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November 25, 2015

Demagoguery vs Diplomacy

In the wake of the tragedy in Paris, the past few days offered a stark reminder of the difference between diplomacy and demagoguery. The contrast between President Obama and his public acknowledgment, albeit somewhat belated, of the threat of extremist Islam and the demagoguery of Donald Trump is stark.

Over the past several years, an array of political leaders have been afraid to be blunt about what ails a segment of the 1.6 billion Muslims worldwide.  While one can understand political leaders’ reluctance to be straightforward about terror and Islam (fear of angering and alienating moderates), the recent scourge of terrorism around the world suggests that the time for honesty about the need for a “liberation” of Islam from extremists and terrorists has come (some American Muslim leaders have been willing to write about this issue “>wrote about the lack of attention to the president’s observations.

And what exactly was the president’s call?

And so I think, on the one hand, non-Muslims cannot stereotype, but I also think the Muslim community has to think about how we make sure that children are not being infected with this twisted notion that somehow they can kill innocent people and that that is justified by religion. And to some degree, that is something that has to come from within the Muslim community itself. And I think there have been times where there has not been enough pushback against extremism. There’s been pushback—there are some who say, well, we don’t believe in violence, but are not as willing to challenge some of the extremist thoughts or rationales for why Muslims feel oppressed. And I think those ideas have to be challenged.[Emphasis added]

In stark contrast to Obama’s carefully measured words were the comments of candidate Donald Trump whose hyperbolic and incendiary rhetoric about Muslims and Blacks is simply indefensible. Instead of focusing on real issues that need addressing, he has become the issue because of his bigoted and unfounded assertions.

His claims about “seeing Muslim demonstrators in New Jersey” cheering the destruction of the Twin Towers or his manifestly untrue claims on an unrelated, but similarly sensitive, topic regarding crime and the Black community (he tweeted that “81% of whites are killed by Blacks”, in“> truth and decency be damned.

Having been active in the civil rights field for decades and knowing all too well the role of fear and uncertainty in laying the groundwork for bigotry, the fact that a “serious” candidate for the presidency can be as irresponsible in his comments as Trump has been and seem to pay no price in terms of support is deeply troubling.

His claims demand unambiguous condemnation and disgust; if one wants to deal with nuanced issues of race and ethnicity and make bald assertions, your facts better be right and the manner in which they are made appropriate. Shooting from the hip about minority groups and their “conduct” is a dangerous practice, especially when the the assertions are false..

Hopefully, as the 2016 elections become more than amusement on cable TV, there will be a role for mature and sober analysis of real issues and the unambiguous and universal dismissal of demagoguery and bigotry. Hopefully, the American public will be able to distinguish between leadership and potentially toxic entertainment.

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*We have often “>op/ed that two Los Angeles-based Muslim leaders had written in the Wall Street Journal last year. The fact is that two national Islamic leaders had no reluctance in describing what ails Islam globally, they were willing to say what had to be said,

American Muslims can significantly contribute to the revival of Islam and restore human dignity as a central principle of the faith. From despotic regimes to religious extremism, authoritarianism in the Middle East and South Asia has devastated modern Islamic thought over the last few centuries. American Muslims have the freedom and the intellectual capacity to create positive change for Islamic reform……..

Any country that kills its own people, persecutes religious minorities and subjugates women is anathema to American Muslims. They can call themselves angels, but they cannot camouflage their evil under a religious veneer. Islam liberated us from the shackles of religious tyranny, and we will struggle to liberate ourselves by declaring our independence from the tyrants and clerics who have usurped authority and religion in claiming sovereignty over Muslims world-wide. [Emphasis added]

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Jeb Bush: Move U.S. Embassy to Jerusalem in signal to Iran

Republican presidential candidate Jeb Bush said on Tuesday that the U.S. should move the Embassy from Tel Aviv to Jerusalem as a signal to Iran in the face of their continued threats.

During a campaign stop in Greenville, South Carolina, Bush said that his second act on day one as president would be to move the U.S. Embassy to Jerusalem.

