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February 3, 2010

Students, LMU Clash Over Hillel Advisers

Jewish students sought and achieved student governance over Hillel at Loyola Marymount University after the Jesuit institution removed the group’s adviser last summer and hired another without consulting its student leaders or membership.

“The students who were passionate about keeping Hillel student run were not consulted, so it was jarring to get back to school and be told, ‘Hey, here’s your new rabbi,’” said junior Madeline Lau, LMU Hillel’s vice president.

Students protested the removal of Rabbi Michael Barclay, who had served as LMU Hillel adviser for six years, and the subsequent hiring of Rabbi Carrie Benveniste. Hillel members successfully petitioned to have the Jewish club moved into the university’s Student Affairs administration, where it functions as an autonomous student-run organization rather than as a religious group under the auspices of the university’s Campus Ministry.

But the Hillel shake-up has not ushered in Barclay’s return. Instead, LMU Hillel now has two rabbis, who are sorting out their respective roles.

For Benveniste, the situation has been surprising.

“When I was first hired, I was contacted by the outside Hillel world, and they suggested I get in contact with [former Hillel adviser Rabbi Arthur Gross-Schaefer],” Benveniste said. “I called him, and he gave me background and told me there was going to be this conflict. I didn’t really know what to do about that. I didn’t know the specifics of Barclay’s departure, but I felt for the students. People reluctantly told me more details about the situation as time went on.”

LMU Hillel was established 30 years ago by Gross-Schaefer — currently chair of ethics and business law in the university’s business school — as a safe place for Jewish students. The rabbi put the program under the auspices of the Office of Campus Ministry, a sector of LMU assigned to promote spiritual growth and faith on campus, which afforded Hillel direct funding from the university that otherwise might not have been available.

In 2003 Gross-Schaefer passed the reins to Barclay, but he continued to be actively involved with Hillel.

Despite the small number of Jews on campus — 300 among an undergraduate population of more than 5,700 — LMU’s Hillel program drew significant crowds to its events throughout the 2008-09 school year.

“We would do Shabbat dinners once a month and had 70 to 150 people show up to each event,” said senior Natalie Farahan, Hillel’s president. “We also had over 200 people at our Passover seder. Then this fall it was different. Under the new adviser, I believe there were two events, and only about four or five people at each.”

According to Benveniste, the drop in attendance can be attributed to the students’ strong desire to be removed from the jurisdiction of Campus Ministry.

“What I was told by [Hillel’s student leaders] was that they didn’t want to come to programs if they were under the auspices of Campus Ministry,” Benveniste said. “I offered money to help with [the programs they were organizing on their own] and they said that if the money came from Campus Ministry, they didn’t feel comfortable taking it. We never really got into a deep conversation about why, but I totally respect that.”

Farahan and Lau, who disagreed with the direction Campus Ministry was taking Hillel, especially concerning decisions about the group’s adviser, created a petition requesting that Hillel be moved out of Campus Ministry and into Student Affairs.

“My concern was that Hillel was not being able to be run as we wanted,” Lau said. “We want to be an autonomous student organization, free to choose our own adviser and schedule our own events.”

More than 270 students signed the petition, which was written in early October.

In December, Farahan and Lau took the petition and their concerns to Senior Vice President for Student Affairs Lane Bove and eventually to Father Robert B. Lawton, LMU’s president.

During the meeting, Lawton told the students some changes would be made, according to Farahan.

“Upon returning to school for the spring, I was told that one of our requests had been met, and that Hillel had been moved out of Campus Ministry and into Student Affairs,” Farahan said. “However, I was disappointed to learn that Rabbi Benveniste was still our adviser.”

Benveniste said she empathizes with the students who started the petition, who were told they were unable to continue working with Barclay.

Barclay, who is continuing to teach as a professor in the department of theological studies, declined to comment for this article.

“I very much wanted to work with them,” Benveniste said. “I would feel the same way if someone just popped in, and I was told I had to work with her. At the same time, I felt like if I couldn’t successfully reach out to them, I had to continue to reach out to other Jewish students. I tried as often as possible to share resources so it wouldn’t feel as divided as it turned out to be.”

On Jan. 19, Hillel President Farahan wrote LMU President Lawton an e-mail saying that the group wanted Gross-Schaefer to return as adviser.

“Once again, the needs of the Jewish students are not being met,” the e-mail stated. “We demand change now, and, once again, let us be free to practice Judaism on this campus comfortably and as we please.”

