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July 22, 2011

Foreign correspondents blast strip searches at Israeli Prime Minister’s Office

The association representing foreign correspondents in Israel condemned what it describes as “the continued harassment of journalists attending media events at the prime minister’s office,” criticizing strip searches of female reporters.

Israel’s Foreign Press Association threatened in a statement released Thursday to halt coverage of events at the Prime Minister’s Office.



The statement said that this week the office’s security detail had, in three separate incidents, forced three female journalists to undress, remove their bras and have their bras and personal items run through an X-ray machine in front of a group of colleagues.



“This type of treatment is unnecessary, humiliating and counterproductive. After repeated appeals and promises by security officials it appears that the Prime Minister’s Office does not have the desire to stop this happening and so the FPA will begin consulting its members over whether the foreign media should no longer cover events at the prime minister’s office as this is the only occasion where this type of incident occurs,” the statement said.



One of the reporters involved said she had covered events at the White House and Guantamano Bay and had never received such treatment.



In response, officials at Netanyahu’s office said “they were looking into the matter.”



The incidents follow a January incident dubbed “Bra-Gate” by the Israeli media when several foreign correspondents were strip-searched, among them Najwan Simri Diab, an Israeli citizen who was pregnant at the time and who works for Al Jazeera. She was told she had to remove her bra and other clothing before being allowed into Netanyahu’s annual address to the foreign media.

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“in the late afternoon of the day…the dead still speak.” Jeanette Winterson

Reposted from my blog, Diverge (www.idiverge.wordpress.com)

I spent three hours at the archive today, upstairs in the periodicals, looking at and filing copies of Heresies, Aegis and Chrysalis (save an extra copy of things published before 1980).

There’s a grey box that contains what folks at the archive think is the first lesbian newsletter, Vice Versa, written in 1947 by a woman in California on her typewriter “for all her dykey friends.” (F, another volunteer) I was afraid to touch it, it’s so important, but this is the point of an archive, especially a feminist one, for enable people to encounter history.

We looked at piles of newsletters and magazines that had been donated from individuals and universities, deciding if they had anything to do with lesbians, or if they were just general feminist publications. It was such an interesting distinction to make, and to consider, since for me, they’ve always been inseparable. I have such great, complicated thoughts at the archive, there must be something in the walls, or the books, or, most likely, it’s the energy of all of it.

Before I left, F told me that the brownstone next door had recently been purchased by two women, a couple, for around two million dollars. “Some women have money, I guess,” she said.

 

 

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“You Know, Where They Keep All the Lesbians?”

Reposted from my blog, Diverge (www.idiverge.wordpress.com).

On Saturday, I spent a long time at the Lesbian Herstory Archives in Brooklyn. It makes me feel so hopeful there, my thoughts get so much larger, my imagination comes off its leash. It’s full of pulp novels, photos, posters, oral histories, diaries, music, fiction, autobiographies, and basically anything else you would find in an archive. There is a delicious purple couch and a kitchen and a long, curved staircase and shelves and shelves of book with yellow and green pages from the 1970’s that smell old and wise. All the fiction, biographies and autobiographies are shelved by first name, not last, a holdover from 70’s radical feminism, which I love. (Subversive feminist action: Reshelve all your books in this manner.)

I read two essays while in the Archive, both from Voices from Women’s Liberation, possibly published in 1971. (Yes, I opened it and inhaled, which is what one should do with old books.) I made a plan to volunteer there, and thought about some things.

1. What I was wearing that day, which is dangerously similar to what I’m wearing today, and what I wore yesterday, which are these shorts I made out of a pair of corduroy pants, some flip flops, and a purple v neck shirt. I felt really attractive and confident in those clothes, the way I often feel when I’m wearing clothes that are comfortable and modest (not by religious standards, but by my own). It seems to be curious to others that I dress in a manner that may not attract men. What does it mean to feel good in clothes we’re not “allowed” to feel good in? What about feeling good in bodies that we’re not supposed to love?

2. This is a conversation I’ve been having often,  about when it’s okay to claim a queer identity. Apparently, there’s an essay out there by a white Dude, who’s straight, and identifies as queer. If anyone knows what I’m talking about, send it to me. I’m thinking about whether, because my politics are queer (as in radical, out of the mainstream, anti essentialist), it’s okay to identify that way, even if I want my sexual partners to be male bodied. If I claim that identity, am I an imposter? Who does it matter to? If I’m perceived as queer anyway (because of politics, appearance, etc), how much heterosexual privilege do I really have?

