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May 11, 2007

A sweet 31-cent adventure

What can you get for 31 cents?

It turns out a whole lot more than a bargain scoop of ice cream.

I wasn’t sure what impelled me to shlep out with my own and a few extra kids on a Wednesday evening to take advantage of Baskin-Robbins’ 31 Cent Scoop Night.

After all, the few dollars saved on Gold Medal Ribbon or Rainbow Sherbet were more than offset by the half-hour spent on line.

But like most adventures, getting there — in this case all the way up to the counter — was the best part.

Baskin-Robbins hosted the event to raise awareness for the National Fallen Firefighters Foundation. Posters about the organization hung in the store, and corporate Baskin-Robbins, along with parent company Dunkin’ Brands, donated $350,000 to the organization that honors fallen and injured heroes and supports their families and co-workers.

“The company wanted to get people out to make them aware of this great organization,” said David Yadegar, who co-owns three Baskin-Robbins stores, including this one on Robertson Boulevard a few blocks south of Pico Boulevard. “And the whole neighborhood comes together.”

Yadegar served 500 people on 31 Cent Scoop Night, but he’ll see no profit from the evening. He said it was more about charity and community.

Baskin-Robbins also runs incentive programs for schools, offering free cone certificates for student excellence. Yadegar donates scoops for Pressman Academy’s Reading Rewards program and is eager to get schools and synagogues signed up for his ice cream social fundraisers. Just a few weeks ago, he donated a percentage of his earnings to America Eats for Israel.

Yadegar’s Robertson shop has kashrut certification that covers all his products, though nearly all Baskin-Robbins flavors are kosher.

Last Wednesday at his store — at the crossroads of Beverlywood, Crestview and SoRo (South Robertson) — Jews, Latinos, African Americans and Sikhs were all out for a sweet bargain.

My kids and I saw friends from school, from shul, from the gym, from the neighborhood. There was a sense of giddy camaraderie as everyone hung around the grungy parking lot trying to keep kids away from cars attempting to jam into tiny spots just inches from where we stood on line.

A kid nearly got his arm yanked off by a woman — not his mother — who grabbed him when he walked behind a car pulling out. The crowd erupted in applause when a minivan driver, with the help of some impromptu traffic directors, angled awkwardly into a tight spot. Yadegar said he even thought about getting a DJ.

After we got our double scoops in giant waffle cones — which the proprietor couldn’t get off the iron fast enough to satisfy all these nouveau double- and triple-scoopsters — we stood outside, offering those still on line a glimpse of the joy yet to come.

Of course, they probably already knew the truth: In this dessert adventure, the fun part was the journey there, and the ice cream was just the cherry on top.

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Fiery holiday lights up Lag B’Omer spirit




The wind blew cold and fierce and the waves crashed onto the beach as the sun set pink behind the craggy Santa Monica Mountains and bonfires battled for their lives in pits carved into the sand.

It’s a scene that might well seem like any weekend at Dockweiler Beach in El Segundo, the only Los Angeles public shorefront where bonfires are legal. But last weekend, there was a different type of crowd, for a special type of celebration: Lag B’Omer.

Never heard of it?

Don’t worry, many Jews haven’t. Lag B’Omer, literally the 33rd day of the counting of the Omer — the period between Passover and Shavuot — is a relatively minor Jewish holiday that in recent years has become more popular among spiritually seeking Jews.

It marks the day that the plague that killed 24,000 of Rabbi Akiva’s students ended; it also marks the anniversary of the death of Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai, who some think wrote the primary Kabbalistic text, the Zohar.

The holiday has always been observed by the Orthodox, and in Israel, it’s celebrated nationally and is a school holiday, but these days, some non-Orthodox synagogues, Jewish youth and singles groups and others have also taken to the beach to build fires, sing and revel in the fun.

