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December 30, 2016

Hidden Figures: Be of Good Courage

וַיִּקְרָא מֹשֶׁה לִיהוֹשֻׁעַ, וַיֹּאמֶר אֵלָיו לְעֵינֵי כָל-יִשְׂרָאֵל חֲזַק וֶאֱמָץ

“And Moshe called to Yehoshua and said to him in the sight of all the people Israel….”(Deuteronomy 31:7)

Years ago, as part of a groundbreaking celebration in honor of Congregation Kol Ami’s then-new building, I heard a commentary on the above pasuk delivered by former L.A. County Supervisor Zev Yaroslavsky. He reminded us that the next phrase, “hazak v’ehmatz” is often translated as “be strong and of good courage.” But there are alternatives translations of “ehmatz” which imply not only strength but balance and stability amidst opposing forces. Yaroslavsky suggested that we understand Moshe’s charge to be something like, “have moral courage”—be strong and brave in your values; be willing to take risks, but for the right reasons.

Hidden Figures is a movie about all kinds of courage, ometz (moral courage) as well as hozek (heroic strength). If, like me, you have been looking for ways to move forward following our national election, this film will be balm to your soul.

Taraji P. Henson, Octavia Spencer and Janelle Monae bring to life three of the Black women mathematicians (called “computers” in the day when that meant human beings) whose work was essential to the U.S. space program in the 1960s. Katherine Johnson, played by Henson, calculated flight trajectories for Apollo missions, including the one that launched John Glenn’s historic orbit of the Earth. Dorothy Vaughn, played by Spencer, was one of the first people to effect NASA’s transition to non-human computers. She was both an early computer programmer and a workplace leader, one of NASA’s first African-American female supervisors. Mary Jackson, played by Monae, became NASA’s first African-American female engineer and worked hard to bring other women into math and science. Each of these women was essential to the work of putting Americans into space.

We watch them moving through a daily gauntlet of outrages and humiliations, from being obliged to walk a half mile in the rain to the only designated bathroom for someone both female and Black, to being addressed by first name by a peer who expected to be called “Mrs.”, to navigating, with dignity, a moment of heart-stopping peril–an encounter with a white police officer on an isolated road.

Here we see what pinnacles are achievable through the ethic most recently articulated as “when they go low, we go high.” We also see that victory is not inevitable and that none of these heroes goes it alone. We see working class parents who will do whatever it takes to see that their blazingly smart daughter gets the best education available (to Black people in the South at the time). We see men so secure in themselves that they rate their marriages to brilliant women as high honor, and we see children raised to be proud of their mother’s achievements, even when they keep her at work very late, and who are taught a deep courtesy that goes beyond mere politeness. We see a religious institution, the Black church, as a place of confirmation and uplift for people bent on winning justice. And we see a supervisor who is unwilling to accept advancement for herself—a promotion that she has been forced to earn and petition for many times before it is granted—unless the women she leads are moved forward as well. We see solidarity and friendship and love enacted over and over again as community values, along with hard work and a relentless drive toward excellence. We see hozek and we see ometz.

We are shown heroes in nosebleed pumps and shirtwaist dresses (perhaps a sweater over a skirt, but no jewelry, excepting a single string of pearls) who rarely break a nail and whose heroics display, not physical strength, but grandeur of heart and mind. We see also Glen Powell’s winning portrait of John Glenn, every inch the hero of saga with his muscles and crew cut and dashing grin; and are reminded of just how brave the first astronauts and cosmonauts were, keeping it together in a rattling metal shed, riding a rocket into space—and everything calculated by hand. We see too Glenn’s own moral courage when he insists that Katherine Johnson (“the smart one”) be called on to confirm his trajectories personally (although that also could have been sheer will to self-preservation). This movie ties together two great American projects of the 1960s, the movement for civil rights and the space program, suggesting that the aspirational yearnings of the day could be entwined in a values-driven drive for a better world in every sense.

Those of us who were reminded bracingly this previous election of the brokenness of our world, who are disheartened and sickened by the elevation of cruelty and crudity, by the confusion of heroic stature with brutality, and by not-so-veiled invocations of bigotry—based on race, on class, on gender, on sexual orientation, on ability, on religion—need this movie now. I am humbled to my toes by the grace of those women who lived in constant danger, surrounded by a choking miasma of hateful provocation and spite. And who not only achieved but remained able to love and to pray.

Their example reminds us that cynicism is no more realistic than starry-eyed idealism and that we have no time for despair. That little is guaranteed, but much is possible. If we pull together all our values—if we unite hard work and tenacity with kindness and solidarity and a respect for human dignity—then we can still reach for the stars. Oh yes we can.

