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August 5, 2020

The Devaluation of Free Speech in the Land of the Free

With a presidential election looming during these fast times when fevers and emotions run high, there is one urgent national crisis that may not be remedied by voting or a vaccine. And it bears directly on the foundational principles of what once united these states of America. 

Whether we realize it or not, we are being forced to rethink our origins and reorder our priorities — mostly by holding our tongue or “liking” the same tweet. 

Conformity has become a newly dominant ethos, demanding that we reassess American history and regard our founding not as a revolutionary miracle but as original sin.

Yet, in doing so, we are becoming a smaller, meaner and more vengeful America — intolerant and all too eager to punish those who dare to express disfavored opinions. Shades of these restrictions on speech can be found across political spectrums, but what is now being called the “cancel culture” resides mostly with the progressive left. 

These cancellations are not to be taken lightly. They are terminal, and like all Terminators, they keep coming back.

Sound ominous? Well, just consider some recent events (there are many more, by the way) and ask whether free speech and critical thought are alive and well in America.

Last month evolutionary psychologist and Harvard professor Steven Pinker was the subject of an open letter signed by hundreds of linguists seeking to have him removed as a distinguished fellow from the Linguistic Society of America. His scholarly credentials were impeccable but some of his tweets and bits of other writing were deemed deplorable. Mostly he was accused of racial insensitivity for relying on data that suggested that overt racism in America was in decline.

A political culture that is hostile to open and respectful dialogue, and that requires ideological conformity and moral certainty, is decidedly “illiberal.”

David Shor, a data analyst, was fired at the end of May for a tweet that cited an academic study showing that voters were negatively influenced by violent protests, to the benefit of Republican candidates. Clearly, supporters of violent protests wish to keep their options open.

Also last month, professors at The New School in New York, UCLA and Stanford were investigated, and condemned by a student senate resolution in the latter case, for using the “N-word” while quoting from the works of James Baldwin, Martin Luther King Jr. and the lyrics from the hip-hop group, N.W.A, respectively. How else to discuss the writings of African Americans without examining the chosen words of African Americans was not explained.

A Portland, Ore., burrito shop shut down in 2017 because its owner was accused of “stealing” and committing “culinary white supremacy” by having learned new recipes on a trip to Mexico. The audacity of a taco prepared by a non-Mexican. Who knew there were enough Italians in Portland to toss all those pizza pies. 

And by now everyone knows the fallout from The New York Times’ decision in June to publish an op-ed from Sen. Tom Cotton (R-Ark.), who argued that the military should be brought in to quell the violence that arose from some of the Black Lives Matter protests. It was a position that a slight majority of Americans shared — an ABC/Ipsos poll released June 7 revealed 52% approved — even if misguidedly, but it apparently was a position that the Times did not think was fit to print.

Staffers erupted and the publisher disavowed the essay, calling its publication a mistake. James Bennet, the page’s main editor, resigned under pressure. A few weeks later, editor and opinion writer Bari Weiss resigned, too, with a stinging letter that accused the paper’s leadership of capitulating to a progressive mob that undermined the objectivity of its journalistic mission. (In her July 31 appearance on “Real Time With Bill Maher,” she likened the cancel culture to “social murder.”)

Of course, cancellation is not limited to chiseled stone. It usually involves real lives and real people. And it can be ruinous. A slip of the tongue, a casual remark, an errant tweet … now has the potential to end a career.

On the same day, columnist Andrew Sullivan resigned from New York magazine, citing similar problems with colleagues who no longer welcomed his opinions. Harper’s Magazine followed with a published letter signed by 153 writers and cultural figures lamenting the illiberal and public-shaming zeitgeist of these times. With these battle lines fully drawn and career wreckage everywhere, Politico took a survey and found that 46% of Americans believe that the cancel culture has gone too far.

Maybe so, but the so-called progressive left is ramping up for more purges. Not since Stalin has purging been this much in vogue.

Historical statues have become popular targets. Confederate officers and Founding Fathers, to the delight of some, are earmarked for the same rubble. America, after all, is irredeemably flawed, they say. These historical markers are emblems of shame, and roving wrecking crews are performing a righteous task.

Of course, cancellation is not limited to chiseled stone. It usually involves real lives and real people. And it can be ruinous. A slip of the tongue, a casual remark, an errant tweet, an unintended slight, a joke resurrected from an era when social boundaries were broader and a joke was regarded as a joke, a source in a syllabus or a single paragraph within an article now has the potential to end a career. Punishments never seem to fit these thought crimes. What’s more, these cancellations allow for no forgiveness. 

Speech now suddenly comes with consequences. Politically incorrect speech is not to be freely spoken. Here, it is the community at large that determines what is to be censored. And some speech is flatly denied a public hearing. Punitive mobs gather, usually in cyberspace, for the sole purpose of creating the critical mass that will lead to cancellation. The heckler’s veto has multiplied, resting on the hair-trigger fingertips of those with Twitter accounts. 

The presidency of Donald Trump hasn’t helped matters, given a leadership style that depends so much on jingoistic slogans and “us versus them” mind games.

