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February 3, 2014

A Technical “Flaw”

By Joan Praver—Beit T’Shuvah Board Member

Brooklyn Technical High School, at one time, put out qualifying exams to screen their applicants for admission. It primarily contained questions on math and vocabulary. One year, a question on the vocabulary portion was ignored by the majority of applicants. It was quickly discussed and looked up, following the exam. The question asked for a four-letter word defining intercourse. The correct answer was talk.

In today’s society I am certainly a member, but as far as the latest technological inventions, I am a “dinosaur.” Yes, I own a computer, but still have only a simple phone, no iPhone, no iPad, and I prefer communicating on a house phone. I’ve read Steve Jobs’ Autobiography and know he was a genius, along with Bill Gates, but believe they have altered all the social skills of our current generation, who whip off text messages, but can’t hold a dinner conversation. I have begun to wonder how they conduct a conversation once sex between them is over. After the sentence, “Was it as good for you as it was for me?” can they reach for a second topic explaining who they are, and what they want in a friend and what they are looking for in a permanent partner. Maybe they never get past a business discussion, whether they vote democratic or republican, or their current investments in the stock market.

My generation is great at small, intimate conversations that get a lot more personal information across, most of it based on true feelings, rather than trying to create a false impression of who you are. In business transactions, technology is irreplaceable. But when it comes to social networking our true skills, our intercourse is the ability to talk, to tell one another who we are. We have lost something in the transition. It has become a major “flaw” we may never be able to repair.

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11 years without Ilan Ramon

We all remember that moment on Febuary 1st,  2003, when we realized our hero in space, Ilan Ramon, would not return. On that day, 11 years ago, the Columbia space shuttle disintegrated over Texas and Louisiana as it reentered Earth's atmosphere at the end of a 15 day and 22 hour mission in space. On that day, we lost a hero, a role model, a husband and a father.

On February 1st, 2003, at 16:30 pm, my family and I were sitting in the car on our way to visit long distance family members. This was supposed to be a big day: Ilan Ramon, the first Israeli astronaut and an old family friend of ours, was supposed to land at Cape Canaveral, along with six fellow astronauts.

Ilan Ramon's voyage to space was the most talked about topic in the Israeli media. We all followed Ilan and his family from the moment of the takeoff, through his videos from space to the romantic song his wife dedicated to him from millions of miles away. We all saw him as a symbol of Israeli achievement. He was the one we all believed in–the one we were all united in admiring.

We all waited for February 1st, when Ramon would step out of the space shuttle, wave to the cheering crowd, hug his wife and kids and return home a hero. Even while on the road, we did not want to miss the historic moment, and my father turned on the radio where the landing was recorded and broadcast.

I will never forget that moment when we realized something went wrong. I remember my mother starting to cry, and my father catching his breath. I remember asking what happened, and slowly gaining the understanding that Ilan Ramon would not step outside of the shuttle, and wouldn't be reunited with his family.

I don't remember Ilan very well. I grew up with his son, Tal, as both families lived in a family-residence next to an Air Force base. Both our dads were officers in the Air Force, and worked together. Tal and I were good friends in kindergarten, and our ways separated when my family and I moved back to the city when I was six. A few years later, I remember my dad asking me if I remember Tal's father, and telling me that he might become an astronaut.

Since astronomy was my main interest at that time, my dad said that maybe someday I could meet with Ilan and he would tell me all about space. In  the meantime, the Ramon’s moved to the States, and both families drifted apart. But even though I haven't spoken to Tal in years, when Columbia had left the atmosphere, I bragged to the entire school that  the father of one of my closest childhood friends was up there…

When Ilan Ramon boarded the Columbia,  he had become an Israeli hero, a symbol of success beyond imagination. February 1st, 2003, was meant to become a historic day for the state of Israel. That day was meant to be written as the day when Israel stepped out of its borders and left a mark on history.

That day did become a historic day, but one we wish we could erase.  In that moment when the countdown ended, and the clock started counting back up, that day turned from a day of excitement into a day of grief.

It's been eleven years now, and Ilan Ramon's smile is still in our hearts. Ramon, and the six other astronauts that assembled the Columbia team are all heroes. They will always be a symbol of achievement beyond any imagination, a symbol of national and worldwide pride, and an inspiration. May they all rest in peace.

