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April 18, 2015

Israel and Apartheid

Everyday I open the internet to read that Israel is an apartheid country. Although the BDS movement (Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions) is very small in number, it is getting a lot of press and its lies are repeated everywhere.  Left wing radical politicians all over the world  are calling Israel an apartheid country.  And the news media are too busy covering which latest basketball player is “schtupping” one of the Kardashians, can't be bothered to check the facts.

As an Israeli citizen living in Tel Aviv, I am going to keep it real and tell you the truth. What crack pipe are these people smoking from? Is their hatred of Israel and Jews so extreme that they make up complete lies, fabrications and partial truths just to distort reality. The Free Dictionary defines apartheid as “an official policy of racial segregation involving political, legal and economic discrimination.

First off, Israel is a democracy the only one in the Mid-East, and 1.8 million of her citizens (20% of the Israeli population) are Arab. Israeli Arabs have the right to vote, scream, curse, demonstrate and in the case of Knesset Member Hanan Zoabi, an Arab woman call for Israel's destruction and still serve in the Knesset.  Meanwhile, women in Saudi Arabia which bans women drivers, can't even drive a car.  63% of Israeli Arabs voted in the election last month. The Arab Joint List is now the third largest party in the Knesset. That is a higher turnout than in the average American election. An Israeli Arab Supreme Court Justice Salim Joubran was the Chairman of the Israeli Election Committee. Over 15% of the total votes casts for the winning right wing Likud Party were cast by Israeli Arabs. Huh?  But this is apartheid.

Living in Tel Aviv, I interact with Israeli Arabs everyday whether its on the phone with customer service or in supermarkets, stores, restaurants, at the bank or in the pharmacy.  One of my doctors that treated me at Ichilov Hospital during my recent surgery was an Israeli Arab as were some of the nurses. The patient in the next room was an Israeli Arab. I never saw signs at the hospital that said  “For Jews Only”.

The upscale gym where I am a member is about 10% Israeli Arab. We sweat and work out together. I never saw a sign on the bench press that said “For Jews Only”. Riding back to Tel Aviv from Haifa on a Saturday night, the train was a mix of soldiers going back to their bases and Israeli Arab Tel Aviv University students all sitting next to one another side by side.  Imagine that in apartheid Israel.  A few weeks ago walking home from Jaffa, I met a young Jordanian citizen who was so in love with Tel Aviv he wants to stay and work here. Let's speak “tachles”. Is there discrimination in Israel?  Yes, just like anywhere in the world. Is it wrong? Yes and I am ashamed every time I hear of an incident. Of course the same way I would be ashamed of racism in America.

While I was President of Hillel in my college in New Jersey in the age before the internet, I can tell you that Jews on campus were subject to many anti-Semitic incidents that today would make the news. One student who wore a kippah,  got his nose broken when someone threw a rock at him . He then transferred schools. Once the door to my dorm room was covered in swastikas. Another time the pizza delivery man screamed anti-Semitic comments at my friends while delivering pizza. Hatred happens everyday in America. Should we divest and boycott America?

But Israel is our home, so when it happens here- in our home -it brings shame upon all of us. Yes we still have social problems here. We have a ways to go in order to make the Israeli Arab population feel like they are really Israeli and not just in name only. But there are now more Israeli Arabs studying in universities, more Israeli Arabs volunteering to serve in the Israeli Army then anytime before. Israeli Arabs like Muhammad Zoabi, cousin of Knesset Member Hanan Zoabi, who begins his army service very shortly.   Proud Israeli Arab Muslim political activist Anett Haskia who sent all of her kids to the Israeli Army.  Israel had an Israeli Arab Miss Israel  Rana Raslan.  This week one of the torch lighters in the upcoming official Yom Ha'atzmaut celebration will be Lucy Aharish -the popular and sometimes controversial Israeli Arab newscaster and talk show host. But we are an apartheid country?

There will always be a few radical “Kapos”-self hating Jews like Yonatan Shapira, Gilad Atzmon and Ilan Pappe, who make a very good living speaking against the State of Israel to the delight of anti-Semites everywhere much like seals performing for their food. They are all a few french fries short of a happy meal.

