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April 24, 2013

The Ins and Outs of Group Health Insurance

Q. What advantages are there by belonging to a group plan?

Well for one, in most cases, your employer will pay most of your monthly premium if not all of it. More money in your pocket is good… You’ll still be responsible for copays and coinsurance but your definite costs are being paid for by the group policy.

Secondly, group plans are guaranteed issue.  Meaning, the insurance carrier can’t deny one particular employee due to a preexisting condition. This is good as well.

Therefore, group plans are ideal for businesses that want to attract talented employees by offering them health insurance at no cost.  It entices the potential employee to your company over someone else’s.

Q. What disadvantages are there in a group plan?

Some companies will deduct money from your payroll in order to pay for your health insurance policy.  Though, if it is only part of the cost, you’re usually better off staying in the group.

In addition, some group plans don’t have the rich benefits that Medicare has. This means that not only is it a lot cheaper for employees over the age of 65 to be on a Medicare approved plan (instead of the group plan), but the monthly premiums, deductible, copays and coinsurance can be a lot more expensive with a group plan. Essentially, you’re paying more and getting less. For this reason many seniors who are still working will disenroll from their group plan and enroll into Medicare along with a Medicare Advantage or supplemental policy (see my blog relating to Medicare Advantage vs. Supplement – or email me directly).

Q. What is the definition of a group health insurance plan?

A group health insurance plan is a policy for two or more people who are connected not for the sole purpose of getting a group health policy. They either belong to a club or, in most scenarios; they work for the same company.

Anyone in the group can apply. It is illegal to discriminate against anyone in the plan for any reason. All must be afforded the option.

Q. What is the SHOP?

The SHOP is the Small Business Health Options Program. It is a government exchange that will go live three months before 2014 so that small businesses (under 50 employees) can shop for group health insurance plans. Some businesses may get a 50% tax credit for going through the exchange!

Q. Who in 2014 must provide a group health plan for their employees?

In 2014 any company with more than 50 employees must provide AFFORDABLE health insurance to their employees. If they do not provide affordable health insurance the company will be penalized for each employee after their first thirty employees.

Please comment with any questions or feedback you’d like to share…

All the best,
Shmully

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Nazi role-playing at Santa Monica High School causes stir

Generally, expert advisers counsel against teaching about the Holocaust by having students do exercises that re-create the experience. Role-play activities can reinforce negative views, stereotype group behavior and are pedagogically unsound, according to the Anti-Defamation League.

Yet some teachers leading classes on the Shoah have used such techniques, including re-creating the experience of being transported in cattle cars by having students cram into a small space, or holding the better-known “blue eyes-brown eyes” activity, with the teacher giving fewer privileges to the students with brown eyes. 

Two weeks ago, a class at Santa Monica High School was asked to participate in an exercise in which students were instructed to create propaganda posters and campaign speeches on behalf of the Nazis, and to present their material to the class.

“Your job is to get people to join your organization,” the assignment stated.

Shannon Halley-Cox, a ninth-grade social studies teacher, gave the assignment to about 40 students during an April 12 class as part of the freshman seminar standards, which encourages students to “confront the complexities of history” by analyzing such topics as the Holocaust, the American eugenics movement and racial tensions in Los Angeles, according to the Santa Monica High Web site. Santa Monica High School, one of three high schools in the Santa Monica-Malibu Unified School District, has a student population of 3,100 in grades nine through 12. 

This assignment — first reported on lukeford.net, a blog by Luke Ford that focuses on the Los Angeles Jewish community — echoes an incident that had occurred earlier this month at a high school in Albany, N.Y. There, an English teacher instructed students to write essays convincing the Third Reich of their loyalty by arguing why Jews are evil, based on Nazi propaganda.

According to The New York Times, which reported on the incident, the Albany high school teacher is facing disciplinary action. 

The Santa Monica High case prompted the teacher, Halley-Cox, to apologize to Ethan Milius, the parent of a student who complained about the assignment. Milius e-mailed the Journal copies of the assignment and the apology. 

Terry Deloria, assistant superintendent to the Santa Monica-Malibu Unified School District, said Halley-Cox’s “assignment specifically prohibited students from using any negative words about those that were persecuted or words that would promote violence or hatred.” Deloria denied that “students [were] asked to act out, role play or simulate being a part of these groups.”

