November 20, 2018

Obituaries

Irvin Atkins died July 14 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Ida Mae; and daughter, Marilyn Feiman. Groman

LILLIAN BADEN died July 14 at 90. She is survived by her son, Jerry; grandchild, Dylan; and many relatives. Hillside

Theodore Berg died Aug. 9 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Sarah; daughters, Elayne, Sandi and Judy; grandchildren, Beth and Michael; and sister, Esther Gillman. Mount Sinai

ANNE BOVILL died July 13 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Davida; son, Martin (Pirjo); sister, Esther Morris; and many relatives. Hillside

Beryl Caron died July 19 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Helene; son, Daniel (Debra); daughters, Cherie Hickok, Kathy Mandell and Suzie Caron; and five grandchildren. Groman

Rose Cohen died July 18 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Shelley (Mike) Lubinsky and Sandra Gallob; six grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren; and brother, Meyer (Margie) Jacobs. Malinow and Silverman

STANLEY COOPER died July 16 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; and daughter, Shelley. Hillside

Bessie Farash died July 17 at 93. She is survived by her son, Marty (Judy); daughter, Marilyn (Murray) Cohen; three grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Alexander Farkas died July 19 at 75. He is survived by his wife, R. Barbara; son, Steven (Susan); daughters, Marilyn (Scott) Pilcher and Ellen (Gary) Davidson; and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

LOIS FRANKEL died July 19 at 75. She is survived by her brothers, Walter and Richard. Hillside

Abraham Froch died July 15 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Lois; daughter, Alieen (Gil) Borok; sons, Michael (Jill) and Larry (Cari); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Karl Gerwer died July 14 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Satoe; and sons, Scott and Eric. Groman

Bess Helen Gold died July 18 at 95. She is survived by her son, Peter. Chevra Kadisha

Sumner Granby died July 18 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Alan and Mark; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Gloria Glauber died July 18 at 77. She is survived by her daughter, Micki (Mark Flint) Hollien; son, Russ (Olivia); five grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; and two great-great-grandchildren; brother, Sidney (Dolly) Goodman; and sister-in-law, Judy (Lou) Shaltzer. Mount Sinai

Bertha Hellman died July 16 at 96. She is survived by her son, Bryce (Hannah); daughter, Racelle Manes; eight grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Marilyn Bella Horowitz died July 16 at 76. She is survived by her husband, Irving; son, Alan; daughter, Sherry; and four grandchildren.

Michael Bernard Horowitz died July 18 at 59. He is survived by his wife, Diane Ganley; stepson, Tom Ganley; sister, Margie Bonar; and brother, Thomas. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Horowitz died July 14 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Judith; one grandchild; two great-grandchildren; sisters, Frances Aoltz, Belle Schneider and Sylvia Hallman; . Groman

ESTHER HOUGH died July 16 at 53. She is survived by her brother, Randal Grant Powers; and sister-in-law, Shendl Diamond. Hillside

TERRY JACKSON died July 17 at 91. She is survived by her son, Michael (Alana); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Fred Kelly died July 12 at 76. He is survived by his son, Robert (Debbie); daughter, Helaine (Andy) Rogers; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Robert Kranz died July 15 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Madelon; son, Bryan; daughter, Tamara (Eran) Bikovsky; one grandchild; and mother, Irene. Malinow and Silverman

CHARLOTTE LAKSBERGER died July 17 at 97. She is survived by her son, George (Robin) Lakes; daughter, Annette (Ron) Massman; six grandchildren; and 13 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Eve Lester died July 19 at 82. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Larry Gay; daughters, Julie Moores and Susan Meyers; eight grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

CAROL MARJORIE LEVIN died July 15 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Marty; sons, Steve (Pam) and Robert (Julie); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Michael Levine died July 17 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Yehua Zhu-Levine. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Levine died July 12 at 82. She is survived by her sons, Steven (Elizabeth) and Mitchell (Sharon); and by five grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Thelma Jo Lewis died July 19 at 85. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

Kay Gertrude Lipton died July 18 at 83. She is survived by her sons, David and Jay; and one grandchild. Groman

SHARON WEISS HARRIS LUSSIER died July 18 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Paul; son, Larry Harris; daughter, Jill Cordova; four grandchildren; and one great grandchild. Hillside

Shirley Manoil died July 17 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Melinda; son, Robert; three grandchildren; and three great grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Vera Miller died July 14 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Solomon; son, Stephen (Celia); daughter, Sharon (Brian) Olson-Ahern; and four grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Fahimeh Nathan died July 12 at 61. She is survived by her husband, Manoucher; sons, Ramin and Elly; daughter, Noushin (Morris) Farajola; two grandchildren; sisters, Frough (Sion) Shooshani, Mangeh (Manoucher) Gohre, Gili (Firous) Tabiri and Mino (Mandour); and brother, Iraj (Faraba) Raouf. Mount Sinai

Rhoda Neiman died July 14 at 71. She is survived by her husband, Harold; daughters, Jillana and Paula; brothers, Harry, Mark and Bernard Wisner; and sister, Brandi Wisner. Chevra Kadisha

Joe Orloff died July 13 at 96. He is survived by his wife, Ruetta; daughters, Tami (Robert) Finkbeiner, Penny and Rikki; son, Michael (Karen); seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Klara Sapirshteyn died July 17 at 93. She is survived by her son, James. Malinow and Silverman

Gertrude Jane Schwab died July 16 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Howard (Michelle) and Richard (Colleen); daughter, Helen; and four grandchildren. Groman

Julius Selinger died July 12 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Elinor; daughter, Anita Anderson; sons, Henry and Gary; six grandchildren; brother, Frank. Malinow and Silverman

Hertzel Shirazi died July 13 at 49. He is survived by his wife, Mitra; brother, Mike; and brother-in-law, Abe Manzour. Chevra Kadisha

Julie Ann Siem died July 19 at 44. She is survived by her daughter, Elisha; son, Jordan; and parents, Donald and Lois Arnstein. Mount Sinai

Dan Silberberg died July 19 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; daughters, Jennifer and Nicole; brother, Naftali; sisters, Inga Rubin, Ruth Lester and Alice (Leo) Granierer. Mount Sinai

ETHEL SOLOMON died July 17 at 94. She is survived by her friends. Hillside

J. Dorian Sonnenschein died July 17 at 56. He is survived by his brother, Marco; and sister, Miriam (Max) Feit. Malinow and Silverman

Sidney Stonehill died July 14 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Joan; son, Anthony; and daughter, Dena Stonehill Penney. Groman

Theresa Remes Suffin died July 15 at 86. She is survived by her son, Steve (Leah); and daughter, Fay Shinder. Chevra Kadisha

Morton Wolk died July 12 at 89. He is survived by his daughter, Rolinda Suttle; granddaughter, Tessa Suttle; and significant other, Annette Naftal. Mount Sinai

Mitchell Wortsman died July 19 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Edith; daughter, Melissa Applebaum; and brother, Abner. Groman

Yahya Jonathan Yasharpour died July 17 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Louise; son, Sami; and daughter Yasamin. Chevra Kadisha

Marcus Gershun Zilber died July 17 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Anna; daughters, Sima Epshteyn and Masha Serebryany; and grandchild, Inna. Chevra Kadisha

Obituaries

Ellen Bartel died July 10 at 89. She is survived by her husband, Nathan; and sons Marvin (Maria) and Alan (Lisa). Malinow and Silverman

Emma Bernhard died July 12 at 86. She is survived by her son, Joe (Mary); daughters, Nona (Barry) Fein and Liz; grandsons, David and Nicholas Fein; and granddaughters, Juli and Heidi. Mount Sinai

Reuben Bernstein died July 10 at 99. He is survived by his son, Burt (Judith); daughter, Gloria (Bill) Lederhandler; four grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and brother, Julius (Belle). Mount Sinai

VIVIAN BERNSTEIN died July 12 at 96. She is survived by her husband, Jack; sons, Bill (Marcia) and Harry; sister, Dorothy Kallman; and many nieces and nephews. Hillside

Edward Isadore Buzin died June 27 at 95. He is survived by his children, Roberta (Bruce) Richardson, Sharon Lerner and Larry Buzin; grandchildren, Scott and Sarah; brother, Bill; and sister, Lillian Soland. Mount Sinai

GEORGE COHN died July 11 at 97. He is survied by his daughters, Gerry Mitchell and Teddy (Bruce) Schwab; five grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

Lois Donnelly died July 12 at 61. She is survived by her sons, David and Kevin (Amy); sister, Annette Bouyer; niece, Heather Arnson; and nephew, Andrew Arnson. Mount Sinai

Harry Edelstein died in July. He is survived by his daughter, Arlene (Thomas) Krausz; and grandchildren, Evan and Stefanie. Groman

John Friedmann died July 12 at 91. He is survived by his daughter, Joyce (Jay) Maskell. Oak Hill

Beatrice Fellman died July 12 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Daniel and Steven; daughter, Mona Neter; eight grandchildren; and nine great-grandchildren. Groman

Jack Gutkind died July 10 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Ida; son, Robert (Dion); daughter, Linda; grandchildren, Hannah and Benjamin; and brother, Fred. Chevra Kadisha

PhILIP HEIFETZ died July 9 at 90. He is survived by his sisters, Adele Zepezauer and Betty Fisher; and 13 nieces and nephews. Hillside

LEONARD JULES died July 12 at 82. He is survived by his daughter, Sheri. Hillside

Sarah Kasen died July 10 at age 91. She is survived by her friends. Chevra Kadisha

MARSHALL KASS died July 8 at 76. He is is survived by his wife, Deanne Fier; sons, Michael (Coco) and Jonathan (Miriam); daughter, Susan; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Joseph William Mark died July 11 at 66. He is survived by his wife, Helene; son, Randall; daughters, Shannon, Sheleen and Alicia Pam; 10 grandchildren; and brother, Gary. Groman

HOWARD DAVID MARSHALL died July 11 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Elaine; daughter, Ailcson Kocz; three grandchildren; and brother-in-law, Burton Schwartz. Hillside

Sima Navi died July 9 at 46. She is survived by her husband, Robert; son, Jonathan; daughters, Jaunty and Katheryn Barkhordarian; and brother, Alan Shadgoo. Groman

Kenneth Michael Nibur died July 11 at 62. He is survived by his sister, Analee (Tony) Pasette. Mount Sinai

Anna Poyourow died July 11 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Howard, Douglas and Marvin; and six grandchildren. Groman

Joy Louise Remer died July 8 at 82. She is survived by her son, Rory (Pamela); and daughters, Heidi and Teena Hahn. Malinow and Silverman

Margaret Rosenbaum died July 10 at 97. She is survived by son, Martin; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

NADHIM SARRAF died July 8 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Odette; son, Eddy (Sandra); daughters, Sandra (David) Daniel and Anita (Jack) Yousfan; and nine grandchildren. Hillside

Fannie Ruth Klein Seiman died July 11 at 94. She is survived by her son, Ralph Klein; daughter, Toby Sorowitz; and three grandchildren. Groman

Donald Norman Siegel died July 10 at 58. He is survived by his sons, Andrew and Annon; daughters, Mischel Peterson and Nurit; brother, Howard; and sister, Janet. Groman

Philip Skall died July 8 at 80. He is survived by his sons, Michael (Karen) Wayne; three grandchildren; and sisters-in-law, Eleanor Weisbond and Ann. Mount Sinai

William Samuel Spoliansky died July 10 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Heather; sons, Freddie and Gustavo; daughter, Marisa Solomon; 10 grandchildren; mother, Sara; and sisters, Deborah Ackerman and Susana Gurtman. Groman

Ida Weinstock died July 8 at 90. She is survived by her son, Dr. Robert; daughter, Diana; and sister, Selma. Sholom Chapels

Irving Zahler died July 9 at 86. He is survived by his daughters, Carole (Dr. Larry) Schneider and Alice (Mayer) Asher; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Margalit Zaray died July 8 at 90. She is survived by her son, Mordehai Zaray-Mizrahi. Chevra Kadisha

 

Obituaries

MORRIS APPLEMAN died July 8 at 98. He is survived by his daughters, Sandi Liebert-Simon and Elaine Glaser; four grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Hillside

THELMA AYEROFF died July 6 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Lana Brody; son, Jeff (Martie); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Alvan Irving Beck died July 5 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Blanca; sons, Daniel and Luis Marcilla, Dennis and Brent; daughter, Rosi Marcilla; five grandchildren; brother, Larry. Groman

JACK BERMAN died July 7 at 91. He is survived by his daughter, Barbara Dreyfus. Sholom Chapels

Evelyn Bobrosky died July 4 at 83. She is survived by her son, Jerry; daughters, Suzy Reznick, Debby Shuman and Edie Dayan; 12 grandchildren; and seven great grandchildren. Groman

SAMUEL COHEN died July 5 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Esther; daughters, Sharon (Bob) Wiviott and Faye (Gary) Waldman; son, Larry (Paulette); 20 grandchildren; and 20 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Joseph Conison died July 6 at 91. He is survived by his daughter, Ilene (Andrew) Scharlach; granddaughters, Rebecca and Emily Scharlach; brothers, Julius and Allan; sister, Eva Nedelman; and brother-in-law, Robert Friedman. Sinai Memorial Chapel

DAVID EDSON died July 5 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Bobbi; daughters, Dori (Chuck) Boyles, Lisa, Cindy (John) and Libby. five grandchildren; and brother, Chuck (Sue). Hillside

SAUL EZERSKY died July 5 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Suzanne; and son, Mark. Sholom Chapels

CELIA FELDGREBER died July 4 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Marcey Wallman. Sholom Chapels

Nettie Frishman died July 4 at 92. She is survived by her son, Edward (Gaye) Peltzman; daughter, Shirley (Sol) Morrison; stepdaughters, Marian (William) Schiff and Norma Baitman; nine grandchildren; 11 great-grandchildren; brothers, Stanley (Phyllis) and Marshall (Adrienne) Nathanson; and cousin, Edythe Spinadel. Mount Sinai

KELLEY GARDENS died July 4 at 76. She is survived by her daughter, Candace Culp; 14 grandchildren; and 20 great grandchildren. Hillside

Leonard Allen Goldman died July 7 at 75. He is survived by his wife, MeraLee; son, Mark (Tracey); daughters, Tami and Robin (Jim Popkin); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

IRVING GORDON died July 6 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Dorothy; son, Gary; daughter, Betty; three grandchildren; brothers, Jack and Milton; and sister, Maddy. Hillside

Frances Gray died July 7 at 88. She is survived by her son, Steve; and sister, Janice. Mount Sinai

Sacha Grunpeter died July 6 at 33. He is survived by his parents, Joseph and Susan. Chevra Kadisha

CLAIRE HALPRIN died June 20 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Nancy (Lonny) Scharf; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

BERTHA HELLMAN died July 16 at 96. She is survived by her son, Bryce (Hannah); daughter, Racelle Manes; grandchildren; and great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Mac Helsabeck died July 6 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, June (Paul) Canter; sons, Steve (Dianna), Eric (Pat) and Glen (Penny); eight grandchildren; and nephew, Joseph. Mount Sinai

Arthur Holz died July 8 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Doris; son, Michael; daughter, Joanne (Jonathan) Holz-Evans; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Bluma Horwitz died July 6 at 92. She is survived by her daughters, Judith Jeffen and Lael Horwitz; four grandchildren; seven great-grandchildren; sisters, Genevieve Robbins and Fern Naxon. Groman.

Selma Helena Kagan died June 30 at 89. She is survived by her son, Robert (Mimi) Real; and grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

BENJAMIN KATZ died July 4 at 77. He is survived by his sister, Pearl Ziskrout; and niece, Julia Kelly. Hillside

SUSAN WOLF KOZBERG died July 4 at 68. She is survived by her daughter, Nancy Paul; sons, Steven (Gisele) and James (Wendy) Paul; seven grandchildren; and brothers, Bennett (Sue) and Donald (Elaine) Wolf. Hillside

Polina Lerner died July 6 at 68. She is survived by her husband, Yakov; and sons Vadim and Yevgeniy. Chevra Kadisha

Morton Lesh died July 4 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Rhoda; daughter, Susan; sons, Scott (Darla) and Mitchell (Aleta); three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Sandy Zerbersky. Mount Sinai

Florence Levinson died July 3 at 96. She is survived by her daughter, Harlene (Fred) Leeds; six grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and sister, Lillian. Mount Sinai

Stanley Levinson died July 5 at 97. He is survived by his daughter, Judy Weisman; three grandchildren; great-granddaughter, Megan Beitner; and brother, Robert. Mount Sinai

Esther Lewinstein died July 6 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Ruthie Krivis; son, Bill; six grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; and sister, Mary Lewis. Mount Sinai

Harry Liebman died July 7. He is survived by his wife, Beatrice; son, Gary (Denae); daughter, Barbara; and grandchildren, Brandon and Todd. Mount Sinai

Helayne Lipkin died July 7 at 56. She is survived by her father, Nathaniel; and sister, Stanlee Lipkin. Malinow and Silverman

HANS MANASSE died July 5 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Margot; daughter, Diana (Mitchell) Mednick; son, Jerry; grandchildren Michele (Matthew) and Robert; great-grandchild, Jaden; sister-in-law, Charlotte (Ernest) Wulkan; and many nieces and nephews. Hillside

PEARL MARKS died July 3 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Murray; son, Daniel; daughter, Eileen; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Barbara Ann Moore died July 5 at 60. She is survived by her mother, Sylvia; and brother, David (Tobi) Schneider. Malinow and Silverman

PAUL NEWMAN died June 20 at 96. He is survived by his daughter, Paula. Sholom Chapels

DOROTHY OKEN died June 25 at 87. She is survived by her son, Dr. Ben Chatoff. Sholom Chapels

Dorothy Oppenheim died July 6 at 86. She is survived by her son, Elliott (Kathy); daughter, Sheri (Chaim) Neuberg; four grandchildren; sisters, Sarah (Harvey) Austin and Betty (Leonaard) Gorelick; and brother, Jack Cohen. Mount Sinai

IRA REISMAN died July 3 at 51. He is survived by his wife, Miriam; daughters, Stacey and Jamie; brother-in-law, David Finkelstein; and nephew, Eric Finkelstein. Hillside