When Lawton moved Hillel to Student Affairs, where it now sits under the Division of Ethnic and Intercultural Services, he also moved the Hillel budget of $35,000, the majority of which is typically used for an adviser’s salary.

According to Bove, Gross-Schaefer has been brought back as Hillel adviser, and Benveniste will serve as an administrator for the group.

“Hillel, as a student group, has chosen [Gross-Schaefer] to fill that position. Rabbi Benveniste, at this point, is Hillel rabbi, in that she has oversight because Hillel is an organization that reports up,” Bove said. 

Marshall Sauceda, associate vice president of Intercultural Affairs, said Benveniste’s job includes reaching out to Gross-Schaefer and Hillel’s student leaders to work collaboratively to serve Hillel as well as the larger Jewish community at the school.

“Could it all have been done differently and better? Yes,” Bove said. “There could have been much better communication from all circles. We made the change, it was effective a few days ago, and I am looking forward to a new semester.”

Benveniste will also continue to serve as a rabbi-minister for all Jewish students on campus, she said.

“Recently [Sauceda and I] met with Gross-Schaefer and the student leaders of Hillel to figure out who will do what. Gross-Schaefer will be the adviser, and I will be the Hillel rabbi as well as the Jewish student services coordinator. They have planned out a Hillel schedule for the spring, and I will just support them and do footwork for them. I will try to bring as many of the freshman who weren’t involved in Hillel, and I look forward to working with them.”

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Huckabee calls U.S. pressure on Israel ‘disturbing’

Mike Huckabee said Washington’s policy of pressuring Israel but not the Palestinians to return to peace negotiations is “one-sided.”

The former U.S. presidential candidate and current FOX News host called the policy of pressuring Israel “disturbing” in an interview with The Jerusalem Post published Wednesday.

“What possible incentive do the Palestinians have to come to the table and make concessions, because the only direct policy from the administration has been to order Israel to freeze not some but all the settlements?” Huckabee told The Jerusalem Post. “That seems a little one sided.”

Huckabee, the ex-governor of Arkansas, arrived Sunday in Israel to lead a seven-day Christian tour along with entertainer and Israel supporter Pat Boone.

He was scheduled to meet with Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, President Shimon Peres, Defense Minister Ehud Barak and Deputy Foreign Minister Danny Ayalon during his visit. Huckabee has not said if he will seek the 2012 Republican presidential nomination.

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Greening the Dollar

Exodus, Leviticus and Deuteronomy, as well as Maimonides’ “Eight Levels of Charity” all say the same thing: Loans should be given out without charging any interest.

The Jewish Free Loan Association (JFLA), a beneficiary of The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles, offers interest-free micro-loans for Southern Californians experiencing housing crises, medical emergencies, educational needs and other circumstances. JFLA has more than 35 loan funds — if it’s legal, they probably give out loans for it — and with only a few exceptions, loans are available to people of all religions.

Now JFLA is adding another category to the list. On the evening of Jan. 20, an event at a Brentwood home launched the agency’s newest program — the Green Loan Fund, created to encourage people to go green. Any person or business is eligible.

Borrowed funds can be spent on energy efficient windows, environmental building materials, irrigation systems — “Any improvement that will capitalize on preserving the Earth,” said Rachel Grose, director of foundation and corporate relations at JFLA, speaking to an audience of 50, which was made up of staff, supporters and donors.

About a year-and-a-half ago, Grose and Mark Meltzer, CEO and executive director at JFLA, got the idea for the fund when Saul Korin, a loan analyst at JFLA, had just purchased a house. Brainstorming ways to make it more energy efficient and also considering what would surely be the high cost of doing so, Korin wondered why JFLA didn’t give out loans for solar panels.

“Mark and I kind of looked at each other, and said, ‘We need a green loan fund,’” Grose said.

Now, JFLA is ready to spread the word about its latest fund with a grassroots outreach campaign.

Individuals and businesses will not have to face many barriers to qualify, but they will be required to undergo energy audits. These will assess how to make the potential borrower’s home or business more energy efficient, like replacing old appliances with energy-saving appliances, such as washers, dryers or refrigerators that use less energy, installing more eco-friendly insulation and putting in solar panels.

Working with students at L.A. Trade Technical College, JFLA will offer these audits for free.

The evening had two guest speakers. Actor and activist Ed Begley Jr., recently seen in Woody Allen’s “Whatever Works,” spoke about his experience with green living. Begley, who has long been vocal about the environmental justification and long-term, cost-saving benefits of going green — having purchased an electric car in the ’70s — stars in a green-advocacy reality show called “Living With Ed.” The show airs on the satellite and digital cable network, Planet Green.