By having students create their own Nazi propaganda, Halley-Cox sought to answer the question of why Germans in the 1930s were either bystanders or sympathizers to Nazi atrocities, the teacher explained in an e-mail exchange with Milius.

“The point of the assignment is to answer the question, ‘How could German citizens sit back and let the Holocaust happen?’ ” Halley-Cox wrote in an e-mail.

Milius’ daughter, Stephanie, is Jewish and a student in the seminar class where the assignment was given. Milius said that he understands the teacher’s intentions, but he does not think the assignment accomplished its stated purpose. 

“What possible lesson does an impressionable 15-year-old derive from pretending to be a Nazi German and telling her fellow students to pretend to have racist beliefs that resulted in the deaths of millions of Jews?” he said in an interview with the Journal. “There’s nothing you can learn from that.” 

Next year, students in the school’s freshman seminar class won’t be developing their own propaganda, Deloria says. “Upon reflection, the freshman seminar teacher team feels they can accomplish the same learning outcomes next year by having students view primary sources of historical propaganda,” Deloria said.

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Moving and Shaking: Jewish leaders celebrate Yom HaZikaron, Milken students discuss Yom HaShoah

Israel Consul General in Los Angeles David Siegel Photo by Orly Halevy

Leaders from Los Angeles’ Jewish and Israel communities came together to celebrate Yom HaZikaron, Israel’s Memorial Day for its fallen soldiers and victims of terror, on April 14 at Stephen S. Wise Temple in Bel Air. The Consulate General of Israel in Los Angeles organized the evening ceremony, which took place on the eve of the holiday. Speakers included Israel Consul General in Los Angeles David Siegel. Miri Nash, executive director of the Western Region of Friends of the Israel Defense Forces (FIDF), laid down a wreath to commemorate the dead. Established in 1981 by a group of Holocaust survivors, the FIDF provides for the well-being of the men and women who fight in the Israel Defense Forces and for the families of fallen soldiers


Milken students meet with Holocaust survivors and husband and wife Arnold and Isolde Schwartzman. Photo courtesy of Remember Us: The Righteous Conversations Project

During the week of Yom HaShoah (Holocaust Remembrance Day), teenagers from Milken Community High School discussed that time in history with several survivors. During a four-day workshop held April 8-11 at Milken’s campus in Bel Air, 15 students, four filmmakers and four teachers met with four Holocaust survivors to engage in conversation about the impact and responsibility of communal memory. The event was part of the Righteous Conversations Project, which facilitates dialogue between survivors and teens. At the gathering, posters from “Voices & Visions,” a poster art campaign involving quotes from notable Jewish thinkers, added a layer to the workshop’s exploration into the role of media messages in today’s world. Attendees included Los Angeles filmmaker and “Voices” artistic director Arnold Schwartzman, who served as the workshop artist-in-residence, and his wife, Isolde.


Dan Friedman

The Silverlake Independent Jewish Community Center (SIJCC) has named Dan Friedman as its program director. The New Jersey native, who was hired in mid-February and will oversee community programming implemented by the SIJCC and East Side Jews, previously served as producing director at the
Greenway Arts Alliance and as the program director at the Sholem Community. “I am excited about working in this position,” Friedman said. “The vibrant, unique people and energy that makes up the East Side of Los Angeles is packed with creative voices and people excited to engage in discourse and build a community.”


This month, the West Coast Region of American Friends of Ramban Hospital named Steven Karash as its new director. The former executive vice president of advertising and marketing for the Jewish Journal, Karash spent the majority of his career on the staff of the New York Times Media Group in Los Angeles, where he held sales and management positions.

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Translating Ideas into Words

By Ben Spielberg

Despite all the propaganda, I never believed that drugs could harm my brain. The egg thrown on a frying pan commercial was too hyperbolic to be realistic, the old Peter Jennings-MDMA-brain-lesions theory was long debunked, and all the writers and musicians I admired spent more time intoxicated than they had sober. I thoroughly read through chemical compositions of my favorite drugs and looked for hints of neuronal death. I found little actual evidence, and I continued using drugs.

It wasn’t until sobriety that I recognized the extent of my memory loss. Blurred experiences became reinforced into virtual non-existence. Faces of people whom I’d met when I wasn’t even using drugs became lost. Recalling any character from a movie was a triumph for me.

