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March 14, 2008

How to throw a great party for less than $3,000

Live chamber music, canapes, games, photographs, food, food and more food, dances, drinks, sign-in card, table decorations, invitations, servers, flower arrangements, party favors and, of course, the appropriate clothing. The checklist for my oldest nephew’s bar mitzvah went on and on. So did the unbelievable cost estimates: $35,000 almost started to sound reasonable.

As the vendors called in with their “fantastic deals,” the look on my mother’s face went from elated — at the prospect of her first grandchild being a bar mitzvah — to sorrowful. We all wanted to give my nephew the bar mitzvah party to not just match but surpass all of the one’s he’d been invited to during the year.

Yet the family’s fortunes were not equal to the task. All we could scrimp together was $3,000. It could only have been divine inspiration that led us to the conclusion that this actually made the job of putting together a bar mitzvah to remember a lot easier than it seemed.

We didn’t have all that money to spend, so we didn’t have all those decisions to make, the vendors to argue with and the worries that so often attend the intricacies of event parties. For instance, since we could not afford to have colored lace tablecloths over contrasting table covers with matching napkins, we didn’t have them. We also didn’t have to spend the time, energy and, especially, the money to achieve these decorating wonders.

So knowing what we didn’t have, we set to thinking about what we did have: 200 guests were too many. We scrutinized and discussed and decided unanimously that this was to be a party for my nephew.

We were ruthless. We would not invite bosses, second cousins, divorced stepparents or people we would have invited just to be polite but knew they wouldn’t really want to come.

My nephew’s friends got priority, as did immediate family members. Since this family is quite small, this easily chopped the guest list in half.

The most costly item, which we could have done without, was the synagogue hall. Although we were advised to just go to a restaurant, there were none close by that served kosher food, so we were kind of stuck.

But as to food, our local friendly deli owner not only gave us a wonderful price on a buffet but also on wait staff.

With the hall, food and wait staff as the most expensive items, we were left with next to nothing with which to provide all those extras parents and kids have come to expect, like music, engraved invitations, menus and place cards.

It had worked the first time, so again we looked to ourselves as resources. We volunteered my sister, a member of a string ensemble, to provide music. She knew a couple of musicians who owed her, and all had been at enough weddings and b’nai mitzvahs that they knew what was expected. The whole process took some minor arm-twisting and guilt tripping, but what are sisters for?

Invitations and pretty much all printed matter — place cards, menus, even a giant sign-in card and some table decorations, vaguely reminiscent of the ones at the $35,000 parties — well, that’s where my talents came in. Give me a desktop publishing program, and I can move the world.

Actually, this did require a little help from a friend who had a paper cutter and was willing to do a whole lot of folding, measuring and envelope stuffing. We figured out everything we needed, from invitations to place cards, then designed them and printed them out. We did have to buy envelopes, but we had a little left over for that.

Flower arrangements were simple: just a few carnations in a small bowl of water. Tablecloths were plain white, and we supplemented the chamber music with a boombox, allowing the kids to pick the music they wanted to play.

All in all, it wasn’t slick; it wasn’t smooth, but the bar mitzvah boy said his haftarah flawlessly, and as for the rest of us, instead of being frenzied, we were proud because we had put this whole thing together for him.

Oh, and the reason we needed to spend such a small amount of money, well, that was because it was taken up by Dan’s surprise present from us: a trip to Israel. To this day, the party was a nice memory, but in his own words, “That trip taught me where God was.”

Anne Phyllis Pinzow is a script writer who makes her main living as a newspaper reporter and editor.

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L.A. displays eco efforts to Israeli delegation

While visiting from Israel last week, Gil Yaakov got a lesson in Los Angeles’ generosity.

“The city gives away free trees to residents, which is great in fighting air pollution and at the same time helps with shading and beautifying the city,” said Yaakov, director of Green Course, a student environmental organization in Tel Aviv.

He said that this concept of giving away green items, such as ultralow-flush toilets, energy-efficient refrigerators and energy-saving lightbulbs is unheard of in Israel.

“Israel can’t think in the long run,” added Sagit Rogenstein, national project director of Israel’s leading environmental nonprofit, Zalul. “They see such an investment as an extravagance, an unnecessary investment. We need to change this way of thinking. The [Department of Water and Power] (DWP) calculated that they have saved more money than they put into this project.”

Yaakov and Rogenstein arrived in Los Angeles on March 2 to address an awakening among American Jews to the environmental threats to Israel. The two were among a group of 18 academics, environmentalists and politicians participating in the Friends of Israel’s Environment exchange program.

The goal of the exchange, which is sponsored by the Tel Aviv-Los Angeles Partnership of The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles, is to share solutions for environmental problems that plague both cities, such as air pollution, wastewater treatment, recycling and planning green spaces.

For decades, environmental education and solutions were on the back burner of Israeli politics, but in the last few years, environmental projects have attracted some national attention in Israel. Recently, Israelis received monetary encouragement to recycle when trash fees were raised, and a clean air bill — something that passed in California 37 years ago — is now working its way through the Knesset.

However, Israel also has much to teach Los Angeles about water issues. The country is both the birthplace of drip irrigation and home to the world’s largest desalination plant.

Last week, the Israeli group met with officials from the DWP, as well as city planners and developers who use green building techniques. A Thursday visit to Warner Bros. demonstrated how businesses can save money while thinking green.

Shelly Levin Billik, the Burbank studio’s manager of recycling and environmental resources, has recruited a recycling crew; designed waste prevention, reuse/donation and recycling programs, and changed over to energy-efficient light fixtures.

“Our energy program began in 2002, and we now save over 9 million kilowatt hours of energy and over $1 million through conservation annually,” Billik said. “We are also investing in clean renewable energy through carbon-offsetting and the construction of a 72-kilowatt solar power project.”

Warner Bros. also operates the first green building in the entertainment industry.

Tami Gavrieli, head of the Strategic Planning Department in Tel Aviv, hopes to adopt the similar construction methods in Tel Aviv.

