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December 15, 2010

A potent mix of sex, booze, polish history

In 1967, following Israel’s stunning victory in the Six-Day War, the Polish communist government joined other Soviet bloc countries in launching an “anti-Zionist” (read anti-Semitic) campaign, which, by the end of the following year, drove out most of the country’s remaining Jews who had survived the Holocaust.

The label “Zionist” became a code word not only for Jews, but for any other “enemy of the state.” Hardest hit were academicians and university students, who, as in many European countries and the United States, rebelled against the governing establishments.

As depicted in the tense Polish film “Little Rose,” the trigger for the student uprising in Warsaw and other cities had a uniquely historical twist in a country with a long national memory of oppression by neighboring Russia.

To celebrate the 50th anniversary of the Bolshevik October Revolution, the Polish Politburo ordered a theater celebration, at whose center was a revival of the century-old play “Dziady” (“Forefathers’ Eve” in English) by the great Polish Lithuanian poet Adam Mickiewicz.

The play celebrates the 1830 insurrection by Polish patriots against the rule of Czar Nicholas and was immediately taken up by enthusiastic audiences as a call to rebel against their communist overlords.

In Warsaw, the chagrined regime abruptly shut down the play and enraged patrons, mainly university students, who then stormed into the streets demanding freedom of expression. The regime responded brutally, under the banner of fighting “imperialist Zionist agents.”

This historical context is useful for non-Polish audiences to fully understand “Little Rose,” even though the film can stand on its own as a cat-and-mouse thriller, enlivened by heavy doses of graphic sex, pitting the ruthless Polish Security Service against its real and imagined “Zionist” opponents.

The opening scene gives some hint of things to come. Security agent Roman Rozek (Robert Wieckiewicz), doodling while attending a staff meeting, draws a Star of David on a piece of paper. Moments later, he adds a gallows, with the Star of David now dangling at the end of the noose.

Roman is assigned to get the goods on Adam Marczewski (Andrzej Seweryn), a revered writer and university professor, suspected of writing anti-regime reports for Radio Free Europe.

The hard-drinking, chain-smoking agent, a former boxer, enlists his sexy but apolitical girlfriend Kamila, who works in the university library, to entrap the widowed professor, even if it means going to bed with him.

Kamila (Magdalena Boczarska) is initially reluctant, but, bullied by her lover, she agrees to the assignment. Gradually, she begins to enjoy her role as a blond Mata Hari, under the code name Little Rose.

But as she gets to know the fatherly professor and his circle of intellectual friends, she begins to question her undercover job. The more so as the older man falls passionately in love with her, leading to some steamy bedroom scenes.

The ending in this skillfully acted politico-sexual triangle won’t be divulged here, but the outcome is not as predictable as it may seem.

In the film’s final scene at a train station, we see some of the 15,000 Poles, mainly Jews, who fled their country in the late 1960s to seek refuge and freedom elsewhere.

Director and co-writer Jan Kidawa-Blonski says that his script was inspired by an actual incident of that era.

In it, the well-known writer Pawel Jasienica, a political opponent of the regime, was seduced by a female secret service agent, who then married him, with the consent of her superiors.

Throughout their marriage, the agent informed on her husband, and his circle of friends, until his death.

It seems that the movie industry in every European country involved in World War II and its aftermath — as perpetrator, victim or collaborator — must eventually examine and return to that era.

The Germans came first, the French later, and it appears that the Poles are now focusing on the post-war communist era.

It may be a coincidence, but complementing the “Little Rose” story, Poland’s entry in next year’s Oscars race, “All That I Love,” depicts the rise of the Solidarity movement, established in 1980 under the leadership of Lech Walesa.

To mark the 30th anniversary of that historic event, “All That I Love” was to be screened Dec. 15, at the Museum of Tolerance, with the participation of Walesa, later elected Poland’s president.

“Little Rose” opens Dec. 17 at Laemmle’s Music Hall in Beverly Hills.

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The rabbi and his ‘calling’

In the fall of 2007, then-rabbinical student Shmuly Yanklowitz traveled with a few of his colleagues from the Modern Orthodox Yeshivat Chovevei Torah in New York to San Diego. Wildfires had just burned through 500,000 acres and destroyed more than 1,500 homes. “I didn’t know what we were going to do,” Yanklowitz said at the time. “I just knew that we had to be there.”

By that point, a camera crew had been following Yanklowitz for months, shooting footage for what would become part of “The Calling,” a four-hour television documentary premiering on PBS on Dec. 20 and 21. The film follows seven young clergy members from four different religious groups through their training. Shot over 18 months, it offers a behind-the-scenes look at the moving and trying process of becoming a religious leader.

Yanklowitz, now 29, was ordained as a rabbi earlier this year and has taken a position as the Senior Jewish Educator at the Hillel at UCLA. In the second two-hour segment of “The Calling,” viewers meet this tall, preternaturally smiling, Modern Orthodox rabbinical student and watch as he spends some of his time on screen doing things that many such students do — poring over pages of Talmud, facilitating discussions with teenagers on a summer program, trying (and failing) to address a congregation whose members are more interested in noshing and schmoozing than in listening to words of Torah.

As the founder and president of Uri L’Tzedek, a group that works to organize the Orthodox Jewish community around social justice issues, Yanklowitz is one of his movement’s most outspoken activists. Within moments of his being introduced on screen, Yanklowitz can be seen at a pro-Tibetan protest outside the Chinese Embassy. When he and a few of his fellow students went to Postville, Iowa, to support workers about to be deported after the raid on the kosher Agriprocessors plant, the cameras were there. They were also rolling in New York, when Yanklowitz spoke about the need for ethical standards for kosher and Jewish-owned businesses at a forum at Yeshiva University.

Yanklowitz sometimes seems to be everywhere: He is working toward a doctorate in moral development and epistemology at Columbia University, he grooved to the sounds of the Marine Corps Chamber Orchestra at this year’s White House Chanukah party, and he writes frequently in Jewish news outlets, including The Jewish Journal.

