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December 21, 2009

Twitter, prayers and grief

I regularly see Twitter updates asking for prayer. And I’ve never thought there was anything weird or inappropriate about that. Further, I think it’s a great use of social media.

So why the hate?

As Shellie Ross waited in a hospital for word on her son, Bryson, she posted this note to the social networking site Twitter.com: “Please pray like never before, my 2 yr old fell in the pool.”

She found out 19 minutes later that Bryson was dead.

Ross’ decision to broadcast that message Monday night to more than 5,300 people who follow her posts on Twitter has unleashed torrents of support and derision. Social networking experts and friends said Ross was right to reach out for help, while critics questioned whether her son would be alive if she spent less time online.

“Could this child’s death have been averted had the mom not been on Twitter all day?” asked Madison McGraw, a personal security guard and writer who blogs at madisonmcgraw.com. “This woman spent all of her time on Twitter. It was unbelievable,” said McGraw, who lives outside of Philadelphia and doesn’t know Ross.

Everybody’s a pundit.

Indeed, children are 100 times more likely to drown in a pool than be killed by a firearm. But it is absurd to suggest that just because someone was blogging or tweeting that they were responsible for their child drowning. Sadly, kids have been drowning in pools since swimming pools became a marker of American suburbia. Despite what the above video from the David Crowder Band says, Twitter doesn’t actually kill you.

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Bid to ban Christmas in Jerusalem is wrong

A group calling itself Lobby for Jewish Values is handing out fliers in Jerusalem condemning Christmas. They are pushing for a ban on all public displays of Christmas trees and other “foolish” Christian symbols, and asking the public to boycott restaurants and other public institutions that show such displays.

I guess it’s really true—the abused grow up to become the abusers.

I appreciate that for nearly 2,000 years Christmas was a very scary time for most Jews living in Christian cultures, and that one response to that pain and fear is to lash out at any expression of the holiday. But the fact that such behavior is understandable does not make it acceptable. An explanation is not an excuse, especially for such a small-minded and mean-spirited response to the desire of decent people to celebrate a holiday sacred to their community.

It’s especially painful and sadly ironic that in the name of Jewish values, Jews would do to others precisely what was done to us for millennia. But I guess the seduction of having that role is why the Torah repeats more than any single teaching that we are obligated to remember we were slaves in Egypt.

And while nobody should think the attitude of Lobby for Jewish Values represents the thinking of most Jews in Israel, until people can make a real Jewish case for allowing the public celebration of multiple traditions in Israel, the majority will be susceptible to being held hostage by such religious totalitarianism. So to that end, I would share a few additional Jewish values that might make the case.

First, according to Genesis, all people are created in the image of God. The Rabbis in the Mishnah said that means we are all equally valuable and unique. In other words, expressions of faith not our own can be both genuinely not ours and truly authentic expressions of faith.

Second, having been commanded by Leviticus to love others as we would love ourselves, and by the sages to refrain from doing to others what is hateful to us, we are obligated to secure the very religious freedom that we were denied.

Third, Jewish tradition does not teach that others must be like us to be present with us. In fact, the gerim mentioned throughout the Hebrew Bible are not converts, as it is often mistranslated, but fellow travelers, i.e., gentiles who shared the life of the ancient Israelite community.

Fourth, we should take the prophet Isaiah at his world when he teaches that God desires that God’s house will be “a house of prayer for all peoples.” If the longed-for Temple will welcome the many discreet peoples, “amim” in Hebrew, who will worship there, it seems that welcoming them to Jerusalem should be a no-brainer.

I could go on, but why bother. The truth is, the Lobby for Jewish Values can footnote its position probably as effectively as I can mine. The real issue is what we want. Did we wait 2,000 years for nothing more than the opportunity to do the same terrible things to others that were done to us?  I just don’t think so.

Rabbi Brad Hirschfield, the president of CLAL-The National Jewish Center for Learning and Leadership, is the author of “You Don’t Have to Be Wrong for Me to Be Right: Finding Faith Without Fanaticism.”

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‘Arbeit Macht Frei’ sign found in three pieces, arrests made

The “Arbeit Macht Frei” sign stolen from the memorial at the Auschwitz death camp was recovered.

The metal sign from the front gate of the concentration camp, which means “work makes you free,” was recovered early Monday morning, about 72 hours after it was stolen, according to reports.

The 16-foor-long sign, which was forged by prisoners at the camp, was found across the country in northern Poland and was cut into three pieces, according to reports. Five men, aged 20 to 39, were arrested in the theft. The men are not thought to be neo-Nazis, Krakow Police Chief Andrzej Rokita told reporters during a news conference Monday.

Police and anonymous donors had offered a reward of nearly $40,000 for information leading to the sign’s return.

The theft occurred one day after Germany announced that it would contribute $87 million to the new Auschwitz-Birkenau Foundation, which earlier this year launched a campaign to raise $172 million to preserve the remains of the death camp as a memorial and museum.

There are about 450 buildings and remains of buildings at the site, including the ruins of gas chambers, as well as 80,000 pairs of shoes of victims and 3,800 suitcases, according to a report by the German broadcaster Deutsche Welle.

