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December 9, 2011

Privileged White Girl Problems

Tonight, I hate the world.  And in accordance with cliché, I don’t even understand why.  My boyfriend called me tonight and by the time I got the message I had about a fifteen minute window to call him back before he went to sleep; I let it pass so that I didn’t have to talk to him while I was in this mood.  I figure that’s probably a good idea considering I could feel myself about to pick a fight with him.  I was going to test him by telling him I want to name the four daughters I plan on having after my favorite cheeses: Brie, Camembert, Roquefort, and Tallegio.  I might be willing to compromise if he wanted to replace one with a Gruyere or an Asiago, but if he pushed back, I was all ready to make a big deal about him being a slave to convention.

I know how crazy this sounds.  But sometimes, it’s hard to help.  Maybe it’s the holidays.  Maybe it’s the end of the year.  But with all this forced commercialized cheer and focus on things coming to an “end,” if you are not completely satisfied with where your life is, the holidays can be a brutal angry time dominated by self-loathing.  I’ve spent this week hating a recent haircut and simultaneously annoyed with everyone for not noticing, frustrated with myself for not finishing my work, angry at my printer for breaking, angry at everyone I knew in Santa Monica for not having a stupid scanner.  Angry at myself for going to holiday parties instead of exercising, angry at myself for not going to all the holiday parties I was supposed to.  I’m mad I stayed up way too late last night reading Christopher Hitchens and I’m also furious at myself for being unable to finish his entire four part series on cancer last year.  So essentially, I just hate myself and I’m inconsolable about this.  Actually, if you are my friend and you try to console me, I will be unreasonably irritated with you for trying. 

I wish I had a really good reason for all of this right now but I don’t.  If I had to guess I would wager that it has something to do with a general dissatisfaction with where my life is right now.  Last year on New Year’s Eve, I remember precisely what my resolution was.  I wished that in the year 2011, I would fall in love.  I was finally in a place in my life where I was healed from the previous exes who had hurt me and I was willing to open myself up enough to risk heartache and let love into my life.  Normally I think resolutions are stupid but I stopped judging myself for wanting it this time and I just let myself wish for love over and over.  And lo behold against all odds, my wish came true.  Not that long after, I did fall in love.  But it didn’t fix everything. Love wasn’t the only thing that was missing from my life.  And so now, despite the fact that I’m in love with a great guy, I am still succumbing to the omnipresent malaise I felt last year.

In my junior year of college, I was in this elite fiction writing class, culminating in a short story that served as our final.  I wrote about this girl Audrey who drove around in a Snapple ad-wrapped VW bug searching for something at garage sales.  I had a great professor, Sheila Donahue, and she seemed to think that my early versions of the story had great promise.  So when I finally finished and turned in my last draft, I thought I had written something to turn the world of fiction on its head.  I got a B+ I think.  It might have even been a B.  Prof. Donahue wrote a long critique on the back of my story where she essentially said I had gotten the ending wrong.  I was surprised because I had planned on this ending from the inception of the idea, but she pointed out the myriad of reasons it didn’t work.  You see, my story was predominantly about Audrey’s back-story told through the objects she buys and sells at garage sales, all while she was on a quest for this one particular object.  In the very end at the last garage sale, she meets a man who of course has her holy grail and I alluded to their happiness ever after.  But Professor Donahue rightfully called me out on this.  Audrey had never been searching for a man or a relationship.  The whole story was about her journey to find this ‘thing’ and I chose a cheap and somewhat sexist out by writing that the only thing she really needed to find was a man.  Once she found the man, she had everything she needed, literally he proffered the object she was looking for, the end.  But why did Audrey need a guy anyway?  The entire story had never mentioned her love life and yet the second she falls in love, she finds her special object and it’s all over.  No wonder my professor was disappointed in me.  And of course, the moment I read those words from her glaring up at me in thin red ink, I realized her criticism was unintentionally an indictment of me.  The reason I had Audrey fall in love at the end of the story was because I wanted to fall in love.  I was waiting for love to come to me and fix me.  I was ignoring the rest of the complicated and interesting story because I was so desperate for true romantic love in my life that I just unquestionably believed it would solve everything.  Love was all anyone ever needed.  Or so I thought.