Memory is only a part of executive function, but it is very much the foundation of it–the more things one can “hold” at once means that more concepts, ideas, and people can become correlated. One of the major complaints that I’ve heard throughout the past year is the difficulty in translating ideas into words, and feelings into phrases. This is very much the “recall” aspect of memory, in which one is forced to pull into their bank of words and grasp one.

In reality, it may have not been just the drugs that led to my executive dysfunction. It very well could have been my behavior; doing nothing all day does not generally lead to mental stimulation. Luckily, most of these things can come back as one recovers–you just have to think a little harder than before.

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What if they gave a festival and too few came?

Israel's big 65th Birthday bash was this past Sunday and Israeli blue and white flags fluttered in the breeze on a beautiful day in Rancho Park. The park was  transformed into Israel as the smell of Israeli food wafted through the air as Israeli music blared and Hebrew was everywhere. Except, it felt like a small Israeli village instead of Tel Aviv because the park was nearly empty.

Before I criticize the fact that only 10,000 people attended (I am being generous) I need to congratulate the festival organizers the Israeli American Council (IAC) and festival producer Adee Drory because it was a first rate festival on production values alone. From very easy parking and fast shuttle buses ( not even waiting a minute) to the beautiful decorations,stages, entertainment and the first ever outdoor bar, it was first class production all the way and for that I say “Kol Hakavod” (all the power).

HOWEVER…… the festival lacked people and this is what I need to talk about. The attendance was way down from last year's 15,000+ in a city that boasts over 550,000 Jews and tens of thousands of Israelis (both legal and illegal ok I'll be pc and say undocumented) happy? Now first off, the festival had the misfortune of being of falling on the same week as the tragic terrorist attack in Boston. And despite being a hardy bunch many Israelis and Americans stayed home letting their fears get the best of them.  Many families didn't want to take a chance with their kids and refused to go. Who can blame them?  I am single and I am only responsible for myself.  I don't have kids, so I can't criticize.

Now the biggest reason families didn't show up was the cost. The IAC took control over the festival two years ago and moved it to Rancho Park. The festival  which was for many years in the Valley, used to be only a few shekels for admission and families came en masse with grills, picnic baskets and it was a “hafla” in the park.

No mas! The new festival does not allow anything to be brought into the park. Nada, Klum, Zilch, so families are forced to buy all their food and drink in the park. At $20 per person cover and $10 per child it can get very expensive. Yes they do have family of 4 discounts of $43 but I digress.

Now add $10 for parking, another $20 for rides for each kid, and another $15 per person for food and drink and it can get very expensive.

And this is where the IAC has lost touch with the average Shlomo.  Many Israeli as well as many American families are struggling to make ends meet. Many families do not have $200 to spend the day in “little Tel Aviv”.  The festival organizers need to reduce the cover and I promise double or triple the crowd will show up. Celebrating Israel shouldn't be just for the rich. Remember most of us here are the “amcha” (the simple people). Moreover, the Israeli community is taken for granted. They should be invited not just placing colorful ads up with the festival info expecting people to show up but inviting them to feel apart of something special.

Next, more effort must be made to attract American Jews. The Westside, which is about 80% Jewish (okay, I exaggerate, but there's A LOT) should attract tens of thousands to a fun Jewish day in the park if they felt included and there was something in it for them. There are thousands of Russian Jews in LA who were not present . Why? They are huge supporters of Israel and many have relatives there. Russians have transformed Israel into a first class country.  Why not have a Russian stage and Russian community things to do at the festival to attract the regular Vadim's and Marina's of the community. More effort must be made to attract this community. 

Equally, the Persian Jewish community numbering at least  20,000 people should show up en masse as well.  So too the Evangical Christians. They love Israel and the Jewish people. This is a win- win situation for all involved.

In the weeks before the Festival the organizers did exhaustive outreach to many parts of the community.  They generated buzz and excitement. But at the end of the day, what matters is who actually walks through the gates.  

There should be no reason why the festival can't attract 50,000 people or more. It's in the realm of possibility. Now having organized and produced Israel's 50th anniversary festival in the San Gabriel and Pomona Valley for the Jewish Federatiion there,  I know how much hard work and effort was made to produce this festival. I can tell you that I collapsed on stage during that festival and was in bed for 5 days afterwards because of exhaustion. 