“I believe our friends – and Israel is our closest ally – should know that we have their back. And this is not just symbolism when you move the Embassy to the nation’s capital. It is a clear signal that that you’re serious about the existential threat that Iran brings to Israel and to the United States,” Bush asserted. “It would be the most powerful thing you do to say, ‘We are back in business. We’re no longer going to do what the Obama administration did,’ which was turn the cheek left and right all the time – bam, bam, bam, bam.”

The Republican presidential hopeful went to lambaste the administration over the Iran nuclear deal, pointing out to a new report that the Iranian have increased dramatically their cyber-security attacks on the United States. “[This is] after the agreement was signed,” Bush stressed. “They now say they are ready for the agreement to take place in January when no one else believes that’s the case. They’ve made it clear that there’s not going to be any opening in their continuous oppressing of their people.”

“So, we should take them at their word when they say ‘Death to Israel. Death to America. And sending a signal like [moving the Embassy to Jerusalem] is important,” he added.

Bush first expressed support for moving the Embassy to Jerusalem in May. “I support that, absolutely,” Bush, who was at the time an undeclared candidate for president in 2016, said responding to a question about whether the city should be Israel’s capital. “I also support moving the embassy to Jerusalem as well — our embassy. Not just as a symbol but a show of solidarity,” he said.

This article originally appeared at Jewish Insider.

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US State Dept. issues worldwide travel alert in wake of terror attacks

The U.S. State Department issued a worldwide travel alert for U.S. citizens in the wake of recent terror attacks, including in Paris and Mali.

Blanket alerts such as the one issued earlier this week are rare for the State Department. There have been six worldwide travel alerts in the past 4 1/2 years, the last in July.

“Current information suggests that ISIL (aka Daesh), al-Qaida, Boko Haram, and other terrorist groups continue to plan terrorist attacks in multiple regions. These attacks may employ a wide variety of tactics, using conventional and non-conventional weapons and targeting both official and private interests,” reads the alert, which expires on Feb. 24.

The alert adds that there also is a threat of “unaffiliated persons planning attacks inspired by major terrorist organizations but conducted on an individual basis.”

U.S. citizens traveling abroad are urged to be vigilant in public places and on public transportation, and to avoid large crowds or crowded places.

“We continue to work closely with our allies on the threat from international terrorism,” the alert says. ” Information is routinely shared between the United States and our key partners in order to disrupt terrorist plotting, identify and take action against potential operatives, and strengthen our defenses against potential threats.”

The alert does not mention risks on U.S. soil.

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Astonished in the Swirl of Existence

[Editor's Note: This seemed a good entry for the Thanksgiving holiday (in the U.S., it is November 26th this year). We at Kavod v'Nichum wish all, whether you celebrate the event this week, at another time, or not at all, a time of blessings; love, plenty, prosperity, health, and most of all peace/Shalom.]

Here’s a paradox, and one that accounts for why any agreeable person would take on such work as preparing a body for burial, or in my case, serving as a hospice chaplain: being present to the dying the dead and the bereaved  has intensified my sense of being alive. Just as a contrary character in a novel can heighten the goodness of the hero, being near the dying or the dead can serve as a foil to life. Sometimes as I step outdoors after visiting a hospice patient, everything I encounter seems more firmly anchored in the here and now. Birdsong and the patter of rain make of me a rapt audience. A swaying traffic light beams out with more redness; a wind kicking up and vacillating between cool and cold bars my way from any warmer crosswinds. How can all this be happening around me while someone is about to cut loose from the moorings of her life?  I stand astonished amidst the swirl of existence.

Where does this intensity come from?  The closer I am to reading the end of a piece of fiction, the more weight the sentences bear. Each succeeding word seems to take on a deeper significance. When I am talking with someone who is nearing the end, whatever they are saying is more poignant given that backdrop. I think that is why so much is made of hearing a person’s “last words.” We assume they will be loaded with wisdom, or that they will enlighten us regarding something we had never understood about that person or about ourselves.

Members of a burial society (such as a chevrah kadisha in Jewish communities) and others of us who care for the dead and the bereaved, get a sneak preview of our own final crossing over the inscrutable edge between life and death. As with any rehearsal, we reap benefits that could never accrue if we were to simply improvise when the time came.