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Watch: The trailer for Jake Gyllenhaal’s newest film

Members of the Tribe, it's time to celebrate.

Jake Gyllenhaal has a new movie coming out called, “Enemy.”

Want to know what the best thing about the movie is? Or at least, what appears to be the best thing about the movie from the trailer?

…are you ready?

Two Jake Gyllenhaals!

Here is more information about the plot for those who are interested. For everyone else, below is the intriguing trailer.

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Bar Refaeli gets cozy with ‘Twilight’s Kellan Lutz

Today in Bar Refaeli news, Page Six reports the Israeli model was spotted with “Twilight” star Kellan Lutz at a Super Bowl party Friday night.

“They were cozying up in the VIP area at her table. He had his own table, but he sat with Bar. They looked pretty close,” a witness said, in what sounds remarkably like every other anonymous account of a canoodling celeb couple ever published.

Also familiar: Lutz’s look, which is definitely in the Leonardo DiCaprio family. Guess Refaeli has a type. Oh, and it turns out she does like her men strong and famous.

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Flamboyant billionaire Stewart Rahr wows Israel

This story orignally appeared on themedialine.org.

What amazes about Israel’s United Hatzalah emergency first response organization is the speed with which its “ambucycles” [motor bikes equipped with the latest life-saving equipment] arrive at the scene of an accident or to a person in need of medical assistance. What amazed Israelis about colorful billionaire philanthropist Stewart Rahr was the speed with which he responded to an array of needs-at-hand: doling out hundreds of thousands of dollars virtually on-the-spot to “do good things.”

While in Israel for only a few short days, Rahr took the first step toward doubling the United Hatzalah fleet of bikes; underwriting one-half million dollars to bring Holocaust survivors to the Auschwitz-Birkenau death camps in Poland in order to bring closure to their nightmares; while along the way meeting with charities and politicians anxious for a chance to tickle Rahr’s generous fancy. The trip to Poland had been the brainchild of Jonny Daniels, the 28-year old executive director of “From the Depths,” a foundation dedicated to keeping alive the memory of the Holocaust.

Those in attendance described as “electric” the “magic moment” on a rooftop in Jerusalem’s Old City where a dozen new motorbikes were hoisted by crane to provide the backdrop for United Hatzalah’s charity auction. It wasn’t long into the bidding that Rahr – just off the plane from Poland and not having slept in two days — took over the auctioneer’s prerogative from United Hatzalah founder Eli Beer and threw down a challenge to match pledges. In a fitting analogy to Hatzalah’s remarkable signature 3-minute response time, Rahr’s dynamic rooftop performance saw – in what spectators said felt to be no longer than 180-seconds — the number of motorbikes he had already donated multiply to a total of fifty new ambucycles.

To Israelis, for whom there is nothing novel about a visitor seeking his or her bona fides from the Jewish state, the man called “Rah-Rah” offered an intriguing and enigmatic counterpoint to those seeking just to take from the ancient backdrop. Flamboyant: yes. Witness the yellow eyeglasses, yellow wristwatch and bright yellow articles of clothing. But Rahr told The Media Line that yellow represents the sun, and after all, we all know that, “The sun will come out tomorrow.” An optimistic ode.

Similar was Rahr’s obsession with the number “13.” But far from being anchored in superstition or Las Vegas-style luck, to Rahr it’s the day of the month (March) on which his father, Joseph, was born — “the luckiest day of my life.”  He wore number 13 on his Little League jersey and in high school sports: “I’m very proud of it,” Rahr said. “It’s my lucky number.”

To many others, their luckiest day comes when Rahr enters their life. For the Holocaust survivors, it meant paying the way for those who traveled with about half of Israel’s legislators to spend a memorable and moving 16-hours on the ground in Krakow, where the Knesset (Parliament) convened in a historic session far from the Jewish state. To Rahr, it was an opportunity to give back that required little thought. He told The Media Line that when told about plans for the trip by businessman Yummy Schachter of Charity Bids, “I thought it was a wonderful opportunity for me. I hoped that those who suffered terribly, the survivors, will have some sort of closure to their horrible ordeal. And that it will be an awakening for those who are Jewish or not-Jewish about the survival issue. They should never forget what happened to us in our history. I got excited about doing something that would enhance the next generation and the generation afterwards.”