Easy questions, obviously. I expect you all to have answers.

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New age or new edge

You’re getting sleeeeepy. Verrry sleeeepy.

Then — bam! — it’s all over, and you’ve delivered a baby.

OK, it’s not nearly as easy as that, but you might be surprised by how hypnosis is being used these days. It’s not just about getting people to stop smoking or lose weight anymore.

Hypnosis is quietly helping athletes increase their performance and surgical patients manage their pain. And yes, it’s even gained the notice of prospective mothers.

“When the mind is relaxed or the woman is not in fear, she’s able to relax her body. When the body is relaxed, when all the muscles are relaxed, normal, natural functions [such as childbirth] don’t need to hurt,” said Hayuta Cohen, an Israeli-born hypnotherapist in Encino who has led several classes in HypnoBirthing.

This is simply one way that treatments once considered alternative are evolving to become more widespread. In addition, many of these therapies are being integrated with traditional medicine. For proof, look no further than the existence of the UCLA Center for East-West Medicine, founded in 1993, which doesn’t offer hypnosis therapy but blends Traditional Chinese Medicine with Western Medicine.

“There’s definitely a move toward integration or bringing the best of multiple traditions,” said Malcolm Taw, assistant clinical professor at the center .

More than one-third of American adults used some sort of complementary medicine in 2007, according to the most recent data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Center for Health Statistics. Taw said the reasons are simple.

“Overall, the patients want this,” he said. “They want to avoid potential medications or other interventions, whether surgery or injections, and they want to try other treatments that have less of a side-effect profile.”

Some have tried Western medicine without success. Others are looking for a less expensive choice or one that is natural and uses the body’s inherent abilities to heal itself. Many of these therapies, often termed complementary and alternative medicine, have roots that go back decades, if not centuries, in other parts of the world. The way practitioners are tinkering with them and using them in conjunction with Western medicine, however, is modern and ever-changing.

Just ask Uri Kenig.

The psychotherapist from Israel set up shop in Encino 23 years ago, and at first glance his office looks like any other. There’s a large window letting in plenty of natural light, a comfortable couch for the patient — of course — and soothing music available at the touch of a button.

But there is something unusual in the corner of the office: a high chair, the kind you might find at a patio bar, and in front of it, a short stool. This is where Part Two of Kenig’s unique form of treatment takes place — the part that comes after you’ve told him your life story. It’s this part that has attracted the attention of approximately 1,000 of his colleagues in Israel.

“Something was always missing for me about the incomplete process of talk therapy,” Kenig said. “I found myself hearing, time and time again, clients saying to me: ‘I understand my problem. What should I do about it?’ ”

The conundrum led the 60-year-old to look at the mind-body connection and how chronic emotional problems may lead to chronic physical conditions. Kenig’s investigation took him beyond traditional talk therapy, and into the world of energy healing and touch therapy. That’s where the chair in the corner comes into play.

As part of a system he developed called IPEC (Integrated Physical Emotional Clearing), Kenig sits on the low stool and asks clients to hold out both arms. He pushes down to check muscle resistance and either touches the hand to different parts of the body or asks questions.

“I’ve devised, in a very accurate and planned way, by questions, to get slowly a feedback from the body, from the unconscious mind,” Kenig said. “On specific words, the muscle will go weak. On specific other words, it will be strong. … There is a psychological story. The client is completely unaware.”

He then cross-checks what he says the body tells him against numerous charts and two large, colorful, home-made matrixes filled with hundreds of words that lead him to an assessment. Kenig, who has a doctorate in clinical psychology from the California Graduate Institute, said he has used IPEC to trace one patient’s migraines to problems at work and another patient’s breathing problems to an issue dating back to the client’s birth.

Kenig then uses LED light therapy or vibrating massage directed toward certain organs or body parts considered to be the source of the problem. He also uses music and meditation. The underlying theory behind the method is that the universe is made of energy and every individual has his or her own energy fields. In order for change to break through that field and restore a normal balance, it needs a little push — in this case, aided through things like light or vibrations.