“I’m really into how a lot more Jewish events have spread to non-Orthodox communities, like tashlich,” said Donna Bojarsky, a political consultant. On Tashlich, as part of the Rosh Hashana celebration, people throw bread into a body of water to symbolically wash away sins.

Like Lag B’Omer, the ritual often involves a trip to the beach and has become a festive community event, a way for Jews of all stripes to find new meaning and connections to Judaism outside the typical American “three-day-a-year” traditions.

“I think that’s a cool thing, and I wanted to support it,” said Bojarsky, one of 60 or so people who came to the bonfire of Nashuva, the spiritual community led by Rabbi Naomi Levy. A half-dozen or so bonfires from various Jewish organizations and groups of friends peppered the beach on both Saturday and Sunday nights this year. Many postponed the event from its actual night until Sunday because of the late hour of the Shabbat sunset.

The spirit of the holiday can be as different as the people celebrating it. At the Kabbalah Centre on Robertson Boulevard, Saturday was an all-night learning, singing and dancing affair celebrating Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai. In Israel, tens of thousands of people visit his grave to say special prayers, and upsherin, the first haircuts for 3-year-old boys, are also done there, and around the world, on this holiday. Picnics, outings, concerts and all types of celebrations mark the day, which breaks up the mourning period of the Omer.

“Legend has it that Shimon Bar Yochai hid in a cave for 12 years,” Rabbi Levy explained to the Nashuva participants. They were sitting bundled up against the wind on beach chairs and blankets, surrounding an array of drums about to be played. Levy told how a freshwater spring and a carob tree appeared near the rabbi’s cave, and he survived on those while he studied inside the cave. When he emerged, he could no longer understand regular life, because he was on such a high plane, and so Lag B’Omer became a celebration of the mystical Torah, the way that Shavuot is a celebration of the physical Torah. “Tonight, in honor of Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai, we’re asking ourselves to take ourselves into a another world, a mystical world, and enter into a place of joy and insight,” Levy said.

Some groups had bonfires to celebrate Bar Yochai — and their identity.

“He’s Sephardic, a hero to Jews,” said Sandy Benchimol, director of the Sephardic Educational Center, an organization with branches around the United States, Canada and Israel. By the time the sun went down, SEC had the biggest bonfire on the beach and some 60 twenty-somethings.

For others, Lag B’Omer is not about anything religious at all.

“We’re here to pass on the tradition,” said Ayelet Sason, who sat at another bonfire with some 20 other Israelis. Like most of their countrymen, they mark holidays with barbecues and had brought supplies to make hot dogs and hamburgers to accompany the chips and marshmallows that were at every one of the Lag B’Omer tables. They also brought guitars and songbooks to sing traditional Hebrew songs like “Tumbalalaika” and “How Good It Is to Come Home.”

And for those involved in kiruv, or outreach bringing Jews closer to Judaism, Lag B’Omer is a way to bring it all together — identity, community, spirituality, religion and fun.

“They get Jewish identity by getting together for a Jewish festival,” said Rabbi Chaim Brooke, head of CSUN Hillel, at the fire for students from Chabad at Santa Monica College, Pierce and CSUN. “It inspires them to be better Jews and better people.”

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The media’s Mormon problem

This is getting really old. Mitt Romney is a legitimate candidate for the Republican presidential ticket. A conservative governor of one of the most liberal states in the union, maybe he could rebuild some of those political bridges burnt and blown up during the past six years. But Romney won’t be president. He won’t even edge the hapless—and surprisingly popular, though increasingly less so—pro-choice Rudy Giuliani.

Why is it unlikely he’ll get the primary nod? Because he is Mormon—in fact, his great-great-grandfather was a polygamist martyr—and that is all the media seems to be able to talk about. The Washington Monthly, Reuters, The New York Times, and even conservative talk-show host Hugh Hewitt.