“The materials used in green buildings are not cheap,” she said, “but in the long run, these green buildings save a lot in energy. It has great insulation, and reduces the need to use air conditioners and heaters. We are building our new offices in the Tel Aviv Municipal Building using these methods.”

Gavrieli hopes to see more developers in Israel using green building materials.

“I’m going to stay in touch with people I met here, and we’ll get new ideas how to promote green building in Tel Aviv,” she said.

While Gavrieli believes Tel Aviv has a lot to learn from Los Angeles, she said Angelenos don’t know enough when it comes to water conservation.

“We use our wastewater, after it goes through a cleaning process, for agricultural purposes,” Gavrieli said. “People here don’t have much awareness of these things. Maybe because we have such serious water problems in Israel we are more conscious of them, and we are more advanced in preserving water in any way we can.”

While the environmental situation in Israel has improved somewhat with new laws and fines, Zalul’s Rogenstein is worried that Israel still has a long way to go until it fully adopts all environmental issues and acts upon them.

“Everything in Israel takes time to happen,” said Rogenstein, a Valley native who made aliyah a decade ago. “You know, like the laws to ban smoking in public places. It is years since this law was instigated in L.A., and in Israel it was only passed recently.”

She said that the Al Gore environmental documentary, “An Inconvenient Truth,” has caught the attention of Israelis.

“They are more aware of the importance of recycling, of global warming, of energy conservation, using solar energy and so on,” she noted. “So, I’m hopeful that we’ll catch up with the green wave, sooner, rather than later.”

Evan J. Kaizer, past president of Friends of Israel’s Environment and committee chair for the exchange, said he is pleased with the visit and looks forward to the Los Angeles delegation’s visit later this year.

“We share the same problems like Tel Aviv, and we can learn how they are fighting for the same open spaces like we do, and we can learn a lot from their city planners,” he said.

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Obituaries

Vera Alkalaj died Feb. 5 at 86. She is survived by her son, Leon (Lea Glitman) Alkalai; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Belle Barnett died Feb. 3 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Harold; son, Stuart (Carole); daughters, Leslie and Robin; four grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Al (Betsy) Green. Hillside

Marion Belzer died Jan. 31 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra Mandrick; son, Elliot; nephew, Scott Simon; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Beatrice Block died Feb. 9 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Howard; daughter, Allison; and son, Mark. Malinow and Silverman

Harold Bregman died Feb.6 at 87. He is survived by his daughter, Cheryl Gootnick; son, Mark (Susan Keller); and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman.

Marion Burkow died Feb. 8 at 81. She is survived by her children, Michael (Caryn), Stuart, Elaine and Richard (Linda); three grandsons; and sister, Rachel (Sonny) Wagenberg. Mount Sinai

James Cohen died Feb. 10 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Lu; nieces; and nephews. Malinow and Silverman

Norman Cohen died Feb. 9. He is survived by his wife, Emma; sons, Steven (Karen), Michael (Ronnie), Robert (Alison) and Ronald (Pam); former daughter-in-law, Judy; 16 grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Eden

William Cohen died Jan. 31 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Rose; son, Dr. Ronald A. (Tamar); daughter, Joni; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Irving Drell died Jan. 16 at age 86. He is survived by his wife, Beverly; son, Michael; daughter-in-law, Mary; and grandchildren, Stephanie and Trevor.

Sonia Fenster died Feb. 5 at 94. She is survived by her son, Stephen (Sheila); daughter, Susan (Donald); brother, Henry (Rozie); seven grandchildren; and 14 great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Pearl Frank died Feb. 6 at 76. She is survived by her husband, Gilbert; daughter, Cathy (Cari); sons, Douglas (Andrea) and Glenn; granddaughters, Emma and Sydney; and sister, Rissa Drucker. Hillside

Robert Reuben Garnet died Feb. 4 at 91. He is survived by his sons, Michael and Cary. Hillside

Richard Glatstein died Jan. 29 at 71. He is survived by his sisters, Francene Lifson, Harriet Simon and Shirlee (Phil) Friedman; brother, Sherwin (Karen); and niece, Byrdie. Mount Sinai

Edna Goldberg died Feb. 4 at 91. She is survived by her son, Lewis; sister, Pearl Winard; nephew, Steve Winard; and niece, Bobbi (Joel) Scherr. Mount Sinai

Fredka Goodrich died Feb.7 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Jeff (Linda), Michael (Shari) and Harvey; and seven grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman.

Roselyn Gordon died Feb. 8 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Marsha (Donald) Everett and Fran (Kevin) Urtz; son, David (Marcia) ; and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Nettie Granik died Feb.4 at 91. She is survived by her son-in-law, John Cherep; and one grandson. Malinow and Silverman.

Harry Greenspan died Feb.5 at 87. He is survived by his son, Richard (Maxine). Malinow and Silverman.

Helen Heller died Feb.7 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Marsha (Neil) Estrin. Malinow and Silverman.

Erica Jacobs died Feb. 11 at 96. She is survived by her daughter, Colette Elkind. Malinow and Silverman

Edward Jay Janov died Feb. 3 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Maria; daughter, Jessica (William) Tropp, son, Jay (Heather); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Rose Jukam died Feb. 8 at 76. She is survived by her husband, Wendell; son, Michael; and daughter, Lori. Hillside

Marvin Kaminsky died Feb. 10 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Ellen; son, Randall (Marcia); daughter, Donna (Edward) Peters; 10 grandchildren; brother, Samuel (Arlene); and sister, Mary (Van) Ulrich. Mount Sinai

Bruno Katz died Feb. 4 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Margot; sons, Andrew and Robert; and daughter, Suzanne Miller. Hillside

Joseph Katz died Feb. 11 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Marlene; son, Howard (Karen); daughter, Susan (Larry) Wolfe; four grandchildren; and one great-grandson. Mount Sinai

Mickey “Muriel” Knazik died Feb. 5 at the age of 75. She is survived by her daughter, Sheri Knazik-Abbott; and granddaughter, Lindsey. Mount Sinai

