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Judy Gruen

Why I Keep My Hair Under Wraps

A few weeks ago I found myself spellbound while watching \”Girl With a Pearl Earring.\” This film, based on the excellent Tracy Chevalier novel, is a fictional account of the history behind Vermeer\’s famous painting of the same name.

The novel revolves around a servant girl, Grete, who became a secret assistant to the painter in his studio. In one scene, Vermeer accidentally glimpses Grete with her hair uncovered. The moment is electric. Grete, like all women of her social station, covered her hair at all times. It was as if Vermeer had caught her unclothed.

It was odd to feel such a kinship with a fictional character, and one who lived in the 17th century at that. But, like Grete, I also keep my hair covered in front of all but family members.

Mom Was There

\”We only have your dad and my mom left,\” I told my husband then. \”The rest of the week is too hectic for visits. We\’ve got to get them over here for Shabbat.\”

I could never imagine how much more precious this time would become, having had no inkling that it would be so limited.

Turning The Pages of Childhood

\”Mommy, will you read to me?\”

My 10-year-old daughter asks me this question every night. Even if I\’m exhausted, or just want some time to myself, I almost always say yes. Before I turn around, she\’ll be 11, then 12, then a teenager.

She will no longer need her reading fix with Mommy. \”Time will not be ours forever,\” as Ben Jonson wrote back in 1607, when the printed word was still a new invention. I want to make this time with my daughter last.

Commitment’s Price

These days, many women complain about the epidemic of males who run in terror from the thought of a committed relationship.

Our Cross to Bear?

At first blush it seemed an odd thing for an observant Jew to do: Slogging my way through morning rush-hour traffic to get downtown to demonstrate against the Los Angeles County Board of Supervisors\’ decision to remove a small cross from the county seal.

And yet, I felt compelled to be there. The supervisors had already capitulated, in a 3-2 vote, to a threat by the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) to sue the county over the cross. Surprised by the public outcry, the supervisors called for another vote to consider a so-called \”compromise\” with the ACLU in which the cross on the seal — just one of a dozen various symbols of the region\’s history — would be replaced by a mission. But as one clever observer noted, a mission without a cross just looks like a Taco Bell.

Spiritual Cleaning

There\’s something very ironic about Pesach. Why is it that getting ready to celebrate our liberation from slavery involves so much hard work?

True Tale Of Homework Hell

The overflow of chutzpah (Yiddish for \”unmitigated gall\”) from my kids never ceases to amaze me. On a daily basis, they make the most brazen declarations while still expecting three square meals a day for the next 15 or 20 years, regular birthday presents, new shoes every two months and allowances that include automatic adjustments for inflation.

Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner?

As Shabbat inches closer each week, my kids usually don\’t ask what I\’m making for dinner. Instead, they ask, \”Who\’s coming for dinner?\” This is because they realize that even if I were to serve something as exotic as Thai or Moroccan food (unlikely), it\’s our guests who really spice up our Shabbat and holiday tables. It\’s kind of like diner\’s roulette: Often, we meet our guests for the very first time when they walk through our front door for the meal.

As part of an Aish HaTorah community that emphasizes kiruv (outreach to unaffiliated Jews), we enjoy hosting guests who are new to Judaism.

Obesity WeighsHeavily on Jews

Lynn Kaufman admits that she comes from \”big, hearty stock.\” But after 30 years of being overweight, the Westside resident decided to get control.

\”I had gotten to a really scary number on the scale,\” said Kaufman, a veteran of numerous diets and 10 years with Overeaters Anonymous. At long last, Kaufman lost 42 pounds with Weight Watchers and has kept them off for two years.

Of course, she needs to stay slim to keep her job as a Weight Watchers group leader.Spirited and passionate about health consciousness, Kaufman even drastically curtailed her hours as a personal injury attorney in favor of a far less lucrative career with the weight-loss company.

Fretting About Fressing

Apples dipped in honey. And while you\’re at it, dip the challah, too. Chicken soup with knaidel. Here, who\’s gonna finish this last little piece of brisket? What? You didn\’t try the noodle kugel? Don\’t tell me you\’re too full for my homemade honey cake and cookies — it\’s Yom Tov!

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