Shirley Reiter died July 5 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Jerome; son, Terry (Margie); daughter, Genise (Geoff) Tully; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Pearl Saltsman died July 6 at 96. She is survived by her stepsons, Sidney (Helen), Louis (Florance) and Gerald (Ann); nine grandchildren, 17 great-grandchildren; and two great-great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

FLORENCE SANDLER died July, 5 at 78. She is survived by her son, Howard; daughter, Lori; three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brothers, Robert and Paul Rehmar. Hillside

Jennie Sherman died July 7 at 90. She is survived by her niece, Christine Silberman. Malinow and Silverman

Khaya Shrage died July 4 at 86. She is survived by her sister, Mysia Robin. Groman

Theodore Spector died July 5 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Esther; sons, Ira (Alisa) and Mark; daughter, Francine (Michael); three granchildren; and nieces and nephews. Hillside

Saul Stanoff died July 2 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Marsha; daughter, Robin Williams; six grandchildren; brother, Harry Stanoff; and sister, Rose Danchik. Groman

Israel StuhL died July 6 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Sarah; sons, Michael (Paula) and Jeremy (Dina); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Perri Turkheimer died July 5 at 55. She is survived by her husband, Alan; son, Aaron; and sister, Jan Matthews. Mount Sinai

Jeannette Wachbrit died July 6 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Michael (Jill), Joel (Jill); granddaughters, Michelle and Tracy; brother, Dr. Seymour (Annette) Bird; and sisters, Selma Framson and Annalee (Kal) Kaufer. Mount Sinai

Sylvia Leah Weitzman died June 14 at 76. She is survived by her husband, Seymour; daughters, Randy (Robert) Greenspan and Karen Hampton; stepdaughters, Terie Lesner and Farryl; stepsons, Marc (Kathie) and Bruce; nine grandchildren; great-grandchild, Rieley; and brother, Emery (Shirley) Kubrin. Mount Sinai

ALYCE MARIE WOLF died July 5 at 88. She is survived by her husband Dr. Earl; son, Dr. Stuart (Peggy) Wolf; daughter, Dorianne Tobey Bass; grandchildren, Dr. Bryon and Ari (Heather) Bass; and great-grandchildren, Betsy and Darcy Bass. Hillside

 

Obituaries

Michael Angel died June 12 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; daughter, Judith (Bob Salvaria); son, Stephen (Ellen); five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ruth Anne Baim died June 16 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Beverly (Sol) Mandelblatt; grandchildren, Michael Mandelblatt and Andrea (Bobby) Rashtian; and three great grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Yahouda Benji died June 8 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Faideh; son, Albert (Sarah); daughters, Jaklin and Marilyn (Babak) Younessi; and six grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Milton Bloom died June 18 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; sons, Steven (Sue) and Mark (Jill); and five grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Lillian Libby Chester died June 17 at 99. She is survived by her daughters, Sharon Kaye and Sandra Bercow; six grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Groman

Bernard Corn died June 14 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Judy; sons, Ronald and Robert; daughter-in-law, Eileen Filler-Corn; two grandchildren; and brother, Charles. Groman

Leo Elmon Eisenkop died June 13 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Winifred; son, Dr. Scott (Teresa Claus). Groman

HOWARD ELINSON died June 17 at 65. He is survived by his brother, Mark. Chevra Kadisha

Barbara Essenfeld died June 15 at 58. She survived by her daughter, Lauren (Paul) Di Cocco. Mount Sinai

Bernard John Gales died June 14 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Berta; son, Ron; daughters, Lilly Rubin, Susan Hochstein and Debbie Stern; and five grandchildren. Groman

Abraham Gelfand died June 16 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Beatrice; son, Harold (Janice); six grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Steven Gilman died June 12 at 58. He is survived by his wife, Ann; mother, Renee; brothers, Richard and Chuck. Mount Sinai

Cecil Greenwold died June 15, at 92. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; son, Mark (Betty); stepdaughters, Joanne (Jim) Jubelier and Jill (Bob) McKay; three grandchildren; two stepgrandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and sister, Julia Yorke. Mount Sinai

Ruth Haas died June 14 at 93. She is survived by her sister, Florence Levis. Groman

Irving Halperin died June 19 at 101. He is survived by his son, Michael (Marcia); five grandchildren; and sister, Ethel (Leonard) Smith. Mount Sinai

Carol Hersh died June 15 at 74. She survived by her sons, Jeffrey (Arie), Gary (Maria) and Brian; eight grandchildren; and brother, Donald (Geri) Froomer. Mount Sinai

Freda Hinden died June 13 at 95. She is survived by son, Barry (Marilyn); daughter, Sheila Gruskin; five grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Josef Hodes died June 17 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Sara; and daughters, Zipora (Tibor) Miller and Etta (Alexander) Kogan; four grandchildren; and great-grandchild, Gabriella. Chevra Kadisha

REUBEN HYAMS died June 14 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Celia; sons, Michael and Steve; brother, Joe (Marilyn) Hyams; sisters, Annette (Louis) Sherman and Freda (Clayton) Ferree; and nieces and nephews. Chevra Kadisha

Yolanda Marie Jimenez died June 12 at 74. She is survived by daughters, Linda (Larry) Ross, Nilza Cusamano, Advilda (Jim) Deleneve and Nivea (Mike) McEachern; five grandchildren; and six great-granchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Ruth Krischer died June 19 at 85. She is survived by her daughters, Naomi (Alan) Spiegelman and Judith (Mike Greene); son, David; four grandchildren; and brothers, David and Paul Levin. Mount Sinai

Roselle Lillian Marcus Lewis died June 14 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Earl; son, Dr. David; daughter, Madeline; and one grandchild. Groman

Jerome Irwin Lopin died June 19 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Hope; sons, Michael (Madonna) and Steven (Ty); stepson, Jeffrey Arden; stepdaughter, June (Stacey) Rios; and seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ruth Lubinsky died June 18 at 81. She is survived by her daughter, Katherine Butcher; son, Ralph W. Hood Jr; five grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; one great-great-grandchild; and brother, Robert (Danna) Khaler. Mount Sinai

Hattie Nadel died June 15 at 92. She is survived by her son, Stanley; three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, Jack Adler; and sister, Florence Kusher. Groman

Shlomo Offer died June 7 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Marion; sons, Willie Daniel and Thomas Yecheskel; nephews, Yisroel and Boaz Amit; and nieces, Devora Meschulam and Dita Amit. Chevra Kadisha

Anna Rosenberg died June 11 at 98. She is survived by her daughters, Eleanor (Joseph) Schwarz and Claire (Rabbi Arthur) Abrams. Malinow and Silverman

Meyer Rubin died June 19 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Lessie; son, Craig; daughter, Andrea (Jason) Feldman; and six grandchildren. Groman

Dorothy Salgo died June 15 at 65. She is survived by her son, Charles Rice; daughters, Kathleen Rice and Rosemary Ponder; mother, Shirley; seven grandchildren; and brother, Jeffrey. Groman

Harriet Samson died June 14 at 84. She is survived by her son, Ronald (Janet) Shlesman; daughter, Naomi (Dr. Michael) Bailie; four grandchildren; and one great- grandchild. Mount Sinai

Aziz Sanandajian died June 17 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Maryam; son, Robert; daughters, Rachel, Roya and Rebecca; and five grandchildren. Groman

Rita Scharf died June 19 at 78. She is survived by her sons, Steven and Lance (Renata); five grandchildren; and brother, Jerry Gold. Mount Sinai

GARY JAMES SHAPIRO died June 14 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Louise; daughters, Allison and Jennifer; and son, Darin.

Makhlia Shoulov died June 17 at 81. She is survived by her daughter, Inga (Moisey) Khanukhov; sons, Joseph (Svetlana) and Yuri (Luda); 10 grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Henry Silber died June 14 at 59. He is survived by his wife, Stephanie; parents, Josef and Esther; brother, Abe (Cheryl) sister, Marlene (Roy) Alter; uncle, Eliezer Klavansky; aunt, Ida Taublib; and many relatives. Mount Sinai

Harold Skolnick died June 12 at 91. He is survived by his friends, Arthur (Esther) Brown and Jerry (Mimi) Sisk. Mount Sinai

William Smith died June 16 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Ray; daughters, Kim (Ken) Leigh and Jill (David) Brody; son, Peter (Lisa); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Pearl Starr died June 19 at 95. She is survived by her daughters, Linda (Bob) Russo and Vicki Pass; four grandchildren; 13 great-grandchildren; and nephew, Jim (Linda) Joseph. Mount Sinai

Bernard Stock died June 12 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Claire; sons, Robert and David; brothers, Murray and Malcolm; and one grandchild. Groman

Herman Trop died June 13 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Hilda; sons, Philip (Shelly) and Bob (Billie); daughter, Andrea (Gary) Gleckman; six grandchildren; and brother, Dan Trop. Mount Sinai

Richard Joseph Tuber died June 18 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Iris; sons, Douglas, Rick and Keith; nine grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, Arthur; sister, June Lurie. Groman

Renee Viner died June 18 at 71. She is survived by her husband, Jerome; sons, Steven (Suzi) Blonder and Mitch (Jennifer); daughter, Wendi (Jimmy) Gonzalez; and grandchildren, David and Alison. Mount Sinai

Harry Weinberg died June 16 at 88. He is survived by his friend, Mary Mendoza. Mount Sinai

Gilbert Herbert Weintraub died June 15 at 88. He is survived by daughter, Jo Anne Bardini; sons, Alan and Dana; four grandchildren; and sisters, Carrie Werchick and Arlene Lipper. Groman

Esther Winkler died June 17 at 96. She is survived by her daughters, Ann Bose and Joyce Gibson; and four grandchildren. Groman

Esther Winterman died June 13 at 89. She is survived by her daughters, Ruth Zaray-Mizrahi and Lore (Thomas) Sturm; son, Stanley (Viarica); and nine grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Nanette Wintheil died June 10 at age 98. She is survived by her daughter, Perissa Busick. Chevra Kadisha

Sheila Zimmelman died June 17 at 70. She survived by her sons, Mark and Paul (Helen); granddaughters, Molly and Julia; and sister, Randy Medall. Mount Sinai

Shimon Zvi died June 12 at 66. He is survived by his wife, Elana; sons, Ronen (Tanya), Abraham and Guy (Desiree Sanduval); grandson, Jonathan; sisters, Chaya Beran, Zahava and Esther; brothers, Menasha, Meyer and Ezra (Ruthie); and sister-in-law, Sylvia. Mount Sinai

 

Obituaries

ESTHER ADLER died June 2 at 67. She is survived by her husband, Herman; sons, Don, Lane and Steve (Yosi) Saks; daughter, Elana (Made) Saks; and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

MOUSA ANVAR died June 12 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Isaac (Sima) and Anoucher (Oranus); five grandchildren; and brothers, Mansour, Amir and Morad; and sister, Shoshana. Chevra Kadisha

SONIA BERLE died May 27 at 96. She is survived by her son, Elihu. Chevra Kadisha

Charlotte Bernstein died June 9 at 79. She is survived by her sons, Scott and Larry. Groman

BENJAMIN BROOKSTEIN died June 8 at 87. He is survived by his daughter, Sheila Chadroff; and two grandchildren. Groman

Harriet Cohen died June 12 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Jerry; daughter, Diane (Mark) Goldstein and Sandra (Jeff) Landau; two grandchildren; and brothers, Don (Barbara) and Howard (Shirley) Benjamin. Mount Sinai

Lillian Dushane died June 11 at 83. She is survived by sons, Robert and Steven; five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Dennis Ehrmann died June 10 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Eileen; daughter, Leia; son, Michael; and cousins, Sandra (Robert) King and Barbara (Steve) Schott. Mount Sinai

Louis Feldman died June 8 at 93. He is survived by his friends. Malinow and Silverman

Phillip Fox died June 11 at 89. He is survived by his sister, Edith (Harold) Rose, and brother, William (Shirley). Mount Sinai

PHYLLIS GANULIN died June 9 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Marty (Roni) and Stewart; daughter, Denise; four grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and sister, Lee Furra. Hillside

Sam Geller died June 8 at 91. He is survived by his daughters, Corinne Rosen and Joyce Amram. Malinow and Silverman

Herbert Lee Goodman died June 9 at 76. He is survived by his sister, Ruth Karch. Groman

IRVING WILLIG HAMMER died June 2 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Patricia; and son, Craig. Chevra Kadisha

Wala Izrael died June 10 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Janet Strayer; and two grandchildren. Groman

Arnold Katchen died June 10 at 90. He is survived by his sons, Larry (Sheryl) and Howard; six grandchildren; and brother, Ben. Groman

RAYMOND JEROME KORNFELD died June 10 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; and sister, Maureen. Hillside

Harold Korman died June 11 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Mildred; daughter, Susan (Rob) Evans; son, Paul (Ilene); four grandchildren; and brother-in-law, George Frechter. Malinow and Silverman

Bessie Kudler died June 10 at 89. She is survived by her daughters, Lois Brooks and Linda Absler; and sister, Adline Cramer. Malinow and Silverman

Norman Lee died June 11 at 99. He is survived by his wife, Sadie; brother, Benjamin; sister, Jo; nephews, Paul and Mark; nieces, Hermionie and Bridget; and seven grandnieces and grandnephews.

Clothilde Levinson died June 11 at 76. She is survived by daughters, Nancy Vizcarra, Janet Munson and Lyn Alkan; sister, Alice Wolfson; four grandchildren; and ex-husband, Mark. Groman

HAGHNAZAR MOTAHEDEH died June 5 at 87. He is survived by his son, Kayvan. Chevra Kadisha

Rachel Newman died June 11 at 86. She is survived by her daughers, Susie Kimmel and Esther; son, Allen (Kerry); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Maurice Oshan died June 10 at 89. He is survived by sons, Evan and Michael; daughters, Karen Peters, Judith Griser and Shelene Grey; six grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

ARTHUR SANDER ROZ died May 31 at 46. He is survived by his mother, Adele. Chevra Kadisha

Moe Rubin died June 9 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Sunga Greisman; sons, Shelley Herman and Steven; five grandchildren; seven great-grandchildren; and sister, Dorothy Del Monte. Sholom Chapels

Adrienne Schweit died June 11 at 61. She is survived by her husband, Stuart; sons, Jack (Jessie) and Jeffrey (Heidi) Gottlieb; daughters, Shana (Michael) Rogers and Julie; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

IRAN SHAOULIAN died June 10 at 74. She is survived by her sons, Rafi and Morris. Chevra Kadisha

Frances Solomonow died June 8 at 95. She is survived by her stepson, Allan (Ofelia Alayero). Mount Sinai

Brenda Louise Spector died June 10 at 68. She is survived by her sons, Steven, Jeffrey and David; two grandchildren; and sister, Melinda. Malinow and Silverman

David Samuel Stark died June 8 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Jennie; son, Barry (Jane); grandchildren, Wendy (Devin) Senelick and Bob; and brothers, Lou (Pearl) and Max (Carolyn). Mount Sinai

Gerda Stern died June 9 at 91. She is survived by daughters, Audrey and Hazel (Lawrence); three grandchildren; and great-grandson, Noah. Kiefer and Eyerich Mortuary

 

Obituaries

Robert F. McGuire Jr., ‘Irish Moses,’ Dies at 94

Robert F. McGuire, Jr., a pilot dubbed the “Irish Moses” for his key role in airlifting 45,000 Yemenite Jews to the new-born State of Israel, has died at the age of 94 at his home in Northridge.

McGuire, an Irish American, was the chief pilot of Operation Magic Carpet in 1949-50, when Alaska Airlines, for which he worked, was contracted by the American Joint Distribution Committee for the secret and risky airlift. Flying over hostile Arab territory during Israel’s War of Independence, McGuire and fellow pilots crammed their human cargo into DC-4 planes, at three times their normal capacity.

Despite numerous close calls, the airlift never lost a plane or passenger.

Even after Alaska Airlines bowed out of the operation, McGuire continued the work by buying and leasing planes and setting up Near East Air Transport.

Before Magic Carpet, McGuire had been hired by the United Nations and relief organizations to fly Jewish refugees from China to Israel.

McGuire, a World War II veteran, never talked and sought recognition for his services to the Jewish state, even after then-Prime Minister David Ben-Gurion lauded him as the “Irish Moses.”

His feelings for the Jewish people may also have been influenced by his father, who served as an American judge at the Nuremberg war crimes trials.

Last year, the Simon Wiesenthal Center conferred its medal of valor on McGuire. — Tom Tugend, Contributing Editor

Blanche Abrams died May 26 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Rabbi Arthur (Claire) and Stanley (Phyllis); five grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Leo Balkin died May 29 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Betty; daughters, Bonnie Anketell and Renee Wouters; three grandchildren; and brother, Sol (Janell). Mount Sinai

ERNEST BERKOWITZ died May 28 at 58. He is survived by his wife, Deanna; son, Ben; and sister, Rachel Benveniste. Groman

LOUIS BREWSTER died May 27 at 97. He is survived by his son, Barry (Phyllis); daughter, Sondra (Bob) Duran; and five grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Groman

Kurt Cahn died May 25 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Eva; sons, Peter (Nadine) and Robert; daughter, Nancy (Steve) Steinhardt; and grandchildren, Erica and Matthew. Mount Sinai

Henry Corden died May 19 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Angelina Corden. Malinow and Silverman

BERNARDINE EDMUNDS died May 28 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Rod and John (Gennie); two grandchildren; and sister, Frances Hirsh. Hillside

ZION GABRIEL EYTAN died May 19 at 78. He is survived by his wife; and daughters. Chevra Kadisha

GERTRUDE FELDMAN died May 27 at 89. She is survived by her husband, Abraham; son, Sandy Singer; stepdaughter, Barbara; one grandchild; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Gerald Fleishman died May 27 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Elizabeth, sons Jeffrey and James; two grandchildren; and three stepgrandchildren.