Leon Krasner died Feb. 6 at 92. She is survived by her sons, Stanley and Stuart (Jan); and brother, Sol (Phyllis). Mount Sinai

Lucille Valley Kurtin died Dec. 29 at 80. She is survived by her sons, Paul, Jon and Todd; daughter, Eve; and five grandchildren. Groman

Helen Kurtz died Feb. 4 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Carol (Jack Nicholl); grandsons, Jessie Kurtz-Nicholl, and Corey Nicholl; and friends, Mercedes and Marmen Martinez. Mount Sinai

Edie Lee died Jan. 31 at 90. She is survived by her son, Martin (Marilyn); daughter, Linda Berger-Soland; three grandchildren; and sister, Marsha Liban. Mount Sinai

Hazel Levenson died Feb. 3 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Maurice; sons, Les (Dedra) and Lee; daughters, Janie (Marshall) Stein and Terri Sapp; grandchildren; great- grandchildren; and brother, Seymour (Marilyn) Herron. Mount Sinai

Dr. Marvin Levin died Feb. 10 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Helen; daughter, Donna (Gary) Weyman; three grandchildren; sister, Lorraine Frankel; and nieces, Judy and Linda Frankel. Mount Sinai

Gerald Bernard Linzer died Feb. 1, at 76. He is survived by his brother, Steve; and many friends. Hillside

Dr. Bruce Nadler died Feb.2 at 61. He is survived by his son, Brett. Malinow and Silverman.

Max Odrezin died Feb. 7 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Laurie. Mount Sinai

Edney Parpari died Feb. 9 at 80. He is survived by his daughters, Julie Northington and Elana Propst. Malinow and Silverman

Ina Mae Portney died Feb. 7 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Joseph; sons, Philip and Jeffrey; brother, Lester Leibson; and sister-in-law, Elaine Adler. Mount Sinai

Herbert Rosenblum died Feb. 2 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Linda; daughter, Meredith; son, Brian; and sister, Rosalinde (Jerry) Dermer. Malinow and Silverman.

Ruth Rothschild died Feb. 9 at 88. She is survived by her son, Stan (Helen) Gersh; five grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

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Nazi in the hot tub, free speech and radical Islam, Obama, Rove

Sabeel Conference

StandWithUs and American Jewish Congress (AJCongress) attended the All Saints Sabeel Conference (Letters, March 7). Rabbis [Steven] Jacobs and [Haim Dov] Beliak got basic facts wrong and grossly mischaracterized the event. The rabbis should not defend Sabeel and attack those who have raised red flags about Sabeel’s objectives and views.

Contrary to the rabbis’ claims, speakers did not advocate a two-state solution. The Rev. Ateek said he “didn’t care” if there were one or two states and elsewhere has repeatedly said one state is the “ideal.”

The conference’s Jewish anti-Zionist speakers, Gabriel Piterberg, Anna Baltzer and Marcy Winograd, all directly or indirectly advocated a one-state solution, which would mean an end to the Jewish state. When Winograd called for one secular state, she got a standing ovation.

These “moderates” twisted history beyond recognition, erased all context for Israel’s self-defense and exaggerated or lied about Israel’s current counterterrorism measures.

Speakers claimed that Palestinians are engaged in “nonviolence,” ignoring the wars and terrorism Israel faces and has faced for 60 years.

Their claim to nonviolence is deceptive. Despite their calm voices, their demonizing narrative is violent and an incitement for physical violence against Israelis.

The rabbis minimized the significance of Sabeel equating Palestinians and Jesus, but such deicide imagery has driven anti-Semitism and pogroms for centuries and gives further justification for Palestinian violence.

How could this event lead the rabbis to believe Sabeel promotes dialogue or to praise them while condemning those who seek fairness and balance? The Sabeel Conference imported the disfiguring propaganda of Arab anti-Israel radicalism into a Los Angeles church.

Mainline Christian support for these views will only inflame the Palestinian extremism at the heart of this ongoing conflict. The Rev. Bacon’s high praise of the Rev Ateek is a betrayal of Christian-Jewish friendship.

Roberta Seid
Education Director
Roz Rothstein
CEO
StandWithUs;
Gary Ratner
Western Regional Director
American Jewish Congress

Free Speech

Flemming Rose’s passionate appeal is fine as far as it goes, but let us Jews not be so smug about the ways our own fundamentalists disparage principles of free speech (“Free Speech and Radical Islam,” Feb. 29).

Last June, the gay pride movement tried to organize a march in Jerusalem that had to be canceled because of threats of violence from the Haredi community. In fact, the year before, a Haredi fanatic stabbed a gay demonstrator with a knife, who barely survived. It was a fanatical Haredi who assassinated Yitzhak Rabin, permanently depriving him of his free speech.

Women who exercise their free speech rights to dress as they wish, pray at the Western Wall or even to sit on buses on certain routes through Jerusalem are beaten, stoned or mauled. And when the Orthodox rabbinate in Israel legally dominates all family rites, such as marriage and funerals, the free speech of every other variety of Jew (secular, Reform, Conservative, etc.) is severely abridged.

So it is not just the fanatics but the very State of Israel that actively suppresses its citizens’ speech and rights.

The problem is not with certain religions or certain cultures but with fundamentalism and fanaticism and their enablers, wherever these excesses occur.

We Jews are not immune.

Eric A. Gordon
Director
The Workmen’s Circle/Arbeter Ring
Southern California District

‘Off-the-Handle’ E-mails

Though I am certain you will not publish this letter, as it is obviously not politically correct, I write to you nonetheless in the hope that those of you in decision-making positions will reevaluate the responsibility you carry as Los Angeles’ only Jewish newspaper.

How ironic that on your online discussion page you sanctimoniously disapprove of lashon hara (slander), yet when it comes to big news, it’s your duty to report it. A case in point is the article written about Rabbi Shlomo Schwartz (“Chai Center Rabbi Explains ‘Off-the-Handle’ E-mails,” Feb. 15). It is nothing less than character assassination.