David Nahai, senior adviser to the Clinton Climate Initiative and former CEO of the Los Angeles Department of Water and Power, also spoke. Nahai was supposed to have been on a flight to South Africa — he has plans to bring three gigawatts of power (the approximate energy capacity of a nuclear plant) to that country — but his flight had been put off until the following day. When he found out about this, he was pleased, he said, as it was important to him to be at the launch and speak about his devotion to the fund.

Nahai spoke of real signs of climate change. “Who ever heard of a tornado in Orange County?” he said. He also spoke on the Judaism behind JFLA’s foray into the green game, referring to the concept of tikkun olam.

And it is not only Jewish people who are committed to repairing the world, he added: “These values are given to Jews, but that does not mean they aren’t given to other people.”

There are voices in the media and in popular culture that argue against the proliferation of green organizations and products. For instance, “South Park,” Comedy Central’s long-running cartoon, has a popular episode about the elitism associated with green. In the episode, a Prius car emits “smug” instead of smog.

Nahai rejected the notion that a focus on energy conservation is elitist. “It’s not an elitist movement. It’s a human movement,” he said.

Initially, at least one of JFLA’s board members rejected the idea of a fund that would be devoted to green endeavors, Meltzer said, though he wouldn’t elaborate on why there was some hesitation from the board.

Founded in 1904, JFLA has made its positive presence felt during traumatic periods in history. It offered loans to families who were recent immigrants to the United States following World War II. In the ’60s, it offered loans to victims of the Watts riots. In the ’80s, the agency created student loan funds to help with the rising cost of tuition at colleges and universities. More recently, in the early ’90s, JFLA gave loans to victims of the Northridge earthquake. According to the organization’s mission statement, “Interest-free loans instead of charity fill an important gap in our social system by promoting self-sufficiency with dignity.”

Since its start, JFLA has assisted over 350,000 individuals and families. It gives out about 1,200 loans of up to $3,000 each per year, with the majority of the funds coming from grants and private donations.

After 30-45 days, a borrower must start making monthly payments on the loan. The amount of the monthly payment is determined in a meeting between a JFLA loan analyst and the borrower to work out terms.

Borrowers must be at least 18 years old, permanent residents of Southern California, have a steady source of income (loans for school and camp exempt), demonstrate a verifiable need for the money and have two California co-signers with strong credit.

There is currently $50,000 in the green fund. If this doesn’t seem like much, remember that the money is recycled — once a loan is repaid, it can be loaned out again. JFLA says 99 percent of its loans are repaid, and approximately 5 to 10 percent of borrowers eventually become donors.

“It’s the most wonderful kind of pyramid scheme,” Begley joked.

Even so, JFLA is working on increasing the amount in the green fund.

B.J. Elias, a JFLA donor and director of strategy and business development for Lifetime Network’s distribution division, expressed excitement about JFLA making a commitment to the environment. One of the great things about the green movement, according to Elias, is its feasibility.

“You don’t need to go to [the] far ends of the Earth to do this,” said Elias. “It’s within reach for many people, and JFLA’s green fund can help bring those things that are nearly in reach into grasp.”

For more information, visit jfla.org or call (323) 761-8830.

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City Approves Valley Beth Shalom’s Proposed Makeover

The Los Angeles City Planning Commission ruled unanimously on Jan. 28 to approve an expansion project proposed by Valley Beth Shalom (VBS) in Encino.

The Commission voted 6-0 in support of the Conservative congregation’s plan for a new multi-level parking garage and four replacement buildings.

“We thought we had a very persuasive argument and a good reason that [the city] should endorse and approve it,” said Andy Hyman, President of VBS. “But getting a 6-0 vote surprised us. We are very thankful.”

The plan has critics, however, including Homeowners of Encino, a watchdog organization for Encino community issues, as well as some residents who live close to VBS and representatives from Douglas Emmett, which owns an adjacent office building. They have expressed concerns about the potential noise and traffic from the construction and voiced opposition to the parking garage, which will be built on the site of the existing parking lot. Some neighbors have posted “Stop VBS Expansion” signs outside their homes.

“We have been supportive of the project,” said Gerald Silver, president of Homeowners of Encino, who spoke at the hearing. “The only part of it that’s not defensible is the parking [garage], given that you have residents directly across the street.”

