions and performs art music created to glorify and elevate God. There are no synagogues that include such works of awe in their daily or weekly services, and while some attempt to elevate their High Holy Days services, this is not the norm.

We need to take the psalms literally. Their message could not be more clear: We should be utilizing the immense musical talent that the Master of the Universe has bestowed upon the Jewish people and commission composers to create music, utilizing real choirs and/or orchestras to create the kind of spiritual experience that today can be found in the secular world of the concert hall. If these works are performed on a regular basis, it will greatly increase our spiritual connectivity.

We live in a very complex world. The Master of the Universe constantly challenges us but also gives us the tools to deal with the seemingly impossible conflicts that make up the world we live in. We were given Torah. We were given music. We were given free will. We need to bring these gifts into balance and make a “Joyful noise unto the Lord.”

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No one cares about ravaging of Temple Mount

No one really cares.

But that puts me in an elite group: It includes two of Israel’s most prominent Jerusalem archaeologists (Gaby Barkay and Eilat Mazar) — and me. And a few religious or Zionist kooks. That’s about it.

Meanwhile, the Muslim Waqf goes on tearing up Jerusalem’s Temple Mount, where once the Jewish Temple stood. The week before last, they hit an ancient wall that might be the foundation of a wall from the Second Temple complex built by Herod the Great.

It’s an old/new story. For the past 35 years, the Muslim religious authority known as the Waqf, to which Israel has given custody of the Temple Mount, has been periodically digging it up — illegally. (That’s the Israel Supreme Court’s characterization.) Several years ago, for example, the Waqf used mechanical equipment to dig a huge hole for a wide stairway down to a greatly expanded underground mosque, dumping hundreds of tons of dirt from the mount into the adjacent Kidron Valley.

When Zachi Zweig, a graduate student of Barkay’s, started looking for antiquities in the Waqf dump, the Israel Antiquities Authority had Zweig arrested for digging without a permit. Since then, Barkay has obtained the permit and, with Zweig, they have engaged in a multiyear project sifting this archaeologically rich dump. They have found thousands of ancient artifacts going back 3,000 years, including a seal impression of a probable brother of someone mentioned in the Bible.

Now the Waqf wants to lay new telephone and electric lines on the mount. Under Israeli law, in an area that might contain antiquities, the trench must be excavated by professional archaeologists. (The same holds true for construction: Such areas must first be professionally excavated, most often by the Israel Antiquities Authority.)

The Waqf simply ignores this law, however. A few weeks ago, they began digging a utilities trench almost 5-feet deep, often going down to bedrock. Worse still, the workmen were using mechanical equipment — an anathema to any professional archaeologist in such a site.

It’s certainly all right for the Waqf to lay new telephone and electrical lines. But there would seem to be no reason why the trench could not first be excavated by professional archaeologists who dig by hand and with great care to document the context of all discoveries — no reason except the Waqf’s unwillingness to recognize Israeli law.

On July 18, 2007, I published an op-ed piece in The Wall Street Journal titled, “Biblical Destruction,” protesting the Waqf excavation. It has had no effect. Since then, the excavation has been extensively expanded.

Observers have reported seeing numerous antiquities in the excavated dirt and in the trench, including mosaic tesserae, a quantity of pottery vessels (some of which had been freshly broken by the tractor scoop) and carefully carved and decorated building stones typical of the Second Temple period.

Last week, as I said earlier, the excavation hit part of an unusually wide wall that has now been destroyed. It could well have been part of the Temple complex.

Barkay and Mazar continue to protest vehemently and publicly. But they have mostly been met with silence.

The archaeological community as such has not raised its voice. Each archaeologist is concerned with his or her own dig, not someone else’s violation of the antiquities law. And why jeopardize a career by making trouble, when all the well-known political names and faces remain silent?

Yes, a few newspaper articles have appeared, but nothing serious. The Antiquities Authority has been queried on several occasions about this violation of Israel’s antiquities laws on Judaism’s holiest site, but the response has always been the same: “No comment.”

This thundering silence perhaps explains why the Israeli Embassy in Washington has not provided an account or explanation of this depredation on the Temple Mount. Why raise questions and create a problem when nobody really cares?


