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November 13, 2013

Jewish learning goes global

A global conference of Jewish learning, including music and art performances, will take place online over a 24-hour period on Nov. 17. The Global Day of Jewish Learning will broadcast “24×24” — 24 classes from 24 speakers around the globe — free of charge and live using Google Hangouts On Air and YouTube. Scholar Rabbi Adin Even-Israel Steinsaltz will speak at 10 a.m.  

The Global Day will unite 400 communities in 40 countries through the study of Jewish texts. Sponsored by the Aleph Society, the Global Day will be supervised by Rabbi Steinsaltz, who recently completed a 45-volume Hebrew translation and elucidation of the Talmud, the first such commentary since the 11th century. He is also the author of 60 books on philosophy, language, mysticism and history.

Rabbis, scholars, artists and professors will engage with this year’s Global Day theme, “Creating Together: Jewish Approaches to Creativity and Collaboration.”

Sinai Temple’s Rabbi David Wolpe will teach “How Moses Learned to Speak,” and Rabbi Elie Kaunfer, executive director of Mechon Hadar in New York, will challenge viewers with his talk, “How Can I Pray What I Don’t Believe? Creativity and Prayer Interpretation.” The band Stereo Sinai will perform songs and discuss their Jewish-text-based lyrics in their session “We Steal Lyrics From God.” Multimedia artist Hanan Harchol of Jewish Food for Thought, in his hour on “Making Jewish Wisdom Accessible Through Art,” will screen two episodes from his animated series and give a tour of his current exhibition. Novelist Dara Horn will describe the “The Theological Art of Storytelling.” 

Viewers around the world will be able to sit in on classes broadcast from in-person community events worldwide. Virtual communities and individuals at home will be able to ask questions live on Twitter, Facebook and Google+. These videos will also be available on YouTube.

Karen Sponder, Project Director, explained that “our use of Google Hangouts On Air marks the first time this platform will be used for Jewish learning on a global scale.  We hope that ‘24×24’ will inspire others to use the Internet to unite the worldwide Jewish community and make it easier to access Jewish learning.” 

I will be participating from Gettysburg, Penn., where I will be attending the festivities connected to the 150th anniversary of Abraham Lincoln’s “Gettysburg Address.”


Salvador Litvak wrote and directed the Passover comedy and cult hit “When Do We Eat?” His newest film, “Saving Lincoln,” explores Abraham Lincoln’s fiery trial as commander-in-chief through the eyes of his closest friend, Ward Hill Lamon. Continue the conversation at Jewish learning goes global Read More »

‘Aftermath’ exposes dark secrets in Poland

The Nazi occupation of most of Europe during World War II and the Holocaust tested the moral fiber not only of the individual citizen but also of entire nations.

Today, 68 years after the guns fell silent in Europe and the Far East, historians and filmmakers not-yet-born in 1945 are still wrestling with the questions of moral courage, indifference and depravity that comprised the human mosaic in that era.

Most films dealing with the years of the Holocaust focus on the bravery of the resistance and some on the villainy of collaborators, but only a handful of German and French movies have examined the much touchier issue of national guilt.

This is certainly true of American producers and directors, who can smugly pat their nation on its collective back, because it never had to face the harsh test of living under enemy occupation.

Given this preamble, the Polish movie “Aftermath” is a particularly valuable contribution to the examination of national guilt or fortitude.

In the collective Jewish memory, the old Poland was a hotbed of anti-Semitism, and there are enough personal and historical accounts to validate the attitude. Yet in the Yad Vashem listing of the Righteous Among the Nations, which honors non-Jews who risked their own and their families’ lives to shelter or otherwise aid Jews, Polish Catholics outnumber the rescuers of every other country.

But if the Polish nation, one of the chief victims of Nazi barbarity, had its heroes, it was also home to numerous perpetrators who happily denounced their Jewish neighbors and took over their houses, businesses and fields.

That duality is at the heart of “Aftermath,” a movie so powerful and provocative that its lead actor has received numerous death threats in Poland, while the movie won the Yad Vashem Award at this year’s Jerusalem Film Festival.

“Aftermath” is set in the recent past and opens with the arrival of Franek, who has lived for the past 20 years in Chicago and is returning to his native village in Poland to visit his younger brother, Jozek.

Jozek works the family farm, but, to his brother’s puzzlement, is the hostile target of the villagers, who throw rocks through his windows, paint Zyd (Yid) on his barn door, and finally burn his fields.

Gradually, Franek learns that Jozek’s initial offense was to damage public property by excavating the gravestones that had been taken from the Jewish cemetery during the war and used as road pavement. He carefully hauled the old headstones back to his farm, where he established his own impromptu Jewish cemetery.

Jozek has a hard time explaining this strange behavior, even to himself, except that “there was no one else to take care of them.” He has even taught himself the Hebrew alphabet to decipher the names on the grave markers.

But worse is to come. The young farmer starts exploring the village’s dark secret, and eventually Franek, though dismissive of Chicago’s money-grubbing “Yids,” joins in his brother’s quest.

After the German army occupied the village, two SS officers approved a plan by some of the leading citizens to avoid the bother of deporting some 340 Jewish men, women and children.

The proposal called for rounding up all the Jews, locking them inside a barn and then burning the place down. After the Germans gave the green light, the villagers put the plan into action with great enthusiasm, drinking vodka and cursing the incinerated “Christ killers.”

Afterward, the villagers took over the homes and fields of the dead Jews.

The main characters in the film are fictitious, but the central horror, the burning of the village’s entire Jewish population, is based on a wartime atrocity.

For decades, during Poland’s postwar communist regime, the official government version had it that the actual mass killing and burning were the work of the German army.

