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November 24, 2009

Report: Top Hamas officials in Damascus to discuss Shalit swap

A Palestinian delegation involved in the negotiations in Cairo to free abducted Israel Defense Forces soldier Gilad Shalit arrived in Damascus to discuss finalizing the deal with Hamas politburo chief Khaled Meshal, Arabic news station Al Arabiya reported Tuesday.

According to the report, Israel has refused to release some prisoners to neighboring countries, preferring to send them elsewhere instead.

Read the full story at HAARETZ.com.

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Israeli-Iranian peace in the NBA

Before the Grizzlies’ 116-105 win over the Kings last night, Memphis center Hamed Haddadi, the league’s first Iranian player, took some time out to meet and shake hands with Sacramento’s Omri Casspi, the first Israeli to play in the NBA.

The meeting was a first for Haddadi. In 2005, Haddadi’s Iranian team was not allowed to go to Argentina for the FIBA World Championship for Young Men because of the possibility of Israel being an opponent.

Earlier this month, before the season’s first Grizzlies-Kings match-up, Haddadi told Journal contributing writer Chris Tomasson, “It is just a sport. I don’t know what happened with the two countries. I don’t care. I just do my job. I don’t think about politics … I do not think what the two positions of Iran and Israel is.”

Casspi finished last night’s game with 15 points and two technical fouls, which got him ejected. Haddadi didn’t play, leaving fans to wait until March 22 for the next Grizzlies-Kings match-up in Sacramento.

In related news, L.A. Clippers announcers Ralph Lawler and Michael Smith were suspended for one game last Friday by Fox Sports Prime Ticket for comments made about Haddadi from Memphis last Wednesday, which offended a viewer:

Lawler: “Wow. Haddadi, that’s H-A-D-D-A-D-I.”

Smith: “You’re sure it’s not Borat’s older brother?”

Smith: “If they ever make a movie about Haddadi, I’m going to get Sacha Baron Cohen to play the part.”

Lawler: “Here’s Haddadi. Nice little back-door pass. I guess those Iranians can pass the ball.”

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Hollywood’s Most Powerful Jews Invited to White House State Dinner

It won’t be hard to guess four of the Jewish men who were invited to have dinner with President Obama tonight.

The most obvious of these is Endeavor chief Ari Emanuel, whose brother Rahm, is Obama’s Chief of Staff.

As for the other three, the initials SKG may ring a bell: For all of Hollywood’s Jews, Steven Spielberg is probably the industry’s most famous Jew; Jeffrey Katzenberg is the man who would be Lew Wasserman if only he possessed the galvanizing personality; and David Geffen, the third DreamWorks partner may in fact be the wealthiest, with an estimated fortune around $4.6 billion, according to Wikipedia which he has used to become one of Hollywood’s biggest philanthropists.

Tonight’s dinner, hosted by President Obama and First Lady Michelle, is being held in honor of Dr. Manmohan Singh, the Prime Minister of India and Ms. Gursharan Kaur.

Other Hollywood Jew invitees are Sony Pictures Chairman Michael Lynton and his wife, Jamie. Oprah’s BF Gayle King will attend, along with Jeff Immelt, the Chairman of GE, director M. Night Shyamalan, Alfre Woodard and Blair E Underwood.

Nikki Finke who first reported the story, offers some analysis on the whys behind the guest list:

This first dinner is primarily a thank you to the Obamas’ most important political supporters.

Spielberg’s inclusion is interesting since he was a much ballyhooed Hillary Clinton supporter during the first months of her primary campaign when she looked like a sure thing, then quietly threw his clout behind Obama after he became the clear winner. But, given that the guest of honor is India’s highest ranking statesman, Spielberg’s new financial relationship with India’s giant corporation Reliance more than explains his presence. Geffen was an early Obama backer who publicly took on the Clintons with pointed criticism at the start of the primary season. Katzenberg was not an early bird, but he became a faithful fundraiser. Both he and Geffen were considered Obama’s biggest Hollywood bundlers during the campaign.

Lynton was a longtime supporter primarily because of the influence of his wife Jamie whose Chicago family has longtime political connections to the Obamas. Her mother Joanne Alter, the first female Democrat elected in Cook County, talent-spotted Obama in 2003 and convinced her daughter to support him. As a result, Lynton co-hosted an early fundraiser for Obama’s Senate bid in 2004 in addition to hosting one of the earliest Hollywood campaign events for him when most showbiz types were still supporting Hillary. (Will.i.am, who composed the viral video for the Obama campaign anthem “Yes, We Can,” met the candidate during a fundraiser at the Lyntons’ home.)