Hershel Shanks is editor of Biblical Archaeology Review and author of “Jerusalem’s Temple Mount — From Solomon to the Golden Dome” (Continuum, 2007).

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Conservatives’ New Dish

I read a remarkable quote a few days ago from a prominent member of the Conservative movement: “We’ve been searching for an identity for a hundred years now.”

A hundred years?

In the business world, products can fail in a year or two if they don’t have an identity. But in religion, maybe God gives you a pass from the realities of the marketplace.

Or maybe not.

Over the past couple of decades, the Conservative movement has been in a steady decline. A couple of years ago, one of the leaders, in his outgoing speech, described the movement as suffering from “malaise” and a “grievous failure of nerve.”

Everyone has a theory for why this has happened.

Mine is that they do have an identity, but it’s the wrong one: A great debating society.

When you think of the Conservative movement, you think of fascinating, complicated debates that aim to reconcile traditional halacha (Jewish law) with modern sensibilities. The leadership always seems to be going through some noble struggle to craft rulings that will delineate the permissible boundaries of their movement.

Now, the new powers have spoken, and after a 17-month “listening tour” and strategic review, they have decided to recommend … more debate.

From what I gather, they’ve had enough with “top-down” leadership, and now it’s time to let the “people” in on the process. They’re calling it the “mitzvah project,” whereby people will be encouraged to debate within their communities their personal views and feelings on mitzvahs, including, presumably, which ones of the 613 they feel like doing.

If you ask me, it sounds like they’ve thrown in the towel.

They haven’t figured out how to revitalize their movement, so they’re handing off the problem to the masses and calling it a grand community experiment to help define the movement.

That sounds noble, but there’s a problem: when you’re schlepping from carpool lanes to soccer practices with screaming kids in the minivan, you’re not in the mood to define religious movements. Professors, rabbis and scholars might live for the grand debate, but normal people don’t. They’re consumed with their own problems, like family, money, relationship and health. When they finally squeeze in time for religion, they want more than fascinating debates.

They want real nourishment.

For years, noisy, public debates — including some important ones on gender and gay issues — have had an enormous relevance to the process of Conservatives’ self-definition, but significantly less relevance to the nourishing of their flock.

As a result, the burden has fallen on individual communities, where local success stories are often due to charismatic and enterprising rabbis. It’s a shame the national leadership hasn’t led the way. But they can. They just need to expand their horizons. I would offer these suggestions:

First, de-emphasize the word Conservative and focus on Judaism.

Your followers are Jewish first and Conservative second. So are you. Focus less on the subtleties of your denomination and more on the richness of Judaism. Celebrate great answers, not just great questions.

Second, nourish your people with Judaism that connects to their lives. Unlike their rabbis, people don’t get paid to go to synagogues or conferences. They want to know: How will Judaism help me navigate through life? How will it enrich it? They don’t care whether their religion is organized or disorganized, as long as it’s relevant.

Launch a series — in video, Web, print and live classes — that would be called: “What Does Judaism Say About…?” Each section would deal with an issue people care about: money, marriage, social justice, raising kids, ecology, art, business ethics, health, intimacy, tikkun olam (healing the world), pleasure, charity, community, relationships, etc.

Have your experts craft this “nourishment” from the Torah literature they already teach, but would now tailor to the everyday interests and concerns of your people.

You can call it the Jewish Nourishment Project.

The more people feel that Judaism nourishes them, the more they’ll want to do mitzvahs, rather than just debate them. And when they do engage in debate, it will be from a point of knowledge — not only feelings and opinions.

The third suggestion is to nourish your people’s hearts and souls with spiritual experiences. The Conservative movement has some of the best and most spiritual “nourishers” in the Jewish world. Rabbi Ron Wolfson, for example, and many others have developed innovative ways of making the synagogue experience more welcoming and inspiring. Borrow from your local achievements to create national programs. Give spirituality a bigger priority in your seminaries. Create an annual spiritual convention. Help Jews elevate, not just debate.

Finally, think portable. Take your movement on the road and to college campuses. Reconnect with the thousands of Jews who have been nourished by one of your biggest success stories — Camp Ramah. Become known as a movement that provides Jewish knowledge and spiritual joy for all generations, even when they’re not in synagogue.

