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“The morning of my fourth wedding anniversary, I banged my knee on the stationary bike at the gym. It purpled and swelled, tender, like a plum.
Traditional gifts for a fourth anniversary are fruit and flowers. Things with short lives; things easily bruised.
My husband and I had been separated for a month at the time of our fourth anniversary. I had been at the gym to try to get in shape for the man I had fallen for long distance, the man I was going to join at a writing retreat soon. I had been subtly starving myself, veering into a midlife eating disorder, working hard to make myself disappear, although not the same way my mother had when she took her own life four years before; I wanted to pare myself down to the bone, flare into new life, become a creature unencumbered by grief.
Our first year of marriage was a dizzying blur. I gave birth to our son three months after our wedding; one week later, my mother killed herself in the midst of a psychotic break; less than four months after that, my mother-in-law died of a sudden heart attack. The traditional first anniversary gift is paper, and our marriage, so racked by loss, was paper-thin by then. It didn’t take much for it to tear.”
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