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September 7, 2016

Jews are not white people, or why Jews support the Left (a response to Dennis Prager)

In his most recent column in the Jewish Journal of Los Angeles, Dennis Prager wonders (as he does in many of his columns over the years) why Jews continue to support left-leaning causes such as Black Lives Matter — even when their avowed platform is anti-Israel.

The answer is quite simple. As Jews we are commanded each year at the Passover to feel as if we were in Egypt as slaves. As slaves who were part of a liberation movement, we identify and support the cause of the oppressed. We identify with the cause of African-Americans in this country because they were slaves in this country.

That the leadership of the Black Lives Matter movement promulgated a platform that mischaracterizes Israel and voices support for the Palestinians does not disqualify them from having Jews support the cause of less African-American lives being lost to Police violence or unequal treatment in the eyes of the law.

Let me go further: It is the Jews who are commanded to identify as slaves in Egypt. The leaders of Black Lives Matter (at least those who are not Jewish) are under no such injunction. To the extent that they identify as descendants of those who were made slaves in the United States, they identify with minority victims of State actors — and it is not difficult to see how that leads to support of the Palestinian cause. Attacking Israel is a different matter, and I would argue a mistake on their part, but it is their mistake to make.

Jews will always believe Black Lives matter because Jews do not think of themselves as “White People.” You have but to walk down a street in Tel Aviv to see the multiplicity of Jewish skin colors. You have but to live as a Jew in any time in history, in any country including the United States, to recognize we are not the White People — we were not the White People allowed into certain clubs, schools, neighborhoods for most of American history. We are not the people rallying for “white people’s rights.” As Ta-Nehisi Coates has written more eloquently that I ever will, “Our notion of what constitutes “white” and what constitutes “black” is a product of social context.”

Dennis Prager makes much of how the Left has often betrayed Jews. He is not wrong about that. But he is wrong in thinking that means Jews should stop supporting the causes of the Left. Consider the alternative: How have Jews fared under the right? Far worse. In Egypt, or under the Greeks and Romans, in Spain and Portugal under the Inquisition, in Europe during the Reformation, in France at the time of Dreyfus, or in Hitler’s Germany or his Reichlands. Consider the fate of Jewish lives under right wing governments in Hungary or Poland — are they better off than they were under Leftist regimes? One can even ask, as members of the Israeli Knesset have, whether more Israelis have died as a result of the policies of the current right-wing Likud government than in those years when Labor was in power (they have).

Leonard Bernstein was ridiculed for hosting a party for the Black Panthers. But Bernstein’s compassion and sense of Justice led him to lead the Palestine Symphony Orchestra in 1947 and as it became the Israel Philharmonic in Beersheba in November 1948 and almost every year of his life. His heart was large, his passion great and he was not wrong to support the cause of Black Pride and African American self-empowerment, even if its leaders had not so great a heart as his.

Jews will always agitate for and support causes of the Left, because we are commanded to be a beacon unto others and to see social activism and seeking Justice, Tikkun Olam and Tzedaka, as part of the Jewish DNA. We are chosen to do so. Our support is not a two-way street, or an all or nothing proffer. The Torah does not hold others, particularly those we support, to the same standard as it does Jews. If Prager can interpret the Torah to allow for an a la carte approach to keeping kosher then why can’t Jews support just causes, even if their leaders also espouse opinions or platforms we reject. We are not condoning Anti-Israel agitation or Anti-Semitism, we speak out against it.

For all these reasons, and more, there will always be more Jewish leftists than Right-wingers, more Jewish Democrats than Jewish Republicans. It’s a pity that Dennis Prager forgot that Black Lives Matter is a lesson we learned a long time ago, back when we were slaves in Egypt.

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Buying guide: The perfect sofa

Are you in the market for a new sofa? My sympathies. Sofa shopping is stressful. Not only is it a high-ticket item, but you’re going to be sitting on it — and looking at it — every single day. For years.  

But the good news is that finding the right sofa is a lot easier if you know what to look for. So, before you begin your quest, become a sofa ninja with this checklist of things you’ll want to consider.

The style of the arms

The back and seat cushions

After you’ve decided on the type of arm that’s best for you, think about the back and seat cushions. There are two main ways to go: loose cushions or a tight back and seat. A sofa with loose cushions is typically more comfortable — you can really sink into it. It’s also easier to maintain because you can clean or replace individual cushions, and you can flip the cushions to extend their life. However, they can look sloppy if you don’t keep the cushions plumped up. You also have to be OK with the reality that the cushions won’t be lined up perfectly level at all times.

The type of fabric

Typically, when you’re buying a sofa from a furniture store, you’ll be given a choice of one or two fabrics that the sofa is stocked in, but with the option of selecting a custom fabric if you’re willing to pay more and wait longer for delivery. 

What fabric is right for you? If the sofa is going to get a lot of use, and if there will be food and kids in the picture, make sure the fabric is easy to clean. Synthetics or cotton and wool blends are easier to maintain than silks. Velvets and microsuedes are wonderfully soft, but you have to deal with the nap — when the fabric fibers lie in a particular direction, depending on how you touch it. I like to do a scratch test on the fabric to see how it holds up. Go ahead and dig in there with your nails — whatever you choose is going to get a lot more wear and tear than that at home. 