Illustrating how Yanklowitz has cobbled together his current multifaceted rabbinate would be an accomplishment in itself — but “The Calling” is accessible and compelling to religious and secular audiences because it presents its seven young subjects not simply as clerics-to-be but as living, complex characters.

“I was looking for a way to show how modernity and faith are living together — or trying to live together — in the United States,” executive producer Daniel Alpert, who directed the series, said. Alpert and his team also offer a look into the private lives of young clergy, into what goes on when it’s not Saturday or Sunday morning. A Catholic priest winds down his day by flipping between a San Antonio Spurs game and an episode of “Survivor.” A hijab-wearing female Muslim cleric goes toe to toe with a male fellow seminarian on the subject of whether sex exists in the afterlife. A young rabbi negotiates with his board over how much food should be served at an upcoming event.

There’s Jeneen, a former actress and beauty queen ministering in the African Methodist Episcopal church; Rob, the Samoan-born rapping Evangelical Christian minister; Bilal, an African American imam working with inmates in a Connecticut jail — and then there’s Yanklowitz.

“The main reason I decided to be a part of this when they asked me,” Yanklowitz said, “was because I believe in the mission, which is to show the humanity of clergy and show that religious leadership is struggling with very human issues, just like everyone else.”

Yanklowitz — like all of the film’s subjects — did not shrink from the camera, even when it was recording some of his quietest, most private moments. “It was uncomfortable opening my life,” he recalled. “They would sometimes be there right when I woke up in the morning, at my bed. And other times they would be with me in my dating relationships, or with my family.”

“Something about his combination of ambition and honesty was really refreshing,” said Yoni Brook, who directed the sections of “The Calling” about Yanklowitz and his fellow Chovevei Torah graduate Rabbi Yerachmiel Shapiro, who now leads a congregation in Baltimore, Md. “Shmuly just struck us as someone who was going to be open with his time and what he was thinking about,” Brook said.

Publicly, what Yanklowitz is always thinking about is getting the Jewish community — and particularly the Orthodox Jewish community — active in matters relating to social justice, even when it means working on behalf of people who are not themselves Jewish, let alone Orthodox.

Privately, as “The Calling” makes clear, the young Jewish spiritual leader was working through more personal challenges at the same time. “I feel a tremendous pressure to get married as soon as possible,” Yanklowitz tells the camera at one point, sounding at once disarmingly earnest and completely self-aware. “I should’ve been married — according to shadchen, according to the matchmaker — about eight years ago.

“The problem is,” Yanklowitz continues, with a devious smile, “I’m pretty crazy. I get on a plane when I feel I need to … and the idea of restraint that would come with marriage or with a deep romantic commitment was so scary to me.”

The question Yanklowitz struggled with — how and when and whether to settle down — is one that applies to many emerging adults across America and might have once been deemed too risky for a person of the cloth to discuss. Indeed, filmmaker Alpert found to his surprise that his seven young clerics all faced dilemmas similar to those of their nonclergy (or even nonreligious) peers. “They’re not willing to conform to ideas of what a religious leader is supposed to be,” Alpert said. “They certainly have to live their lives religiously … but they want to listen to the music they like, and they want to tell jokes the way they want to tell them.

“It’s not a reality series,” Alpert said, noting that 1,400 hours of raw footage was edited to create the four-hour finished product. (Some of that footage is on a Web site dedicated to the film’s central question, at whatsyourcalling.org.) “It’s a completely different approach,” he said. “Reality TV is based on manipulation, and this is based on trust.”

At UCLA, what stands out about Yanklowitz is his intense energy. “If you ever come across Shmuly in person, it would hit you like a train,” Arlene Miller, associate executive director of the Hillel at UCLA, said. “He’s present when you’re talking to him, and he’s got his hands in so many things that he can really make connections with people — and he cares, deeply.”

“Shmuly is a dynamo,” Rabbi Yosef Kanefsky of B’nai David-Judea wrote in an e-mail. Kanefsky is on the advisory committee of the Los Angeles branch of Uri L’Tzedek, which Yanklowitz established earlier this year. “I’ve never seen anyone impact so quickly and decisively on a brand-new town.”

Yanklowitz said he is committed to showing that rabbis, too, have moments of self-doubt. But when talking about his work at UCLA and with Uri L’Tzedek, he becomes more, well, rabbinic. “I’m very content where I am now,” he said, “both doing national and global social justice work, and the opposite, very intimate one-on-one learning with students.

“Having that local presence and that global national reach has been —” Yanklowitz stopped himself, and then spoke again. “I feel just tremendously privileged.”

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Hefner, his bunnies and the basement of LA’s First Congregational

Kevin Roderick at LAObserved has an interesting post about Hugh Hefner, who made an appearance tonight in the basement of the First Congregational Church on Commonwealth in LA. Pretty sure that’s a historical building, though it’s hard to imagine it’s as old as ol’ Hugh.

And, no, he wasn’t there to praise the Lord. Hef was there to be praised.

No, not for founding Playboy (though they didn’t hate the playa). He was praised by LA Councilman and regular cheerleader Tom LaBonge for helping save the Hollywood sign and the open space around it. Kevin wrote:

There was some buzz about whether Hefner would appear, since the dinner was held in the basement of the imposing First Congregational Church on Commonwealth Avenue. Well, he did come, accompanied by two blondes, Chrystal & Anna, and he tweeted about it. Hefner received accolades (and a loaf of Monastery of the Angels pumpkin bread) from City Councilman Tom LaBonge, who praised Hefner for recognizing the beauty “of a naked––mountain.”

I should also thank Hef. On clear, cool days, the Hollywood sign is one of the first things when I reach the top of the hill above my apartment some 30 miles away in the South Bay. When it’s visible, it provides a great start to my day.

