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May 18, 2016

Adelson and Trump

A couple of months ago, I was sitting in a booth at Langer’s Delicatessen, studying the menu and munching on half-sours when an elderly man caught my eye.

He was hobbling toward a table, part of a large family entourage, accompanied by a tall, grim-faced bodyguard. Wow, I thought, that’s Sheldon Adelson.

Norm Langer himself walked over to schmooze with Adelson, who looked up and smiled. And why not? Here was a self-made man of enormous wealth and power, surrounded by his family, fussed over by the owner, about to enjoy a pastrami sandwich better than even the finest restaurant at The Venetian Las Vegas could duplicate. 

My first impulse was to go introduce myself and chat. But I stayed put. I knew I’d never make it past the bodyguard, and, anyway, if you care about food, Langer’s is holy ground, and I hate talking business in shul.

In the weeks since, I’ve often wondered what I might have said to Adelson. Last week, I figured it out. Adelson announced he is unequivocally backing Donald Trump for president. He said he is prepared to spend up to $100 million of his fortune to get Trump elected. Adelson is primarily a one-issue voter, he told a journalist, and that issue is Israel. Trump, he said, “will be good for Israel.”

So now I know exactly what I would say: I know you love Israel, Mr. Adelson, but I want you to consider the possibility that by supporting Trump, you are hurting, not helping, the country you love. If “pro-Israel” means supporting Trump, then it’s time to redefine what “pro-Israel” means.

First, let’s understand that in many ways, you are the face of the pro-Israel American Jew. Nothing to be ashamed of there. You very publicly identify yourself as a one-issue voter, and you lavish millions of dollars on Israeli causes. Some of these, like Birthright, have changed the face of world Jewry and touched the lives of all kinds of people in profound, lasting ways. At a time when the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement is trying to rebrand Israel as oppressive, Birthright helps young people experience the country in its beauty and complexity.

But then you go and throw your support, uncritically, with no caveats, conditions or what-have-yous, behind a man whose words and policies attack the democratic values Israel and America stand for, and the people it needs to coexist with to survive.

After Trump called for a “total ban” on Muslims coming into the United States, Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu declined to receive him in Israel. A country that is 20 percent Arab, that is bound to live with and among Muslims, that really is the only democracy in the Middle East, cannot single out a minority based on its religion. And, of course, neither can the United States. 

That’s one reason why House Speaker Paul Ryan has so far refused to endorse Trump. So why can the country’s most powerful Republican stand on principle, while a lover of Israel can’t? Frankly, Mr. Adelson (and I would say this to you) it’s embarrassing.

And how is it pro-Israel to support someone who engages in the wholesale denigration of Mexicans? Latinos are the fastest-growing and most powerful minority in this country — one whose support Israel will need in the coming years. To mingle the “pro-Israel” brand with appeals to racism and xenophobia plays directly into the hands of the Israel haters. And Trump’s history of regressive statements on women stands in stark contrast to the freedom, strength and accomplishments of women in Israel.

If you believe the United States is Israel’s most important ally in the world, then you must agree that America’s support for Israel depends, ultimately, on the support of the American people. Trump has deeply alienated women and Latinos. And let’s be very clear: If any leader had said about Jews what Trump has said about Muslims and Mexicans, we would be screaming to repudiate him. And we would expect other groups to stand with us.

So what should you do now? Simple. It’s not too late to make clear to the man with the world’s largest megaphone that your $100 million is contingent on him walking back entirely his policies on Muslims and his statements on Mexicans. All the rest of Trump’s outlandish, often ill-informed and frequently flip-floppy policies are beside the point. Tell Trump you can’t be pro-Israel and pick on minorities. You can’t be pro-Israel and anti-democracy.

I don’t expect you to retract your support, but I do hope you’ll see the damage Trumpism will do to the two countries you love. 

Rob Eshman is publisher and editor-in-chief of TRIBE Media Corp./Jewish Journal. E-mail him at robe@jewishjournal.com. You can follow him on Twitter and Instagram @foodaism and @RobEshman.

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Can’t or won’t learn Hebrew?

Novelist Dara Horn recently asked, “Why don’t more American Jews learn Hebrew?” Her answer: “The reason American Jews don’t learn Hebrew is because they think they can’t.”

Horn believes that this failure stems from a lack of confidence. Even Horn, who tells us in this recent article that she grew up familiar with Hebrew words and that she was one of those rare, truly engaged students in the supplemental Hebrew schooling of her youth, was convinced that she “could never actually learn Hebrew” as a real language. In her mind, fluent Hebrew was something only Israelis or Orthodox Jews were capable of achieving. And so, even though she spent her teens and 20s reading Hebrew literature, it wasn’t until the age of 32 (a number which, by a lovely coincidence, is rendered in Hebrew by the word for “heart”) that she dared plunge directly, at an international writers conference in Israel, into the world of spoken Hebrew without the perpetual crutch of English translation.