The current parking lot sits behind the Douglas Emmett building. VBS hopes to demolish the lot and build a three-level garage with a roof deck for a playground.

Emmett offered to lease spaces from their parking structure to VBS — a cheaper option than building an entire new structure, they argued. VBS rejected the offer. “VBS is looking to be self-contained, self-sustaining, so we’re not dependent upon parking spaces in an adjacent facility,” Hyman said.

The groups opposed to the new parking structure say they may file an appeal against the Commission’s decision, but nothing official has been done as of Tuesday. If there is no appeal, the city’s decision is final.

Even if the ruling stands, construction will not start immediately. VBS officials said they must first secure funding.

The expansion of the synagogue, nursery school, day school, administrative facilities and social hall would increase total enrollment at VBS schools from 820 to 1,079 students. The idea for development started six years ago, when more children than could be accommodated applied to the nursery school. VBS hired an architect from Boston for the job.

Los Angeles Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa and 5th District Councilman Paul Koretz have endorsed the project.

“We’re trying to be good neighbors,” said Hyman. “That is the real key to this. We are trying to be respectful of the community, and I think the community appreciates that.”

VBS is not the only congregation with ambitious construction plans. Others include Wilshire Boulevard Temple, Temple Judea and Temple Israel of Hollywood, which are also planning expansion of their facilities.

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Local Organizations, Synagogues Offer Haiti Relief

The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles has collected and distributed more than $350,000 for Haitian relief since a 7.0-magnitude earthquake devastated the island nation Jan. 12.

Federation is funneling 100 percent of the funds to organizations working to relieve immediate needs on the ground and to programs aimed at the long-term reconstruction of Haiti. Among the programs Federation is supporting have been an Israel Defense Forces field hospital in Port-au-Prince equipped with high-demand orthopedic devices and infant incubators; a hospital-based feeding program through EcoWorks International; and several projects providing clean, potable water in Port-au-Prince and the surrounding community.

Synagogues and schools have continued their relief efforts, raising funds, supplies and awareness about the disaster. Members at Stephen S. Wise Temple in Bel Air donated more than 1,000 pairs of shoes to Soles4Souls to be shipped to Haiti, and have now turned their efforts toward raising $10,000 for Save a Child’s Heart (SACH), a medical project that dispatches field surgeons and transports kids to Israel for lifesaving cardiac surgery.

MAZON: A Jewish Response to Hunger planned a Haiti benefit concert for Thursday, Feb. 4 at American Jewish University (AJU). Speakers, guests and performers include Grammy winner Deniece Williams, former members of the Supremes, rapper Kanye West, soul musician James Ingram, inspirational speaker Deepak Chopra and Haiti’s ambassador to the U.N. World Food Program. MAZON’s Haiti Food Project is focused on using the immediate crisis to bring Haiti toward long-term food sustainability. The concert is co-sponsored by AJU, the Board of Rabbis of Southern California, The Chopra Foundation, Spicy Charlie’s, QSC Concert Solutions, Innovation Protocol and Steve Addison Events.

Meanwhile, dozens of L.A. children set up lemonade stands, snack sales and art shows to raise funds for Haiti.

Eight-year-old Hannah Merritt of Beverlywood set up lemonade stands in her father’s office and outside her home, where she raised nearly $300 for American Jewish World Service. Her sign read:

“Lemonade, Hot Chocolate for $1. All the money goes to Hadey. Hope you will come!”

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Teen Leaders Can Win $36,000

California Jewish teens have an opportunity to win $36,000 in recognition of their leadership efforts to better the world through the 4th annual Diller Tikkun Olam Awards.

The Helen Diller Family Foundation recognizes up to five self-identified Jews aged 13-19 who have distinguished themselves as leaders and have initiated community service projects that impact their communities. The winners can use the awards any way they choose, though most past recipients have used it to further their tikkun olam projects or for their education.

Last year’s Los Angeles winners were Eric Feldman of Palos Verdes Estates, who raised $40,000 in corporate sponsorship for jazz concerts he produced to sponsor seven orphans in Kenya, and Aaron Feuer, who as president of the California Association of Student Councils initiated and organized the first Los Angeles Youth Summit, doubled participation in the association’s leadership training programs, and helped bring issues before the State Board of Education that eventually resulted in legislation.