In conversation with The Media Line, Rahr spoke of his drive to “give back,” a trait echoed by those who know the Brooklyn-born do-gooder. He credits a taxi driver in Las Vegas for honing his perspective. “The driver would comment about the owner of each casino/hotel as we drove past,” said Rahr. “When we passed one particular landmark property, he said, ‘Someone should tell that guy that there are no luggage racks on top of a hearse.’ That was a tremendous example of what I live by today: You can’t take it with you. I’m blessed to have these billions of dollars. I just feel that I’m compelled; that I have a responsibility to give back to those less fortunate.”

The billions he’s now worth all began with the $30,000 in pharmacy inventory Rahr had to work with when he brought his father’s failed pharmacy into the world of distribution – according to Rahr himself, selling only to the little guy, “the underdog” – a distinction that remains key to his present-day philosophy of philanthropy. When his company, Kinray, Inc., which began with two employees, was sold to Cardinal Health in 2010 for $1.3 billion, it serviced 4,000 pharmacies.

Prior to his life-changing introduction to the world of distribution, Rahr had earned a degree from New York University and had completed a year of law school. He retains a close relationship with his former wife, with whom Rahr had two children.

Crediting his “closest friend,” Michael Milken, with taking him into sponsorship of medical issues – including $20 million to Milken’s own foundation for prostate cancer research — Rahr spent a considerable amount of his brief trip to Israel visiting one of the nation’s inspirational treasures: Shalva, an institution for children with disabilities. Before touring its existing facility, Rahr was joined by Jerusalem Mayor Nir Barkat at the construction site of what will be the beacon of hope for Israeli Jewish and Arab families in need of their services and a blueprint for other nations seeking to emulate the best in care giving for children with disabilities. When completed, Shalva will be contained in a $50 million campus comprised of a 200,000 square foot 11-story building surrounded by six acres of parks – all of which will serve thousands of children. Rahr and Mayor Barkat saw a glimpse of the future as they walked down successive flights at the present Shalva facility, soaking in the smiles of the various groups of children they encountered on each level.

“Shalva is the first place a mother comes straight from the hospital if a child has special needs,” explained Shalva founder and chairman Rabbi Kalman Samuels. “All of Shalva’s programs are about supporting the family; enabling the family to raise their special needs child at home and at the same time giving the child what he or she needs to fulfill his potential and inclusion in society.”  While at Shalva, Rahr connected with Samuels’ 37-year old son Yossi, who is blind and deaf after having been vaccinated at age 11-months with a defective batch of DPT vaccine. Director Avi Samuels told The Media Line that at age 8 his brother had a “Helen Keller experience” which enabled him to speak through signing. That was the defining moment when his mother, Malki, said, “We have to give back,” and Shalva was created. The conversation between Rahr and Yossi covered a gamut of issues, from smart phones to automobiles, despite Yossi’s challenges.

Rahr friend Michael Levine told The Media Line from New York that he would expect no less than Rahr’s keen interest in a facility like Shalva. Levine, a commercial painting contractor, tells the story of how he met Stewart by chance three years ago while having a lunch he won as the highest bidder in an auction to dine with Donald Trump and his children. Levine was sharing the story of son Matthew’s battle with a rare kidney disease called FSGS when from several tables over a voice shouted out, “I want to help you save your son’s life. I want to help save these children’s lives.” About ten minutes later according to Levine, Rahr again shouted out, exhorting, ‘Hey Michael, You’re talking so loud. If you talk a little lower, I’ll overnight $100,000 to the Nephcure Foundation.” He did so the next morning.

Levine says, “That we met that day three years ago changed my life. Stewart has become our largest donor in the world, close to half a million dollars.” Levine sees Rahr as the “ultimate angel, the ultimate gift from God, the ultimate friend. I call him the ‘Yellow- Caped Crusader.’ He delivers dreams and miracles every day.”