Yet, alas, you are the only game in town for someone looking for local Jewish news. If editorially, as well as with news reporting, you would begin to present balanced news relevant and sensitive to all branches of Judaism, based upon the demographics of the L.A. Jewish population, many more would look forward to each issue, and you might really become what I sense you would like to be called: Los Angeles’ Jewish newspaper.

Yehuda Frischman
Los Angeles

Karl Rove

I thought your article was accurate on the experience of listening to Karl Rove (“Karl Rove Lecture Spins Crowd Animosity to Admiration,” Feb. 29).

I support the university in its wisdom to present speakers who are controversial.

The evening was fascinating, informative, and Rabbi [Robert] Wexler did a masterful job. I left thinking only how sad it is that a man like Karl Rove, with his brilliance and passion, does not choose to use his obvious abilities to make positive changes in the world.

Lynne Silbert
via E-mail

I fervently support American Jewish University and Gady Levy’s fine work, but hosting Karl Rove was a bad decision.

Rove is brilliant. He is also immoral, even for a politico. His tactics include spreading rumors that former Texas Gov. Ann Richards was a lesbian and that Sen. John McCain revealed intelligence to his North Vietnamese captors.

But I will remember him best as the master strategist of the wedge issue and the attack ad and withholding national Republican campaign dollars from local candidates who refused to follow him into the gutter.

Rove has consistently embodied a classic maxim of evil: The ends justify the means.

Thanks to Rove and former Rep. Tom Delay (R-Texas), our political culture is at its lowest point since Watergate. Principled Republicans who love their party and patriotic Americans who love their democracy would never give him a platform.

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Broad’s $45 million theater complex to open

Broad-way Comes to Santa Monica

There’s a new theater nearing completion on Santa Monica Boulevard that’s promising patrons they’ll never have to drive east of the 405 for high culture again. The Broad Stage of Santa Monica College, a $45 million dream project conceived at a dinner table nine years ago, is set to open Sept. 20 for its inaugural season. Community supporters attended a March 6 brunch announcing big news: Eli and Edythe Broad’s $10 million endowment for future programming and arts education.

Hollywood actors and arts mavens mingled during a mid-morning gathering that offered hard-hat tours of the stage, which is currently under construction.

The Broad Stage’s aim to become a “global” theater with world-class acts not only applies to performances. The state-of-the-art venue is bedecked in Italian marble and fully renewable Honduran mahogany wood, and architect Renzo Zecchetto designed the structure for cross-ventilation cooling, using winds from the Pacific.

The adjacent black-box style theater, dubbed, “The Edye,” will be dedicated to new and experimental works.

Before issuing gushy remarks about the nobility of Los Angeles as “one of the four major cultural capitals in the world,” the Broads and Dustin Hoffman (photo, above) were paparazzoed long enough that Hoffman took a cue from President Bush and broke out in spontaneous dance.

Actors James Cromwell and Charles Durning, as well as L.A. County Supervisor Zev Yaroslavsky were on hand for the launch presided over by artistic director Dale Franzen, opera singer-cum-educator, who said, “The arts is about defining, challenging, questioning what it is to be human.”

It’s a question the Broads are donating oodles of money to answer. After making a $50 million donation, they recently opened The Broad Contemporary Art Museum (“BCAM”) at LACMA. It’s tempting to say they are single-handedly expanding the cultural cityscape of Los Angeles. And still, they give.

Perhaps because there’s something sacred about the arts, or as Hoffman put it, “The theater, for me, has always been a temple.”

Kashrut in Wine Country

Judy Zeidler, Marvin Zeidler
To life! To food! To wine! Cookbook author and Journal contributer Judy Zeidler and her restaurateur husband, Marvin, prepared a six-course feast worthy of royalty at the Quixote Winery’s L’Chaim Lunch on Feb. 10.

The lunch was a featured auction item at the 2007 L’Chaim Napa Valley Jewish Vintner’s Celebration, a three-day annual event feting the contributions of Jewish vintners in Napa as well as a fundraiser. Monty and Sara Preiser of Florida were the lucky bidders treated to gourgeres, onion-anchovy pizza, homemade oven-baked potato chips and risotto drizzled with Quixote’s petite syrah.

Young WIZO Helps Battered Israeli Women

wizo fundraiser photo
Young professionals at Young WIZO of Los Angeles’ “Have a Heart” fundraiser and mixer gravitated toward an unlikely attraction: a tarot card reader. Founded in 2005, the group is a subset of the Women’s International Zionist Organization, which raises funds for battered women and children in Israel. With the help of 250,000 members worldwide, the organization is donating money to build shelters and schools in Israel.

The mixer at Stone Fire Pizza Co. drew 80 guests on Feb. 20 and raised $1,700 for its cause. In between munching mouth-watering pizzas and mingling, Jessica Davis administered tarot card readings with a world religion theme.

Board member Sabrina Wizman-Zamel also pondered the future: “If young people don’t get involved, Young WIZO might fade away,” she said. “We need to keep the legacy going to support shelters in Israel for women and children who need the money.”

— Celia Soudry, Contributing Writer

Men Behaving Badly?

Simon Etehad, Dennis Prager, Rabbi Shumley Boteach
Nessah Board member Simon Etehad, Dennis Prager, Rabbi Shumley Boteach. Photo by Karmel Melamed

Young Iranian Jews packed the main sanctuary at Nessah Synagogue to hear Rabbi Shmuley Boteach and Dennis Prager debate what’s wrong with modern men. The talk, inspired by Boteach’s latest book, “The Broken American Male: And How to Fix Him,” pondered the lack of emotional attachment American men have for their spouses and children. The topic roused heated debate, which you can hear more about in this podcast by Karmel Melamed.

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Briefs: AJCommittee lobbies Sacramento for fuel efficiency; West Coast Service Corps helps others

Delegation Speaks With Legislature About Fuel Efficiency

As prices at the pump continue their march toward $4 a gallon, about 40 members of the American Jewish Committee (AJCommittee) traveled to Sacramento last week to discuss reducing fossil-fuel consumption to slow climate change and reduce dependence on foreign oil.