It’s an inspiring story, but I respectfully suggest that she’s wrong about her premise. It’s not that American Jews think they can’t learn Hebrew, but that they actively won’t. After all, American Jews are hardly known for their lack of confidence, certainly when it comes to intellectual pursuits. We are surrounded by American Jews who learn languages and expect their children to learn languages: Spanish, Mandarin, JavaScript. And, as Horn notes, we now live with apps and iPads and streaming video on demand. A language is easier to learn and enjoy than at any time in human history.

The stubborn American-Jewish refusal — even by many Jews who are active in Jewish life, and who mouth Hebrew words as sounds week after week in synagogue — to treat Hebrew as a language that can be learned, spoken and used is nothing short of bizarre.

What we see in this is not an absence, then, of confidence or resources. It is a presence: the active pressure of the American-Jewish psyche. American-Jewish identity is based on feeling outside, on the threshold knocking at the door but never quite entering. Knocking at the door of Jewish identity, knocking at the door of American identity. To enter fully would be to lose one’s identity and become something different, unthinkable for most American Jews. For them, the front stoop has become home.

The reasons for this mainly have to do with the historical and psychological nature of the mass migration from Eastern Europe a century ago, and the new Jewish identity that those immigrants and their children invented for themselves in the United States. Even today, this odd, ironclad commitment to ambivalence — to that eternal door-knocking — takes myriad forms in American Jewish life and behavior. The point here for our purposes, though, is that learning Hebrew for most American Jews is psychologically impossible. (A similar dynamic applies, as it happens, to learning Yiddish.)

Where you do find American Jews who are more emotionally capable of learning Hebrew are among populations that are distant from the Eastern European mass migration and the American Jewish mainstream it produced, for example, Orthodox Jews, converts, Soviet immigrants, Mizrahi Jews, etc.

But for most American Jews, Hebrew must remain somewhat obscure, talismanic, at best liturgical, but never transparent or normal. If those Jews ever stopped knocking and instead opened the door themselves and stepped inside — well, there is no telling what they might find.

Michael Weingrad is associate professor at Portland State University. He is the author of “American Hebrew Literature: Writing Jewish National Identity in the United States” (Syracuse University Press, 2011).

This article was originally published at jewishstudies.washington.edu and appears here with permission. 

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Torah portion: Judging the entire person

The Omer period is a time of tremendous din (judgment) that marks the loss of Rabbi Akiva’s 24,000 students. How can we dance on Lag b’Omer, then, right in the middle of this dark season? 

The festival centers around our celebration of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai. Who is he that we celebrate his life more than almost any other religious figure?

To understand, let’s think about love, starting with this powerful verse in Shir HaShirim (Song of Songs): “abundant waters cannot put out the love” — between God and His people. 

When there is love, no storm, no hail, no earthquake can break our ability to stand. Love is a funny thing. It lends us a spirit that is so powerful.

When I was in high school — YULA — my rosh yeshiva was Rav Sholom Tendler. He told the students the following anecdote: He was dating his soon-to-be bride and asked his rebbe in the Mirrer Yeshiva of Brooklyn for dating advice. His rebbe asked him, “When are you seeing her next?” Rav Sholom answered, “She’s taking a train in from Baltimore in the next few days.” 

The rebbe told Rav Sholom, “Don’t pick her up from the train station in New York.” Rav Sholom answered, “But it’s a snowstorm, why wouldn’t I pick her up?” His rabbi answered, “That’s exactly the point. Find out where the train stops halfway in between, and be there with flowers.” 

Why? What’s the message? To show somebody you care you have to be willing to do something a little crazy. Staying up all night studying Torah on Shavuot, for example, may not be the perfect strategy for making the most of every minute of learning, but it is a wild and crazy way to show God how abundant all of our love is.

Lag b’Omer celebrates the life of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai, Rashbi as he is called. Rashbi once said, “I can excuse every Jew from (Divine) judgment” (Eruvin 65). How is he able to get all of us off the hook? Because Rashbi had the ability to see the amazing spark that is in each of us. He was able to understand our flaws as part of a much bigger picture. 

This is like the Gerrer Rebbe’s interpretation of the Mishnah in Pirkei Avot: We should judge the entire person. Meaning, when we can look at a holistic view of each other, we can get past the tiny quirks.