And if you’re shopping for a sofa online, always ask for a swatch of the fabric you’re interested in so you can see the true color and actually feel it.

Test drive it

It should be a given that you should always try sitting on any sofa you’re considering — even lie down on it — but too many people buy based on a photo without even sitting on the sofa. Don’t do that. 

Here’s my cautionary tale: There is a particular furniture store in Los Angeles (that will remain nameless) that offers many inexpensive, stylish sofas that look beautiful in the advertisements. When I went into the store to kill some time before a movie started, I decided to sit on all the sofas to see how comfortable they were. To my dismay, they did not seem to be designed for people with normal bodies. The proportions were all off. I felt like Goldilocks trying to find one that wasn’t too shallow or too deep. 

In addition to sitting on the sofa, try lifting it at a corner to see how sturdy it is. If it’s very light and you can lift it like you’re Superman, the wood frame is probably not strong hardwood. Don’t hesitate to jiggle it around, too, to make sure it doesn’t sag or make creaking noises.

Choosing the right size

Measure ahead of time so you know what size sofa your room will accommodate. Use masking tape to map out where the sofa will be positioned, and check whether any pathways will be blocked and if coffee and accent tables will still fit the room.

Make sure, too, that your new sofa will fit through your front door. I found out the hard way how important it is to premeasure your doorframe: I once bought a sofa for a client that, when it was delivered, would not fit through the front door. The sofa hadn’t looked so big in the store. I was sweating buckets until the delivery guy suggested removing the legs. Fortunately, its legs screwed off and the sofa was able to squeeze through.


Jonathan Fong is the author of “Walls That Wow,” “Flowers That Wow” and “Parties That Wow,” and host of “Style With a Smile” on YouTube. You can see more of his do-it-yourself projects at Buying guide: The perfect sofa Read More »

Doctor’s gift adds new flavor to USC art museum

A detail of Carlos Almaraz’s “Naked Jester” (1989), oil on canvas, from the collection of Dr. Eugene Rogolsky. Photo courtesy of Brian Forrest. 

Perhaps it was Dr. Eugene Rogolsky’s belief in the Hippocratic oath that he accepted in medical school. Or maybe it was because he learned from his parents — two Jewish immigrants from Poland who raised four kids during the Great Depression — to never give up.

Whatever the case, when patients showed up at his North Hollywood practice in the early 1980s with symptoms that were virtually undiagnosable, Rogolsky didn’t turn them away like so many other practitioners in his field had.

“We just didn’t know what it was. Nobody had seen it before,” he recalled.

“This was the height of the AIDS epidemic,” Rogolsky continued, one late afternoon at his Los Angeles home located on a steep hill just above Sunset Boulevard. “It was a terrible epidemic. You saw people in their 20s and 30s wasting away.”

One of those casualties was Carlos Almaraz, a Chicano artist who died in 1989 and was distinguished by his use of vivid colors and muralistic imagery. He gave Rogolsky two of his posters, one of which was commissioned by the 1984 Los Angeles Olympic Games.

“Carlos woke me up to art,” Rogolsky, a retired AIDS research clinic doctor, said of his former patient. “He was the beginning, and then I branched out, you could say.”

Those posters were just two of around 50 pieces of art that Rogolsky ended up acquiring over the years from Almaraz, and they are a small part of what has become an extensive art collection — more than 700 pieces that he is donating to the Fisher Museum of Art at USC. The exhibition introducing the collection, aptly titled, “A Generosity of Spirit: Celebrating the Gift of Eugene Rogolsky, M.D,” includes 140 pieces and runs from Sept. 13 to Dec. 3.

“I was concerned with what would happen to the collection,” the 87-year-old retired doctor said. “It took such a burden off my mind because there’s a relationship between you and the art. I am grateful to [be] giving the work a home.” (The museum will acquire the full collection after his death.)

His collection of contemporary art ranges from Chicano to Czech. The artists include Jiří Anderle, Elsa Flores (Almaraz’s wife) and Jerome Witkin.

Rogolsky’s living room is an exhibition space in itself. Paintings and sculptures adorn the walls; Afghan rugs cover the floors. All of this will ultimately be inherited by the Fisher Museum, a decision he came to following several meetings with Selma Holo, the museum’s director.

“This is a freeway scene painted on wood,” he said, gesturing to a massive painting by Uruguayan artist Arturo Mallmann hanging on his fireplace mantle. “Every time I look at it, I see something new.”

Rogolsky accumulated his collection thanks to dear friendships with mentors in the art world like Chicago gallerist Anne Baruch (“She was like my adopted sister,” he said fondly) and curator Henry Klein, both of whom introduced Rogolsky to Eastern European artists.

With all the artwork Rogolsky has encountered over years of collecting, how did he decipher which pieces had the “it factor”?

“Do you know the term ‘umami’ ?” Rogolsky asked.

Umami is the Japanese term for the savory fifth taste, joining the more traditionally well-known ones of sweet, salty, bitter and sour. Umami is an elusive term, undefinable, but it’s almost funny that Rogolsky uses it to describe the way he thinks about art considering he doesn’t have a sense of taste or smell (although he swears he can make divine matzo balls, even fluffier than his mother’s).