Despite our national love affair with the First Amendment, free expression is being regulated — not by the government, but by the intolerant left, which has decamped from college and is now setting the terms for public debate. 

Yes, conservatives are capable of the same double standards, but the phenomenon of the cancelation culture stems from a decidedly leftist university worldview, and its spread throughout society should concern all Americans who value free speech.

There’s a new sheriff in town in the form of the thought police. Those insufficiently “woke,” unmindful of “white privilege,” oblivious to “power differentials” and “colonial legacies,” are likely to be called out and cancelled. And cancellation is not a mere figure of speech. It means what it says: “Go away!” It’s not a disagreement; it is the blotting out of conversation altogether. 

And it portends the death of liberalism itself.

Remember liberalism? Its origins are found in the writings of John Locke and his fellow enlightened philosophers. These were the writers who James Madison, Alexander Hamilton and other delegates to the Constitutional Convention were reading when they undertook the task of drafting our founding documents — the blueprints to our democracy. It led to a compelling list of freedoms: speech, assembly, press, the right to and from religion, and limited self-government that protected private property and enforced the rule of law.

All of this consensus around rights came under the imprimatur of liberalism. And early Americans were proud to call themselves liberals. A good many of today’s Americans are no longer so sure.

To be liberal means to keep an open mind when venturing out into the public square, freely sampling the ideas of the day. Ideas have a tendency to conflict. That’s OK. Making judgments about ideas is all part of the democratic experience. 

Only with a liberal openness to ideas can government make better decisions and the electorate become more informed. Healthy disagreement was the secret sauce of the social contract. Americans stood ready to entertain differences of opinion without reaching for pitchforks and muskets.

What we see today in the progressive orthodoxy of the new left is not liberalism, however. The liberal tradition was never so quick to judge and even quicker to indict. Publicly shaming is not the same as debating. And it is not the product of the liberal mind. A political culture that is hostile to open and respectful dialogue, and that requires ideological conformity and moral certainty, is decidedly “illiberal.” 

Politico took a survey and found that 46% of Americans believe that the cancel culture has gone too far.

But that’s the junction where the woke-world places itself. Groupthink is all too commonplace. Accusations of racism are far too easily and frequently made. Conversations are forced to end before they even start.

Those who exist in the rarefied precincts of university life already know that American Exceptionalism has been in a freefall for many years now. What’s different today is that the circle of co-conspirators has widened, and moved off campus. “Wokeness” has declared war on “whiteness,” with progressives schooling the general public in what is for them an entirely new canon, whether they like it or not. 

It is a lesson that centers on America as an unabashed imperialist, colonial power. Racist from birth. Enslaver. Exploiter. Defiler. Despoiler. Appropriator of cultures not their own. Instigator of global conflicts. Magnifier of economic inequalities. 

There can be no Greatest Generation in a nation without any positive attributes. That’s the vision of America that many progressives have. To suggest otherwise is to evidence racist intent. In today’s cancel culture, the talking point of intersectional oppression is ignored at one’s peril.

Think I am kidding? Cancellation is the politics of pink slips. Accusations are more than sufficient. Exoneration is unobtainable. Speech is stifled in mid-sentence and careers are ruined. 

The social contract is being renegotiated as we speak. 

In case there is any wonder whether the Atlantic Ocean provides a measure of insulation from this cancellation craze, British lecturer Stephen Lamonby was fired last month after he casually mentioned to another academic that he believed “Jewish people are the cleverest in the world.” Lamonby assumed he was allowed to use a “positive stereotype.” The university, however, dismissed him for “gross misconduct.” 

Most universities, and The New York Times, could stand to go back to school for a refresher course on basic civics.

Instead, we are instructed that certain words or ideas must be banished, otherwise people of color will be at risk, their lives endangered. But in what sense? Clearly, not in the way that Medgar Evers was murdered, or the four girls killed in the 16th Street Baptist Church bombing in Birmingham, Ala., both in 1963. Aren’t those very different examples of endangerment — surely when compared to a tweet citing data on the decline of racism?

Who knew that “liberals” were crazy, too? Yes, conservatives scoff at evolution with creationist theme parks that adopt the historical timeline of “The Flintstones,” where intelligent design enables Neanderthals to ride on the backs of dinosaurs. But is what we are seeing from progressives in squelching any comment that may conflict with the orthodoxy of the moment any better? 

Moral revulsion and old-school “social distancing” is one thing; canceling a life is quite another. Thousands of Twitter users lie in wait, twitching at the thought of rendering someone jobless. 

Twitter confers outsized influence on its users, none of whom are smart simply because they own a smartphone. Similarly, faculty infighting, where the stakes on wokeness run high, makes “Mean Girls” seem positively unctuous by comparison. 

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The presidency of Donald Trump hasn’t helped matters, given a leadership style that depends so much on jingoistic slogans and “us versus them” mind games. There is a daily choreography to taking sides that has polarized the populace and inspired protests that, with another administration, might have remained under wraps. 

At the same time, the progressive wing of the Democratic Party is bound to receive carte blanche privileges in a Joe Biden presidency — even though he is a longtime moderate. He won’t be able to win without them, which will render him beholden. But these are the same people for whom an assault on traditional American liberalism has become the cornerstone of their political philosophy.