The only “fedechas” ( f…up) of this near perfect production was an Israeli singer who shall remain nameless, who sang the National Anthem in such poor English the crowd was roaring with laughter. They should have a big American celebrity to sing this not an Israeli. Remember be more inclusive.  Moreover, they should have a red carpet full of American celebrities to attend this community event like we did when created ” Live for Sderot” when I worked at the Israeli Consulate. We had over 60 celebrities walk the red carpet. They can have a VIP tent and charge money to drink with the celebrities.  And lastly, limit the speeches on stage to no more than 2 minutes. Less is better. I get it — Jews like to talk — but enough.

I hope the IAC listens and hears what I am telling them, so that next year the festival will draw tens of thousands of people and the community will have a beautiful festival  for the people to enjoy it.

 

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Losing Gammi

Several weeks ago on Shabbat Chol HaMoed Pesach my grandmother Marie Lebovitz passed away.  We all lovingly called her Gammi.  My Dad asked me to officiate the funeral.  Although I had never officiated a funeral before, I said yes.  I would do anything for my father.  And thanks to Rabbi Nicole Guzik’s coaching ahead of time and Rabbi Vernon Kurtz’s mentorship before and during the funeral, I was able to officiate the ceremony.

I eulogized my grandmother. Like all of my grandparents, she had survived the Holocaust.  And like all of my grandparents, Gammi was not a survivor.  She was a prevailer.  Her toughness allowed her to prevail over the Nazis even though she lost so much family.  Her toughness allowed her to come to a new country and start a family.  Her toughness allowed her to walk up to a young, good looking Jewish guy dressed in a Russian uniform and offer to sell him cigarettes and then demand that he take her with him to America.  Thank G-d she did— He was my grandfather, Ba.

And after the service, we sat Shiva and in many ways I thought the process unfolded perfectly according to the wisdom of the Rabbis.

And then this past week, one night my four-year-old daughter began to sob that she would never see Gammi again.  Whatever it was that set the crying off (and my wife and I are still not sure), we were not prepared for it.  Having not been at the funeral, she needed a way to say goodbye.  Between her sobbing she asked, “How do I call Gammi to say goodbye if Gammi is with G-d?”

I tried every explanation you could think of.  Gammi will always be with us.  If you close your eyes hard enough you can see Gammi.  Just say goodbye and Gammi will hear you.  But nothing could satisfy her.  My daughter wanted to make Gammi a goodbye card and give it to her.

It was then that my wife and I offered to tape the card onto a balloon.  Without even having to finish explaining our plans, my daughter surmised that the balloon would fly up to heaven.

You see, much like my personal story, three weeks ago we read in Parshat Shemini (Lev. 10) that Aaron’s two sons Nadav and Avihu each lost their lives.  And this week’s Parshat Acharei Mot begins “The L-rd spoke to Moses after the death of the two sons of Aaron… Thus shall Aaron enter the Sanctuary…” (Lev.16:1-3).  It is here that G-d describes a new type of ceremony that we know today as Yom Kippur.

I would like to think that this new ceremony established hope for Aaron.  I would like to think that it rekindled his love for G-d and trust in the Holiness Code.  Here, G-d shows that there will indeed be a place for judgment and reflection, and G-d understands that we as humans need both.

I want to think that Parshat Acharei is placed here for a reason—To create a connection that establishes Yom Kippur as our next big goal after the celebration of Pesach is over.  On Yom Kippur we look at G-d as the truthful judge.  On Pesach we look at G-d as our savior.

Before the funeral, during the “Kriyah” (tearing of the cloth), the mourners say the blessing “Baruch atah… Dayan Ha’Emet” or “Blessed are you G-d… the Truthful Judge” – Just like on Yom Kippur.  And then during every Kaddish during the year, the mourner says “Yitgadal V’Yitkadash Shmei Rabah” or “His name should be mighty and sanctified” – Just like on Pesach.

Ba and Gammi used to take such pride in making their Pesach Seders and I used to take such pride in standing next to them during Yom Kippur.  These holidays and all of the ceremonies in the Torah – They end up being the basis for so many family memories, so many community memories.