For Rogolsky, probably the place with the most mysticism, the most profound connection, the most “umami,” would be the Altneuschul in Prague. Altneuschul isn’t flashy like its neighbor, the ornate Jubilee Synagogue (the largest and newest synagogue in Prague, which looks almost like a candy cane with its red-and-white tile work). Instead, the Altneuschul (the “Old New Shul”) is modest and bare.

“It’s a very plain building,” said Rogolsky. Built in the 12th century, the shul is one of Prague’s oldest gothic buildings. According to Yiddish folklore, it is rumored that the body of the clay-made Golem lies in the synagogue’s attic.

“It’s like walking between two worlds,” he said about visiting the ancient shul.

“Behind the Altneuschul, there’s a Jewish cemetery,” continued Rogolsky. It was in that cemetery, filled with battered tombstones and overgrown weeds, that renowned Czech photographer Jan Saudek, whom he met through Baruch, snapped a photo of a dripping faucet. This photograph will be among those on display at “A Generosity of Spirit.”

“It’s dripping almost like a tear,” Rogolsky said.

“A Generosity of Spirit: Celebrating the Gift of Eugene Rogolsky, M.D.” will be on display at the Fisher Museum of Art at USC from Sept. 13 to Dec. 3. For more information, go to https://fisher.usc.edu/a-generosity-of-spirit-celebrating-the-gift-of-eugene-rogolsky-md/ .

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Conversion marked an important step on his pioneering path

Technically, Claudio Estrada Jr. became a Jew on March 9, 2015, but “spiritually inside,” he said, “I was a Jew a long time ago.”

Between rounds of Jewish geography, Estrada shared his journey into Jewish life with the Jewish Journal in a Google hangout interview from his office at the PUC Community Charter Middle School in Lake View Terrace, Calif., where — at the relatively young age of 30 — he is the principal for sixth through eighth grades. 

In the background behind him, a massive wall calendar charted the year ahead for the school. The walls were marked with the school’s approved colors — red, blue, orange and white — and bore framed dictionary pages with larger messages written on them, one reading “You got this” and another “Let there be light.” A poster featuring an Oscar statue read, “We all dream in gold.” A program from “The Lion King” was a prominent cultural artifact — Estrada has seen the theatrical production nine times in three languages. A signed Seattle Seahawks jersey — Derrick Coleman, No. 40 — is also framed; and inspirational books and digital photo frames mark some personal touches. And most of this is not even for Estrada, who is trying to make his office “as inviting as possible.”

“The principal’s office used to mean, ‘You’re in trouble,’ but we just have a lot of conversations here. We are doing something different here,” he said, referring to the social emotional education approach that his school uses in the classroom. 

“We haven’t had any fights,” he said, noting that the most common violation is cyber-bullying or being verbally disrespectful. “We do a good job laying down the law; back-to-school assemblies let them know what not to do this coming year.”

He said, noting how little time he spends in that office, “I’m like Moses, I like being with the people. … He is the one who has the vision, sees the bigger picture, can get everyone together and move forward.” 

It’s not the first or last time in the conversation that he expresses a kinship with one of the most famous Jewish leaders of all time, and as he revealed the steps on his journey, it’s easy to see why: This self-described “first-generation Jewish Mexican-American” has been blazing his own path — and inspiring others to lead — since way before his conversion was finalized. 

Estrada’s family immigrated to the United States from Mexico in the 1950s; he describes his home as “somewhat Catholic,” but at school he was surrounded by Jewish families, and absorbed Jewish holiday customs and culture. At college, he found himself “needing something higher than myself to feel proud of,” and began exploring Judaism. 

College itself was a diversion from the family path; he was the only one of four siblings who had a chance to go to UCSD and study abroad. His family’s reaction —“Why are you going away? Why aren’t you staying here? Isn’t it/aren’t we good enough? Why break the mold?” — provided a flavor of the response that news of his conversion would provoke.

After college, Estrada joined Teach for America; in 2012, he connected with the Charles and Lynn Schusterman Family Foundation’s (CLSFF) REALITY program, an Israel trip for fledgling educators, whom he described as “brothers and sisters wrestling in the same work.” 

“It was the perfect backdrop for a unique experience of self-discovery through the lens of tikkun olam.”

Philanthropist and CLSFF founder Lynn Schusterman connected him to ROI leaders in Mexico; about a year later, he joined a group of young professional Latin American Jews — “Jews that I thought never existed,” he said — in Mexico City, to talk about their Jewish communities’ social issues and to build homes for two local families in a remote part of the city.

Next on Estrada’s Jewish journey was a program run by Rabbi Shira Stutman from the Sixth & I Synagogue in Washington, D.C. After that, he found the American Jewish University’s Miller Intro to Judaism Program. 

“Since my first class, it was magic,” he said of meeting Rabbi Adam Greenwald, the director of the Miller Program. “I immediately connected with him. He’s also young and is able to relate, and make narratives more captivating. His style and pearls of wisdom are so profound and rich in Jewish values; he is a gem.”