 

Rabbi and board certified Chaplain Karen B. Kaplan is author of “>Offbeat Compassion. The author announced the release of the audio version of   

 


 

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A Jewish Renewal Shabbaton with Reb Simcha Raphael

From Darkness to Light – Kabbalah and Practical Wisdom for End-of-Life Transitions

Rosh Hodesh Hanukah December 11-13, 2015

Sanctuary Retreat and Renewal Center 19520

Darnestown Road Beallsville, Maryland

Through study and story-telling, prayer, and meditation we shall explore the richness of Midrashic, Hasidic and Kabbalistic teachings dealing with the finality of life, journey of the soul after death and personal and communal responses to grief and to loss.

*  Transforming Darkness Into Light: Death, Destiny and the Calling of Our Lives”

*  “Do Not Go Gentle Into the Night”: Moses’ Death in Torah and Midrash – Contemporary Reflections”

*  Afterlife and Near-Death Experiences in Kabbalah – Practical Wisdom for End-of-Life Transition and Bereavement Care

*  End-of-Life Wisdom and Soul-Guiding in Hasidic Deathbed Stories

*  Contemplative and Joyous Renewal Davennen’

Full Program with Friday & Saturday night Lodging & 5 meals: $ 270 Early Bird ($300 after Nov 23rd) Commuter – Full Program with meals: $195 Early Bird ($225 after Nov 23rd)
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Reb Simcha Raphael, Ph.D., is Founding Director of the DA’AT INSTITUTE for Death Awareness, Advocacy and Training. Ordained as a Rabbinic Pastor by Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi, he teaches Jewish Mysticism at Temple University, works as a psychotherapist and spiritual director in Philadelphia, is a Fellow of the Rabbis Without Borders Network and is author of numerous publications including the ground-breaking Jewish Views of the Afterlife. His website is  

 

 

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Obama tells Americans homeland is safe as millions set off on Thanksgiving travel

President Barack Obama sought to reassure Americans they are safe on Wednesday as millions of people embarked on their annual Thanksgiving travels, with security at airports, New York City's parade festivities and other venues expected to be heightened amid jitters after the Paris attacks.

“We know of no specific and credible intelligence indicating a plot on the homeland,” Obama told reporters at the White House, flanked by his top counterterrorism and national security advisers.

“We are taking every possible step to keep our homeland safe,” he said. 

The FBI sent a bulletin earlier this week to police departments across the country warning of possible copycat incidents and sharing intelligence on how the assailants in Paris carried out attacks on Nov. 13 that killed 130 people.

The U.S. State Department also issued a world-wide travel alert on Monday warning American travelers to remain vigilant, particularly when visiting foreign countries.

However, New York City officials have stressed there is no specific threat to the city, despite a video released last week by the militant group Islamic State that included images of New York. Islamic State has claimed responsibility for the Paris attacks.

The Department of Homeland Security also said last Friday that there was no credible threat to the United States like the attacks in Paris. 

Nearly 46.9 million Americans will travel over the Thanksgiving long weekend – the busiest U.S. travel holiday of the year – with 3.6 million going by plane, according to the AAA, a motorist advocacy group.

Some travel analysts expected airport delays as a result of the heightened security. Officials at the Transportation Security Administration, which oversees airport security, declined comment. 

As many as 3.5 million people were expected to line the 2.5 mile (4-km) route of the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade in New York City on Thursday, according to parade organizers. Many were expected to head to Manhattan's Upper West Side on Wednesday to watch the giant parade balloons being inflated on the eve of Thursday's parade. 

The New York Police Department is ramping up its usual tight parade security, adding members of a new counterterrorism unit, officials said.

City officials have made numerous public appearances in recent days seeking to reassure New Yorkers and tourists.

“There remain no credible and specific threats against New York City,” Mayor Bill de Blasio told reporters on Monday. “I'm very, very confident in the NYPD's preparation for the parade.”

The 89th edition of the parade, which features 8,000 performers, kicks off holiday events in the city, including the lighting of the enormous Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center next week and the New Year's Eve celebration in Times Square.

More than five million visitors come to the city between Thanksgiving and New Year's Eve, according to the city's tourism agency. Chris Heywood, an agency spokesman, said all events are “business as usual.”