Florence Frank died May 25 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Marsha Frank Berke; son, Barry (Hatiga); two grandchildren; and one great-grandchil. Malinow and Silverman

Lieza Gitelis died May 29 at 81. She is survived by her son, Vladimir (Sofiya); daughter, Rina (Mark Pravin); three grandchildren; and one great grandchild. Mount Sinai

REIZA GITMAN died May 29 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Sarra (David) Finkel; and four grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

JULIA GOODE died May 29 at 87. She is survived by her son, H. Allen Benowitz; and daughters, Marilyn Benowitz Denman and Bonnie Winters; five grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Ruth Goodley died May 26 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Eleanor (Sam) Heeger; Dr. Paul (Devora); seven grandchildren; and 12 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MICHEL GOODMAN died May 25 at 85. She is survived by her son, Carl; daughters, Ellen (Robert) Eveler and Mya Wilkinson; nine grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Maxine Hartman died May 25 at 79. She is survived by her son, Jonathan (Corine); and granddaughter, Julia. Mount Sinai

BEATRICE HASSEN died May 30 at 84. She is survived by her son, Dennis Jacobs; daughter, Leslie Jacobs; and sisters, Margie Berman and Marcella. Groman

ISADORE HELFING died May 26 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Lucile; sons, Sheldon (Barbara) and Robert (Laurie); three grandchildren; and brother, Henry (Sarah). Chevra Kadisha

SOLEIMAN KERMANI died May 26 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Parvin Kohan. Chevra Kadisha

EDWARD KOSLOWSKI died May 25 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Beatrice, son, Ron, and grandchildren, Chloe and Madison. Hillside

PHIL KORNSTEIN died May 26 at 78. He is survived by his sons, Barry (Nancy Renick) and Howard (Theresa); three grandchildren; brother, Dr. Bernard Korenstein; sister, Claire Herman; and two nieces. Groman

ELISSA IONE KOTLER died May 28 at 49. She is survived by her fiance, Shawn Robinson; brother, Ronald (Carolyn); two nieces; and one nephew. Namkung. Hillside

RANDALL CURTIS KRAMER died May 30 at 45. He is survived by his wife, Jacqueline; sons, Sydney and Noah; brother, Derek (Nancy); two nephews; aunts Lana (Mike) and Gail (Tom); and uncle, Albert (Karen). Hillside

Sanford Marvin died May 25 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Arlette; sons, Alan and Samuel (Terry); daughters, Lois (David) Friedman and Sheryl (David) Best; five grandchildren; and sister, Rhoda Garber. Mount Sinai

STEVEN MAZIN died May 30 at 53. He is survived by his son, John Kenneth; sister, Sharon; aunt, Bernice Manocherian; uncle, Stan Schneider. Groman

Edward Mendel died May 26 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Florence; daughters, Lynne (Austin) Godsey and Debra (Steve) Freedman; and granddaughter. Mount Sinai

LILLIAN OBER died May 26 at 90. She is survived by her son, Charles. Groman

DOROTHY PRINCE died May 27 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Arnold and Michael (Brenda); and one grandchild. Hillside

Sara Prujan died May 26 at 88. She is survived by her husband, Jack; sons, Dr. Ross (Linda) and Robert; daughters, Caryl (David) Lightfoot and Jan Farquhar; five grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and sister, Lee Hudson. Mount Sinai

MIRIAM SALTZMAN died May 25 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Susan Barnett, Barbara Kinoshita and Marjorie Krug; and two grandchildren. Hillside

IRWIN SAXON died May 29 at 73. He is survived by his brother, Joseph. Groman

Miriam Schaefer died May 26 at 82. She is survived by her daughter Elise (Dr. Carl) Hartman; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Laurie Shubb died May 30 at 61. She is survived by her son, Zack (Hyla); daughter, Lindsay; sister, Susan (Davina River) Shwarts; and ex-husband, Rik (Patricia). Mount Sinai

LILLIAN SILVERMAN died May 26 at 85. She is survived by her son, Ron (Christy); grandaughter, Lauren Boiles; and sister, Shirley Gold. Hillside

SIGMUND STEINBERG died May 30 at 93. He is survived by his daughter, Diane Wetheim; three grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Shirley Friedberg. Groman

JOAN WATNICK died May 25 at 77. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra Nadel; brother, Howard (Thelma) Lockwood; and grandaughter, Marsha Nadel. Chevra Kadisha

EVELINE WEISS died May 25 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Barnard; daughter, Debra; and four grandchildren. Groman

Richard Wessler died May 30 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Maureen; daughers, Susan (Ignacio) Enbom, Caryl Lippman and Deborah; four grandchildren; and sister, Rose Gorday. Mount Sinai

ALLAN WHITE died May 27 at 88. He is survived by his son, Steve; daughter, Sherry Endresen; one grandchild; sister, Elinor Goodman; and nephew, James Goodman. Hillside

ERIC WOYTHALER died May 30 at 94. He is survived by his sons, Julius, Albert and Ben; six grandchildren; and brother, Rabbi Bert. Groman

 

Obituaries

MARION APPELL died May 19 at 104. She is survived by her daughter, Adrienne (Stuart) Schweit; and two grandchildren. Groman

HERBERT APTEL died May 23 at 95. He is survived by his son, Joseph; daughters, Leslie Chotiner and Stephanie Siebert; four grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

AVNER BAN died May 24 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Anna; and son, Erez. Chevra Kadisha

Dorothy Benson died May 20 at 85. She is survived by her sons, David (Shauna) and James (Sandra); granddaughter, Jennifer; and sister, Marjorie Paul. Mount Sinai

GERTRUDE BLEIER died May 23 at 89. She is survived by her husband, Alfred; son, Joel (Noel); daughters, Karen (Stuart) Tobisman and Elizabeth (Don Nickerson); seven grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Thelma Blumenfield died May 24 at 100. She is survived by her son, Dr. Arnold (Kathleen) Jacobs; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Irene Bors died May 15 at 86. She is survived by daughter, Helene Zenia; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Stanley Bors died May 22 at 93. He is survived by his daughter, Helene Zenia; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Shelly Canes died May 22 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Lyonel; daughter, Julie Ann; and brothers, Nick Arditti and Morris Arad. Malinow and Silverman

SOLIMAN COHENSEDGH died May 5 at 77. He is survived by his brother, Moussa Kohansedgh; sister, Pari (Mansur) Asilzadeh; nephew, Amin Asilzadeh; and niece, Susan Gabby. Chevra Kadisha

Gertrude Davidow died May 21 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Kayla Kantrowitz; three grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Marvin Stanley Ehrenberg died May 22 at 82. He is survived by his sons, Paul (Sara) and Jim (Karen); daughter, Francine (Jack) Darling; step-daughter, Rayna (Robert Tafoya) Morrison; five grandchildren; brother, Brad (Iilla) Sherman; and sister, Glory (Elias) Balbinder. Mount Sinai

HOWARD ESKO died May 20 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; sons, Michael and Neal; daughter, Lori Stein; and two grandchildren. Groman

Gilbert Fitch died May 22 at 95. He is survived by his daughter, Kate Nikolenko; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Leonard Goldstein died May 23 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Vicky; daughters, Stacy (Jamie) Daugherty, Leslie (Dave) Steinman, Lisa Lipeies, Debbie Cipolla and Dawn (Ernie) Roubidoux; son, Derek; 11 grandchildren; and brothers, Richard (Penny) and David (Gloria) Goldstein. Mount Sinai

STANLEY GOLDENBERG died May 19 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Rosalie; daughters, Susan Lyn Schlosser and Beth Lisa Keesler; and three grandchildren. Groman

Henry Gould died May 19 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Charlotte; brother, Mauri (May); and sister-in-law, Sandra (Herbert) Bloom. Mount Sinai

SAMUEL GUBER died May 23 at 96. He is survived by his sons, Peter, Michael and Charles; eight grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

SYLVIA HITTLEMAN died May 23 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Barbara (Jeffrey) Robbins and Lynn Collins; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Gloria Epstein. Hillside

PARVIN HOMAYONFAR died May 20 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Alias; daughters, Mahsid Kashani, Diana Shahedi, Fariba Barokhian, Elena Yousefzadeh and Nazila Razi; brothers, Parviz, Shapoor, Shavel and Manoucher Shabanzadeh; and sisters, Pari Parivash and Nazi Ornamaguen. Chevra Kadisha

Fred Katz died May 19 at 75. He is survived by his sister, Doris; and nephew, Larry Linker. Malinow and Silverman

BEHROUZ KHALILI died May 20 at 49. He is survived by his wife, Mahnaz. Chevra Kadisha

David Allen King died May 19 at 55. He is survived by his wife, Cynthia; son, Aaron; daughters, Rebecca and Sarah; mother, Barbara; and brothers, Paul and Bruce. Malinow and Silverman

Morris Klein died May 20 at 88. He is survived by his nephew, Stephen (Barbara) Queen. Malinow and Silverman

ELEANOR KRETZER died May 21 at 90. She is survived by her son, Dr. Frank (Marilyn); daughter, Carol (Rabbi Richard) Levy; four grandchildren; brother, Leon Hollerman; sisters, Evelyn Karin and Betty Stoller; one niece; and two nephews. Hillside

VICTORIA KRIEGER died May 19 at 86. She is survived by her son, Jerome (Adrien); daughter, Sharon Fisk; seven grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and sisters, Anne Levin, Tillie Addison, Irene Rifkin and Essie Baron. Chevra Kadisha

Louis Kripple died May 21 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Adrianna; and sisters, Sharlene Basch and Esther Pretsky. Chevra Kadisha

MILDRED JACOBS died May 21 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Bernard; son, Dr. Michael; daughters, Dr. Brenda and Linda; three grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

YAKOV LIVSHITS died May 22 at 46. He is survived by his wife, Bronislava; daughter, Inna; and father, Aron. Groman

Susan Menin died May 22 at 69. She is survived by her husband, Lloyd; and son, David. Malinow and Silverman

JAY MILLER died May 24 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Freya; sons, Michael (Miriam) and William; daughter, Suzanne Kasmer; five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

John Miller died May 24 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Madeleine; son, Joel; and daughters, Danielle and Gabrielle. Mount Sinai

ISADORE PITESKY died May 21 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Elva; and brother, Sheldon. Groman

Harper Roisman died May 21 at 95. He is survived by his friends. Malinow and Silverman

JEANETTE ROSENBERG died May 19 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Alan, Steven and Howard; and eight grandchildren. Groman

EVELYN SALKA died May 23 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Saul; son, Donald; daughter, Sandra Milken; eight grandchildren; and sister, Janice Clotzman. Hillside

JEAN SAYER died May 19 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Floyd; son, Andrew; daughter, Nancy; and brother, Dr. Howard Fenning. Groman

Max Schwartz died March 30 at 90. He is survived his sons, Philip and Jack; daugher-in-law, Andrea Wagner-Schwartz; three grandchildren; great-granddaughter, Ella; and life partner, Anne Rothschild. 

Sanford Steinberg died May 19 at 78. He is survived by his daughters, Terri (Barry) Budow and Denise; son, Stuart (Evie); three grandchildren; sister, Dorothy Rice; and sister-in-law, Gloria. Mount Sinai

STANLEY SEYMOUR STRAIN died May 23 at 63. He is survived by his son, Michael; brother, Robert; sister, Anita; ex-wife, Sherri; and companion, Gail Lukas. Groman

BEATRICE THOMAS died May 19 at 86. She is survived by her sons, Laurence and John; and one grandchild. Groman

Andrew Warren VanDerlaske died May 22 at 39. He is survived by his son, Aaron; daughters, Jessica Yaugher and Haiden; parents, James and Barbara; sister Jolenne (Andy) Tuttle; brother, Ian; parents-in-law, Ronald and Marilyn Otting; and brother-in-law, Steven (Tamara). Malinow and Silverman

Rhonda Eugenia VanDerlaske died May 22 at 39. She is survived by her son, Aaron; daughters, Jessica Yaugher and Haiden; and parents, Ronald and Marilyn Otting; brother, Steven (Tamara); parents-in-law, James and Barbara; sister-in-law, Jolenne (Andy) Tuttle; and brother-in-law, Ian. Malinow and Silverman

Marilyn Walitt died May 19 at 67. She is survived by her husband, Leonard; daughter, Stephanie; mother, Frances Walley; and brother, Morton Bernard (Roberta) Walley. Mount Sinai

Leah Grace Whiteman died May 23 at 88. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Norman (Linda); daughters, Harriet (Alan) Cohen and Sandy (Marvin) Schotland; eight grandchildren; six great- grandchildren; and sisters, Sophie Spector and Edna Fried. Malinow and Silverman

Eva Zepel died May 22 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Irving; sons, Arnold (Sharon) and Barry (Janet); and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

 

Obituaries

Greta Furst,
L.A. Free Clinic Auxiliary Co-Founder,
Dies at 73

Longtime Beverly Hills resident Greta Lenetska Furst, L.A. Free Clinic auxiliary volunteer co-founder, died June 1 at the age of 73. Furst was honored Dec. 6, 2004, at the organization’s 28th annual dinner gala at the Regent Beverly Wilshire Hotel, where a full house of friends, associates and family were proud to see her honored for the three decades of unselfish service and devotion she has given to the organization.

“It is very personally rewarding to assist in raising funds that provide free medical services to those in need,” Furst said.

Greta was born and raised in New York, and moved to Beverly Hills in February 1957 as the new bride of Lionel Furst. Prior to her marriage, she traveled around the world delighting audiences with her vocal medleys. In 1999, she gave the community a small glimpse of her special talent when she presented a one-woman show featuring a collection of her favorite songs.

Since moving to Beverly Hills, she became active in the community and served on Beverly Hills Traffic and Parking Commission, was president of El Rodeo PTA, and served on the boards of Beverly Hills CPR, Los Angeles County West Mosquito Abatement District and Advisory Committee for Access Services. For 21 years she was on the board of the Los Angeles Free Clinic, continued on the Friends board and founded the New Friends of the Clinic and the clinic’s Auxiliary Group. She was recipient of the clinic’s Lenny Somberg Award in 2004 and was United Way Agency Volunteer of the Year in 1999.

Greta’s example of unconditional love and service toward those in need remains the most precious gift she has shared with our community.

She is survived by her husband, Lionel; daughter, Valeri (Ron Wauschek); son, Larry (Nu Usaha); and granddaughters, Emma and Kate Wauschek.

In lieu of flowers, please send donations to the L.A. Free Clinic Greta Furst Fund, 8405 Beverly Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 90048.

BETTY ABRAMS died May 13 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Lenore Sherman; eight grandchildren; and 14 great-grandchildren. Groman

Blanche Abramson died May 16 at 95. She is survived by her niece, Sue Rothstein; nephew, Rick Rothstein; and great-niece, Gina Oken. Mount Sinai

BlanChe Ashe died May 9 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Karen Einstein. Chevra Kadisha

NEIL ALLEN AUERBACH died May 18 at 59. He is survived by his sister, Janet Lapins. Groman

Bouena Avlas died May 14 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Dora (Solomon) Soulema; sons, Sam and Morris; and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

LAWRENCE BARSKY died May 12 at 84. He is survived by his son, Richard David; daughter, Marcia Spiess; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

ALICE BAY died May 9 at 98. She is survived by her sisters, Eve Rosove and Rachelle Elex; brother, Sheldon (Babs); brother, Harry; sisters-in-law, Phyllis and Rita; and 12 nephews and nieces. Hillside

ROBERTA BENNETT died May 15 at 89. She is survived by her husband, Mark; son, Lance David; daughter, Deborah Ann; and one grandchild. Groman

Debra Branker-Ward died May 9 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Nancy (Stephen) Weled; son, Gary (Suzee) Branker; four grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

EVA BRONNER died May 17 at 93. She is survived by her husband, James; son, Dr. Philip; and two grandchildren. Groman

JACK MONROE CAINE died May 15 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Joann; sons, Daniel Port and Robert; daughters, Beth McCain, Julie Hohn and Cary Port; and 10 grandchildren. Hillside

SELMA CHERRY died May 9 at 86. She is survived by her son, Sam; daughter, Paula (Jeff) Proctor; and two grandchildren. Hillside

Murray Cohen died May 9 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Lucille; daughters, Marilyn Zussman and Carole (Robert); three grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; and sisters, Ethel and Beatrice Levy. Mount Sinai

Bernice Coleman died May 11 at 82. She is survived by her son, Ira; daughter, Nancy; and grandchildren, Ben and Sarah. Mount Sinai

Harriet Crane died May 17 at 86. She is survived by her son, Donald Glass. Malinow and Silverman

SAADA DAHAN died May 17 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Jacques, David and Maurice; daughters, Nadine Kaufman, Fortune Elgrably, Anne Crosner and Natalie Selzer; 23 grandchildren; and 16 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Hannah Davis died May 12 at 93. She is survived by her sister, Marjorie (Les) Forman; stepson, Richard (Carol Brewer); and brothers, Edward (Bess) and Sherman (Harriet) Sperling. Mount Sinai

ANNA EISENBERG died May 9 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Marilyn Mandel; and granddaughter, Olivia Mandel. Hillside.

Sarah Fefferman died May 10 at 93. She is survived by her nieces, Julie Freitas and Susan (Charles Alexander); and nephew, Dan (Susan). Mount Sinai

MARVIN FREEDMAN died May 11 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Pauline; and Cheryl Lyons. Chevra Kadisha

NORMAN GENISLOW died May 15 at 55. He is survived by his parents, Seymour and Selma; brother, Howard; and sister, Jeni Deloff. Groman

PAULINE ROTH GEST died May 11 at 92. She is survived by her son, Jonathan; and niece, Marsha Wilson. Hillside

MARJORIE GILBERT died May 10 at 92. She is survived by her nephews, Fred (Marcia) Fink and George King; great-nieces, Gail (Tony) Greer and Cheryl (Cameron) Edwards. Mount Sinai

ANNE GLASER died May 11 at 90. She is survived by her four grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

Betty Greenfield died May 12 at 98. She is survived by her sons, Robert and Leonard; four grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; brother, Irving Myers; and sisters, Jean Myers and Aida Glick. Groman

Ernst Hancz died May 18 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Estu; daughter, Terry Weissman; sons, Danny and Fred; seven grandchildren; and one great-grandchild.