Make the head offices of the movement a Web-driven resource center to help disseminate your Jewish nourishment. Create your own global Webcasting network.

In short, re-brand yourselves as great Jewish nourishers — of the mind, body and soul.

Your efforts will always include fascinating debates and sensitive rulings. But these aren’t enough. If you want to thrive in the next century, you’ll need to start nourishing the Jewish world with what it is hungry for.

And that is good old Judaism, served up smart, deep and delicious.

David Suissa, an advertising executive, is founder of OLAM magazine and Meals4Israel.com. He can be reached at dsuissa@olam.org.

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Sukkot Man

I have perfectly normal, respectable friends — doctors, producers, financiers — who every year slip into something more comfortable and head down to Burning Man.

About 25,000 gather for one week each year in Nevada’s Black Rock Desert to create “an experimental community”

“You have to come,” they say each year, and each year I look at their photos from a week spent in the Nevada desert in the baking sun with thousands of strangers into everything from Druid solstice worship to group hug camps and tell them, “Um, no thanks.”

Part of me can think of nothing I’d rather do than take a break from my professional and familial duties and watch aging and wannabe hippies do naked yoga in the Nevada sun — one must always expand one’s horizons. But then I think of the shlep and the dust and the smell of patchouli — I hate patchouli — and the potential for sunburn, and I lose interest.

“But you have to experience it to understand it,” they say. Well, that I believe. For as long as people have mistaken my simple curiosity or bemused expression for an eagerness to join them on whatever farkhakta spiritual journey they’ve embarked on, they’ve relied on the old “You’ll never know ’til you try” to get me on board. I’ve heard it from acolytes of everything from est to Jews for Jesus to Scientology to ecstasy.

The Burning Man Web site chides, “Trying to explain what Burning Man is to someone who has never been to the event is a bit like trying to explain what a particular color looks like to someone who is blind.” Which begs the question: Does a blind person really care what puce looks like?

But I think I do know a little about the spiritual and communal power of Burning Man.

Because I have Sukkot.

When it comes down to it, there are two types of Jews in the world: Those who celebrate Sukkot, and those who don’t.

Either you know what it is to sit outdoors under a sukkah on a cool autumn night, surrounded by family and friends, feasting on traditional Sukkot foods, laughing and singing as if it were summer camp all over, or you don’t.

Either you know that Judaism offers evenings of ease and joy and unmitigated celebration, or you don’t.

Why so many Jews neglect to celebrate this holiday (which begins this year on the evening of Sept. 26 and lasts a week) may go to the heart of why so many Jews are alienated from Jewish life. To observe Yom Kippur but not Sukkot is to experience Judaism as a dour and guilt-inducing religion, full of difficult prayers and expensive tickets.

Sukkot makes no such demands. Judaism, in its time-tested wisdom, presents Jews with the melancholy reflection of Rosh Hashanah and the awesome duty of Yom Kippur. But Sukkot, which comes four days after Yom Kippur, is the religion’s equivalent of Miller Time. All you need to do is sit outdoors in a festive sort of hut, a sukkah, say a few blessings and eat a good meal. The sun sets, platters are emptied, jokes told, wine bottles drained. If someone has a guitar, even better. At my first meal in a sukkah, I thought I had walked into a different religion.

There is a deep religious, historical and spiritual meaning to Sukkot and some rituals and rules that accompany it. Also called the Festival of Booths and the Feast of the Harvest, it commemorates the successful harvest of the preceding year and the time of the first rains, as well as the journey of the Children of Israel through the wilderness on their way to Sinai.

Observant Jews follow the commandment of holding branches of willow, myrtle and palm and an etrog, or citron, during each evening’s blessing. Sukkah guests can discuss the symbolism of these four species for hours: the intertwining of the masculine and the feminine, of Israel with God, etc. Or you can focus on draining those bottles of wine.

But, ultimately, the beauty of Sukkot derives from the holiday’s biblical name (Exodus 23:14-16): the Feast of the Ingathering. The sukkah creates an intimacy that is the glorious opposite of many large, modern Jewish institutions. A sukkah meal is part picnic and part secret clubhouse meeting, part … Burning Man.