But in 2001, Jan T. Gross, a Polish-American professor, wrote the book “Neighbors,” which documented in devastating detail that the Polish citizens of the small town of Jedwabne had incinerated hundreds of their Jewish neighbors in a large barn on July 10, 1941.

The book’s revelations were contested and bitterly denounced by nationalist politicians and media as “part of a Jewish conspiracy to tarnish Poland’s reputation,” but among many younger Poles, the exposé triggered a curiosity about the Polish Jews they had never known.

One was the Polish filmmaker Wladyslaw Pasikowski, who started to write the screenplay for “Aftermath” 10 years ago.

In one interview, Pasikowski explained that the film is about one “one of the most painful chapters of Polish history. We already have a huge number of movies on the horrors committed by the Germans and the Soviets, and I think it is time to show the horrible things we did ourselves.”

(Originally, the film was to have been titled “Kaddish,” and the present Polish title, “Poklosie,” translates as “Consequences.” Either choice would arguably have made for a more apt title than “Aftermath.”)

The movie has its Polish heroes, foremost the brothers Jozek, played by Maciej Stuhr, one of his country’s best-known actors, and Franek (Ireneusz Czop), as well as an elderly priest, but it is unsparing in depicting the anti-Semitic mob mentality of the mass of villagers.

Predictably, “Aftermath” aroused a storm of controversy in its native land, split mainly along political right/left lines. The primary target has been the actor Stuhr, shown on magazine and newspaper covers as a traitorous “Zyd.”

In an e-mail exchange, Dariusz Jablonski, one of the film’s producers, noted that Stuhr was the public face and defender of the film, championing the “new” Poland against the prejudices of the “old” Poland.

Asked, “What made you decide to produce this film, knowing that many of your countrymen would bitterly resent it,” Jablonski responded, “It is not easy to tell uncomfortable truths to your nation, but that is an artist’s/filmmaker’s job. The truth is unconditional, and when I read Pasikowski’s script, I felt obliged to do it.

“We Poles have to acknowledge that being one of the main victims of World War II, and having at that time so many brave people saving Jewish lives, so often paying with their own lives, we also had a few perpetrators among us. Why do we have to do that? We owe it to millions of Jews who found their good life for centuries on Polish soil.”

Is the movie based on Gross’ book on the actual mass burning of Jews in Jedwabne?  “The film is not based on any single book or document, but every element in the film is credible and can be identified as coming from documented stories,” Jablonski responded to the Journal’s question.

Despite the controversy, “Aftermath” won the Critics Prize at Poland’s most important film festival at Gdynia, but it was not chosen as the country’s entry for the Oscars’ foreign-language film competition.

“Aftermath” opens Nov. 15 at Laemmle’s Royal Theatre in West Los Angeles, Playhouse 7 in Pasadena and Town Center in Encino.

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Obituaries

Robert Austin died Oct. 17 at 84. Survived by daughters Deborah (Larry) Greene, Susan Petty; son David; 5 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Anne Backer died Oct. 19 at 98. Survived by daughter Ilene Cohen; son Ronald (Johanna); 1 grandchild; 1 great-grandchild; sisters Blanche Alpert, Judith Kaufman. Mount Sinai

Nicole Berger died Oct. 10 at 31. Survived by mother Amy Neuman; father Arthur Neuman; sister Sara Neuman; brothers Ryan (Suzanne) Neuman, Robert (Tamar); nieces and nephews. Chevra Kadisha

Robert Blitz died Oct. 17 at 83. Survived by wife Shirley; nephew Jeff Dubin. Hillside

Roberta Buschelle died Oct. 23 at 78. Survived by daughter Lori Rogers; son Mark Sugarman. Groman Eden

Geri Cobin died Oct. 16 at 45. Survived by mother Susan; father Steven; sister Stephanie; brother Todd (Barbara); 3 nieces; 1 nephew. Mount Sinai

Hilda Deitsch died Oct. 17 at 86. Survived by sons Robert, Steven. Mount Sinai

Paul Fischer died Oct. 12 at 76. Survived by wife Esther; sons Bryan (Torey Massey), Jason; sister Gloria (Lou) Milkowski. Malinow & Silverman

Freddie Gilman died Oct. 23 at 60. Survived by wife Cora; daughters Samantha (Steven), Stacey; son Adam (Rachel); 2 grandchildren; mother Beverly; sisters Andrea, Cindy. Groman Eden

Esther Gordon died Oct. 18 at 95. Survived by daughter Marilyn (Barry) Rothman; son Barry (Renee); 4 grandchildren; 5 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Janice Greenberg died Oct. 23 at 86. Survived by husband Benjamin; daughter Amy Powell; son James (Judith Bell); 4 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Shirley Hoffman died Oct. 18 at 94. Survived by son Irwin (Terry); daughter-in-law Helene; 4 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

Rose Jassim died Oct. 21 at 98. Survived by daughters Bonnie (Lawrence Curtis) Rosechild, Linda (Gwynne Pugh); 3 grandchildren. Hillside

Joseph Kane died Oct. 16 at 89. Survived by wife Rosalyn; daughter Nancy (David) Weinstein; son Bradford; 2 grandchildren. Hillside

Tillie Karr died Oct. 19 at 102. Survived by daughter Ruthann (Jeffrey) Friedman Carlisle; son Richard Friedman; 6 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren; sister Rose. Mount Sinai

David Lawrence died Oct. 16 at 72. Survived by wife Marilyn Kabakov; mother Lillian; sisters-in-law Nancy Brudney, Nadine Kracraft. Hillside