You would think that because I had been in love before, this time around, I would know how little it really solves.  But the beginning of every great romance is so majestic, so consuming, and so beautiful that even though you know it’s not going to fix everything, you often have a hard time remembering what your problems were before.  I’ve been dating Mr. Dreamboat for ten months now and been in love for most of it.  But it’s also been long enough for me to stop floating around on air and to realize that the rest of my complicated messy life still exists.  Falling in love didn’t make all of that go away.  And so now that I can feel my feet firmly back on the ground, I need to take the bull by the horns and figure out the rest of my life instead of ignoring my inevitable and welcome responsibilities.  And perhaps, I’ve been putting this off for a while.  Facing it, means facing dissatisfaction with myself and my life at this stage of the game.  And that’s making me really frustrated.  And also kind of hate the world.  I know what I have to do, but sometimes it feels like so much work, it seems easier to put it all off and stay depressive.  I mean, if he really loves me, won’t he just go with Roquefort?

But alas, I know it’s time to end my self-pitying.  I’m getting sworn into the CA State Bar today and I’ll complete my yoga teacher training certification next week.  I will officially not be a student of anything for the first time in a while.  It’s time to kick my life into high gear.  And although love hasn’t made that fact go away, I’m hoping that maybe it will make it a little easier for me to find what I am looking for.


Tamara Shayne Kagel is a writer living in Santa Monica, CA. To find out more about her, visit” title=”@tamaraskagel.” target=”_blank”>@tamaraskagel. © Copyright 2011.

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Sir Zelman Cowen dies

Australia’s Jewish former governor-general, Sir Zelman Cowen, has died.

Cowen, Australia’s head of state from 1975-1982, passed away in Melbourne Thursday night after a long battle with Parkinson’s Disease. He was 92.

A state funeral at Temple Beth Israel in Melbourne, where he was married 66 years ago, will be held next week.

Cowen was only the second Jew to hold the highest monarchical office in the country. The other was Sir Isaac Isaacs, the subject of a biography written by Cowen in 1967. Cowen was knighted in 1977.

A Rhodes scholar at Oxford, Cowen became a jurist, constitutional lawyer, university vice-chancellor as well as an ardent republican. He was also a proud Jew and a staunch Zionist, once saying that if Israel had been destroyed in the Six Day War, “it would have destroyed me as a person.”

Tributes have flooded in from representatives of the myriad Jewish and Israeli organizations he was connected to. Among them, the Council of Christians and Jews, the Jewish Museum of Australia, the Friends of the Israel Philharmonic Orchestra, the Hebrew University, Tel Aviv University, the Weizman Institute of Science and the Van Leer Institute in Jerusalem.

Born in Melbourne in 1919, he was the son of refugees from Czarist Russia. He is survived by four children, 16 grandchildren and six great-grandchildren.

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Egged must pay woman forced to sit in back of bus

Israel’s largest bus company, Egged, was fined for forcing a woman to sit in the back of a bus, a small claims court ruled.

Egged was fined approximately $1,070 on Wednesday for gender discrimination and violating the High Court of Justice’s ruling opposing forced segregation of men and women in the public sphere, according to the Israel Hayom website.

In the suit, filed in July by the Israel Religious Action Center in Rishon Lezion Magistrate Court, the complainant said that a driver employed by Egged made her sit in the back while the bus was traveling to the haredi Orthodox area of Bnei Brak.

“I explained to the driver that the line was not a segregated line, but the driver dismissed my argument and said that only the rabbis can decide whether a bus is segregated or not. It was humiliating and insulting,” the complainant, who is Orthodox, said in court, Israel Hayom reported.

