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September 19, 2014

Why I have not yet vaccinated my daughter

It looks like The Atlantic is the latest media outlet to bash parents who choose not to follow the most aggressive vaccine regimen in the world. My wife and I have chosen not to vaccinate our 11-month-old daughter, though we may change our minds when she heads off to school. We feel good about this decision, which is not at all religiously based: There are plenty of Mormons who vaccinate their kids, and some who don’t.

Infant vaccines and I didn’t get off to a good start. When our daughter was all of 15 minutes old (!), the nurses wanted to cart her away to the nursery in order to administer a Hepatitis B shot to her. Since there was a zero percent chance of her becoming infected with the disease, we refused the shot. I accompanied my daughter to the nursery a little while later in order to ensure that our wishes were respected.

My wife is from Europe, which has a less aggressive vaccine regimen than the U.S., and doctors in my small Midwestern city simply didn’t administer dozens of vaccines to small kids decades ago. You can imagine our surprise, then, to learn that the regular pediatric “checkups” that our daughter is supposed to have are little more than a chance for doctors to push vaccines to parents. Indeed, instead of welcoming us to our six-month checkup, our doctor’s nurse told us a few months ago that we were in fact bringing our daughter to the “six-month shots” visit.

We are constantly told by the media that we are enjoying the benefits of “herd immunity” (e.g., the eradication of polio) while refusing to contribute to it. To this I plead 100% guilty. While I am grateful to the herd for protecting my family’s health, in the end my primary responsibility is to protect my little calf, not the herd. I’ve learned from years of observation that when people are harmed by vaccines, the collective “herd” offers very little support.

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Rosner’s Torah-Talk: Parashat Nitzavim-Vayelech with Rabi Marc Margolius

Our guest this week is Rabbi Marc Margolius, the spiritual leader of New York City’s West End Synagogue. Prior to his current position, Rabbi Margolius conceived and directed for five years the Legacy Heritage Innovation Project, an initiative supporting systemic educational transformation in congregations across North America, Europe and Israel, and served as Director of Jewish Life and Identity for the Jewish Community Centers of Philadelphia. Between 1989 and 2003 he was the spiritual leader of Congregation Beth Am Israel in Penn Valley, Pennsylvania. Ordained in 1989, at the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College, Rabbi Margolius graduated from Yale College and Yale Law School. He has long been active in interfaith matters and social justice issues. As a legal services attorney, he specialized in civil rights and poverty law, and served as staff attorney for the Commission on Law and Social Action of the American Jewish Congress, Pennsylvania Region.

This week's Torah portion – Parashat Nitzavim-Vayelech (Deuteronomy 29:9-31:30) – begins with Moses gathering the people of Israel to enter them into a covenant with God. Moses then warns of the great desolation that will befall them if they stray from the covenant, but he assures them that if they repent God will bring them back together again from the ends of the world. The portion continues to talk about free-choice and repentance, and tells of Moses passing on his leadership to Joshua. Our discussion focuses on evolution of Moses as leader as he approaches his death (parallel to our own process approaching Yom Kippur), his increasing acceptance of death as an inevitable aspect of life, and his response, which is to express faith and confidence in the people and the “process” of God's unfolding truth.

If you would like to learn some more about Nitzavim-Vayelech, check out our discussion with Rabbi Richard Block.

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Ecospirituality

Scientists, ecologists, devotees, and spiritual healers are together at a summit, saying we need each other. The scientists want to know, “Is there a need for us in the spiritual world?” “Yes of course!  We don’t know what to do to be shepherds of this earth, and most of us know there is a need.

But what, please tell me, what do scientists need some spiritual idea for?” The scientist said, “It is important at this time. We have discovered….” (The Christian assumed it would be that there are smaller units than they knew, or something about the infinite) He said, “We discovered there is something objective.” WOW.

 

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Committed to Being Perfectly Imperfect

By Rabbi Mark Borovitz

As I sit here, in Bridgeport, Ct., getting ready for a weekend as a Scholar In Residence, I am in awe of where my life is today. I laugh at and pinch myself every day, realizing how awesome and crazy my life is. I get to hang out with smart, deep people; I am allowed into people’s lives to help celebrate joys and deal with sorrows. I am sought out for wisdom and comfort and I am able to live my whole self—good, bad and ugly—with everyone I meet.