The most recent statistics show that more than 1.2 million Americans sought some sort of energy healing therapy in 2007. That’s minuscule compared to the nearly 39 million people who used nonvitamin, nonmineral natural products, such as fish oil and ginkgo biloba — the largest category measured — and a much smaller segment than even the 3 million-plus who turned to acupuncture for relief.

Despite the increasing numbers, it’s still a field that has a lot to prove, believes Dr. Larry Bergstrom, director of the Integrative Medicine Program at the Mayo Clinic in Scottsdale, Ariz.

“I haven’t found these types of therapies to be helpful,” he said. “They distract from addressing important aspects of each person’s illness.”

He further explained, “The people who invent and use these techniques fill a niche for a patient for whom conventional medicine has failed. I don’t think the [technique] is the issue; it is listening to the patients, believing them and creating a scenario where the patients can help themselves become better.”

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Holistic by chance

Acupuncture terrifies me. Dozens of needles puncturing your skin looks more like ancient torture than ancient healing.

I’ve done yoga twice — once in a posh Manhattan studio and once in a serene outdoor courtyard in India. I can’t say that either experience moved my soul, quieted my mind or rocked my body.

I do not take daily vitamins or supplements, because I have a strong aversion to swallowing pills — always have — and the only exception I’ve made so far was prenatal vitamins, because the fear of somehow damaging my baby was so much greater than the (irrational) fear of choking.

I even decline the free powdered boosts at Jamba Juice. Every time. I don’t like the chalky taste, and I’m not really convinced they do anything.

So how did I — with all my fears, aversions, objections and skepticism toward alternative therapies — come to co-own a wellness facility that basically offers salty air?

Technically, through marriage. My husband, the eternal entrepreneur, came across what he thought was an incredible business idea, and I wanted to help him fulfill his vision. But over the course of developing the business,  my view of alternative therapy and the holistic approach to health shifted significantly.

I’m no Mayim Bialik — I don’t make my own baby wipe solution and I will never, never, give birth at home — but I have now read tons of articles, spoken to dozens of practitioners as well as medical doctors, pored through clinical research studies, listened to lifelong advocates and recently converted believers, and, perhaps most importantly, seen with my own eyes the positive effects of a simple, natural, noninvasive therapy on people’s health.

Where I used to dismiss anything with a new age-y air as ridiculous and lacking substance, and home remedies as outdated, even dangerous, relics of uneducated village bubbes, I now have a newfound respect for theories of healing that incorporate spirituality, nature, the power of the mind, energy and the body’s ability to heal itself.

Even Western medicine now reinforces this view. In the middle of the night last week, my son woke up with a coughing fit, followed by vomiting, so I called an on-duty nurse to ask for advice. She said two things: 1) There is nothing wrong with coughing, it’s the body’s natural mechanism to expel unwanted substances; and 2) there are a bunch of things you can do at home to help speed his recovery (give him herbal tea with honey, turn his bathroom into a sauna, avoid milk products — all things your grandma has told you for years).

We have become so accustomed to running to the medicine cabinet or the pharmacy or the doctor’s office at the slightest sign of irregularity that we’ve lost sight of some of the basics. I’m all for medical advances, but I think there is also room for age-old-wisdom-turned-new-edge treatment options.

Whatever you want to call it — holistic medicine, alternative therapies, complementary treatments — they all have one thing in common: They are grounded in the basics. Mind, body and soul.

And I believe in that.

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Letting her go

Please send your resume if you are interested in the following position:

Seeking a caretaker of a small person who requires 24-hour attention. Picture the vigilance the Secret Service would employ if the president decided to catch the playoff game between the Tripoli Traitors and the Taliban Terrorists on an Islamabad soccer field surrounded by land mines, and then double it.

Looking for responsible adults open to an 18-year-to-life commitment without the possibility of parole. Must be willing to forgo all luxuries as this position does not pay a dime, but rather requires you to pay tens of thousands of dollars in expenses.

For the sake of full disclosure, we should inform you that just when this mini person finally gets to a place where she can sort of take care of herself and morphs into someone with whom you wouldn’t mind having lunch, she will leave you.

Any takers?