Egged issued a statement arguing that the driver was not representing the company’s views.

The bus company has been accused before of discrimination. In October, Egged was ordered to pay approximately $16,000 in compensation after driver Ben Yakar told a young female student that he “doesn’t let blacks ride on the bus.”

In 2006, Miriam Shear, an American-Israeli woman, reportedly was beaten by a gang of haredi Orthodox when she refused to move to the back of the bus while traveling to the Wailing Wall.

Wednesday’s ruling came a week after U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Clinton said in a closed-session question-and-answer session that she is concerned about the direction of Israel’s democracy, prompting Sephardic Chief Rabbi Shlomo Amar to accuse Clinton in a radio interview of having “no real knowledge of a Jewish woman’s modesty.”

“The Jewish people respect women and treat them like queens and princesses,” Amar said.

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Israeli raid kills 3 Gazans, rockets fired at Israel

Violence has flared up between Israel and Gaza, with the Israeli air force killing three Palestinians and militants firing rockets deep across the border.

The latest fighting erupted on Thursday when an air strike on a car killed two militants, one of them from Gaza’s governing Islamist group Hamas, whom Israel accused of planning to send gunmen to attack it through the neighboring Sinai region of Egypt.

Palestinian militants answered Thursday’s air strike with a barrage of rockets, some of which landed near Beersheba, a city 35 km (30 miles) from Gaza. No one was hurt. Air-raid sirens summoned residents of southern Israel to shelters.

Another Israeli air strike followed before dawn on Friday, hitting a Hamas training camp in Gaza City. The blast flattened a nearby home, killing its owner and wounding his wife and six of their children, two critically, hospital officials said.

In a statement voicing regret for the civilian casualties, the military said Palestinian rockets stored next to the camp had stoked the explosion. Hamas accused Israel of a “massacre”.

“We are pursuing intensive contacts with several Arab and international parties, and we stress the necessity of this aggression being stopped immediately,” Ismail Haniyeh, head of the Hamas administration in Gaza, told reporters.

Hamas spurns peacemaking with the Jewish state but has in the past proposed truces as it sought to consolidate control over Gaza and negotiate power-sharing with the rival, U.S.-backed Fatah faction of Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas.

Instability has spread in Sinai as Cairo struggles to restore order after the fall of Hosni Mubarak in February.

Armed infiltrators killed eight Israelis on the border with Sinai in August. Israeli troops repelling the gunmen killed five Egyptian police, triggering outrage in Cairo that spilled over into the mobbing of Israel’s embassy a month later.

Israel apologized for the Egyptian deaths and Egypt’s interim military rulers vowed to mount security sweeps of Sinai.

Hamas’s standing has grown with the political rise of the kindred Egyptian Muslim Brotherhood, formerly a suppressed though popular opposition group. Israel worries about the prospects for its landmark 1979 peace accord with Egypt, which secured the demilitarization of the Sinai.

“The State of Israel is in a bind,” defense analyst Alex Fishman wrote in the biggest-selling Israeli newspaper Yedioth Ahronoth.

“It can’t operate in Sinai in order to defend its sovereignty for fear of its relations with Egypt … and because it can’t beat the donkey, it beats the saddle—and Gaza suffers the blows.”

Some of the Palestinian rockets fired on Thursday and Friday were claimed by a Fatah-linked militia that lost one of its leaders, Essam Al-Batsh, in Israel’s air strike.

Israel said he had also been involved in a 2007 suicide bombing that killed three people in Eilat, a Red Sea port abutting Egypt. The Eilat area went on security alert this week, with the military citing fear of infiltration from Sinai.

Hamas had no comment on the rockets. It has kept out of some of the recent fighting in Gaza, much of which has been between Israel and Islamic Jihad, a different Palestinian armed faction.

The chief of Israel’s military, Lieutenant-General Benny Gantz, told parliament last month a new Israeli offensive in Gaza could be “drawing close” because of the rocket threat.