I am grateful to and for the connection that I have with people I meet, like Ira Wise, who arranged for me to come here to Bridgeport. Ira is a learner, a teacher, a thinker and a bright Spirit. I met Ira along with five other people from the East Coast who came to Beit T’Shuvah as the first Cohort of our Elaine Breslow Addiction Institute. Ira, Yonni, Jodie, Grace, Evie and Lynn spent a week immersing themselves in/at Beit T’Shuvah to learn how to respond to the epidemic of addiction in their communities; addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling, food, etc AND our addiction to hopelessness and despair. All six of these people enrich my life as we continue to learn from and with each other. How great is this life of mine!!

As we embark on Rosh HaShanah, I am thinking about and reflecting on all of the joys and sorrows of the past year. All of the ways I hit the bull’s-eye and missed the mark. I am humbly grateful to announce that I hit the bull’s-eye much more often than I missed the mark, and I am humbly saddened for the times when I missed the mark. This is the Both/And of my life and everyone’s life, I believe.

I am addicted to Redemption because it is what I was taught. The Gates of T’Shuvah are always open, God receives us back with Love and understanding. I have to have my gates of return always open and receive people with love and understanding because I am God’s representative. I am asking you to be Addicted to Redemption because you, also, are God’s Representative! We need you to return and forgive.

I ask you to forgive me for “missing the marks” and know that I am sincere about connecting and reconnecting. I promise you my best in the moment and promise that I will hit the bull’s-eye and miss the mark. I also am committing to you to argue and wrestle, defend and acquiesce, laugh and cry in my perfectly imperfect way. I commit to transparency and growth and, most of all, to always being me and not hiding. I am asking you to sign on to this same pledge with me, with friends, with family, with co-workers, with strangers and with God. May it be a sweet year for everyone filled with TShuvah, Tzedakah and T’Filah.

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The new year brings viewers new T.V. shows

It’s September, which means back to school, Rosh Hashanah and a brand-new TV season. This year, members of the tribe populate the landscape both on camera and behind the scenes, from Bebe Neuwirth as the secretary of state’s chief of staff in CBS’ “Madam Secretary,” to Jeffrey Tambor as a transgendered Jewish patriarch on Amazon’s “Transparent,” to actress Rashida Jones wearing her producer hat on the NBC comedy “A to Z.” Jones is among the recurring guests on the fourth season of Showtime’s “Web Therapy,” reviving in October and starring Lisa Kudrow, who also brings back her HBO comedy “The Comeback” in November. Jason Isaacs stars in USA’s Jerusalem-set thriller, “Dig,” Dave Annable plays a doctor in “Red Band Society,” and PBS’ “Finding Your Roots With Henry Louis Gates Jr.” explores the Jewish genealogy of Carole King, Tony Kushner and Alan Dershowitz. Here are a few more faces to watch:

Last seen on TV in the musical drama “Smash,” Debra Messing returns to her comedic “Will & Grace” roots in “The Mysteries of Laura,” a hybrid that’s part police procedural, part family comedy. It casts Messing as New York Police Department homicide detective Laura Diamond, a divorced single mother of twin boys — terrors both — whose unfaithful ex-husband (Josh Lucas) has just become her new boss at the precinct. 

Messing seized the opportunity to tackle the genre-blending role. “Making other people laugh, hearing laughter around me on set, does something to me that nothing else in the world does,” she said. “It brings me joy.” As a huge crime-reality fan, Messing watches “48 Hours,” “Dateline” and “everything that has to do with murder. This is a dream come true for me because I get to be in the center of murder mystery.”

A single mother of a 10-year-old son, Messing can relate to her character’s efforts to juggle career and family. “Just like Laura, some days I feel really proud that I’m able to find that balance. And there are other days when I’m incredibly distressed because I wasn’t able to do it,” she said. “There is something incredibly universal about the predicament.”

 “The Mysteries of Laura” airs Wednesdays at 8 p.m. on NBC.


Remembered as Paris Geller, the prep school nemesis on “Gilmore Girls,” and from subsequent series, including “Bunheads” and “Scandal,” Liza Weil returns to TV in “How to Get Away With Murder” as Bonnie Winterbottom, aide to Viola Davis’ law professor lead. 