Donald Trump believes the media doesn’t understand Rahr, his friend for several years. Trump told The Media Line that Rahr has greater business acumen than media gives him credit for; and is a serious business person. “You don’t accomplish what Stewart has by luck.” Trump told how Rahr attended a charity dinner where the real estate tycoon was being honored and “just stood up and gave a million dollars. That’s the way he is,” said Trump.

Also on the Rahr docket was a visit to Leket, the largest farm dedicated to feeding Israel’s poor, and a visit where Rahr would meet and hit it off with Israel’s celebrity-in-chief, President Shimon Peres. Following his meeting with the octogenarian politician, Rahr admitted that, “Normally, I’m always talking; but in his presence, I listened so I could learn. He talked about technology and how that changed the world…It gives me such hope that he’s like a rock star. I know many rock stars, but he’s in his own class.”

Rahr seemingly has no more a shortage of friends than he does of dollars. But he turns serious when asked whether if others would mimic his penchant for giving it would result in a better world. “I can’t speak for others,” he told The Media Line, but then recites a list of Hollywood headliners he considers to be pals, pointing out that the list includes only those known for their own charitable work: “Alicia Keyes, Leonardo DiCaprio, Mark Wahlberg, LL Cool J, Tobey MacGuire…I’m only attracted to those that I meet in the social environment. Those who don’t give, I don’t meet. I go out of my way NOT to meet them; they’re not my cup of tea,” he says emphatically. “In the small remaining journey of life that I have left, I want to choose who I want to be with and to hang around.” Several Hollywood producers are considering having Rahr host a reality television program based on charitable giving.

“We met three or four years ago when Stewart was thinking of selling his company, which he eventually did, and wanted to concentrate on his philanthropy,” Michael Milken told The Media Line from Los Angeles. “Stewart and I speak five or six times a week and have many conversations on the leveraging of philanthropy: how you teach people to fish rather than give them fish. You get people to stand on their own two feet.”  Milken said Rahr, through his challenges to others via matching grants “is not only introducing people to philanthropy but leveraging his philanthropy like he did with the United Hatzalah ambucycles in Israel. He has an unbelievable heart and passion for anything he does.”

Stewart Rahr the extroverted philanthropic humanitarian loves fun and games, but even his personal amusement is predicated upon helping others. One typical Rahr-ism is Rah-Rah Celeb-RAH-ty Trivia, a game he plays each month with his “immediate circle friends,” about 720-strong.

Rahr said, “I meet people I know who are in the celebrity limelight – entertainers, politicians — and take pictures with them and send the photos to the list along with five or six questions. The first one to answer correctly receives a $5,000 donation to his or her favorite charity.” In the past six months, Rahr has donated about $1.5 million to more than 117 charities.  Levine, for example, told The Media Line that, “Personally, I have played the Stuart Rahr celebrity challenge winning $75,000 on behalf my pet charities.” 

The latest edition of the Rahr charity game was won by New York attorney Benjamin Brafman who correctly identified photos of Rahr with President Peres and Mayor Barkat. Brafman’s charity, Torah Live, a non-profit that teaches business ethics, received $5,000.

Rahr reflected on his trip to Israel and is already preparing to return regularly despite the 20-plus years between this trip and his last. “It’s a constant turmoil here in Israel with what is going on, but you get the feeling they have an attitude of survival. As you know, I’m all about victory for the underdog. 

When asked who in Israel will be next to benefit from the Yellow-Caped Crusader, Rahr texted, “Shalva. Of course.”

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Operation “Take One and Convert One”-A Jewish Solution to Intermarriage

Recently the Israeli media proclaimed to the horror of some that Yair Netanyahu, the 23 year old son of the Prime Minister has a beautiful Norwegian girlfriend who is studying in Israel. The religious and right wing press had a field day. His uncle and leading rabbis denounced him telling that “if he marries that “shiksha” that he is dead to them”.

Excuse me, but this falls under the category of “none of our business” who Yair is “shtupping”. Intermarriage between Jews and non-Jews in America is at an all time high of 58% according to the Pew Institute. My family has also experienced a high intermarriage rate with the joke being one day our Passover dinner will one day become an Easter Sunday dinner.

Intermarriage is here to stay. It’s not going to go away by wishing it away. Even Israelis that move to America are experiencing a very high rate of intermarriage.  Love is love.