Because that’s what true community is.  Our fellow Jews form our sanctuary today.  It’s where we celebrate Pesach and Yom Kippur… And Gammi.  It’s where we throw candy for Simchas and where we cry during mourning.  We think of those who are standing with us and those who once stood by our sides.  That special quality, that special feeling, that’s what Yidishkeit demands from a community.

Although the Torah doesn’t say it, I can assure you that Nadav and Avihu heard their father Aaron’s prayers.  And although I have no proof, I can tell you with all of my Rabbinic training and with all of my studying and with all of my Emunah, my faith, that my daughter’s card was carried to heaven on the balloon.

Thank you G-d for directing the balloon.  Thank you Gammi for accepting the card.

I pray that Gammi’s memory blesses all of us with connection.  A connection that not only bonds us as a community but a real covenant that bonds us across generations all the way back to Aaron and the community at Mount Sinai.

I love you Gammi, always and forever.

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It’s official: Kate Upton isn’t going to Jake Davidson’s prom

So, 17-year-old Milken Community High School senior Jake Davidson won’t be putting a corsage on Sports Illustrated swimsuit model Kate Upton’s wrist, after all.

On April 24, Davidson told the Journal that the American model and actress has turned down the invitation to his high school prom – this despite the viral success of Davidson’s March 17 YouTube video where he asked Upton to go out with him (the video has racked up more than 2.5 million views to date), Upton’s tweet on March 19, “you can call me Katie if you want! How could I turn down that video! I'll check my schedule ;)” and a March 20 “The Today Show” episode where Upton phoned in unannounced to tell Davidson, “I absolutely loved the video” and led Davidson–and everyone watching–to believe that she might actually go with him.

Davidson is taking the rejection like a good sport.

“While I would have loved for Kate to come to my prom, I understand she is a very busy and in demand professional and I am so grateful for Kate responding at all,” he said in an email.

Upton’s camp could not be reached immediately on Wednesday afternoon for comment.

The Los Angeles Times reported on March 26 that Upton turned down Davidson’s request due to her schedule being booked, but, speaking to the Journal three days later, Davidson said her official reply remained a maybe. Well, now we know for sure it’s not happening.

In related news, Los Angeles actress Jessica Rachel’s parody of Davidson’s video is getting some buzz.

“I know I may not be a famous swimsuit model, but I do look pretty terrific in a bikini,” Rachel says in “Kate Upton Says No – Bikini Babe says ‘Yes Jake Davidson.'” (Warning: Rachel's video contains some sexual images.)

Even if he didnt get the prom date he'd hoped for, Davidson still adores Upton.

“I appreciate everything she did as it made my senior year really surreal,” he said. “She really is awesome!”

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BDS campaign spreads with little effect

The multinational boycott campaign targeting Israel, aimed at stopping the country’s perceived injustices against Palestinians, has a venerable history, but the movement showed a new spurt of activism this month.

Most of the attention has focused on the University of California and its campuses, two of which have just come down on opposite sides of the issue following emotional, all-night debates.

On April 18, the student senate at UC Berkeley voted 11-9 in favor of a resolution calling on the statewide UC administration to divest of stock in American companies providing technology or weapons used by the Israeli military in the Palestinian territories.

One week earlier, the UC Santa Barbara student senate defeated a similar resolution aimed at “companies profiting from the illegal occupation of Palestine,” by an even thinner margin of 11-10, with one abstention.

Previously, divestment petitions were approved by the student governments at the UC San Diego and Irvine campuses, as well as at UC Riverside, but the latter group reversed its stand in a subsequent vote.

The Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement originated in the 1990s in a worldwide campaign to pressure the white minority regime in South Africa to change its apartheid policies discriminating against the majority black population.

When that campaign was seen as successful, some of its methods and techniques were adopted and re-aimed at the Israeli government as the primary target.

In 2002, the student governments at Harvard and the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) passed divestment-from-Israel resolutions, and some major church bodies in the United States and Canada followed suit in 2004.

The resurgence of the BDS movement at some of the 10 University of California campuses has raised questions as to its effectiveness and its impact on Jewish students.

In terms of practical results, the BDS campaigns have not realized their professed goal of changing Israeli policy by hitting the country, and foreign companies trading with it, in the pocketbook.