Muriel Lehrman died Oct. 18 at 96. Survived by daughters Sara (Robert) Cannon, Jobina (Bill) Lehrman-Fisherman; 6 grandchildren; 7 great-grandchildren; sister Marcia Schneider; brother Joseph Kalton. Mount Sinai

Barbara Leimberg died Oct. 16 at 70. Survived by husband George; daughters Heather (Josh) Boyo, Alicia (Joe) Nuccio, Michelle (Robyn) Singer; 2 grandchildren; sisters Cynthia Burkenheim, Elaine Pector, Sheree Schaeffer. Mount Sinai

Leon Levin died Oct. 18 at 86. Survived by daughters Johnni Hansen, Gina Livengood; 3 grandchildren; 2 great-grandchildren; sister Arlyne Corfine; brothers Irv, Larry. Hillside

Harvey Levine died Oct. 21 at 77. Survived by wife Shelly; sons Ray (Faith), Robert (Michelle), Steven (Audrey); 6 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Alicia Lewis died Oct. 19 at 77. Survived by brothers Benjamin (Michele), Howard (Caroline); 1 niece; 3 nephews. Mount Sinai

Betty Lurie died Oct. 18 at 89. Survived by daughter Ronda Platt; son Robert. Hillside

Seymour Maxwell died Oct. 22 at 84. Survived by wife Charlotte; daughters Leslie (Elliott) Bowdach, Treci (Robert) Horowitz, Robin (Keven) Woodruff; son Bruce; 8 grandchildren; sister Louise Wilk; 1 grandniece. Mount Sinai

Dina Neyman died Oct. 14 at 89. Survived by daughters Tatyana Sukharev, Bela Tsofnas; sister Anna Platner. Malinow & Silverman

Ethel Oller died Oct. 22 at 90. Survived by sons Alan (Ann), George (Gini), Harry (Susan); 8 grandchildren. Malinow & Silverman

Rita Ott died Oct. 21 at 84. Survived by daughter Sabina (John Paulett); niece Debora; nephew Brian; 6 cousins. Mount Sinai

Leonard Pincus died Oct. 19 at 92. Survived by daughters Dianne (Framarz) Larizadeh; Amy (George Schwenk), Leslie; sons Kenneth (Hiko Ozawa), Philip (Gail); 6 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren; sister Elaine (Harold) Shames; daughter-in-law Elaine. Mount Sinai

Bella Rubinstein died Oct. 16 at 86. Survived by daughter Helen (Alan); sons Jack (Barbara), Marty; 5 grandchildren. Hillside

Louise Sayah died Oct. 19 at 93. Survived by daughter Irene; son Samuel (Magdalena); 2 grandchildren; sister Anna Baruh. Hillside

David Schnall died Oct. 7 at 96. Survived by sons Neal (Yael), Stephen (Patty); 3 grandchildren; 1 great-grandchild; sister Shirley; brother Nathan. Hillside

June Shrifter died Oct. 22 at 89. Survived by sons Jeffrey (Raylene), Steven, Tom (Leah); 2 grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Moshe Shulman died Oct. 21 at 96. Survived by daughter Lorraine; 2 grandchildren; 3 great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Judy Silverman died Oct. 16 at 63. Survived by father Philip; brothers Daniel (Alyse), Rabbi David (Julie); sister Deborah (Rabbi Joseph) Oratz.

Alvin Sorkin died Oct. 19 at 76. Survived by wife Adelina; son Stephen (Holly); 2 grandchildren; sister Mimi (Mel) Salz. Mount Sinai

Shirley Staple died Oct. 19 at 87. Survived by husband Tom; daughter Joanna (Ronald Ramirez); 4 grandchildren. Hillside

Judith Stevens died Oct. 20 at 83. Survived by daughter Ava (John) Malinovsky; son Dan (Martha); 2 grandchildren; brother Ernest Greenblatt. Mount Sinai

George Wallace died Oct. 17 at 90. Survived by wife Marilyn; sons Gary, Norman (Marcell); 4 grandchildren; sister-in-law Sami Freedman. Mount Sinai

Raymond Ziff died Oct. 19 at 100. Survived by wife Irma; daughter Nicole (Richard) Glazer; son Ronald (Ethel); 4 grandchildren; 9 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai  

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Miss World encourages rape survivors to speak out

In 1998, when Linor Abargil, the reigning Miss Israel, was crowned Miss World in the oldest of all international beauty pageants, she shed tears — perhaps of joy, maybe of anger, possibly a mixture of both.

Seven weeks before her coronation, the 18-year-old beauty had been brutally raped at knifepoint by Shlomo Nur, a trusted travel agent, while a passenger in his car.

Most rapes end in shamed silence or the indifference of authorities, but Abargil, born in Netanya into a Moroccan Jewish family, was made in a different mold.

With strong backing from her parents as well as a growing number of supporters, she set herself two goals: to see that her attacker would be brought to justice and that she would become a global advocate in the fight against sexual violence.

Five years ago, Abargil met filmmaker Cecilia Peck, daughter of actor Gregory Peck. Over the following years, the two women traveled together in Africa, Europe, Israel and the United States, filming meetings with rape victims — or, rather, “survivors,” as Peck calls them.

After another year for editing, the result of their work is the award-winning documentary “Brave Miss World,” which opens in Los Angeles on Nov. 15.

According to Peck’s research, cited in the film, the sheer number of victims of sexual violence worldwide is staggering, although survey results vary widely.

“In the United States, one in five college women are raped, but only 12 percent of them ever report the assault,” Peck said.

One common reason for maintaining silence is given in the film by a Chinese-American girl, who says that if the rape became public, “Mom would be so disappointed.”

The victims are not only women — Peck cites statistics that one of every six men has been sexually abused during his lifetime.