I accepted the position described above in 1994, naïve about the true nature of the job. But now that my daughter is entering her final year of high school, I am standing on the precipice of a nest that won’t be completely empty (my son will be starting eighth grade), but it will certainly be far roomier.

Because my daughter will be packing for a distant college in the not-too-distant future, I watched with great interest a recent HBO special called “The Kids Grow Up” by documentary filmmaker Doug Block. The film captures Block’s emotional journey through daughter Lucy’s last year of high school, culminating with the day Block and his wife leave her at a college dormitory 3,000 miles away.

The filmmaker begins the film by stating the obvious: “While there is a lot of help available with raising a child, there is nothing that prepares you for letting her go.”

The film is interesting because, as you can imagine, there is a ton of footage of a young, chatty Lucy who initially loves being filmed “so she can see herself on TV.” But as her father and his camera continue to intrude on her life as she grows up — “Lucy, what will the guy you are going to marry be like?” “I don’t know, Dad; I’m only 10,” — Block becomes as unwanted as a stalker.

Block rationalizes his paparazzi-like hovering by assuring an obviously dismayed Lucy that the short-term cost will be far outweighed by the long-term reward of “memories that last a lifetime.” Watching the film, you begin to think that when it comes to living life in the spotlight, Britney has it easy.

Although Lucy’s privacy is sacrificed in the process, we voyeurs watching the film can commiserate with Block’s search for a satisfying answer to a seemingly unanswerable question: “Why do we bring them up if it is only to let them go?” The filmmaker goes from parent to parent, earnestly hunting for some cosmic meaning to this reality of parenthood, only to find that other parents are as lost as he is. 

One father says, “What is it like to be facing an empty nest? I just want to rewind and go back to fourth grade.” Another father laments, “I’m trying to be stoic about it, but basically I’m traumatized. What will life be like without kids in the house? What will fill the vacuum?”

But it is Block’s aging father who provides what proves to be the most insightful response.

Block: Dad, what was it like after your three kids left the house?

Dad: What was it like? It was hell.

Block: So what advice do you have for me?

Dad: I have no advice at all.

I tuned into the program because I thought it would help with my own trepidation, which grows with each passing month. The trepidation is 50 percent sheer panic and 50 percent what can only be described as “anticipatory grief.”

The panic makes sense: I doubt there is a parent on the planet who watches his teenager walk out the door and doesn’t wonder if she’s been taught everything she needs to know to navigate the messiness of life. But what about the grief? Shouldn’t there be some relief in knowing that the sleep-till-noon, sloppy procrastinator who is more interested in Facebook friend No. 611 and the sale at Nordstrom than in you will be living elsewhere? There should be … but there isn’t.

So, then, why do we do it? Why do we opt to become parents when we know the last chapter is fraught with pain?

We do it because in a life full of interesting options, there is hardly anything as interesting as watching a baby become a person. We do it because when we calculate the joy against the heartache, it seems like a fair trade. And we do it simply because we are wired that way. Just like a bird instinctively builds a nest, feeds her offspring, teaches them how to fly and then pushes them out of the nest so that they can repeat the cycle, we are programmed to do the same.

Although, there is one major difference between the birds and we humans. When it’s time for us to push them out of the nest, it hurts like hell.

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The Santa Maria Minyan

Located in the northern part of Santa Barbara County, but as distant from chic Santa Barbara as one can imagine, Santa Maria is a blue-collar town dotted with fast-food and barbecue joints. In recent years, its population, at least half of which is Latino, has mushroomed to 100,000, fueled by agribusiness — including vineyards and wineries — and the city’s other growing industries.

On a Friday afternoon, the local radio stations play mostly Christian music or gospel chants in both English and Spanish. The city’s main drags are lined with churches of all denominations.

But one church in particular stands out. Out front there’s a large banner that reads, in all capital letters: Congregacion Beth Shalom. The spelling of Congregacion isn’t a mistake; it’s Spanish. Edgar de la Peña, a 36-year-old Mexican-born graphic artist who grew up in Santa Maria, is the founder and leader of Beth Shalom, a devout community with a dozen families — approximately 60 people — including many children.

Every Shabbat and every Jewish holiday, and on other occasions as well, they gather in the sanctuary and meeting hall they rent from the church, or at people’s homes. Though fairly new to the religion, they worship, study and live their Judaism wholeheartedly, and they do it communally.