“Bonnie presents as a nice team player, but the students are going to find out very quickly that she does have an edge,” Weil said. “She’s an enforcer, and she’s going to do what is necessary, carrying out Annelise’s dirty work.” 

The series marks Weil’s return to work after a four-year hiatus following the birth of her daughter, Josephine, who is now starting school. Weil and her husband, actor Paul Adelstein (“Private Practice”), were both brought up in Reform Jewish families and are raising Josephine with the traditions. 

“They’re very important to me, and I think they become more important raising a little girl,” she said. “There’s so much about the faith that’s about community and being aware of the good, and that’s certainly something that I want to continue to practice.”

“How to get Away With Murder” airs Thursdays at 10 p.m. on ABC.


From “Ordinary People” to “Taxi” to “I’m Not Rappaport,” Judd Hirsch has played a diverse array of roles in his four-decade career, earning an Oscar nomination, two Emmys, two Tonys and a Golden Globe nomination along the way. His latest project is the fantasy drama “Forever,” about a doctor and medical examiner (Ioan Gruffudd) who inexplicably became immortal after surviving a fatal gunshot wound 200 years before. Hirsch plays Abe, the doctor’s friend, confidant and keeper of the secret. 

“Forever” — Judd Hirsch  

It’s a Jewish character, one of many the 79-year-old actor has played. However, Hirsch calls that a coincidence of casting, not by design. He’s fought against typecasting, offering his 1970s series “Delvecchio” as an example. “I played a detective in that, totally Italian.”

“Forever” airs Tuesdays at 10 p.m. on ABC.


After memorably playing supporting roles in ensembles, notably a flipped-out ad writer in “Mad Men” and a guardian angel in “Drop Dead Diva,” Ben Feldman steps up to the co-lead in the romantic comedy “A to Z,” opposite Cristin Milioti. 

“A to Z”— Ben Feldman and Cristin Milioti 

The title comes from their names, Adam and Zelda, and the role is admittedly a stretch for Feldman. “It’s out of my comfort zone to play romantic idealists. He’s a happy good guy. I’m a quirky cynic,” he said. “I have to suppress all those traits that came out in me in ‘Mad Men’ — cynical, neurotic and weird,” ones he characterizes as typically Jewish. “I don’t know many Jewish people who don’t have a sense of humor. I’m always surprised whenever I meet a Jew who isn’t funny.”

Feldman, who got married last October in a Jewish ceremony, has been to Israel with his wife and said they “observe in our own way. The culture and history are very important to me. They didn’t used to be,” he said. “I think everybody starts caring about history once they realize they don’t have a lot left to make of it.”

“A to Z” airs Thursdays at 9:30 p.m. on NBC.


In “Scorpion,” about a team of misfit geniuses recruited by Homeland Security to avert crises, Ari Stidham plays statistics wiz Sylvester Dodd, brilliant but socially awkward. “There’s a lot of OCD with this guy,” said Stidham of his first network series role. (His previous experience was limited to improv comedy, a couple of guest spots and the cable series “Huge.”) 

A native of Westlake Village, where he grew up in an observant Reform home and attended “a lot of bar mitzvahs,” Stidham now considers himself “culturally Jewish. I definitely identify, and I will book a Birthright trip [to Israel],” the 19-year-old said. He identifies with Jewish comics such as Danny Kaye, “who had the great physical comedy that I aspire to,” and Jason Alexander’s “Seinfeld” character, George Costanza. “The world is against him, a shlimazel,” he said, using the Yiddish for unlucky loser. “I was born a shlimazel. But I’m happy playing guys like that, the underdog you root for.”

“Scorpion” airs Mondays at 9 p.m. on CBS.


Zoe Levin (“Palo Alto,” “The Way Way Back”) has been somewhat typecast as a snippy, mouthy teenager, so she was wary about playing another in “Red Band Society.” But the pilot script, about sick teens that bond in a hospital ward, had a different take on the stereotype. “There were layers, moments of vulnerability. She’s not just the mean girl,” Levin said of her cheerleader character, Kara. 