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AICF Celebrates its Comeback

The America-Israel Cultural Foundation (AICF) may not be the biggest or best-known Jewish philanthropy in the United States, but on the Israeli creative arts scene it is one of the most influential players.

Some 250 local AICF supporters gathered last week at the Bel Air home of Art and Dahlia Bilger to listen to two superb musicians and to celebrate the organization’s comeback from a near-death experience.

Owing to Bernard Madoff’s notorious Ponzi scheme, AICF’s $14 million endowment was wiped out, but thanks to the organization’s loyal supporters, among them many of Israel’s top artists, AICF has survived and is hoping to make a full recovery.

Such luminaries as Itzhak Perlman, Pinchas Zukerman, Miriam Fried, Yefim Bronfman and Daniel Barenboim got their starts through AICF scholarships early in their careers.

Another alumnus, the superb violinist Gil Shaham — in town to perform with the L.A. Philharmonic under Gustavo Dudamel — was the big name attraction at the Bel Air gathering, and his renditions of Bach’s Italian dances awed the audience.

But the show was nearly stolen by Maya Tamir, a 9-year-old, pony-tailed piano prodigy and the youngest recipient ever of an AICF scholarship. Her legs barely reached the pedals, but she blew the audience away with selections from Haydn and Chopin.

When the applause died down, Shaham instructed his young colleague in how to take a proper thank-you bow.

The Israeli consulate in Los Angeles did yeoman work in organizing the event, with kudos particularly to cultural affairs officer Lior Sasson.

Consul General Jacob Dayan opened the proceedings and credited a Journal editorial on AICF’s role in Israeli life for the original impetus in organizing the event.

AICF Executive Director Orit Naor flew in from Israel and foundation President William Schwartz came from New York to laud the organization’s work in launching the careers of Israeli artists in music, dance, theater, cinema, design and painting.

For additional information on AICF, still in need of contributions and now celebrating its 70th anniversary, visit aicf.org. — Tom Tugend, Contributing Editor

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Parashat Vayetze (Genesis 28:10-32:3)

You are driving, looking for an address, when your wife tells you to ask someone. You refuse, but you finally make it to your destination — two hours late. Are you familiar with this scenario?

When it happened to me, we were going to our first Shabbaton in Pennsylvania, got lost somewhere in Cherry Hill, N.J., and barely made it to the hotel before Shabbat.

It seems like an international rule. Men don’t ask for directions. Now we have been saved by the all-knowing GPS. The only problem is, when it starts giving you directions, for God’s sake, you realize it’s a woman’s voice.

In “You Just Don’t Understand” (William Morrow, 1990), Georgetown linguistics professor Deborah Tannen’s essential guide to the different ways men and women communicate, she analyzes the case of a woman who was recovering from surgery at a hospital. She kept complaining and asked to be moved to her home. But after a while she told her husband that she was not comfortable there either and was still suffering. Her husband suggested she should return to the hospital, and to his great shock, she burst into tears, accusing him of not loving her and wanting her out of the house.

What happened here?

The ailing woman wanted her husband to empathize with her, not offer solutions. Tannen explains that when women are faced with a problem, they first seek understanding and compassion, to know that the other side commiserates with them and listens to them. But men equate the inability to solve a problem with weakness, so when men are in the same situation they feel they must solve the problem.

This communication gap is demonstrated very sharply in this week’s parasha. When Rachel, Jacob’s beloved wife, sees that her adversary Leah keeps delivering one child after another, she turns to him with an impossible request: “Grant me children or I will die.” The enraged and perplexed Jacob answers: “Can I replace God? He is the one who prevented you from having children.”

Rachel then goes on to offer him her maidservant as a surrogate mother and the issue seems to have been settled, but the sages of the midrash don’t let Jacob off the hook that easily. They read into that conversation much more than meets the eye. Jacob, they say, was punished for his behavior by the sibling rivalry that tore his family apart and eventually humbled his children from Leah, as they had to bow down to Rachel’s own son, Joseph.

Let us reconstruct the full exchange.

Before Rachel comes to speak to her husband, she is engulfed in feelings of sadness and frustration. She has no children, whereas Leah, the once rejected wife, now has a seat of honor as the mother of Jacob’s growing family. She feels estranged and alienated. She doesn’t see in her husband’s eyes the same sparkle that was there before. She then tries to convey her emotional turmoil to him. If I have no children, she says, I am dead. She either threatens to commit suicide or she is saying that she is as good as dead, without her husband’s love and outdone by Leah.