Sandra Herzberg died May 14 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Bernyce Green. Malinow and Silverman

Irving Hoffman died May 16 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Rose; daughters, Ellen (Ken) Grossbart and Beth; three grandsons; great-grandson, Brady Solomon; and sister, Anna Reiss. Mount Sinai

SIDNEY HURWITZ died May 14 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Carmen; and brother, Melvin. Groman

ALLYN JACOBS died May 10 at 51. He is survived by his wife, Ana; son, Burt; and father, Burt. Hillside

Lilly Kahan died May 10 at 79. She is survived by her sons, Ken (Roneet), Dennis (Diane) and Stanley (Sandi); nine grandchildren; brother, Frank Oehlbaum; and sister, Ella (Joseph) Brandt. Mount Sinai

Miriam Rae Kales died May 10 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra (Morris) Alpert; grandchildren, Kevin Alpert and Karile (David) DiNardo; great-grandchild, Payton Grivin DiNardo; and sister, Mildred Weiner. Mount Sinai

JACK KAMEN died May 13 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; sons, Robert, Richard and Roy; daughter, Carol Ann; three grandchildren; brother, Seymour; and sister, Lilly Milner. Groman

SHARON KAMINS died May 16 at 82. She is survived by her daughter, Barbara Brown. Hillside

Greta Furst,

L.A. Free Clinic Auxiliary Co-Founder,

Dies at 73

Longtime Beverly Hills resident Greta Lenetska Furst, L.A. Free Clinic auxiliary volunteer co-founder, died June 1 at the age of 73. Furst was honored Dec. 6, 2004, at the organization’s 28th annual dinner gala at the Regent Beverly Wilshire Hotel, where a full house of friends, associates and family were proud to see her honored for the three decades of unselfish service and devotion she has given to the organization.

“It is very personally rewarding to assist in raising funds that provide free medical services to those in need,” Furst said.

Greta was born and raised in New York, and moved to Beverly Hills in February 1957 as the new bride of Lionel Furst. Prior to her marriage, she traveled around the world delighting audiences with her vocal medleys. In 1999, she gave the community a small glimpse of her special talent when she presented a one-woman show featuring a collection of her favorite songs.

Since moving to Beverly Hills, she became active in the community and served on Beverly Hills Traffic and Parking Commission, was president of El Rodeo PTA, and served on the boards of Beverly Hills CPR, Los Angeles County West Mosquito Abatement District and Advisory Committee for Access Services. For 21 years she was on the board of the Los Angeles Free Clinic, continued on the Friends board and founded the New Friends of the Clinic and the clinic’s Auxiliary Group. She was recipient of the clinic’s Lenny Somberg Award in 2004 and was United Way Agency Volunteer of the Year in 1999.

Greta’s example of unconditional love and service toward those in need remains the most precious gift she has shared with our community.

She is survived by her husband, Lionel; daughter, Valeri (Ron Wauschek); son, Larry (Nu Usaha); and granddaughters, Emma and Kate Wauschek.

In lieu of flowers, please send donations to the L.A. Free Clinic Greta Furst Fund, 8405 Beverly Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 90048.

Evelyn Kassel died May 10 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Steven and George; daughter, Marlene Josephs; three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Jerry Schectman. Groman

BETTY KATZ died May 17 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra (Selwyn) Ginsburg; and grandsons, Gregg and Scott. Hillside

SALLY KATZ died May 16 at 96. She is survived by her sons, Joel and Burt Stonefield; and nine grandchildren. Groman

WILLIAM FRANCIS KATZKY died May 10 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Anne; stepson, Robert Levin; stepdaughter, Judith Brandon; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

MANLEY KAUFMAN died May 15 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Sara; sons, Dr. Craig and Rod; five grandchildren; and sister, Emma Goldstein. Groman

Aleck Knell died May 14 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Lena; sons, Bill (Joyce) and Robert (Jacqueline); daughter-in-law, Roslyn; nine grandchildren; 15 great-grandchildren; brother, David Knell; and sister, Gladys Shapiro. Mount Sinai

ROWBEN KOHANBASH died April 27 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Maryam Rambod; son, Amin; and daughter, Shoshana. Chevra Kadisha

AMY KRONE died May 9 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Martin and Gary; daughter, Elaina (Bob) Mills; four grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; brothers, Stanley and Leroy (Betty) Goldberg; and sister, Sandra Goldberg. Chevra Kadisha

SALLIE SHAFT LAKE died May 13 at 87. She is survived by her son, Robert; and daughter, Barbara Schemm. Groman

Debra Ann Lebenbom died May 12 at 46. She is survived by her parents, Milton and Marjorie; brother, Stuart; and nieces and nephews. Sholom Chapels

Eugene Loopesko died May 9 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Lila; and daughter, Mara Madieros. Malinow and Silverman

ZELDA LOUISON died May 12 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Murray; son, Raymond; and daughter, Stephanie. Groman

ANN MAKLER died May 18 at 83. She is survived by her daughter, Rochelle; two grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Mollie. Hillside

Richard Miller died May 16 at 55. He is survived by his mother, Corrine. Chevra Kadisha

MAUREEN MINGAIL died May 7 at 77. She is survived by her nieces, Julie and Susan; and nephews, Steve and Eli. Chevra Kadisha

DORA MITCHNICK died May 16 at 93. She is survived by her sons, Arnold and Les; and three grandchildren. Groman

MURRAY EDWARD MOSS died May 11 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Denise; sons, Randy (Lori) and Craig (Heidi); daughters, Wendy (Joey) Klein and Jody (Barry) Soosman; stepchildren, Michelle and Mark; seven grandchildren; sisters, Ann (Bob) Fry and Nancy (Dr. Bob) Podosin; former wife, Jacqueline; and friends, Milt, Arnie, Vinnie and Spiro. Hillside

Roslyn Hilda Moss died May 9 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Gayle (Charles) Rosenberg; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

SOPHIE OENSTEIN died May 9 at 88. She is survived by her husband, William; sons, Paul and Steven; five grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Arnold Eisenberg. Hillside

Anna Perez died May 15 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Sarah Kasman; sons, Avi (Wanda) and Ethan (LiYan); four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Sam (Jeanette) Block. Mount Sinai

Stella Pierce died May 8. She is survived by her children, Leslie Sipos and Susan (George) Sickman; five grandchildren; and great-granddaughter, Leah Sickman. Mount Sinai

Samuel Plevin died May 18 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Lois; daughters, Cheryl Gallon, Francine (Jeffrey Lewis), Danielle (David) Statland and Gloria; four grandchildren; brother, Leon (Gloria); and sister, Marilyn. Mount Sinai

Betty Lois Raykoff died May 14 at 82. She is survived by her daughters, Tina (Jeremy) Oderkirk and Marnell; sons, Robert (Laurie) and Howard (Judy); five grandchildren; and brother, Sidney (Winifred) Reed. Malinow and Silverman

Diana Gloria Reed died May 12 at 63. She is survived by her son, Paul Miller; daughters, Mona Asher, Lori Densing and Heahter Spiro; 12 grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and sister, Geraldine Meyers. Groman

George Roane died May 9 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Sally; daughter, Sosha (Calm) Rosen; sons, Malcolm (Debi) and Ken (Carol); six grandchildren; and brother, Herbie Cohen. Mount Sinai

Julie Rogoff died May 8 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Carol Hallstrom; and son, Richard (Christine). Malinow and Silverman

Eleanor Rose died May 16 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Harold; sons, Alex (Kristi) and Bruce (Rosemary); daughter, Stephnie; three grandchildren; brother, Jack Goldstyn. Mount Sinai

Mae rosen died May 12 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Dale (Bob) Nater and Jackie (Ron) Clark; six grandchildren; 11 great-grandchildren; brother, Max Feldstein; and sister, Beatrice Elkind. Sholom Chapels

Morris Rosenblatt died May 12 at 93. He is survived by his daughter, Harriet (Michael) Stepner. Malinow and Silverman

Ralph Rosenstock died May 15 at 102. He is survived by his sons, Jerry and Donald (Bonnie); eight grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Sachs died May 11 at 87. She is survived by her son, Marshall (Janice) Sachs; daughter, Carole (David) Rubinger; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

DOROTHY SCHULMAN died May 14 at 92. She is survived by her son, Gilbert; daughter, Ronny Schwimmer; eight grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Groman

Richard Schulman died May 12 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Jeanne; nephews, Jeffrey (Barbara) Robsenbaum and Randy (Debbie) Gallant; niece, Jillian (Rame) Barrett. Mount Sinai

MOLLIE SEDACCA died May 18 at 84. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Dr. Robert; daughter, Helene (Robert) Dolan; and two grandchildren. Groman

IRVING LOUIS SEIFF died May 16 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Molly; daughter, Sara; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, Leonard; and sister, Judy Karpe. Hillside

Harold Senter died May 16 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Marlene (Walt) Zaslove; son, Arnold (Linda); three grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and brothers, Stoney (Ellie) and Louis (Betty). Mount Sinai

Albert Simons died May 9 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; daughters, Patricia (Wayne) Allen, Danielle Bercel and Jan; four grandchildren; and brother, Jesse. Mount Sinai

ADELE SINGER died May 13 at 103. She is survived by her daughter, Elaine Blossom (Irving) Woolf; five grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

Marjorie Singerman died May 10 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Millard; sons, Jonathan, Richard (Laurie) and Ron (Iryna); five grandchildren; and sister, Riza (Sy) Rosenthal. Mount Sinai

Harry Snyder died May 18 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Bernice; sons, Ira (Lucy) and Jeffrey (Christine); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MILDRED SPRITZ died May 16 at 92. She is survived by her cousins, Dorothy and Mark Levine. Chevra Kadisha

Dorothy Sriro died May 12 at 93. She is survived by her sons, Harold (Kande) and Gary (Elly); two grandchildren; sister, Ida Blum; and brother, Ben (Jane) Rosen. Mount Sinai

Lillian Stern died May 11 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Maxine (Seth) Marcus and Shelley (Brian) Ferris; sons, Kenneth (Jacqueline) and Jack; and 10 grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Jeffrey Lee Swartz died May 10 at 42. He is survived by his wife, Julie; daughters, Maya and Rebecca; mother, Eunice; father, Louis (Joan); brothers, Jeremy and Jonathan; and mother-in-law, Cele Schoenbrun. Mount Sinai

Leon Tolley died May 17 at 85. He is survived by his daughter, Joy (Bernie) Sullivan; son, Gary (Corky); three grandchildren; and sister, Ida Sugarman. Mount Sinai

JANET TROMBKA died April 30 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Fred and Mark (Judy); daughter, Marilyn (John) Williams; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Chevra Kadisha

GERTRUDE UDOFF died May 17 at 86. She is survived by her sons, Martin (Judy) and Barry; daughter, Julianna Brandes; four grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and sisters, Elaine Haidt and Bunny Rosenberg. Groman

RICHARD LESLIE ULMER died May 9 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Dalia; and son, James Randall. Chevra Kadisha

Clara Viola died May 10 at 86. She is survived by her son, Ronald; daughter, Judy Bandy; five grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Dr. Tom Wallach died May 13 at 54. He is survived by his wife, Deborah; daughters, Brittany and Jacqueline; mother, Maggie; brother, Michael; and father-in-law, Charles Royce. Malinow and Silverman

Madelynne Wasserman died May 16 at 98. She is survived by her son, Roger (Julie); grandchildren, Jeffrey (Jennifer) and Amy; and great-grandchildren, Trevor and Abby. Mount Sinai

Cathrine Weiner died May 18 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Thomas (Epi) and Gary; granddaughter, Samantha; and sister, Nellie (David) Gola. Mount Sinai

Beverly Elaine Wexler died May 18 at 75. She is survived by her daughters, Jill (Tracy) Lavarnway and Jodi (Stuart) Silverstein; three grandchildren; and sister, Enid (Marty) Meltzner. Mount Sinai

Ruth Zugsmith died May 16 at 94. She is survived by her son, Mike (Rachel); daughter, Suzan Smith; seven grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

 

Obituaries

Constantin Andronescu died April 26 at 61. He is survived by his daughters, Liana and Nicole. Sholom Chapels

LILLIAN DIANE ASHER died May 3 at 92. She is survived by her son, Howard; daughter, Roberta Isaacson; four grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Groman

BRENDA BAGG died April 27 at 51. She is survived by her husband, Gerald; son, Andrew; daughter, Allison; parents, Denise and Alfred Kahn; sister, Janice Elsden; and brother, Lawrence Kahn. Hillside

Dena Bierman died May 2 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Mary Webster; four grandchildren; and five great grandchildren. Mount Sinai

BERNARD BILSON died April 26 at 97. He is survived by his daughter, Jane (Donald); four grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

DAVID HARRY BLEVISS died May 3 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; son, Michael; daughter, Carmi; and brothers, Zeyming and William. Hillside

FRANCES RUTH BREITNER died May 1 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Michael; daughters, Leslie Solomon, Penny Dutton and Jill; and seven grandchildren. Hillside.

Anne Breitowich died May 3 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Vicki Gladstone. Malinow and Silverman

CHAYA BURNSTEIN died April 25 at 81. She is survived by her husband, Alex; and daughters, Penny and Vivian. Hillside

JACQUELINE CARLISH died May 3 at 59. She is survived by her husband, Ronald; daughters, Joelle Jarvis, Marla (Michael) Zack, Jennifer Chavez and Rebecca; 10 grandchildren; brother, Robert (Debbi) Singer; sister-in-law, Connie Chavez, and brother-in-law, Christopher Chavez. Hillside

AILEEN EARLE died May 1 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Stephen; and sons, Michael and Andy. Hillside

Ruth Einhorn died May 2 at 81. She is survived by her nephew, Norman. Chevra Kadisha

MILDRED FINER died May 2 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Eli; and sisters, Sara Maron and Marion Marcieb. Groman

Beverly Freeman died May 2 at 74. She is survived by her sons, Marc and Arnold; sisters, Lillian (Meyer) Ackerman and Dorothy Levitt; and companion, Mel Ross. Mount Sinai

JENNIE GLICKSMAN died May 2 at 101. She is survived by her son, Dr. Kenneth Fox; daughter, Toby Shatanoff; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

HARRY GOLDSTEIN died May 3 at 81. He is survived by his daughters, Cynthia and Deborah. Adat Shalom Memorial Park

RITA HORNWOOD died April 26 at 93. She is survived by her son, Rick; daughter-in-law, Roberta; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

BEATRICE JAKOWSKY died April 29 at 91. She is survived by her brother, Jerry Massler; niece, Joan Hooper; and grandnephew, Rory Hooper. Hillside

Sylvia Mashman died May 2 at 92. She is survived by her sons, Edward (Carolyn) and Melvin (Deirdre Harrington); daughter, Sandra (Daniel) Davisson; grandchildren, Jeffrey Jacobs and Julie (Oleg) Bozhor; great-granddaughter, Milena Bozhor; and brothers, Frank and David (Sonia) Golad. Mount Sinai

LEAH MEDNICK died April 24 at 91. She is survived by her daughters, Betty, Estelle, Barbara and Wendy; two grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

ELLIS DAN MILSTEIN died April 29 at 48. He is survived by his parents, Howard and Mildred; and sister, Sherry. Hillside

PATRICIA KAHAN MIRISCH died April 30 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Walter; sons, Andrew and Lawrence; daughter, Anne (Steven Sonnenberg); and two grandchildren. Hillside

Bertha Nadel died May 1 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Jeff and Norman; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

SHIRLEY FRANCES PERKISS died May 2 at 83. She is survived by her son, David (Rose); daughter, Laurel; and one grandchild. Hillside

Toula Pessah died May 2 at 69. She is survived by her husband, Morris; daughter, Elvira (Brad) Cabelli; son, Elliot; and brother, Moses Albalas. Malinow and Silverman

Doris Preston died May 2 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Leslie and Monty (Polly); and grandson, Darren. Mount Sinai

THEA SCHUBER died April 24 at 82. She is survived by her son, Larry Levin; daughter, Miriam (Steven) Watenmaker; five grandchildren; and brother, Harry (Sena) Rothschild. Hillside

PHYLLIS SHAMBERG died April 24 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Doug; sons, William (Susan) Graysen and Bob (Kathy); daughters, Beth Devermont, Joni Hayes, Peggy (John) Pettis and Gail; 11 grandchildren; five nieces and nephews; and five great-nieces and great-nephews. Hillside

Molly Shugerman died May 1 at 80. She is survived by her sons, Stephen (Julia) and Ken; daughter, Nancy (George) Rubens; and seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MURIEL SIEGAL died April 29 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Zola; son, Michael; two grandchildren; and brother, William Novick. Hillside

Sara Spitzer died May 2 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Loreen (Dr Sheldon) Haas and Barbara (Marshall) Hacker; six grandchildren; 10 great- grandchildren; two stepgreat-grandchildren; brother, Maury Engle; and sisters-in-law, Florence and Dorothea Spitzer. Mount Sinai

Charles Wade died May 2 at 81. He is survived by his nephews, Murray (Terri) Auerbach and Mitchell; and nieces, Salley (Daniel) Stein and Bonnie Auerbach. Mount Sinai

Alice Zukin died May 1 at 79. She is survived by her son, Kenneth Schorr; daughters, Candise (Michael) Kovacevich and Robin (Michael) Chibnik; nine grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Herbert (Shirley) Sanders. Mount Sinai

 

Obituaries

 

SOUSAN AKHAVAN died April 29 at 46. She is survived by her husband, Shahram. Chevra Kadisha

HANOUGH AIENEHSAZAN died May 1 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Sara; and son, Sharyar Aynesazan. Chevra Kadisha

Mark Becker died April 25 at 51. He is survived by his mother, Helen; niece, Sandra (Darrel) Mickens; cousin, Roland Rozen; and friend, Blaze Kisler. Mount Sinai

ROSA BERGER died April 23 at 91. She is survived by her husband, Uri; daughters, Sara Berger and Batya Ref; two grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

ILENE ROSE BJORLING died May 1 at 54. She is survived by her parents, Charles and Annie Rich; sister, Nancy Houbrick; and brother, Gary Rich. Groman

Dorothy Bliss died May 1 at 82. She is survived by her sons, Larry, David (Marie) and Richard (Dayna); and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

SHEINDEL BOBROW-POTASHNIK died April 29 at 93. She is survived by her son, Shlomo Bobrow; three grandchildren; and sisters, Bracha Rosenberg and Sara Klinger. Groman

Evelyn Cohn died April 29 at 92. She is survived by her daughters, Arlene (Frank) Nathan, Susan (Robert) Shepard, Sheila Kasindorf and Carol (Howard) Shankman; son, Michael (Sandy); 11 grandchildren; and many great-grandsons. Malinow and Silverman

Bernard Dovbish died April 24 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Eileen; daughter, Teveya; sister, Dorothy (Joseph) Siegel; and brother, Alfred (Diana). Mount Sinai

Dr. Irving Farsht died May 1 at 95. He is survived by his daughter, Grace (Ronald) Koretz; six grandchildren; great-grandchildren, Molly and Duke; and sisters, Marcia Miller and Charlotte Shapiro. Mount Sinai

Leona Friedman died April 27 at 93. She is survived by her cousin, Barry Freeman. Malinow and Silverman

Edgar Friedman died April 29 at 92. He is survived by his daughters, Shelley (Ramiro) Boyer, Elaine (Joseph) Lieber and Diana (Bill) Woodruff; five grandchildren; and sisters, Vera (Aggie) Margolis and Dorothy Schulker. Mount Sinai

GORDON PAUL GITLEN died May 3 at 52. He is survived by his mother, Edith Fiel; father, Howard; brother, Scott; nephew, Jonathan; and many friends. Hillside

Harold Glazier died April 27 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Beatrice; and son, Bill (Laura). Mount Sinai

Gertrude Gleekel died April 25 at 98. She is survived by her daughter, Susan. Malinow and Silverman

MIRIAM GOLDFABER died April 24 at 83. She is survived by her brother, Lawrence. Groman

Judith Ann Harris died April 25 at 62. Malinow and Silverman

EVELYNE KALB died April 24 at 78. She is survived by her son, Victor Luster; daughter, Elizabeth Clark; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brothers, Nathan and Daniel Gross; and sister, Rhoda Tarrash. Groman

LEATRICE SHANDOBIL JACOBS died April 30 at 80. She is survived by her sons, Steve and Randyl; daughters, Amy Schiff and Jill Boldyc; four grandchildren; and brother, Martin Grant. Groman

Lee Karp died April 23 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Irving; daughter, Davida; son, Orrin; grandsons, Sumner and Lyndon; and sister, Rose Gersten. Mount Sinai

JOSEPH KREMER died April 24 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Edith; daughters, Margie and Harriet Bilford; four grandchildren; and sisters, Lillian Scherman and Margaret Friedman. Groman

ADELINE IMBER died April 24 at 92. She is survived by her son, Paul (Gail) Sussman; five grandchildren; and nine great grandchildren.