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What Obama did and didn’t say about Ezra Schwartz

How the Obama administration has handled last week’s murder in the West Bank of Ezra Schwartz, an 18-year-old from Sharon, Massachusetts, on his gap year in Israel, has raised painful questions among Jewish Americans upset by his senseless death.

“Obama Silent on Killing of American in Israel: Orthodox Jews Demand Answers” is the subject line of a pitch in my inbox from a publicist acting on behalf of the Orthodox Union.

That email is typical of much of what I see on my social media feeds, coming from across the political spectrum: Allison Kaplan Sommer raised questions about President Barack Obama’s response to Schwartz’s murder in the liberal Israeli daily, Haaretz.

In fact, Obama, or at least his administration, has not been silent. But how the administration has handled the murder of Schwartz, who was killed along with two other men by Palestinian terrorists, raises legitimate questions.

As happens so often in the Israel-Obama-Netanyahu relationship, fraught with emotion and expectations, some of the questions being asked are weirdly beside the point. They serve to obscure and distract from real questions about discrepancies between the Obama administration’s response to this attack compared to its response to similar acts around the world.

What’s beside the point

Timing: The attack that killed Schwartz occurred mid-morning Thursday Washington, D.C., time, and the teenager’s identity was confirmed mid-afternoon. The Obama administration’s condemnation, emailed to reporters and announced by State Department Deputy Spokesman John Kirby, came mid-afternoon Friday.

There was considerable consternation about the perceived delay (although Daniel Shapiro, the U.S. ambassador to Israel, condemned it almost immediately.) Just minutes before Kirby announced the condemnation, the Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations sent out a release: “We are deeply disappointed that the United States government has not issued a statement despite the death of an American citizen.”

On Tuesday, Nathan Diament, the OU’s Washington director, said in an e-mailed statement: “It seemed that neither the president nor his senior aides appreciate how devastating this particular attack was to the American Jewish community – and their slow, and still insufficient, response proves that.”

Yet, the delay is par for the course for administration statements, which are subject to a round robin of reviews by various bureaus and bureaucrats. Anything happening past early morning (9-9:30 a.m.) one day won’t get the statement treatment until the next afternoon, during the briefing, according to former State Department officials I’ve spoken with.

(There are exceptions, such as mass-casualty terrorist attacks – those in Paris and Mali earned immediate comment. But the consternation in this case has been less about how the administration has treated the attack, which was not on the scale of Mali or Paris, than about how it has treated Schwartz’s death.)

“A statement was made at the usual time for making comments or answering questions,” Mike Kraft, a former official with the State Department’s counterterrorism bureau, told me, repeating remarks he had posted on Facebook. “The pronouncements are originally drafted in one bureau or another and then have to be cleared with other parts of the department that are involved, such as the counterterrorism bureau, and the intelligence bureau.”

Consider the Nov. 13 Paris attacks: The revelation that American Nohemi Gonzalez was among the 129 people killed by terrorists came on Saturday evening, according to the CNN alert that popped into my inbox. The administration’s response, by John Kerry, the secretary of state, at a lighting ceremony at the Paris embassy, came almost two days later, on Monday afternoon, D.C. time.

Anita Datar, among at least 19 murdered Nov. 20 in Bamako, Mali, was mentioned, but not by name, by Susan Rice, the national security adviser in a tweet almost a day after the attack and by name on Nov. 22 by Obama in a press conference in Malaysia.

Tone: Sommer in Haaretz and Rabbi Moshe Teitelbaum of Young Israel of Lawrence-Cedarhurst in an openletter posted online by the OU were appalled by Kirby’s rushed reading of the condemnation.

“It is disturbingly shameful in its perfunctory tone and tenor,” Teitelbaum wrote.

Again, this kind of toneless reading is par for the course for administration briefings. Review the firstbriefing after the Nov. 13 Paris attacks, on Nov. 16: State Department Spokesman Mark Toner referred to the “terrible attacks of Friday night” and the “terrible tragedy” like he reading a menu at a Chinese restaurant.