Like many Latinos who were raised Christian and later became Jews by Choice, de la Peña has family memories that connect him to Judaism. He said that when he was 7 years old and still living in Michoacan, Mexico, he traveled to Jalisco to see relatives. He and his family arrived on a Friday. Before sundown, his grandmother told him to put on good clothes and turn off the TV. The table for Friday night dinner was set elegantly, and the family didn’t go out in the public square until after sundown on Saturday evening.

When de la Peña was 11, his family moved to the United States, settling in Santa Maria, and he attended a Pentecostal church. While still a teen, he married his high school sweetheart, Irene — of Filipino background — and they had children soon thereafter. In his early 20s, already a father of two young daughters, de la Peña became a lay minister in his church.

“But as I began to search the Bible for its essential meaning,” de la Peña said, “I felt more and more that I wasn’t getting what I needed from the church, what I needed spiritually. I felt I was being told what to think, and not to question things.”

De la Peña heard some in the church speak badly of Judaism. “So, on my own, I started to study Torah,” he said. He visited a synagogue and heard a sound that struck him at his core: the blowing of a shofar. The bleating of the ram’s horn not only moved him deeply, it also brought back other memories of his grandmother — and of certain behaviors he suddenly realized were based on family traditions that indicated possible Jewish roots.

If he did, indeed, have Jewish ancestors, de la Peña was determined to learn what the religion meant, so he became more and more involved with Judaism. “I put Jewish holy objects in my house — a menorah, holiday decorations,” he said. “I stopped eating pork. I started to light candles on Friday night. I was still in the Pentecostal church at the time, so there were those in the church that made my life miserable.”

Finally, de la Peña wrote a letter to the elders, telling them he wanted to leave the church for good. In response, some threw eggs at his home, secretly fed his kids sandwiches with pork, and prohibited their children from playing with his children. De la Peña apologized to his family for what they went through, but he felt he had to stop hiding who he was.

Once he was away from the Pentecostal church, de la Peña got involved with Messianic Judaism, a growing movement whose adherents observe elements of Judaism: They pray in Hebrew, observe Shabbat, maintain kashrut, adore Israel and celebrate Jewish holidays. But, they also venerate Yeshua — Jesus Christ. Messianic Judaism, especially when practiced by Latinos, seems to grow out of a desire to live the life that Yeshua and his disciples lived, which was that of observant Jews.

De la Peña is very much aware that others might suspect his group of being Messianic Jews. He said emphatically that they are not. “We passed through a period with Messianic Judaism and realized it was not what we were looking for,” he said. “Once I began studying Judaism seriously, I realized that it’s very different — and a lot more — than the Judaism presented by the Messianic Jewish groups.”

The next step for de la Peña was to attend what at the time was the one shul in Santa Maria, a Reform congregation.

“These people are also Children of Israel,” the rabbi told the congregants. Nevertheless, de la Peña and those with him felt uncomfortable, largely because the service was in English.

Eventually, with the support of his family and friends, de la Peña founded the Beth Shalom minyan. The congregation is far from wealthy, but all the families contribute.

Occasionally, Spanish-speaking Rabbi Daniel Mehlman, who officiates at Studio City’s Congregation Beth Meier, visits Santa Maria and offers guidance to those in the community who have embarked on the conversion process. Mehlman said that this group’s members “come from an observant [Christian] tradition,” which may account for — in Mehlman’s words — their “genuine spiritual yearnings.”

Mehlman pointed out that the process they went through is the opposite of what early Christians experienced. What he means is that Jesus and his disciples were Jews. In time, as the figure of Jesus became imbued with divine properties, his followers became known as Jewish Christians. Eventually, as the religion spread among those who had never been Jewish, its followers were simply called Christians.

The Santa Maria Jews have gone in the other direction. They started out as Christians, after which they pursued Messianic Judaism — at that stage, one could have called them Jewish Christians. Then, shedding any attachment to Yeshua, they became simply Jews.

On Friday nights, the Beth Shalom community gathers for Shabbat services. De la Peña’s oldest daughter, 17-year-old Erandy, chants the biblical portions — in Hebrew — with skill and beauty. It’s hard to listen to Erandy, to experience the community’s earnestness, and not be touched.