The Mishnah in Sanhedrin states, “Every Jew has a portion in the world to come.” Rav Tzadok HaKohen of Lublin once said on this Mishnah that the emphasis here is on “Kol Yisrael” — there is an entity called “all of Israel,” when we are a group, when we are connected to one another, then we have a share in the world to come. When we can learn to love, then all the waters in the world cannot wash us away.

Why do we celebrate Lag b’Omer? Numerous attempts have been made to explain where our tradition regarding this day comes from. The Talmud in Yevamos 62, which talks about the death of Rabbi Akiva’s 24,000 students, actually makes no mention of Lag b’Omer. According to the early commentator, the Meiri, Lag b’Omer is the day that the students stopped dying. The problem with that approach is that it doesn’t explain why we would celebrate; mourning should begin then? 

An alternative and famous suggestion, stated notably by Rabbi Chaim Vital, is that Lag b’Omer is the day Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai died. This classic explanation is not mentioned in the earlier commentaries and therefore needs further exploration.

Perhaps we can synthesize the classic views and suggest a third reason for our Lag b’Omer celebrations. After losing 24,000 students, Rabbi Akiva could have given up and said, “I can’t bear to teach any longer.” Instead he realized that now his charge was greater than ever: I must continue to teach. 

Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai was hunted down by the Roman government. While hiding in a cave with his son, he could have said, “What purpose is there left of my studies?” Instead, he began an intense program of Torah study that would be unparalleled in the future of Judaism.

Lag b’Omer, then, is the festive story of the indomitable Jewish soul. It’s the realization that every individual is an infinite world waiting to be discovered. And when those individual worlds learn how to love each other — nothing can stand in their way.

Rabbi Shlomo Einhorn is rav and dean of Yeshivat Yavneh and the author of “Judaism Alive” (Gefen Publishing, 2015).

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Lazy Daters

Dear Auntie Jodi,
I am amazed at the number of lazy daters I’ve met recently. I don’t live on the Westside, but I do live in a great neighborhood—in a nice home—all because it cuts about a half hour off my morning commute to work. So many times, when meeting potential dates, I’m immediately discounted because of my area code. Other than getting a new cell number with the so-called preferred prefix, I don’t know what to do.
Signed,
Not a 310.


Dear Not a 310,

Auntie is amazed and seriously appalled about this too. It seems that with all the “new and improved” dating apps now available, it’s even easier for lazy daters to fall into the “kid in a candy store” syndrome when looking for a date. When those 310s figure out that there are plenty of 10s in the 626, 818, 323, 213 and other area codes, it will probably be too late for them.

They’ll forever be spending their lives serially dating, passing all the “good ones” by and wondering why they can’t meet someone. Why not volunteer, go dancing, or join a sports league in your area—you never know when or where you’ll find your true love. And remember—be prepared and friendly at all times—you never know how your own “meet cute” story will unfold. 

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Calendar: May 20-26, 2016

SAT | MAY 21

“A SONG FOR YOU”

In 1943, the Karp family escaped the Nazis by crossing the Pyrenees on foot with help from the French Resistance. Carrying the burden of her parents’ trauma, filmmaker Sharon Karp returns to Europe with her sisters to confront the events of the past. This story of survival through strength, luck and the help of others is told through interviews with the director’s mother, segments of her father’s book, home movies, photographs and historical footage. A dessert reception and discussion with the filmmakers will follow. 7 p.m. $20 suggested donation. Beit T’Shuvah, 8847 Venice Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 204-5200, ext. 263. SUN | MAY 22

“SIBLING RIVALRY”  TALK SERIES WITH BETTE ALKAZIAN

The Early Childhood Center at Temple Etz Chaim presents Bette Alkazian, a nationally recognized parenting expert who will discuss “Sibling Rivalry”: How love and hate can exist in the same space and why it’s great! As kids try to figure out who they are through the eyes of their family, sibling rivalry can have tremendous benefits — like instilling important values early on. 9:30 a.m. Free. Temple Etz Chaim, 1080 E. Janss Road, Thousand Oaks. (805) 497-6891. ” target=”_blank”>shalominstitute.com.

“CHUTZPAH & SALSA”: GROUP SHOW OF LATINO ARTIST

Four artists explore the fusion of Latino culture with Jewish traditions. Latino Jews have immigrated to the United States from many South and Latin American countries, where they often found refuge from persecution in Europe, Russia or the Middle East — journeys that exposed artists to diverse cultures and spurred their creative representations. Featured artists are Julio Sims, Patricia Krebs, Florencia Glas and Gisele Goldwater-Feldman. This is the companion exhibition to the salon-style show “Chutzpah & Salsa,” which features stories and theater performances by writers from Mexico, Argentina, Chile, Panama, Venezuela, Peru and Cuba. 11 a.m. Free. The Braid, 2912 Colorado Ave., #102, Santa Monica. ” target=”_blank”>wcce.aju.edu.