“Over a Barrel?” program attendees from AJCommittee’s Los Angeles, Orange County, San Diego and San Francisco chapters heard Sunday, March 2, from keynote speaker R. James Woolsey, former director of Central Intelligence Agency, and Robert Hertzberg, former speaker of the California Assembly. While Woolsey focused on the risks to American security caused by dependence on foreign oil, Hertzberg talked about possible legislation that would encourage the use of renewable energy and ways to lobby the Legislature.

“I wanted to give them the nuts and bolts, the strategy, of how we get to the goal,” said Hertzberg, now an environmental entrepreneur and a partner at the law firm Mayer Brown. “When you are in a situation like this, it is not about being right, about being correct, but it is about moving toward a common goal between right and left.

“When you talk about nuclear energy it upsets Democrats; when you talk about carbon taxes, it upsets Republicans. But there are a lot of ideas where there is common ground,” he said.

Joined by members of the Legislature and Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger’s staff, the delegation spent the following day discussing the implementation of California’s energy standards and fuel alternatives in a state notorious for its freeways. The group also met with 21 legislators, including the Senate majority and minority leaders, and urged lower oil consumption.

“We are putting our economy at serious risk as the price of oil continues to rise, and we are putting our security at serious risk because we are literally funding the war on terror from both sides,” said AJCommittee spokesman Eli Lipmen. “The goal was to really raise our profile on this issue, to encourage the state to implement some particular programs and focus not just on reducing our greenhouse gas emissions, which they are really good about, but coupling that with reducing our dependence on foreign oil.”

Energy independence is the only thing the Jewish community is in near unanimous agreement about the importance of, and for several years, AJCommittee has been a leading advocate. In 2006, the organization offered bonus checks to employees who purchased fuel-efficient vehicles and asked rabbis to connect the story of Chanukah with a campaign to reduce energy consumption, from replacing SUVs to using CFLs.

“This,” said Hertzberg, who has long been involved with AJC, “is the issue that is going to define our generation.

— Brad A. Greenberg, Senior Writer

Yeshiva University Students Spend Break Doing Community Service

A group of 26 Yeshiva University students, including two Angelenos, spent their winter break putting their Jewish values to work doing community service Jan. 13-20.

Melissa Stieglitz, a first-year Yeshiva University student, distributed food and orange juice at Los Angeles’ Midnight Mission in “Jewish Life Coast to Coast: West Coast Service Corps,” a community service project funded by the Charles and Lynn Schusterman Family Foundation. Participants spent the morning serving breakfast to more than 550 homeless men and women at the mission, which is the oldest soup kitchen in Los Angeles.

Another L.A. native traveled to Baan Kamklanga, a village in Thailand, through a program developed by the American Jewish World Service. While there, students lived alongside the natives, slept on straw mats in huts and helped build the foundation for a single-room school.

— Celia Soudry, Contributing Writer

Special-Needs Camp Honors Community Member

Etta Israel, a mid-Wilshire nonprofit organization for people with special needs, is renaming its summer camp in honor of the late Jack Gindi, renowned community leader and philanthropist.

The Etta Israel Center’s Gindi Family Camp, held at the YULA girls high school campus, incorporates traditional camp elements with therapeutic components to meet the needs of campers with developmental disabilities. The camp will expand its range of activities and programs, including elementary school-age and teenage divisions, through the continued support of the Gindi family.

Camp registration is currently open. For more information call, (818) 985-3882, ext. 225.

— Celia Soudry

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Will ‘Bro Mitzvah’ find roots in African American community?

Decked out in a black tuxedo, a brimmed hat set fashionably on his head, Douglas LeVandia Ulmer Jr., better known as DJ, walked down the aisle to the beat of two African drummers.

This was the night of his 16th birthday, and his mother, Lillie Hill, was celebrating his coming of age as an extraordinary black young adult with what she dubbed a “bro mitzvah.”

Hill knew that 16 marked a turning point in DJ’s life. And while she had looked into several African rites of passage, she believed the Jewish bar mitzvah ceremony, with its emphasis on family heritage and good deeds, gave her the best blueprint to validate her son’s dedication to family, school, community and church and to pass on her family’s values of education, worship and social outreach.

“This was a way to give him a stepping stone to build upon as he crosses into his adult life,” said Hill, who grew up as the youngest of 10 children in rural Indianola, Miss., and is a trained social worker who is currently teaching.

At the black-tie celebration, held last July at the West Palm Beach Marriott in Palm Beach, Fla., with about 45 people in attendance, DJ was embraced by his grandmother, mother and three sets of aunts and uncles from his extended family. They spoke lovingly of his hard work at Palm Beach Lakes High School, his mentoring of youngsters through the Children’s Coalition and his youth group work at SunCoast Church of Christ in Lake Worth. DJ’s father, Palm Beach County firefighter Douglas Ulmer, had died almost two years earlier.

A church elder, Lowrie Simon, presented DJ with his own Kente cloth, a colorful woven stole depicting his African and slave heritage as well as his family’s now predominant professions in education and psychology. Mayor Thomas Masters of nearby Riviera Beach gave the keynote talk, focusing on the troubled fate of many African American young men.

“It was very emotional; my family doing something so special,” DJ said.

Hill believed that she had created the bro mitzvah herself, learning only later of the Disney Channel’s 2006 episode of “That’s So Raven,” in which Corey finagles a bro mitzvah at the Chill Grill for the monetary rewards. Later in the episode, Corey reconsiders his motives, donating the gifts to charity.

And just last October, unaware of Corey’s fictional bro mitzvah and DJ’s real one, Paul Marx, professor emeritus of English at the University of New Haven and author of “Utopia in America” (Burke Publishing, 2002), wrote an opinion piece in the New York Jewish newsweekly, The Forward, advocating a ritual for 13-year-old black inner-city youths that could help steer them away from gang life.

Purposely refraining from calling it a black bar mitzvah, Marx suggested the ceremony be held during Kwanzaa and fall under the Kwanzaan principle of kuumba.

“Its principle is that blacks should do as much as they can to leave their community more beautiful and beneficial than they inherited it,” he wrote.