How does one reconcile maintaining the rule of law in a nation that defunds and dismantles law enforcement? It’s not the job of the community to police itself. 

Those who upend the priorities of liberalism and terrorize free thought say that they are compensating for the imbalance of power that historically silenced voices belonging to people of color. True enough. But what seeks to replace it is a radical departure from the liberal tradition, where political pluralism was no less important. With liberalism as their crowning achievement, our Founding Fathers would be surprised to learn that we didn’t fight to preserve what was, for them, so hard-won.


Thane Rosenbaum is a novelist, essayist, law professor and Distinguished University Professor at Touro College, where he directs the Forum on Life, Culture & Society. He is the legal analyst for CBS News Radio and appears frequently on cable TV news programs. His most recent book is titled “Saving Free Speech … From Itself.”

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The Dignity of the Individual: An Ode to Radical Heterodoxy

In 1912, writer Marie Jenney Howe founded a feminist debating club in New York City called Heterodoxy. She specified only one requirement for membership: The applicant could not be “orthodox in her opinion.” Howe wanted to prove a pivotal feminist notion that was considered radical at the time: All women don’t think alike.

I discovered the club while researching my book “The Lipstick Proviso” in the late 1990s. When my book was published in 1997, I had my first glimpse at what now is called cancel culture. Some women’s studies professors were angry about my book because I dared to show the origin of the word feminism — that it meant freedom; that anyone who believed that women had the right to decide their fate and their opinions was a feminist. 

In reviews and on (pre-internet) radio shows, these professors denounced the book as heresy. The attacks were so ugly I stopped writing about political philosophy for nearly a decade. 

What brought me back led to my second encounter. In 2014, while Hamas was bombing Israel, I defended Israel publicly on Facebook. Some people found this, too, unacceptable. Friends of 20 years stopped talking to me. I was bullied and harassed by people who call themselves liberals. For many, it wasn’t that they disagreed with what I was posting. It was that they knew they publicly couldn’t be friends with someone who espoused something that went against the growing orthodoxy of opinion. And the orthodoxy had declared that anti-Zionism was central to its existence.

This time, I didn’t back down. The more they bullied me, the more I posted. I also kept trying to tell them that what they were doing was illiberal — that free speech and dissent are essential to liberalism. I refused to cede the word liberal and began using the term that British Muslim activist Maajid Nawaz coined in 2012 after he was similarly bullied for daring to say that terrorism is bad: regressive leftist.

We now have liberal writers, editors and professors being fired for expressing opinions that go against the ever-widening leftist orthodoxy. We now have Twitter mobs, speech police, thought crimes, public shaming and ostracism — all against liberals. 

Fortunately, we also now have the beginnings of a liberal backlash against the leftist orthodoxy. Much is being written about how free speech is a key principle of liberalism. My goal here is to take a step back and understand that many of those participating in cancel culture were never taught the real essence of liberalism. As a result, we have lost not just the sanctity of free speech but the very foundation of liberalism: the dignity of the individual.

What is liberalism?

“Classical liberalism is a political philosophy that emphasizes the freedom of the individual as the central political value,” David Boaz, executive director of the libertarian Cato Institute, told the Journal. (Libertarianism is often considered the direct descendent of classical liberalism.)

Through writers such as John Locke and John Stuart Mill, liberalism blossomed in the 18th and 19th centuries, becoming the foundation of the Enlightenment and perhaps its greatest project: the United States of America. “We hold these truths to be self-evident,” asserts our Declaration of Independence, “that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

Perhaps the greatest misconception about liberalism is that it is a set of specific policy stances. It is not. Liberalism is a moral and political philosophy, resting on a set of key principles including individual rights; free trade and markets; freedom of speech, press and religion; and international peace.

Intentionally or not, identity politics ended up undermining even the broadest definition of individualism.

Liberal scholars believe these principles are essential to create a tolerant, pluralistic society in which intellectual and economic progress are the norm. “Freedom of expression, which affords every person the right to voice his or her own opinion, fearlessly and publicly, ensures that no good idea goes unheard and that no bad idea goes unchallenged,” Emily Chamlee-Wright, president of the Institute for Humane Studies at George Mason University in Virginia, wrote on the institute’s website.

Underlying all of this is the concept of individualism, the dignity of the individual. “Human dignity is the foundational principle that every person possesses dignity simply by virtue of the fact that they are human beings,” Chamlee-Wright wrote on the institute’s website. 

And because every human possesses inherent dignity, every person is deserving of freedom and justice.

Not coincidentally, the dignity of the individual can be found in nature — every leaf, branch and tree is unique — and in many ancient texts and religions, including Judaism. Early liberal thinkers believed that their inherent freedom as unique individuals came from above — that all are equal before God.

Of course, U.S. society did not initially live up to the words in the declaration. “The straight white men who created and ran the country established legal discrimination against particular groups, including black people, women and gay people,” Boaz told the Journal. “As African Americans, women and gays gradually received their civil rights — their equality under the law — some wanted to go further and insist on full social acceptance and proportionality in all aspects of life. Individualists should oppose intolerance and what’s known as ‘cancel culture.’ But I think the topic is more nuanced than most commentators seem to realize,” he continued. “First, there were real horrors done to people in the history of the world and the history of the United States, and they shape the way people see the world today. Second, some ideas really are reprehensible, and those who express them ought to be ostracized. So we’re always going to have arguments about where to draw those lines.” 