JOAN CARL RETROSPECTIVE — ARTIST’S RECEPTION

As Joan Carl celebrates her 90th birthday this year, this retrospective and  reception showcases more than 80 years of art. She is an artist, mother and educator who creates her art with a chisel, brush, pencil or pen. Her work is abstract but representational, drawn from direct observation or reflective memory.  3-6 p.m. San Fernando Valley Arts & Cultural Center, 18312 Oxnard St., Tarzana. (818) 697-5525. MON | MAY 23

RAISING ISRAELI KIDS IN L.A.

How do you balance Israeli identity with an American one? This discussion, which will be led in Hebrew, is hosted by child psychologist Ernest Katz of Children’s Hospital Los Angeles and by child therapist Irit Bar-Nezer. The Ma Koreh Israeli parenting program is a project of BJE-Builders of Jewish Education. 7:30 p.m. Free. Kosher refreshments provided. Tickets available on eventbrite.com. Valley Beth Shalom, 15739 Ventura Blvd., Encino. (323) 761-8605. TUES | MAY 24

HOW ABOUT 2016? AN ELECTION YEAR FOR THE HISTORY BOOKS

Come to this lecture and discussion about the craziness that is the 2016 presidential election year. Featuring guest speaker Raphael Sonenshein, executive director of the Pat Brown Institute at Cal State Los Angeles and a frequent contributor to the Journal. Light refreshments will be served. 6:30 p.m. $15 for Columbia Alumni Association members; $20 nonmembers. No tickets sold at the door. Roxbury Community Center, 471 S. Roxbury Drive, Beverly Hills. (323) 513-4755. ” target=”_blank”>einsteintheplay.com.

WED | MAY 25

ONEG SHEMESH

Come hear the Israeli-born guitarist and singer Oneg Shemesh bring a new sound to Jewish music with his indie folk/rock. Featuring great music and inspiring speakers, this event is dedicated to mental health awareness. In observance of Lag B’Omer, music will begin after sundown. 7:30 p.m. $18. Includes coupon to Jeff’s Gourmet Sausage Factory for a burger, fries and a drink. B’nai David-Judea Congregation, 8906 W. Pico Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 276-9269. ” target=”_blank”>eventbrite.com

CHALLENGES AND OPPORTUNITIES FACING JEWISH AND ASIAN-AMERICAN COLLEGE STUDENTS

Come for dinner and a panel discussion about how both Jewish and Asian-American student groups are affected by “model minority” stereotypes and how this impacts intergroup dynamics on campus. This event, hosted by the Anti-Defamation League’s Asian Jewish Initiative, presents students and administrators from UCLA, Pitzer College and USC as part of Asian-Pacific American Heritage Month. 6 p.m. $10. Pre-registration required. Tickets at eventbrite.com. Light dinner included. ADL Offices, 10495 Santa Monica Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 446-4232. Calendar: May 20-26, 2016 Read More »

Letters to the editor: Donald Trump, tikkun olam and more

Rally for Israel, No Matter the President

There is no clear evidence to show whether Donald Trump is strongly pro-Israel or anti-Israel (“Trump and Israel,” May 13). In reality, he is probably neither. What is clear is that Trump is an articulate leader after he decides where his followers want to go.

With this in mind, a pro-Israel American, Republican or Democrat, should make it known to Trump (and Clinton and Sanders) that his or her belief is shared by numerous Americans concerned with maintaining American-Israeli relations. These relations must be based on shared values of American and Israeli domestic security and democratic principles.

It is up to the Jewish majority in Israel to show that their commitment to democratic principles includes a desire and willingness to cooperate with Palestinians. In turn, Palestinians must show a willingness to accept the reality of a Zionist state that safeguards the well-being and security of Jewish Israelis and peace-seeking Palestinians. These steps hopefully will lead to Trump emerging as a pro-Israeli American, whether or not he becomes president.

Marc Jacobson, Los Angeles

Tikkun Olam Belongs to Everyone

While many Jews view tikkun olam as progressive politics, as Dennis Prager writes, (“No Jewish Message,” May 13), the concept can be appropriated for the political right as well as the left. For example, conservatives who believe in less government vigorously support private charity, not just for individual giving but also for larger projects requiring a network of givers.  And in the current political campaign, conservatives are giving more attention than before to those struggling in the economy.