The film does not show graphic footage of rapes, but its on-camera testimony by survivors is horrifying enough.

One girl describes how between ages 6 and 11, she was repeatedly raped by her father.

There’s also a blind woman, whose criminal complaint was dismissed because she could not describe the features of her assailant.

In South Africa, dubbed “the rape capital of the world,” a woman tells how a rapist first attacked her and then, later, her daughter.

Women students from Princeton and UC Santa Barbara charge that university officials ignored complaints against the attackers.

Actresses Joan Collins and Fran Drescher, both rape victims, testify to the profound traumas of the attacks, despite later success and “normality.”

Among the long-term aftereffects described by the victims are an inability to enjoy normal sexual relationships, persistent tiredness as well as sleeplessness, anorexia or extreme weight gain and alcoholism.

The trauma is often made even more unbearable by the frequent indifference or skepticism of police, courts and clergymen, and, worst, by blame heaped on the victim by parents and relatives, Peck said.

As an example of a positive response, Peck cited the reaction of Abargil’s mother, Aliza. When she received her daughter’s call about the rape, the mother responded immediately with, “It’s not your fault. Don’t take a shower, go to a hospital and file a report with the police. We’ll support you.”

 Abargil has now enlisted thousands of women in her campaign against sexual violence and is expected to reach many more through screenings of “Brave Miss World.”

Her second goal — to bring her attacker to trial — has taken a long time, and it is not yet over. The rape occurred near Milan, Italy, and Italian authorities dismissed her complaint. Eventually, Nur was tricked into returning to Israel, where he was tried, found guilty and sentenced to 16 years in prison.

However, after serving a brief part of his sentence, every six months Nur comes up for a parole hearing, during which the whole case is rehashed once again.

Despite all this, Abargil has created for herself a full, new life. After a short-lived marriage to a Lithuanian basketball player, a member of an Israeli team, Abargil is now married to an old boyfriend, with whom she has twins — one boy and one girl — and in late October of this year she gave birth to a second baby girl. That happy event kept her, among other things, from giving an interview for this article.

Professionally, Abargil went to law school and is now working as a lawyer for the Tel Aviv district attorney’s office.

Personally and spiritually, the onetime model and beauty queen has turned to a strict Orthodox lifestyle, including long, modest dresses and strict kosher observance.

Peck fervently hopes that many men will view the film and that their girlfriends or wives will bring them along.

“Women already know this story, it’s the men who are shocked,” Peck said. “Men must realize that rape changes the victim’s life forever, and fathers must teach their sons to respect women.”

The film’s executive producers are Lati Grobman, Irving Bauman, Christa Campbell, Regina Kulick Scully, Orna Raiz, Howard Rosenman and Geralyn Dreyfous. Academy Award-winning composer Hans Zimmer scored the movie with Ben Harper and Martin Tillman.

“Brave Miss World” opens Nov. 15 at Laemmle’s Town Center in Encino and Nov. 16 at the Monica in Santa Monica. Co-producers Cecilia Peck (director), Inbal Lessner (editor) and Motty Reif will participate in Q-and-A sessions following selected screenings. For details, visit www.bravemissworld.com.

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Hearts remarried

Marriage means so much, to all of us. Including to unmarried people. We all want to live paired up, don’t we? To die not alone? What’s sadder than a grave all by its lonesome? Two side by side, we feel we can protect each other through all eternity. 

Marriage is also the inner pillar of our psyche. We think of it all the time, even more than of sex. Why we have marriage, why we don’t, why and when did it become better, at last? Look around. Marriage is our life’s top ingredient, as guaranteed as the sun on a bright day.

I could go on. You see my wife and I just rededicated our vows. I’m still bubbling.

Rededication, by the way, is an American invention we should applaud. Even if one remarries not 50, just five years in, those would be some important five years! In the case of Iris and I, we clocked 30 and then decided: We’re redoing it, in Europe where I’m from — where she stems from, too, one generation past. 

I do remember the times when she, or I, doubted that we would last. A counselor told us to beware when you stop fighting, when you have “peace.” Peace means the end of being unique to each other. Better unique and bleeding. So we rededicated — bleeding and all. We have littler fights these days, and better friendship in between. 

Thirty years. And we’re hoping for another 20.

Wow. 

In honor of our roots, we flew to Eastern Europe. Iris comes from Holocaust survivors. I’m from the other survivors, the runaways from communism. 

The logistics were complex. We’re an interfaith marriage, although we don’t live interfaith; the blood that lost the most is the blood whose traditions we follow. So we were looking for a Jewish environment to remarry. 

For our first vows all those years ago, we eloped to Utah, of all places, because I’d been invited to Robert Redford’s Sundance writer’s workshop. We were married by Brother Johnson, a colorful Mormon judge, and enjoyed a Hopi dance and a bridal suite, both arranged by Mr. Redford, on our first night. 

This second time, we wanted something more traditional. But who would marry two Americans — one a Jew, one not — in Hungary or the Czech Republic, lands where my wife’s folks survived? 

Answer: Uh, apparently not anyone mainstream.

We were thrust from something we expected to be so intimate and personal into hectic East European, post-communist politics, with a very bitter-before-sweet feel of déjà vu. 

Europe is not America; its Judaism, like its Christianity, is barely beginning to become flexible. Liturgical adjustments, so familiar in California, are unheard of. My wife researched a comprehensive number of congregations, which would not deal with interfaith couples, period. Discouraging. But at last, a congregation that called itself Reform agreed to revow us. Its leader, guide and navigator came to talk to us at the apartment we had rented in a street behind Budapest’s Belle Epoque parliament building.