Briefings are not for emoting, they’re a jousting match between reporters and the modern-day gladiators that are government spokespeople. Toner started the briefing – remember, the first after one of the worst attacks in postwar French history – by joking with visiting student reporters at the back of the room. “These are the people you aspire to be like someday,” Toner told the students, referring to his adversaries among the press corps.

What’s to the point

The bearer: Kirby’s toneless delivery is certainly par for the course, but that’s exactly why he – or any spokesperson – might have been the wrong choice to make the statement about Schwartz’s murder. The delay in first mentioning him was shorter than the delay before mentioning Gonzalez or Datar. But Kerry and Obama made those respective announcements, and they have the status (and know-how) to give condolences genuine feeling.

Kerry, notably, twice mentioned Schwartz in moving terms on Tuesday, during an official Israel visit, and Obama and Kerry on Monday both spoke with Schwartz’s parents.

Kerry, speaking during his meeting with Israeli President Reueven Rivlin, attached poignant significance to Schwartz’s mission when he was killed, delivering snacks to soldiers, and the former Massachusetts senator claimed Schwartz as a native son.

“When citizens can be murdered like Ezra Schwartz, my citizen of Massachusetts, driving in a car on a mission to learn and to share, and when other citizens can be gunned down, and a soldier yesterday, in a marketplace in Jerusalem, this is a challenge to all civilized people.”

What went unsaid: The original statement, delivered by Kirby was:

“We continue to condemn in the strongest possible terms these outrageous terrorist attacks. These tragic incidents underscore the importance of taking affirmative steps to restore calm, reduce tensions and bring an immediate end to the violence.”

Why was there no similar prescription for the violence in Paris and Bamako? Why was the implication that it is incumbent on all parties — including Israel — to prevent the violence that killed Schwartz?

It’s an implication that may explain Obama’s decision in his Nov. 22 press conference in Malaysia to mention Gonzalez and Datar – but not Schwartz, as Sommer points out.

Here are Obama’s remarks from that press conference:

“Today, families in too many nations are grieving the senseless loss of their loved ones in the attacks in France and in Mali. As Americans, we remember Nohemi Gonzalez, who was just 23 years old, a design major from California State University. She was in Paris to pursue her dream of designing innovations that would improve the lives of people around the world. And we remember Anita Datar of Maryland. She’s a veteran of the Peace Corps, a mother to her young son, who devoted her life to helping the world’s poor, including women and girls in Mali, lift themselves up with health and education.

“Nohemi and Anita embodied the values of service and compassion that no terrorist can extinguish. Their legacy will endure in the family and friends who carry on their work. They remind me of my daughters, or my mother, who, on the one hand, had their whole life ahead of them, and on the other hand, had devoted their lives to helping other people. And it is worth us remembering when we look at the statistics that there are beautiful, wonderful lives behind the terrible death tolls that we see in these places.”

The word “senseless” stands out; wasn’t Schwartz’s murder senseless?

Obama, perhaps inadvertently, in his joint press conference Tuesday with French President Francois Hollande, got at some of the distinctions between the attacks in Mali and France, and the one in Gush Etzion, saying:

“It’s been noted that the terrorists did not direct their attacks against the French government or military. Rather, they focused their violence on the very spirit of France — and by extension, on all liberal democracies. This was an attack on our free and open societies — where people come together to celebrate and sing and compete. In targeting venues where people come together from around the world — killing citizens of nearly 20 countries, including America — this was an attack on the very idea that people of different races and religions and backgrounds can live together in peace.”

Was the attack that killed Ezra Schwartz not “on the very idea that people of different races and religions and backgrounds can live together in peace?”

That’s a hard question, both for the Obama administration, and for those Jewish Americans wounded by the distinctions the Obama administration appears to be making. It’s one that deserves answering, not in hints, feints and wounded entreaties, but in open dialogue.

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After cancer, Thanksgiving will never be the same

In fiction, the scenario would seem implausible: While attempting to console my husband as his little sister drew her final breaths, I noticed an unfamiliar number flash across my screen. I let it go to voicemail. The number flashed again. It was my physician, who informed me when I called back that the morning’s ultrasound indicated that my persistent stomach aches weren’t caused by a virus after all, but likely by ovarian cancer. I had a variant of the same disease that would kill my 47-year-old sister-in-law as the sun set that Friday evening in February.