But when its origins are taken into account, tikkun olam has been recently too closely associated with partisan politics.  A Jewish view of it requires present-day conservatives and liberals to find a common path — a bipartisan one, in today’s politics — to improve the world.  That is the sense in which the Mishnah and rabbinical texts apply tikkun olam — as a way for mankind to have a share in completing God’s creation.

Barry H. Steiner, Professor of Political Science, Cal State Long Beach, Los Angeles

No Right to Lose

I am sure many Republicans like Yoni Fife feel their party is conflicted (“ ‘I Can No Longer Consider Myself a Republican,’ ” May 13). Some support Donald Trump, while others do not.  If some of these registered Republicans choose not to vote for Trump in November, and either sit out the election or register as independents, or (heaven forbid) vote for Hillary Clinton, the GOP will surely lose the November election.

Sol Taylor, Studio City

Yoni Fife obviously has conflicted liberal and conservative feelings. With respect to immigration policy, it was always the intent to have it benefit this country, not the immigrants (with the notable exception of those persecuted in their native country). No country can accept all who wish to enter. His rant on racist, sexist and xenophobic demagoguery is right out of the leftist playbook. I recognize that many Republicans share Fife’s disapproval of Donald Trump as the presidential nominee, as do I, but defecting from the Republican Party will only help the leftist Democrats. I would suggest Fife strengthen his ties to the conservative principles that, regrettably, he is about to abandon because of one man.

It would be refreshing for the Journal to publish an article by a Democrat who is fed up with Hillary and Bernie and their increasingly totalitarian Marxist Party, and intends to switch sides.

C.P. Lefkowitz, Rancho Palos Verdes

Not Immigration — Refuge

With reference to Avrum Burg’s eloquent piece, the writer emphasized that the Palestinians were refugees of Israel’s 1948 War of Independence, while Arab Jews were “Olim” Zionist immigrants (“The Israeli Twins — Independence and Nakba,” May 13).  While I agree that some Arab Jews came as Zionists, the majority was, in every sense of the word, refugees. I am one of the Iraqi Jews who became a refugee. I was smuggled out of Iraq in December 1949, when I was refused an exit visa to study in the United States after my graduation from Al’ A’adadiah High School in Baghdad in 1948. Only because I was a Jew. I became a refugee. 

During Iraq’s 1941 Farhud (pogrom), I was 11; there was nowhere for the Jews to go. Thank God there was Israel in 1948. Those who didn’t leave in the 1950s faced increased discrimination and worse treatment. Out of 135,000 Iraqi Jews in 1948, it is estimated there are only eight left today. Did they leave because they were Olim? Of course not. Most of the Jewish communities in Arab lands were treated as second- or third-class citizens and had similar experiences.

Joseph Samuels via email

CORRECTION: An article in the Jewish Journal b’nai mitzvah supplement Mazel Tov (“Instant Gratification,” May 2016) misidentified the mitzvah project that precipitated the creation of the company Good Deeds in Motion and the person behind it. The project by company owner Lisa Kodimer’s son Kole was a special needs baseball team called Westhills Champions.

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Solomon Golomb, USC Professor, digital communications pioneer, 83

Solomon Wolf Golomb, decorated mathematician and distinguished electrical engineering professor at USC, died at his home May 1. He was 83.

Golomb, son and grandson of Lithuanian rabbis, was born in Baltimore on May 30, 1932. After graduating from Baltimore City College, he went on to earn a bachelor’s in mathematics from Johns Hopkins University before he turned 19, followed by master’s and doctorate degrees from Harvard. His groundbreaking work in communications theory and cryptography led to his being hired by the Jet Propulsion Laboratory in 1956 (then part of the U.S. Army), where, at the age of 24, he was tasked with finding ways to control missiles with jam-proof radio signals. 

In 1963, he immersed himself in the world of USC academia, joining the college’s electrical engineering and mathematics faculties, where he remained until his death. 

As evidenced by the number of honors, awards and medals he received throughout his long career, Golomb’s contributions to the field of math and engineering cannot be overstated. In 2013, Golomb went to the White House to receive the National Medal of Science, the highest honor in the U.S. for science innovation. And last month, Golomb received the prestigious Franklin Institute’s Benjamin Franklin Medal in Electrical Engineering, joining an elite membership that includes Albert Einstein, Marie Curie and Andrew Viterbi, namesake of USC’s engineering school.

“Professor Golomb was truly a giant in the field of mathematics and engineering,” USC President C.L. Max Nikias said. “He was an exceptionally imaginative thinker, and so many enduring innovations and highly creative games — including polyominoes and pentomino — emerged from his inimitable genius. But beyond the innumerable accomplishments, Professor Golomb was also a dear friend and colleague, having served on USC’s faculty for more than half a century. Indeed, he helped transform our university into the world-class institution it is today.”