“Hi, I’m Ferenc,” the rabbi said to us, walking in.

He was a robust 60-year-old with a light Hungarian accent, friendly, hands-on, beaming American nonconformity. Rabbi Ferenc Raj, whose stature in today’s Judaism I’ll not detail — Google him if you want; he’s far from being obscure — was the only congregation leader who agreed to remarry us despite the interfaith kink. 

We’ll make the service quintessential, he told us. When the groom (me) is told to say, “According to the law of Moses and Israel,” we shall say, “According to the law of God.” For God — he smiled at both of us — is God for all, not for the chosen alone. At last, the groom crushes the glass. (I’d always wanted to do that!)

Surely, this felt so momentous because Iris’ family memories drifted so richly above this city by the Danube — where her mother and uncles hid with fake papers in 1944, helped by the occasional well-meaning Catholic. Iris and I visited the Dohany Street Synagogue, one of the largest in the world, where footsteps from the past resounded in our minds. Compared to the tests and trials of 1944, this year of 2013 should be like a breeze of reconciliation. Well …  

On this mild September afternoon, up in the Buda Hills, in a family’s backyard, standing inside a sukkah — the model of all sacred Jewish spaces, even the wedding canopy, Rabbi Raj explained — Iris and I were rejoined. In attendance, including our son and daughter, were some 30 people only. Careful they were, almost like refugees. Because they were Reform, a sect still fighting to be officially recognized in today’s Hungary. 

I felt so many things on that afternoon. 

I felt the presence of my own tragically departed ones, starting with my deceased twin brother, whom communism killed. I felt reconnected with my wife, and with my deepest lone self. The ritual was too primal not to touch hidden-most memories, which unlocked and flowed in abundance. We drank blessed wine, my woman and I, surrounded by unprepossessing Reform worshippers who deserve to be accepted even if there were just a handful of them. 

To my readers: Take note that such exclusions still exist. Help leaders like Rabbi Raj — through inclusiveness of them and others, the past might have been different. Help people like Rabbi Raj, even if you’re not Reform or not even religious. 

I could write more about the passive-aggressive relationship of Europe’s Eastern lands to their Jews. Hungary’s erraticism is up there, and then some. When you pass the plaques on this and that building, you’re reminded that Budapest birthed Edward Teller, father of the hydrogen bomb — on the plaque, his name is duly Hungarized, Teller Ede. Equally honored, Herzl Tivadar. Huh, who? THEODORE HERZL? Hey, you’re ours again, Tivadar! I felt like moaning: Would the real Europe ever stand up and say, “I regret that I oppressed my Jewish sons and daughters who so often carried my name to the heights. I repent, I do. Deeply and sincerely, I weep over my cruelty and vow not to restart it!” 

Oh well. Evil didn’t stop in 1945, and doesn’t target Jews only.  See what’s happening right now to the ancient minority Christians, burned in their churches, routinely killed, in Syria, Egypt, Pakistan, Indonesia, while the world is in busy conference talking about anything else but that. 

Let’s all do the little that we can do. Like, let’s all remarry. 

You know what I mean.


Petru Popescu is a Romanian-born, best-selling novelist. He lives with his family in Beverly Hills.

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A couple’s surrogacy mitzvah

Orit Harpaz loved being pregnant with her son Theo, now 9. The Sherman Oaks-based photographer got pregnant quickly, had no trouble carrying the child, and delivered at home with her husband, Gal, also a photographer, at her side. At the same time, she watched her best friend struggle through an unsuccessful in vitro fertilization and then research adoption. When the friend raised the idea of pursuing surrogacy, Orit, without hesitation, offered to do it herself. 

“Seeing how painful it was for her and how something that came so easy to me and was such a joy to me, that was what triggered the idea,” Orit said in an interview.

The friend declined. But the idea stuck with Orit, fitting with her desire “to do a mitzvah, to do something really selfless and kind for someone else.” And so, last year Orit gave birth to a healthy boy, Aaron, for another family.

Every marriage has its challenges, its high and low points, agreements and disagreements, but not every marriage is tested by the emotional charge of creating a new life on behalf of someone else. And, to be sure, the surrogacy was a decision the couple made together and was clearly not something that Orit and Gal entered into casually. Already married for 14 years, they were also intimately familiar with the process. One couple they were very close with had had five children via surrogates. It was a completely “rosy” picture, Gal said. Still, when Orit first raised the idea in earnest, he was unsure.

“I was worried about going through a pregnancy for someone else, about complications,” he said over coffee in the couple’s breakfast nook, his wife at his side. “I was worried about what kind of toll it would take on our family, and Theo’s involvement. But once I saw it was something ingrained in her, it didn’t take too much for me to come around.”

“The way we work is,” Orit said, “I’ll have an idea, and he’ll say, let’s do the research. How hard I want to work on something gauges to him how strongly I feel about it.”

“Ultimately, it’s one of those life decisions that, once the seed has been planted, I don’t think it goes away,” Gal added. “You either start to grow together with it or start to grow apart.”

It was a two-year process of connecting with an agency, being matched with a family, meeting with lawyers, contracts and more contracts, and, ultimately, the egg transfer. 

Orit recalls the day she and Gal sat down with Theo. “I remember saying, ‘We’re going to help another couple have a baby because they can’t have a baby.’ ” Naturally, Theo wondered if the baby would be his brother or sister. 

“And it was like, ‘No, it’s not going to be related to you,’ ” Orit said. “We had to have the little ‘how babies are made’ talk. He seemed to really understand it.”

Friends and family generally had one of two reactions, Gal said. “There were people who were, like, ‘That’s the most amazing thing I have ever heard,’ or, ‘You guys are completely nuts.’ ” Several relatives wondered why the couple did not simply have more children of their own. The answer: They were happy as a family of three. 