Moreover, being Israeli and living in the Jewish State, also does not deter intermarriage as Israelis are marrying non- Jews and non-halachic Jews ( Russian immigrants) as never before in the “Jewish ghetto”.

So what can we do? My solution is simple. If we have a strong Jewish identity we can convince the non-Jew to convert to Judaism.  We will call this “Operation Take One and Convert One”.

The Jewish people are less than 14 million Souls. If all the Jewish boys and girls would go out and marry a non-Jew and convert them, our numbers would grow dramatically.  Not only would our numbers grow but think of all the beautiful children we would have by altering our gene pool. Children like Scarlett Johansson, Drake, Rashida Jones, Chris Pine and Lenny Kravitz.

Lenny Kravitz is a case in point. Raised originally Jewish by his Black mother and Jewish father, he was teased mercifully in Hebrew school until he left and he eventually became Christian. Can we blame him?

Acceptance is the key. Natalie Portman’s husband, Benjamin Millepied, has recently decided to convert to Judaism. Rather than “be hating on these people” because hate isn’t gonna stop the marriage, win the couple over with love.  Because love conquers all and we should accept the new couple with open arms.

“Baruch Haba” welcome to these people who in time will learn to be part of the Jewish people. They will learn to whine, complain, kvetch and return their food in a restaurant just like the rest of us. They will learn to look for a bargain and excel at debating and accounting, just like we do.

Consider it like a face lift for the Jewish people, a nip and a tuck if you will. Think of all the beauty we can add to our people. Think of all the money we can save on nose jobs when our teenage girls turn 16.

But seriously, each one of the new non Jews we accept will probably not only be more religious than their Jewish spouses but will be great ambassadors for us, to the rest of the world. And this will be a blessing.

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Netanyahu, Kerry talk after public criticism

Benjamin Netanyahu and John Kerry discussed the developing framework agreement hours after the Israeli prime minister accused the U.S. secretary of state of promoting a boycott in a speech.

Citing unnamed senior U.S. officials, the Israeli newspaper Haaretz said their telephone conversation on Sunday night dealt mostly with the proposal that Kerry is expected to introduce in the coming weeks to the mostly stalled U.S.-brokered Israeli-Palestinian peace talks.

Earlier in the day, Kerry met with Tzipi Livni, Israel’s justice minister and chief peace negotiator, and negotiator Isaac Molho.

Netanyahu and other Israeli government officials rapped Kerry for warning that Israel would face more international boycotts if the peace process fails during an address to the Munich Security Conference.

Netanyahu called boycotts “immoral and unjust.” He also said boycotts push the peace process further away by causing the Palestinians “to adhere to their intransigent positions,” and that “no pressure will cause me to concede the vital interests of the State of Israel, especially the security of Israel’s citizens.”

The U.S. State Department responded to the criticism of Kerry.

“Secretary Kerry has a proud record of over three decades of steadfast support for Israel’s security and well-being, including staunch opposition to boycotts,” State Department spokesperson Jen Psaki said in a statement on Sunday. “Secretary Kerry has always expected opposition and difficult moments in the process, but he also expects all parties to accurately portray his record and statements.”

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Anne Heyman, Rwandan youth village founder, dies in horse-riding accident

Anne Heyman, a Jewish philanthropist who founded a Rwandan youth village for children orphaned in that country’s 1994 genocide, died in a horse-riding accident.

Heyman, 52, died Friday afternoon after falling off a horse while participating in a jumping competition at the Palm Beach International Equestrian Center in Florida.

The Forward on Saturday was the first news outlet to identify Heyman as the victim of the accident.

[Related: Anne Heyman, in memorium]

Heyman’s interest in aiding Rwanda was spurred by a 2005 talk on the genocide that she and her husband, Seth Merrin, attended. Together they raised $12 million to build Rwanda’s Agahozo-Shalom Youth Village.

The village opened in December 2008, and 500 Rwandans aged 14-21 currently live and study there. The village was inspired by the youth villages in Israel that resettled young Jews orphaned by the Holocaust.

Rwandan government officials expressed sorrow over Heyman’s death.