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7 Haiku for Parsha Miketz (in which cows determine the future)

I
In Egypt jail
the dreamer interprets dreams.
Leads to his release.

II
Egypt’s future is
determined by Pharaoh and
one man’s dreamy cows.

III
A nice Jewish boy
Egypt’s second in command.
Dad would be so proud.

IV
Empty bellies bring
estranged brothers to town. Their
kin’s face a stranger.

V
Jacob. Still alive.
Wants to keep Benjamin that
way too. Hesitates.

VI
Turns out the party
was an intervention. The
brothers’ tests go on.

VII
Benjamin almost
lights up Joseph’s face. Then the
stolen goblet test.

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Rosner’s Torah Talk: Parashat Miketz with Rabbi Jacob Staub

Our guest this week is ” target=”_blank”>Parashat Miketz (Genesis 41:1-44:17) – features the second part of the story of Joseph and his brothers. The parasha begins with Joseph interpreting the Pharaoh's dream and continues to tell us about Joseph's rise to power, about the seven years of famine, and about Joseph's first re-encounter with his brothers who come to Egypt to purchase grain. Our discussion focuses on family trauma and healing.

Our Past discussions of Parashat Miketz:

Rabbi Aaron Bergman on ” target=”_blank”>the Jew, the outsider, as the interpreter of dreams

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Evolution of a Trump Lover in 18 Steps

1. No way! He is so vulgar and crass and has no experience. Any Republican nominee but him!

2. Wow? He pulled off the primaries. What? Is American crazy? We are in trouble.

3. Both Hillary and Trump are just so awful. I probably won’t vote.

4. Well, Trump is still crazy but Hillary is just evil. She is so arrogant and completely disconnected with America. She’s only worried about her own pocketbook and power.

5. Trump is running a pretty good campaign. He’s still saying crazy things but he’s always out on the trail.

6. Well, maybe I’ll vote for him. What does it matter anyway? He’ll lose. It’ll at least be a protest vote.

7. Hillary is even more evil than I thought, lying about her health and God knows what else. Her smile is so fake. Trump isn’t talking as crazy anymore. I don’t agree with everything, but at least he’s making clear policy speeches not soundbites. Yeah, I’ll just vote for him.

8. Why are conservatives saying #NeverTrump if it means we’ll get Hillary? Intellectual snobs, throwing their weight with the woman who’ll probably win.

9. He still doesn’t have a chance, especially with that “pussy” remark, but still: #NeverHillary! At least he is waking people up to her (and Bill’s) corruption and hypocrisy. No other Republican nominee would take her on like this.

10. When I start posting my preference for Donald J. Trump, I get viciously attacked. This bullying makes me want DJT more. I start to empathize with him because I know I’m not all those nasty names they call me.

11. Okay, Hillary will win but a least Trump is building a movement against Washington corruption.

12. Wait a minute! Is Trump winning?

13. OMG! Trump won! He made the “deal” with America. Wow. This guy is more incredible than I thought. We thought he was dumb, but actually – he was brilliant. Even his crazy remarks were part of his brilliance. They show his authenticity. Hillary is not even speaking to her supporters. Bitch.

14. Trump is still talking directly to the people and working very hard to make good appointments with qualified people. We don’t know exactly what they will bring, but I think he really means it when he says he wants the best for American people.

15. The Democrats are melting down, showing what immature crybabies they are. They are such hypocrites. They’re not about freedom and tolerance and acceptance.

16. Obama is going crazy! All these anti-Israel resolutions in the UN. All this backstabbing against the only good guy in the Middle East. Now terror has followed me to Berlin. Thank God for Trump. He gets it.

17. Trump might really de-fund the UN? Wow! I’m crazy about this guy. He might actually be a moral agent, recognizing good and evil. I don’t believe in saviors, but please let him really #DrainTheSwamp, not only in Washington, but in the world!

18. Yes, it’s official. I love Donald J. Trump! Stay safe and chazak v’amatz – be strong and courageous. Don’t disappoint, as you promised. #MAGA!

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Getting to 100 – What Makes for a Long and Healthy life?

Today, December 30, would have been my father’s 111th birthday. He made it only to #53, and every year I ponder what he and I would have become together and individually had he lived longer.

My mother, who died a year ago, almost made it to 100. She was eighteen months shy of that millennial milestone.

Their birthdays, yahrzeits, Yizkor, and other significant family events always raise for me the questions “What if…?” and “How do those who live to 100 do it?”

Here are eight responses by people who’ve reached 100 to the question “Why have you lived so long?”