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Erin Stern: The nice Jewish girl who got really buff [SLIDESHOW]

If you imagined the typical Jewish physique, bodybuilder is probably not what would come to mind. In pop culture, Jews are skinny and bespectacled like Woody Allen, or chubby and unshaven like Seth Rogen and Jonah Hill. Sometimes the rare tough and rugged Israeli shows up, fighting terror and being macho. But big, buff and tan — that’s something you rarely see. So how did a nice Jewish girl end up becoming a champion in the sport of hulking supermen like Arnold Schwarzenegger and Ronnie Coleman?

In Erin Stern’s case, it all started with three centimeters.

Three centimeters is not a long distance to travel. It’s barely more than an inch. Take one footstep and you’d blow right by it. But for Stern, the three centimeters she couldn’t travel changed her life forever.

A Junior All-American at the University of Florida, Stern had been competing in events like the pentathlon and heptathlon since high school. Her high-jump numbers were good enough that she set her sights on the Beijing Olympics. All that stood between her and the team trials were a few short centimeters. She kicked her training into overdrive, and her numbers improved, but she was falling just shy of what she needed.

“I’m a little short for a high-jumper,” says the statuesque 5-foot-8 Stern, chuckling. “I gave it my all, but I couldn’t make the last three centimeters.”

Dejected, Stern was forced to give up on Olympic high jumping.

“I was extremely bummed,” she said.

By rights, Stern’s athletic journey should have ended there, three centimeters short of glory.  She had a promising career in real estate to fall back on, and her college years were over. It was time for a transition. But she’d been a track star for so long that it felt weird to have no focus, no goal to reach for. That’s when a friend suggested she try competing in Figure competitions.

Stern grew up in a family of athletes. “My father played football at C.W. Post and Adelphi University, and my mother would run three miles a day,” she says.

She started riding horses in competitions at a young age and later developed a passion for running, just like her mother, which led her to her track career.

Stern was raised in a Jewish household. She attended religious school and had her bat mitzvah during Passover.

“I’ll never forget having to read the long haftarah,” she said. “ I had to do the service all in Hebrew. My sister was lucky — by the time her bat mitzvah rolled around, we’d joined the Reform temple, and she got to do a lot of the prayers in English.”

Erin Stern’s Fitness Tips

Starting your own journey toward becoming a fitter Jew isn’t as hard as training for a contest like the Olympia. 2010 Figure Olympia champ Erin Stern offers a few simple changes you can make to get yourself on the road to a healthier life today.

“The No. 1 rule is don’t make excuses. People always make excuses for why it’s too hard to work out or take time to be healthier.  I suggest making appointments for fitness, just like you would for a business meeting or a lunch with a friend. Make an appointment to walk or lift some weights. That way, there’s no excuse not to have the time.”

“Another thing I like to follow is the 90/10 rule — eat well 90 percent of the time so you can enjoy yourself the other 10 percent.  Don’t deny yourself that nice cheat meal on Saturday night; eat right the rest of the week and you can have it with no guilt.”

“Eat five meals a day. You should have breakfast, lunch and dinner, plus two snacks in between. Snacking is really important in terms of controlling your insulin spikes. If you have two healthy snacks in between meals — almonds, an apple, string cheese, Greek yogurt or veggies — you won’t get to the point where you’re so hungry you overeat.”

“Work out with a friend; it makes you accountable. You’re less likely to skip that after-work trip to the gym if you know your friend is there waiting for you and counting on you.”

“Pick a class that fits you — there are so many on the market these days, from yoga to spinning to pole dancing to Krav Maga. There’s a class out there for every fitness level and every taste, so find one that speaks to you.”

“If you’re training for a contest, or just want to keep track of your weight loss, take progress pictures. You see your body every day, so it’s hard to notice changes. If you take a picture in the same outfit, in the same spot, once every week, you’ll be able to notice the changes you’re making much easier.”

Stern’s last piece of advice for people looking to live healthier: “Start now.  Don’t wait for the new year. Set your goals, print them out, hang them on your wall, and make a plan to get fitter and healthier today.”

Her parents stressed both Judaism and athletics as important pursuits.

“Everything is connected,” Stern said. “It’s important for us to take care of ourselves physically, spiritually and mentally.”

And while some of Stern’s impressively chiseled physique can be attributed to genetics and to the prodding of her parents, it took a lot of hours in the gym to build a body worthy of taking the stage in a Figure competition.

Figure competitions are a spinoff of bodybuilding. Introduced a decade ago, Figure emphasizes muscle tone and shape over the big, bulky physiques of bodybuilding. Beauty also factors in.

“It’s like a pageant with muscles,” Stern said, laughing, perhaps at the slight absurdity of a haircut factoring in after months of grueling training.  

At a friend’s prodding, in 2008 Stern decided to enter a National Physique Committee (NPC) Figure show to try her luck.

“I didn’t prepare much for my first contest. I had watched some YouTube videos, so I knew what to expect, but I was very nervous. I felt at home on the track, not on the stage,” she said.

Stern’s worries were for naught. She won the show and found herself on a whole new athletic path.

Stern may be the most successful Jew in the history of the sport, but she’s not the first. Dan Lurie was a five-time runner-up for the Mr. America title back in the 1940s.  Mike Katz was featured alongside Arnold Schwarzenegger in the classic bodybuilding film “Pumping Iron,” but he never placed better than fourth at the Mr. Olympia competition. The Olympia itself was founded in 1965 by Joe Weider, a bodybuilder and entrepreneur who along with his younger brother, Ben, grew up a poor Jewish kid in New York’s Lower East Side. With just $7, Weider founded the publishing empire that would later grow to include Shape, Men’s Fitness and Flex magazines. Held in various cities for most of its first three decades of existence, the Olympia has been staged in Las Vegas since 1999.

Stern made her Olympia debut in 2009 and was named Rookie of the Year after placing sixth.  She returned home to Florida, ready to get in even better shape for the next year. Stern refers to her method of training as F.A.S.T.