Arthur Lederman died April 28 at 64. He is survived by his sister, Barbara (Alan) Dickson; and niece, Karen Kafka. Mount Sinai

RUTH LITT died April 26 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Barry, Mitchell and Richard; daughter, Penelope Saltsburg; seven grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; brother, Irvin Sobel; and sister, Harriet Roth. Groman

Seymour Middleberg died April 25 at 80. He is survived by his daughter, Gail Binda; and niece, Rene Fedyna.

ALVIN NEWMAN died April 24 at 86. He is survived by his sons, Philip (Sue), Barry (Carol); 11 grandchildren; and 16 great-grandchildren. Hillside

ROBERT NOVICK died April 23 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Roberta; son, Michael; daughters, Lisa Blons and Nancy Fox; six grandchildren; and brother, Donald. Groman

BEZALEL NUTOVITS died April 29 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Cipora; and daughter, Devora. Chevra Kadisha

Edna Kay Oschin died April 26 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Helaine (Rudy) Melnitzer; two grandchildren; and sister, Rose Rogovy. Malinow and Silverman

MARTIN PEPPER died April 23 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Mollie; sons, Alan (Tobie) and Andrew (Linda); three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Darryl Martin Pine died May 1 at 55. He is survived by his wife, Vivian; mother, Marion; and sister, Pamela (Richard Scott). Mount Sinai

Eileen Porter died April 25 at 70. She is survived by her husband, George; daughters, Lisa Kaulen and Denise Powell; and son, Marc (Lori) Powell. Malinow and Silverman

Maj. Alvin Radiloff died April 25 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; son, Steven (Milla); daughter, Nancy (Daniele) Capisani; four grandchildren; and brother, Harold (Berta). Mount Sinai

George Rhodes died April 24 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Doris; daughter, Lisa (Russell) Hayter; son, Jon (Gabriela); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Michael Rogers died April 25 at 55. He is survived by his mother, Marjorie; brother, Marshall (Jackie); sisters, Michelle Wilson and Mia Vanetek; and girlfriend, Annetta La Bonte. Mount Sinai

Leonard Rood died April 26 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Frema; son, Steven (Marcia Falk); daughter, Suzan (Mark Wilson); grandsons, Abraham Falk-Rood and Henry Rood Wilson; and sister, Bernice (Joseph) Kelley. Mount Sinai

WILLIAM SAMUEL ROZAY died May 1 at 93. He is survived by his son, Sam. Groman

STANLEY SCHNEIDER died April 29 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Faye; son, Bob; daughter, Wendy (Bruce) Compton; one grandchild; and brother, Marvin. Groman

Martin Schonfeld died April 30 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Eva; and sister, Helen (Harold) Lang. Mount Sinai

ESTHER SILVER died April 24 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Mort; son, Marvin; daughter, Betty Garren; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Stanley Arthur Socol died April 23 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Rose; daughters, Sharon (Donald) Bergh and Phyllis (David) Minor; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

BARBARA SPEAR died April 26 at 89. She is survived by her nephew, Dr. Allan Abrams. Groman

Wendy Tazartes died April 25 at 43. She is survived by her husband, Fred; son, Sam; daughter, Rebekah; parents, Harvey and Rachel Sandman; and sister, Alyce Kinkin. Mount Sinai

Seymour Tenney died April 22 at 64. He is survived by his wife, Francine; daughter, Susan Beauvais; son, Jason (Erin); and granddaughter, Alexis. Mount Sinai

Judith Henrietta Tlusty died April 27 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Alice (Leonard) Maltin; son, Ted (Janice) Taylor; three grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and brother, Paul (Vivian) Merker. Mount Sinai

Bebe Trabish died April 26 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Nancy (Richard) Marks and Emily (Larry Hoffman); sons, Herman (Teri) and Drew (Jan); three grandchildren; brother, Bill (Rose) Kaplan; nephew Darrell (Gail); and grand-niece, Jackie. Mount Sinai

JANET WEINBERG died April 30 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Fred and Mark (Judy); daughter, Marilyn (John) Willams; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Chevra Kadisha

Dinah Weiner died April 24 at 94. She is survived by her son, Jay. Malinow and Silverman

SOPHIE WEINSTEIN died April 13 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Leon; and daughter, Natalie Gold. Chevra Kadisha

Geraldine Weissman died April 22 at 74. She is survived by her sons, Dean (Karen) and Glen (Dawn); and granddaughter, Holly. Mount Sinai

Ernest Sumner Wolfe died April 30 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; daughter, Karen (Dan) Rosenfeld; son, Gary (Stacey); and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Marion Wygand died April 25 at 80. She is survived by her daughters, Roma (Warren) Levy and Lee; grandchildren, David and Laura Levy; and sister, Elaine Shebby. Mount Sinai

 

Jewish Ethical Views Differ on Schiavo

 

As a federal court considers whether to reconnect Terri Schiavo’s feeding tube, Jewish scholars are turning to halacha, or Jewish religious law, for guidance on the issue.

Schiavo, the severely brain-damaged Florida woman whose parents and husband have been battling in state and now federal courts for more than a decade, is the insensate center of a swirl of emotion and legal action.

Religious leaders have been involved as well. Schiavo and her parents, Mary and Robert Schindler, are Roman Catholic, and many of their most fervent supporters are fundamentalist Protestants.

The Schindlers want to keep their daughter’s feeding tube in; Michael Schiavo, her husband, wants it removed so his wife can die a natural death.

Jews, like others caught up in the debate, have a range of beliefs, and their understanding of how to apply halacha varies accordingly. Virtually all the rabbis interviewed, though, told JTA that they did not agree with attempts by some conservative Christians to tie Schiavo’s case to the public debate about abortion.

At the traditional end of the spectrum, Rabbi Avi Shafran of the ultra-Orthodox Agudath Israel of America said the Schiavo case is “straightforward from a Jewish perspective: The most important point from a halachic standpoint is that a compromised life is still a life.”

“In the Schiavo case, you’re not dealing with a patient in extremis,” he said, noting that until her feeding tube was removed, Schiavo was not dying.

In halacha, there is a category for a person at the edge of death; the rules for such a person, called a goses, are complicated.

“There are times when certain medical intervention is halachically contraindicated,” Shafran said. “There may be times when it’s OK not to shock a heart back into beating, not to administer certain drugs. You do not prolong the act of dying.”

However, Schiavo was not a goses, Shafran said. Instead, he added, before the tube was removed, she “had the exact same halachic status as a baby or a demented person. Like a baby, she was helpless, could not feed herself and was not able to communicate in any meaningful way. But a life is a life.”

Rabbi Tzvi Hersh Weinreb, executive vice president of the Orthodox Union, the central arm of modern Orthodoxy, agreed that from a halachic perspective, the Schiavo case is straightforward.

“It’s not permitted to do anything actively that would stop the process of a person’s staying alive,” he said. “In this case, that would be withdrawing a feeding tube, which is tantamount to starving a person to death.”

Like Shafran, Weinreb said the wishes of the patient or the family are not relevant.

“It might have a bearing on whether new measures are undertaken, but once a person is on a support system, removing it is not possible,” Weinreb said.

“Doing something to actively interfere with a person’s ability to continue to live technically is murder,” he said. “I can’t imagine a scenario that would make removing the feeding tube permissible.”

Rabbi David Feldman, who had an Orthodox ordination and defines himself as “traditional,” is rabbi emeritus of the Conservadox Jewish Center of Teaneck, N.J.

“There’s a dispute here between a husband and parents, but none of that makes any difference as far as halacha is concerned,” said Feldman, author of “Marital Relations, Birth Control and Abortion in Jewish Law” (Schocken, 1975) and the dean of the Jewish Institute of Bioethics. “You can’t hasten death yourself, with your own hands. If death comes, you can thank God because it’s a relief, but you can’t decide yourself that it has to be done.”

The only time it would be acceptable to remove a medical device, Feldman said, would be if “something worse would happen — if leaving it in would cause infection or more pain.

“You can kill someone pursuing you, you can kill the soldier in the enemy army, maybe very cautiously you can kill if there is a death penalty, but you can’t kill an innocent person because of illness,” he said.

Rabbi Joel Roth is a member of the Conservative movement’s Rabbinical Assembly’s Law Committee. In 1990, when he was the committee’s chair, the group studied end-stage medical care and accepted two opposing positions on artificial nutrition and hydration.

One, by Rabbi Elliot Dorff, “would permit withholding and withdrawing” the tube; the other, by Rabbi Avraham Reisner, would not.

The divide comes from how the tube that provides food and water is defined. If it is seen as a medical device, as Dorff does, it may be removed, Roth said. If it is seen as a feeding device, as Reisner does, it may not be removed.

Dorff puts a person dependent on a feeding tube “in the halachic category of ‘treifah,’ which, he argues, is a life that does not require our full protection — an animal that is treifah is one that has some kind of physical defect that will prohibit it from having a prolonged life. So he argues that a treifah is a life that does not require our full protection,” Roth said.

Reisner, on the other hand, “treats these people as goses,” Roth said.

“And even in the end stage,” he noted, “there is the value of ‘chaya sha’ah,’ the life of the hour.” In other words, Roth said, even when there is very little life left, that life still matters.

The Conservative movement accepts both decisions, but Roth, a professor of Talmud and Jewish law at the Jewish Theological Seminary in New York, sides with Reisner, and with Schiavo’s parents.

“She should be kept on the feeding tube,” he said. “She’s not being medicated, and she’s breathing on her own.”

Rabbi Mark Washofsky teaches rabbinics at the Reform movement’s Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion in Cincinnati, and he sits on the movement’s responsa committee.

The movement does not speak with one voice on the issue, Washofsky said, but in 1994 it issued a responsa on the treatment of terminally ill patients.

Like the Conservative decisions, the Reform rabbis base their view of whether a feeding tube can be removed on their understanding of the tube’s function.

“We cannot claim that Jewish tradition categorically prohibits the removal of food and water from dying patients,” Washofsky said. “But we consider food and water, no matter how they are delivered, the staff of life. So what we ultimately do is express deep reservations about their withdrawal, but in the end, we say, nonetheless, that because we cannot declare that the cessation of artificial nutrition and hydration is categorically forbidden by Jewish moral thought, the patient and the family must ultimately let their consciences guide them.”

Rabbi David Teutsch, director of the Center for Jewish Ethics at the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College in Philadelphia, agrees that the question is how a feeding tube is defined.

“If it were a form of eating, a position held by a number of more traditional halachic authorities, then you’re required to feed those who are hungry,” Teutsch said. “But if it’s medicine –a position held by Conservative authorities like Rabbi Elliott Dorff, and by me as well — then you serve the interests of the patient, which may involve not providing medicine.”

He believes that a feeding tube is a medical device, and so it can be removed, Teutsch said.

“It’s pretty clear that it’s closer to regular intervention than to eating,” he said.

 

Purim Saga

 

How fitting that the heartbreaking saga of Terri Schiavo is coming to a head during Purim. Granted, the connection to a holiday known for merrymaking is not obvious. On its face, Purim celebrates the rescue of Persian Jewry from certain destruction in the time of King Ahasuerus. They tried to kill us, they failed, let’s eat.

But the Purim holiday is not so simple; it is full of mystery and hidden meanings. It is a religious holiday whose central text, Megillat Esther, never mentions God. Its heroine is a Jewish woman who has intermarried and is urged to hide her identity. The very name “Esther” is said to derive from the biblical verse, “haster astir panai,” “But I [God] will surely conceal my face.”

The Schiavo case is no less murky (see story, page 21). To start with the most disturbing parallel first, there is Terri Schiavo’s face in the video footage. This young woman who most doctors agree is as close to the living dead as biologically possible displays a strained smile. Doctors say this reflex reaction is a result of a still-functioning brain stem, but there it is — a kind of Purim mask hiding both body and soul.

The political firestorm over the case obscures the Schiavo’s family deeply personal dilemma. Doctors have diagnosed the 39-year-old woman as being in a permanent vegetative state. Her parents, devout Catholics, want to keep her alive. Her husband and guardian, Michael, has said his wife made clear to him on two occasions she would not want to live under such conditions, and he has fought for 15 years to have her feeding tube removed.

After a Florida court ruled that doctors could remove the feeding tube that has kept her alive, congressional leaders and the White House intervened. On Monday, President Bush signed the bill passed by the House and Senate, which transferred jurisdiction in the case to a federal judge for review. U.S. District Judge James D. Whitmore immediately declined to order the feeding tube reinserted.

By the time you read this, other events are likely to have played out, including appeals to higher courts and maybe even Schiavo’s death.

A Republican Party bent on undermining states rights is just another topsy-turvy aspect to this case. Are the interventionists’ motives moral or political? Is this Purim-period legislation a model or a masquerade?

“This isn’t about Terri Schiavo. It’s about abortion,” Neal Boortz, a pro-Bush conservative talk show host, wrote on his Web site. “The anti-abortion movement saw an opportunity to take Terri’s tragedy and turn it into a spectacular pageant in support of life. The Republicans in Washington have essentially taken Terri Schiavo hostage — a hostage designed to please their anti-abortion constituency. Can it be said that the Republicans are torturing the soul of Terri Schiavo, and doing it for votes?”

There is no clear-cut, painless resolution of the Schiavo case, as thousands of families who face similar end-of-life decisions for their loved ones know. Jewish opinion on the matter is open to interpretation and disagreement.

A year ago, writing about Schiavo in these pages, Rabbi Elliot Dorff laid out the guiding Jewish principle on end-of-life issues: “We are, on the one hand, not allowed to hasten the dying process, but on the other, we are not supposed to prolong it either.”

Many Jews, especially among the Orthodox, would argue that Schiavo’s feeding tube is a source of nourishment.

“To remove it from a patient whose only impairment is cognitive is simply murder,” Dr. Daniel Eisenberg of Albert Einstein Medical Center in North Philadelphia told a reporter.

But other observant Jews, like Dorff himself, would argue that in Schiavo’s case, a feeding tube should be classified as medicine.

“It does not come into the body in the usual way food does and thus lacks all the qualities associated with food, such as taste and varying temperatures and textures,” Dorff wrote. “Furthermore, one of the natural features of the dying process is that the person stops eating, and so by using tubes, we are effectively force-feeding a patient and thus prolonging the dying process.”

As medicine has advanced far beyond what the rabbinic sages could have imagined, the answers to these questions become murkier, and more critical.

For that reason, we must think about their implications for ourselves and our loved ones, and make our desires explicit before it is too late.

According to her husband, this is what Terri Schiavo did, and the doctors, the courts and the president should respect that choice. It would have helped if Schiavo had clearly documented her wishes, but how many of us do, especially when we’re in our 20s? Now what should have been a private, painful decision has been turned into another macabre skirmish in the culture war.

How very much like Purim: A story begins as looming tragedy and ends as farce.

The Schiavo case, sadly, has managed to become both at once.

The Agunah: A Modern-Day Nightmare

 

A couple of years ago I received two back-to-back phone calls in my office: The first, from a 21-year-old ultra-Orthodox woman who had escaped her physically abusive 6-month long marriage, only to find herself trapped two years later because her husband refuses to give her a Jewish divorce (a get). She can never remarry or have children as long as her husband remains recalcitrant.

The second call was from a Modern Orthodox young woman who was ready to marry the man of her dreams — only to discover a few weeks before the marriage that her rabbi refused to conduct the ceremony after he learned that the groom was a mamzer (illegitimate child of an incestuous relationship), because his mother had failed to obtain a get before marrying the groom’s father.

These two cases vividly illustrate the current problems of the modern day agunah (a woman chained to an unwanted marriage), because halacha (Jewish law) gives the husband the sole, unfettered power of divorce. While under Ashkenazic tradition a woman can withhold her “consent” to such a divorce, the remedies available to the victim of a recalcitrant husband or wife differ substantially. A woman whose husband refuses to grant her a get can never remarry and have children from another man because if she does so, her children and all their progeny are considered mamzerim, who are forbidden to marry any Jew other than other mamzerim. In contrast, a man whose wife refuses to “consent” to the get, has options: he can obtain the consent of 100 rabbis (a heter) to remarry without the wife’s consent, or if he does remarry without a heter, his children from the subsequent marriage do not bear the stigma of being mamzerim. (In Sephardic tradition, a husband may even divorce his wife without her consent, eliminating his need for a heter.)