Mehlman is also moved by the group. “They’re thoroughly committed to their Judaism,” Mehlman said. “The amount they invest in their religious institution, proportionally, is astounding. They do everything possible to create a comfortable home for themselves as Jews, which is hard to do in a place like Santa Maria.”

Mehlman listened as Erandy chanted. “Amazing, isn’t she? Her father’s Mexican, her mother’s Filipina … and she’s 100 percent Jewish. It brings up the question: What do Jews look like?”

Mehlman opened his arms, palms up, indicating the entire Beth Shalom community. “The answer is: They look like this.”

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TRIBE Gathering: Santa Barbara Jewish Festival, Stand By Me, Food & Cultural Festival


Dressed in traditional Middle Eastern garb, a UC Santa Barbara Middle East Ensemble dancer performs at the Santa Barbara Jewish Festival heralding Israel’s 63rd Independence Day. Photo by Eyal Nahmias  



Free and open to the public, the May 15 Santa Barbara Jewish Festival included entertainment by Kol Sephardic Choir, Cantor Mark Childs, the Ventura Klezmer Band and Mikey Pauker & The Tribe. Photo by Eyal Nahmias    



Body painting, games, a “mishpachah” stage with kids’ comedy and a costume parade were a few of the family-friendly attractions at the Santa Barbara festival. Photo by Violeta Palombo Levy  



Stand By Me, a nonprofit dedicated to caring for cancer patients within the Jewish Israeli community, held its second gala event June 18 in Tarzana. Founder Gabe Ostrow is flanked by two supporters. Photos by Shabby Cohen  



Singer Gilat Rapaport volunteered her talents for the Stand By Me gala, as did the InJoy Orchestra, Ram2 and DJ Gil. 



CRUNCH! Kids enjoy certified kosher pickles on a stick at the Santa Clarita Valley’s Jewish Food & Cultural Festival on May 15, which boasted the world’s largest falafel ball. Photo by Adrienne Folde


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A fast last getaway

We all head excitedly into the first days of summer with visions of epic beach days and star-worthy bronzed skin. Yet after weeks of long office hours and errand-filled weekends, the end of summer is already in sight. Before the flurry of back-to-school and the High Holy Days, grab all the fun getaway items below, and get outta town!

1. Are you more the book-by-the-beach than the scuba-diving type? No problem — you can bring a splash of aquatic life to your spot on the sand. The Ralph Lauren Sea Horse Print Beach Towel ($13.99), with its plush terry cotton, is just as much fun to look at as it is to lie on. ralphlauren.com

2. Be it sand or chlorinated pool water, you’ll need some resistant material between the elements and your outdoor essentials. The Kenneth Cole Go Go Logo Tote ($49.98) will keep your stuff looking cute — and dry. kennethcole.com

3. Hasbro’s Soaker Wars Shot Blast Super Soaker ($19.99) should keep the kids — the ones with the Energizer Bunny-like stamina — busy and away from a napping mom and dad. hasbro.com

4. DKNY’s printed triangle bikini top ($38.99) and string tie bottom ($37.99) pay perfect homage to the bright colors of the sea, and the ultra-feminine cut leaves your bare skin free to soak up just enough rays to get glowing. dkny.com

5. These funky Calvin Klein Luxe Reversible Board Shorts ($49.99) will attract some attention poolside — not just for the cool patterns, but also for how well they flatter that beach body of yours. calvinklein.com

6. Hopping on a jet for a quick overnighter? Pack light and pretty with this compact, sleek Samsonite Silhouette 12 Softside Boarding Bag ($89.99). There’s even a bottom compartment for your shoes! csnstores.com

7. Even the hottest bikini loses its appeal when it’s hidden under a ratty T-shirt, so spice it up with the bright coral Zuza Cover-Up from Diane Von Furstenberg ($136.50). The deep V-neck is perfect for showing off that gorgeous suit. dvf.com

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Redefining normal

Logan Kurtz used to have one wish: “I remember looking up every night, even if I couldn’t see the stars from my room, [thinking], ‘Just make me normal,’ ” said Kurtz, a handsome 16-year-old from Topanga. “I knew I was different from other kids.”

Tourette’s syndrome has been a defining aspect of Kurtz’s life since he was 4. Over time, Kurtz has learned to accept that for him, normal means life with Tourette’s.