“It stands for Functionally Aesthetic Strength Training,” she said. “I’m probably the only Figure girl who trains like I train. I don’t have a trainer or a dietitian.”

Stern’s unusual training methods are a big reason for her fast climb up the ranks in the sport. By the time the next Olympia rolled around, Stern was ready to go for the title.

“The whole week going into the show is tough. You’re dialing it in,” she said. “You’re focusing on your diet. You cut out all the salt because you don’t want to retain water. I visualized the win in my mind. I’d go through my poses at home, practice how I’d walk out on stage.”

On the day of the show, Stern paraded onto the stage with the other competitors.  Her biggest competition was Nicole Wilkins-Lee, a button-nosed blonde from Michigan who’d captured the Olympia title the previous year.

During the preliminary round of the show, Stern and Wilkins-Lee were called out together in a tiny group of two to pose for the judges. That’s when Stern knew she was “either in first or second place” on the judges’ cards. Unfortunately, she’d have to wait until the next day to find out whether she was a winner or a runner-up.

After avoiding the urge to snack during the next 24 hours, Stern waited nervously on the finals stage as the runners-up were announced. Eventually, it came down to her and Wilkins-Lee. The bright lights shone down on Stern’s spray-tanned face as she awaited her fate, her body full of nerves, a little like when she had her bat mitzvah years before.

Stern’s nerves were short-lived. The judges announced the first runner-up: Nicole Wilkins-Lee. “I thought I was going to cry tears of joy and faint at the same time. It was just like I’d dreamed,” Stern recalled. She was presented with a “big plastic check” for $28,000. “It’s just like what the men get, except without an extra zero at the end,” Stern joked, referencing the $200,000 prize this year’s Mr. Olympia, Jay Cutler, walked away with. But the money didn’t matter to Stern — it was the feeling of joy at winning a title, of accomplishing her goal, of making it those last few centimeters.

Since her win, Stern’s been very busy enjoying her newfound fame. She’s graced the covers of magazines like Oxygen and expanded her online training business to help women from around the world build better bodies. She’s traveled to expos across the country to make appearances, and she’ll be in Los Angeles at L.A.’s Fit Expo in January.

Stern is looking forward to getting more involved in the business side of fitness. “I don’t want to compete forever,” she said. She’s more interested in inspiring others and in encouraging people to live healthy lifestyles. And maybe she’ll encourage other Jewish women to take more control of their health and to pick up some weights. Young Jewish women may not decide that bodybuilding is for them, but Stern is a shining example of how being a buff Jew is no longer an oxymoron.

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Mix of high-tech and human helps students learn Torah [VIDEO]

Indeed, bar or bat mitzvah training today has become increasingly reliant on technology to complement learning — from YouTube videos of kids chanting and online lessons with a cantor or tutor to on-the-go studies with an iPod. 

Experts say new technologies can make b’nai mitzvah study and planning easier for students and families with hectic schedules. But at a time when some students prepare for their simcha with a tutor via Skype — oftentimes in lieu of the family joining a synagogue — others worry that an over-reliance on technology removes critical human elements from training intended to prepare youth for a communal faith that favors public prayer. 

At congregations such as Stephen S. Wise Temple, Sinai Temple and Temple Judea, students access b’nai mitzvah prep materials online, like blessings, prayers and Torah portions.

Jennifer Smith, b’nai mitzvah and social justice coordinator at Stephen S. Wise Temple, says online technology works better with the lifestyles of today’s students than old technologies do.

“Kids are always coming in with their iPods and phones … something they always have with them,” she said. “Oftentimes they’ll forget their books or say their CD player is broken.”

Today’s high-tech b’nai mitzvah tools not only provide students with convenience, but also offer parents peace of mind.

“We used to have parents ask us, ‘How is my child going to study on winter break?’ ” Smith said.

Mitzvah Tools is one online-based resource that some synagogues and tutors are using to help coordinate learning. The Web-based app enables students to download or upload materials from any computer and monitor their own progress.

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Mitzvah Tools Demo

Developed by Rabbi Dan Moskovitz of Temple Judea, Mitzvah Tools offers all the materials a bar or bat mitzvah-in-training could ever need — a section of downloadable MP3 recordings of blessings, prayers and the student’s Torah portion; a Web-based calendar to track the student’s in-person meetings; an assignments page, where tutors give feedback regarding a student’s progress; and a space for a student to share audio or video recordings of his or her chanting, which a tutor can watch or listen to from anywhere.

The app also allows rabbis, cantors, tutors and parents to track the progress of the student, write notes, schedule appointments and note attendance (including when the student was late or absent).

“It’s all online, wherever they are,” Moskovitz said. “It’s a wonderful way to amalgamate all that information together.”

Another high-tech tool that’s available to aid b’nai mitzvah students is the Magic Yad, a Livescribe Pulse smartpen app named for the ritual pointer used during the Torah reading.

The app’s creator, Alan Greenfield, got the idea for the product when a bar mitzvah student he was helping was frustrated with listening to cassettes in the car.

“I started working with the kid, and I could see how frustrating it was for him,” Greenfield said. “It was very hard for [him] to listen and repeat the one phrase on the audio. With the Magic Yad, you can just touch one phrase and you just touch it again as many times as you like. It facilitates repetitive learning of small units.”

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“In my day, they had a record,” said Cantor Nathan Lam of Stephen S. Wise Temple, describing the changing role of technology in b’nai mitzvah training. “It moved from records, to cassettes, to CD, to downloading MP3s off your computer.”
Magic Yad

About the size of a small ballpoint pen, the Livescribe smartpen comes equipped with an embedded computer, digital audio recorder and infrared camera. The Hebrew text is printed on special paper that consists of numerous small black dots in patterns that are essentially invisible to the human eye but can be detected by the pen’s camera.

When the student opens the folder and touches the smartpen to a mark at the beginning of any trope, Magic Yad knows to play a prerecorded version of how the phrase should be chanted.