Orit tried to steer clear of the naysayers. “Whenever there was someone who was negative about what we were doing, Gal was always the knight in shining armor who wanted to protect our decision to do this and educate people,” she said. “That also brought us closer together.”

When Orit and Gal started on this journey, they did not know if they would maintain any sort of relationship with the other family after the delivery. Theo did want to meet the baby at the hospital. They knew that much. But beyond that, they would simply wait and see. 

The delivery itself went smoothly, however, immediately afterward, Orit had to be rushed to an operating room. Her life was in peril, and she needed an immediate blood transfusion. Despite this complication, she said she has no regrets. 

“I feel as long as I have this faith in something larger than my own life and my own world, I’ll be taken care of in the way I need to be,” she said. “That the decisions I make will lead me to a better place, even if things don’t go quite as planned, even if there is trauma or disappointment or something bad happens. Those are always lessons.”

Today, the two families have grown quite close. They go on hikes together, with Aaron bopping along in a baby carrier on his dad’s back, or they meet for lunch, and celebrate each other’s milestones.

“We have a wonderful bond,” Orit said. “We have a child that bonds us. So in a sense I call them my surrogate family.” (Theo calls Aaron his “surrogate bro.”)

“I also feel like they would be there for us if we really needed something,” Orit said, “not just because they feel indebted to me, but because we’ve come to have an amazing relationship.”

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Calendar November 16-22

SAT | NOV 16

DIY DAYS @ THE SKIRBALL

Learn, do and share — be a part of sustainable Los Angeles. Come hear about projects that are having local and global impacts from passionate speakers. Presenters include Elizabeth Stewart, founder and CEO of Hub Los Angeles; Nirvan Mullick, co-creator of the Imagination Foundation; Mick Ebeling, founder of Not Impossible Labs and creator of the EyeWriter; and Tara Tiger Brown, founder of Los Angeles Makerspace. If you get sick of learning, you can start doing. With workshops that focus on collaborative design and creation, attendees will start to make a difference  themselves. Sat. 10 a.m. Free (advance registration required). Skirball Cultural Center, 2701 N. Sepulveda Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 440-4500. ” target=”_blank”>icrfla.org


SUN | NOV 17

DUDU FISHER

Maybe he’s been your Jean Valjean; maybe he’s been your cantor. With a concert history that travels throughout the globe and audiences that have included royal families and popes (well, just one), Fisher knows how to headline a performance. His Tel Aviv Academy of Music training and his position as chief cantor of New York Synagogue guarantee an evening of not just music, but earned leadership. Hosted by Cantor Arik Wollheim. Sun. 7 p.m. $36-$125. Beth Jacob Congregation, 9030 W. Olympic Blvd., Beverly Hills. (310) 278-1911. TUE | NOV 19

“THE ROOTS OF MODERN BROADWAY: EXPLORING YIDDISH OPERA”

People always talk about off-Broadway and on-Broadway — but what about before-Broadway? Cantor Marcus Feldman and David Asher Brown teach and perform from operas that serve as the “before” to the Broadway music we know and love now. Performances will include pieces from “Shulamis”  (Avram Goldfadn), “Yidl Mitn Fidl” (Abe Ellstein), “Bar Kochba” (Goldfadn) and “Fishl der Gerotener” (Joseph Rumshinsky). Tue. 7:30 p.m. $18 (general), $10 (Sinai Temple members). Sinai Temple, 10400 Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 481-3243. ” target=”_blank”>wisela.org.


WED | NOV 20

“CHANUKAH PAJAMIKA!”

Sometimes life is good to you and you’re allowed to wear pajamas in public. Join Doda Mollie as she rings in Chanukah with an afternoon of songs, stories, dancing and — that’s right — your jammies. Performing tunes off her best-selling CD “Chanukah Pajamikah!” and with professional credits as educator and cantorial soloist, it will be a concert of prestige and PJs. Wed. 4 p.m. Free. Children’s Book World, 10580 1/2 W. Pico Blvd., Los Angeles. (310) 559-2665. THU | NOV 21

ALBIE SACHS

He is a human rights activist, lawyer and a leading member of the African National Congress. He was appointed by Nelson Mandela and has made landmark rulings, including recognizing gay marriage. Sachs shares his remarkable journey as one of the most important pioneers in equality in South Africa. Renee Montagne, co-host of NPR’s “Morning Edition,” interviews. Thur. 7:15 p.m. Free. Los Angeles Central Library’s Mark Taper Auditorium, 630 W. Fifth St., downtown. (213) 228-7025. ” target=”_blank”>barnesandnoble.com.

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Federation project helps educators teach about Israel

For the past 10 years, the Holy Land Democracy Project, sponsored by The Jewish Federation of Los Angeles, has been taking educators from Catholic, charter and Protestant high schools throughout the Los Angeles region to Israel. While there, teachers and members of the group see, firsthand, what the country is  really like, so they can share the message with their students. “We bring an understanding of Israel to now over 30,000 students across Los Angeles,” said Hal Greenwald, this year’s group’s rabbi. “We’re achieving an understanding [of Israel] and advocacy in pockets of the city that are hard to get to otherwise, which is really valuable.”

When teachers return to Los Angeles, they share with their students what they experienced, via a five-lesson course called “The Many Faces of Israel.” At the end, students participate in a contest that includes poetry, art and essay categories, so the students can express what they’ve learned. 

On Nov. 10, the program’s annual awards ceremony was held at Pico Union Project, an interfaith center that opened this year just west of downtown’s Staples Center. The event honored the winning students as well as their parents and the educators, and all those involved. 