While many individuals studying for conversion do so with a Jewish partner or friend, Estrada says his own five-year process of exploration and ultimately, conversion, was “my own choice and decision, and it’s been a blessing ever since.” 

He was particularly drawn to Judaism’s belief in one God, and, as an educator, felt connected to Holocaust works such as “The Diary of Anne Frank” and Elie Wiesel’s “Night.”

“Judaism is very poetic and, depending on the day, any portion of the Torah can have a different meaning depending where you are in your life. In Catholicism, there’s this arbitrary idea of planning for something after life. But what I admire about being Jewish is that we’re focused on being active in the present, sharing positive energy, leaving our world much better than where we found it.”

One family, the Alperts — whom he met when he was 18 and working as a part-time schoolyard assistant — has become what he still calls his “Jewish family.” 

His own family reacted to news of his Jewish identity with some denial, but for Estrada, his mother’s opinion mattered most. Finally, she said, “If that’s what makes you happy, then do it, enjoy it and make it your own,” Estrada recalled. “That was a huge step forward.” 

His mother has since studied with her son and attended seders with him. Estrada got her a mezuzah, and next to her Christmas tree she has a menorah. His siblings have also accepted Estrada’s faith with curiosity.

When he lost his father — “a traumatic life experience,” he said — in July 2010, Estrada felt supported by the Jewish community and found the Jewish prayers to be deep and profound. His family did Catholic Mass in his father’s memory; Estrada lit a yahrzeit candle. (The conversation with the Journal happened the day after his father’s sixth yahrzeit.) 

Estrada now brings his Jewish passions to work with him. Since 2014, Greenwald has come to Estrada’s school to offer students a chance to ask questions about Chanukah; he also brought a Holocaust survivor to Estrada’s school for a conversation with students. 

While Shabbat observance and kashrut continue to challenge him, he feels there’s “something cosmic” about prayer. Since he doesn’t understand much of the Hebrew, he connects through the music, and is grateful for the annual opportunity to engage in personal reflection in advance of the High Holy Days.

“I enjoy the series of traditions that allows me to better explore myself, align my moral compass with God, ask for forgiveness and forgive others, and start fresh with a new lens and outlook to life,” he said.

This year, he’ll be celebrating in Vietnam, at the wedding of his Jewish best friend from college. He already knows they’re having a Shabbat program for out-of-towners, and his friend’s mother will help him connect to local High Holy Days services. 

“It’s a time to be visually and spiritually connected with something bigger than yourself,” he said in contemplating the centrality of the coming holidays, “a time to publically say, ‘I’m a Jew,’ in my personal and professional life.” 

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Calendar: September 9-15

FRI | SEPT 9

TED AND HEDY ORDEN AND FAMILY FRIDAY NIGHT LIVE

Bring a potluck dinner and join the community on the roof as the summer winds down. Those whose last name starts with A-L, bring a vegetarian/dairy appetizer to share; last name M-Z, bring a vegetarian/dairy entree to share. Wine, challah and dessert will be provided. Intended for young adults, ages 21-39. 7 p.m. dinner; 8 p.m. service; 9 p.m. dessert and wine bar. Free. Sinai Temple, 10400 Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 474-1518. ” target=”_blank”>hillcrestarts.com.

SHABBAT IN YEMEN

Join JIMENA (Jews Indigenous to the Middle East and North Africa) and Sephardic Temple Tifereth Israel and celebrate Shabbat, Yemen style! Come hear about what Jewish life in Yemen is like from Rahav Aharoni and enjoy some authentic Yemeni cuisine. Intended for professionals, ages 21-39. 7:30 p.m. service; 8:30 p.m. dinner. $18 for first 18 people; $30 after pre-sale. Sephardic Temple Tifereth Israel, 10500 Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles. (415) 626-5062. SAT | SEPT 10

A SALUTE TO WARNER BROS.

This outdoor concert is a perfect end to the summer, whether you bring a picnic or grab some food there. Michael Feinstein and the Pasadena Pops will close out their outdoor summer concert series with “A Salute to Warner Bros.,” a showcase of singers and dancers re-creating favorite songs from films adapted from Broadway musicals. Get ready for “The Music Man,” “Gypsy” and “42nd Street,” among others. The orchestra also will perform instrumentals, such as John Williams’ theme from the original “Superman,” and two works by Academy Award-winning composer Harry Warren (composer of “Lullaby of Broadway”). Special guest appearances include songwriter Alan Bergman, winner of three Academy Awards; jazz and swing songbird Allyson Briggs; crooner Todd Murray; and Broadway veteran Jon Peterson, performing “Yankee Doodle.” 5:30 p.m. doors open; 7:30 p.m. performance. $25 and up. Los Angeles County Arboretum & Botanic Garden, 301 N. Baldwin Ave., Arcadia. (626) 793-7172. SUN | SEPT 11

MANIFEST DESTINY — ELLIS ISLAND NAMES

Nearly 70 percent of immigrants to the U.S. from 1892 through 1924 came by way of the Ellis Island immigration station. The pressures of this “Great Migration” eventually led to immigration quotas. About 20 percent of processed immigrants ended up on detention/special inquiry sheets. Learn about the changing questions on ship manifest forms. The persistent myth of name changes at Ellis Island will be analyzed and all of the ship name indexes will be introduced. Speaker Joel Weintraub, emeritus professor at Cal State Fullerton, will help you leave with a greater understanding of the power of the manifest as a genealogical research tool. 1:30 p.m. Free. Temple Adat Elohim, 2420 E. Hillcrest, Thousand Oaks. (805) 497-7101. cbi18@cbi18.org.