As far as the record shows, not a single university administration in the United States has accepted or acted on the various resolutions passed by their respective student bodies.

Typical is the response of UC’s governing body, the Board of Regents, which in 2010 adopted a policy statement introduced by its chair and vice chair, together with UC President Mark Yudof.

Noting the Regents’ existing policy of divesting only “when the U.S. government declares that a foreign regime is committing acts of genocide,” the statement declared, “We must take great care that no one organization or country is held to a different standard than any other.

“In the current resolutions voted by the UC student organizations, the State of Israel and companies doing business with Israel have been the sole focus. This isolation of Israel among all countries of the world greatly disturbs us and is of grave concern to members of the Jewish community.”

Even the BDS Web site, which lists every commercial, academic, government or artistic boycott move across the world in great detail, makes no claim of actual divestment by an American university.

In a month-by-month compilation of achievements in 2012, BDS lists numerous resolutions and petitions, but its closest claim to concrete success in academe is the action by the University of Glasgow (Scotland) in dropping Israel-produced Eden Spring Water from its cafeterias.

Much harder to gauge is the movement’s impact in fomenting anti-Israel sentiment and actions on campuses, as well as the impact on the comfort level of their Jewish students.

UC President Yudof, after hearing reports of harassment of Jewish students, particularly during campus “Palestine Awareness” weeks, and lack of response by campus administrators, appointed a committee in 2010, which interviewed Jewish students on six campuses over a seven-month period.

The voluminous study yielded a number of conclusions and recommendations, some controversial, and emphasized two points: Political and social opinions among Jewish students were diverse, and often opposed, even on the Israel-Palestinian conflict; and while many such students felt resentment and outrage at some of the charges and attacks by Muslim student groups, none of the Jews interviewed felt in physical danger on campus.

Veteran journalist Dina Kraft, who has reported for The New York Times and the Jewish Journal, among others, last month interviewed a number of students involved on both sides of the BDS issue for the Israeli daily Haaretz.

Kraft asked whether the movement will now spread to colleges in other parts of the country and got one answer from Amal Ali, president of Students for Justice in Palestine at UC Riverside.

“The University of California has been at the forefront of social protest movements, so when any campus here makes any statement, the rest of the country listens. … This is the beginning, not the end,” she said.

Rabbi Chaim Seidler-Feller, Hillel executive director at UCLA, said he believed at this point the BDS movement was targeting the UC campuses as a testing ground, before deciding whether to expand the campaign nationally. A similar view was expressed by Rabbi Evan Goodman, Hillel executive director at UC Santa Barbara.

Seidler-Feller also noted that an attempt to introduce a divestment resolution at UCLA two weeks ago didn’t get off the ground, thanks largely to preventive moves by Jewish students.

For her part, Kerri Copans, the Hillel director at UC San Diego, emphasized that the BDS movement “does not define the Jewish experience on campus … we have a vibrant community,” she told Kraft.

Copans said that her group is countering the calls for divestment with a plan for investment by helping to create a university scholarship for students, Jewish or not, to study in Israel.

One of the most interesting viewpoints on the BDS confrontations came from Meggie Le, president of the Associated Students at UC San Diego and the 21-year-old daughter of Vietnamese immigrants.

She had worked hard, initially, to tone down and then to defeat the divestment resolution, explaining, “I believe that divestment is horrible for the campus climate. … It divides people on cultural identities, and I don’t believe that’s OK,” she told Kraft.

The reaction to this stand illustrates the intense emotions triggered by the BDS confrontations, with Le noting that she has been the object of persistent verbal abuse by pro-divestment advocates.

In the month preceding the UC San Diego vote on the issue, Le said, she received 11,000 e-mails on the issue from Congress and community members, faculty, students and others.