What Jacob should have said was something like, “I know how you feel.” Sure, she would retaliate with: “No you don’t. You have your children, and you’re not a woman so you will never know what it means to be barren.” But to that he could have answered: “You are right, but I remember how my mother’s eyes would fill with tears when she spoke about her sterility.”

Then he could have segued into her thoughts on what should be done, and she would probably say that he should pray for her, spend more time with her, or (as she eventually did) consider adoption or a surrogacy.

Instead, Jacob got angry.

Angry? With your beloved wife? A woman in distress?

Yes, because he felt threatened.

Here is a problem he cannot solve; a baby he cannot deliver. And he answers accordingly: “This is not my role; it is God’s role.” And as if this was not enough, he adds: “He has not granted you children.”

Now, Jacob might have emphasized the word He to indicate that it is God’s responsibility and not his. But Rachel hears the emphasis on you, and understands that he is not concerned because he has his own kids; it is you — Rachel — who has a problem.

What a terrible misunderstanding and miscommunication. And what an important lesson to all of us, especially men, to be better listeners and to try first to understand our conversational partner and only then offer, if applicable, a solution.

This column originally appeared Dec. 5, 2008.

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Technology Affects Minds at All Ages

They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but scientific findings seem to indicate otherwise. Research shows that our brains literally rewire in response to new stimulation. And when it comes to computer use, Internet activity may stimulate and possibly improve brain function, according to scientists at UCLA.

“Technology may be changing our minds and changing the way we think,” said Dr. Gary Small, a neuroscientist speaking last month at the UCLA Technology & Aging Conference at the Skirball Cultural Center.

Small, director of the UCLA Center on Aging, described results of research he and colleagues performed with volunteers between the ages of 55 and 76. Half of the participants were familiar with how to search the Internet, and the other half were new to it. The participants engaged in Internet searching while simultaneously undergoing functional magnetic resonance imaging (MRI).

The MRI images clearly showed activity in the areas of the brain that control decision-making and complex reasoning — but only in the Web-savvy group. The inexperienced group showed no such activity.

However, after just five one-hour sessions of practice, the Web newbies showed activation in the same areas of the brain as the savvy group.

“Five hours on the Internet and the naïve subjects had already rewired their brains,” said Small, writing about the findings in “iBrain: Surviving the Technological Alteration of the Modern Mind” (HarperCollins). “Recent studies demonstrate that older brains do remain malleable and plastic throughout life. Even areas of the brain that were reserved for specialized tasks can be recruited and retrained.”

In other words, “use it or lose it” applies to the brain. Indeed, Small notes, “Several studies have shown that exercising the brain with mental aerobics not only can improve cognitive performance scores but also may delay brain degeneration.”

Achieving brain fitness requires more than mental exercises, however. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, being physically active, eating a healthy diet and maintaining social relationships are also components of promoting brain health.

While the mental stimulation provided by digital technology can fuel our brains, there’s a flip side to this phenomenon. On the one hand, video gaming and digital interaction can quicken reaction time and improve some forms of attention. On the other hand, digital natives — those who were born into the world of laptops, BlackBerries and iPods — may be depriving their brain of some important aptitudes.

Digital natives tend to have shorter attention spans. They’re also less adept at relationship skills. Digital immigrants may take longer than their native counterparts to process information, but they show a superior ability to think globally.

“Today’s adolescents are now spending more than a full eight-hour work day exposing their brains to digital technology. By spending this much time staring at a computer or television screen, these young people are not solidifying the normal neural pathways their brains need to develop traditional face-to-face communication skills,” Small said. “Our high-tech revolution has plunged us into a state of continuous partial attention … [We] no longer have time to reflect, contemplate or make thoughtful decisions.”

Small believes these differences have created the beginning of what he refers to as a “brain gap” between younger and older minds. “What used to be simply a generation gap … has now become a huge divide resulting in two separate cultures,” he said.

His solution is for both digital natives and digital immigrants to find a balance — one where “we use technology effectively while remaining connected to others in a personal way.”

To achieve that, Small suggests finding ways to bring younger and older people together to help optimize the neural circuitry for both generations.

In other words, not only can old dogs learn new tricks, they have a few to teach as well.

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Actress, author Annie Korzen enjoys high life without sacrifice

Annie Korzen strolls through the open front door of a duplex condo just north of Carthay Square in Los Angeles, leaving her husband to park their Volvo in the chronically congested neighborhood.

It’s early on a Saturday, and dew still clings to car windshields. This is the time when bargain hunters descend on neighborhoods, rummaging through merchandise set out on front yards, in backyards and garages.