Golomb is survived by his daughters Beatrice (Terry Sejnowski) and Astrid.

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Obituaries: Week of May 20, 2016

Florence Adler died March 9. Survived by daughters Libby  (Paul) Hollombe, Jane (Jack) Zuckerman; 2 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman 

Boris Arbit died Feb. 29 at 56. Survived by wife Nelli; daughter Marina; brother Gregory; mother Sheva. Chevra Kadisha

Lynn Bernstein died April 19 at 74. Survived by daughter Lori; son David (Jennifer Steinberg); 1 grandchild; brother Joe (Gail). Hillside

Betty Brown died March 31 at 93. Survived by husband Marvin; son Bruce (Orranuch). Malinow and Silverman

Roxanne Carter died March 4 at 80. Survived by daughter Wendy; sons Chase, Michael (Victoria); 2 grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Irwin Clofine died April 17 at 85. Survived by wife Marion; daughter Sheryl (Neil) Aronow; sons Robert (Wanda), Gary (Denise); 5 grandchildren; 2 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jeanette Cohen died March 29 at 91. Survived by sons Marc (Denise Van Loo), Kenneth. Malinow and Silverman

Lillian Mae Dishman died April 22 at 93. Survived by daughters Marla (Bill Rosenblum) Wein, Dana (Brian Berliner) Berliner; 5 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

David Dubinsky died April 18 at 93. Survived by wife Lorraine; son Edward (Daisy); 2 grandsons. Mount Sinai

Marvin Ehrlich died April 24 at 83. Survived by wife Sharon; sons Kenneth (Melody Roset), Ira (Audrey); daughter Jodi (Jon) Goldstein Ehrlich; 7 grandchildren; 2 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Isadore Einstein died April 19 at 82. Survived by wife Antje; sons Gary, Mark; 1 grandchild; sister Jeanette Goldberg. Hillside

Eduard Galperin died April 21 at 69. Survived by wife Alexandra Laptenko; sons Eugene, Ross; 1 grandson. Chevra Kadisha

Benjamin Germain died April 23 at 89. Survived by wife Maria; sons Jeff (Patricia), Larry, Gerry (Luisa), Peter Berrego; 9 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Helene Goodman died April 20 at 82. Survived by husband Myron “Bud”; son Phillip (Silvia Battigalli) Ansell; sister Valerie Grossman. Hillside

Goldie Greenberg died April 23 at 87. Survived by son Arthur (Deb); daughters Joani (Jeff) Marine, Myra (Jerrold) Glassman; 6 grandchildren; 3 great-grandsons; sister Lila Segal. Mount Sinai

Lawrence Greenberg died April 19 at 72. Survived by son Joshua (Kristy); 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Marilyne Sheila Gressman died April 15 at 75. Survived by husband Robert; sons Lee (Danielle) Blitstein, Neil (Lisa) Blitstein, Arnold (Jackie) Blitstein; daughters Nancy (Jeff) Pfeffer, Sheri (John) Hanks; stepdaughter Teri; stepson Bill; 13 grandchildren; sister Sheryl (Robert) Vines. Mount Sinai

Claire Grossberg died April 20 at 83. Survived by daughters Cindy Collins, Ileene (Michael) Lazar; 7 grandchildren; brother Jeff. Hillside

Maurice Hellman died April 22 at 99. Survived by daughter Judy (Ted) Singer; 1 grandchild. Mount Sinai

Ethel Klein died March 25 at 96. Survived by daughter Pamela Alexander; son Michael (Charline); 5 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Samuel Levine died March 17 at 20. Survived by mother Deborah. Malinow and Silverman

Ann Lipsman died April 15 at 97. Survived by son Walter (Lisa Rosenbaum); daughter Mary (Jeffrey) Schnacher; 4 grandchildren. Hillside

Milton Malatt died March 26 at 94. Survived by sister Esther Kahn. Malinow and Silverman

Blossom Malter died April 16 at 91. Survived by niece Kathryn M. (Ray) Giles. Mount Sinai

Fay Marcus died March 25 at 89. Survived by daughter Diane Brandon; son Steven; 4 grandchildren; 7 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Arthur Minky died April 23 at 92. Survived by daughter Jill (Brian) Munn; sons Robert (Christine), Michael (Susan); 3 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Richard Mosk died April 17 at 76. Survived by wife Sandra; daughter Julie (Mark Druyan); son Matthew (Karen); 4 grandchildren. Hillside