The first-, second- and third-place winners in each category received Israel Bonds. Travis Talcott, a senior at Bishop Montgomery High School, a Catholic school in Torrance, won a $500 bond for his first-place essay. The program, and the essay he wrote, “made me a lot more aware of the issues and problems in Israel and the general life there. It really awakened me. I talked about how everything I knew up to then was mostly wrong,” Talcott said.

Christina Hanna, a junior at Glendale High School, won first place in the poetry contest for a piece about the Jewish struggle. She said she learned in her government class that “Israel originally belonged to the Jewish people. Through many wars and fights, it was taken away from them, and it was finally returned, but people are still angry about it.” 

Poems, essays, drawings, sculptures and paintings by winners and honorable mentions all were on display at the ceremony. First prize for art went to Veronika Gorchkova of La Sierra High School in Riverside for her depiction of a religious Catholic woman, a Muslim woman and an Orthodox Jew. Also on display were sketches of Israeli soldiers and Magen Davids, along with sculptures of the Western Wall, the Temple Mount and a menorah.

The event also featured speeches by Dr. Daniel Lieber, chair and founder of the Holy Land Democracy Project, a blessing by Craig Taubman, leader of Pico Union Project, a musical performance by Stuart K. Robinson, and a speech by Catherine Schneider, the Federation’s senior vice president of community engagement, which oversees the project.   

“It’s a win for the Jewish community because we have the opportunity to build relationships throughout the city of Los Angeles,” Schneider said. “We share some of the things that we love most, especially that Israel is a modern democratic state. It’s a win for these schools because it gives them the opportunity to learn about world governments and multiculturalism. Some of our charter school teachers love giving students access to something totally beyond what they live and see every day.”

Volunteer Dennis Gura said the trips take teachers to educational institutions, the Dead Sea, Jerusalem, Tel Aviv and a kibbutz, where they talk to members about the establishment of the Jewish state. “The Catholic and Evangelical teachers have a different map of the country than we do,” he said. “Devout Christians have a particular map in their head based on the Gospels, and we have a Zionist and biblical map. We compare and overlap. We see serious differences, which we acknowledge, and real commonalities in historical background. That experience is deeply gratifying and greatly enriching.”

The teachers’ backgrounds vary. Some are religious studies teachers from the Catholic and Protestant schools, while public and charter schools send history, government and social studies teachers. John Fitzsimons, a Bishop Montgomery educator who has been participating since 2004, has been to Israel four times. “There’s a lot of misinformation in the media, and even my most educated kids really don’t know anything about Israel,” he said. “As a Catholic school, it’s a big deal for us to have better relations with the Jewish community.”

“I was blown away,” Greenwald said of the submissions. “The students only take a five-lesson course, and they observe so much.”

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A call for Iran sanctions at Port

Amid the international negotiations over Iran’s nuclear program, some national groups, as well as Los Angeles-based Jewish community organizations and other Iran human rights activists, have launched a new campaign calling for Los Angeles city officials to bar from the Port of Los Angeles ships that have docked in Iranian ports. During recent months, the campaign’s primary focus has been on L.A. Mayor Eric Garcetti, who since his election has remained mum on the issue, though it is within his authority to ask the port to enact such sanctions.

“It is greatly disappointing that Mayor Garcetti has not even taken a position, let alone provided support or a leading voice on this critical issue,” said David Peyman, an L.A.-based senior adviser to United Against Nuclear Iran (UANI), the New York-based nonprofit advocating for tougher economic sanctions on the Iranian regime.

During the mayoral election campaign earlier this year, UANI and six local Jewish organizations, including the Los Angeles offices of the American Jewish Committee (AJC) and the Anti-Defamation League (ADL), called on then-candidate Garcetti and his opponent, Wendy Greuel, to support the ban on ships that had previously docked in Iranian ports, following federally mandated Iran sanctions legislation signed into law last year by President Barack Obama.

“Los Angeles is a major U.S. trading hub, and ships that have conducted business with Iran use our ports,” Peyman said. “We are asking the mayor and the port … to force companies to make a decision between doing business with a terrorist-sponsoring regime seeking nuclear weapons or with the Port of Los Angeles.”

Garcetti’s office did not respond to multiple requests from the Journal for comment on the issue.

Many local Jewish groups argue while current sanctions again the Iranian regime are working, more pressure is needed to stop the regime’s pursuit of nuclear weapons.

“Iran’s strained economy is the regime’s Achilles’ heel and provides our most effective leverage against its nuclear program,” said Michael Aurit, a spokesperson for the AJC’s Los Angeles office. “It is critical for Los Angeles to take a firm stance against Iranian ships docking in American ports — we can and should do nothing less.”

While local Iranian Jewish groups declined to comment on their efforts to get the mayor to become involved, many Iranian-Jewish activists say they support such sanctions because of widespread human rights violations by the Iranian regime against religious minorities in Iran.

“We Angelenos have a history of standing up for justice and freedom locally and internationally,” said Sam Yebri, president of 30 Years After, an L.A.-based Iranian-Jewish nonprofit. “Much like the South African boycott movement, using economic measures to pressure the Iranian regime advances human rights and democracy for the Iranian people.”

On Oct. 26, the Iranian regime summarily executed 16 Iranian Baluchi prisoners in custody in the southeastern Iranian city of Zahedan on trumped-up charges of drug smuggling. According to Amnesty International, the executions were in direct retaliation for an armed attack by Baluchi insurgents against Iranian border guards.