In November, Time asked “A Mormon for President?” shortly after two-thirds of Americans said they wouldn’t vote one of Joseph Smith‘s followers into the Oval Office (though there are 15 in Congress). In March, however, Gallup released a new poll saying 72 percent of Americans would vote for a qualified Mormon for president. Back came Time yesterday with this story:

John F. Kennedy’s election in 1960 was supposed to have laid the “religious question” to rest, yet it arises again with a fury. What does the Constitution mean when it says there should be no religion test for office? It plainly means that a candidate can’t be barred from running because he or she happens to be a Quaker or a Buddhist or a Pentecostal. But Mitt Romney’s candidacy raises a broader issue: Is the substance of private beliefs off-limits? You can ask if a candidate believes in school vouchers and vote for someone else if you disagree with the answer. But can you ask if he believes that the Garden of Eden was located in Jackson County, Mo., as the Mormon founder taught, and vote against him on the grounds of that answer? Or, for that matter, because of the kind of underwear he wears?

Slate editor Jacob Weisberg threw down the challenge after reviewing some of Joseph Smith’s more extravagant assertions. “He was an obvious con man,” Weisberg wrote. “Romney has every right to believe in con men, but I want to know if he does, and if so, I don’t want him running the country.” That argument, counters author and radio host Hugh Hewitt, amounts to unashamed bigotry and opens the door to any person of any faith who runs for office being called to account for the mysteries of personal belief. He has published A Mormon in the White House?, a chronicle of Romney’s rise as business genius, Olympic savior, political star. But Hewitt has a religious mission as well when he cites a survey in which a majority of Evangelicals said voting for a Mormon was out of the question. If that general objection means they would not consider Romney in 2008, Hewitt warns, then prejudice is legitimized, and “it will prove a disastrous turning point for all people of faith in public life.”

The Mormon question has settled in right next to the issue of whether a twice-divorced man has credibility discussing family values or whether changing one’s mind on an issue like abortion is a sign of moral growth or cynical retreat. Unlike in 1960, today the argument is less about the role of religion in public life than in private. It is about what our faith says about our judgment and how our traditions shape our instincts—and about what we have the right to ask those who run for the highest office in the land.

 

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‘The Terrorists Next Door?’

It’s a scary time to be an American Muslim. Islamophobia is more pervasive now than it was in the wake of 9/11. Those sentiments could have only been heightened Tuesday when the government announced it was charging six foreign-born “radical Islamists” with plotting to attack Jersey’s Ft. Dix and kill as many soldiers before dying as martyrs. The news was followed by these headlines Thursday:

The Terrorists Next Door? Plot Suspects Lived Quietly in Suburb

and

Religion Guided 3 Held in Fort Dix Plot

That first story was in The Washington Post. The second is from The New York Times.

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A fiddler for mom and maybe a shidduch for you!

Saturday the 12th

A free outdoor concert is one of the most pleasant ways to spend a summer afternoon. The Skirball kicks off its sixth season of these enjoyable performances today with the Open Door Orchestra. The experimental ensemble features a revolving set of players from around the world who blend ancient instruments and modern sounds for a unique musical journey. No reservations are necessary for Cafe Z concerts and all are welcome to stay for the companion Cinema Z film series immediately following the performances.

Noon-2 p.m., every Saturday through June 30. Skirball Cultural Center, 2701 N. Sepulveda Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 440-4500. ” target=”_blank”>http://www.bankofamerica.com/museums.

Tuesday the 15th

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Wednesday the 16th

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Thursday the 17th

Start with a romantic comedy by Shakespeare; add an all-female multicultural cast; throw in a Wild West theme, complete with trigger-happy gunslingers, love-struck cowboys and a live bluegrass band and what do you get? “As You Like It,” a play co-presented by the Los Angeles Women’s Shakespeare Company and Rosalind Productions. Lisa Wolpe not only directs this gender-bending performance, she also stars in it.

Thu.-Sun., through June 3. $15 (students and seniors), $20 (groups), $25 (general). Matrix Theatre, 7657 Melrose Ave., Hollywood. (800) 595-4849. ” target=”_blank”>http://www.hopeartists.org.