He envisioned a ceremony encompassing a serious initiation in which boys would cross a symbolic chalk line and take a vow committing themselves to certain ways of behaving. There would also be plentiful gift giving.

Marx didn’t receive his hoped-for response, but he said he is inclined to try again.

General guidelines for throwing a bro mitzvah are readily available on eHow.com, but most people are unaware of the ceremony, and it remains rare, at best.

And while Jews and non-Jews alike laud the bar mitzvah as a powerful ritual in which the Jewish community stops and takes stock of its youngsters at a crucial juncture in their lives, both Jewish and African American educators question whether a ritual can successfully be adapted from one religion or culture to another.

“I think it’s very tricky,” said Julie Batz, director of programs for Jewish Milestones, a nonprofit that serves as a community resource for San Francisco Bay Area Jews preparing for life-cycle rituals.

Batz believes that the essence of a bar mitzvah as a rite of passage — an exploration of identity; a connection to heritage; an intellectual, spiritual or physical challenge, and a gathering of witnesses — is transferable.

“But when you get to the specifics, when somebody’s studying Jewish texts or learning to lain [read] Torah, I think that doesn’t translate, and it’s difficult cross-culturally,” she said.

But everyone agrees that there is a definite need for a rite of passage ceremony in the African American community.

“The whole concept of black manhood has been kind of devalued. We have racism on one side and lack of self-valuation and self-affirmation on the other side,” said Yitz Jordan, otherwise known as Y-Love, the black Chasidic hip-hop artist whose debut album, “This Is Babylon,” was released March 1.

Jordan, who knew from age 7 he wanted to be Jewish and who underwent an Orthodox conversion almost 10 years ago at age 20, pointed out that becoming a bar mitzvah, a son of the commandments, is actually a universal concept.

Jordan bases his statement on the Noahide Laws in Genesis, which, advocating such commandments as don’t kill and don’t steal, form the basic building blocks of morality and which are applicable to all humanity.

“According to commentaries in the Talmud, the nations of the world are commanded to do this when they’re 13, so really there is no cultural misappropriation,” he said, after checking with authorities at Brooklyn’s Yeshiva Darkei Noam.

But others, such as Maulana Karenga, professor of black studies at Cal State Long Beach and creator of the pan-African holiday, Kwanzaa, feel strongly that the ritual should come from within the African culture. “There are literally hundreds of rites of passage for young black men around the country,” he wrote in an e-mail exchange.

Karenga, whose Organization Us created Majando, a rite of passage model used by various churches and institutions across the United States, favors rituals that don’t deal with real or imagined pathology but rather address the ancient motive of transforming boys into men.

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Identity and connection spur more adult b’nai mitzvah

Norma Glickman wanted to make her own Jewish identity more meaningful. Her husband had studied to become an adult bar mitzvah, and after his death, she felt it would be a tribute to him to follow his example and become a bat mitzvah. When Glickman, 79, completed her study at Temple Emanuel, she wanted her granddaughter, Springsong, to share the experience.

Glickman describes her daughter, Carmella, and her non-Jewish son-in-law as “hippies who live in a cabin” in Republic, a tiny community in northern Washington state some four hours from the closest Jewish community in Spokane. Glickman arranged for Springsong to come to Los Angeles to study for her own bat mitzvah and attend Camp Alonim at Brandeis-Bardin Institute. Her granddaughter now goes by the name Shira.

Touting the success of her efforts, Glickman said, “I’m no longer Grandma; I’m Savta.”

The reasons why milifers and seniors have gravitated to adult b’nai mitzvah programs since the trend first took off in the 1970s are numerous, including the fact that most women didn’t have such ceremonies until the 1980s (the first bat mitzvah was held in 1922). One perennial influence is a child or grandchild reaching b’nai mitzvah age, and the divergent issues brought about by intermarriage can sometimes compel one or more adults in a family to take on b’nai mitzvah study to serve as a role model.

Gone are the days when marrying outside of the Jewish community was so rare that Tevye the Milkman could simply consider his daughter, Chava, dead and wash his hands of the situation. If Tevye lived in 21st century America, he might have seen his non-Jewish son-in-law, Fyedka, convert and become a bar mitzvah.

“Interfaith families [are] the fastest growing segment of the American Jewish population, numbering some 1 million families,” said Rabbi Kerry Olitzky of the Interfaith Outreach Institute.

More than one-third of all U.S. Jews have intermarried, according to a 2006 study by the American Jewish Committee (AJCommittee), producing 1.5 million children in mixed-faith homes.

Brandeis University sociologist Sylvia Barack Fishman, the AJCommittee study’s author, found that that less than 20 percent of non-Jewish spouses convert to Judaism. Among those who do convert, 30 percent pass ambivalence and mixed feelings about their adopted faith on to their children.

As the community wrestles with the questions of how to preserve and pass on Jewish identity in the face of intermarriage, a frequent answer is greater education.

Grandparents, like Glickman, will sometimes step in to guide the Jewish education of grandchildren of interfaith families if the parents decline to take a proactive role.

“Grandparents have a unique responsibility and opportunity to serve as role models,” said Rabbi Steven Carr Reuben of Kehillat Israel in Pacific Palisades, “and it is therefore not surprising that many involve themselves in passing on their Jewish identity to their interfaith grandchildren.”

Still, most Jewish movements would like to reach interfaith parents, especially considering that only 15 percent belong to a synagogue, according to Olitzky.

Rabbi Jerome Epstein, United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism’s executive vice president, feels that b’nai mitzvah can play an important role in educating interfaith families, especially children, once they are involved in synagogue life.

“If they are involved in religious education and observe some mitzvot and have a bar or bat mitzvah, I have a chance of educating them, and we want to help them grow,” he said in an interview with The Jewish Week.

Cantor Jay Frailich of University Synagogue in Brentwood said that when children of interfaith families are raised Jewish, the non-Jewish parents often want to know what their children are doing. “Such parents often have a feeling of inadequacy and seek a sense of participation so that they can feel more included,” he said.