WED | SEPT 14

“AS ABOVE, SO BELOW”

This is Reuven Israel’s first solo presentation in Los Angeles. He will exhibit his new sculptures, which draw from various cultural references (from religious monuments to science fiction). These abstract sculptures activate two spatial planes, with components that anchor to the ground and others that are suspended in the air. Israel was born in Jerusalem in 1978 and received degrees from the Bezalel Academy of Art and Design. 6 p.m. opening reception. Free. (Through Oct. 28.) Shulamit Nazarian, 17 N. Venice Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 281-0961. ” target=”_blank”>jewishla.org/yala.

THE MIDDLE EAST IN THE 2016 ELECTION

The American Jewish Committee Speaker Series with the Washington Institute presents ambassadors Dennis Ross and James Jeffrey. Ross served for three years in the Obama administration as a special assistant to the president and as senior director for the Central Region at the National Security Council. Jeffrey, the Washington Institute’s Philip Solondz Distinguished Fellow, served as deputy national security adviser in the George W. Bush administration as well as ambassador to Turkey and Iraq. Sponsored by the Baye Foundation in memory of Pearl and Nathan Berkowitz. 7:30 p.m. Free. RSVP to lasymposium@washingtoninstitute.org. Stephen Wise Temple, 15500 Stephen S. Wise Drive, Los Angeles. Calendar: September 9-15 Read More »

What I wish synagogues knew about single parents

I’m not sure where to begin. I first want to say that my synagogue — and I think synagogues in general — have done a really great job of welcoming congregants who have converted, are intermarried, and are in gay and lesbian marriages. My synagogue also welcomes adopted children and Jews of color. It is still mainly an Ashkenazi population, but it quickly is becoming more diverse. The rabbi, cantor and board of trustees have worked hard and continue to work to make the synagogue inclusive.

But there is one population that seems to be left out: single parents. I think I speak for most single parents when I say we didn't marry with the intention of divorcing. Unfortunately, divorce happens for all sorts of reasons, which oftentimes are private and painful. And as welcoming as synagogues have become of non-traditional families, the one thing they have in common is they remain two-parent households. Shira may have two imas, but there are TWO parents in Shira’s house.

Many single parents have fewer financial and emotional resources than married parents and less time to volunteer. And while the divorce papers may have been signed, single parents are often dealing many years later with uncooperative ex-spouses and the shifting landscape of children’s custody.

When I was married, I was a super-volunteer at my synagogue and loved being involved. I knew well the rabbi, cantor and religious school director. When they asked me to take leadership roles in various areas of synagogue life, I was happy to contribute.

Then I divorced. My ex-husband met with the cantor to discuss his feelings about the split, so it clearly wasn’t a secret. Yet for all the time and energy I had generously devoted to the synagogue, no one called or reached out to me. The group that arranges meals and transportation for sick congregants never called to see if I wanted a few meals delivered. I had to apply for reduced dues since my ex-husband was the main breadwinner.

I was already feeling ashamed and embarrassed due to my divorce, and I felt the synagogue, my second home, was ashamed of me and my failed marriage. Instead of lifting me up when I needed the most help, the congregation let me down.

I still feel committed to Judaism and living Jewishly, but I am conflicted about Jewish institutions. I don’t feel like my synagogue has a place for people like me, and I also feel that there is little compassion or understanding for single parents. I don’t need a support group; I need support.

There is an unspoken stigma regarding divorce in the Jewish community. The failure of a marriage implies that something is “wrong”— abuse, addiction, affairs, mental illness. In addition, success in the Jewish world is almost always defined as highly educated, capable of self-support and able to maintain a functioning family. So when my marriage fell apart, it was logical that I felt like a failure.

A phone call from the rabbi or cantor acknowledging the challenges my family and I were facing would have gone a long way in easing my frustration and disillusionment. As it stands now, since I am outside the normative two-parent family, I’m not sure what or where my next steps will be.


Eliana Salzman is the pen name of a single mom of two teenagers.

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Recipe: Mini almond and grape crostatas

Apples and honey around the High Holidays are certainly not the only way to ensure a sweet new year. Cuban families, like mine, have long practiced the tradition of eating grapes for good luck. At the stroke of midnight on New Year’s Eve, we enjoy 12 grapes — one for each month.

According to folklore, this practice stems from Cuba’s Spanish roots. Spanish grape growers may have instituted the tradition when they were faced with an overabundance of harvest and needed to offload some grapes. With everyone in the community enjoying grapes, the grape farmers were certainly enjoying a sweet start to the new year.

While most Cubans eat their 12 grapes as they are, I’ve always enjoyed the challenge of incorporating the grapes into a Rosh Hashanah dish. My Mini Almond and Grape Crostatas are the perfect solution to this puzzle, as these single-serving pastries feature 12 whole grapes.