Nitza Niemann died April 14 at 87. Survived by daughter Ahdda Shur; son Michael (Carolyn); 4 grandchildren. Hillside

Rose Nusbaum died April 22 at 91. Survived by daughter Cynthia (Joel) Feinstein; son Neil (Deborah); 5 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Shelley Resnik died March 26 at 65. Survived by daughter Jennifer (Bryan Weissman); 2 grandchildren; sister Sheryl (Joel) Krissman. Malinow and Silverman

Joyce Rothschild died March 18 at 92. Survived by daughters Beth, Lori, Joan (Rick) Brisard; 3 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Dorothy Schaller died April 23 at 88. Survived by husband Solomon; son Ray Blatt; 3 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Sylvia Lee Schenker died April 17 at 85. Survived by daughters Janet (Barry) Schenker-Friedman, Barbara (Kent) Schenker-Johnson, Hilarie Shay; 6 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

Irene Schultz died March 27 at 89. Survived by daughter Natalie Madden. Malinow and Silverman 

Jack Seror died March 2 at 98. Survived by sons David (Deborah), Marc (Susan); 4 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Joel E. Spitzer died April 19 at 61. Survived by brother Leonard (Jane); 2 nephews; 1 niece. Mount Sinai

Ann Stone died April 21 at 74. Survived by sons Gary (Cyndee) Stone, Jeffrey (Kimi), Jonathan; brother Alan (Karen) Pyenson; sister Phyllis (David) Snyder. Hillside

Esther Weinberger died April 15 at 97. Survived by nieces Judy Caraco, Louise Caraco, Diana Learner, Marcia (Chris) Heinegg, Deborah (Lee May) Learner-May; nephews Daniel (Polly) Morgenstern, Joel (Alana) Morgenstern; 1 cousin. Mount Sinai

Sally Yale died March 27. Survived by sons Tom (Karen), Kirby (Beth), Dan (Norine); 5 grandchildren; 4 great-grandchildren. Conejo Mountain Memorial

Robert Yelin died April 21 at 74. Survived by wife Maxine; daughters Deborah (Robert) Satnick, Jennifer (Joshua) Kefer; son Daniel (Roxanne); 5 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

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The Jewish Foreign Policy exchange, part 3: Are universalists truly engaged in Jewish affairs?

Michael Barnett is University Professor of International Affairs and Political Science at the George Washington University. His research interests include the Middle East, humanitarian action, global governance, global ethics, and the United Nations. Among his many books are Eyewitness to a Genocide: The United Nations and Rwanda; Dialogues in Arab Politics: Negotiations in Regional Order; Empire of Humanity: A History of Humanitarianism; Rules for the World: International Organizations in World Politics (with Martha Finnemore). Currently, he is an Associate Editor of International Organization. Professor Barnett is a member of the Council on Foreign Relations and the recipient of many grants and awards for his research.

This exchange focuses on his most recent book, The Star and the Stripes: A History of the Foreign Policies of the American Jews (Princeton University Press). Parts 1 and 2 can be found here and here.

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Dear Professor Barnett,

In the last round you raised doubts about whether tikun olam can supply America’s universalist Jews with a firm enough basis to withstand the pull of assimilation. In the book you raise the possibility that “even if they are a minority among American Jews, the tribally oriented might dominate American Jewish political life and thus have a decisive influence on the foreign policies of American Jews, because they will control the major American Jewish organizations for several reasons.” 

My question: How clear are the historical divisions between the ‘tribally oriented’ and the ‘non-tribally oriented’ when it comes to Jewish representation and forming Jewish foreign policy? As you see it, have absolutely non-‘tribally minded’ Jews ever had a say, or interest, in Jewish foreign policy, or has some minimal level of tribalism always been needed to be heard in the Jewish community?

Thanks again for the book and for doing this exchange.

Shmuel.

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Dear Shmuel,

The questions are layered, and the responses will be, too. 

How clear are the historical divisions between tribally oriented and non-tribally oriented Jews? Clear enough that I find that these categories help me (and hopefully others) understand an important divide among American Jews. And, by doing so, I am simply suggesting that we should judge these categories according to how useful they are for helping us understand the world. I find the distinction fairly useful, and believe that this is not an invention of mine but rather informed by the history. 

(Big Parenthetical: At the risk of introducing too many distinctions and thus making my answer needlessly complicated, I actually divide the world between more those Jews who lean universal and those who lean particular. When I use the notion of tribalism, it is to refer to those Jews who are at the extreme end of the particular scale.) 