That stirred speculation that Israel, which launched a devastating war on Hamas in 2008-2009, might mobilize for a similar assault ahead of the possible installation of a new Islamist-led government in Egypt.

Giora Eiland, a former Israeli national security adviser, warned that could backfire by providing an electoral boost to the Muslim Brotherhood and Egypt’s ultra-conservative Salafis.

“An operation in Gaza is liable to play into their hands, with a kind of acceleration of political processes that you don’t want,” Eiland told Israel Radio.

Writing by Dan Williams; Additional reporting by Ari Rabinovitch; Editing by Matthew Jones

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‘When US doesn’t meddle in Israeli politics, it strengthens the right’

David A. Weinberg is a visiting fellow at UCLA’s Center for Middle East Development while wrapping up a doctorate in political science at MIT.  He formerly served as a Mideast advisor to the late Rep. Tom Lantos, who was chairman of the House Committee on Foreign Affairs at the time. 

His dissertation uses archives and interviews to tell the story of American efforts to shape internal Israeli politics and internal Palestinian politics over the years.

Weinberg kindly agreed to answer some questions related to recent comments on Israel made by several top US officials.

When the US intervenes in Israeli politics – is it mostly to change policies or to get rid of annoying politicians?

Every American president since before I was born has deeply desired a peace agreement between Israel and the Palestinians and has therefore preferred the political program of the Labor Party – and in recent years, Kadima – to that of the Likud.  As a result, American presidents also tend to have preferences for certain Israeli politicians or political groupings over others, and these groupings tend to come from the center or the left, not the Israeli right.  And sometimes presidents are even willing to pay costs to promote these preferences.

Probably 95% of American actions toward Israel are aimed at either supporting Israel or influencing its policies, not its politics. But that other 5% is a critical part of the story that I think most observers either ignore or unreasonably demonize.  America has interests, and those interests are advanced by a strong relationship with a strong Israel.  But it also matters who is in charge in Israel. If American presidents become deeply dissatisfied with Israel’s leadership, they sometimes do what they can to let the Israeli public know.  More often than not, however, they are silent on the issue, and that silence benefits the Likud.

When Secretary Clinton says Israel is becoming more like Iran – is this also an attempt to intervene? Do such attempts usually bear fruit?

Secretary Clinton’s recent remarks were off the record, so I cannot know what she said with exact certainty. However, my general impression was that her remarks were not directed at Israel’s prime minister but rather at specific policies being pursued by this Israeli government which clash with Israel’s reputation in the U.S. as a democracy that safeguards the rights of all its citizens. These policies include gender segregation in some public spaces and McCarthyist attacks against citizen groups because of their policy positions. 

So, no, I don’t think her comments were directed at PM Netanyahu, per se. But such efforts, when they do take place, often do succeed. When Netanyahu was defeated in 1999 by Ehud Barak, the American government under President Bill Clinton had worked very hard to convey to Israeli voters its belief that Netanyahu was harming relations with the U.S. – less intensively than President Clinton worked in 1996 to get Shimon Peres elected but hard nonetheless. My impression was that Israeli voters listened in 1999 and that these gestures did help Barak against Netanyahu at the polls.

Will we ever see an American President intervening against the Israeli left-wing candidate or party and in favor of right-wing policies?

Occasionally the U.S. has backed non-Labor politicians in Israel, but only when those politicians display a genuine sensitivity toward U.S. interests and a basic appreciation of making tough sacrifices in pursuit of peace. This is why the US was inclined to bolster and cooperate with Moshe Arens in 1983 as well as Ariel Sharon, Ehud Olmert, and Tzipi Livni in the past decade, even though none of them were hardcore lefties. 

On the other hand, American presidents have generally seemed to conclude that PM Netanyahu, like Yitzhak Shamir before him, is not adequately sensitive to American interests or the urgency of the peace process. They tend to see Netanyahu as bad for American interests and even bad for Israeli interests in the long term.