“Estate sales, at least they’re organized. With yard sales they throw everything on the lawn,” Korzen says, adding a hushed confession as she walks upstairs: “Plus, I like looking at the houses.”

For Korzen, 70, Saturday marks the beginning of her weekend shopping expeditions in search of high-end clothing and Bakelite jewelry at prices well below retail and resale. She wears her acquisitive nature with pride, but insists that living a good life shouldn’t come with sticker shock.

Korzen calls herself a frugalista, and she’s sharing her collected prudent wisdom with the growing ranks of the downwardly mobile through her blog and new book, “Bargain Junkie” (Andrew McMeel).

The timing of Korzen’s book couldn’t be better. Frugality is the new black, thanks to the Great Recession, and more Americans than ever are looking for ways to get their favorite brands and products at deeply discounted prices, whether through consignment shops or on eBay.

Rather than teaching her readers to clip coupons or shop at Goodwill, Korzen’s advice focuses on helping people to embrace frugality in all aspects of life without sacrificing.

“I have a lifestyle based on living well and spending little,” she says. “To some people, fashion is wearable art. To me it’s not worth the retail price. I would rather splurge on theater tickets, restaurants and airline upgrades.”

Planning a trip to Rome? Skip the sightseeing-friendly $200-a-night hotel in favor of $80 seaside suburban accommodations and ride the commuter train, she advises. Do you have a skill or service a friend or neighbor needs? Consider bartering. “I heard about a wine dealer who pays for his therapy with fine vintage reds,” she writes. “This may explain why one of my many shrinks was not always quite focused during our sessions.”

Korzen is an actress best known for her time on “Seinfeld” as Doris Klompus, the acerbic wife of Del Boca Vista presidential hopeful Jack Klompus. Her most recent work includes the one-woman show “Yenta Unplugged,” roles on shows like “ER” and “Hannah Montana,” and a small part in “Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen,” playing the mother of Seymour Simmons (John Turturro).

When she’s not acting or working on her new show, tentatively titled “Keep Your Mouth Shut (And Other Things You Can’t Do),” Korzen sells jewelry, as well as vintage and designer clothing, both online and to resale shops. Her Danish-born husband, Benni, an Oscar-winning producer of the film “Babette’s Feast,” has his own Web-based business selling antiquarian or hard-to-find books and collectables, which supplements his income between films.

The couple says their respective side businesses get busier with each passing year. 

“In this economy, people have to shop outside of the box,” she says.

The National Association of Resale and Thrift Shops, a trade group that monitors the industry, says that more than half of such stores have experienced a 30 percent increase in the past year. And online auction site eBay reports that listings are up 30 percent over last year.

Korzen, who holds a biannual yard sale, says that a film executive spent $100 on a Prada suit and other outfits at her most recent sale in October.

“I think the economy has changed people’s opinion about shopping used,” she says. 

At the estate sale near Carthay Square, clothing is piled on a bare mattress in an upstairs bedroom, and furniture has been emptied of its contents, save for a bookcase with a selection that includes an ArtScroll siddur. Korzen searches the closets for inventory.

“I can tell already this is large-size old lady clothing,” she says, flipping through hangers until she stumbles across a slender vintage dress. She looks at the tag.

“Fifteen is high for me, because I sell them for $20,” she says.

Korzen heads downstairs several minutes later, her arms loaded with dresses. After schmoozing with the estate sale’s organizer and haggling over prices, she walks away with three pieces — one of which is an Escada gown. “It probably retailed for $1,200,” she says, glowing about the find. 

What drags the actress and her producer husband out of bed early on a Saturday morning isn’t the lure of money. That’s beside the point.

“It’s the fun of the chase,” she says on the drive to the next sale. “I was buying for myself until I realized I could sell things.”

In her book, Korzen writes that a yard sale was the original inspiration for her own bargainista transformation.

Ten years ago, as the economy was gaining momentum, she was invited to her first Hollywood party after moving to Los Angeles from New York. Korzen wanted something glitzy to wear, and her first instinct was to head to Loehmann’s near the Beverly Center, but she got sidetracked.

“I passed by a yard sale and found this fabulous Lillie Rubin jacket covered in sparkly red sequins and beads. The price was $20, and that’s when I decided I would never buy retail again,” she writes. “I had been bitten by the second-hand bug and have never recovered.”

Not that Korzen grew up in the lap of luxury. The daughter of an immigrant tailor, her childhood was spent in a three-bedroom Bronx railroad apartment.