Past awardees include Fred Scarf of Sherman Oaks, a 2008 winner who founded the Shiri Foundation, in memory of his best friend, to promote research and awareness about osteosarcoma and to sponsor proms for kids who are suffering from chronic illnesses; Shelby Layne of Pacific Palisades, who was recognized in 2008 for making and selling jewelry to raise more than $30,000 to purchase solar cookers for women in Darfur; Shira Shane of Encino, a 2007 winner for creating Teens Against Genocide, which rallied high school students across Los Angeles to raise awareness about the Sudanese genocide; and Erich Sorger of Beverly Hills, who was awarded in 2007 for Dollars for Dwayne, a program that collects reusable items and donates them to the National Council of Jewish Women’s thrift shops.

Teens can nominate themselves or non-relatives, such as teachers, rabbis or community leaders, can nominate teens. Nominations are due Feb. 19th.

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Kertes Among National Jewish Book Award Winners

Toronto author Joseph Kertes has won the 59th annual National Jewish Book Award for Fiction for his novel, “Gratitude.”

Kertes’ Holocaust-themed novel, which was first published in Canada in 2008, is one of 18 books in various categories recognized by the awards overseen by the Jewish Book Council in New York City.

The book is set in German-occupied Hungary during the final months of World War II. Kertes, a native of Hungary, escaped with his family to Canada after the 1956 revolution.

Rabbi Daniel Gordis, the founding dean of Los Angeles’ Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies at American Jewish University, received the Contemporary Jewish Life and Practice Award for his book, “Saving Israel: How the Jewish People Can Win a War That May Never End” (John Wiley & Sons). Gordis moved from Los Angeles to Israel in 1998 and is now senior vice president of the Shalem Center, a Jerusalem-based research and educational institute.

Other winners include Hasia Diner, author of “We Remember with Reverence and Love: American Jews and the Myth of Silence after the Holocaust, 1945-1962” (New York University Press), the American Jewish Studies’ Celebrate 350 Award; and Melvin Urofsky, the Everett Family Foundation Jewish Book of the Year Award for “Louis D. Brandeis: A Life (Pantheon Books).

The winners will be honored March 9 in New York City.

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A Ray of Light From a Black Hole

When I reviewed Ronald Florence’s impressive and important book, “” title=”Killing Kasztner”>Killing Kasztner,” in these pages.  Tom, whose late father also knew Kasztner, points out that “Kasztner has been faulted on many counts: for whom he saved and how he chose them (even though Kasztner personally chose very few of the train’s passengers, he did put his wife and 19 of his relatives on the train).”

So I hasten to clarify my own review of “Emissary of the Doomed,” and I need to make it clearer than I did that I do not claim to sit in judgment on men and women whom we observe from a safe distance in time and space.

Indeed, one of the great outrages of the Holocaust is that Nazi Germany did not merely torture and kill its Jewish victims; the Nazis and their collaborators also seemed to delight in compelling at least a few of their victims to play a role in deciding who would live and who would die. The same awful predicament was imposed on Jews who were forced to sit on the Judenrate (“Jewish Councils”) that the Germans set up in Jewish ghettos during the Holocaust.  But we should never allow ourselves to forget who initiated and carried out the carnage, and we should never blur the line between the murderers and their victims.

At the same time, the moral burden of Jewish history obliges us not merely to remember the Holocaust but also to extract some measure of meaning from the grim facts.  It is not an easy task, and it requires the kind of exacting attention to detail that George Bishop has modeled for the rest of us.

We can only hope that we will be rewarded for our efforts with the occasional ray of light from the black hole of the Holocaust.

Jonathan Kirsch is the book editor of The Jewish Journal and can be reached at books@jewishjournal.com.

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Q & A With Lori Gottlieb

Essayist and novelist Lori Gottlieb, who has written a great deal about her own life, including her choice to become a single mom, has a new book out with some tart advice for picky single women: “Settle!” She talked with The Journal about the importance of shared values, why falling in love doesn’t necessarily lead to a healthy marriage and why she blames feminism for messing up her love life.

Jewish Journal: Your book “Marry Him! The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough” makes the argument that women who want to get married and have children should give up their search for Mr. Right and settle.
Lori Gottlieb: I’m not asking women to stop looking for Mr. Right. I’m asking them to change their perception of who Mr. Right is. Women have to understand that what is actually going to make them happy in a marital relationship is very different than what will make them happy in a dating relationship.

JJ: Describe what you mean by settling.
LG: Settling is what our culture defines as getting less than everything we want. We think that settling is compromising our soul. But what most people consider settling is actually like the catch — the ‘8.’ I would never tell anybody to marry the loser schlub — that’s truly settling.