Gluten-free and completely pareve, they are the perfect addition to any Rosh Hashanah table.

MINI ALMOND AND GRAPE CROSTATAS 
 
 
Ingredients:
 
7 ounces almond paste
1 egg, beaten
48 seedless grapes (any color)
1 tablespoon freshly squeezed lemon juice
1 teaspoon corn starch
½ teaspoon ground cinnamon
4 teaspoons sliced almonds, divided
1 tablespoon Turbinado sugar
1 tablespoon powdered sugar (optional)

Directions:

 
Preheat oven to 375 F.

Divide almond paste into 4 equal parts, and between 2 sheets of parchment paper, roll out into ¼-inch thick round discs. Place on parchment lined baking sheet and brush with beaten egg.

In a bowl, toss together the grapes, lemon juice, corn starch and cinnamon until the grapes are coated. Place 12 grapes on each disc, leaving a 1-inch rim and fold the rim over the grapes, pinching to crimp along the edges.

Brush the top of the almond paste with beaten egg, and add 1 teaspoon of sliced almonds to the top of each pastry.

Sprinkle with Turbinado sugar and bake for 15-20 minutes, or until crust is golden brown and sliced almonds have started to brown. Remove from oven and let cool on the baking sheet for 10 minutes.

Carefully transfer to a cooling rack or serving platter and allow to cool completely.

 
Makes 4 crostatas.


 
Jennifer Stempel is a TV development executive who lives in Los Angeles with her husband and son. To read more about her culinary adventures, check out: www.TheCubanReuben.com.

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Howard David Pilch, Attorney, Jewish Philanthropist, 69

Howard David Pilch, of Beverly Hills, died Aug. 30 at 69. An attorney, he was a former president of Temple Beth Am and a prominent Jewish philanthropist.

Born May 10, 1947, in Los Angeles, Pilch was the son of Charles and Rose Pilch, pillars of the Los Angeles Jewish community. He was the heir to their legacy, which he expanded and made uniquely his own. He learned from his parents a love of family and a responsibility for community, which he considered his extended family. 

His was a Los Angeles story: elementary school at Castle Heights, followed by high school at Hamilton. Los Angeles Hebrew High was central to his Jewish education and his teenage years, followed by UC Berkeley and Boalt Hall. 

Four generations of the Pilch family have been central to Temple Beth Am, whose additional sanctuary for daily prayers bears the Pilch family name and where Howard donated the ark and the shulchan (the Torah reading table), and, later in life, he commissioned a Torah to grace the ark, replete with its Torah cover, commissioned from an artist who herself was grappling with a family tragedy. For many years, Pilch was honored with chanting the haftarah on Yom Kippur morning.

Pilch was a well-respected family attorney in Century City but his life was dedicated to family and to the Jewish community.

Pilch was a mentor to future leadership of the synagogue, coaxing young members to assume positions of responsibility and teaching them how to discharge those responsibilities with dedication, competence and enthusiasm. He was a beloved figure who, in the words of Mark Wolf, the man who succeeded him as president, “a larger-than-life personality who could be emotional and empathetic one minute, and if the situation called for it, be like a little kid and make you laugh.”

He was also a proud supporter of American Jewish University, where the Pilch name is dedicated to a courtyard and the rabbinical school offices. He was a consistent funder and fundraiser for Los Angeles Hebrew High School in Van Nuys, as well as its proud graduate. 

Pilch is survived and will be dearly missed by his wife, Kathe; daughters Jessica (Mark) Samuel and Rebecca (George) Greenberg; mother, Rose, who is a month shy of her 99th birthday; step-daughter Kimberlee Walbourne; brother Lloyd (Bethe) Pilch; and grandchildren Chason, Eleanor and Sienna Samuel, and Oliver Greenberg. 

 

Michael Berenbaum is professor of Jewish studies and director of the Sigi Ziering Center for the Study of the Holocaust and Ethics at American Jewish University. 

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Obituaries: week of September 9th, 2016.

Barbara Abramson died Aug. 8 at 77. Survived by husband Irwin; daughter Alisa (Todd) Nathanson; son Michael (Debra); 3 grandchildren; brother Gerald (Joan Topaz) Brodsky. Mount Sinai

Eunice Armond-Greenstein died July 28 at 97. Survived by daughter Leslie (Steven) Saeta; 2 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Hillside

Norman Barken died Aug. 3 at 84. Survived by daughter Lauren (John) Olinski; son Miles; 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Steven Cooper died Aug. 5 at 76. Survived by wife Xiaoqian Liu-Cooper; daughters Rhonda (John) Gilberg, Alyssa (Scotty) Sapire; son Daniel Johnson; 4 grandchildren; brother Bob (Nessa). Hillside

Henry W. “Hanns” Donig died Aug. 8 at 94. Survived by wife Ilse. Mount Sinai

Sheldon Eisenberg died Aug. 5 at 67. Survived by wife Caron; daughter Stephanie; brother Robert Eisenberg. Mount Sinai

Robert Ellison died Aug. 2 at 95. Survived by sons Charles (Hilary), Richard (Paula); 7 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Daniel S. Elman died Aug. 1 at 82. Survived by wife Barbara; daughter Sheri; sons Ken (Rachel), Michael (Brenda) Tzipori; 3 grandchildren; sister Harriet Wasserman. 