The student can also record a phrase, compare his or her own version to that of the prerecorded version, and slow down the playback to work on pronunciation and cantillation.

Alan Warshaw, West Coast head of sales for Magic Yad, says technology makes studying a less daunting task for students.

“The problem is that with kids who are 12 years old, there are a lot of things that they would rather do” than study for their bar or bat mitzvah, he said. “So you have to get their attention. … The better the experience they have learning, the better they will feel about the Jewish milestone.”

Although the Magic Yad boasts a unique “cool factor” for tech-oriented kids, app creator Greenfield believes technology shouldn’t become a substitute for students meeting in person with tutors or teachers.

“It’s very hard to replace a human — [but] some people actually see it that way, even use [the Magic Yad] that way,” said Greenfield, who recommends families use the product with a tutor or teacher, rather than as a substitute. “We say, in conjunction with the tutor you can do extremely well. It makes the tutor’s job a lot easier.”

While Stephen S. Wise Temple’s Smith praises technology when it comes to teaching b’nai mitzvah students, she says it fell flat when it came to coordinating with parents.

“We found that over the phone and face-to-face check-in was much more effective than leaving messages for parents online,” she said. “I don’t know if our parents were ready for it.”

Lam similarly praises the role of technology in making learning easier, but he also stresses the importance of human interaction.

“The most important thing is the mentor who teaches the child,” he said. “[That] is more important than the technology.

“It’s not just, ‘Are they learning the rote material?’ ” he continued. “The question is the overall goal of the bar mitzvah training, for bar and bat mitzvah kids to feel a connection to Jewish peoplehood, to Israel, [to] a spiritual side to God, to make them Jewish learners.”

To illustrate his point, Lam recalled his own experience as a child studying for his bar mitzvah.

“I can tell you, I had the greatest teacher,” he said. “My cantor inspired so many of us to become cantors and rabbis. You can have all the technology in the world, but you cannot replace [my teacher’s] passion and talent and the level of which he thought. That model — you can’t replace that with technology.”

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A powerful way to make a point

With apologies to Monty Python, the day can best be described as, “And Now for Something Completely Different.” The guests started filing in, anticipating the usual bar mitzvah service at our cozy little temple — maybe the only one named for a city that carries the name of a saint: The Santa Monica Synagogue. Temple members, as well as family and friends who attended our other children’s b’nai mitzvahs, knew what to expect when they arrived. They’d find a physically small but big-of-heart place featuring an amiable guitar-strumming young cantor, Steve Hummel, and a rabbi, Jeffrey Marx, who is as good at telling shtetl stories as Sholom Aleichem.

They knew that they would witness the transformation of a boy into a leader that day. They understood that the bar mitzvah boy would not be merely a peripheral participant. On the contrary, he would be thoroughly prepared to chant his Torah and haftarah portions, offer a speech about each and actually lead the service from beginning to end, from “Mah Tovu” to the Mourner’s Kaddish, all the while instructing us when to rise and when to be seated.

As much as repeat visitors to our synagogue know what to expect from our b’nai mitzvah services, they also know what will be absent. They won’t see any roving photographers or videographers (and this goes for weddings, too). There will be no talking among the guests, and this rule goes double for the adolescent friends of the b’nai mitzvah. Nor will there be any gum chewing on the bimah. Before the service begins, the rabbi admonishes all guests to put their pagers, cell phones and BlackBerries on silent mode, and he requests that crying babies and antsy toddlers be taken out of the sanctuary during the service.

Parents’ speeches, which are preapproved by Rabbi Marx, are required to be brief. They really are not intended to be speeches, but rather blessings that we bestow upon our child. And they have to fit on a 3-by-5 index card. In other words, Rabbi Marx runs a tight ship.

So why, just before the service began, was my husband in the sanctuary, face down on the carpet, trying to camouflage power and extension cords by snaking them between the rows of chairs and firmly taping them to the carpet? And why did he then slide a laptop under his designated seat and position a projector in such a way as to keep it from standing out like a matzah ball in a bowl of tomato soup?

Our pinstriped 13-year-old, Joel, commanded the bimah. He chanted the Ve-ahavta with ease, sailed through the Amidah and gave us kvelling rights over his Torah chanting. It was all in keeping with tradition. Until, that is, clicker in hand, Joel directed the audience to the white board that had been wheeled up to the bimah.

His Torah portion had to do with God’s instruction to Moses to gather the Levites and assign them to serve Aaron and to maintain the Tabernacle. Joel addressed this directive in his speech, but he did so via a PowerPoint presentation — certainly the first ever in our synagogue.

Interpreting his portion, Joel cited the message of “Spider-Man”: With great power comes great responsibility. His graphics were simple stick figures to illustrate examples of the power-and-responsibility partnership.

People seemed to find this unique approach both enlightening and entertaining. In particular, it kept Joel’s friends focused and engaged. The PowerPoint commentary was done with the rabbi’s approval and even encouragement.

“But why?” I asked Rabbi Marx. How did we go from banning photographers and video cameras to allowing a computer projector displaying visuals on a white board during the service?

Don’t get me wrong; I was enthralled by our son’s presentation and very pleased that the rabbi was a co-conspirator in this innovative endeavor.  I was simply perplexed at how far the rabbi had permitted Joel to deviate from the strict guidelines of our b’nai mitzvah services.

“I’ve long wished that the Torah portions concerned with the Tabernacle could be accompanied by some illustration,” Rabbi Marx said. “Joel had such a portion, and after he wrote a solid speech, we agreed that pictures would enhance his message. Keep in mind, a certain amount of technology has already seeped into our services. We use microphones, and our Confirmation students have, on occasion, during their service, imparted a lesson about the Ten Commandments through a video creation. Moreover, we are a congregation that has always been open to creative ways of engaging our members, while maintaining a sense of kedusha in our sanctuary.”

