The following questions were placed anonymously in an Ask Your 27-Year-Old Yenta question box.
Is it ever right to sexually gratify one’s own sister?
Wow. Well, probably. Let’s say you are a guy and you two were the last people on earth and you HAD to procreate to save the human race, it would be better to enjoy the act. Or, let’s say you are a sister yourself, and she was dying on her death-bed and you were the only one around. Her final wish was “I need an orgasm,” maybe you would be a jerk if you didn’t manually deliver.
But generally, yes, incest is taboo. This means try not to tongue kiss, feel up, or make love to your siblings. For examples of people who might disagree, read Flowers in the Attic by V.C. Andrews, watch Brenda’s incest dream on Six Feet Under, or rent the racy sibling sex movie The Dreamers.
For more see this article on a brother and sister who want to be accepted for their dirty deeds, and this response from Jezebel.com. In the end, though, you are the only one who knows what your own personal taboos are.
Has giving head made you nauseous?
I would venture to say that many people find giving head sickening. Ie, gag reflex. Many people don’t like things shoved down their throats or putting their mouths in wet areas in close proximity to human waste. Others hate the taste, the smell, the heat of genitals.
If you feel like puking because you got down on your knees for your lover it may be the act, or it may be you need to talk about oral sex, respect, trust, and whatever else floats your boat. Maybe you need assistance, Hershey’s syrup, marshmallow whip, honey: pick your flavor. Communication is always crucial. Don’t silence your tastes and distastes out of fear. This is a sign of poor lovemaking.
Reactions to sexual acts run the gammet. Don’t judge yourself, and never force yourself to do something if it causes you pain, nausea, or distress. Unless, of course, you enjoy those sensations.
Does being a roommate with a female provide the privilege of sex regardless of affection?
Um. No. No. And no. The “privilege of sex” is never automatically granted. Sometimes when people are roommates and attracted to each other, they get it on. Sometimes, when a roommate crawls into his roommate’s bed, who clearly doesn’t like him and doesn’t want him there, it is called “rape.” Careful, my friend. Sex is a consenting act between two willing parties. Love or affection may or may not be involved, but be sure consent ALWAYS is. How did we say it in college? “Yes means yes, no means no, however we dress, wherever we go!” Oh, and “No means no, it doesn’t mean maybe, don’t touch me my name ain’t baby!”
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An Israeli student group distributed a Yizkor memorial prayer with an additional passage that attacks leftists and conscientious objectors.
Im Tirtzu, a right-wing grass-roots group that calls itself the “Second Zionist Revolution,” distributed 15,000 pamphlets in Israeli synagogues in time for Memorial Day, Haaretz reported Monday.
“Let the people of Israel remember those from within it, flesh from their flesh, who participated in claims against its officers and soldiers,” the additional passage reads. “Those who during the time of the battle to defend Israel stood at protests and called their soldiers war criminals. Remember those in deep darkness befriended the worst enemies of Israel in order to harm the holy ones delivered their souls for the sake of the nation.”
The pamphlets are part of Im Tirtzu’s renewed attack on the New Israel Fund, which it accused in a report released in February of funding most of the groups that made claims against the Israeli army that appear in the Goldstone Report on the Gaza war in the winter of 2009. The report accuses Israel and Hamas of war crimes and possible crimes against humanity.
A controversial Im Tirtzu advertisement that ran in several newspapers in February showed a caricature of Naomi Chazen, a former member of Knesset and head of the New Israel Fund, with a horn on her forehead for the word keren, which means both a fund and a horn in Hebrew.
An Im Tirtzu ad published Sunday for Israel’s Memorial Day read, “We remember, they persecute. Fact: The New Israel Find betrayed IDF officers to international courts.”
In a strange turn of events, the Association for Civil Rights in Israel, which is funded in part by the New Israel Fund, is currently representing Im Tirtzu in a case in which ACRI says the student group’s freedom of expression has been curtailed in its campaign against the New Israel Fund.
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A Jewish group in South Africa still plans to protest if Richard Goldstone attends his grandson’s bar mitzvah.
South African Zionist Federation Chairman Avrom Krengel told the daily Cape Times Monday that his organization would still protest should Judge Richard Goldstone change his mind and decide to attend his grandson’s bar mitzvah in Johannesburg next month.
Following negotiations between the federation and the Beth Hamedrash Hagadol synagogue in Sandton acting on behalf of the family, Goldstone told JTA last week that “In the interests of my grandson, I’ve decided not to attend the ceremony at the synagogue.”
Goldstone was the head of a United Nations-appointed commission that investigated the Gaza war in the winter of 2008-09. The commission’s final report accused Israel and Hamas of war crimes and possible crimes against humanity.
Krengel stressed that Goldstone had “definitely not” been barred from the bar mitzvah, but that he would not receive a welcome reception should he choose to attend.
“We’ll exercise our constitutional right to protest,” he said.
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From HuffingtonPost.com:
Maureen Dowd recently wrote about the Catholic Church’s negation of women. It seems like that’s a frequent headline: Women Negated by Religion. Or: Women Still Negated by Religion. Too often, it’s true. It’s true in enormous, striking, unavoidable ways that deny women ownership of their own bodies and prevent them from taking control of their own lives, let alone their communities. I hope I don’t appear insensitive to this reality when I point out another, quieter, but equally unavoidable trajectory. For some women, leading a religious community is not only normal, it is a critical part of their experience of themselves as women.
We live in a world of religious extremes, filled in and fleshed out by the necessary subtleties of people’s real-life experiences, in the spaces where religious ideals clash with or facilitate mundane existence. I performed a service at which a young Orthodox girl stared at me in open horror as I touched the Torah. In her mind, I’d contaminated the Word of God with my corrosive, forbidden femininity. And yet, the majority of students entering many seminaries are women.
Being a clergymember has always been about being a woman for me. I was trained by a woman clergymember, and the rabbi I work with now is a woman. I spent two years serving with a male rabbi, and, you know, I dealt. I am a lay cantor at a synagogue in central New Jersey. I’m twenty-four years old. I’ve been serving a congregation since I was fifteen. For those of you who don’t know what a cantor is, that’s the person who stands up on the bima (alter) with the rabbi and sings in Hebrew. OK, there’s a bit more to it, but that’s what you see when you walk into a synagogue. Jewish clergy come in pairs: rabbis and cantors.
Read the full article at HuffingtonPost.com.
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