But for all its faults and there are quite a few, the democratic State of Israel is not racist. And the 1.8 million Israeli Arabs are free to live however they choose. Which is a choice that Jews living in most Arab countries didn't have -since they were forced to leave. How many Jews remain in Iraq, Libya, Syria, Lebanon, Algeria, Yemen, Egypt or Tunisia?  A choice that Jews can't have in Saudi Arabia, a country that bans Jews. But oh ya I forgot, that's acceptable because the Saudis are “our eternal friends” so its “cool” that Jews are forbidden. Most of the Middle East is now “Judenfrei” (free of Jews) but in the blind eyes of some, Israel is an apartheid state.  I understand.

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Q&A: Iranian Jewish Filmmaker Lila Yomtoob on “America 1979” film

In 2007 I had the special opportunity to interview Lila Yomtoob, a New York based filmmaker who became the first Iranian Jew in the U.S. to win an Emmy. She received the award for her sound editing work on the HBO television documentary film “Baghdad ER”. Since then she has gone on to continue a successful career in the entertainment industry and made her own independent films.

Again I recently sat down with her to discuss her latest short film “America 1979” which reflects on the life of an Iranian immigrant family living in the U.S. during the U.S. hostage crisis in Iran. The film focuses on the difficulties a young Iranian American girl encounters from her schoolmates during the hostage crisis. The film has screened at the Screen Actors Guild Short Film Showcase (NYC), the Noor Iranian Film Festival in Los Angeles and will screen on April 28 at the Los Angeles Asian Pacific Film Festival.

The following is a portion of my conversation with Yomtoob…

 

You were very young during the Iranian hostage crisis in 1979-1980, what motivated you to do a short film about the impact of the crisis on Iranians living in the U.S. at that time?

At a certain point, I realized that the crisis had affected me, even as a young child. It turns out that I’m not the only one who feels this way, it’s just that no one talks about it. I think this time in our history as Iranian Americans deserves a dialogue. Also, I realized that the same story keeps happening – after 9/11 middle-eastern young people and families were affected in the same ways. That’s why the story is still relevant.

In your short film “America 1979” you tell the story through the eyes and experiences of a young girl. Why did you choose the perspective of a child to share this experience that mostly older Iranian Americans experienced at that time?

Kids repeat stuff in school they hear at home, and parents are on edge. It’s easy to think that kids aren’t affected, and it’s important to acknowledge that they are, because kids carry and process things differently than adults do.  In making this story about Regina and her brother Bobby, I could address a controversial issue in a softer, perhaps more digestible way. It’s also a bit of homage to Iranian cinema in the way that a lot of Iranian cinema uses stories staring children to represent deeper issues that can’t be expressed because of censorship.

In your film you do not identify the religion of the Iranian family. You hail from an Iranian Jewish background yourself, why did not choose to specifically tell the Iranian Jewish experience in America in 1979 during the hostage crisis?

This was a difficult choice. At the end of the day, this movie is a slice of life showing how an Iranian American family coped with the personal fallout of the crisis. Religion is such a hot button topic, and I didn’t want alienate any potential viewers by making the family Jewish –  or Muslim or Bahai for that matter.

Getting funding and making an independent film is not easy, can you please share a little bit with us about the journey for this film?

We had a very successful Indiegogo crowd funding campaign to help fund the film, and have received three grants – The Brooklyn Arts Council, New York State Council on the Arts, and the Puffin Foundation. We were very lucky to have powerhouses Ali Reza Farahnakian  and Sondra James join our cast, and work with other award winning talent like our composer  Lev “Ljova” Zhurbin, who has works with Francis Ford Copolla amongst others, our DP Adrian Correia, who had two films at SxSW this year. We’ve created a nice community around the film, it’s the most I could hope for. 

Many Iranian Americans who lived in the U.S. during the late 1970s and early 1980s experienced significant backlash from average Americans because of the situation with the American hostages. Yet many of these same Iranian Americans I have spoken to today consider this past history and do not want to relive or remember this sad period in time. So why did you decide to bring up this subject matter in the public eye?

When I was fundraising for this film, I had a few older Iranian Americans get mad at me, literally scold me, for wanting to make this film. This reaction was just as important as younger people telling me that they wish they knew more about what their parents went through, because no one talks about it. Not to mention the people who thanked me for telling this story, because it isn’t talked about. Clearly, it needs to be talked about! All of these reactions inspired me to make this film, hoping that people would talk. Or at least allow themselves to feel.  I’m looking forward to having community screenings, where this can be explored further.