“Was my son a trailblazer?” I wondered.

“It was an experiment,” he said. “Your son wanted to do this, and I was curious to learn whether it could be done in an unobtrusive manner. I’m glad we tried it. It happened to come off smoothly. Yes, it was the first of its kind, and no, it will not be repeated. There are too many variables, too many buttons to press and gadgets to malfunction, and, as it turned out, bringing in the screen was too awkward.”

Suffice it to say, it was the first and last PowerPoint bar mitzvah speech at our temple. So our son might not be a trendsetter, but at the very least, he’s shown us once again that he’s an original. Can’t wait to see what he’ll come up with for his wedding.

For more information about The Children’s Foundation, visit thechildrensfoundation.org

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Medical incidents inspire two teens to support pediatric care

Ryan Gurman and Brandon Newberg, both 13, have never met. They live in different parts of Los Angeles, go to different schools, attend different synagogues and celebrated their bar mitzvahs almost a year apart. Yet over the past few months, the young men have shared a common purpose: helping sick and injured children at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center.

For both of the sports-loving teens, an unfortunate medical incident in their recent past awakened them to the importance of physical health. Ryan and Brandon focused their mitzvah projects not only on supporting a hospital, but also on channeling donations into pediatric care with help from Cedars’ Maxine Dunitz Children’s Health Center.

Brandon, who lives in Encino, recently completed his project in a traditional time frame — the months immediately preceding his December bar mitzvah. Ryan’s inspiration, however, struck him on the night of his big event this past January. After explaining that he felt too sick to publicly celebrate with his grandson, Ryan’s grandfather suffered a heart attack and was taken to Cedars-Sinai. A close look at the consequences of failing health — and the ability of doctors to reverse that pain — solidified Ryan’s plans for a project.

“I promised myself and my family that if all goes well — which it did, six months later, and after a lot of surgeries — I’m going to focus on making a difference,” the Beverly Hills teen explained.

Ryan went on to create The Children’s Foundation several months after his entry into the adult Jewish world. With a little help, he created the foundation’s Web site along with its Twitter and Facebook pages. Donations are sent directly to Cedars-Sinai, in honor of The Children’s Foundation.

“I just think about a bunch of suffering kids and why they can’t live lives of a regular, healthy kid. I think that keeps me going: to try to get them from suffering to smiling,” he said.

Brandon’s motivation to help the hospital also stemmed from a personal experience. An avid soccer player, Brandon saw the potential for serious sports injuries after he broke a finger and a wrist. Brandon led a soccer clinic with help from the head and assistant coaches on his soccer team, the Guadalajara River Plate. He applied the advice provided to him by Dr. Ryan Kotton, director of pediatric physical medicine and rehabilitation at Cedars, to set up three stations: one for learning to safely shoot the ball, one for ball passing, and the last — but most important station — for learning how to head a soccer ball without risk of concussion.

Through the suggested donations for clinic attendees, various checks from family and friends as well as a generous gift from Brandon himself, the Newbergs ultimately donated a little more than $700 to the hospital. Kotton informed the family that the funds have since been used to create educational materials on sports-related injuries for use in emergency rooms.

“I think it did teach him,” said Sharyn Newberg, Brandon’s mother. “It helps him see how hard it is to make money.”

After producing a newfound maturity in both young men, the two projects may lead them in different directions.

While Brandon remains open to the possibility of running another soccer clinic down the road, he seems mostly excited about steering his 10-year-old brother, Austin, in a similar direction for his future mitzvah project. He sees mitzvahs as the center of Jewish life and wants to perform them whenever the opportunity arises.

“He really has changed,” his mother said. “The past year, I think he’s just become more mature and more responsible.”

“He’s got the confidence and I think that shows,” agreed Howard Newberg, Brandon’s father.

And as Ryan tries to promote The Children’s Foundation, he hopes this project is just the beginning of what will grow for years: “I kind of want to consider this more than a mitzvah project,” Ryan said. “I want this to go throughout my life. The Jewish people are all about tikkun olam [repairing the world], so that’s what I’m about. I want to get the Jewish community involved; I want to make the community one big family striving to reach one goal.”

Ryan’s physical health goals extend beyond his foundation. Inspired by the doctors at the hospital where his grandfather was treated and where both he and his brother were born, Ryan has decided to pursue a future career as a surgeon. Although he acknowledges the difficulty of acceptance into Stanford (his top-choice school) and the many years of studying ahead, he feels strongly compelled to fix what is broken.

“I want people to know that anybody can take a stand,” Ryan said. “Anybody can do this to try to repair the world.”

For more information about The Children’s Foundation, visit thechildrensfoundation.org

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Bat mitzvah gone wild

When I walked into an on-call catering job a couple of months ago, I was genuinely thrilled to discover that we would be serving food for a bat mitzvah party. Since I had never had a bat mitzvah — let alone attended one — it seemed like a fun opportunity to create some memories around an event that everyone else seems to remember so fondly from their youth. I pictured a beautiful, ceremonial transition into adulthood for this little girl. I had no idea just how “adult” these little ladies and gentlemen were truly about to become.

With an excited smile plastered on my face, I headed into the crowd of attendees to pass out appetizers and found myself facing three stripper poles.

“This must be left over from a bachelor party last night,” I thought.

Middle-school boys pulled up chairs to form makeshift theater seating in front of the poles, and girls climbed up and started grinding against the aluminum in their impossibly tight mini-dresses.

“Their parents are going to be so mad when they see that the kids have stumbled on those bachelor party stripper poles,” I thought, desperately trying to hold on to my last bit of bat mitzvah naiveté.

I quickly learned through the co-worker grapevine that the young lady’s mother was, in fact, excited and proud that she had rented the poles for the celebration.

I knew that many parents went all-out for these parties. Articles have explored how some parents spend upward of six or seven figures in an attempt to make their children’s bar and bat mitzvahs the extravaganza of the year. An event planner interviewed in an April New York Post article explained the intensity of these celebrations: “It’s insane how competitive they are. Every single mom wants to be the mother that everyone is talking about.”