Not surprisingly, children delight in Sukkot. They watch as the grownups essentially ape what children do the rest of the year: construct a playhouse. The kids can help decorate it any way they wish — Martha Stewart need not apply — and then every meal becomes a kind of camping trip. Sukkot is the mystery and revelry of Thanksgiving — a holiday whose pagan origins in harvest festivals Sukkot likely shares — taken to an exquisitely deeper level, perfected.

There is no better way to introduce non-Jews to Judaism than by inviting them for a Sukkot meal. For that matter, there is no better way to introduce Jews to Judaism.

Next year, perhaps some local innovator will find a large, convenient piece of property and erect a capacious, traditional sukkah upon it, a community sukkah. It will be open to all Angelenos, Jews and non-Jews, all day and night for the entire week, and be a place where the ancient holiday can be used to forge new friendships, new community, new understanding. It will bring the beauty of Sukkot to all and become an annual L.A. institution.

People will pass this giant sukkah and ask, “What is it?” and someone will answer, “To understand it, you have to experience it.”

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‘Tis the season to be sorry

Just so you should know, the reason I did it the way I did was because I didn’t want to get into it. Really, what was the point? It’s not my job in life to change people or tell them where they’ve gone wrong. Besides, people don’t really want to hear about their faults anyway.

So that’s why, seemingly out of the blue, I ended it with Josh with no explanation, save the vague, “I just don’t feel we’re exactly right for each other.”

And I did it on his voice mail.

Before you say anything, let me tell you that this guy was mean. He’d said some questionable things on the first date (“I found your writing amusing”), elaborated on it on the second date (“What did you want me to do, lie? Did you want me to say that I fell on the floor laughing? I mean, we all have dating stories!”) and was too critical to merit a third. But it took me a while to figure this out, so when he first called me after to tell me what a wonderful time he’d had (with whom?) I said, “Me, too.”

I lied.

Then I called back and left that vague message on his answering machine. Another lie — maybe a white one, but what was I supposed to say? “You’re a critical idiot with a Napoleonic complex, and your money doesn’t impress me!”? Still, I feel bad. I feel bad that Josh thought it was going so well and then this.

I’m sorry for that.

I’m also sorry I said I wouldn’t write about him, but I am.

It’s the season to be sorry. It’s that time of year when we go over all of our deeds, things we have done to others, to God, to ourselves and ask for forgiveness — and grant it to those who need it from us.

What does it mean to forgive someone? “Let it go,” is the big New Age mantra. “If you don’t forgive someone, it’s like drinking poison and expecting it to kill the other person,” these Zen people proclaim. And it’s good advice in relationships to forgive our loved ones. But in the dating world — in this modern day of fly-by-night, I-can’t-remember-your-name, didn’t-we-go-out-once-already? dating — miscommunications, slights, insults and downright mistreatments can pile up in a year.

So how do you repent with people you’ll never talk to again?

Sometimes you just talk to them.

For example, Jon tried to contact me a number of times in the year since we split, but I avoided him; he’d lied to me. But when he wrote me an e-mail beginning with, “I really hope you’ll read this,” saying how he was really sorry, and he knew he messed up, I said it was OK.

And it was. Somewhere along the way, I’d realized he was only being his messed-up self and wasn’t doing anything to me. I was just in the path of his tornado.

But forgiveness has its limits too; I absolved Jon, but I wouldn’t date him again.

Eric, on the other hand, I not only forgave, but became his friend. He’d never lied to me or anything; just sort of neglected for a while to tell me we were breaking up, hoping I’d get the message the passive-aggressive way. That stung pretty bad, too, but after a couple of weeks of wailing to friends about the crappiness of it all, the hellishness of dating and whether or not I lost weight in the ordeal, I realized it was just Eric’s way of being.

OK, I’m not really that centered. What happened was that Eric called me and said he really, really wanted to be friends, and I went out with him with the hopes that maybe we’d get back together. Somewhere during our téte-a-téte, I realized he wasn’t interested, and that I was OK with that. It was the rejection, not the loss of him, that had bothered me, and besides, there was someone else I was involved with who was about to reject me.