“My parents were poor. They had to be thrifty,” she says. “My mother frequently reused teabags.”

And Korzen continues to draw on their example at home. She is a compulsive recycler, often printing on both sides of paper.

“If you’re a frugalista, you’re also green,” she says.

At a yard sale that’s just opened off Fairfax Avenue, a young couple is still hauling out boxes as the Korzens walk up.

“I’m cleaning you out,” Korzen tells one of the sellers, a former Betsey Johnson rep, as she digs into a box of bracelets. “I’m like a kid in a candy store here.”

When she is finished, she pays $41 to the seller for a Gaultier and a Celine purse, a Dolce & Gabbana skirt and at least 30 pieces of jewelry, including rings, necklaces, a gold lace choker and bracelets.

“These I’m not going to sell,” she says, running her hand over the bracelets she’s heaped onto her right arm. “I like these.”

For Korzen, who once pined for the comforts of a middle-class life, including shopping at Neiman Marcus and Barneys, the streets of Los Angeles are her department store.

Even if she suddenly became wealthy, Korzen says, she would continue living the same frugal existence.

“I enjoy my lifestyle,” she says. “This isn’t a hardship for me.”

To read Annie Korzen’s blog, visit http://www.thebargainjunkie.com/

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A Celebration for the Mumbai Attack’s Littlest Survivor

This article originally appear at Forward.com.

Last November, people around the world shed tears over one of the most tragic images of the Mumbai attacks — a newly orphaned little boy crying at the loss of his parents.

“Mommy, Mommy,” Moshe Holtzberg wailed during a tearful ceremony held in a Mumbai synagogue days after a terrorist attack in India’s financial capital last November 26 left at least 166 people dead.

But the heartbreaking story of little Moshe, then 2, was also hailed as an example of courage and humanity in the face of unspeakable violence. As Islamist terrorists kept Chabad’s Nariman House under siege, Moshe’s Indian nanny, Sandra Samuel, risked her own safety to rescue the Hasidic boy. She had locked herself in a room on the first floor of the building when the terrorists entered, but ran up to the second floor and escaped with the boy in her arms.

Moshe — or Moishele, as his family affectionately knows him — is the son of Gavriel and Rivka Holtzberg. Gavriel Holtzberg, 29, was born in Israel and moved with his parents to the Crown Heights section of Brooklyn when he was 9. Rivka Holtzberg, 28, studied at a seminary in America but was originally from Israel. As newlyweds in 2003, the Holtzbergs went to Mumbai to establish the Chabad House. They developed it into a welcome spot where Jewish locals, backpackers and visiting businessmen could find a friendly atmosphere, accommodations, kosher food and religious education. Rivka Holtzberg was five months pregnant when gunmen murdered her, her husband and four guests in a coordinated attack on the Chabad House and four other sites in Mumbai.

Moshe is beloved in Chabad-Lubavitch circles, and because the massacre took place shortly before Hanukkah, he is often described at the “little jug of oil” — a reference to the single container of sacred oil found among the desecrated Temple in the Hanukkah story.

Right after the shootings, Samuel, who is in her 40s, left behind her life in India to take care of Moshe at the home of Shimon and Yehudit Rosenberg, Moshe’s maternal grandparents, in the northern Israel town of Afula. “He is with her. He is very connected to her. She loves him, and he loves her,” Shimon Rosenberg, a communal rabbi and Chabad-Lubavitch emissary, told the Forward. The boy is bilingual, speaking to his family and friends in Hebrew and to Samuel in English.

Moshe is thought to have witnessed some of the most violent acts that took place inside Chabad House. When Samuel found him, he was crying, crouched next to four people lying motionless on the ground; when she carried him out, he reportedly had bloodstains on him. And the grandfather said he is “certain” that the boy understands at least part of what happened, and said that Moshe suffers from “bad dreams and difficult sleep.”

Sometimes, Moshe surprises family members with his sense of connection to India. Rosenberg said: “I was coming back from shul and said to Moshe, ‘Now we are going home.’ He said, ‘[Your] home, Zeyde [Yiddish for grandfather], is Afula, and my home is Mumbai.’ ”

Adding to the family’s tragedy, both of Moshe’s older brothers died of a genetic disease — one of them two years before the attack, age 3, and the other around a month after the attack, age 4.

But with the help of weekly therapy sessions, Moshe is reaching the normal milestones for a child his age. “Slowly, slowly, step by step,” Rosenberg said.