While this party did not appear to be a million-dollar event, renting stripper poles for middle-school students seemed like a move that would definitely garner some talk and attention for the parents.

“The irony is that the whole bat mitzvah system seems to be oriented around the adults rather than the needs of the children,” said Rabbi Jonathan Klein, the executive director of CLUE-LA and the former director of USC’s Hillel.

I circled the floor all evening and witnessed one girl who had been on the pole for so long that I couldn’t believe her 2-inch cork wedges hadn’t broken her ankles. I felt unbelievably awkward offering mini-burgers to the adolescent dancers.

That all of this occurred at a celebration for a spiritually based milestone seemed counterintuitive.

After hearing crazy bat mitzvah stories from my Jewish fiancé and reading about a wild 2009 bat mitzvah in Connecticut that ended in the arrest of a family member for disorderly conduct, I couldn’t help but wonder if the poles were simply a sign of the times.

“When it comes to the poles,” Klein said, “it almost seems like desecrating young people who are made in the image of God.”

Despite my own experience that night, there are numerous examples of appropriate celebrations that honor the religion. The story of how one particular young lady chose to celebrate her rite of passage stays with me. Perri Ginsberg was featured in a 2005 New York Times article titled “Putting Spirituality Back Into Bar Mitzvahs.” This young lady collected canned food, tied balloons to the cans, and used them as table centerpieces at her party in an effort to remind her guests of their calling to feed the hungry and poor. After her party, she donated the cans to a local soup kitchen. Her actions illustrate a frequently quoted modern Jewish adage: She focused more on the “mitzvah” and less on the “bar.”

Teenagers with raging hormones have always been desperate to delve into forbidden behavior. But what message do parents send when they encourage such behavior during the celebration of a presumably sacred event? When a young woman says to her community, “I am ready to be a responsible adult who will uphold the mitzvahs in order to make this world a better place,” that message gets lost in the over-sexualization of girls in front of their families and friends.

Becoming a bat mitzvah should be celebrated, but in a way that embraces the responsible side of Jewish adulthood, rather than the strip club.

“The modern bat mitzvah is not beyond repair,” Klein said. “It’s up to the community to reclaim it as a valuable symbol.”

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Curses and Blessings: Parashat Vayechi (Genesis 47:28-50:26)

“Gather, assemble yourselves and let me tell you what will become of you in the end of days,” Jacob says to his sons. These are the closing moments of the book of Bereshit (Genesis), and of all the portions in Bereshit, none is more poetic and none more opaque than Vayechi.

“And Israel’s dying days came closer,” says the text, and Jacob, perhaps propelled by this awareness, seems to muster all his creative energies and pours forth a series of perplexing blessings and curses that haunt our collective imaginations until this very day. Perhaps Jacob recognizes that this is his last chance to breathe some fire into this world, to leave his mark; to make the ascending angels of his youth take notice one last time of the dying dreamer they had visited two lifetimes ago at the bottom of the ladder.

What does Jacob mean by his stream-of-consciousness outpouring of poetic prophecy? From whence the passion and the decisiveness that had eluded him his entire life? How much do Jacob’s words to his sons affect us today? What is the difference between a blessing and a curse?

One could spend years poring over Jacob’s “blessings.” I’d like to touch on two of them.

The first blessing is personal: It is the blessing received by my namesake. “Dan Yaddin Amo. …” (“And Dan shall judge his people. …”) There are names one receives at birth that serve as guides, as gentle guardians throughout one’s life; names like Noam, pleasantness, or Zohar, radiant brilliance. Dan’s name is more a burden than a guide, more a hurdle than a gift. The name literally means “judgmental,” and it is given as a command: Go out and judge; be true to your name.

Samson, the most famous Danite, would rather do anything but. He spends his entire career running away from his vocation. He becomes Nad, a wanderer, instead of Dan, a judge. His ending, while spectacular, is not a good one, and it teaches us that one can no more escape one’s essence than a nightingale can escape its sweet voice. I have struggled with my name and its dangerous attributes my entire life. I consider my name a great blessing precisely for the warning it carries with it: Judge, when and if you must, but do so with mercy and compassion. Be careful, be kind, be sweet.

The second blessing I’d like to visit is Levi’s. The power of the words Jacob visits upon Levi is stunning. The “blessing,” it would appear, is really a curse. Levi, along with his brother, Shimon, is berated for the murderous rampage the brothers embarked upon after the rape of their sister, Dina.

Jacob’s words are harsh and unforgiving. He appears to doom Levi to the life of an eternal outsider. He and his descendants are to be scattered among the children of Israel.

Later on, after the Exodus from Egypt, the Levites are chosen by God to be eternal servants in the house of the Lord. Where’s the curse? Why the Levites, of all tribes? The action God takes is not unlike the wise teacher who picks on the most troubled child in class to be the teacher’s aid; to sit closer to the teacher than any other child in class. It is neither a reward nor a punishment. It is the exact tikkun (repair) that child requires. The most violent of tribes is chosen for holy work precisely because it is the tribe that needs holiness more than any other. The Levites are still scattered, landless, outsiders, but now they are doing so for the sake of holiness. Perhaps, those who are in service of God, those whose lives are spent in religious leadership, to this very day, are doing so because they are the ones who are most in need of it.

“Gather, assemble yourselves and let me tell you what will become of you in the end of days,” Jacob says to his sons, and his words to them are the blueprint of the Jewish people’s destiny. They are the markers of our lives: personally, according to our Hebrew names; collectively, according to the tribes of our ancestors. Family history does matter. Names matter. Words matter. To us, as Jews, words are the DNA of our history, our culture, our souls. Jacob’s words are curses embedded in blessings and blessings embedded in curses, and whether they serve us for good or for bad, for holiness or profanity, is still, and always will be, entirely up to each one of us.