There are not that many Iranian Jews in the entertainment industry nowadays because of the taboo from many Iranian Jewish families who wish to see their children in professional high paying careers. Do you see this changing in the near future? What do you think will bring down this community taboo?

It’s tough to say. I am seeing more Iranian voices emerge and I think it’s very exciting and interesting. I think the more Iranian Americans make themselves visible in the arts, and the more we support each other, the more it will encourage others to follow their passions.

In 2007 you won an Emmy award for your sound editing work for an HBO film and you’ve worked in the industry successfully since then. What projects or stories do you personally want to pursue in the realm of film or television?

I would love for America 1979 to become a television miniseries. I also have a few comedy scripts, and a few documentary ideas about the Iranian American community that I would like to pursue. One of those is the America 1979 documentary archive, which would be a series of interviews with Iranians telling their personal stories about life around the crisis.

 

For more information on Yomtoob’s film visit the America 1979 site.

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A New Baby – Mazel Tov! -12 Tips to Prepare Your Toddler

You’re having another baby – how exciting! So when is the right time to tell your toddler they are going to be a big brother or sister? Nine months can seem like an eternity. But you have to remember, until the big day arrives, your toddler really won’t get it until the baby comes home and the chaos begins.

Here are 12 tips to prepare your toddler:

1. It’s never a good idea to spring something new on your toddler as soon as the little blue line appears on your pregnancy test. A good rule of thumb is to start sharing the good news sometime in the middle or end of the second trimester. If you have morning sickness, fatigue, or have symptoms that may affect your toddler’s daily routine, you may not be able to wait.  But know you will have many discussions, one time won’t do it!

2. If you are anxious about your pregnancy, please be careful not to let it spill over into the discussions. It is not necessary to share all the details with your toddler. Share your nervousness with your doctor, partner or a friend.

3. Discuss this event with age appropriate descriptions. And remember, sometimes less is best. Too many details are just not necessary. Let your toddler’s age and comfort level govern your discussions.

4.  If your toddler is three or older, bring him or her to your doctor’s appointment to hear the heartbeat or feel the baby kick. You want your firstborn to feel like an important part of this wonderful event.

5.  Get a few age appropriate books about siblings from the library and read them together. Or check out these great books on Amazon.

6. Ask your toddler to help you go through his or her baby toys and put them in a special place for the new baby.

7. If you have friends with new babies, plan a visit so your toddler can get a first-hand look and maybe even hold the baby with your supervision, of course.

8. If your toddler will be staying at grandmas or a friend’s house while you are in the hospital, do a dry run. And remember, this is not the time to hire a new baby sitter.

9. Take your toddler to the store to buy a special “welcome home” gift for the new baby. And make sure that you buy one from the baby for the big brother or sister.

10.  If your toddler will be moving into a “big girl or boy bed” before the baby arrives, allow at least three months for this transition. There is nothing worse than having two little ones crying in the middle of the night!

11. If your toddler will be going to preschool when the baby arrives, leave plenty of time to make this change. And start slowly if possible, maybe 2 mornings a week and then add more.

12. Most of all, once the new baby arrives, don’t feel guilty about not having the same amount of time to spend with your firstborn. As you adjust to having two children, plan a special time just for you and your toddler each week. Quality versus quantity! And don’t forget to say lots of “I Love You’s!”

• For more great tips to help prepare your toddler for a new sibling check out “Take That Baby Back” in Help! My Toddler Came Without Instructions.

 

Blythe Lipman, President and Founder of Baby Instructions based in Scottsdale, Arizona, is a nationally recognized baby and toddler expert, a parenting consultant, an author of three award-winning books, Help! My Baby Came Without Instructions,  More…Help! My Baby Came Without Instructions, and Help! My Toddler Came Without Instructions, a teacher, a caregiver, a keynote speaker, a blogger AND host of Baby and Toddler Instructions, a weekly Parenting Internet talk radio show which airs live every Wednesday at 11:00 am EST on itunes and Toginet  She is owner of the online parenting magazine My Best Parenting Advice and the site Baby Instructions.  Schedule an appointment with Blythe if you need some parenting help. 480-510-1453.

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