“RIP ‪#AnneHeyman‬ — your legacy will live on forever, our thoughts are with your family and hundreds of youth in ‪#ASYV‬ who just lost a mother,” Jean Nsengimana, Rwanda’s youth minister, tweeted.

Heyman, a South Africa native, has been involved in numerous American Jewish philanthropies. She is a former board president of Dorot, a Jewish nonprofit that organizes volunteers to help the elderly and reduce their social isolation.

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At Agahozo-Shalom Youth Village in Rwanda, Anne Heyman’s legacy lives on

Anne Heyman’s death during a horse-riding competition in Palm Beach, Fla., on Jan. 31 shocked and devastated many in the Jewish world.

But it was Heyman’s work in Rwanda that so many of her admirers will remember most.

A former assistant district attorney in Manhattan who made a career shift to philanthropy around the time she began having children, Heyman learned during a visit to the Tufts University Hillel in 2005 about children who were left without parents by the Rwandan genocide.

Inspired to do something to help, Heyman set about establishing a youth village for the orphans modeled on Yemin Orde, the Israeli youth village set up for children who survived the Holocaust.

The idea behind the Agahozo-Shalom Youth Village, located in a rural area about an hour from the Rwandan capital of Kigali, was to provide the orphans of the genocide with an enclosed, nurturing environment where they could grow up while recovering from their trauma. The word “agahozo” comes from the local expression for drying tears.

Heyman, who had three children of her own, didn’t just raise millions of dollars in funding for the village. She spent as much time as she could at Agahozo-Shalom, visiting several times a year.

“Every day she thought of those kids, every time I talked to her,” Laurie Franz, a friend and youth village board member, told JTA on Monday before Heyman’s funeral at Congregation B’nai Jeshurun in New York. “She believed in helping people. She had the biggest heart of anybody I know, and she did it continually, honestly and with so much passion. She was intelligent and beautiful and wise and kind.”

When news of her sudden death at age 52 reached the village, Rwandan Youth Minister Jean P. Nsengimana wrote on Twitter that the village “just lost a mother.”

Many of the kids at Agahozo-Shalom can hardly remember their biological mothers.

Twenty years ago, their mothers and fathers were demonized in a racist campaign, their siblings rounded up, their families and friends killed by machetes, clubs and guns as their country was torn apart in genocidal brutality.

In many cases they grew up with one parent or no parents, in the care of an older brother, sister, cousin or guardian. Some have been abused, some abandoned, many too poor to afford basic necessities.

Now the 500 students at Agahozo-Shalom, 15- to 21-year-olds who in some way were hurt by Rwanda’s 1994 genocide, live in a carefully planned refuge amid a stunning landscape in the country’s center. They study biology, math, history, economics, language and literature in a full-service high school. In the afternoons they paint or play soccer, record gospel music or do electrical work.

At night they sit with more than a dozen peers they call “brother” and “sister” and talk about their lives. The surrogate families, comprised of groups of 16 boys or girls in the same grade, each in care of a house “mama” and staff member who act as a big sibling or cousin, are named after inspirational figures such as Mother Teresa, Benazir Bhutto and George Washington.

The goal of Agahozo-Shalom — where the children live in modern homes with running water, electricity and plumbing, have access to a large staff of teachers to social workers, and can spend their leisure time in green fields, a farm or a grove of banana trees — is to take high schoolers far from their trauma so that they may begin to confront it and help their country heal.

“They find themselves, they learn to know about themselves, they learn that they have passions,” Jean-Claude Nkulikiyimfura, the village director, told JTA during an interview in the village two weeks ago. “They realize, ‘I’m not the only one with problems. Someone else has a problem and I could be a solution to that problem.’ ”

Even though most of its residents are Christian, the village has something of a Jewish character. Students speak of “tikkun olam” projects in the surrounding community, the American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee sends fellows to work there for a year and Yemin Orde, in Israel, often is talked about as a model.

“The students who know about the Holocaust really relate to Jews here,” said Arielle Sokolof, a JDC fellow from New York who began working at the village in December. “I think it’s an important Jewish value to teach others and learn from others.”