Chazak! Chazak! Venitchazek! Be strong! Be strong! And we shall be strengthened!

Danny Maseng is chazzan and music director at Temple Israel of Hollywood (tioh.org), a Reform congregation.

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Obituaries Dec. 17-23, 2010

Jack Alpan died Sept. 22 at 71. Survived by wife Jaffa Alpan; daughter Wendy (Joey Camen); son David; sister Sylvia Hananel.

Cornelia August died Nov. 3 at 94. Survived by daughter Jill (David) Pollock; son Ralph; 2 grandchildren; 2 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Terry Bearman died Nov. 4 at 70. Survived by husband Michael; daughters Alex Hayley and Liza Michelle; sister Dee Dee Fredericks. Hillside

Edward Bernstein died Nov. 7 at 84. Survived by wife Francine; daughter Sherry; sons Barry and Andrew. Hillside

Esther Bernstein died Oct. 20 at 86. Survived by niece Rissa Burke; nephew Stewart; brother Louis. Hillside

Lillian Brodie died Nov. 3 at 95. Survived by son Ernie (Melody) Kestenbaum; 1 grandchild. Mount Sinai

Gene Broth died Nov. 4 at 73. Survived by wife Merril; daughter Rachel (Chris) Hammelman; son Jason (Michelle); 3 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ruth Colton died Oct. 16 at 85. Survived by daughters Beverly Gruber, Dahlia (Dolly) (Lawrence) Bretter and Anita (Chris) Aanderson; 3 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Hillside

Albert Cutler died Nov. 4 at 87. Survived by son Ron; 1 grandchild. Hillside

Haya Duhl died Nov. 6 at 84. Survived by daughter Rena; son Ron. Hillside

Natalie Dukoff died Nov. 6 at 90. Survived by sons Michael and Joel. Hillside

Sophie Edberg died Nov. 2 at 83. Survived by husband Joseph; sons Steven (Janet) and Don (Cathy); 6 grandchildren. Hillside

Marlene (Mollie) Freundlich died Sept. 15 at 91. Survived by nieces Millie Nixon and Amy (Jerry) Freisleben; nephews Eric (Ana) Weinsheink and Hardy (Lisa) Warren; great-nieces and great-nephews.

Howard J. Greenfield died on Oct. 11 at 86. Survived by wife Edith; daughter Nancy (David) Feigin; sons James (Yvonne) and Hayes; 1 grandchild. Mount Sinai

Audree E. Greenwald died Nov. 4 at 89. Survived by husband Alvin G.; daughter Nancee (Steven Cron) Enyart; sons Paul (Isabel) and Randy (Marnie); 8 grandchildren; 2 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Raymond Hornick died Nov. 4 at 93. Survived by daughter Barbara Yogt; son Laurence; 3 grandchildren; 5 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Irene Jacobson died Nov. 7 at 100. Survived by daughter Loretta Aarons; 2 grandchildren; 4 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Lois Jersky died Nov. 6 at 97. Survived by sister-in-law Florence Fuss. Hillside

Joyce Kohn died Nov. 3 at 80. Survived by husband Robert; daughter Linda; sons Michael (Caroline) and Philip (Anne); 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Linda Eileen Kritzman died March 14 at 61. Survived by daughter Lila Feingold; 2 grandchildren; and sisters Suzanne Leon and Judith Romano. Chevra Kadisha

Ida Ruth Mallin died Nov. 5 at 92. Survived by daughter Debbie; sons Jeff (Vera) and Harry Knight; sister Jean Goode; 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Nancy Ann Malvin died Oct. 26 at 51. Survived by husband John Hotta; mother Ann Golenternek; sister Jennifer; brother David. Hillside

Lee Maurer died Nov. 3 at 98. Survived by son Edward. Hillside

Edith Meyer died Nov. 6 at 84. Survived by daughter Virginia Sotolov; son Richard; brother Warner Marx. Hillside

Beverly Mitchell died Oct. 30 at 86. Survived by daughters Jan and Karen; son Jonathan (Michelle); brother Robert (Phyllis) Heningson; 7 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Hillside

Carolyn Powers died Nov. 2 at 73. Survived by husband William (Bill); sisters Lillian Lerner and Arlene Miller; brother Mel Smith. Hillside

Stanton Joseph Price died Nov. 1 at 71. Survived by wife Sheila; son Abraham Matthew; brother Frank (Janet Rudolph). Mount Sinai

Preston Rubel died Nov. 2 at 55. Survived by mother Francine; daughter Jordan; sister Eileen (Jack) Morgan. Hillside.

Betty Schloss died Nov. 1 at 76. Survived by husband Konrad; daughters Debra (Nissim) and Michelle; 1 grandchild; sister Ruth (David) Ingber. Mount Sinai

Pola Urman died Nov. 5 at 85. Survived by daughter Renee; grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

Galina Ushomirskaya died Nov. 30 at 95. Survived by granddaughter Inga Lavrova. Hillside

Ideline Wall died Nov. 7 at 87. Survived by daughters Barbara (Howard) Pratt and Shirley (Greg); sons Jack (Sally) and David (Jenny); sister-in-law Evelyn Chersky; 6 grandchildren; 5 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Anne Weiss died Nov. 2 at 91. Survived by daughters Wendy (Richard) Kane and Janyce (Andy); 6 grandchildren; brother Robert (Patricia). Mount Sinai

Jeff West died Oct. 14 at 50. Survived by mother Katy Szucs; father Louis Szucs; 1 daughter; 2 sons. Sholom Chapels

Ronald Woldman died Oct. 5 at 77. Survived by wife Wally; daughter Laurie (Barry) Heaps; sons Mark (Angie), Brian (Thomas), Darin (Kellie), Garry (Karen) and Mitchell (Eurlyne); 9 grandchildren; 2 great-grandchildren; sister Marlene Weinstein. Malinow and Silverman

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