You conclude that even though President Obama isn’t popular in Israel he can still make life politically difficult for PM Netanyahu – how?

Israeli voters place strong priority on their nation’s ability to be self-sufficient, but they also believe that their prime minister should do a wise job of managing relations with Israel’s number one ally, the United States of America. 

Although President Obama does seem to believe PM Netanyahu is harming U.S. interests, he has a much broader range of tools at his disposal for communicating this message than he has used thus far. In short, he has been avoiding this fight. 

But if Obama does choose to pursue this fight, it is certainly possible he could prevail – even though he is less popular with the Israeli public than, say, President Clinton. For instance, Bush Senior was able to contribute to the election of Yitzhak Rabin and the defeat of Yitzhak Shamir in 1992, and yet there was little love lost between President Bush (41st president, not W.) and the Israeli public at the time.

So is it better for Israel to have a Romney or a Gingrigh?

Some skeptics might conclude that it would be better for Israel to have a Romney or Gingrich in the White House, but I strongly disagree with this proposition.  Israel’s long-term strategic choice is for a two-state solution, and these two Republican candidates have suggested that they will do little to advance this vision while in office. Kneejerk support for tough Israeli policies while abandoning the cause of peacemakers in the region means turning a blind eye toward Israel’s longer-term strategic needs. 

The closest analogue for a Republican presidency under one of these candidates would be Ronald Reagan or George W. Bush, both of whom pursued foreign policies that de-prioritized the peace process. As a result, both presidents unintentionally caused Israel long-term harm by sidelining moderates in Israel and among the Arabs. It is also no coincidence that Israel engaged in its most poorly-planned and counterproductive wars in recent memory while Reagan and Bush 43 were sitting in the Oval Office.

Moreover, President Obama has been exceptionally committed to security assistance for Israel, as well as strategic coordination. Given Republic opposition to public expenditures, security assistance could decline. It has become fashionable in the Republican debates to declare that America’s foreign assistance budget should “start at zero”. And diminished aid to Arab regimes in transition could weaken forces in the Arab world which are prepared to cooperate with Israel overtly or covertly.

Does American intervention justify Israeli intervention in American politics?

The alternative to American meddling in Israel by commission is American meddling in Israeli by omission. When the US does not consciously get involved in Israeli politics, its passivity often artificially strengthens the right-wing in Israel and weakens the left by enabling hardliners to pursue reckless policies cost-free, at least in the short term.

Anyway, Israeli intervention in American politics happens all the time, regardless of whether or not the American President tries to shape Israel’s domestic politics. Last I checked, Israelis did not look to American actions first before deciding whether or not they should meddle in Washington. 

In fact, meddling behavior by Israeli governments is sometimes the cause of American efforts to do the same. For instance, PM Netanyahu’s original love-fest with Republicans in Congress over a decade ago only added to President Clinton’s desire to ultimately push him out in 1999. 

Only time will tell if the prime minister’s outreach to Republicans this time around has the same effect on President Obama in the year or two ahead.  However, it seems Netanyahu himself is hedging his bets, doing what he can to prepare early elections in Israel while Obama is preoccupied with his own reelection in 2012.

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IN THE BLACK NIGHT – FOR PARASHAT VAYISHLACH

In the black night

the river runs cold

slowly passing me by

over formerly sharp edged stones

worn smooth by centuries of churning, 

as if through earthy veins –

and I Jacob, alone,

shiver and wait

to meet my brother

and daylight.

Will there be war?

And will the angels carry my soul

up the rungs of the ladder

leaving my blood

to soak the earthly crust?

A presence!?

And I struggle yet again

as if in my mother’s womb

and in my dreams.

We played together as children once,

my brother Esau and me

as innocents,

and I confess tonight

how I wronged him

and wrenched from him his birthright

as this Being has done to me

between my thighs.

I was so young

driven by ego and need,

blinded by ambition,

my mother’s dreams

and my father’s silence.