At Agahozo-Shalom, the kids’ days are programmed from start to finish. They rise as early as 5:30 to clean their houses or attend sports practice. After breakfast they attend school from 7 a.m. to 2 p.m., then comes lunch followed by science, art, sports or, for older children, technical training. At the end of the day they have their homework and a range of extracurricular activities, from planning solutions to village problems to film discussions and environmental projects.

“If a kid is in sports, you can see not only how a kid is throwing a ball but how he can become happy with other kids,” said Isa Sikubwabo, the village’s director of education, training and philosophy. “The kid can have a time when he can discuss, he can smile.”

One late afternoon last month, Yael Zaken, an American-born Israeli, stood teaching a group of students about the artistic movement of abstract expressionism, the way an image can convey an emotion rather than a realistic scene. Surrounded by paintings by past and present students, she told JTA that art can help students work through their pain, even though some use the opportunity to draw machetes or guns.

“I talked to them about using freedom of expression as a cathartic tool,” Zaken said. “Slowly they started to draw things in their mind. It saddens me, but it’s a wonderful moment to start talking about what they experienced.”

The village encourages its students to attend university after graduation, and a handful now are at colleges in North America. Kagame Jeaa, who lost seven siblings in the genocide and graduated from Agahozo-Shalom in 2012, is working at the village this year and will attend McGill University in Montreal in the fall.

“There’s nothing that makes me happy more than seeing a kid rising to the peak of his potential,” Jeaa said. “When you’re in the process, it’s really hard to recognize what’s going on. I really enjoy giving them advice as someone who passed through the journey they’re starting.”

First-year student Oscar Murwanashyaka, 19, says he connected quickly with the village’s supportive atmosphere. Lanky and enthusiastic, Murwanashyaka says he wants to produce gospel music or start a business after he graduates.

“I have my mom and my cousin and my big brother,” he said, referring to the staff members who guide his family of 16 boys. “Everyone shares the program in unity. If I know something, I share it with others.”

Twenty years since the genocide, very few of today’s students experienced its horrors firsthand. But Nkulikiyimfura, the village director, says that effects of violence in subsequent years and the genocide’s legacy have rendered the village helpful even to younger children. Agahozo-Shalom is working with Rwanda’s Education Ministry to explore replicating the village’s model elsewhere in the country.

“It’s amazing, once you give them attention, the greatness that can come out of a kid,” Nkulikiyimfura said. “We’re not trying to create the next president of Rwanda. We’re trying to create the next good citizen who cares for his family, has a family and cares for his community.”

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Cynicism and Middle East Peace

I have discovered a small little book written by William George Jordan in 1898 that I recommend. It is called “The Majesty of Calmness” (published anew by Empowered Wealth, 2004). It is an elegantly written 62-page essay in which Jordan (a late 19th century and early 20th century essayist and editor) opines on the meaning of failure and success, happiness and doing one’s best at all times regardless of age and circumstance.

I came across this little volume because it was favored by Coach John Wooden early on in his career and was a significant influence on him as he developed his educational philosophy and “Pyramid of Success.” Coach Wooden of the famed UCLA Bruins basketball team, has been called the greatest coach in any sport (college and professional) of the 20th century, but mostly he considered himself a teacher and a man of deep faith.

The following passage from “The Majesty of Calmness” is not only true for the individual, but is true in the world of international relations and diplomacy.

William George Jordan’s comments about the “cynic” and “cynicism” are particularly cogent and applicable to those within Israel and the Palestinian community who have been so hardened by fear, suffering and ideology that they cannot fathom an Israeli-Palestinian peace agreement and the normalization of relations between our two nations and peoples, despite the fact that contemporary history is filled with examples of reconciliation between former enemies (Germany, Japan and the West following WWII, etc.).

William George Jordan writes:

“A cynic is a man who is morally near-sighted, and brags about it. He sees evil in his own heart, and thinks he sees the world. He lets a mote in his eye eclipse the sun. An incurable cynic is an individual who should long for death, for life cannot bring him happiness, and death might. The keynote of Bismarck’s lack of happiness was his profound distrust of human nature.” [Note: Bismarck famously said – “During my whole life I have not had twenty-four hours of happiness.”]

-William George Jordan, The Majesty of Calmness, (1898) published by Empowered Wealth, p. 57

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