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Obituaries

Regina Adatto died Jan. 20 at 85. Survived by daughter Carol (Chuck) Rozner; 3 grandchildren. Groman Eden

Bernice Beck died March 7 at 92. Survived by daughters Barbara (Peter) Goodkin, Susan Weiland; son Robert (Marti); 6 grandchildren; 2 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Sally Beck died March 12 at 77. Survived by daughters Barbara Deridder, Judy Lebron; sons David, Jeff, Robert (Kristina); 11 grandchildren; 14 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Jean Bowman died March 4 at 103. Survived by daughter Muriel (Charles) Kahsen; son Robert; 5 grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Mara Brener died Feb. 27 at 60. Survived by daughter Madeline (Courtney) Wesh; sister Susan (Steve Rosenthal) Berlin; nephew Gary (Jennifer) Feldman; grandniece Mya Feldman. Chevra Kadisha

Albert Calderon died March 11 at 96. Survived by daughter Susan (Harry) Lippman; son Richard (Mary); 4 grandchildren; 2 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Hyman Cohen died March 3 at 90. Survived by wife Sylvia; son David Cohen; 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Marvin Cohen died March 4 at 73. Survived by wife Cynthia; son Barney (Rachelle); daughters Jody (Darren) Greenblat, Shelley (Doug) Kauffman, Mindy (Ron) Siegel; brothers Ira, Sheldon (Barbara); 9 grandchildren. Hillside

Michael Cohen died March 11 at 75. Survived by wife Rachelle; sons Matthew (Stephanie), Robert (Juan), Ted (Iris); 4 grandchildren; brother Irving Cohen. Hillside

Sidney Fried died Jan. 14 at 99. Survived by son Harvey (Bari) Fried. Hillside

Alvin Gilmour died March 2 at 83. Survived by wife Barbara; daughter Susan (Tim) Hanigan; son David (Robin); 4 grandchildren. Hillside

Charles Gold died March 9 at 96. Survived by wife Regina; sons David (Caryn), Robert (Karen); 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Sherman Grancell died March 9 at 103. Survived by son Norin (Nona); brother Alvin Grancell; 2 grandchildren; 5 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Myer Huniu died March 1 at 87. Survived by daughter Lori Escalera; 1 grandchild; sister Mary Ann Kravitz. Hillside

Manja Kramer died Jan. 25 at 89. Survived by daughters Michelle, Josea; sons David (Pam), Steven (Teresa); 4 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild; sister Helga Unkeless; brothers Herbert, Manfred (Goldie) Liverant. Hillside

Heidi Laff died March 13 at 67. Survived by husband Stuart; daughter Danielle (Brad) Sterling; son Jeff; 4 grandchildren; sisters Asceneth Backus, Oveta Popjoy. Hillside

Doris Malin died March 2 at 74. Survived by husband Stanley; daughters Tamara (Douglas) Wynn, Raquel (Daniel Jr.) Armendariz; son Kevin; 5 grandchildren; brother Abner Yablon. Hillside

Phillip Marko died March 2 at 88. Survived by wife Betty, daughters Barbara, Suzette; stepsons David Finkelstein, Reuben Finkelstein; stepdaughter Miriam Reisman; 1 grandchild. Hillside

Farhad Mobin died March 7 at 81. Survived by wife Fereshteh; son Fardad (Sheila); daughter Caroline (Fred) Delijani; 7 grandchildren. Hillside

Harriett Nemer died March 2 at 97. Survived by daughters Janet Factor, Joan Green; son Gary (Sheila); 8 grandchildren; 12 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Harry Parker died March 6 at 88. Survived by wife Nina; daughters Kathleen (Grant), Carol (Bill); sons David (Suzanne), George, Stuart (Lisa); 9 grandchildren. Hillside

Rona Perley died March 4 at 75. Survived by husband Howard; daughters Robin (Jim Benton), Sue; son Steven; 2 grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman 

Jeffrey Port died March 3 at 62. Survived by wife Vicki; daughters Ashley Bogart, Jade, Paige, Whitney; son Ryan; mother Florence; brother Randolph. Hillside

Livia Raskin died March 4 at 87. Survived by daughters Michelle (Alan) Buchsbaum, Annette (Dan) Shapiro; 4 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Hillside

Nathan Rosen died March 1 at 93. Survived by brother Leo Rosen; niece Moraye Bear. Hillside

Susan Rosett died March 3 at 76. Survived by husband Thomas Edelman; daughter Martha; sons Danny, David (Consuelo); 2 grandchildren; sister Abigail Hellwarth. Hillside

Raydelle Samuels died March 11 at 89. Survived by daughter Barbara (Gary) Miller; son Steven (Helen); 4 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren; brother Bernard (Ethel) Kolbor. Hillside

Terry Segel died March 10 at 94. Survived by sister Marilyn; sons Jerry (Dianna), Norman (Marjie); 2 grandchildren. Hillside

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The cure for anger: Parashat Emor (Leviticus 21:1-24:23)

Life is not easy. In fact, at times it’s downright infuriating. Our natural tendency is to want to blame someone, and the easiest target is God. We may carry anger at HaShem for our entire lives. As a result, we miss out on decades of spiritual connectedness and comfort. 