The problem is that in drawing those lines, we slipped from the individualism of classical liberalism to the groupthink of identity politics. Intentionally or not, identity politics ended up undermining even the broadest definition of individualism. Before cancel culture, there was a reflexive equation of identity with sameness: all women think alike; all blacks think alike; all LGBT people think alike, and so on. Today that has been deliberately taken to another level: We have an acceptance of an identity-based orthodoxy of opinion on nearly every subject, giving rise to the authoritarian intolerance of cancel culture.

Why individuality matters

None of this is to say that our broader identities don’t matter. In fact, they matter very much. I think we should all fully understand — and take pride in — our group identities. I am a female, olive-skinned Israelite, born in the United States. I wish I had strengthened myself as a child and teen through my Israelite heritage. 

But underneath my group identities, I am something much deeper and more intimate. I am an individual: unique, imperfect, heterodox.

On July 24, Sinai Temple Rabbi David Wolpe wrote about this distinction on his synagogue’s website in a piece titled, “You Are Not Your Group.” 

Individualism does not mean selfishness. It means independence, self-reliance, integrity. We gain strength from building our integrity, not from conforming to what’s trending.

Wolpe wrote, “The deep premise of identity politics is that your group defines you. While Judaism certainly understands that being a Jew is part of what makes us who we are, it is also true that the quality of goodness stands apart. The line between good and evil does not run between countries, peoples or tribes. It runs through every human decision in every human heart. Those who hate could choose love; those who are cruel could be kind; those who are wicked could be righteous. This Jewish teaching finds its echo in the best of America, a country where each person has the right to be judged on his or her own merits. A human being is never a type or a group, but a unique image of God.”

One of the key notions of liberalism is that my rights end where yours begin. I have no right to tell you, for instance, not to wear gender-neutral clothing or not to identify however you wish. But if I like to wear short, flirty skirts, if I prefer men who are chivalrous, if I chose to stay home with my son when he was young, how does that harm you? In a free, liberal society, we can all thrive and respect one another.

I also have no right to punish you for your beliefs any more than you have a right to punish me for mine. I believe in biology, that babies are born male or female, that doctors do not “assign” genders at birth. You believe differently? That’s your right. But how does my belief about this harm you? Speech — beliefs — are not violence.

With rights come responsibilities: to ourselves, to society. You have a responsibility to do what’s best for you and your children, even if that goes against your political beliefs.

The harm comes when laws are created based on an ideology that subverts liberalism. The 1920 Women’s Suffrage Act, the 1964 Civil Rights Act, the Supreme Court upholding same-sex marriage in 2015 — legitimate rights gained without harming society or undermining other rights. In fact, each made society stronger. But, for instance, some of the laws being considered or imposed regarding “gender neutrality” can cause harm. Does a biological male have a right to shower with biological females? Not under feminism. His/her rights end where theirs begin. At the very least, it’s worth a debate, which is no longer allowed in today’s groupthink cancel culture.

As a feminist who knows that a level playing field has been in place for decades, I have no problem with the fact that women are, for example, underrepresented in the sciences. Feminism never meant a 50-50 split in everything. In fact, mandating equality of outcome goes against the very essence of feminism. Women who now have the opportunity to choose and gain skills are not pawns to be shuffled around to appease a reigning ideology.

Moreover, as Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. understood, the only way to create lasting change is through individualism. The best player in my son’s tennis program is Black. If anyone were to tell him that he shouldn’t be spending his days on the courts, that he should instead be protesting, he would most likely be offended. They would be undermining his individuality. Everyone in the program cheers him on because of his passion, drive for excellence and respect for the other players — because of the content of his character.

Jewish teaching finds its echo in the best of America, a country where each person has the right to be judged on his or her own merits. — Rabbi David Wolpe

What’s being created today can be called anti-individualism. All of the aspects of individualism — striving for excellence, critical thinking, reason — are now deemed Western and colonial, and therefore racist and anti-equality. Mob justice, thought crimes, public shaming — all were depicted in the various dystopian novels from Ayn Rand’s 1938 novella “Anthem” to George Orwell’s 1949 novel “1984.”

The concept of individualism is not unique to European culture but Europeans did bring it to the fore. So what? It is a concept that has changed the world for the better and will continue to do so. Individualism is the essence of progress.

Why? “Because of a kind of radical commitment to openness,” Chamlee-Wright wrote on the institute’s website. 

It is only through treating people as individuals, with rights and responsibilities, that lasting change can be made, that society can help elevate each of us to reach our highest potential.

Toleration of differing viewpoints leads to pluralism, which means that not only will it be OK if people of different backgrounds and beliefs live side by side, but that it actually enhances society. Pluralistic societies tend to be more dynamic and amenable to positive social change. At their best, they lead to the type of harmony found in nature.