I’m joking. Not everyone rejects me. I do my fair share of rejecting, too. If I am going to be honest — and you can’t really lie in during the Days of Awe — I also do my share of rejecting, insulting, snubbing, avoiding, flaking, slandering and (white) lying, too.

And for these things, I ask forgiveness. Just as I will search inside myself for all those petty hurts that have built up over this year of dating and release them, I hope others will do the same for me. And while all this chest-beating over my past is cleansing, the most important step is the future.

Because teshuvah — real repentance — means admitting what you have done wrong, apologizing for it, and vowing never to do it again.

Of course I have little control over how others behave toward me. Nevertheless, this Yom Kippur I vow to behave better toward them. And hope that it will be my last year of dating.

Amen.

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Sukkot in the City

Sukkot (“tabernacles” or “booths” in English) is one of three major Jewish pilgrimage festivals (shalosh regalim) and begins at sundown on Sept. 26. The eight-day festival, which ends with Simchat Torah on Friday, Oct. 5, is celebrated in a variety of ways. Here is The Jewish Journal’s guide to Sukkot around town.

Building a Sukkah
“On the 15th day of the seventh month, when you have gathered in the fruit of the land, you shall keep a feast to the Lord seven days…. You shall dwell in booths (sukkot) seven days; all who are Israelite born shall dwell in booths, that future generations may know that I made the people of Israel to dwell in booths when I brought them out of the land of Egypt” (Leviticus 23:39-43).
The first thing you might want to do is actually build a sukkah. It is a mitzvah to begin construction right after Yom Kippur (but some start sooner). Technically, the structure must have two and a half permanent walls, although most free-standing structures have four. (A wall of a house can be used as the fourth). You can buy a sukkah on the Internet, build one from scratch or purchase a premade one locally (and then keep it every year thereafter).

Sukkah Kits Online
For easy-to-assemble, prefabricated and reusable sukkot in a variety of sizes, materials and prices, delivered directly to your door, visit the following Web sites:
http://www.designersukkahs.com, http://www.siegersukkah.com, http://www.sukkahkits.com, http://www.sukkahonline.com, http://www.sukkahs.com, http://www.sukkahsoul.com, http://www.sukkot.com.

Designing and Building Your Own Sukkah
Southern Californian Randi Rose was inspired by Patti Golden’s Holiday Workshop Series at her synagogue to create her own sukkah. Scouring building supply stores for ideas, she designed and constructed her sukkah using readily available materials and no tools, which she wrote about in an article for ritualwell.org. To decorate, she relied on her imagination and craft store items.

Simplifed Building Concepts
Create and construct your own sukkah with Google Sketchup and Simplified Building Concepts, a resource for people who like to build things. The Rochester, N.Y.-based company, an online distributor of slip-on structural fittings, will price the sukkah and ship materials directly to you. Call Sam or Dan at (888) 527-2278.

Sukkah Kits Sold Locally
Check out Shalom House and Brenco Judaica, below under ‘The Four Species.’

S’chach
Every sukkah must be built under the sky (avoid trees, roofs, overhanging balconies) and covered by vegetation detached from the ground. Palm fronds make great s’chach, although many people use bamboo mats under which you can still see the sky. Some cover their s’chach with plastic tarp when not inside. (It always seems to rain on Sukkot, even in California.)
Materials such as bamboo poles and mats can be purchased from online sukkah retailers, such as those listed above. Palm fronds can often be obtained from local gardeners, florists or individual entrepreneurs who post signs in neighborhood bakeries and delis and sell from the back of their trucks.

Century City Flower Mart
Palm fronds are available at $2.75 each. Preorders are preferred and delivery is available Sept. 23-25. The mart also sells lulav and etrog sets, certified kosher from Israel, which range from $50 to $150.
Century City Flower Mart, 9551 W. Pico Blvd., Los Angeles.
For more information, call (800) 576.7372 or visit http://www.centurycityflowermart.net.

Decorations
It is a custom to decorate the sukkah — a hidur mitzvah, or beautifying a commandment. Many people hang fall and harvest decorations, because Sukkot is a harvest festival. Others hang up their children’s artwork, High Holy Days greeting cards and other personal family memorabilia. Arts and crafts stores, such as Michael’s (http://www.michaels.com), are a good resource for decorating materials.