Some 1.1 million people, including about 1 million Jews, were murdered at Auschwitz.

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Report: Israel admits to harvesting organs in the 1990s

Israel admitted to harvesting organs from dead bodies in the 1990s.

The admission came after the release of a 2000 interview with Dr. Yehuda Hiss, who was the head of Israel’s L. Greenberg Forensic Institute in Abu Kabir, The Associated Press reported.

Hiss told an American academic in the interview, parts of which were broadcast on Israel’s Channel 2 over the weekend, that the institute used corneas from bodies, including Israeli soldiers, Palestinians and foreign workers. Channel 2’s report said that corneas, heart valves, skin and bones were used from the corpses without families’ permission.

The scholar released the interview following a report in a Swedish newspaper that Israel was harvesting the organs of Palestinians killed by Israeli soldiers, an accusation that Israeli officials have denied, AP reported.

The Israel Defense Forces confirmed to Channel 2 that the organs were used, but stressed that the practice stopped a decade ago.

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Webcast: Author Angella Nazarian shares insights on Iranian Jewish immigrant experience

As an 11-year-old Jewish girl living in Tehran, Angella M. Nazarian witnessed firsthand the turmoil and violence of the 1979 Islamic revolution in Iran. Massive anti-Shah protests in the streets coupled with rampant machine gunfire were just some of the painful memories Nazarian recalls in her new book “Life As A Visitor”. Now author and professor of psychology at UCLA, Nazarian’s personal account sheds light on how her once sheltered carefree life as a Jew living in a Muslim country was suddenly turned upside down as a result of the turbulent revolution that forced thousands of Jews and other Iranians opposed to the new radical Islamic regime to flee Iran. “Life As a Visitor” also features Nazarian’s powerful poetry and vivid photographs carefully woven throughout the book.

I thoroughly enjoyed her book and it resonated with me because it tells a very personal story of the turmoil Jews fleeing from Iran experienced and how they readjusted to life in America. Her story is also special in my opinion because she gives some new insights to the challenges younger Iranian American Jews have encountered in finding a new identity. I believe that Nazarian’s story, while not political, is especially important today because it offers non-Iranian readers a unique perspective on the true evil and brutal nature of the current regime in Iran.

Now living in Beverly Hills, Nazarian recently sat down with me to discuss her new book and her experience as an Iranian Jewish immigrant living in the United States. The following is my video interview with her:

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Israeli Cabinet advances bill on limiting alcohol

Israel’s Cabinet approved a bill banning the sale of alcohol to people under age 21.

The bill, passed Sunday, also bans the sale of alcohol in public places and would impose large fines on those who sell alcohol to minors.

Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said at the beginning of the Cabinet meeting that according to the World Health Organization, Israel is second in the world in alcohol consumption by 11-year-olds and the rate of consumption among 15- to 17-year-olds is above 50 percent.

“We are at the onset of an epidemic,” he said.

The bill now goes to a vote of the full Knesset and must pass three readings.

Under another bill, the Knesset will vote on a ban on the sale of alcohol between 11 p.m. and 7 a.m.

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How to pick up your wife: Garden of Peace-Part I

Some people think when they get married they don’t have to try anymore, especially the man. He’s already proven to the woman that she’s number one in his life—why else would he give up his freedom and take the leap so many men dread? They think it’s payback time: now she’ll have to forever give love, affection, dedication without any hassle and, of course, make dinner and clean the house.

The book, Garden of Peace: A Marital Guide for Men Only by Rabbi Shalom Arush, ” title=”website”>website, as the kind of guy so many desirable women reject in favor of the “jerk”? He is if he sacrifices his identity and values. Here’s where the “manliness lies”: he is not needy, whiny, or judgmental. He’s comfortable enough with who he is that he doesn’t seek honor from people around him, even from his wife. Likewise, pick-up artists (PUAs) teach that the “alpha male” doesn’t look for a woman to validate him, especially when he approaches her for the first time.

The major lesson throughout the book is that a husband must turn on his “mensch” with his wife. During dating stages, a woman generally likes to know a man has his own life—that he has values, integrity, character, and social acceptance as well as professional fulfillment and hobbies.

But once they marry or begin to date seriously, she wants to be the top value. By marrying her, he tells her she deserves to be his top value. So marriage is not the time to slack-off. It’s the time to turn on the “mensch” part of MANsch—to be that “nice guy” who will honor his wife as the best thing that ever happened to him and whom he’ll love and protect as the strong-willed, self-contained, self-assured “alpha male” that he is.

However, when approaching and dating attractive women, many men treat the girl as if she’s the best thing that ever happened to them before they get to know her, and it indicates that their interest may be superficial and that they have few standards because they’ll take any pretty woman that comes their way, like any AFC (average frustrated chump) or clueless mensch.

Visit Orit’s website dealing with the art of seduction, ” title=”Survival of the Shittest”>Survival of the Shittest, on the subtle tests women given men on dates and throughout relationships.

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