These disparate consequences, coupled with the husband’s exclusive power to terminate the marriage, have resulted in a modern-day nightmare to Orthodox women. The power to condemn their wives to remain chained in marriage, to a man who often remarries without granting his wife a get, has spawned an entire marketplace for extortions. Men have demanded hundreds of thousands of dollars, waiver of the wife’s rights to spousal support and even custody of children they have abused, in exchange for the wife’s right to remarry. This bartering for the wife’s freedom has become so universal that, unbidden, some rabbis even begin a get process by asking the wife what she is willing to give her husband in exchange for the get.

While remedies have been suggested and some implemented, none have cured the basic ill resulting from this gross imbalance of power. In Israel, laws have been enacted allowing incarceration and forfeiture of driver and professional licenses of recalcitrant husbands. Most recently, an Israeli court awarded a woman monetary damages for her husband’s refusal to give her a get for more than 12 years. But these laws fall pitifully short of a final solution. First, these laws are unavailable to women outside of Israel. Second, some men have opted to remain jailed or do without their licenses rather than give their wives a get. Even the judgment of monetary damages was a mere Pyrrhic victory — while she has a judicial decree for money (which she may never be able to collect), the courts could not force her husband to give her the get, and thus she remains an agunah.

Other suggested solutions have met with only limited success. Many conscientious rabbis now refuse to perform a marriage ceremony unless the couple first signs a prenuptial agreement authorizing the beit din (Jewish court) to award daily monetary support (or damages) for each day the husband refuses to give a get or the wife refuses her consent. Such prenuptial agreements, however, must meet the civil requirements of the state where it’s executed — a condition of which rabbis are often unaware. Additionally, such prenuptial agreements have the same flaw as any of the Israeli laws. No prenuptial agreement can force a recalcitrant husband to give a get — it can only award monetary sums to the wife, but it can still leave her trapped. A very poor or a very rich man can afford to disregard the monetary damages he would suffer under the agreement, and the opportunity for extortion or revenge inherent in the husband’s unfettered power to withhold the get cannot be eliminated. Finally, there are many rabbis who refuse to mandate the signing of such a prenuptial agreement, and an Israeli rabbi recently even decreed such prenuptial agreements invalid. Clearly, the prenuptial agreement is not universally accepted nor does it result in a global solution.

More recently, some have advocated “annulment” of the marriage as a way to eliminate the agunah problem. But this solution has been met with tremendous opposition in the Orthodox rabbinical community. Some rabbis who have granted or advocated annulments in such cases have been marginalized and their status in the Orthodox community threatened. In one recent case, a rabbi who granted annulment to a woman who had been an Agunah for more than 10 years was publicly condemned and his rulings in other cases delegitimized by another rabbi.

The lack of consensus among Orthodox rabbis on a permanent global end to such unfettered misuse of the husband’s power has led to homespun solutions. Some have advocated the use of nonobservant witnesses at Orthodox weddings to assure that an Orthodox get would not be necessary in the event the marriage fails. Others have simply ignored the law and remarried without the get, leaving it to the next generations to untangle the mamzer problems thereby created.

There is, however, concurrence on one thing — a permanent solution must be found to eliminate the agunah problem. The Jewish Orthodox Feminist Alliance (JOFA) has begun an agunah-awareness campaign this year, beginning with the Fast of Esther. JOFA hopes to generate education, discussion and resolution. While many might dismiss this issue as just the “women’s problem,” it should be an equal cause for concern for every Orthodox man who has a sister, a daughter or a mother. They are all potential targets for extortion or imprisonment in an insufferable marriage.

Alexandra Leichter is a Beverly Hills family law attorney, and is a member of the Westwood Village Synagogue.

 

Obituaries

PERLA ABITTAN died Aug. 3 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Emile; son, Arie; daughter, Rica (Yizhaz) Elbaz; and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Max Barbach died Aug. 1 at 98. He is survived by his sons, Ron (Sharlene) Barback and Harry (Eleanor); daughter, Sandra; grandson, Robert (Nancy) Barback; granddaughter, Vicki Pierce; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Robert Jared Berman died Aug. 5 at 36. He is survived by his mother, Sonia; brother, Steve (Gabi); uncle, Dr. Maurice Rapport; and nephews, Daniel and Jimmy. Mount Sinai

Herman Brotman died Aug. 2 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; son, Stuart; daughter, Eve Zanni; one grandchild; brother, Benjamin; and sister, Sarah Pizzi. Groman

Alice Cohen died Aug. 5 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Edward; sons, Bruce (Regina) and Robert (Vicki Corbin); daughter, Jacki (Jimi) Freeman; four grandchildren; brother, Herbert (Ruth) Copelan; sister, Jeanette Greenwald; and sister-in-law, Shirley.

Stephen Coopersmith died Aug. 4 at 63 He is survived by his wife, Madelyne. Mount Sinai

BARRY CORCHNOY died Aug. 3 at 60. He is survived by his father, Morris; and sisters, Marcia Fazekas and Barbara Styles. Groman

Perry Dean died Aug. 6 at 58. He is survived by his wife, Marsha; daughter, Alison; brother, Stuart (Debra) Schrift; three nieces; one nephew; and cousins, Diane Lichenstein, Victoria Glassman and Shelley Winters. Mount Sinai

Samuel Dubell died Aug. 4 at 86. He is survived by his sister, Rita Rosenfeld; nephew, Malcolm Rosenfeld-Danare; niece, Lynne (Brad) Hoffman; and grandnephews, Brandon and Matthew. Mount Sinai

KHATOUN EBRAMI died Aug. 4 at 93. She is survived by her son, Jamshid; daughters, Mahin and Samin; two grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

PRINCESS SHIRMA GERBER died Aug. 3 at 77. She is survived by her sons, Gary (Kerry) and Zalman (Miriam); daughters, Denise (Stuart Perlman), Beverly (Daniel Wells), Simcha (Ronnie Fine), Tobi and Chava; 31 grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Maria Gittelson died July 31 at 91. Hillside

Ruth Goldstein died Aug. 2 at 85. She is survived by her son, Michael; daughters, Andrea Robinson and Nanci Edwards; seven grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; sister, Annette Conely; and brothers, Arnold and Gerome Graboys. Hillside

Morris Greitzer died Aug. 1 at 96. He is survived by his son, Steven (Eve); daughter, Harriet (Mel) Belasco; six grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and brother, Simon (Rose). Hillside

Leon Independence Gubin died Aug. 3 at 98. He is survived by his wife, Louise; daughter, Virginia (Harry) Roney and William (Nancy); four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Lillian Harris died Aug. 1. She is survived by her son, Ron (Carol); daughter, Elaine (Robert) Steaffens; seven grandchildren; and four great- grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Dr. Durwood Hersh died Aug. 3 at 87. He is survived by his son, Alan (Janice); daughter, Ruthann (Ken) Bachrach; five grandchildren; and sister, Rosalyn Katz. Hillside

Edith Howard died July 31 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Milton; sister, Sylvia Tussett; brother-in-law, Harold; sister-in-law, Geri; and three nieces. Hillside

Seymour Kagan died Aug. 3 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Elaine; son, Matthew; daughter, Nicole Davis; and sister, Anita Travers. Malinow and Silverman

Jessie Kohn died Aug. 2 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Barry (Will Harrison) and Mel (Wendy); grandchildren, Elisa (Alex) Taub and Gary Kohn; great-grandchildren, Lindsey and Jonathan Taub; brother, Hillis (Miriam) Rittenberg; sisters, Mimi Harris, Tybie Flapan and Gertrude Cousens; and many relatives. Mount Sinai

BARBARA LAYCOOK died Aug. 5 at 53. She is survived by her husband, Thomas; sons, Nathaniel and David. Hillside

Gregoriy Levkov died Aug. 4 at 57. He is survived by his wife,Valentina; sons, Alex and Maxim; daughter, Alla; and brothers, Simon (Paulina) and Yakov (Alla). Mount Sinai

Irving Levy died Aug. 5 at 95. He is survived by his sons, Earl (Linda) and Burton (Jan); stepson, Si Tenenberg; and grandson, Daniel. Mount Sinai

JOSEPH Albert LICHTMAN SR. died Aug. 4 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Caroline; son, Joe Jr. (Bess); daughters, Nancy (Scott) Treggett and Gail (Ed) Margulies; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Charles Mandell died Aug. 2 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Myrtle; daughter, Mimi (Robert) Borden; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Clara Zupnik Mantelman died July 31 at 79. She is survived by her nephew, Dr. Herman Zupnik; niece, Ruth Zupnick; great-nieces, Jennifer and Laua; and great-great-nephew, Shayne Andor. Groman

Bernard Jerome Marcus died Aug. 2 at 76. He is survived by his daughters, Julie (Mark) Shimko and Marilyn (Harvey) Fisher; five grandchildren; and sister, Mildred Stone. Mount Sinai

Harry Markowicz died Aug. 5 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Clara; brother-in-law, Meyer Rofe; and niece, Anna (Larry) Rofe. Mount Sinai

Irma Milman died Aug. 3 at 79. She is survived by her husband, David; sons, Mark (Margo), and Craig (April); four grandchildren; and brother, Donald (Joan) Hodes. Mount Sinai

Harriet Munoz died Aug. 4 at 74. She is survived by her husband, William; sister, Millie Kellner; brother, Irving (Florence) Kroten; and niece, Judith (Craig) Pettigrew. Mount Sinai

Max Musnicki died Aug. 3 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Rita. Mount Sinai

Melba Pearl Nedler died Aug. 6 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Jerry; children, Beth (Chris) Barber, Barrie (Mathew Miller) and Lee; three grandchildren; and sister, Gloria Cohen. Mount Sinai

Mary Nemer died Aug. 3 at 98. She is survived by her daughter, Beverly Karp; 11 grandchildren; 13 great-grandchildren; and three great-great-grandchildren. Groman

Alfred Oberman died Aug. 3 at 81 He is survived by his brother, Philip (Fran); sister, Lilian (Sam) Morris; nieces; nephews; great nieces; and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

ISAAK PODOLSKIY died Aug. 4 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Esfir; and two grandchildren. Groman

FRANCES HILDA RASKIND died Aug. 4 at 96. She is survived by her sons, Harvey and Marshall; five grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

BETTY KOLKO ROSENFELD died Aug. 1 at 82. She is survived by her son, Sherman. Chevra Kadisha

EVELYN ROTHFELD died Aug. 2 at 88. She is survived by her sister, Renee Nash; and niece, Nancy Deyorle. Groman

Betty Behr Ryback died Aug. 4 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Rabbi Martin; daughters, Anne (Steven) Schmidt and Elizabeth; son, Charles; granddaughters, Samantha and Cassandra; and brother, Walter (Barbara) Behr. Mount Sinai

Lawrence Salk died Aug. 4 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Judith; daughter, Jessica (Ron) Tammarillo; sons, Eric (Liz) and Daniel; mother, Maxine Koolish; and sister, Judy Watson. Mount Sinai

James Singer Sayre died Aug. 2 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Elinor; sons, Steve (Carol) Horvitz and Darron (Marilyn); daughter, Margie Moulton; five grandchildren; and brother, Timmy (Harriet) Singer. Mount Sinai

ALFRED SCHWARTZ died Aug. 4 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Letitia; sons, Ted (Margaret) and Sam; and two grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Deborah Stern died Aug. 3 at 103. She is survived by her daughter, Jean Charney; and granddaughter, Chris Marks. Hillside

Charles Wingis died Aug. 2 at 73. He is survived by sons, Steve (Nancy) and Mike; daughter, Jean; grandson, Brett Bolderman; and brother, Joseph (Peggy) Boda. Mount Sinai

RabBi Alfred Wolf died Aug. 1 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Miriam; sons, David and Dan; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Obituaries

Edward Simon Aboud died July 27 at 75. He is survived by his friend, Rose Lee Holman. Groman

Thomas Alon died July 25 at 55. He is survived by his wife, Cheryl; daughters, Rachel and Stephanie; stepdaughter, Claudette (Alan) Ganger; stepson, Jeffrey Hope; two grandchildren; mother, Ann; brother, Gabriel (Jin); stepbrother, Robert (Kati). Mount Sinai

Irene Beck died July 26 at 90. She is survived by her son, Arthur (Marilou); daughter, Samantha; three grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Harvey Cooper died July 27 at 97. He is survived by his daughter, Joan (Robert) Burton; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Rana Davoodian died July 28 at 69. She is survived by her son, David Bakhaj; daughters, Florance Bakhadj and Shohreh Vamanvaeeh; and nine grandchildren. Groman

Samuel Doctors died July 29 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; daughter, Sandra Ascher; and son, Harvey. Mount Sinai

Sylvia Gould Fine died July 26 at 92. She is survived by her sons, Jeffrey and Stephen; two grandchildren; brother, Charles Gould; and sisters, Beatrice Levin and Lucille Brochu. Groman

Harold Fink died July 25 at 77. He is survived by his sister, Helen May. Groman

Dr. David William Frantz died July 25 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Rhea; sons, Bob (Nancy) and Howard (Miri); daughter, Sharon (Daniel) Feller; and seven grandchildren. Hillside

George Galanfi died July 31. He is survived by his wife, Anna; son, Gabor; grandsons, Gabor and Bence; sister-in-law, Katrina Leone; and cousin, Marta Magyar. Mount Sinai

Lillian Greengus died July 27 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Sherman; daughters, Marlene Beach and Mindy Rose; four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Leona Grud died July 27 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Marcia (Howard) Grey and Lauren Seymour McCollum (Lee); nine grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Hillside

Rubin Makabi Hamdani died July 30 at 81. He is survived by his son, Behouz. Chevra Kadisha

Irving Hersh died July 25 at 98. He is survived by his daughter, Louise (Herb) Gordon; granddaughters, Shery Frymer and Allyson (Ross ) Pearlman; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

Gertrude Honeyman died July 30 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Edward (Mary) and Steven (Helen); five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

Bertha Horowitz died July 27 at 85. She is survived by her son, Hal; daughter, Karen Thompson; five grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Bettye Horwitz died July 27 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Abbie Ann Brody and Gail Sussman; four grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Hillside

Camille Kart died July 28 at 93. She is survived by her son, Stuart (Sandi); four grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; and sister-in-law, Juliet Baum. Hillside

Robert Joseph Kaye died July 29 at 86. He is survived by his son, Rick (Tammy); daughters, Charlene (Russ) Kransnoff, Alison (Colleen Wilson) and Julie (Andy) Reo; three grandchildren; uncles, Jack (Estelle) Williams, Ralph (Helen), Eugene and Norman (Mary Quinlan); aunts, Pearl and Eleanore; and many nieces and nephews. Hillside

Marcus Kuczynski died July 26 at 85. He is survived by his son, Leon. Chevra Kadisha

Morvarid Lalehzarzadeh died July 30 at 87. She is survived by her son, Shokrollah Akhavan. Chevra Kadisha

Arthur Libman died July 28 at 78. He is survived by his son, Casil (Miriam). Malinow and Silverman

FErn Libow died July 25 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Julius; son, Brian; daughter, Sher; daughter-in-law, Kat Wellman; and four grandsons. Groman

Beverly Lowe died July 29 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Fred (Karaen DeMott) Lowe and Gregory (Jody); four grandchildren; and sister, Shirley (Don) Miller. Mount Sinai

David Marshall died July 28 at 43. He is survived by his parents, Elaine and Howard. Hillside

Sofya Ostrovskaya died July 26 at 81. She is survived by her daughter, Ida (Eugene) Nosovitskaya; and grandsons, Dimitry (Karolina) and Henry Nosovitsky. Mount Sinai

Dave Oziel died July 26 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Mary; sons, Bob and Daniel; daughter, Lea (Joe) Moche; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Carol Pohja died July 31 at 53. She is survived by her mother, Marvella Grant; father, Richard (Kendall) Altheimer; son, Josh (Christopher Dallman); sisters, Nancy (Leon) Darling and Sherry (Rick) Miller; half-sister, Kimberlin Altheimer; companion, Dan Preciado; and five nieces and nephews. Mount Sinai

Aaron Poznick died July 28 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; daughter, Debbie; and daughter-in-law, Joan. Malinow and Silverman

Ray Richman died July 29 at 91 She is survived by daughters, Lila (Steve) Klausner and Marlene Weinberg; four grandchildren; and great-grandsons, Ethan and Justin Klausner.

Robert Rona died July 27 at 54. He is survived by his wife, Rebecca; son, Daniel; daughters, Allison (Nick Stevens) and Jessica; mother, Barbara; brother, Jeff; and sister, Shoshana. Hillside

Henry Rosenthal died July 25 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Arlette. Malinow and Silverman

Arthur Rosner died July 28 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Alice; son, Leland (Deborah); daughter, Renee (William) Klein; three grandchildren; and brother, Irving. Hillside

Evelyn Rosner died July 27 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Andrew and Richard; four grandchildren; and brother, Alvin Greenberg. Groman

Sharyn Rubenstein died July 27 at 57. She is survived by her daughters, Ilyse (David) McKimmie and Dana (Andrew) Neujahr; grandson, Jack McKimmie; parents, Leon and Sylvia Newman; sister, Lesley (Ron) Dominano; and ex-husband, Stephen. Mount Sinai

Judith Schlesinger died July 30 at 71. She is survived by her sons, Kenneth, Rob and Daniel. Groman

Nettie schwartz died July 30 at 101. She is survived by her daughter, Adela (Philip) Wallack; five grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Groman

Elaine Sherman died July 26 at 79. She is survived by her sons, John, David and Stephen; daughter, Carol Sandusky; 10 grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Louis Sorosky died July 26 at 93. He is survived by his son, Dr. Robert (Karen) Sorosky; eight grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; and sister, Rose (Gene) Weiner. Mount Sinai

Libby Strull died July 26 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Henry; daughter, Karen Greenburg; and sister, Ethel Foster. Mount Sinai

Edward Trostler died July 28 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Elizabeth; sons, Gerald and Robert; daughter, Flora; 10 grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Richard Cooper Vinetz died July 30 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Ann; sons, Paul and Joseph; two grandchildren; and sister, Lois Brandon. Groman

Lili Wasserman died July 25 at 82. She is survived by her sons, Steve and Chaim Markheim; and four grandchildren. Groman

Leo Weinstein died July 30 at 61. He is survived by his wife, Lela; sons, Jason and Robb; daughter, Lisa; three grandchildren; mother, Rochell; brother, Vladimir; and sisters, Linda Etling and Rosalyn Feldman. Groman

Lawrence Judea Yago died July 26 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; and son, Glenn. Chevra Kadisha

Obituaries

Ronald Abelson died July 23 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; daughter, Kerry Zymelman; and two grandchildren. Sholom Chapels .