“Eat boiled corn with codfish and cream, and laugh…”

“Smoke a good cigar, avoid alcohol, drink water, stay positive, and sing.”

“Thumb your nose at sadness, turn the tables on tragedy, laugh instead of getting angry, and don’t feel envious of anyone.”

“Find a good wife and drink two scotches every night.”

“Fight injustice, help people in trouble, and keep your mind active.”

“Do something new each day, avoid drama and stay far away from difficult people.”

“Mind your own business, don’t eat junk food, treat others well, and work hard at what you love.”

“Live for God, pray, and surround yourself with nice people.”

So… there you have it – but, not so fast, because even if we do everything right – i.e.  eat well, exercise, manage stress, maintain social connections, and live with faith – there’s no guarantee of anything.

After all, some of us are more prone to disease, accident, and rotten luck than others.

Longevity researchers say that both genetic factors and behavioral factors contribute to longevity. These include health and health behaviors, gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, stress, social and environmental support, mental health, and life satisfaction.

Perhaps the most important study on longevity is “The Longevity Project” written by psychology professors Howard Friedman and Leslie Martin of UC Riverside. They culminated an eight-decade-long study, begun in 1921 by Stanford University psychologist Lewis Terman, of 1500 precocious children. Terman died in 1956 so future researchers picked up where he left off, including Drs. Friedman and Martin. (see http://www.nytimes.com/2011/04/19/science/19longevity.html)

The 1500 children were followed in meticulous detail throughout their lives. In studying them Drs. Friedman and Martin conclude:

“The best childhood predictor of longevity [is] conscientiousness—the qualities of a prudent, persistent, well-organized person—somewhat obsessive and not at all carefree….It’s not the happy-go-lucky who thrive—it’s the prudent and persistent who flourish through the years.…conscientious people do more … to protect their health and engage in fewer [risky] activities …. are less likely to smoke or drive too fast. They buckle their seat belts and follow the doctor’s advice…They are not necessarily risk averse but they tend to be sensible in evaluating how far to push the envelope. [some are]…biologically predisposed to be …more conscientious and healthier ….less prone to develop certain diseases, … these people have different levels of the chemical…serotonin in their brains [serotonin helps to determine happiness and well-being]…Individuals with low levels of serotonin tend to be much more impulsive… and they eat more and sleep less… Having a conscientious personality leads a person into healthier situations and relationships… happier marriages, better friendships and healthier work situations.”

This study showed that kids described as cheerful and optimistic didn’t live as long as those boring and serious kids (i.e. nerds!?) who worried constantly about school, studied and worked hard.

The one factor that best predicted long life, even more than happiness itself, is purposeful goal-oriented work, whether for a paycheck or for its own sake. People drawn to live their lives with other like-minded, healthy, active, and involved people significantly increase the odds of their living longer and more happily.

Judaism emphasizes that it’s not the number of days or years that we live, it’s the quality of those days that matters and that is the surest way to wisdom (Psalm 90:12).

In this New Year 2017, there’s much about which to be thankful and much cause for  worry – e.g. Israel’s security, its isolation and the lack of a resolution to the Israeli-Palestinian conflict;  epic changes the Trump administration promises; the well-being of our children, grandchildren, extended family, friends, community, nation, people, the world, and the environment.

We cannot know what’s going to occur in the year to come. However, we can control how we ourselves cope – that is our challenge going forward.

I hope that each of us will be blessed with good health, length of years, and the knowledge that did all we could to live our lives ethically, compassionately, patiently, and with love.

Note: This is a blog I posted initially on December 27, 2013 with updates.

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10 Travel Trends for 2017

This was the year of tourism fallout in Europe due to random acts of terrorism. It was an unwelcome cocktail of terrorism and political instability. These included airport bombings in Brussels and Istanbul and previous year incidents in France. It also includes the death-by-vehicle drives in Nice, France as well as the horrendous Christmas market mow down in Berlin, Germany. The wave of sporadic terror has continued unabated, striking crowds and celebratory events when least expected. Combine this with a fear of the Zika virus and overall political changes worldwide such as the unexpected Brexit vote and the surprise Trump presidential victory in America, it is not surprising that travelers are confused and increasingly afraid to travel to areas scarred with stochastic violence and contagious health threats.

Unfortunately, this trend is expected to continue into 2017, impacting travel to Europe and other areas considered to be soft targets. Not only Americans, but Chinese travelers as well are seeking safer places to spend their money and their time. In large measure, that will define travel in the year 2017.