On November 18, Moshe celebrated his third birthday, according to the Hebrew calendar, with a party at Kfar Chabad, the Chabad-Lubavitch town in central Israel. The Jerusalem Post reported that 2,000 people attended a combination birthday party for Moshe and memorial dinner for his parents that day.

The following day was chosen for Moshe’s upshiren, a ceremony in which an Orthodox boy receives his first haircut. In Chabad-Lubavitch Hasidim and some other Orthodox circles, for kabbalistic reasons a boy is not given a haircut until the age of 3. The first few locks of his hair were cut at the Kfar Chabad event, and then the next day his official upshiren, like that of many Israelis, took place at the northern Israel grave of second-century sage Rabbi Shimon bar Yohai, who is said to have authored the central work of Kabbalah, the Zohar.

And after the traumas of the past year, in the run-up to the birthday party and upshiren Moshe at last had something to be excited about. “He feels that this is a special time,” Rosenberg said.

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A non-Jewish resident of the Jewish Home is inspired to convert.

When John Sullivan became Yochanan Rachmiel Ben-Abraham earlier this month at American Jewish University (AJU), he made the record books for one of Los Angeles’ most venerable Jewish institutions.

Before the ceremony, Anthony Elman, Sullivan’s mentor, teacher and sponsoring rabbi, said his student’s conversion to Judaism would be a historic event for the Los Angeles Jewish Home, where Sullivan has been living for nearly two years.

“He will be our first, in my knowledge,” he said.

On Nov. 11, Veterans Day, Sullivan entered AJU in Bel Air wearing a lapel pin bearing American and Israeli flags intertwined. As the two-hour ceremony opened, Sullivan, 79, stood in front of the three-rabbi panel at the Sandra Caplan Community Bet Din, or religious court, and answered questions that tested his knowledge of Judaism and his sincerity.

After the bet din rabbis, including Elman, voted to accept him as a Jew, Sullivan recited the Declaration of Faith, including these words: “Today I join the children of Israel, casting my lot with theirs, my hope with theirs, my pain and joy with theirs.”

Rabbi Dan Shevitz, head of the bet din and author of the declaration, proclaimed: “As my scuba instructor used to say, let’s go get wet.”

Sullivan’s journey to Judaism began 20 months ago, when the retired Hughes Aircraft engineer moved into the Joyce Eisenberg-Keefer Medical Center on the Grancell Village campus at the Los Angeles Jewish Home in Reseda. At the time, he was a Nichiren Shoshu Buddhist, believing that enlightenment can be attained in one’s present form and in one’s lifetime.

Since the Home accepts government funds, it can’t restrict its admissions. Elman said a small number of non-Jews live at the Jewish Home.

Bonnie Polishuk, the Home’s marketing director, said, “We don’t run statistics on such things, but the majority of our residents are Jewish.”

When Sullivan moved in, he was recovering from cancer surgery in which his entire stomach was removed. He could no longer live on his own.

Sullivan had a friend who, more than once, had served as his guardian angel. Rick Young, 65, was the last president of the former Temple Emet and past president of its successor congregation, Temple Kol Tikvah, both in Woodland Hills.

“I had no idea the Jewish Home took people who weren’t Jewish,” Young said. “But I checked, and they told me they did.”

Young met Sullivan through his youngest child, Stevan Kenji Sullivan, 40.

“Steve operates a computer service company,” Young said. “He came over once five years ago to fix my computer, and we’ve been friends ever since.”

Young, who describes himself as Sullivan’s “caretaker,” never had an opportunity to see his parents into old age: “My dad passed away at the age of 49, leaving my mom with three young boys, and then she died five years later at the age of 54, leaving us three boys at 17, 20 and 22 with no parents.”

After all 239 residents had settled into the new Joyce Eisenberg-Keefer Medical Center building, officers were chosen. Sullivan, a gregarious man, was elected president of the resident council on a unanimous vote.

“Once I said I was interested in the job, everyone else dropped out. Now I’m in my second term. I take care of the monthly meetings. Everybody treats me like a million dollars. It’s embarrassing,” he said.

At the Jewish Home, Sullivan can’t kiss babies like other politicians, but he has endeared himself to other residents through endless acts of kindness.

“I try to be nice to everybody. It’s a zoo here on Mother’s Day. You could get trampled. One resident, a woman, is blind. She was just standing there. She couldn’t move. I helped her up to her room. I like getting along with other people,” Sullivan said.

The more time Sullivan spent at the Jewish Home, “the more I became interested in Judaism. In time, I fell in love with it. I met some very, very nice Jewish people in the Home, so I was exposed to Judaism. I’m a curious man, and I studied with Rabbi Elman,” he said, referring to Grancell Village’s spiritual leader. “The more I studied, the more interested I got. This was the religion I had looked for my whole life.”