Toleration of differing viewpoints leads to pluralism, which means that not only will it be OK if people of different backgrounds and beliefs live side by side, but that it actually enhances society.

Ultimately, the universal bond of humanity transcends identity, though not individualism.

Civil society depends on our seeing one another as individuals, not as members of a group. Treating your friends and family who have political differences with respect leads to self-respect and dignity. It is only through such dignity that we can begin to rebuild civil society.

The beauty of nonconformity

Conformity feels safe. At a time when nonconformity is not valued, it can be particularly lonely. And social media, where it’s all about the ‘likes,’ tears down natural individualistic instincts.

But on a personal level, the benefits of individualism far outweigh the costs. Individualism does not mean selfishness. It means independence, self-reliance and integrity. We gain strength from building our integrity, not from conforming to what’s trending.

Freedom of the mind also leads to innovation and achievement. Progress doesn’t come from mob rule or conformity. It comes from allowing unique individual souls to flourish freely. And when souls are free to flourish, that’s when we elevate the world.


Karen Lehrman Bloch is an author and cultural critic. She lives with her son in New York City.    

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Men Suspected of Hanging ‘Hitler Was Right’ Banner on Arizona Bridge Arrested for Trespassing

Four men suspected of hanging a white supremacist banner on a railroad bridge in Queen Creek, Ariz., were arrested on Aug. 1 for trespassing.

News 12 reported that the banner stated, “Hitler was right” and linked to a white supremacist website. The four men, who are believed to be from 27 to 38 years old, were taking photos next to the banner when the police approached them. The men said it was freedom of speech, but police pointed to a sign stating that trespassing wasn’t allowed.

The four men were subsequently arrested and could potentially face further zoning violations, but police are not pursuing the matter as a hate crime.

Paul Rockower, executive director of the Jewish Community Relations Council of Greater Phoenix, told News 12, “It’s unfortunate these individuals would stoop to such stupidity, climb out on bridges hang hateful material and that they wouldn’t do something better with their lives. People who don’t have a strong enough sense of history or their own identity gravitate toward hate communities that give them this little hit, a feeling they’re accepted but unfortunately this leads down a path to nowhere.”

StandWithUs CEO and co-founder Roz Rothstein tweeted, “Thank you Arizona S[h]eriff’s deputies for arresting 4 anti-Semites who went to great lengths to hang this hateful sign.”

12 News Anchor Mark Curtis also tweeted, “Every once in a while they crawl out from under the woodpile to spread their message of hate.”

 

According to the Anti-Defamation League, the number of anti-Semitic incidents in Arizona declined from 58 in 2018 to 30 in 2019.

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Front Window of New Mexico Holocaust Museum, Featuring Photo of Civil Rights March, Smashed by Vandal

(JTA) — The front window of the New Mexico Holocaust Museum in downtown Albuquerque was shattered in an act of vandalism.

The incident took place during the funeral of Georgia Rep. John Lewis on July 30. The museum’s window featured a poster of a large photo of an early 1960s civil rights march.

The head of the museum does not think it is a coincidence. 

Executive Director Leon Natker told the Albuquerque Journal that the vandalism “makes the point for why it’s necessary to have this museum – why now, more than ever, this kind of cultural institution is necessary in our current dialogue.”

The museum’s logo says it is “Eliminating Hate and Intolerance One Mind At A Time.”

Closed for renovations at the time of the attack, the museum is scheduled to reopen on Sept. 1.

The window will cost about $1,000 to replace. In the wake of the attack, the museum also is trying to raise $2,000 to upgrade security.

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Planning to Send Your Kids to School this Fall? It’s Complicated

On July 13, the Los Angeles Unified School District (LAUSD) announced that fall classes would be online only because of the  COVID-19 pandemic. In the weeks that followed, many local private schools, including Jewish ones, followed suit.

“I need a hug,” texted one friend — a mother of two — after hearing the news. Another friend who has three kids and one on the way, was more direct. “I’m hyperventilating,” she said.

Most parents are scrambling to prepare for the coming months. No one wants to risk getting sick if school reopens, but with most kids home since March, there’s only so much parents can take. The dilemma reminds me of Eleanor’s Roosevelt’s wise words: “You’ll be damned if you do and damned if you don’t.”

I have friends who are single mothers who are overwhelmed with work and have to take care of their kids. I have friends with special needs children who really need access to in-person resources and teachers. And I have friends with an immuno-compromised child.

“My son’s lungs are a disaster,” one friend wrote in an email, “so I had to quit my job as a teacher and pull all of my kids out of school. I’ll be home-schooling them this year.”

Home-schooling might be effective, but online classes can’t compare with in-person classes, especially for those with many children who can afford only one computer or tablet. Not to mention the families that can’t afford a computer or lack internet access. How are they supposed to hold out hope that their kids won’t fall behind?

After the LAUSD announcement, some local mothers took to social media to call for protests outside the home of Mayor Eric Garcetti, even though the mayor’s office has no jurisdiction over LAUSD.

Our children, ages 4 and 2, are young enough to be enrolled in an early childhood program at a local Jewish school, which is scheduled to open this month. Weeks ago, we received a “Guide to Reopening” that outlined the school’s plans on issues ranging from mitigating the spread of COVID-19 to what will happen if a teacher or student is exposed to the virus.