Growing up in Stockholm, Annika Krasney, 51, knew very little about Judaism prior to her marriage to her husband, Robert. Before the wedding, she studied the religion at a Reform synagogue in Los Angeles.

“One thing led to another,” she said, and she decided to convert.

When she told her parents that she was planning to marry a Jew, “they were surprised and initially taken aback,” she said.

Her parents came around before the wedding, even making contact with a synagogue in Stockholm and arranging for a traditional Jewish ceremony.

The Krasneys now have two teenage sons, who encouraged their mother to study along with them when it came time for their bar mitzvahs. The study inspired her to take classes and become a bat mitzvah; her parents flew to Los Angeles for the ceremony.

Children raised in interfaith families can also inspire Jewish parents to take a more proactive approach to their faith.

Helene Morgan, 51, rebelled against her Judaism while growing up in Pittsburgh. Her husband, Tom, is Protestant, and after they had children, the couple wanted to bring them up in both religions.

“That didn’t work” she said, “because they got a lot of different holidays but no foundation of belief … they got a little of everything but ultimately they got nothing.”

Her husband grew up in a family that was not particularly religious, and since Judaism “resonated” with him, they decided to raise the children as Jews.

The Morgans joined Wilshire Boulevard Temple and enrolled in classes, with the parents and children taking separate courses: “We’d all be together as a family but doing different things.”

Her daughter, Dana, now 18, embraced Judaism enthusiastically and literally begged her parents to take her to Shabbat services. The example influenced Helene Morgan to study for her bat mitzvah.

Meanwhile, her husband has decided to convert, and the couple plans to renew their vows in October on their 25th wedding anniversary by holding the Jewish ceremony they never had.

“It will be a momentous occasion,” Helene Morgan said.

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Advertise joys of Judaism to others during simcha

Bar mitzvah audiences are no longer what they used to be. No more the simple Saturday morning minyan — a tight cluster of worshippers — who halfway through the service are thinking of the pickled herring and egg salad to follow. Today in many synagogues, the ceremony has all the excitement of the UCLA-USC football game, followed by a groaning banquet table. And the religious demographics are closer to UCLA-USC than Hebrew U.-Brandeis.

It is an interfaith moment, so to speak: A wonderful opportunity to display our theological wares. Today, by the time the frenzied parents have satisfied their social obligations, they’ve included beside relatives, co-workers, the child’s friends and family members — some of whom worship on Sunday, not Saturday.

Given the condition of Judaism in 2008, a bar mitzvah is an ecumenical stew. It’s not only the non-Jews who wonder about the significance and meaning of the ceremony, but even some of our fellow Israelites stare with wonder and, sometimes, awe.

That’s why a booklet of origins, explanations and exegesis is useful. Not only does it highlight the mechanics of the ceremony, but with a touch of subtlety, as well as modesty, it allows us to point out the contributions of Judaism to the overwhelming Christian culture in which we live — a contribution unknown to most of our fellow Jews as well as their non-Jewish friends.

From the world of entertainment to Nobel Prize-winners and from Hollywood to MIT, disproportionately you find the Jew. It is one of history’s puzzling enigmas — there are more Brazilians than Jews, but Brazilians rarely make the headlines.

Although the bar mitzvah booklet cannot explain this mystery, it can, via a description of the ceremony and history, educate and advertise the joys of Judaism, an opportunity we shouldn’t miss. It helps to remind the world that for better or worse, politically correct or not, God has chosen us to carry the light out of Zion.

In addition to a brief history of the Jews, the booklet should go something like this:

Introduction

The ceremony that we will witness today marks the passage of a Jewish girl or boy from childhood into adulthood. From this day on, he is ethically, morally responsible for his behavior — literally, a son or daughter of the commandments. Contrary to the common wisdom, our Bible is jammed with 603 commandments, in addition to the familiar 10.

The youth undertakes a heavy obligation: These commandments, dealing with every aspect of behavior, make the point that Judaism is a creed of deeds that are more important than faith, more important than prayer.

We realize that some of our friends, both Jewish and Christian, may never have attended a bar mitzvah ceremony, therefore we offer this guide to the morning’s activities. It’s full of tradition and still the foundation of our Judeo-Christian culture.

The Service

The bar mitzvah ceremony usually takes place within the setting of the normal Saturday morning Shabbat service, which consists of traditional prayers that go back centuries. The highlight of the Saturday ceremony — the highlight of every service where the Torah, the Five Books of Moses, is read — is the removal of the sacred scroll from its draped alcove.

The Torah is carried by the rabbi or a congregation member around the aisles of the synagogue as the worshippers sing a joyful song of praise and thanksgiving. Congregants crowd around “The Law” to kiss it, to touch it with their prayer shawl or their prayer book. This exuberant procession is also a sign that the bar or bat mitzvah, who has thus far been in the wings, is ready for the spotlight.

After the appropriate blessings, the honoree will read directly from the Torah scroll. Not a simple task even to a student of Hebrew, because the ancient lettering has no vowels.

Besides the Torah chanting, the child — after a blessing — sings a passage from the haftarah, the prophetic section of the Bible. The haftarah is the home of Isaiah, Jeremiah, Micah, Amos and company, who spoke for justice and care for the downtrodden before it was politically popular. After all, it was an era where swords beat love at every encounter.

The bar mitzvah child follows his haftarah performance with yet another tuneful blessing. The challenge of the day, you see, is musical as well as scholarly.

Then finally, after deciphering and reciting passages from a 3,500-year-old language and delivering the equivalent of three arias from “Il Trovatore,” you’d think our young student could take a bow. Not yet.

He must then present an exegesis on the Torah and haftarah he has just chanted.

When he completes this final task, there’s no applause, but everybody grins and relaxes. Once the bar mitzvah child finishes his speech, the normal services are resumed.

Our Blessing

Luckily, we live in the United States, where Judaism flourishes because of freedom. We don’t have to whisper our haftarah. We don’t need a sentry by the synagogue door on the lookout for the mob and the hoodlums.