Sullivan was raised in a nondenominational Christian church in his hometown of Kansas City, Mo. “My father made me go to church. He went hunting and fishing with me, but he wouldn’t go to church. I always went alone. In time, I became friendly with the minister. I was baptized several times.”

But Sullivan’s quest did not end there. He married his late Japanese wife, Chiyo, and took a deep and abiding interest in her culture. Chiyo was a Presbyterian, but Sullivan pushed her toward her ancestral faith. She lasted only two years as a Buddhist, but Sullivan stayed with it for nearly 10 years. He had no intention of abandoning it when he moved into the Home.

Today, he will not enter or leave his room without reciting a Hebrew prayer.

“The Jewish Home has given him religion, given him life,” his friend Young explained. “He believes there’s no better way to say thank you than by becoming a Jew. He goes to services all the time, wears a yarmulke for most of the day. When he’s lying in bed he wears a yarmulke.”

Elman, a tall, stately Englishman, said Sullivan has a “powerful wish to be fully at home as a Jew.” Sullivan has “a contemplative nature,” Elman said, and continues to meditate, as he did when he was a Buddhist.

“Typically, when a Jew meditates, he recites the Shema,” Elman said.

At AJU, Sullivan joined Rabbi Arinna Moon at the edge of the mikveh’s outer pool, its holding tank, as she explained why the mikveh was filled with ice heated to 85 degrees and why this was kosher.

Stevan, wearing a chai, accompanied his father.

Behind closed doors, Sullivan removed his clothes and then immersed himself three times in the 4 1/2-feet-deep inner mikveh. He lowered his head into the water, then recited the Shema and the Shehecheyanu prayers, and Elman gave him his Hebrew name.

“I could have spent another day in there,” an exultant and newly Jewish Sullivan said. “You don’t know how happy I am.”

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Obituaries: November 27 – December 3, 2009

Robert Abrams died Sept. 24 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Sherri; daughter, Robyn (Cedric) Porter; son, Bryan (Ammy); four grandchildren; brother, Steven; and cousin. Mount Sinai

Florence Adickes died Sept. 6 at 96. Malinow and Silverman

Padma Aladjem died Sept. 28 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Frederick; daughter, Eva (Bill) Fraser-Harris; sons, David (Margaret Grayden) and Dan (Laurie); and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Leonard Bromberg died Sept. 26 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Dora; sons, David (Gail), Michael and Jon (Michelle); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Gabriel Cohen died Sept. 10 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Maria; and sons, Jose and Victor. Malinow and Silverman

Bruce Davis died Sept. 24 at 61. He is survived by his wife, Nancy; daughters, Stacie (Brian) George and Raquel (Scott) George; stepson, Tom Hedlund; stepdaughter, Danielle Hedlund; and six grandchildren. Hillside

Robert Drucker died Sept. 22 at 83. He is survived by his sister, Eleanor Guy; brother, Jerold P.; uncle; and nephew. Mount Sinai

Dena Efron died Sept. 3 at 101. She is survived by her daughter, Joanne Goldberg. Malinow and Silverman

Mildred Eisen died Sept. 4 at 89. She is survived by her son, Barry. Malinow and Silverman

Laura Bell Fine died Aug. 28 at 79. She is survived by her husband, David; daughters, Illona Gatto and Heidi (Chris) Berman; son, Rob (Lauri); and seven grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman 

Sally Fels died Sept. 5 at 95. She is survived by her sons, David, Alan (Paula) Kanter and Harvey (Jane) Kanter; and five grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Dorothy Fogel died Oct. 2 at 81. She is survived by her daughters, Fay Shapiro and Sheri (Joseph) Share; and one grandchild. Mount Sinai

Ghodsiem Fouladian died Aug. 30 at 93. She is survived by her husband, Said; daughter, Faredeh Mord; sons, Fred, Farmarsz and David; and seven grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Doris F. Gerber died Sept. 26 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Michael, Balfour and David (Melissa); two grandchildren; and sister, Lorna Barish. Mount Sinai

Esther Gold died Sept. 4 at 105. She is survived by her daughter, Ione Malang. Malinow and Silverman

Jeanette Goldstein died Sept. 28 at 97. She is survived by her daughters, Norma (David) Kemper and Gail (Walter) Kanowitz; brother, Sidney (Joy) Sharp; and one grandchild. Hillside