Strong local support for Iran sanctions at the Port of Los Angeles has also come from Los Angeles’ non-Jewish Iranian groups. Roozbeh Farahnipour, an Iranian Muslim leader of the L.A.-based Marze Por Gohar Party, which opposes the Iranian regime, said many of the city’s 800,000 Iranian residents have been surprised that Garcetti has not taken a stand on the issue. 

“If we want to avoid war with Iran and truly help the people of Iran gain their freedom, we must use nonviolent economic means, such as divestment and sanctions, and the Port of L.A. is the best first step to take on a local level,” Farahnipour said. “When the mayor of Los Angeles has remained on the sidelines and not stepped up against the regime now, how does he want to stand up to the regime if they want to open a consulate office in Los Angeles in the future?”

Farahnipour said he and California state Sen. Joel Anderson addressed the Port of San Diego in 2008 calling for similar Iran sanctions to be implemented, but no steps were taken at that time. Farahnipour also pointed to the regime’s crackdown on the Iranian labor movement as a possible motivator for Garcetti.

“It is a well-known fact that the Iranian regime has imprisoned, tortured and killed hundreds of union leaders in Iran over the years,” Farahnipour said. “So I am wondering why the mayor of L.A. has not taken a tough stance to send a real message to the regime on this human rights issue?”

The Journal requested comment from the International Longshore and Warehouse Union (ILWU) Local 56, which works in the ports of Los Angeles and Long Beach. Calls were not returned.

Some city officials are not staying silent on this issue, however. Los Angeles City Councilmember Paul Koretz, who represents the city’s 5th District, which is home to the largest segment of Iranians in Los Angeles, has introduced a number of City Council resolutions regarding Iran’s human rights abuses and nuclear ambitions.

“The City of Los Angeles is fortunate enough to have and run the Port of Los Angeles, one of the largest economic hubs in the world,” Koretz said in an interview. “Consequently, we will make sure the port is strongly committed to following the sanctions on Iran, thereby doing our part to make a safer and more peaceful world.”

Likewise, some members of Congress representing local districts have supported more stringent U.S. sanctions on Iran. Most notably, Rep. Janice Hahn, a Democrat representing L.A.’s South Bay, is the founder of the Congressional Ports Caucus and has been a leading voice on the issue of U.S. ports and Iran sanctions.

“During my time in Washington, Congress has passed some of the toughest sanctions that the Iranian regime has ever faced — sanctions that have particularly targeted the Iranian shipping sector,” Hahn said in a statement to the Journal. “I believe that strong sanctions give us the best chance of driving the Iranian regime to make real concessions about their nuclear program at the negotiating table.”

Hahn’s office in Washington, D.C., stated that she and other members of the Congressional Ports Caucus had been briefed last month by UANI’s leadership on issues pertaining to current Iran sanctions and commerce within U.S. ports.

For more information on UANI’s push for Iran sanctions put in place for the Port of Los Angeles, visit Karmel Melamed’s blog: jewishjournal.com/iranianamericanjews.

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Witnesses to tragedy

Emergency care doctors who have experienced some of the greatest tragedies in American history, from 9/11 to the Sandy Hook shooting, gathered in Los Angeles on Oct. 28 for a symposium organized by the American Committee for Shaare Zedek Medical Center in Jerusalem (ACSZ). 

The event also featured an Israeli emergency room doctor discussing what it’s like to work in a country where suicide bombers strike regularly and emergency rooms fill up quickly with victims.

The event, titled “Preparedness for Mass Casualty Events,”  took place at the Luxe Hotel on Sunset Boulevard and commemorated the 10th yahrzeit of Dr. David Applebaum, an American-born physician living in Israel who died in a suicide bomb attack on Sept. 9, 2003, in Jerusalem. Applebaum was the much-beloved former director of the emergency room at Shaare Zedek, and on the night of his death, he was out for a walk with his daughter, who also died in this attack, which took place on the eve of her wedding day. 

Applebaum himself often treated victims of terrorism and was often among first responders on the scene of bombings.

The event also featured Applebaum’s son, Yitzchak Applebaum.

Headquartered in New York, ACSZ supports the 1,000-bed Shaare Zedek Medical Center in central Jerusalem, and the L.A. event aimed to highlight the hospital’s achievements, which include operating Jerusalem’s leading maternity hospital and educating the uninformed about emergency medicine. And it also showed that even doctors, known for their cool-headedness in the face of death, aren’t removed from the human element when tragedy strikes. 

Emotions ran high when Dr. William Begg, EMS director of Danbury Hospital in Connecticut and one of the evening’s presenters, described in detail the horror he felt when responding to the scene of the December 2012 mass shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, an incident that took the lives of 20 young schoolchildren and six adults. 

Also present was Dr. Ofer Merin, deputy director general of Shaare Zedek, who led an Israel Defense Forces field hospital immediately following the earthquake in Haiti and more recently has been helping to oversee a full field hospital on the Israel-Syrian border helping Syrians injured in their country’s war; Dr. Richard Wolfe, who works in the department of emergency medicine at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston, instrumental in caring for the wounded after the Boston Marathon bombing; and Dr. Joel Geiderman, professor of emergency medicine at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles. 

Dr. Peter Rosen, a senior lecturer in medicine at Harvard Medical School who is known as the “father of emergency medicine,” moderated a panel made up of the doctors, and Shlomo Melmed, Cedars-Sinai Medical Center’s dean of medical faculty, served as the master of ceremonies. Israeli consul general in Los Angeles David Siegel also spoke.

The event drew more than 200 attendees, including Applebaum’s widow, Debra, and actor Jon Voight, who opted at the last minute to deliver brief remarks expressing his longtime support for Israel. Voight’s decision met with the approval of Paul Jeser, regional director of ACSZ, who gladly obliged the Hollywood star’s request. 

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