The Four Species
“On the first day, you will take for yourselves a fruit of a beautiful tree, palm branches, twigs of a braided tree and brook willows, and you will rejoice before the Lord your God for seven days” (Leviticus 23:40).
It is a custom to bless the four species (arba minim in Hebrew), which are the etrog (a citron, which is similar to a lemon), the lulav (a palm branch), aravot (two willow branches) and hadasim (three myrtle branches). You recite a blessing and wave the species in all six directions (east, south, west, north, up and down), symbolizing the fact that God is everywhere.
Etrog and lulav sets can be purchased through synagogues and Jewish day schools, online and at local Judaica stores, which also often sell sukkah kits and decorations. The price of each set varies, depending on the color, condition and fragrance of the etrog.

Shalom House
Lulav and etrog sets cost $65. Also available are prefabricated sukkot measuring 10 feet by 10 feet by 8 feet for $400, with delivery and assembly provided by Valley Beth Shalom’s USY teen group for a donation of $36 or more. The store also sells various decorations, including laminated posters, plastic fruits and plush and inflatable lulavim and etrogs.
Shalom House, 19740 Ventura Blvd., Woodland Hills.
For more information, visit http://www.shalomhouse.com or call (818) 704-7100.

Brenco Judaica
Lulav and etrog kits range from $45 to $200. Sukkot from Sukkah Depot are stocked in sizes 4 feet by 6 feet to 10 feet by 12 feet and cost $400 to $1,600, with local delivery and assembly available. Bamboo mats, for s’chach, as well as decorations, including posters and wall hangings, are also for sale.
Brenco Judaica, 7182 Beverly Blvd., Los Angeles.
For more information, call (323) 930-2222.

Celebrations
“And you shall rejoice on your festival, you, your children, your servants, and the Levite, the proselyte, the orphan and the widow who are in your midst. Seven days you shall celebrate to Hashem your God, in the place that Hashem, your God, will choose; for God will have blessed you in all your crops, and all your handiwork, and you will be completely joyous” (Deuteronomy 16:10-12).
Sukkot is a festival of joy. Synagogues, families, singles and children all celebrate it in different ways.

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A sukkah by the sea where produce is on the menu

Ellen Hoffman and Neal Castleman live in a contemporary two-story home that covers a narrow lot in Malibu. We have been guests for several years at one of the dinners the couple host during Sukkot, which are held in a sukkah Castleman built on the only space available — their rooftop patio overlooking the sea.

Their sukkah is a wonderful architectural sight; it is built and designed using metal poles and canvas walls, which Castleman carefully reassembles each year.

Hoffman, an interior designer, comes up with original ideas for decorating the sukkah that make it warm and inviting. One such design is a centerpiece consisting of a wire-mesh box that resembles the sukkah and is illuminated from within by a hurricane lamp, which creates magical shadows on the white canvas walls. Glass ornaments and mirrored balls hang from the sukkah’s rooftop and create even more patterns.

Guests who arrive as the sun is setting over Malibu climb a flight of stairs to enjoy a breathtaking view of the sand and the sea from the roof.

Castleman begins the evening by lighting candles. Everyone is asked to light a candle of their own as hosts and guests chant the blessing together. The mood is magical, and everyone begins to feel the evening’s spirit. Wine is poured into a special silver Kiddush set the hosts recently bought in Jerusalem,and we recite a Kiddush over the wine, followed by a motzi over the challah.

While Hoffman doesn’t prepare the meal, she works with Lene Houck, a friend and fabulous caterer who cooks the dinner under her careful guidance. Houck, owner of Food by Lene, explained that since Sukkot is observed early this year, she is able to find beautiful late-summer produce that she uses in her menu at the outdoor farmers market.

The basic preparation of her food relies on the freshness of the fruits and vegetables that are available during the season. Houck does not like to use too many products in the preparation of each dish, as she feels it will take away from the individual taste of the key ingredient.

She begins the evening with fun, fresh vegetable appetizers. Corn off the cob is sautéed in olive oil, and just before serving, it is tossed with thinly sliced fresh basil. The sweetness of the corn and the pungency of the basil are a perfect combination, and the dish is served on Asian spoons.