“It wasn’t about changing the Tourette’s, it was about me changing,” he said. “I thought to myself, ‘Other people need help, and I want to make a change in this world.’ I’m young, I’m able, I want to do something.”

Kurtz found his outlet in educating the world about Tourette’s and other impairments such as Asperger’s syndrome, bipolar disorder, Down syndrome and muscular dystrophy.

The method by which Kurtz would raise awareness was inspired by a class election — which he lost — that ultimately resulted in a greater accomplishment. 

“It wasn’t to win,” he said of running for sophomore class vice president at Calabasas High School, where he had just transferred from private school. “It was because I was new to the school and I just wanted to get my name out there so people would know who I am.”

During his speech, many of the 500 students before whom he spoke noticed his tics and later commented on them.

“People asked me what was going on with my eye, my neck. I got tired of constantly explaining what Tourette’s is,” he said. So he created a Facebook page titled “Help Spread the Word About Tourette’s Syndrome” and invited his classmates to join.

“It was supposed to be a place for people to spread the word and learn what Tourette’s is, but a month or so later, people began using the page for helping others with problems,” Kurtz said. “People are now using the page to get advice.”

One of the first appeals for advice, Kurtz said, came from a boy asking how to control his head jerks when he’s lying down to go to sleep.

Kurtz has similar tics, including stretching his neck to the side, contorting his nose, closing his eye, flinging his arm, dragging his foot and kicking his leg, mostly on the right side of his body. Kurtz, who is right-handed, has trained himself to stay calm, because the tics become more unmanageable when he is stressed. He clears his mind before tests to stay focused.

“They’ve been getting a lot better,” he said. Tics either improve or worsen around adolescence, according to the National Tourette Syndrome Association.

Kurtz tries to control his tics, especially in public, but it’s not always easy.

“It’s actually painful the way I control my tics,” he explained. “I tighten the muscles around it or I hold the area. Even though people accept me for my tics, and I’m confident, the tics are still a little embarrassing and very painful.”

Through his Facebook page, which has about 800 followers, Kurtz recently shared advice with a mother of a girl with Tourette’s who snaps her legs and arms, about ways to make the tics less painful. But the teen wanted to extend his reach to help more people with Tourette’s as well as other disorders.

So, in January, his 12-year-old sister, Gia, suggested Kurtz start a Web site with the same aim. She also suggested the name DefinitePossibilities.com.

With the assistance of Web developers who volunteered their time, the site launched just in time for National Tourette Syndrome Awareness Month, May 15-June 15.

An important fixture of the site is the discussion forum, which allows users to connect with one another.

“It’s a place where everyone with disorders, disabilities and addictions can come together and help each other out,” Kurtz said.

“When you are little, and you have some major issues, you become isolated from society,” Kurtz’s mom said. “Kids and adults aren’t always nice or don’t always think, so as parents we try to protect our kids.” She thinks her son’s endeavor will give people with disorders confidence “to go out into society and not be embarrassed.”

Kurtz is more embarrassed about not becoming a bar mitzvah because of his difficulty learning foreign languages than he is about having Tourette’s.

“I didn’t want to just go up on stage and spend an hour or two speaking Hebrew if I didn’t know what I was saying,” he said. “I was offered [the option] to do it in English, but I didn’t want to. If I do something, I want to do it to the full extent.”

Kurtz, who plans to become a bar mitzvah after college, has stayed in touch with his faith through his involvement with his local BBYO, an international Jewish youth movement formerly associated with B’nai B’rith. He recently was elected communications chairperson.

“Everyone really respects him,” said Michael Zhitnitsky, 14, a fellow member of Kurtz’s BBYO chapter.

Kurtz’s can-do attitude despite his disorder and the difficulties that came as a result — including bullying — has helped him flourish and find his way.

Kurtz was highlighted as a “Hero” in the spring 2011 Tourette Syndrome Association newsletter and was invited to speak at Oak Park High School about living with Tourette’s. He also won a spot on the Calabasas High School varsity boys’ wrestling team, an impressive accomplishment for any young athlete, let alone one facing physical challenges.

Kurtz feels that his struggles and his triumphs alike have made him the well-rounded person he has become. And he no longer looks up at the stars in the middle of the night wishing he were “normal.”

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