Rose Fiertel died Aug. 3 at 97. Survived by daughter Robin Claridge; 4 grandchildren; 6 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Stanley Friedman died Aug. 3 at 93. Survived by wife Ida; daughter Janet (William) Parsons; son Mark (Mehrnaz). Mount Sinai

Wilbert Goldsmith died Aug. 9 at 94. Survived by wife Judith; daughters Maralyn (Paul) Soifer, Lauri Roberts; 9 grandchildren; 11 great-grandchildren; sister Phoebe Donnelly. Mount Sinai

Sarina Grinberger died July 19 at 85. Survived by daughters Ofra Abadi, Penny Hakian; 4 grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Irma Heller died July 29 at age 97. Survived by daughters Eileen Rogers, Sherry; son Brian; 7 grandchildren; 12 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Naomi Hirschhorn died Aug. 8 at 80. Survived by husband Reed; daughter Jessica (Takayuki) Terashima; 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Penny Kanner died Aug. 2 at 91. Survived by daughter Jaimie Stephenson; sons Richard, Keith; 7 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Hillside

Sandra L. Kessler died Aug. 7 at 80. Survived by daughter Pamela (Peter Zetterberg); sons Michael (Mara Bernstein), Fred (Rose); 5 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

Lois Klein died Aug. 6 at 94. Survived by daughter Barbara (Richard) Bergman; son Alan (Susan); 4 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren; sister Phyllis Reback. Hillside

Karenann Pousard Kurtz died Aug. 4 at 68. Survived by husband Jack; sons David, James, Aaron (Jamie); 1 grandchild. Mount Sinai

Saul Leipsitz died Aug. 2 at 87. Survived by wife Violet; daughter Denise; son Michael (Linda McNeil); 1 grandchild. Mount Sinai

Sherwin Levy died July 31 at 88. Survived by wife Patricia; daughters Nancy, Robin, Linda, Jessica (Peter) Riffel; 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Leon Lieberman died Aug. 4 at 89. Survived by wife Linda; daughters Helayne (Art) Warshaw, Geralyn (Bruce) Lucas, Heidi Richmond; 3 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Steven Lief died July 19 at 76. Survived by wife Nancy; daughter Hillary; son Jason (Anna); 2 grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Ruby Doris Luban died July 28 at 85. Survived by daughters Jackie (Steven) Stern, Jan Folden, Laurie Keller, Sherrie (Oriel) Valenzuela; sons Gregory (Dulce) Dubin, David (Sandy) Dubin, Ronald (Karen) Dubin; 16 grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; brother Richard (Frances). Mount Sinai

Lenore Marcus died July 29 at 95. Survived by sons Wayne (Judy), Gary. Hillside

Sheila Marems died Aug. 9 at 80. Survived by daughter Lisa Lazar (Dale Glaser); 2 grandchildren; sister Caryl Sherman. Hillside

Sidney Moray died July 31 at 92. Survived by daughter Linda (Bob) Gersh; sons Michael (Kathy), David, Robert (Scott); 9 grandchildren; sister Helen. Hillside

Ruth Paver died Aug. 10 at 86. Survived by daughter Jaqueline; son Leslie. Hillside

Lee Irwin Petersil died July 28 at 53. Survived by wife Leslie; daughters Maddie, Lauren; father Charles (Joan); sister Bonnie (Rodney) Kleiger; brother Jeff. Mount Sinai

Manie Rhalter died  July 31 at 96. Survived by son Peter (Melanie); 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Michael Jay Rosenberg died July 29 at 54. Survived by mother Maxine; son Jack; brother Mark. Mount Sinai

Robert Sackett died Aug. 3 at 96. Survived by wife Evelyn; daughter Lauren; 5 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Hillside

Ellen Saklad died Aug. 5 at 71. Survived by husband Richard; daughter Geri; son Scott; 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Naomi Schiff died Aug. 3 at 89. Survived by daughter Kathy; sons Stanley, Norman; 7 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Sigmund Schiff died Aug. 1 at 83. Survived by sons Gary (Nicole), Robert (Devon); 5 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

David Schneider died Aug. 2 at 57. Survived by wife Martha Macker; daughter Josie; stepdaughters Aubrey Macker, Caitlin Macker; sons Jarrett, Jonah; mother Ruth Glaser; sister Debbie; brothers Ben, Noah. Hillside

Lee Stewart Schramling died Aug. 4 at 74. Survived by wife Nancy L. Vallens; daughter Amanda; sons Ryan, Michael; 3 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Stanley Schway died Aug. 3 at 93. Survived by wife Laurette; daughters Melinda (Scott) Kough, Lisa (Tim); 2 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Stanley Sherman died Aug; 7 at 88. Survived by daughters Robyn (Gary) Raskin, Lori Poret; sons Jonathan (Tammy) Sherman, Michael Poret; 5 grandchildren; brother Jerry Sherman. Mount Sinai

Arthur Smith died July 29 at 89. Survived by wife Ann; daughters Frances, Nancy, Hillary, Mary; 6 grandchildren; brother Jerry. 

