I was complaining to my sister about something, something real and true that carried great weight for me. She listened slowly, and then rather than fuel my tirade with validation or question it from the other perspective, she offered a simple and actual solution to the problem at hand. I couldn’t help but giggle. So simple was her offering, that before I could even have a chance to refute it, all the energy I was putting on the problem had dissolved.
Pain, be it physical or mental, is a call for investigation. It is an invitation to discover new options, especially chronic pain. It is a stop sign to make us ask if the direction we are on is truly serving us, or if there needs to be a reevaluation of sorts. It seems to me, we all get stuck in patterns of behavior These very patterns are addictive not only because they were most often born out of love or at least necessity, but also because we, as the only human versions of ourselves, have a serious desire to be right! We sometimes prefer the painful behavior to the pain-free behavior simply because we would rather be considered right than wonder if there could be another way.
We decide things about money, power, trust, personal goals early on and then rather than find ways to reevaluate these things as we age, we just dismiss new ideas with the lists of why they cannot be changed, though our circumstances are most often in flux. I could see the change available to me yesterday, and I can feel it linger and adjust itself into my thinking today. I hope you can discover the moments that you would rather be right than feel better, and maybe begin to make those offerings to yourself based on a new norm.
Lets try it tomorrow evening! We “normally” meet at 6 pm on WEDNESDAY evenings…
But 6:30 will be tried tomorrow to see if that helps those of you who need a bit extra time post your work day get there. We will have candlelight flow, and I promise you, the option of a more open state of mind when you roll off your mat toward home….
In appreciation,
Michelle
SCHEDULE
MONDAYS 8:30 AM
WEDNESDAYS 6:30 PM
Private and semi private lessons always available.
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