But, like all categories that we use, including Jew vs. non-Jew, the facts often disrupt the theory. So, I find the definitions relatively clear – tribally oriented Jews have these characteristics and non-tribally oriented Jews have these other characteristics – but recognize that in history there is a huge diversity both within and across these categories. Indeed, one of the aspects I found most fascinating in my research was the extent to which different Jewish leaders attempted to propose a different balance between the two. For some, the Jews should be prophetically-minded, avoiding any hint of nationalism and tribalism. For others, too much universalism would undermine any claim the Jews had to being a separate people. So one lesson: there are good reasons to begin by dividing the world into two distinct categories, but we would be fools to think that the world actually lines up so neatly. 

Also, I am suggesting that tribally oriented Jews have always been wanting to remain connected to universalism, and universally-minded Jews have always wanted to remain connected to forms of communal identity. Most American Jews do not want to disappear into the world, or disappear from the world. The consequence is that there is an attempt to navigate, negotiate, manage the tensions between the two. But this is a constant balancing act, and different American Jewish constituencies at different historical periods have a very different understanding of what is an acceptable and unacceptable balance. So, to answer your question: even the most universally-minded American Jews have always wanted to secure their communal identity (though hopefully without resorting to tribalism). 

And have non-tribally oriented, more universally-inclined, Jews been interested in foreign policy? Absolutely. Indeed, one reading of my narrative is that they have, in fact, dominated the foreign policy institutions of American Jews. From the 1850s through the 1967 war, American Jewish institutions that were involved in foreign policy making had a strong universal orientation, especially to the extent that they were concerned about being identified with the extremes of Jewish nationalism. Their foreign policy instincts were liberal internationalist – and they believe that liberal internationalism abroad, just like liberalism at home – was the best way to advance the values and interests of the Jewish people. The big change happened in 1967 – at this point the more tribally oriented Jews begin to capture the major Jewish institutions. As I argue, this is partly because of their growing passion, money, and commitment. Because of this development, and other factors, more universally oriented Jews moved elsewhere. The social justice organizations are not necessarily part of the traditional national Jewish organizations, but rather emerge somewhat outside the system and below the radar. What we have seen over the last decade, I think, is the extent to which the more universally oriented constituency is trying to regain their influence – and the point of fissure is over Israel.

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Understand Grief to Better Offer Your Sympathies

[Ed. Note: This offering is a more practical piece, targeted at advising what to say and expect in the face of grief. In  a future entry we will look at what NOT to say or do. There is also information on the Kavod v'Nichum Jewish Funerals website at   — JB]

 

Do you find that you avoid people who have had a death in the family? Do you feel awkward when you are around them? Maybe you trip over your words or say something and immediately think how dumb it sounded.

One of the reasons it is so hard for people to know what to say is that they aren’t familiar with grief in the same way. They may not have lost someone close to them so they aren’t sure what words would make the person feel better or worse. When you take the time to understand the grieving process, it makes it easier to know what to say.

 

Grief Happens in Many Ways

No two people grieve the same way. One person may cry a lot while another may seem stoic. A mother with young children often has to pretend that everything is fine even when it isn’t. Just because a person doesn’t act the way you would expect doesn’t mean that they aren’t grieving.

Don’t be oversensitive. Don’t spend time analyzing your every word to figure out how the other person will react. Most of the time, the bereaved person appreciates the sentiment even if the words don’t come out the right way.

Be prepared for intense and extreme emotions. Don’t assume that what you say is the cause. The person is feeling all kinds of emotions and they can vary from one moment to the next. While something may trigger a change in emotion, sometimes it just happens. Unless you are intentionally cruel, what you say is not going to make the person feel worse.

 

When Silence is Golden

Sometimes a person’s presence is all the comfort that is needed. Just sitting in silence can let the other person know that he or she is not alone. This is especially true for the first few days after someone’s death. The family may receive numerous expressions of sympathy and just appreciate the quiet companionship. [Ed. Note: remember that this is what is recommended for visitors to a Shiva home; allow the person who is grieving to guide and direct the conversation – or lack of it. — JB]

Physical contact can speak volumes, sometimes even more than words. A hug if you are close to the bereaved or even a pat on the arm or squeeze of a hand lets them know what you can’t say in words. It’s a gentle reminder that they are not alone even though they may feel like it.

 

A Listening Ear

Sometimes the person who needs to do the talking is not you. The grieving family member may need to talk about his or her feelings and your job is just to listen. Offering a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen can be the best way to offer your sympathies in many cases.

You may hear stories about the deceased or other random thoughts many times. You don’t need to feel like you have to respond other than to show that you are listening. For the other person, the healing comes through talking.

Understand how grief works in different people so that you can offer the right message of sympathy to a grieving loved one.

 

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