The bar mitzvah boys that preceded this one in Hitler’s Germany, Stalin’s Russia and other dark times studied in stealth and recited their lessons in fear. But our honoree can shout to the heavens.

Our Passover haggadah tells us: “Now we are slaves in Egypt; next year may we be free men.” Well, today we are free — free to sing the Torah and haftarah with passion, like David the sweet singer of Israel.

Dimly surrounding our honoree are the less fortunate bar mitzvah children of other lands and other times. He sings for them, too.

Ted Roberts, a longtime b’nai mitzvah teacher, is also a Jewish humorist and commentator whose work has appeared in The Wall Street Journal, Disney Magazine and Hadassah.

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Darfur project cooks up first for Bronfman prize

The simplest innovations sometimes lead to the greatest rewards, as Rachel Andres learned this week when she was named the 2008 recipient of the $100,000 Charles Bronfman Prize.

The annual prize is awarded to a person or team under 50 years of age, whose Jewish values spark humanitarian efforts that contribute to the betterment of the world.

In Andres’ case, her work gives succor to some of the most helpless and brutalized people in the world, the 10,000 refugee families, mostly fatherless, who have escaped the massacres in Darfur.

The genocide in the Sudanese province, now in its fifth year, has so far claimed 400,000 murdered civilians and created some 2.5 million refugees, predominantly women and children.

For the past two years, Andres has directed the Solar Cooker Project of the Jewish World Watch (JWW), which has expanded from a small Los Angeles base to synagogues, churches, schools, Girl Scout troops, civic organizations and individual contributors across the United States and parts of Canada and Australia.

The solar cooker concept is an elegantly simple response to a terrifying fact of life facing the women and young girls in the Iridimi and Touloum refugee camps on the Sudan-Chad border.

While foraging for scarce firewood outside the camps for basic cooking and water purification, the women and girls were in constant danger of gang rapes by roving bands of Arab terrorists.

If the women could somehow find an alternative source of heating within the camps, they could largely eliminate the assaults, reasoned Andres and her colleagues. Her answer was an effective sun-powered cooker made of cardboard and aluminum foil at a cost of $15 each.

Andres discovered a small Dutch company to furnish the material, which is shipped to the refugee camps. Doubling the mitzvah, the cookers are assembled in small camp plants by the women and girls over 14, who get paid for the work and become income earners for their families.

So far, 15,000 cookers have been distributed, which have also proven an environmental boon, slowing the deforestation of the region and cutting down the time women have to spend over open brick fireplaces.

Since each family needs two of the $15 cookers, JWW has pitched its donation appeal at $30. So far, more than $1 million has been received from some 20,000 contributors, mainly in $30 donations, though there have been larger gifts.

In the Los Angeles area alone, nearly 60 synagogues, from Reconstructionist to Orthodox, have joined up with JWW. As Andres was talking to a reporter, she interrupted herself to announce jubilantly, “I just got an e-mail from the United Methodist Church in Seattle, and its members are sending us $3,200.”

Andres, born and reared in Dallas, has been an activist since graduating from UCLA with a degree in political science. She credits her paternal grandmother for her sense of Jewish responsibility toward others, regardless of race or religion.

“Bubbe left Suwalki in northern Poland in 1919 and came to Texas,” she recalled. “Most of her family stayed behind, and 22 relatives perished in the Holocaust.”

Grandmother Andres took Rachel and her other grandchildren along to learn by doing.

“She had three sons; she worked in her husband’s grocery store; she wrote four books of Yiddish poetry; she met new immigrants at the airport and helped settle them; she was involved in the Arbeter Ring [Workmen’s Circle],” Andres said. “Her legacy to me was her sense of social justice. She was larger than life.”

In following her grandmother’s inspiration, Andres worked for 10 years at The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles as director of its Commission on Cults and Missionaries and subsequently as a volunteer for AIDS Project Los Angeles. She was also involved in a variety of other projects, such as the Breed Street Shul renovation and the Museum for the History of Polish Jews.

Now 45, she lives with her husband, Ben Tysch, chief administrator for the regional Planned Parenthood, 6-year-old Rebecca and 10-year-old Ezra in the Hancock Park neighborhood.

Andres is an active member of Temple Israel of Hollywood, a Reform congregation, and her two children attend the temple’s day school.

Asked how she manages her various responsibilities, Andres laughed and responded, “I really don’t know; I’ll have to think about that.” And, after a pause, “It’s a bit of a juggling job, but I’m focused on whatever I’m doing. I try to give it my all.”

She will use the $100,000 prize money “to expand the solar cooker project to more camps and to publicize the desperate needs of the refugees.”

JWW president Janice Kamenir-Resnick noted that “Rachel’s work with Jewish World Watch has made a huge impact on the lives of thousands of refugees.” Kamenir-Resnick joined Rabbi Harold Schulweis of Valley Beth Shalom in co-founding the organization and in nominating Andres for the Bronfman Prize.

Andres and her colleagues are sometimes asked why they spend their energies on the suffering in Darfur, rather than focusing on specifically Jewish and Israeli concerns.

She agrees with the answer given by Schulweis: “Some people say about the Darfur genocide that it’s an internal matter; that reports have been exaggerated. These are the same excuses we heard during the Holocaust,” Schulweis said.

“There is always an alternative to passive complicity,” he said. “If we now turn aside, that would be our deepest humiliation.”

The Charles Bronfman Prize was established by the children of the Canadian philanthropist in honor of his 70th birthday.

Andres is the fourth person and the first woman to receive the prize, which will be formally awarded May 6 in New York.

This year, some 80 nominations were received from individuals or for projects in 16 countries, including Iran and Belarus. One member of the prize selection committee, Dan Meridor, Israel’s former minister of justice, summed up the basis for this year’s choice: “The thread woven through Rachel’s life and professional career is that of uplifting others, especially the neediest, so that all individuals may live to their fullest,”

He added, “Caring for others is among the highest Jewish ideals, and Rachel’s work fully embodies that ideal.”

For more information on Jewish World Watch, visit www.jewishworldwatch.org

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