George Alexander died July 20 at 74. He is survived by his sons, Gerald, Robert and Lance; seven grandchildren; and sister, Frances. Groman

Richard Alexander died July 21 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Ann; and daughters, Debra, Karen and Kim. Malinow and Silverman

Marvin Bank died July 21 at 86. He is survived by his daughter, Gina. Malinow and Silverman

Burton Eugene Becker died July 23 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Barbara. Hillside

Allen Berliner died July 24 at 65. He is survived by his sons, Isaac and Kevin; brothers, Myron, Irving and Henry; sisters, Alice Mink and Rosalie Blackman; and companion, Carmen Moreno. Malinow and Silverman

Roy Bokhoor died July 20 at 24. He is survived by his mother, Zoya; and uncle, Maurice Neri. Groman

Mary Chaiken died July 20 at 92. She is survived by her daughters, Elaine (Jocko) and Joann Golden; six grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Arthur Chase died July 21 at 67. He is survived by his ex-wife, Charlene Haughey; and cousin, Leon Raskin. Groman

Irving Cohen died July 22 at 89. He is survived by his sisters, Terry Freedmond and Anne; seven nieces; two nephews; and many great-nieces and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

Irene Miller Curcio died July 24 at 67. She is survived by husband, George; son, Rob Miller; stepdaughters, Lisa Murphy and Linda (Albert) Shigemura; stepson, Vincent (Toni); and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Robert Gerschner died July 22 at 87. He is survived by his sister-in-law, Celeste (Hal) Erdley. Sholom Chapels .

Lola Goffman died July 21 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Sam (Darilyn) and Hirsch (Debbie); and four grandchildren. Hillside

Frieda Handschu died July 7 at 93. She is survived by her son, Dr. Sylvain (Linda) Silberstein; six grandchildren; and 21 great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels .

Donald Carl Hoffman died Aug. 6 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Sheila; son, Lee; daughter, Eileen Gannaway; and one grandchild. Groman

Samuel Hoffman died July 24 at 80. He is survived by his sons, Stuart and Rabbi David; and sister, Ida Sachs. Groman

Dorothy Esther Jonesi died July 23 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Gloria and Rochelle Cohen; three grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; great-great-grandchild, Brianna; and sister, Frances Rouse. Hillside

Roselle Lynn Kahn died July 20 at 88. She is survived by her niece, Patricia Robitaille; great-niece, Charlene Valli; cousin, George Gluck; and friend, Margit Herman. Chevra Kadisha

Esther Karnes died July 21 at 94. She is survived by her granddaughter, Vicki; sister, Dorothy Mallin; and niece, Tobey Silverstein. Mount Sinai

Belle Kosasky died July 22 at 88. She is survived by her son, Melvin; daughter, Doreen Rosen; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Judith Carol Levi died July 23 at 61. She is survived by her son, Darryl. Mount Sinai

Bessie Mandelblatt died July 21 at 89. She is survived by her son, Alvin; daughter, Diane Schwarz; and three grandchildren. Groman

Rachel Leah Marcus died July 23 at 90. She is survived by her grandson, Jan (Sandy) Lankin; three great-grandsons; sister, Marilyn (Nat) LeTraunik; nieces; nephews; and friends. Mount Sinai

Shoshana Mehrabanian died July 22 at 102. She is survived by her sons, Mansour and Yahya; grandson, Samuel. Chevra Kadisha

Salim Morad died Sept. 25 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Hanna; children, Shoshana Cohen, Rena (Bill) Martin, Ovadya, Adela and Osharat; seven grandchildren; sisters, Simcha (Shalom) Shemis and Haviva Zion; and brother, Nissim (Dalia) Morad. Mount Sinai

Faye Fortess Mortel died July 21 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Karl (Tihla) and Victor (Denyce). Chevra Kadisha

Rose Edna Newmark died July 24 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Carole Wood; one grandchild; one great-grandchild; and sister, Jane Wynhoff. Hillside

Lana Esther Pimbley died July 21 at 62. She is survived by her daughter, Jennifer Rubenstein; sister, Linda Rubenstein; and brother, Bernard Rue. Hillside

Harriet Punim died July 22 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Norman; son, Jeffrey; daughter, Patrice Levin; four grandchildren; sister, Frances Miller; and brother, Henry Safer. Hillside

David Rose died July 23 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Elizabeth. Groman

Sybil Scheffler died July 24 at 89. She is survived by her sons, David (Dina), Steven (Rose) and Stan (Dora); granddaughters, Irene and Brittney; great-grandchildren, Bridgette and Tyler; and sister, Sally Smith. Mount Sinai

Lily Abdullah Shad died July 23 at 57. She is survived by her husband, Jamil; and sons, Eddie and Charles. Chevra Kadisha

Phyllis Shano died July 22 at 61. She is survived by her husband, Jack; son, Jason; daughter, Hallie; and brother, Steve (Karen). Malinow and Silverman

Irving Spiegel died July 21 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Miriam; sons, Henry and Philip (Jana); daughter, Deborah (Jeffery) Sweitzer; stepson, David; stepdaughter, Susan; five grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Dorothy Stein died July 21 at 79. She is survived by her son, Eric. Malinow and Silverman

Stephanie Lynn Susman died July 20 at 45. She is survived by her parents, Arnold and Norma; and sister, Valerie Goldfine. Hillside

David Tourqeman died July 22 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Marcella; and sons, Raymond and Jaime. Chevra Kadisha

Cele Troyan died July 20 at 88. She is survived by her brother, Jeff Lewis; and niece, Andrea (Brad) Polak. Mount Sinai

Lucille Victor died July 23 at 84. She is survived by her son, Michael Shulem; daughter, Lyn Greene; 11 grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and relatives, Barton Shulem, Deborah Davis and Harold Ross. Groman

Harold Wasserman died July 20 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Heidi; son, Mark (Debra); daughter, Beth (Chuck) Samuel; five grandchildren; and brother, Leonard (Marge). Malinow and Silverman

Herman Weintraub died July 21 at 92. He is survived by his sons, Larry (Barbara) and Ronald (Marilyn); daughter, Renee; two grandchildren; and sister, Ruth Eskow. Mount Sinai

Libbie Winograd died July 23 at 91. She is survived by her son, Cary; daughter, Deborah; two grandchildren; and niece, Beth Cohen. Groman

Irene Zenker died July 21 at 95. She is survived by her son, Arnold (Barbara); and daughter, Carol. Malinow and Silverman

Obituaries following our October 8th issue, have been archived and can be found in our archives section.

Finding Father in ‘Souvenir’

After her father died in 1990, Louise Steinman found stacks of yellowing airmail envelopes inside a rusty ammunition box in his Fox Hills home. The letters, dated 1941-1945, were in Norman Steinman’s handwriting and addressed to his wife, Anne. In a sealed Manila envelope was a threadbare white silk flag, covered in Japanese characters, speckled with bloodlike drops. A translator explained this was a good-luck banner that had belonged to a soldier, Yoshio Shimizu, who would have worn it until he died.

On Father’s Day at the Skirball, Steinman, 52, will discuss how the unusual memento spurred her to write a gritty but lyrical memoir, "The Souvenir: A Daughter Discovers Her Father’s War." The process "was like getting to know a father I hadn’t met before," she said.

While Steinman was growing up Reform in Culver City, her father seemed unknowable. A taciturn, workaholic pharmacist, he never spoke of his combat experiences in the Pacific. But Asian food was banned from the house and his four children weren’t allowed to cry in front of him. "Reminds him of the war," his wife said.

While reading his wartime correspondence, Steinman encountered a romantic youth who was very different from that stern patriarch. She embarked on a 10-year journey to learn more about him, interviewing veterans, traveling to Manila to say "Kaddish" over his friends’ graves and to Japan to investigate the mysterious flag. While his letters do not reveal how he came to possess the souvenir, they express his bitter remorse at having taken it, Steinman said.

To help him posthumously make amends, she returned the banner to Shimizu’s family in 1995 — appropriately, on the first day of Passover.

"Like the Jewish holiday, it was all about welcoming the stranger," she said.

Writing "The Souvenir" helped make her father less of a stranger. "The war stole him away from me before I was born, but the book enabled me to spend quality time with him after he was gone," she said.

Steinman will be at the Skirball on Sunday, June 15 at 2:30 p.m. $5 (general) free (members and students). For tickets, call (323) 655-8587.

He’s No Robert Redford

An Irish multimillionaire pining for a London teacher offered her husband $1 million to divorce her in a real-life "Indecent Proposal" that has scandalized London’s Orthodox Jewish community, according to a May 4 report in London’s Sunday Times.

Brian Maccaba made the offer to Alan Attar after he allegedly became infatuated with his wife Nathalie Attar, an instructor at Beth Yosef preschool, which is funded by a nonprofit chaired by Maccaba.

Australia’s Daily Telegraph reported that Maccaba, who is married, became interested in Nathalie Attar soon after she arrived at his $3.8 million home in North London to teach his children.

In a handwritten letter sent to the couple, Maccaba referred to Nathalie Attar as his "true soulmate" and the money as a "golden key" that would "set her free" and give the husband "a bachelor’s freedom again … to be a playboy in the south of France for a while."

Nathalie Attar was so shocked by the letter that she took it to Rabbi Dayan Lichtenstein, a senior rabbinic judge with the Federation of Synagogues’ beit din, for advice.

The 30-something couple rejected the computer executive’s offer.

A Jewish court cleared Maccaba of sexual harassment allegations and said that he had not acted inappropriately, according to The Sunday Times. But the letter has now become Lichtenstein’s main piece of evidence in a defamation suit filed against him by Maccaba, alleging that the rabbi has damaged his personal and professional life.

Maccaba’s suit alleges that the rabbi referred to him on two separate occasions as a known adulterer who pursued "young Jewish newlyweds" and who "has been involved in numerous affairs with married women within the Jewish community."

A spokesman for Lichtenstein denies the claim that the rabbi had made any slanderous comments.

Friends of Nathalie Attar told The Sunday Times that she was so distressed by Maccaba’s alleged behavior that the couple has since left London for Israel.

Eulogies:Peter Grant

Peter Grant, veteran Los Angeles reporter, editor, public relations executive and Jewish community activist who was the first journalist to enter Japan after its surrender in 1945, died June 4 in San Diego at age 86.

Shortly after his arrival in Tokyo as a founding member of Pacific Stars & Stripes, the U.S. military daily newspaper, Grant was among the first to interview Gen. Douglas MacArthur and he scored a scoop by interviewing the Empress Nagako at the palace. Prior to joining Stars & Stripes, he served as the lead reporter of the South Pacific Daily News in New Caledonia and the Philippines.

A graduate of George Washington University, Grant covered the U.S. Congress for United Press and Transradio Press prior to entering the U.S. Army in 1943. Following World War II, he joined the Los Angeles Times.

During the mid 1950s, he was the only reporter/photographer covering the entire San Fernando Valley for the Times, an area that will become the sixth-largest city in the United States if present efforts for secession are successful. From his small office at the Van Nuys civic center, Grant welcomed colleagues and visitors who would discuss such matters as the problems, progress and endless charges of wrongdoing connected with the construction of the Valley segments of the Ventura and San Diego freeways.

Grant’s five-decade association with the organized Jewish community included service with West Coast Shaare Zedek Hospital, Jerusalem, as executive director; Israel Magazine, editor; Fund for Higher Education, Israel; Valley Storefront, Jewish Federation Council; Southern California Council for Soviet Jews, and a member of Adat Ari El for 43 years.

Grant, a cousin of Gen. Moshe Dayan, in recent years provided major leadership and worked constantly on behalf of Project Chicken Soup, which prepares and delivers kosher meals to homebound people with HIV. Contributions are welcome and may be forwarded to Project Chicken Soup, P.O. Box 480241, Los Angeles 90048.

He is survived by his wife of 61 years, Evonne; daughters, Laura (Ed) Feldman and Dr. Rachel Grant; grandchildren, Shoshana and Aaron Feldman; and brother, Joe Grodsky (Lillian). — Sid Skolnik

Why I’m Still Single

A friend of mine and I were sitting at Canter’s having lunch when we were discussing my dating life — or lack of it. Since he knows what a cool guy I am, he suggested that there was just one tactic to take — to make up an ex-wife and a divorce so that I could avoid the stigma of having never been married. He went a step better — he went for the widower concept, which I liked, and embellished with the death of my wife in a tragic car wreck.

But here’s the problem: It’s not so much that I’m against lying on principle, it has its place. It’s just that I suck at it.

And in the best- (or worst-) case scenario, I would have to continue the charade with tales of my courtship and marriage, the details of the accident and whether I’m in touch with her parents and siblings, etc. I’d have to basically write my own Lifetime TV movie.

So, in the interest of honesty, and because I cannot afford more therapy, I am going to address, once and for all, the issue of why such an incredible, well-liked and modest guy has never been married.

First of all, I was a late bloomer. Although I had an amazing date for my senior prom, she broke my heart, and I had zits. So I never got married in high school.

In college, I didn’t have a car and partied a lot. I went to the weddings of several friends my senior year, and it was pretty obvious that those marriages were in trouble. My main concern was the draft. So I never got married in college.

After college, I got the most incredible job in the history of mankind, due to the fact that my father was the treasurer of a large travel agency. For the next seven years, I was a tour guide in Puerto Vallarta, Acapulco, Cancun, Rome, Paris and Tahiti, just to name a few. I learned to play tennis quite well and got an amazing tan. Needless to say, I didn’t get married.

After that I moved to Los Angeles and became a screenwriter. I had a serious relationship that ended when I decided that it wasn’t quite right. Thereafter, I went out with every flake and insane model and actress in Los Angeles. By the way, in case you didn’t know this, struggling screenwriters are not considered marriage material by women of substance. So I didn’t get married in my 30s.

And I even made a bit of money writing screenplays, but you couldn’t call it a career — although I tried. And I made good money as a legal secretary. But you know what, legal secretary is a crappy job to meet women.

Oh, did I mention that I am the only child of Holocaust Survivors? So I had a very close home life and was devoted to my parents, who were quite a bit older than my friends’ parents, and in most cases, a lot smarter. Well, my father passed away when I was 37 and he was 86. He was a very wise man. He loved my mother deeply but he would say to me, at least three times a week, (translated from German) — “marry infrequently.”

So I did. Very infrequently.

My mother lived in La Jolla, and I went down there about every third weekend to make sure that she was OK and to pick up some free food — she would generally pack a cooler of Czech specialties and lox for me to take back to L.A. Made it rough to really get married with all that free food.

When things stabilized, my mom died. Now I was really devastated because I couldn’t really figure out why I needed to get up in the morning, so I didn’t bother. Well, not really. I went into therapy and discovered that I was really a hell of a guy, and that I had a right to feel bad.

So I got back into the thick of things and wrote a couple of computer books and decided it would be nice to find love with a good woman, but everybody I dated would ask me: “So how come you’ve never been married?”

Translation: “What is wrong with you anyway?”

So I met this woman I really liked — and I even really liked her dog, Max. I even walked him on Sundays and cleaned up his poop. She was worried I would never make a commitment, but right after Valentine’s Day, she woke up and asked me at 1 a.m., “Are you going to make $100,000 next year?”

You know, I really miss Max.

So I bought a condo on the Westside and had a big party, and all my friends said, “Man this is a great place to bring a lady.” But the women at the party all asked me, “So how come you’ve never been married?”

So I decided that instead of lying or making up an ex who died in a car wreck, I’m going to photocopy this column. At my age I go to the bathroom quite a bit, so over dinner, when I need to take a break, I’ll let her read it. We’ll see what happens.

I will also post it on dating boards online under the area, “What I’ve learned from my relationships.”

What have I learned from them? Mostly, I know that thing with the toilet seat, and a lot of times I even take tissue and wipe the hair from the drain in the shower.

Next time: Why I’m not six feet tall.

Time’s on his Side

There’s no denying that Fox’s critically acclaimed "24" is a fast-moving show that, unlike other dramas, operates in "real time" — each 60-minute episode’s action literally unfolds over an hour’s time.

But what series co-creator Joel Surnow never anticipated was that his rookie show would move as fast in the real world: Not even halfway through its first season,"24" was nominated for Best TV Drama and Best Actor (Kiefer Sutherland)Golden Globes.Dark horse Sutherland won over perennial award show favorites Martin Sheen and James Gandolfini.

Since episode one, the series has tracked Counter Terrorist Unit agent Jack Bauer (Sutherland) into a web of intrigue that turns his corrupted agency against him. Bauer’s odyssey grows murkier each week as he must foil an assassination attempt on an African American presidential candidate while simultaneously locating his own kidnapped wife and daughter. The twist: He cannot trust anyone.

It’s been a fast rise for Surnow, 47, who wrote for "The Equalizer" and "Bay City Blues." Surnow co-created "24" with his former "La Femme Nikita" partner, Robert Cochran.

"Both Bob and I were raised steeped in Judeo-Christian values," Surnow says. "Bob was raised Christian-Scientist, and we inform the show with those values. We see our hero the same way."

Growing up on the fringes of Beverly Hills in the 1970s was exhilarating for Surnow, who moved from Detroit at age 9 and was bar mitzvahed at West L.A.’s Congregation Mogen David. Surnow’s father, whose lineage comes from Odessa, w as a tin man. His mother, in clothing retail, came from Lithuanian descent. Surnow attended Beverly Hills High, dated the daughter of B-movie horrormeister William Castle and befriended the son of Frank Sutton (Sgt. Carter on "Gomer Pyle").

A few years ago, "24"’s star went through some growth of his own. Sutherland left Hollywood to go the cowboy way on the rodeo circuit. When he decided to make "24" his big return, there was no hesitation at Fox.

"He was transitioning from boy to man in his life," Surnow says. "I think his life experience outside of the business gave him some gravitas, as they say."

Indeed, the running storyline of "24" harkens back to 1970s TV staple "The Fugitive," which strung viewers along by dangling a dramatic carrot from week to week. "24’s" glossy cinematic style evokes filmmaker Michael Mann. No accident: Surnow worked on the first season of Mann’s visually flashy "Miami Vice."

"I was influenced by his attention to detail," Surnow says, "which I think he brought to TV — saying that a series could look bigger, like a movie."

Stylish flourishes, like a split-screen effect, make "24" appear big screen. But this is more functional than conscious homage to Norman Jewison’s "Thomas Crown Affair."