Other appetizers include Cherry Tomatoes With Fresh Basil and Aged Balsamic Vinaigrette, as well as a platter of Asparagus Straws With Curry Cream.

The dishes are carried up to the rooftop, where Houck’s husband, Mark, also a prep cook, pours the wine and serves each course.

The first sit-down course is Lene’s Gazpacho, a cold tomato soup made with hand-chopped vegetables, cucumbers, celery and green onions.

Since it is a long way from the kitchen to the rooftop sukkah, Houck had to solve the challenge of keeping the main course warm — Red Snapper Baked in Parchment Paper. Fillets of red snapper are placed on a bed of spinach, topped with capers, tomatoes and olives and individually wrapped, sealed and baked in parchment paper that keeps the heat in while being transported to the guests.

Dessert follows the Sukkot theme with Oven-Roasted Berry Short Cakes, which feature a lemon peel to represent the etrog and chocolate-covered dates representing the lulav.

After the meal, Hoffman and Castleman ask each guest to comment on what Sukkot means to them. We go around the table listening to the guests’ thoughts and see the stars peeking through the sukkah roof. The sea air and sound of the waves below add a special meaning to the evening as a happy group of friends climb down the stairs, saying goodbye with the hope of being invited again next year.

Sauteed Fresh Corn Off the Cob
1/4 cup olive oil
3 ears of corn, cut kernels from the cob
1 tablespoon chopped parsley
1 tablespoon lime juice (optional)
Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste

In a skillet, heat olive oil and sauté the corn kernels on medium high for about eight minutes. Remove from the stove. Add the parsley, salt and pepper to taste, and lime juice if you choose. Place corn in Asian soup spoons and serve. Serve warm or at room temperature.
Makes 10 servings.

Cherry Tomatoes With Fresh Basil and Aged Balsamic Vinaigrette
20 cherry tomatoes, rinse and dry
20 small basil leaves, rinse
1 tablespoon aged balsamic vinaigrette

Cut the top off of the tomatoes. With tip of a knife, make a small incision and insert basil, leaving the tip sticking out. Place on plate and drizzle with the balsamic vinegar before serving.

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Cowabunga clean up — in Israel

Surf’s up in Israel!More and more Israelis are taking to the water in wetsuits and board shorts to catch those gnarly waves. And as the sport grows in popularity, so does the need to keep Israel’s water clean and safe.

Billabong, one of the most recognizable names in surfing gear, has joined forces with Zalul, an environmental organization dedicated to cleaning up Israel’s seas and rivers.

The Australian company that has been riding the wave of success since 1973 has designed a rad catalog with Billabong beach items that are now being sold in surf shops all over Israel. Window displays are emblazoned with the catalog’s slogan, “In the end it will be clear,” playing on the name Zalul, which translates as “clear” in Hebrew. The surf-friendly items include a folding bag that turns into a beach mat, an inflatable pillow, a straw hat and a beer/cold drinks holder. In Israel, you can drink alcohol at the beach — far out! All the proceeds from those items will go to Zalul to help tidy up the surf. How awesome is that?

Zalul, of course, is stoked about the partnership. “Co-operations like these are of utmost importance to Zalul, as they help raise the issue of sea protection amongst the public and in particular surfers and beachgoers who are most effected by sea pollution,” the group said in a statement announcing the project. “We want to encourage this public to act and make a difference.”

Zalul has been making a totally awesome difference on Israel’s beaches and rivers since 1999. Its work in preserving the coral reef in the Gulf of Eilat, stopping a waste-treatment facility from dumping sludge into the Mediterranean Sea and removing harmful fish cages from the Red Sea is off the Richter.

Sagit Rogenstein is a project coordinator at Zalul and a mondo activist. Raised in our own San Fernando Valley, she moved to Israel in 1997 and has been involved in the Israeli environmental movement right from the get go. “I followed the Zionist dream and moved to Israel to contribute what I can to make a change in this world,” she said.

Rogenstein is already amped for the next project with Israel’s favorite surfing retailer. They’re designing a Zalul info tag that will be attached to Billabong’s winter line. What will it say? Save the environment, dude! Well, not exactly in those words, but something like that.

— Dikla Kadosh, Contributing Writer

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