Here are 10 travel trends this travel writer sees impacting 2017 travel plans:

1. Increased emphasis on security and safety. Travelers are more aware than ever before of the need to research and be prepared for potential disruptions to travel plans, including possible evacuation due to political instability or medical emergency. This will be a boon for companies that provide security protection and trip/travel insurance such as 360 World Wide Security, MedJet Assist, and Allianz Global Assistance.

2. Rise of the solo traveler. Expect to find more solo and single travelers as individuals who are independent, divorced and suddenly single decide to travel the world. This will shine a light on the disparities in single supplements as well as the need for restaurants to have tables for single diners.

3. Continued growth for river cruising. River cruising continues to provide cultural immersions and specialized itineraries that appeal to an active group. Many lines are now including bikes on board as a way for guests to explore the many nooks and crannies of towns where their ship docks. While river cruising is not a new trend, it is expected to be more popular than ocean cruising in the years to come. Look for luxurious value-based experiences with Viking River Cruises, AmaWaterways, UnCruise Adventures, Uniworld, AdventureSmith Explorations, and others.

4. Focused travel on desired and disappearing destinations. These destinations for 2017 include: Cuba, Canada, Eastern Europe, Scandinavia, and USA (especially Alaska). With travelers increased concerns for safety and a desire to take advantage of favorable exchange rates while staying closer to home, expect an uptick in travel to safe destinations such as the Scandinavian countries and those within easy reach of the United States. This also bodes well for road trips within the United States.

5. More emphasis on cultural interactions, deeper immersions, and pursued passions. As travelers become more worldly, their desire will translate into journeys that seek inspiration, self-discovery, enrichment and continuing explorations. Travelers are increasingly seeking unique experiences, transformative travel, and enhancements in premium demand. They want to explore their passions and interests such as history, literature, architecture, cuisine, culture, wine, art, music, birding and photography. They expect to savor the moment even as they embrace the concept of high-low luxury for the ultimate in experiential travel.

6. Chinese travelers are on the rise all over the world. China visitation to the US increased by 16 percent in 2015, according to a report from the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences. By 2019, the U.S. Department of Commerce expects that will translate into about 3.1 million Chinese visitors to the States. Worldwide, the Chinese are traveling to the tune of about 120 million overseas. Their special needs include availability of Asian food, translators, and built-in shopping time for brand-name purses, etc.

7. Millennials as next travel target for marketing. Millennials are the largest generation in history and so it makes sense that marketing will target them more and more. Millennials differ from Baby Boomers in that they are unable to leave internet behind. They need and want reliable, fast-speed, and complimentary internet. They also like themed-events and themed-cruises that cater to their interests. Fast casual is particularly appealing to Millennials.

8. Complimentary WiFi will influence where travelers stay. The availability of complimentary WiFi will largely dictate where Millennials and Gen Z book their overnight stays. Digital connection is more important to them than ever before as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat and other social media platforms provide instantaneous connectivity to their circles of friends and family.

9. Alternative travel will grow. With the introduction of alternative travel concepts like Airbnb, Uber, and Lyft, travelers are discovering a new set of easy-to-use, convenient travel tools that give them access to cheaper lodging and transportation in their destination city. Travel is becoming more affordable.

10. Selfie stick injuries and deaths are increasing. Expect more prohibitions in museums, amusement parks, and public areas as overuse of selfie sticks starts to border on the absurd. On my recent trip to the Louvre, I was unable to get close and see the Mona Lisa because of visual interference from a profusion of selfie sticks. Overuse of selfie sticks has also led to distracted tourism along with associated injuries and even death. Users become preoccupied with photo-taking and are oblivious to surrounding dangerous conditions, resulting in mindless actions like stepping out in traffic, backing up over cliffs, and even falling into manholes.

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Do you Dream of Diving in Cuba?

Who did I dive with in Cuba?   Gardens of the Queen is a protected marine area and the number of divers per year is limited to under 1000. It is an area with 150 islands. We dove in the Southern part and expected to see Caribbean reef sharks, Silky sharks, sting rays, nurse sharks and healthy coral reefs which Andersen Cooper called a “Living Time Machine” when he visited for CNN in 2011.

I loved the dinner with fresh grilled steak, kabob skewers with shrimp and veggies, grilled tuna, pasta with garbanzo beans, homemade bread and of course wine and drinks.

Where did you stay in Havana and how did you get there? I stayed in an AirBnB in Havana and I flew in from Cancun. I traveled solo and I loved it. Other things I learned along the way traveling with 11 male dive buddies:

The two rules of life:

Rule #1: There are no rules

Rule #2: Do what makes you happy

Happy and Safe Diving! Lisa

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