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Different cultures produce different Jewish mothers

When people talk about the Jewish mother stereotype, they’re usually referring to the American Ashkenazi Jewish mother stereotype.

But what about Jewish mothers from different cultures and countries?

In Israel, where the Jewish mother is everywhere, the stereotype is known as “Isha Polania,” or a “Polish woman,” but can be applied to any woman who fits the description: She suffers but with an Israeli twist — not a martyr, she’s aggressive in her suffering and, like a Middle Easterner, she knows how to hold a grudge.

Consider this joke translated from the Hebrew:


“Polish” woman 1: “Have I told you how wonderful you look today?”
“Polish” woman 2: “Too bad that I can’t return the compliment.”
“Polish” woman 1: “What, you don’t know how to lie like I do?”

“They are very jealous, and they don’t forgive,” says Avner Hofstein, West Coast bureau chief of the Israeli newspaper, Yediot Aharonot. “They don’t forgive their neighbors, and they’re always talking about how someone else is not as good as them in order to make their status seem better (‘Did you see what she did with her son?’).”

Hofstein says that to be a “Polanit” is a state of mind, not a place of origin. “The Yemenites are the biggest Polaniyot,” he says.

But the Israeli stereotypical Jewish mother is also evolving. “Today there are more career women, plenty of women with child care, with nannies — the women work outside more, so their focus is not so much on their children,” Hofstein says. “They’re more like Americans.”

But, he added, in Los Angeles, you do see more of the stereotypical Israeli mother, “because the women don’t work outside the home, and they’re focused on the children and all their activities. All day long the mothers are nudging them.”

Persian Jewish mothers have their own typecasting, too. For these women, the original stereotypical Jewish mother was referred to as “Sara Khanom” (Lady Sara), according to Dr. Nahid Pirnazar, lecturer of Iranian studies at UCLA. Like the American Ashkenazi Jewish mother, Lady Sara is a nurturer and caretaker but not loud or brassy.

“She is usually very naive, submissive and a devoted mother and wife. She is the one who takes care of the family Shabbat dinner with her special meal called the ‘Gondi.’ She usually speaks with a Jewish accent and accompanies her husband, ‘Aqa Ya’qub’ (Master Yaqub) wherever the occasion permits,” Pirnazar says.

Today, Persian Jewish mothers, while many of them have achieved the highest levels of professional, academic and social status, still face the struggles of many new immigrants: how to integrate the old with the new.

“Persian Jewish women are caught between the traditional culture of their original community and the new challenge of life in America,” Pirnazar says. “This challenge is shown in every aspect of their lives: Their own relations with their parents, relations with their spouse, children and, if unmarried, the choice of a partner in life. They try to perform their obligations to everyone and if possible fulfill their own dreams.”

Gina Nahai, a Jewish Journal columnist, is a professor of creative writing at USC and best-selling novelist (“Cry of the Peacock” (Crown, 1991) and the upcoming “Dreams of a Caspian Rain,” among others). Nahai also considers herself a typical Persian Jewish mother because she’s overprotective.

“My son moved to New York two years ago, and every time I see him, I spend the whole time crying, thinking of leaving him,” she says. “My daughter got into Berkeley, and we encouraged her to go, but she didn’t, and we were all happy.”

“Persian mothers want to keep their children warm and safe their entire lives,” Nahai says, but that characteristic is changing a little. Although there are grown men who live with their parents until they get married at 40 or women who must see their mothers every day, perhaps Persian Jewish mothers are “a little less likely” to hold on too long and are more willing to let their children move out.

But as far as the stereotype that Persian Jewish mothers only want their daughters to “marry up” and their sons to have a good career and family, “I don’t see that changing much,” Nahai says.

“I’m really amazed at how much (the girls) have become their mothers; they aspire to the same things as their mothers aspired for them. Some go to school, but you can tell it’s finishing school, not an actual pursuit of something.”

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