There is another way, and the Ishbitzer Rebbe (Rabbi Mordechai Yosef Leiner) uses this week’s parasha, Emor, as the answer. It contains a list of five kinds of negative thinking, in the form of rules for the high priest, matched with a framework for redirecting our thoughts when they arise, in the form of holidays. 

We can’t choose what pain we will experience day to day. We can, however, choose not to let ourselves feel alienated from the Holy One as a result, freeing us to remain open to God’s loving presence in our lives. The Ishbitzer shows us how.

First, the priest is told to avoid funerals, saying it will contaminate him. He cannot grieve in community, even for his own parents. How infuriating for him! For the Ishbitzer, this suggests existential frustration — the hopeless feeling that the world is a shattered place and we can’t fix a thing. We rage at God: “Why don’t You put things right?” 

The cure is Passover. Its core message is that God takes us out of Egypt, the narrow place, with a mighty hand and an outstretched arm. We need never doubt that God will deliver us from our circumstances, and that the world is moving toward a time of Messianic perfection. Pesach tells us to have faith. Change can and will come.

Second, the priest must be unblemished: without disability or disease, injury or scar. This corresponds to the humiliation we feel about our own weaknesses and broken places. We wish we were more beautiful, more admired, more accomplished.

Shavuot is the remedy for this line of thought, the holiday when we commemorate receiving the Torah. Torah, it is said, heals all wounds and perfects all imperfections, because they don’t matter to God. A life of prayer and study, of spiritual attainment, helps us to let go of shallow understanding and to be who we are truly meant to be. Shavuot tells us we are perfect just the way we are. 

Third, a priest must rigorously guard his ritual purity, such as by marrying only a virgin. How infuriating for him to be so close to service and then to be made impure by his sexual relationships. This is the sadness of addictions and distractions. We are drawn to the things that seem to bring us relief from the anxiety of life. They may tamp down our loneliness and disappointments, but they push away God and truth in the process. We are left feeling numb, sick and spiritually dead. 

The cure is Rosh Hashanah. When the shofar is blown, the world starts over again afresh. The Book of Life opens before us, ready to receive the good news of our readiness to change our ways. Rosh Hashanah reminds us of our neshamah taharah, our eternally pure soul. 

Fourth, Emor speaks of ways in which the sacrifices themselves can be unworthy of ritual use. The owners of these offerings might cry out to God, asking why their hard-earned possessions should be judged inadequate. It’s so easy to fall into the self-righteousness of deprivation. “We deserve better!”

Yom Kippur comes to hand us a feeling of infinite riches. By abandoning our worldly pleasures and benefits for a day and focusing solely on God, we see our meager belongings take on a new, perfected light. Yom Kippur says, “I have plenty.”

And finally, the Ishbitzer sees the command for the Kohen to eat the thanksgiving offering “on that day” to point out our tendency to fret about what was or will be, rather than rejoice in what we have right now. We go through our days, flooded by memories and worries. Our thoughts convince us that they alone will bring relief, but they never do. Only by letting go and standing in awe and fear of the Holy One of Blessing can we bring our lives into focus. 

This is the teaching of Sukkot, z’man simchateinu, the time of our joy. This moment, this breath, is as flimsy as a leaf-covered hut. But it is God’s promise to protect and surround us, to give us joy and never to abandon us. Sukkot is presence. 

As we continue our counting of the Omer toward Shavuot, may the Ishbitzer’s Emor mindfulness practice give us the tools we need to release suffering, and to refine ourselves, like a silversmith pounding shiny bits together to form a whole, holy vessel for receiving Torah. 

Rabbi Avivah W. Erlick is president of L.A. Community Chaplaincy Services (LACommunityChaplaincy.com), a referral agency for professional chaplains and rabbis.

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