I so craved to be first born

adored by my father,

to assume his place when he died

that my name be remembered

and define a people.

How Esau suffered and wailed

and I didn’t care.

Whatever his dreams

they were nothing to me –

my heart was hard –

his life be damned!

But, after all these years

I’ve learned that Esau and I

each alone is

a palga gufa – a half soul

without the other –

torn away

as two souls separated at creation

seeking reunification

in a sea of souls –

the yin missing the yang –

the dark and light never to touch –

the mind divorced from body –

the soul in exile –

without a beating bleating heart

to witness –

and no access to the thirty-two paths

to carry us together

up the ladder

and through the spheres. 

It’s come to this!

To struggle again –

To live or die.

Tonight

I’m ready for death

or submission.

Compassionate One:

protect Esau and your servant –

my brother and me

as one –

and return us to each other. 

El na r’fa na lanu!

Grant us peace and rest!

I’m very tired!

 

 

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Answers to a rabbi, part 3: Baptizing dead Jews

Know then that ev’ry soul is free,
To choose his life and what he’ll be;
For this eternal truth is given,
That God will force no man to heaven.

He’ll call, persuade direct him right;,
Bless him with wisdom, love, and light;
In nameless ways be good and kind;
But never force the human mind.

—Know This, That Every Soul Is Free (LDS Hymn)

Else what shall they do which are baptized for the dead, if the dead rise not at all? Why are they then baptized for the dead? – 1 Corinthians 15:29 (New Testament)

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Echoes of the Demise of a Diverse Boyle Heights in Today’s Foreclosure Crisis

Would today’s foreclosure crisis have been so bad if Jews had been able to get housing loans and remain in Boyle Heights? Its hard to say what would have happened if middle class Jews were able to get loans to buy and improve the housing stock in Boyle Heights rather than being financially forced to move west to where the banks were lending.

Bruce Phillips, my blog partner, was interviewed in Friday’s LA Times by Hector Tobar and brought Goerge Sanchez’s analysis of Boyle Heights as a multi-racial community destroyed by redlining, resulting in the forced exodus a Jewish community who couldn’t get housing loans to stay there.

Redlining by banks, the refusal to make home loans in certain zip codes, including those of the culturally diverse Boyle Height was a major factor in driving out Jews from Boyle Heights and the death knell of the ethnic and racial diversity that the Jewish community and Los Angeles enjoyed there.

Much research has shown that discrimination in lending had a strong effect on racial segregation across 40 metropolitan areas in the 1970s and 1980s.

Rugh and Massey found “residential segregation constitutes an important contributing cause of the current foreclosure crisis, that segregation’s effect is independent of other economic causes of the crisis, and that segregation’s explanatory power exceeds that of other factors hitherto identified as key causes (e.g., overbuilding, excessive subprime lending, housing price inflation, and lenders’ failure to adequately evaluate borrowers’ creditworthiness). Simply put, the greater the degree of Hispanic and especially black segregation a metropolitan area exhibits, the higher the number and rate of foreclosures it experiences. “

Douglass Massey argues, the more segregated a metropolitan area is, the easier it is to find exploitable clients. Segregation creates natural pockets of financially unsophisticated, historically underserved, poor minority homeowners who are ripe for exploitation. 

Massey goes on to say that in the forty years after the passage of the Fair Housing Act, two thirds of all black urbanites continue to live under conditions of high segregation and nearly half live in metropolitan areas where the degree of racial isolation is so intense it conforms to the criteria for hypersegregation. If we had somehow been able to eliminate segregation between blacks and whites in the years since 1968, the average metropolitan area would have experienced a foreclosure rate 80% lower than that actually observed during 2006-2008. Segregation is the reason for the unusual severity of the foreclosure crisis in the United States.

(Photo credit: Nancy Friedman)

Pini Herman is immediate past President of the Movable Minyan a lay-lead independent congregation in the 3rd Street area. To email Pini: pini00003@gmail.com

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