Benjamin Gordon died Oct. 2 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Florence; daughters, Shelley (Elliott) Kallick and Linda (Marvin) Lotz; son, Steven; six grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ernie Grossblatt died Oct. 1 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Joan; daughter, Debbie; sons, Randy (Teri) and Gary (Mary-Kay); five grandchildren; and brother, Morris (Gloria). Mount Sinai

Irving Harkavy died Oct. 1 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Shirley. Mount Sinai

Ruth Hassenberg died Sept. 29 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Barry and Manny Lee (Usa); and one grandchild. Mount Sinai

Sophie Hersh died Sept. 21 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Loretta (Henry) Selinger; son, Clifford (Dixie); and five grandchildren. Hillside

Morris Jacobs died Sept. 18 at 92. He is survived by his niece, Carol Lazarus. Hillside

Herbert Jaffe died Sept. 26 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Idelle; daughter, Gail (Earl) Mindell; sons, Randal (Rose-Lynn) and Grory (Beth); seven grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Sidney Walter Kahn died Sept. 27 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Roberta; daughters, Robin (Craig) Harrison and Abbe (Adam) Aron; nephew; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Estelle Kamrasch died Sept. 23 at 99. She is survived by her daughter, Simona (Richard) Wildman; three grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Monnie Kellet died Sept. 21 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Dory (Martin) Temple; son, Harry (Sharon) Lane; and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Robert Lessinger died Sept. 7 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Sharon; and brother, David. Malinow and Silverman

Barry A. Levine died Sept. 27 at 64. He is survived by his wife, Corazon; children, Julie (Jonathan) Beiser, Jaclyn, Jeremy, Jennifer, Jessica and Jamie; two grandchildren; and sister, Ronna (Ed) Fisher. Mount Sinai

Phyllis Levine died Sept. 29 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Arlene (Ed) Ladegaard; sons, Larry (Sippy) and Robert (Donna); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Regina Lewis died Sept. 26 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Kenneth (Sheryl), Ronald (Maureen Duffy) and Stuart (Shannon); and seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Harriet Lindauer died Sept. 27 at 62. She is survived by her husband, Tom; and sister, Sandy (Norman) Greenbaum. Mount Sinai

Ronald Harold Loney died Sept. 29 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Beverly; son, Michael (Cathiann); and two grandchildren. Hillside

Joseph Malin died Sept. 6 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; daughters, Rona Reeves, Mindy (Don) Ripley, Lisa (Steven Vargas) and Stephanie James; son, Michael (Joni); 10 grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Anita Margulius died Sept. 5 at 93. She is survived by her niece, Sandy Stein. Malinow and Silverman

Leona Meyerson died Sept. 1 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Barbara (David) Solomon; and son, Larry (Marjorie). Malinow and Silverman

Martin G. Moskovitz died Sept. 30 at 67. He is survived by his sister, Annette Silver; one niece; and two nephews. Mount Sinai

Morris William Pechet died Oct. 2 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Sherry; daughters, Roberta (Richard) Goldman, Patte Gilbert and Sandra Mandel; four grandchildren; and brother, Torchy (Orla). Mount Sinai

Florence Perelmuter died Sept. 21 at 92.  She is survived by her daughter, Lois Tanzman; son, Bruce; six grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and sister, Gladys Feldman. Mount Sinai

Joseph Pinto died Sept. 7 at 89. He is survived by his sons, Albert, Robert and David. Malinow and Silverman

Jeannette A. Pollock died Sept. 25 at 95. She is survived by four nieces; three nephews; and two sisters-in-law. Mount Sinai

Sarah Rene Schenasi died Sept. 25 at 78. She is survived by her brother, Joe (Patricia); two nephews; and friend, Shirlee (David) Peha. Hillside.

Eva Small died Sept. 19 at 97. She is survived by her son, David; and three grandchildren. Hillside.

Iris Rose Soskin died Sept. 20 at 96. She is survived by her daughter, Sharlene Yelin; three grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside.

Ellsworth Wilson died Sept. 27 at 88. He is survived by his daughter, Kathreen (Rick) Winchester; sons, David (Billie Cohen-Wilson) and William (Julie Golden); five grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Raymond (Cherry Joe). Mount Sinai

David Zemechman died Sept. 16 at 58. He is survived by his mother, Edith; brother, Edward (Lauren); niece; nephew; great-niece; and great-nephew. Mount Sinai

Martin W. Zolot died Sept. 21 at 86. He is survived by his daughter, Sandra (Layne) Fant; sons, Stanley and Louis; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

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