My world, already dimmed by the unimaginable loss of my sister-in-law Ali, darkened further into a nightmare that was beyond my comprehension.

In the blur of the months that followed, the tragedy of Ali’s death stayed in the furthest reaches of my mind. Likewise, I pushed thoughts of my own peril as far away as I could manage.

Many days I spent largely in bed. Some days the physical discomfort overtook me, and I would drop my body into child’s pose, waiting for medication to soften the pain. As the chemotherapy continued, new side effects emerged. I slept many hours, but fitfully. Some nights, the sweats of sudden menopause shook me awake as I tossed aside one set of pajamas after another.

By summer, after an eight-hour surgery and the resumption of chemo, I’d lost so much weight that I stared at my hollowed cheekbones with little recognition. In the mirror, my eyes appeared red-rimmed and naked, bereft of brows or lashes. I searched the reflection for vestiges of the old me.

And yet, once I learned that my cancer was beating a hasty retreat, my spirits stayed largely aloft. In my strange new universe, with few obligations other than getting well, almost every day became a day of thanksgiving. I would stare out the window of our new Upper West Side apartment, the home we’d moved into during that surreal week in winter when Ali died, admiring the sparkling Hudson River, meditating on the sparrows alighting on the bare branches, so grateful to be close to nature and living in the bustling city that I adore — grateful to be living at all.

I discovered that I was lucky in love. I already knew that I was deeply blessed with a husband and parents who would do anything for me, and with two healthy, gloriously growing children — who in appropriate adolescent fashion alternated between hugging and hating me.

But now I was basking in the warmth of an entire community, people from my daily life, as well as those who had vanished years before. Friends sent me lines of poetry and crafted personal prayers. We received a steady stream of food and flowers and favors.

One friend designed a felt banner emblazoned with a single word: “Courage.” Another sent over a Chabad rabbi to outfit every doorway of our new apartment with protective mezuzahs. Yet another visited several times a week to provide a “healing spa,” soothing my soul with the melodies of Rabbi Andrew Hahn, who goes by the moniker the Kirtan Rabbi. As the iPod played these Hebrew songs, which incorporate the sounds of India, my friend would carefully remove the fluid pressing against my lungs, draining it through catheters that protruded from my upper back.

Jewish tradition, often a source of comfort for me, didn’t play the supporting role I would have expected. I couldn’t get to synagogue much. Several rabbis reached out to me, but they mostly didn’t know what to say.

At the same time, gratitude is deeply embedded in Jewish practice — and finding something to appreciate even in the midst of great sorrow was tremendously uplifting. Jews are not meant to devote just one afternoon in November to thanksgiving, but every day of every year.

“Never once in my life did I ask God for success or wisdom or power or fame. I asked for wonder, and he gave it to me,” the theologian Abraham Joshua Heschel reportedly whispered from his sick bed.

Similarly, in “The Book of Blessings,” Marcia Falk writes, “In a richly faceted world, full of surprise and infinite variation, the source of blessings is everywhere to be found. No wonder the rabbis of the Talmud proclaimed it forbidden to enjoy anything of this world without first saying a blessing.”

I didn’t recite 100 blessings each day as traditional Jews strive to do; I didn’t even consciously aim for gratitude. Without warning, my first glimpse of budding flowers in spring made me sob, first because Ali didn’t get a chance to experience them, and then from my appreciation that I could.

The afternoon before Yom Kippur, I received my final infusion of chemotherapy. I’m in remission, officially. It is a time for rejoicing.

Nevertheless, as we approach the national Thanksgiving Day, I often find myself more anxious than ever.

In some respects, my days are starting to resemble those of my old life. I write a little; I exercise; I care for my children. Still, I sometimes feel as if I am masquerading as myself. I am disoriented, dislocated, changed in ways I find difficult to articulate. My future is more precarious than I ever imagined. Will meditation help? Therapy? A medical trial?

I am navigating the waters of my “new normal” without a captain, without a clear idea of which current to follow. I yearn for the calm I found earlier this year, when I simply followed my oncologist’s program, buoyed by the familiar rhythm of weekly chemo and doctors’ visits. Now I’m sometimes so fearful that I feel as if I can hardly breathe.