My husband and I feel blessed to have access to this amazing school, but I’m already anticipating a lot of anxiety the first time our kids come home with a sneeze or a cough, which is bound to happen because fall is the start of cold and flu season. It’s possible that schools will shut down at the first sign of someone with a fever, so I hope I can persuade our 2-year-old to sit through Zoom sessions.

I imagine picking up our kids on the first day of school and spraying them with a big bottle of isopropyl alcohol before they get in the car, and then cringing when they kiss me. “How was school today?” I’ll ask as I wipe my face and the inside of my nostrils with Clorox wipes.

If we pull our kids out of school this fall, there’s little chance they could re-enroll later, which means they’d stay at home with me until next fall. The thought of that makes me want to hide in a cave with a case of wine.

Some parents are exploring the option of small “pods,” in which groups of 5-10 kids meet either in a backyard or a park, with a teacher and a few supervisors. But like all in-person classes, even pods will shut down quickly if a child, parent or teacher shows symptoms of COVID-19.

“I feel like everyone’s physical health is being pitted against my mental health,” said one friend, who has four kids, over the phone last week. I told her I’d support any decision she makes and assured her I’d make some extra room in the cave.


Tabby Refael is a Los Angeles-based writer and speaker. 

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Ripple Effect: Walls

Lots of people have been hitting their coronavirus walls lately.

Somehow this week has been harder for everyone. Walls have gone up. People have been coming up against walls. The walls are falling apart.

I know I hit mine. It has not been easy.

When sitting with a few moms on the beach, six feet apart, wearing masks, we were talking about how somehow this week was a really tough week. 

The end of summer is near. School is starting soon online. No end of this pandemic is in sight. Each one of us is fighting our personal demons with the collective issues closing in all around us.

One of the women shared, “Last night I just sat down on my bed and cried and cried and cried.” To that I added, “I swear, I was driving around feeling so down, I thought to myself this is what depression feels like. You don’t have anything to look forward to. You lose your joy and you are simply sad, sad, sad, sad.”

The conversation was comforting, because everyone is challenged with this pandemic quarantine situation.  One of the moms said that the fact that we don’t know when it’s going to end doesn’t help. It feels like there are walls all around us. “I feel like walls are closing in on us. The pandemic is like these huge jail walls that we can’t get out of.”

I was sitting looking out at the ocean and I drifted away from the conversation.

I remembered one of the first things a young man who was incarcerated said to me when I asked him what freedom looks like to him. He looked at me and said, “People think that freedom is being outside of these walls, but I know when I lean into the wall, that’s where I find my freedom.” I was puzzled. “I don’t think I understand,” I responded gently.

He said, “At night when everyone’s asleep (in this juvenile facility, the youth slept in one big room in beds near each other), I’d sneak off my bed, sit on the floor, and lean against the wall. I lean against the wall, close my eyes and dream. I imagine my future. I think about the things that will be and the wall is where it starts.” He continued, “I lean against the wall, Ms. The wall holds me in, but it also pushes me ahead.”

How poetic I thought to myself. I remember being impressed by his using the wall as his launching point. 

I am not sure what these Corona walls are launching, but I do know that we are going to look back and see the start of many things, even though right now it feels like the end of everything.

Another student told me once that even though she is outside of the walls, the walls are always there, because she is always judged by the fact that she was incarcerated. 

“How can I get people not to see those fucking walls, Ms.?” she asked me.

“Once I tell them I did time, it is over. They put up a wall that is higher than the prison wall. How will I ever get a job?”

“We have to figure out how to climb over that wall,” I told her.

“How do we do that?” she asked me, frustrated. 

“I am not sure,” I answered and paused to think. As I was about to speak, another student jumped in and said, “There are some walls you will not be able to climb, Ms. You need to walk alongside them, feel them, get to know them, and then you will be able to get through them.”

I looked at him. I looked at her. These are people who have spent more time behind walls than my children have been alive, yet they are optimistic.

When they got out of prison, outside the prison walls they were faced with new walls that were higher than the walls that locked them up, yet they didn’t give up and they are desperately trying to move forward. Then a third student chimed in, “There are many kinds of walls in this life. Some high, some low, some tougher than others. The thing is, Ms., you gotta learn to go outside the walls in your mind, and not let them get into your head. Once you learn how to do that, you can beat anything.”

This was a man who spent many years, yes YEARS, in solitary confinement, so he knows what he is talking about.

I am pulled back to the conversation on the beach with a group of beautiful women, a new circle I am getting to know. I really like them and their honesty. 

“This is a lot,” one woman said. 

“Way too much,” the other added. 

I share a little of my work. I say it is ironic that my students who did time and sat in solitary confinement are a source of comfort and wisdom to me. We all laugh and take a collective breath together.

“This is good,” one said. 

“Yes, it feels normal,” the other added. And we all erupt in laughter, since there is absolutely nothing normal about a group of moms sitting distanced from each other, wearing face masks, at the end of July, on the beach on the Pacific Coast Highway.

We will all get through this pandemic, and the crazy walls it brings with it. 

We can and will tackle our walls the best we can.