Levin, who moved west from suburban Chicago after high school graduation in 2012, was educated earlier at a private Conservative Jewish school. “It taught me a lot of the values I have today. I still go to temple on the High Holy Days. For me, it’s more of a cultural thing; it’s about community and those values and traditions, it grounds me,” she said. 

Before moving to Atlanta, where the series shoots, she asked her hometown temple’s rabbi for a synagogue referral so she can celebrate Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. “It’s good to have a life outside of filming,” she said. 

“Red Band Society” airs Wednesdays at 9 p.m. on Fox.


Showcased this summer as Ezra Goodman in the Showtime drama “Ray Donovan,” which wraps its third season Sept. 28, Elliott Gould segues into a very different role in the sitcom “Mulaney,” playing the titular standup comic’s gay neighbor and confidant, Oscar. “He’s sort of like a Yoda character, very philosophical,” Gould said. 

“Mulaney” — Nasim Pedrad and John Mulaney

It’s the latest role in a 50-year career that includes “M*A*S*H,” the “Ocean’s” trilogy and dozens of TV shows, and, at 79, he’s happy to be working steadily. But his biggest hope for the future has nothing to do with his career. 

“My greatest role is grandfather,” he declared. “My great ambition is to be a great-great grandfather.”

“Mulaney” airs Sundays at 9:30 p.m. on Fox.


Known for his roles in “Judging Amy, “The Birdcage” and as abducted and murdered Jewish journalist Daniel Pearl in “A Mighty Heart,” Dan Futterman is also the Oscar-nominated writer of “Capote,” scripts for “In Treatment” and the buzzed-about “Foxcatcher,” due in November. Now, with his wife and producing partner, Anya Epstein, he is show-running the drama “Gracepoint,” a 10-part series based on the British series “Broadchurch,” about the investigation of a child’s murder.

It’s not an exact remake. “The DNA is the same, but we go down different roads, and the cumulative effect ends us in a different place,” Futterman said. “We deviated as much as we wanted to and as much as we could while still trying to tell this beautiful story that has a beginning and now a different ending.”

“Gracepoint” — Nick Nolte

Simultaneously working on an action-movie script, Futterman doesn’t rule out appearing on camera. “If somebody would give me a job, I’d do it in a second. 

“The truth is, my opportunities as an actor were becoming fairly limited. I was getting typecast in certain types of parts,” he said. “I have much more opportunities as a writer.”

“Gracepoint” airs Thursdays at 8 p.m. on Fox.

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Our Jewish obligation to make an impact on climate change

When the 2014 United Nations Climate Summit convenes this Tuesday in New York City, the international community will have an opportunity to build a more sustainable and just future by making a meaningful impact in the global effort to address climate change. Advocates and policymakers have a rare chance, under the world’s scrutiny, to advance a collective response to what is not only an environmental, economic, security and health challenge, but a moral imperative as well.

As Reform Jews, we have for decades proudly and forcefully lifted our collective voice on the dangers of neglecting our climate. We have advocated for greater investment in renewable energy, sought the protection of endangered species, and prioritized measures in support of cleaner air, land and water. Across North America, many of our synagogues are engaged in creative and impactful greening initiatives and our congregants do the same in their homes.  We do all this striving to heed God’s call (Genesis 2:15) to be diligent stewards of the earth, “to till and to tend” as Adam and Eve were instructed to do in the Garden of Eden.

At the same time, we must tend to more than just the earth that sustains us through its provision of shelter and food. We must also tend to the well being of humanity and in particular those who are most vulnerable to the effects of climate change. After all, the Book of Proverbs (31:9) instructs us in the clearest of terms to “champion the poor and the needy.” Working towards viable environmental measures that will shield marginalized peoples disproportionately affected by climate change including children, the economically disadvantaged, people with disabilities, the sick and others, fulfills both of these fundamentally Jewish obligations.

Environmental measures that curb the future impacts of climate change without simultaneously addressing the very real effects poor and vulnerable populations are already experiencing – from droughts to wild fires to flooding to the spread of disease – are simply insufficient. That is why it is heartening to know that among the “Action Areas” where the Summit will focus on substantive changes to be made is “Resilience,” which involves creating a plan to reinforce disaster risk areas by increasing the allocation of funds, creating incentives for investment, keeping those populations informed, and ensuring their structural safety. This is a vital pillar in the effort to address climate change and its impact.