"It was organic," says Surnow, who credits the pilot’s director, Steven Hopkins and editor Dave Thompson, for this device. "A real-time show has lots of phone calls, and phone calls on TV are boring. We decided to start and end every act with a split screen."

Off the clock, Surnow spends time with his five children, ages 6 – 19. "Two Jewish, three mutts," he says, tongue in cheek. Now remarried, Surnow says, "I’m basically a holiday Jew. However, she’s a pretty devout Catholic, and there are a lot of similarities in the two cultures."

"24’s" creators have already begun brainstorming for a Day Two. But Surnow has an even grander project ahead once season one wraps.

"I’m going to plan a vacation," he says, laughing.

17 Years Ago: Armageddon

Early Tuesday morning, my wife and I stared dumbly at the television, mumbling words like hijacked, explosion, collapse. My daughter, 5, looked up from her cereal, confused and frustrated. What language are you speaking? she asked. They were words almost unspoken in American living rooms. But no longer.

Along with untold lives, Tuesday’s terror attacks destroyed much that we cherish.

What we know has died is our sense of security, our feeling of confident invulner-ability from the violence that wracks others in faraway lands. It has all come home.

Reports of victims filter in; they do not yet flow. It’s 10 p.m. on Tuesday, and we don’t have an inkling of how crushed we will feel tomorrow, and next week, when the innocent faces behind the smoke and flames become known to us. Any hour now, we can expect to be even more devastated.

Those of us who follow the events in the Middle East can only be surprised by the enormity of the attack. Suicide missions have murdered and maimed Israeli civilians for years now. The weapon hasn’t shifted — only its aim. Such attacks are the end result of a process of cruel miseducation and propaganda, abetted by governments that provide shelter for terrorists and spew justifications for their murder. These terrorists, the governments that protect them, and the civilians who cheer them on, can only pray that America’s retaliation is as targeted as Israel’s has been.

For years, terrorism experts have been warning us that the danger to America lay not in conventional war, but in acts of terror. Their worst-case scenarios hardly measure up to what has happened, but it is a fair question for American citizens to wonder how its government failed in its primary responsibility: to protect its citizens. Now it must turn its failed defensive into a massive offensive.

Already, some people are suggesting that terrorists attacked America because of its support of Israel. Of course, we know this is not the case. Israel cannot be held responsible — even indirectly — for the recent desecration of our country. Because terror is not against Israel supporters. It is against democracy, against humanity.

That should have been obvious by now: The people who died Tuesday were Jews, Christians and Muslims. They were all colors, all creeds, rich and poor, and many different nationalities. It will take a similar coalition of peoples and nations to band together to extirpate these terrorists. America must lead the way. America may not be invulnerable, but it is hardly vanquished.

The Jewish community of Los Angeles, unfortunately, is familiar with coping with tragedy.

Many community centers and day schools took the brave and reassuring step of remaining open. Our focus, as a community, turned as if by reflex from feeling shock to giving aid and comfort. There is still much we can do: to get help, to give blood or to donate money, see our listings on page 14.

By Tuesday afternoon, synagogues throughout the Southland started to open their doors to congregants, offering a place for solace and communal prayer. Hundreds, if not thousands of Jews, chose to attend. They recited Psalms and heard prayers for peace. Some voiced demands for retribution. Most important, they had a place to go to share their grief and disbelief.

And come next week, Rosh Hashana 5762, they will have a place to return to, to pray for a sweeter year.

Shana Tova.

Domestic Violence

Ruth Neal, coordinator of Ezras Bayis, has seen Orthodox womenwho have been bitten, shoved, slapped, punched, spit at, scalded withhot chicken soup, threatened with a gun, pushed down a flight ofstairs. Wood cut by Kathe Kollwitz from “German ExpressionistWoodcuts,” 1994.

 

Ilana*, an observant woman living inLos Angeles, felt isolated because of the myth that domestic violencedoesn’t happen in Orthodox homes. She recalled how she once coweredas her husband held a gun to her head, then fired; when the gunturned out to be empty, he laughed at her fear. For Ilana, it wasonly the latest incident in years of abuse.

Six years ago, the Orthodox Counseling Program(OCP) of Jewish Family Service of Los Angeles began a “warm line” tohelp women such as Ilana. But at the time, OCP’s Dr. Michael Heldstaunchly refused to talk about the warm line. “If something isdifficult to accept and you splash it all over the front page,” hesaid, “people will clam up, and you’ll find yourself farther awayfrom the people you want to help.”

Instead, Held and his staff quietly worked behindthe scenes, meeting with many of the more than 100 practicingOrthodox rabbis in Los Angeles, and their efforts have paidoff.

Ruth Neal, coordinator of Ezras Bayis, OCP’sfamily-abuse project, does workshops at synagogues and schoolsthroughout the Southland. The Rabbinical Council of California hasscheduled its first seminar on domestic violence for Feb. 8. JewishFamily Service’s 30-day emergency shelter for battered women, TamarHouse, is kosher-friendly.

And now comes “Nishma” (“We Will Listen”), a24-hour hot line for Orthodox women, with 19 observant volunteercounselors. The hot line (818-623-0300), which began on Jan. 1, is ajoint venture of OCP and JFS’ Family Violence Project. It is fundedwith a $38,200 grant from the Jewish Community Foundation. The grantalso funds a variety of workshops and outreach programs that dealwith domestic violence in the observant community.

What opened the community’s eyes, sources say, wasthe 1993 murder of Rita Parizer, 36, an Orthodox wife and motherwhose strangled body was found wrapped in a sleeping bag in a garageowned by her husband, Shalom, at 325 N. Orange Grove Ave. Ritapreviously had reported a marital rape but refused to press charges,LAPD Det. David Lambkin said. In August 1994, her husband wasconvicted of second-degree murder and sentenced to 15 years to lifein prison.

“More than anything, the Parizer case brokethrough the community’s denial,” said Shirley Lebovics, a licensedclinical social worker who is observant and a domestic-violenceexpert. “It made rabbis stop and say, ‘This can happen. This isfrightening. This is real.'”

As for how often abuse occurs in the Orthodoxcommunity, or within the Jewish community at large, that is difficultto say. Many activists, citing an unpublished 1980 master’s thesisfrom Hebrew Union College/USC, say up to 20 percent of all Jewish menabuse their wives — the same as the general population.

But according to The Forward, a University ofRhode Island study concluded that violence in Jewish homes is almost40 percent below the national average. A University of Maryland studyfound the numbers somewhere in between, The Forward said.

Several Orthodox rabbis interviewed believe thatabuse occurs less frequently in observant homes. Religious husbandsare less likely to batter because of Orthodox ethical training andpeer pressure, Young Israel of Century City’s Rabbi Elazar Muskinsaid.

Rabbi Aron Tendler of Shaarey Zedek, however,said, “Abuse has nothing to do with one’s moral upbringing, but withthe [generational] cycle of violence.” Tendler speaks about thephenomenon in a new videotape produced for the Jewish community bythe National Center for the Prevention of Sexual and DomesticViolence.

Whatever their belief about the statistics,however, all the rabbis interviewed agreed that the problem isserious enough to warrant action. One-fifth of OCP’s some 200 annualclients report verbal or physical abuse, after all.

Neal has seen Orthodox women who have been bitten,shoved, slapped, punched, spit at, scalded with hot chicken soup,threatened with a gun, pushed down a flight of stairs. One husbandharassed his pregnant wife until 5 a.m. on a workday, accusing her ofinfidelity. Whenever she nodded off, he would grab her by the hairand order her to “sit up and listen.”

Sarah,* a 28-year-old mother of five, said thather husband was careful to beat her where the bruises wouldn’t show.He injured her so seriously on several occasions that she requiredphysical therapy. On Friday evenings, her family tensely sat at theShabbos table, “walking on eggshells” lest they provoke him.

Yet Sarah was hesitant to speak out because of theprohibition against lashon hara (gossip), and because of themisconception that shalom bayis (peace in the home) is the soleresponsibility of the woman. When she tentatively approached severalrespected women in her community, they told her to speak nicely toher husband, to go home and make an extra-special Shabbosmeal.

When Sarah finally approached the beit din(rabbinical court) for a get (a religious divorce), some rabbiswarned her that it would be almost impossible for her to remarry.Sarah could not bring herself to tell them that her husband wasinappropriately touching her during times of the month prohibited byJewish family purity laws.

Orthodox women, such as Sarah, tend to stay longerin abusive relationships, Neal said, for a number of reasons. Manyare wary of secular counseling; they are concerned thatpsychotherapists might not understand their need to consult arabbi.

Observant wives tend to have many children, so itis harder for them to find someplace to go, especially when theirhusbands control the purse strings. They worry that they won’t beable to keep kosher in a shelter; that they cannot hide from aviolent husband within the small, closely knit Orthodox community;that the stigma of divorce could damage their children’s chances fora good marriage.

At Nishma, the observant volunteers, who aremodern Orthodox through Chassidic, inherently understand thesedifficulties. All have completed 45 hours of training with expertsfrom FVP, the county, the district attorney’s office and therabbinate.

Because Los Angeles’ Orthodox community is sosmall, the Nishma volunteers maintain even higher levels ofconfidentiality than those at secular hot lines; each woman uses analias and is forbidden from mentioning that she works at Nishma toeveryone but her immediate family. When a battered woman telephonesthe hot line, day or night, an FVP counselor patches her through to avolunteer; the hot line has a list of rabbinic referrals if a womandoes not want to speak to her husband’ s rabbi.

Neal, for her part, is working on making TamarHouse more accessible to Orthodox women. She has purified new dishesfor the shelter, which has a locked kosher cabinet with food, dishesand a microwave. Orthodox women have the option of seeing anobservant counselor while at the shelter.

Neal and other experts, meanwhile, have a wishlist for Orthodox battered women in Los Angeles. They would like tosee a counseling program for Orthodox batterers and for existingpremarital classes to outline warning signs of spousal abuse. Theywant more training for rabbis, who, for example, should know thatcouples counseling is contraindicated in cases of domestic violence.Lebovics would like to see a specifically Jewish emergency shelter inLos Angeles.

“When I counsel couples, I tell the woman, infront of her intended husband, that if he ever raises a hand to her,she should pick herself up and leave until the problem is resolved,”Tendler said. “And if a woman is unsafe, it is incumbent upon everyrabbi to pull out all the stops, including saying from the bimah thata man is not welcome in the community, because he abuses hiswife.”

* not their real names


A Jewish Guy

Frankly, I’mall for it.

But what about sports? Girls? Humvees andwashboard abs? This column’s supposed to parse the experience of aJewish Guy in the world. But some guys have called, confused. What’sall this about singing baby boys to sleep? About tender talks and thesalve of toddler hugs? It’s all very sweet, but, guy, hey guy, theyask, where’s the testosterone?

Funny. My wife’s been bugging me about the samething.

When I met Abby, I was 23, fresh off a few yearsof intensive karate training and backpacking adventures in WesternEurope. A Jerusalem girl, she liked to call me her “New York TaxiDriver.”

So a few years pass. The karate gives way toevening walks. The backpacking to lingering meals and washing uptogether. The modern dance classes, the bike trips — phoosh! — outthe window. I had the girl. Who needed the bait?

Then come the kids, and as the backpack molded inthe basement, the jagged horizons of world travel spun themselvesinto the downy world of the nursery. But not without some adjusting.”Could you be a little more gentle with the baby?” she says. “Do youhave to throw him so high in the air?” “I really don’t think a1-year-old needs to watch Godzilla vs. Rodan with you.”

And, so, slowly, washed bottle by washed bottle,powdered tushy cheek by cheek, gentle lullaby by lullaby, I, like thePleistocene dog and cow long before me, became domesticated.

After seven years, my wife’s most cherished wishhas come true. Nurturing comes naturally. I am the king ofKissathons, the Nabob of Neck-farts. Behold — Commander Cuddle. Theladies at the playground smile at me when I cradle my little ones.They coo over my unabashed affection. They marvel at the simple factthat I’m spending so much time with my children — and I’m not even ananny! (Of course, my wife, being an actual woman, sees no one on theplayground ever coo over her singing love and fierceembraces).

Now here’s the kicker. Now that I’m ready andtoned up for the Nagano of Nurturing, my wife tells me, “Genucht!”Would I mind putting down the book of children’s poetry and throw onmy carpenter’s belt. Go bang around the yard a little. Preferablyshirtless. Nail something. Haul the firewood across the lawn. Oh,and, sure, we can spare the money for a personal trainer — “but onlyif you want.”

A guy can’t catch a break.

This all may sound horrifying to some of you guys.I can hear you reaching for the Rogaine, perusing mag wheels for yourAcuras, gut-crunching right there on your carpets.

But this isn’t really an either-or game. It’s anongoing process of adjustments along the masculine-feminine line. I’mnot worried, even if my wife is leaving power tools around the house– a regular Johnny Appleseed of machismo.

And I find that, among my friends, theirmasculinity doesn’t worry them either. We each have our own private,often unspoken claims to manliness. This one swims everyday. This onebuilds lawn furniture in his garage. This one mountain-bikes, theother sea-kayaks. Most of us get in some skiing or snowboarding. And,of course, as married men, we all have in common sex, which studiesare rumored to suggest can be reassuring.

But the truth is, we mostly Jewish guys — and Ionly speak for my circle of friends — are quite comfortable to haveforsworn the consistent company of Men’s Journal masculinity formenschhood. Not that we achieve it consistently. Far from it. But itdoes mean that, at minimum, we spend time by our children’s sides.Often, and passionately.

Yeah, I’d like to raft the wild Yukon or diveamong blacktip sharks off the Bahamas (not the big ones though; justthe little ones). I’d love to bike through Vietnam or Alsace. And Iwill — either later with the kids, or without them when they’re incollege.

But for now, for these years, the guy thing isvery much the dad thing. The Rabbis challenge us, “Where there are nomen, who will be a man?”

Yo, guys: Where dads aren’t dads, there are nomen.

Adam Gilad lives and writes in Topanga. You canreach him at Aggprods@aol.com

 

Dear Deborah

Dear Deborah,

My husband and I were very depressed this past Mother’s Day. Both of our mothers passed away years ago, my husband’s by suicide. Also, both of us came from parents who divorced when we were young, and neither of us had very good relationships with our mothers.

We do not have children, so we have no reason to celebrate this holiday–and no grandmothers either. We are both left feeling either sad, guilty, angry or just plain depressed every Mother’s Day, as if we’ve stored up all our feelings for our mothers for one day of the year, although I also feel sad on her birthday.

I do not want next year, or any other year for that matter, to turn out like this. Do you have any suggestions?

Blue

Dear Blue,

Why try to chase away your blues when it is perfectly natural for you and your husband to feel sadness about your mothers on Mother’s Day? Instead, create some ritual in which you actually do have an arena in which to feel sad and reminisce together without it becoming an unbearable wallow-fest. A visit to each of their graves or an annual revisiting of your family photo albums are examples of possible rituals.

Then afterward you might celebrate how fortunate you are to have a supportive partner with whom you share so powerful a common bond. Consider volunteering at a homeless shelter or nursing home to bring some comfort to some mothers who are down-on-their-luck or forgotten. In comforting one another as well as others, you partake in a powerful cure.

Un-Real Estate

Dear Deborah,

I am a single 34-year-old divorced woman, successful in my work, competent in the world, yet stuck in the middle of my parents like a 5-year-old. My parents haven’t gotten along all my life. They claim to stay together because of money…of which there seems to be plenty.

Five years ago, my father bought a house “for me.” What I thought that meant was that he’d paid the downpayment and I’d pay the mortgage and repairs. I thought it was a gift.

The truth is, he seems to have bought it for himself. He and my mother live in a different city, and he comes here whenever he likes to get away from her –and he stays with me. At first I didn’t mind, but now it’s really putting a crimp in my social life and my sense of peace. He just shows up whenever he wants, and it’s gotten to the point where he’s staying with me almost half the time. Also, he treats me like he treats Mom, expecting me to provide dinner, do laundry for him, etc. Lately, my mom has started showing up to get away from my dad. Also, each complains bitterly to me about the other all the time.

I’ve tried to speak to him, but he says it’s his house too, and I have no right to turn him away. His name is on the deed, not mine, but he says I will inherit the house. In the meantime, I’ve invested so much in the mortgage and upkeep, I feel like I should have some claim on it.

Can you help me to figure this out?

Crowded

Dear Crowded,

Sounds like it’s time for a thorough spring-cleaning of your little bed-and-breakfast as well as your psyche.

Let’s get this straight. You make the mortgage payments, pay for the repairs and run an inn for some very demanding guests — in addition to your full-time job. You feel incapable of saying no to their demands, and the benefit is…what? In 40 years you get to keep the house? Is that what you want?

This house has become a metaphor for your role in your parents’ marriage. They take turns dumping their marital debris on you, just as they heap demands upon your hospitality. And as long as you continue to allow it, you are purchasing this house on the extortion plan.

Here are your choices:

1) Tell your parents that not having privacy or the choice about whether to have guests and when to have them is not acceptable.

2) If they are unwilling to respect your wishes, offer to buy them out.

3) If they say no, offer them to buy you out.

4) If all else fails, move out, rent an apartment until you have saved up for your own home, and learn that you had to spend several years, great effort and thousands in mortgage payments on the lesson that you refuse to be a human garbage dump and that, in order to grow up, you need some boundaries with your parents.

If these choices seem a little overwhelming now, picture your future. Same house, white picket fence, spouse, children — and your parents’ rotten marriage still parked in the living room.

Davening For Dollars

Dear Deborah,

Our son is invited to the bar mitzvah of a successful, bright classmate. The boy has announced to all his friends in school to please give him cash only because he wants to save up for a trip to Israel, which his parents cannot afford. We were surprised by this behavior and wonder if his parents know that he is busy shnorring from his friends. We think it is pretty tacky. What do you think?

J. S.

Dear J.S.,

The boy is asking for what he wants, and one must admire his chutzpah and determination. One might also note that he is not asking for money for a fantasy road trip to follow a Smashing Pumpkins’ tour. If, however, what you want is an etiquette opinion, you’ll have to take it up with Emily Post or Miss Manners.

Bottom line is that the young man may not know which one is the fish fork, but odds are, one day, you’ll be reading about his accomplishments in the Wall Street Journal — or perhaps The Jerusalem Post.

I vote for cutting the boy a check.

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