Rachelle Smith died Aug. 7 at 75. Hillside

Robert Solomon died Aug. 4 at 81. Survived by wife Judie; sons Steve (Krystine), Rick (Joey), Michael (Lissa); 5 grandchildren; brothers Kenneth (Sandi), Jerry. Hillside  

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When your life becomes a sitcom

Even in this time of edgy Netflix binge-worthy shows and more cute cat videos to watch on YouTube than you could ever squeeze into a lifetime, network TV still reaches millions of Americans, and is able to exert a profound and powerful impact on our culture. For example, the No. 1 network show last year was NBC’s action thriller, “Blindspot,” which drew 7.5 million viewers on the night it aired, with another 5.1 million watching later on DVRs.

Historically, network television has played a key role in moving forward the collective American consciousness, such as the first interracial kiss on American TV, which took place on “Star Trek” back in 1968 between white Captain Kirk (William Shatner) and Black Lt. Uhura (Nichelle Nichols). And then there was Ellen DeGeneres, who, in 1997, came out as a lesbian on her sitcom, “Ellen,” taking a huge risk with advertisers and audiences alike. Those shows, while entertaining us, helped many Americans to re-examine deeply held biases, gradually leading to changes in how Americans perceived interracial couples and homosexuals. 

Ever since our second child was diagnosed with cerebral palsy (CP) in 1989, I’ve been waiting impatiently for Hollywood to create a popular film or TV series that would accurately show what life is really like for families such as ours. Even though most people don’t know much about CP, it is the most common childhood motor disability, affecting three live births out of every 1,000 in the United States. And yes, the son in AMC’s “Breaking Bad” had mild CP, which was groundbreaking in its own way, but the depiction of a chemistry teacher dad who turned into a murderous drug king is not exactly a shared experience of families raising a child with CP.

Finally, the show we’ve been waiting for is premiering Sept. 21 on ABC. “Speechless” is a sitcom, helmed by executive producer Scott Silveri, who previously produced “Friends,” “Perfect Couples” and, more recently, “Go On.” Silveri grew up with a brother with CP, and he has been wanting for some time to create a TV show that would accurately depict a family with a child with significant special needs. 

I attended a screening of the pilot last week on the Fox lot, joined by other disability community professionals and parent bloggers. We had the chance to talk with Silveri and actress Minnie Driver, who plays Maya DiMeo, the mother in the family, who is driven to be a strong and sometimes strident advocate for the oldest child, JJ, who is 16 and has non-verbal CP. Although JJ (played by Micah Fowler, who has a milder form of CP) can’t speak, he is able to communicate by spelling out words via an augmentation communication system that employs a laser pointer attached to his head and an electronic letter board. Other family members are a nebbishy father, Jimmy Dime (John Ross Bowie); an athletic younger sister, Dylan (Kyla Kenedy); and a wise-for-his years brother, Ray (Mason Cook), who appears to be the most negatively impacted family member as a result of all the extra attention and time given to JJ.

As the pilot opens, the family has just moved, once again, to be in a different school district, where JJ can finally be fully mainstreamed in a regular classroom accompanied by a full-time aide who can be his “voice.” Ray isn’t happy with the move, as he was just getting adjusted at the old school. In one exchange with his mother, she tells Ray she’s proud to be a strong advocate for JJ: “Your brother got the right mum,” she says in her cheery British accent, to which Ray replies, “Yes, he did, but I didn’t.”

Some of my favorite moments in the pilot are when people outside the family go overboard in their political correctness and engage in cringe-worthy behavior, such as when JJ and his new aide, an annoyingly chirpy woman who is clearly not a good match for him, arrive in his new classroom for the first time. At their teacher’s prompting, all of the students begin to clap and stand up, much to the chagrin of JJ, who types out, “Why are they doing this? They don’t even know me.”

There were times when it felt like someone had planted a camera in our home to help write the script, but there was also the inevitable Hollywood treatment of the family. For the scene when Maya has a big confrontation with the school’s principal about getting a disabled ramp built in front of the school instead of making JJ use the trash removal ramp at the back, she wears a cute ensemble, every hair is in place, and she’s got on a full face of makeup. Not my reality. 

I asked Minnie Driver about this after the screening, and she laughed, agreeing that she would have liked to look more natural, but she did say that she made sure the wardrobe department didn’t supply her with designer clothes for that scene. Despite the glossing over of some of the grittier aspects of what this family’s life would really be like, “Speechless” nonetheless accurately captures the tone and texture of families in similar situations, and I hope millions of people will watch it and laugh “with the family, not at the family,” as Driver said afterward.

As life would have it, later that same day I got word that due to a clerical error, the Los Angeles Unified School District had plans to transfer our son’s aide of 10 years to another campus during his final semester of high school. After 18 years of dealing with special education bureaucracy, I wasn’t sure I had another fight left in me. But then I channeled my inner Minnie Driver, and started making the necessary calls and sending out emails, which eventually led to a reversal of the decision. Sometimes life imitates art, and sometimes it’s the other way around.

 

“Speechless” premieres Sept. 21 at 8:30 p.m. 

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