At other times, though, I am awed that I can fill my lungs with so much oxygen, and then expend it climbing the hills of Central Park at a blistering pace. Often, when I’m not hyperventilating with fear, I am filled with wonder at this season’s startling beauty.

I allow myself, for brief moments, to mourn the woman who sometimes felt like a sister to me. I want to call her to chat. We would have so much to share.

(Elicia Brown is a writer living in Manhattan.)

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Israeli soldier seriously wounded in Hebron-area stabbing attack

An Israeli soldier was seriously wounded in a stabbing attack near Hebron in the West Bank.

The Palestinian assailant, who according to reports pulled up to a traffic junction and exited from his car brandishing a knife, was shot by Israeli forces and seriously wounded following the Wednesday afternoon attack, according to the Israel Defense Forces. He was arrested, but later reportedly died of his wounds.

The soldier, a man reported to be in his 20s, was taken to Shaare Zedek Medical Center in Jerusalem with stab wounds to his upper body.

The attacker was identified by Ynet as Mohammad Shobaki, 19, from the Fawwar refugee camp located near the junction where the attack took place.

On Tuesday, four Israeli men were injured in a car-ramming attack at the Tapuah Junction in the northern West Bank.

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Iran to back Palestinians ‘in any way we can’: Khamenei

Iran's supreme leader said on Wednesday that Iran would support the Palestinian uprising against Israel “in any way we can”, and rejected U.S. accusations that a recent wave of Palestinian knife and car-ramming attacks amounted to “terrorism”.

Khamenei was speaking a day after U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry, during a visit to Israel and the Palestinian territories, described the spate of attacks as “terrorism” that should be condemned.

Israel and the United States have long accused Iran of supplying arms to the Palestinian Islamist group Hamas, considered by Washington as a terrorist organization. Tehran says it gives only moral, financial and humanitarian support.

“Despite all the efforts of the Arrogance (the United States) … and even with cooperation from Arab countries, the Palestinian intifada (uprising) has started in the West Bank,” state television quoted Ayatollah Ali Khamenei as saying.

“We will defend the movement of the Palestinian people with all of our existence, and in any way and as long as we can,” Khamenei reportedly told a gathering of the Basij, Iran's volunteer militia.

Khamenei criticized those who call Palestinians “terrorists” saying they were people protesting the occupation of their land.

Since Oct. 1, at least 86 Palestinians have been killed, some while carrying out lethal attacks on Israelis and others in clashes with Israeli forces. At least 19 Israelis and an American have been killed in Palestinian attacks.

The bloodshed has been fueled by Muslim agitation over increased Jewish visits to East Jerusalem's al-Aqsa mosque compound – Islam's third holiest place which is also revered by Jews as the site of two biblical-era temples.

The Palestinians are also frustrated by the failure of decades of peace talks to deliver them an independent state.

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Surviving crew member of Russian jet says no warning from Turkey

The surviving crew member of a Russian warplane shot down by Turkey said on Wednesday the plane received no warnings from the Turkish Air Force and did not fly over Turkish air space, Russian news agencies reported.

Turkey shot down the Russian plane near the Syrian border on Tuesday, saying it had violated its air space, in one of the most serious publicly acknowledged clashes between a NATO member country and Russia for half a century.

Navigator Konstantin Murakhtin was rescued by Russian and Syrian special forces after ejecting from the plane but the pilot was shot dead by rebels as he parachuted to the ground.

“There were no warnings, either by radio or visually. There was no contact whatsoever,” TASS quoted Murakhtin as saying at a hospital in the Syrian province of Latakia, where Russia has an airbase.

“If they wanted to warn us, they could have shown themselves by taking a parallel course. There was nothing. And the missile hit the tail of our aircraft suddenly, we did not see it in time to do an anti-missile maneuver.”

Ankara has said the plane was repeatedly warned to change course after encroaching on Turkish air space but Moscow has denied that its warplane flew over Turkish territory.

Murakhtin also said his jet did not leave Syrian airspace.

“I could see perfectly on the map and on the ground where the border was and where we were. There was no danger of entering Turkey,” he was quoted by Interfax as saying.

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