Some will lean against them. Some will walk alongside them. Some will climb over the walls.

“You know,” I told my student who was having trouble getting a job.

“There are places that employ people that have a record. They are smart, because they can have people like you work for them,” I told her. 

“Seriously, go where they want you. Walk away from the wall and go to the door.”

“You always gotta be a fucking poet, Ms.,” and she laughed. 

“I got you,” she added. “I’ll try.”

There really isn’t a door to the wall of this pandemic.

We need to be patient, and like everything, we must give it the time it needs to be and what it needs to be. We need to do what needs to be done.

My wise students have shown me that the wall is as high as you let it be.

“Don’t let a wall hold you in.” 

I could hear his voice in my head.

I look at the wall in front of me. 

This huge wall that keeps me up at night and takes my joy, and I tell it,

“You aren’t as bad as you are trying to be.” And then I make myself say to it, 

“I can live with you, Wall. I wonder if you can live with me?” 

Suddenly, I understand that I can be the wall, too. Somehow that is comforting.

I hope it is for you as well. 

Remember when looking at the walls of your life, they are also looking back at you.

You have so much more power than you can imagine, even in a global pandemic.

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Rashida Tlaib, Who Supports Israel Boycott, Wins Michigan Democratic Primary

WASHINGTON (JTA) — Rashida Tlaib, one of two Congress members to support the boycott Israel movement, defeated a challenger in her Michigan district’s Democratic primary as she bids for a second term.

Major media on Wednesday declared Tlaib the winner against Brenda Jones, who had preceded her in representing the Detroit-area district.

Tlaib, a Palestinian American, favors a binational state as an outcome of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. She and Rep. Ilhan Omar, a Minnesota Democrat, favor the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement against Israel.

Cori Bush, who on Tuesday unseated Lacy Clay, a longtime incumbent Democrat in a St. Louis-area district, also has indicated she favors BDS.

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Adam Eli Uses Jewish Roots, Ideology to Stand Up for Queer Community in Debut Book

In July 2018, Adam Eli’s life changed when he received an email from Penguin Random House asking him to write about the intersection of Judaism, queerness and activism. 

In the Greenwich Village local’s literary debut, “The New Queer Conscience,” published in June, the 29-year-old shares that queer people anywhere are responsible for queer people everywhere. “That is my message,” he told the Journal. “I’m proud it was loud enough and I had enough writing out there that [Penguin Random House] could see it so clearly.”

“The New Queer Conscience” is one of a short-form book series in the Pocket Change Collective aimed at young adults. The series examines different theses by varying activists. The authors were selected because of their platforms. The editors, Rachel Sonnis, 26, and Nathaniel Tabachnik, 28, said they sought out Adam Eli because, “We felt a particular kinship with his message, both being queer Jews,” Sonnis said. “He was a really great creative partner. It was his ability to galvanize the community and organizations and the movements he is behind.”

“He is just filled with so much passion and believes so strongly in his values,” Tabachnik added. “It wasn’t a question of pulling things out of him, it was, ‘OK, we have so much to talk about, how can we edit it down, crystalize it and make it the strongest it can be?’ ” 

The book explores Adam Eli’s Orthodox New York upbringing, his journey to self-acceptance and self-love, and his family’s role in allyship, including Jewish mother wisdom. At the end of the book, he lays out a list of ways members of the LGBTQIAA+ community can show solidarity for one another.

“The New Queer Conscience” was already in the works when the Tree of Life synagogue shooting in Pittsburgh took place in October 2018. Adam Eli made the decision to rework the book and begin it in the aftermath of that day. His message was the queer community needs to respond to events the way the Jewish community does.

“We are all looking for a place of belonging, and we are all looking for people who like us and are nice to us, and [we] are all looking for a place to be ourselves without shame,” he said. “I’m here to say I firmly believe that being queer and Jewish has made me a better person and a better activist, and I want to talk about the beauty of [that].”

He writes that both queer and Jewish cultures are alike in many ways, especially when it comes to having a deep heritage. But, while Jewish history is preserved and passed down, queer history “can be hard to access.” 

Adam Eli; Photo by jacob bixenman @jacobbix

Inspired by the works of the late Jewish Nobel laureate and Holocaust survivor Elie Wiesel and the late American poet Maya Angelou, Adam Eli made sure every word in his 66-page book was written in such a way that everyone would be able to understand his message. He also wanted to respect, reach and engage teens. “Teenagers are serious people and if you take them seriously, they will take you seriously,” he said. 

Sylvie Shaffer, a Washington D.C. author, librarian and committee member for the American Jewish Libraries, recommends young adult, Jewish and LGBTQ literature to teachers and kids of all ages. After reading “Queer Conscience,” she was selected to write about it for a mock award blog that predicts winners for the Sydney Taylor Book Award, which celebrates authors who authentically share their Jewish perspective for children and teens.

“I think it’s an incredible book and a book that teens are going to read and really be impacted by,” she said. “After you read it quickly, you can let it marinate for weeks and weeks. I continue to think about it. Like Adam Eli, I’m white, I’m queer and I’m Jewish. This is a very strong mirror book but I think kids will come to this book regardless of what their own identity is and it will have some sort of impact that will lead them to action.”