It is particularly timely that the UN Summit comes this week as Jews worldwide prepare for the start of the New Year 5775. The High Holiday of Rosh Hashanah marks the anniversary of God’s creation of the world. Though God created the earth, it is the responsibility of each of us to sustain for the next generation.  Our sages teach us: “See to it that you do not spoil and destroy My world; for if you do, there will be no one else to repair it.” (Midrash Kohelet Rabbah).

The time for a concerted and impactful international response to the crisis of climate change is past due. Climate change is a reality we already live with, as all those who have suffered at home and worldwide from extreme weather events can attest. Yet we know that it can and likely will get worse thanks to rising sea levels, loss of crops, and increased spread of disease. That is why this week’s UN Summit must lead to a coordinated global commitment to addressing what is truly a life or death matter for our earth and its inhabitants. Together, we can ensure that our earth begins to heal and that children, the poor, disenfranchised, the elderly, the sick, the disabled, and all who are vulnerable are lifted up as we work to address and adapt to the perils of climate change.

Barbara Weinstein is Director of the Commission on Social Action, and Associate Director of the Religious Action Center of Reform Judaism (RAC), the Reform Jewish voice for social justice in Washington, D.C.

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Am Yisrael Chai: The Story Behind The Bergen-Belsen Recording

Am Yisrael Chai!”, shouted Reverend L.H. Hardman who had finished conducting the first pre-Shabbat sermon that many of the Bergen-Belsen camp survivors had not seen for 6 years. Although weakened by hunger, disease, and the death of their loved ones, on the 20th of April, 1945 many whose spirits still remained strong began to sing “Hatikvah”, so the world can hear that they were there, and they survived.

There is a very good chance that you have heard this emotional recording, but have you ever stopped to truly consider the story behind it? Despite the sadness, yet immense hope in the voices of the singers: Who were they? How did they get there? And perhaps most importantly: What happened to them?

These questions are almost impossible to answer as history does not afford us many recorded accounts. Yet, this was the case in 1945. After the death of 6 million Jews in Europe, and an atrocious war which took the lives of 65 million. Confusion was normalcy. It was those amid the confusion such as Patrick Gordon Walker, a reporter for the BBC, who wanted to record the stories of what happened that managed to collect the few stories that we have left today. Nothing could have prepared him, or the soldiers who liberated the camp days earlier, for the horrors that lay inside.

The Bergen Belsen camp , which was established in 1941 in the middle of Germany served as a death camp for Jews, homosexuals and political prisoners. The exact number of how many people died during those years is not known, however when the British and Canadian 11th armoured Division liberated it, they found 60,000 people, most of which were extremely emaciated and suffering from typhus.

Walker entered the camp five days after its liberation to find people who could no longer possibly function because of hunger, only to be greeted with the sounds of “God Save The King” played on an detuned piano in order to honour the British and Canadian liberators. People were joyous, despite their condition and the fact that many were still dying. In fact, they sang, and talked with their liberators who gave them food, and comforted them by reminding them that they were human beings.

“What I saw there will always haunt me” said Walker in his famous broadcast, and this was the case as there were truly more dead in the camp than living. One soldier’s account of how he saw a mother and child dying of sickness right in front of him, was only one of hundreds when the soldiers first found the abandoned camp.

Yet, perhaps what is more interesting is not simply the survivors who sang the Hatikvah after liberation, but those who did when they were being led to their deaths. The account of Jan Michaels, a Polish Jew who saw a group of Jewish Czechs singing the future national anthem of Israel, while they were on their way to the gas chambers. Michaels said that the SS guards could not stop them from singing, as their hope was unstoppable even in the face of certain death.

Yet, why is this so important to remember?

However melancholic it is to remind ourselves of these horrible stories, it is essential that we remember all those who have perished, as well as those who lived on to sing the Hatikvah after their liberation, as it is was their hope to be reunited with those they loved in Eretz Tsion. Now, today, Israel still faces enemies who want its people abolished, but that will never again be possible.

To answer the first questions:

Who were they? They were just like you and I. How did they get there? Through unbelievable xenophobia, hatred and ignorance. What happened to them? They live on in all Jewish hearts, and more importantly they live on through Israel.