JJ: Are you saying that women should lower their expectations and look for a good partner rather than their romantic ideal?
LG: I don’t think they should lower their expectations at all. I think they need to look for qualities that are important — like shared values, kindness, responsibility — character things. 

JJ: Choosing a partner based on values and not instant chemistry makes a pretty convincing case for arranged marriage, don’t you think?
LG: The lesson we can learn from arranged marriage is that the important things have to be there; whereas in our culture we think ‘We’re so in love, so of course we’re going to agree on how we raise the kids and run the household.’

JJ: Your 2008 essay in The Atlantic, which inspired the book, suggested that women shouldn’t worry about passion or intense connection. That doesn’t make relationships sound very appealing on a romantic level.
LG: True love develops over time. You may not have those butterflies on the first or second date. And a lot of us, if we don’t have it right then and there, give up. You do have to have passion and excitement at a certain point, but you have to give somebody a chance. People aren’t getting divorced because they settled; the divorce rate is high because people are marrying in this high state of chemistry and realize 10, 15 years later that they’re not compatible.

JJ: Why do you think people have reacted so vehemently to your message?
LG: I think it makes people really uncomfortable to hear a highly educated, very sophisticated woman saying, ‘You know, I’m really, really sad that I’m not married.’

JJ: You’ve compared marriage to a ‘boring nonprofit business.’ Why would anybody want that?
LG: It’s not that marriage is so boring, it’s that life is not this constant high of thrills and pixie dust. Marriage is about finding somebody that you want to go through life with — it’s not just about going Rollerblading together and we read the same books and we like ‘This American Life.’

JJ: Was your parents’ marriage a model for you? 
LG: My parents have been married for 45 years, maybe more. It’s hard to compare our parents’ marriages [to the ones we’re looking for] because gender roles were so different then. Theirs is a traditional, ’50s kind of marriage, and women today are looking for a more egalitarian marriage when it comes to gender roles.

JJ: You’ve openly blamed feminism for the fact that women have impossible standards and a you-can-have-it-all sense of entitlement when it comes to finding a partner.
LG: Feminism as a social movement is a great thing, but feminism never wrote a dating manual. It never said this you-can-have-it-all thing can apply to your partner. A lot of us got tripped up by misapplying some of the empowerment of feminism into the realm of dating.

JJ: Some people have called your position antifeminist — and even ageist — for suggesting that single women over 35 are basically doomed, because, either there aren’t enough single men to go around, men that age prefer younger women or the older available men come with loads of unpleasant baggage.
LG: There is a reverse power curve. And women can be in denial and pretend the world doesn’t work that way, but we can’t change certain fundamental things about the way men and women are attracted to each other. I always found it unbelievably offensive that men had this thing about dating younger women, but if I could date men who were younger and had less baggage and were more appealing in that way, I totally would. It’s not so much that men are superficial and want women under 35 because they’re more attractive; the real issue for men is that they want biological families.

JJ: You do get that there’s a part of this that’s really scary and depressing for women of a certain age?
LG: Oh yeah! Oh, believe me, I get that. In the first third of the book I’m really getting hopeless about the whole situation. But what I came to realize was that as scary as it might seem, I’d rather look at the data so that I can make more informed choices.

JJ: Wouldn’t a man be offended to know you’ve settled for him? Wouldn’t he rather be the man of your dreams? 
LG: Mr. Good Enough is the man of my dreams.

Lori Gottlieb will appear Feb. 9 with Rabbi David Wolpe and Sandra Tsing Loh at Temple Emanuel of Beverly Hills. 7:30 p.m. $20. 300 N. Clark Drive, Beverly Hills. writersblocpresents.com. She will also appear Feb. 10, 7 p.m. at Borders, 1360 Westwood Blvd., Los Angeles.

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A trippy relationship with God

This ABC News report is a few years old, but I don’t recall seeing it before. Thanks for sending it along, Dennis.

The headline, “Can You Find God in a Pill?,” is a reference to a 1966 pamphlet opposing the spiritual effects of hallucinogens. I think we know what Craig X Rubin would say. The question here reminds me of a point addressed in one of my first blog posts:

“You have to give people a feeling or a sense of the sacred and then you have to bond them in community,” Robert C. Fuller, a religion professor at Bradley University in Illinois and author of Stairways to Heaven: Drugs in American Religious History, told me. “The fact of the matter is anything that helps with those two function has religious values.”

Thoughts?

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