The book’s launch on June 2 coincided with Pride, the Black Lives Matter resurgence and COVID-19. Despite the climate, Adam Eli said the book has been well received. His only regret was not including enough material on queer Jews of color. 

Adam Eli (center); Photo by @hunterabrams

Arya Marvazy, managing director at JQ International, was so moved by the book that he included it in the 2020 JQ Pride Shabbat gift box and asked Adam Eli to speak at the event. 

Raised in a conservative Persian Jewish community, he connected to Adam Eli’s story. “We thought there was no one else like us,” Marvazy said. “Our communities similarly communicated that homosexuality was wrong, unacceptable. … I think the pieces about Adam’s book that resonate with me are valuable and poignant in this very moment. For us to have a united sense of care for one another is one of the most powerful ideas ever put forth for a unified queer future.”

Los Angeles native Yoni Kollin, 19, first learned about Adam Eli and his book at JQ’s Pride Shabbat. “I [was] like, ‘Whoa, this is a really great book,’ ” they said. “First of all, great minds think alike, and second of all, this book is actually very true to what it feels like to be queer.” 

Adam Eli said, “If you want to keep your kids close to you, and if you want to keep your kids close to Judaism, you have absolutely no choice but radical acceptance. … If you reject or even give them a hard time about it, they’re going to put distance between you and the Judaism you brought them up with, period.” He noted his parents have come to “radically accept” him since he came out in 2009. They have attended rallies and established groups that help with LGBTQ inclusion in Jewish spaces. 

Adam Eli hopes his book inspires the next group of Jewish, queer and other intersectional activists around the world to build on what he has written and that they feel seen. 

“I want people to walk away with the idea that being queer means that you are never alone,” he said, “because you are part of something greater than yourself. If you want it, you can tap into this extraordinary power in community, but if you do, that comes with a certain obligation — the same with being Jewish.”

“The New Queer Conscience is available for purchase here. Follow Adam Eli on Instagram @adameli.

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The Tragedy in Lebanon Has Been Years in the Making

What happened in Lebanon on Aug. 4 is heartbreaking. What’s been happening in Lebanon in recent weeks is heartbreaking. What’s happened in Lebanon in recent decades is heartbreaking.

The country is falling apart and has been for many years and many reasons. It has been bleeding a slow death by a thousand cuts. On Aug. 4, those wounds were suddenly visible.

In a chilling coincidence, The New York Times published on Aug. 3 an article by Lina Mounzer, a Lebanese writer and translator. The headline, written before the tragic explosion says it all: “We Lebanese Thought We Could Survive Anything. We Were Wrong.”

Read it, and cry for the good, innocent Lebanese. “It has become clear,” Mounzer writes, “that there is nothing truly resilient about Lebanon except its politicians and ancient warlords, who refuse to step down, even after their profiteering has bankrupted the country and its people.”

When so much is unknown, it is tempting to speculate about the blast. Was it an accident?  What exactly was stored in the harbor, by whom, for how long and why?

In a functioning country, the answers would be known at some point. There would be a trusted investigation, a believable conclusion and consequences that would make another blast less likely. But Lebanon is not a functioning country. The power brokers make sure to sabotage investigations and avoid consequences.

Fifteen years ago, American policy makers still believed that Lebanon could be an exemplary Middle East democracy (other than Israel). Following the 2006 Lebanon war between Israel and Hezbollah, the United Nations intended to make things right.

Lebanon is proof that global fantasies and noble intentions are no match for a well-funded militia. Lebanon is a playground for Iran and Syria. It was a playground for the PLO (Palestinian Liberation Organization) and, at some point in the past, for Israel.

Much like America during the George W. Bush years, Israel in the ’80s also believed that it could engineer a new Lebanese order. One that would be better for most Lebanese. One that would be better for Lebanon’s neighbors. Israel failed. America failed. The U.N. did not even try.

Dilemmas are to be expected, and they are just around the corner. How does one square the need to assist the Lebanese without simultaneously helping the power brokers keep their tight grip on the country? These are questions we are familiar with from other places. Gaza is one example. The population suffers. The population needs support and assistance. But assisting the population means assisting Hamas.

First aid is easy: get medical support, doctors, mobile hospitals, and ship them to Beirut. Israel and other countries in the region offered to take in patients. Israel is unlikely to receive any because for Hezbollah, keeping Israel as an unacceptable partner is much more important than the wounded people of Beirut.

Long term assistance is where the real difficulties begin. Precedent teaches us that world organizations and generous countries will assist Lebanon. In return, they will demand — and get — empty promises from the power brokers. The U.N. made a vow to de-weaponize Hezbollah. It did not. So, long term assistance to Lebanon must be handed under the assumption that no promise to change Lebanon’s political situation will be kept. This is as sad as it is true.

Those who believe in only one state should watch and learn: This is what an incoherent and sectorial Middle Eastern country looks like. Bret Stephens did not mention Lebanon when he wrote in his Aug. 3 New York Times op-ed that the idea of a one state “is utopian in theory and would be disastrous in practice.” Today, he probably would have used this example.

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